OK so here it goes .. my wife and I were at the time married for a year saving for a house trying to start a family then we struggling a bit with money but both working full time, I found out she was cheating on me off and on since we were engaged. Then we did this weird stage of trying to work though it for about 4 months. she told me she was going to continue the affair. So I moved out got my own place. It's now been one year since then and she has been dating multiple people including sexual.(I never dated just focused on work) I just got divorce papers from her. Anyway, we were talking and I mentioned I got a great job I don't like to keep secrets. Then, today she says she wants to have my baby and I don't need to pay child support and she's worried she won't be able have kid cause she is 29. Ps about 5 years earlier she did cheat be we moved on. Anyway. What the hell is happening? I went through so much heart ach and now she want's to have a kid. Is this normal or I'm I just going crazy. Ps havent even told my friend and family what I'm going though this whole time which I probably should.. thanks

My ex husