Family: Question: Any ideas for finding cheap housing for people who have bad credit and are not considered "low-income"?

Question: Any ideas for finding cheap housing for people who have bad credit and are not considered "low-income"?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 02:08 PM PDT

My mother is a single mom and she is homeless at the moment. However, she made about 90k last year. The reason she's homeless is because she made a lot of financial mistakes that caused her credit score to drop to the 500's and she took loans from her pension that have cut her pay nearly in half for the next two years. She's only bringing in about 2k per month and all of her bills and expenses (car, insurance, phone for herself and my two little brothers, gas, food etc.) are taking up about 1k of that. This led to her losing her home. Ideally, I would simply have my mother live with me, but I live in another state and her job will not allow her to relocate to another state or she will lose her benefits because she works for the state as a law enforcement officer. She is currently living at her parents' place, but they are hoarders and she's extremely depressed living there. What else can she do?

Question: What did that mean, I got confused ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 02:03 PM PDT

I sent one of my best friends a special message out of my heart. They responded back with "Jessica, how you make me smile.." what did that mean, was she asking?

Question: My cousin is getting married Saturday and I don't want to go because my Dad is dying of cancer any day now. Will my cousin understand?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:48 PM PDT

I had RSVP'd yes but my Dad will die anytime now. How do I make up to my cousin since he was excepting me and now will lose a person thus lose about $80 from the RSVP. I hear weddings are $80 a person.

Question: My aunt is a narcissist. Could this be why she hates Donald Trump because he reminds her of herself?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:47 PM PDT

Question: If you refuse to back to your house because your getting abused will they take you out of your house? How do you stay in foster care?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:46 PM PDT

Question: Is my cousin using me? What am I supposed to do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:36 PM PDT

Question: Should a mother physically punish her child if his overweight friend accidentally broke her chair?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:14 PM PDT

I am 17 years old. Two of my friends, one of whom is morbidly obese, were hanging out at my house. I let my overweight friend sit in my mom's swivel chair while the three of us were using her computer. But unfortunately, the backrest piece snapped off the seat. I called my mother who wasn't home, and told her what happened. Although she was mad, she wasn't "lost her temper" mad, but just calm because she understood that it was an accident. When I got off the phone and told my friends how my mom reacted, the other friend said, "What?! You mean you're not getting a butt-whooping?!" What I don't understand is that all I did was make the mistake of letting our chubby friend sit in my mom's chair, as opposed to misbehaving in school or talking back to my mom. Basically, he acted as if I was a spoiled brat who only gets timeouts. Our friend broke my mom's chair, so am I to understand that that cost my mom money and therefore I should get a whooping? Is it possible that my friend is traumatized by his upbringing? I'm not saying his mom abused him to the point where CPS should've taken her away. But I get the feeling his mom's priorities regarding child-rearing are misconstrued. He shouldn't be scared of his mom, especially if our chubby friend had broken HER chair. Did his mom overreact about what she should whoop him for? It sounds to me as if gets whoopings just for breathing, so to speak.

Question: My parents always think I have a bad attitude?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:04 PM PDT

For the past 5 years my parents always thought I had a bad attitude with everything. I would ask them a question like for example: whats for dinner?. Then my parents would yell at me saying "Kid you better get your attitude right, you have a really bad attitude, and I M SICK OF IT!" I would always be scared of what I might do next that will get me in trouble. I would always sit alone in my bedroom, while my parents and my sister are in the lounge doing something fun. I would all the time avoid my parents, because all I would cause them to do is yell at me saying I have a bad attitude. One time we as a family went to the shops, then I asked my dad if I could have this Lego set, then he grabbed my ear and yelled at me again in front of everyone in the shop saying "Get you damn attitude right". I was pretty damn embarrassed after that moment. The problem is i m the only one that gets this bullshit, my sister would ask the same question as me, and my parents would be fine and gentle with her. No bad attitude for my sister but its always me. I m the one that is never trusted, the one that causes trouble, always has an bad attitude. I m all alone with this bullshit, when ever my parents ask me "whats wrong". I use to answer them, but they would always say "really get over your self kid". So now I never tell them wahts wrong with me, because I mean why would they care. I really need help, because i m tired of getting in trouble, being yelled at, for no damn reason. Help me please

Question: I want to escape or suicide,?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:01 PM PDT

i want to escape or suicide,My dad just beaten me too bad and very hard because i treated his brother badly, the story is too long but please read, my dad's brother is always rude to us and treat us bad today we had a fight im 15 years old he tried to close the door infront of my face then i shouted at him hardly and push his hands away from closing the door, he called my father and my father came home and beaten me with a belt and told me to treat everyone well even if they treat me badly? so if someone piss on me should i just laugh? im totally destroyed and cant stop crying im writing each detail here because there is no one i can talk to , what are your advices guys should i really suicide? i dont wnat to live anymore life is useless thank you for reading

Question: The thoughts I've had today really frighten me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 12:58 PM PDT

I'm 19 years old. I am the youngest in my family. My two brothers moved out. I'm the only one that still lives at home with my parents. My dad ever since I was a kid has had anger problems. He doesn't get mad, he goes into a rage. He's never hurt me or my mom or brothers, but his anger when I was a child used to scare me so much, but as I've gotta older it upsets and hurts me. He yells and swears at my mom, and doesn't treat her very nicely in my opinion. When he does, I take my moms defense and fire back at him. My mom always thinks she's the worst person in the world, and that she's the cause of all this fighting, and that kills me because she's my favorite person in the whole world and I lov e her to death. She deserves so much better. This morning was another big fight with my parents. I told some very honest things to my dad about how I felt, I was very calm about it, and he just stormed off to work, My mom said she wished I didn't say anything, but it's so hard. She's now afraid he'll leave, and I'm scared this is my fault. I had some dark scary thoughts that if maybe I wasn't around (died) my dad would feel bad for my mom and they could stay together and be happy. That me not being around would be better for everyone. I've had thoughts like that before when they fight, and when he goes into a rage I just wanna leave. But I'm horrified over these thoughts, because I don't want to die. I see a consular next week for my ocd, should I mention this? I'm not depressed.. Could it just be my ocd screwing with me? Because I do get intrusive thoughts because of my ocd I don't want to die. Really I don't, and after I had these thoughts I reminded myself that I don't want die so young.

Question: Is it ever right for a parent to blame their children for marital difficulties?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 12:13 PM PDT

Lately I've been reevaluating my childhood and coming to terms with how it's shaped who I am today. There were times growing up when my father would blame me for marital difficulties he and my mother had - normally it would start with him saying something snide to me, and then when I got hurt and retaliated he would scream at me for "disrespecting" him. This would cause my mother to defend me, and fights would ensue between them. He'd then come and find me later and yell at me for breaking up their marriage. I felt insecure about this for a long time - I felt like a bad person for reacting the way I did to his name-calling. Is it ever right to blame children for this kind of thing? Oh and if you're just going to answer with "Stop trying to assign blame!" then don't bothering answering. I'm genuinely trying to come to terms with this.

Question: My brother didn't invite me to a bachelor party. He said I wasn't invited because I am boring?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 11:54 AM PDT

My older brother has always been a bit of a party boy. I am not that type of person. But we keep in touch and try to keep it civil. His best friend, that I have known for a long time, is getting married and I wasn't invited to the bachelor party. I got pissed at my brother and he got pissed at me. He said: "You're such a child. You want to be invited but you don't want to come. Remember how you were at my bachelor party? You were out in the balcony talking with your gf all night. I mean for ***** sake you think smoking weed makes you a bad person. You think having strippers at a bachelor party is cheating. You think because I party with my friends now and then that it makes me an immature frat boy. It's like my wedding all over again. The whole week before the wedding you b**ched about being seated in the back. I put you there because I know you don't like being the center of attention. And when I put you in the front what happened? You were in the parking lot arguing with your gf and you missed basically all the speeches, including the best man dance that you refused to partake in. Grow the f**k up". I may not be the center of the party but I would still like to come. He's my friend too. I just feel like he could considered me as well. He acts like his friends are more his brothers than I am. I am not a boring person. It just takes time for me. Can we even have a relationship?

Question: I am fully recovered! But how can i convince my parents that I have finally recovered from Anorexia and I need them to trust me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 11:18 AM PDT

Question: How do I do this without my mom knowing?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 11:08 AM PDT

I want to become more financially independent (or at least not dependent on my mom) and since I'm only 15, and I can't get a job yet, I was thinking maybe I could get a guy online to send me money... like a... sugar daddy. How do I do this without my mom finding out?

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:32 AM PDT

Okay so, my stepdad is fighting for custody of his two kids. The girl is three, and the boy is one I believe. But the thing is, I really hate kids. I'm 15 btw. I told my mom this, but she said that I'm being selfish. So apparently, I'm supposed to just suck it up for the next three years. I'm not asking for her to break up with him or whatever, I just don't want to be involved with this family at all. What should I do?

Question: The "other woman" from the past still friends/close with husband''s family?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:17 AM PDT

Recently i became aware that my husband and his old co-worker "friend" were sleeping together behind my back. I knew about her, that she would give him rides home from work when he had car trouble and things of that nature. She knew of me as well & our child, & knew what times to text him & call because of it. To my horror my husband shamefully & remorsefully admitted the betrayal as he came clean to start fresh as we were about to get married. This betrayal happened about 7 years ago, but it feels so fresh to me as i just found out. Well this co-worker happens to be best friends with my husbands sister. They 3 all worked together. Not only did they hide this relationship from me, they hid it from the sister as well. I decided to let the sister know and she reacted as if i was insane and defended her friend. i felt like crap, i thought she would at least give me the benefit of the doubt, i thought i was "part of the family". It took my husband telling her it was true, for her to believe it. Not me. Well, she has become a real thorn in my side.My sister in law is parading all over facebook how SHE is her sister and how she loves her so much.she owes me no loyalty but knowing she isn't sorry & his family is OK with having her around knowing that she would be with my husband if he wanted to but he cut things off. It hurts me, she is a homewrecker, out of respect for me should she still be around? my sister in law invites this homewrecker to her home as well and they have dinner and ect*

Question: 18 year old daughter wants to be a biker?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:10 AM PDT

She has an ugly biker boyfriend with tattoos and piercings and she wants to be like him. I also want to know if I should call social services for the 2 year old daughter since their awfulness might rub off on her.. they are apparently good parents but I think that biker parents are bad influences They are a disgrace to society and I want them removed

Question: My uncle is mean and been in jail for abuse. Mom is making me stay with him for the weekend. I am scared, what do I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:09 AM PDT

He also is an alcoholic who rages when drunk. His kids are banned by court order from seeing him ever until age 18. That is how bad he is. Mom is having him babysit me and she says it is okay cause his abuse was not sexual.

Question: My brother is a drug addict. I have not seen him in 2 years. Should I bother?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:02 AM PDT

My Mom is after me to see the loser.

Question: My Mom is a racist. How do I enlighten her or is it impossible?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:02 AM PDT

Question: My cousin is abandoned by her family and living alone far from anyone. How might I reach out to her without getting in trouble with her Mom?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 10:01 AM PDT

She is rejected because of the hatred her mother has for her

Question: Can my dad force me to go back with him?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 09:44 AM PDT

I'm 16 and I've been staying a few hours away from my dads with my Gma taking care of her. I left my dad since his house was infested with bed bugs idk how it happened but he refused to do anything about it. I was tired of constantly getting bit up every night no matter what, sad how I'll look back on my teen years and remember being eaten alive by bed bugs lol. He called me and told me he's coming to get me on Sunday and told me I'm such a sh1tty daughter for ever leaving. My dad also has bills in other people's names including mine. My mom isn't in the picture but he has custody of me seems the only time he wants me around is when his girlfriends leave him so he's not lonely. Can he make me go back with him? I'm really scared of getting bit up again I'm so paranoid that I'll get a little itch and automatically assume it's a bed bug sucking my blood 😭

Question: Why do I feel like I’ve disappointed my dad by coming out as gay?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 09:34 AM PDT

Question: I am a 16 year old guy and my mom left me why does she hate me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 09:02 AM PDT

My mom and my dad had me before they were even married they got married when i was two and they were fine in till when turned 9 my mom starting cheating on my dad and my dad put up with it she also was supposed to be bed ridden cause she was pregnant with my brother but she was having sex with other men and it caused my brother to be born early and he almost died but one day mom just got up and left she stole a lot of things and she got visitation rights but after a month when i was 10 years old she said i dont love and i dont want you anymore and hated being your mother and she left me and its been 6 years and i have never seen her brother has my little brother and sister why does she hate me? in the brother at was supposed to say neither

Question: I found a stray kitten by the pool area in my apartment complex so I took it home.my son and his wife and me were taking care of the kitten?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 07:57 AM PDT

Every three hours now my son and his wife want to give it to the human society they day it cost to much to keep but my son and his wife want a dog a dog will cost money to. So do you think my son and his wife are being ridiculous about the situation.

Question: I am expected to help pay for daughter's college, but I am told nothing about the costs. Advice?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 07:22 AM PDT

I divorced a couple of years ago. My daughter started a very expensive private college this fall. During her whole selection process, I asked a lot of questions about her criteria, costs, etc. But in general I was pretty much locked out of the selection. When I asked her to visit a college with me, her mother would suddenly come up with something better to do with her - like go to a concert. Even though I asked repeatedly, I was never given a single figure or piece of information about how much the universities she was considering, or the one she ultimately selected, would cost. At one point last spring I even sent my daughter a pretty harsh email saying I don't see how I can be expected to pay for college if I am never given any information about how much it costs. The only reply was that it upset her - it didn't actually spur her to give the information. To complicate the matter, her mother and I do not speak or communicate. She did not live up to the divorce agreement and at one point the judge issued a warrant for her arrest because she would not comply or show up for court dates. She cannot be trusted to I have to deal directly with my daughter. Now her mother is sending me emails saying I have to pay, but I've still NEVER been told anything about actual costs. I want to help pay for my daughter's education, but I feel really torn about what to do because I don't think I am being treated fairly and I don't like it. Any advice?? Thanks! (Sorry to ramble) Just to clarify - the mother is sending me emails but I have not replied to any of them. So that is why I said we do not communicate. When I sent her emails asking her to comply with the divorce agreement, she never replied to them. Those who say I have legal obligation to pay for anything are wrong. My state has a statute that says I am obligated to pay 1/3 of the cost for a state university. Even with states without such statutes I have heard of judges ordering divorced parents to pay for college. Oops. That should say "those who say I have NO obligation to pay...."

Question: Mom reports me to my grandma and gets me in trouble ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 06:57 AM PDT

My adoptive mom has always been a tattle tale. I am in my 30s, she is in her late 70s, my grandma is in her mid 90s. Whenever I did something wrong as a kid or even now , or she does not get or way or even if she wants me to do something - she calls her mother up and reports me. Often, she lies or exaggerates what happened and my grandma thinks it's her job to be a crusader . What Can I do? She also reports my husband as well. Today she reported me and I yelled at my grandma on the phone and told her that this was none of her business and to Butt out. She said "ohhh yeah?! It most certainly IS my business !" She lives across town (we all live in different houses , we do NOT live together!)

Question: My Russian mother in law doesn't accept me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 06:26 AM PDT

I'm Indian and my husband is Russian. She is against our marriage. What do I do? I want to love my mother in law and treat her well. That's part of my culture.

Question: How can I get my parents to listen to me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 05:27 AM PDT

So I know I'm the child and their the parents so what they say goes but hear me out. Since I was like 9 years old (I'm 14 now) me and my parents have been getting in these terrible fights. It usually would start when I tried doing my math homework and my dad would help me and I would say I didn't understand the problem because I genuinely didn't, and he would say stuff like, if I didn't understand the problem I was an idiot and I just wanted attention. Also I couldn't pay attention or quit moving around, and he would always criticize me for that. Which I get, I was probably really annoying but still, I was 9. Later I found out I was ADHD and dyscalculia (it's like dislexyia for math, you can google it) and when I went to the doctor to get medicine my dad told the doctor something like " just put her on anything that will fix her " and that really hurt me hearing it as like a 10 year old because then on I had this thought stuck in my head I was broken. It's 4 years later and for about a year my dad has this saying where he's like "why won't you just turn 18 so when can send you away" and today I was like "I wish I could too" and kicked a hole in the wall. I immediately was embarrassed and sorry but my parents were just like "see your only a problem" sweat should o do?

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic and Mom says he does not love me or he'd get help. Is she right?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 04:51 AM PDT

I am also grounded from seeing him despite my grandmother's offers to supervise our visits. I feel ashamed of myself that I am not seeing my Dad. My Mom wouldn't even give me the Christmas gift he sent last year, I found it in a bag in July. I feel ashamed not to be loved by my Dad if this is true but he acted nice when he used to see me. When my Mom divorced him she grounded me from ever seeing him again. What do I do?

Question: My Mom is going to a wedding for a bad friend of hers on my birthday. I feel rejected. How do I let it go?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 04:49 AM PDT

The friend is bad and yet my Mom is choosing her over me. My birthday is October 14th and my Mom will be gone all day and I'll be alone though my aunt will likely ask me over for dinner. I have no friends and am 14 years old.

Question: My sister rages when I take her picture or ask her about an old friend. What makes a mean person like her become beligerant?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 04:46 AM PDT

I am scared of her.

Question: My aunt wants our family to join her in hating her adult daughter. Should I join her since she is an elder?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 04:43 AM PDT

I like her adult daughter (my cousin).

Question: If my parents had never met would I still exist and be born to a different mother or father?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 04:32 AM PDT

Question: Can you be happy if....?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 02:44 AM PDT

you are surrounded by weird family members? or your siblings are selfish.... if you are working your azz off and your family member thought are you unemployed.... just because they just want to make themselves feel good.

Question: My mum only cares about herself?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 02:11 AM PDT

So, I was on my Switch today and the screen suddenly went blank and unresponsive. She told me to calm down and that it wasn't an issue. I told her that it WAS an issue and that she didn't know what it was like to have an expensive consle literally (what was) broken. She then started screaming and shouting about the fact that SHE was glad she didn't have a switch if "that's what it turns me in to". I told her the world doesn't revolve around her and she told me to not speak to her again today.

Question: Good ideas for a 21st Birthday?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 01:36 AM PDT

Question: Need advice?

Posted: 04 Oct 2017 12:18 AM PDT

I am the mother of a one year old and live with her and her dad. When we first got together it was mostley beacuse of the baby. I was a teen mom and I did not know how to cook nor how to take care of my child by myself. We lived with my mom and we both started working in the same place. I would Clean our room wash our clothes and take care of the baby everyday after work. I did not cook since my mom would always have food ready whne we would arive from work. He would get home and just play his xbox and pay minimum attention to our child. He then started complaining about how i did nothing even thiugh I worked the same amount of hours as him plus all the work at home after gettkng home from work. We now have moved to a new state and since we know no one I stay home take care of our child wash clothes and do all the chores plus I have learned how to cook so it would no longer be an issue and he still insists that i do nothing. Is This Fair? Is what I do really considered nothing?

Question: Family issues?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 11:27 PM PDT

So, I have a disabled sister, a mom and a dad. The other day my mom got in a fight with my sister and she's been taking it out on my sis and dad. She hasnt talked to my sis or my dad for the past two days, only to me. And whenever she does talk to my dad (onky once earlier this morning) it was about my sisters health issues, according to my sister she just pushed the problems on my dad and acted clueless. Whenever she talks to me somehow the topic of them pops up and she rants to me about them a little bit. It honestly hurts to see my family like this and I feel like I'm on my own. I'm ALWAYS in the middle of conflict when my sis and mom fight. There is always this tension, like its seriously bothering me. It feels like my mom is falling out of love with my dad almost. And my sister has lost her connection with my mom. My mom comepletelyq cut off her side of the family, and my dads side has so much drama the only ones we are really close with is my grandpa on my dads side. And no, I don't think family counseling will work. Any advice?

Question: Should I call the cops? I am 14.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 10:15 PM PDT

Hello, I am 14. last week, my mom got really angry at me because I wanted to doctor my own wound. (i got a cut from weeding and had to peroxide over it.) then she got really mad when I went to my bathroom to do it myself. When I came out, I then told her she could do whatever she wants. I never saw her so angry in my life. she actually looked like she wanted to hit me (she did want to hit me). She then proceeded to yell at me, about how it was the principal of the thing to listen to her, blah blah blah. She then asked me a question, it was like do you understand me (she was screaming this). I really wanted to say no, so that she would hit me, but I said yes. and out of the corner of my eye, I saw her hand move (she wanted to hit me so bad). ok, I really want to know, if it gets to that point again, and she does hit me, is it ok if I call the police on her?

Question: Why is my Mom like this?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:53 PM PDT

We have argued and hurtful things has been said on both ends however she is extremely emotionally and physically abusive. When she purposefully starts things with me, I just ignore it Sometimes I'll say something smart but I always let her have the last word. Recently, her and my brother got to arguing. He didn't want to get off his video game so my mom got mad He should have listened but things got physically abusive. She choked him to the point where he couldnt breathe, put scratches on him This has happened to me before as well but worse. I have gotten my head banged into the wall for not giving her a phone, my head has been smashed into the kitchen floor She has called me a *****, ***** and whatever name in the book. She has said I got molested by Dad at one months old. She has told ALL of her kids that she puts men first. She has said she wished she had an abortion. The list goes on. I'm not a genuis but I feel as if these situations could be handled differently This and my brothers situation all happened in front of my younger siblings eyes. The cops have been called but they dont care. A day later after doing this to me, she would act like its ok and not even apologize. All of this has happened multiple times and this is the first time with my brother. But I'm sure it'll happen again She has been physically abusing me since I was 12. Like I said I barely say anything to her anymore so maybe she is attacking my other sibilings now. It breaks my heart. Idk her problem

Question: Do you bring up work at home?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:46 PM PDT

Question: Why do people say they are going to kill me for?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:45 PM PDT

been living with my mom now for a year due to a 4 year split up with my ex. long story short my 3 cousins and my uncle also live with us and just about everyday my uncle always says he going to kill me like actually murder me. its a bit more scary because my uncle just got out of prison so all he knows is the prison life.im 26 and I understand im considered an adult but all my family wants to do is fight me or kill me for some odd reason. within the year I was going to school,and now im on externship which means im not even home for 7 hours out of the day to even see them.which brings me to another point,my other cousin said im lazy...she thought i was sleeping but i wasnt,its all so funny to me because im not home for 7 hours out the day,and today also i went for a 5 mile run and yet im lazy? when all you want to do is drink beer,and barely help your son with his homework,seems logical?

Question: Should I leave in this situation?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:44 PM PDT

So there is 4 people in my bio class. 2 person did part A and 2 did part B. In the end we share about result. My paper and 2 other guys got grade. But one person didnt got graded on her paper. She's mad at me and tell me that I plagiarized her paper. I feel like leaving this group because of that one person. Should I ?

Question: Should I just keep my mouth shut?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:40 PM PDT

I currently live at my grandmas house for the school year because I don't have a bus going to my house that isn't a 30min walk away and I don't have a car. At my grandmothers house lives my grandma, my aunt, her 8 yr old daughter, and me. My aunt constantly preaches responsibility at me and is just in general an utter b**ch. The thing is, she's 50 YEARS OLD and STILL lives at her mothers house and has been living there for the PAST 10 YEARS. Everything she says is so unnecessary and aggravating and unneeded, especially coming from her. Its really getting on my nerves and I'm tired of being treated like **** by her everyday, so do I say something back or keep my mouth shut. I'm 15 by the way.

Question: Am I a loser like my mother tells me that I am?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:05 PM PDT

Hello, I am a 23 year old guy that lives at home with his mother in NY. It's very expensive here and I can't afford it at all. I currently go to community college and to be honest I hate it. I'd rather go get a trade in plumbing or HVAC. It's something I have more interest in. She disagrees and threatens to kick me out and disown me. She called me a loser and compared me to all of my friends who are far more financially successful than me. I work a very crappy job and make very little money. My mom makes a lot of money, but I'd rather work then sit at home all day. She called me names, saying I'm a loser and a lowlife, that without her I'd be a nobody. I am doing good at school, but I hate it. She pays for my school, I can't afford it. I am thinking of saving up 2 grand, and just move out to another state out of the blue and cut her out and drop this college. I feel miserable at home, and honestly am I lazy. The military isn't an option I have a physical disability with my right leg.

Question: Should I feel bad about wanting to get away from my parents?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 08:05 PM PDT

My parents were my rock when I was growing up, but up until I was about a sophomore in high school they had two more kids and I was used as a babysitter while my parents went out to drink on school nights. Ever since then it s gone downhill, my mother cheated on my dad- they divorced. It was really hard for me and niether one of them really cared about how I felt, my dad is now living in a different state, I barely ever get to see him. My mom is part of my life but didn t even treat me like her kid. She told me I had to move out or else I d have to live in the basement, and I m 18 now (living on my own) going to school full time, which she never helped me pay for. Not even a penny of her money has helped me get to where I am today. But I know she s my mom, so I deal with it and try to visit often bc I still live close and like to see my little sisters. She still doesn t treat me any better, she ll leave while I m there- not tell me where she s going/how long she ll be (knowing I have to leave for work and also have homework). Now she is mad because I d rather be around my boyfriends family more than my own. should I feel bad about trying to distance myself when I don t even really feel wanted? I was kicked out of the house, even though I did nothing wrong. I don t do drugs, my grades are great - I m going to school to be a doctor. I have a bright future. I feel so bad about wanting to distance myself from my negative family, bc they re family ya know? I just need some advice

Question: What should I do? When I try to help my brother with his math homework, he alway rage and make me angry?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:27 PM PDT

He always need help with math and I d try to help him but if he doesn t get it, he rages and starts being aggressive. I just feel so sick and tired of his raging; it makes me so angry and stressed. I ve told him to ask his teacher if he didn t understand, but he always respond that his teacher explains things in a confusing way so I have to help him or no one else will since I m considered the "smartest" in our family. What should I do?

Question: I want my sister to stop texting daily?????

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:21 PM PDT

My sister and I used to be so close. Until she got divorced. She started to act rude with me. She ignore my texts then when she texts me she keep asking where am i if i dont respond i hate that question piss me off. Didnt say anything cause she was going through tough time. She came to visit and things got worst she was rude mean she made me cry. She didnt care i know she pretneyto cry too. Now she tries to text me daily and ask me why i dont tell her about my day anymore. I tell her im busy. Then when i needed an opinion she ignored me for 24 hours. Even though she read my text then she talked like nothing happened. She is acting like she is my mother she is annoying and piss me off on the same time i need her sometimes to help me with career stuff. I dont know how to turn pur connection to a professional one im tired of feeling oblignat to respond while she doesnt give a **** about me.

Question: My kids go over my auntie house on the weekends and her brother stays there and he tries to abuse my kids my auntie does nothing?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 07:02 PM PDT

Question: MY MOM WON'T TALK TO ME?!?!?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:59 PM PDT

So my mom hasn't been talking to me for about 8 days now except to yell at me randomly. The problem is that my mom at moments or for some things she is religious and so is my dad. I wanted to go to prom and home coming this year for the first time. My dad grew up in US so he understands and said yes, but my mom said no. It's not just dances, they NEVER let me go anywhere alone. I have never left the house without an adult or alone with a friend and I am 18 in 3 months!!! Last Monday we were talking and I get to go to the school events for free because I am in yearbook. My teacher coincidentally assigned me to homecoming and my mom says I took the class so she can't say no... 😡 I have to go so I said dad doesn't care only you are saying no. And now she won't talk to me?!?! Btw I am a Honor Roll student, and GPA of 3.8 and do everything they ask...

Question: Does she like me?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:50 PM PDT

I'm really bad at flirting cues. She works with me and sits far away but she came around my desk and kept walking over but i just ignored her. She then said something smells good and came to me and said if it was me. She then proceed to compliment my smell and even came very close to my neck to smell lol. She seems to always go out of her way to see me as well and tries to talk to me if she can.

Question: My 21 year old son ran away from home and my husband is p*ssed that he took "his" phone, and said he is going to shut it off and call the?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:42 PM PDT

cops and claim it as stolen property? My son is on our family plan which my husband pays for, so it's my husband's contract. My son has been out of work for a few months, so we let him slide on paying his part of the bill. My son must have had more savings then we thought, and has talked about escaping to somewhere, and talked about his Facebook friends he could stay with. My son said he was sick of the bs in this house and was ready to beat the sh*t out of my husband if he ever touched his sh*t again, as everything on the phone is his own personal accounts, and my husband went behind my back and invaded his privacy, forcing my son to unlock the phone and look through his stuff, which I didn't even know he did. My son said he is trying to get a job (he has worked, but hasn't been able to hold a job for more than a couple of months, and his last boss even said he was a hard worker who tried really hard) and he won't be able to get callbacks from employers if he loses his phone, and that he won't be able to talk to any of his friends because they all live in different states and countries. My husband is very, loud mouthed and, a control freak. My husband said "How dare he leave with my property, that is theft. I'm shutting off the service on his phone and reporting him for stealing the phone to the police." If my husband does this I won't be able to contact my son, my son has actually stayed away from social media, so call and text is the only way to contact him. What would you do? No sh*t my son can get a prepaid phone to get a job, you moron! But I won't be able to contact my son! Assuming the police track him and confiscate the phone. He'll lose all of his contexts, and won't know how to get ahold of me, nor will I know his new number. I'm going to murder my husband in his sleep for this. If my husband shuts the phone off I may never hear from my son again you a**holes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! F*** YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! You can't wipe or lock an iPhone that has someone else's Apple Account on it you f***in idiot!

Question: My mom took my phone away and my boss is supposed to call me to give me my schedule for this week, what do I do?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:31 PM PDT

I told her my boss is supposed to call me to give me my schedule for this week, and she said "tough sh*t." I said what about when he calls? She said "I will tell him what an irresponsible, disrespectful, kid you are (I'm 21) and that you said your boss is a son of a b*tch so you lose your job. There are consequences for not following rules in this house, don't like them, move out." I told her I need to keep my job to be able to move out, and she told me "You'll never get anywhere in life if you keep making excuses." I actually take Uber to work everyday, so I can't even get there without my phone, so going in to get my schedule will be an issue now. My mom is mad because I didn't wsh the dishes and got water on the floor when I took a shower, and that made my sister really mad which made my mom really mad. I just want to move out, which now looks farther away since I'm going to lose my job. I'm probably going to end up homeless now! No one will hire a homeless person. I have no friends where I live, they all live in different cities and states, which itself is depressing.

Question: My brother raped me(anal)everyday as a child when I was 7-11yrs old. Im now 21 & my family dont believe me. I live alone. Should I run away?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 06:31 PM PDT

PS - I LIVE ALONE - SHOULD I CHOSE TO NEVER SEE MY FAMILY AGAIN? I told my mother & family at 15years old as I realised what happened at that age. ( My brother is 8 years older than me.) My mum thought I was lying and when I'm in arguments at my age now (21), with my sister and cousin - they bring up 'I am nasty to lie about something like that'. So they basically didn't believe me and during all these years they looked at me in my face clearly thinking the same thing. So the rest of my family are obviously thinking the same thing or have similar thoughts at least. I live alone and have fully chose to never see my family ever again. Have I made the right choice in 'your' opinion?

Question: Why does my life suck ?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 05:51 PM PDT

I gre up feeling unloved hated my mean asshole stepfather sent away to girls home when I fell in love had bad friends that treated me like **** most of time fell in love stalked a guy who I found out later dressed like a woman had s child with him now I feel trapped

Question: I have a moral dilema?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 05:51 PM PDT

So, my father is a landlord. My childhood best friend has been living in his apartment since we were 10 years old. (nearly 25 years ago). Our children are best friends and play together everyday. Recently, after the birth of another child, they have ceased to pay my father rent. My father wants to evict him and, in caring about my son, has asked me to keep it from him. Today, my father came home and called me to his house to help him read through the paperwork (his eyesight is not very good) which I obliged. However, now he wants me to fill out the paperwork so that he can file it with the courts. I know that I should do that since my father is unable but it will DESTROY my ten year old son and may put her and her three children on the streets. I know that my father needs the money but I also know that my son has no other friends that live locally and is homeschooled. He will be completely alone. What should I do?

Question: How to tell parents you want to move out?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 05:27 PM PDT

I'm in my 20's and mentally just ready to get out and have my own space. Home just makes me feel constricted. But I feel like I don't have a valid reason to move out. I don't have a crazy commute, no friends in need of a roommate, no relationship so my only reason is that I want to. My parents aren't in a hurry for me to leave, they don't want me to. So I feel like I just can't say "hey I don't wanna live here anymore" But I really want to seriously start looking for my own place. Of course I know it could still be months yet, but I want to start making legit plans, I just feel like I can't because I don't have a valid reason not to stay here.

Question: Really bad fight with my mom.?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 04:32 PM PDT

My mom babysits my two cousins, one is a baby and one is a four year old. I live in a two story house. My mom brought my baby cousin up to me to look after because she needed to help my four year old cousin change. I agreed and was just laying on my bed with the baby when all of a sudden the baby starts crying. I tried to calm her down but she wouldn't stop. At this time, my mom was calling me to bring the baby down but because the cries were too loud I couldn't hear her. When I finally realized my mom was saying something I yelled "what?" and my mom replied back in something I couldn't hear. I tried a few more times but it didn't work so I decided to go downstairs. I was about to go down the stairs when my mom comes stomping up. She yells at me for not hearing her and because I didn't bring down my baby cousin. Annoyed I yelled at her. We were both screaming and I got really mad and threatened her by calling the police because she was whacking me (I live in an asian household so this is normal). She yelled at me again and I got so mad I, without knowing it, screamed I JUST WANT TO HIT YOU TOO! After the fight I realized what I done but when I try to apologize my mom just cancels me out which I completely understand why. Im 12 almost 13 btw. I know I was being immature but I just couldn't help it.

Question: My Mom and her sister are both liars. Does being a chronic liar run in families?

Posted: 03 Oct 2017 04:07 PM PDT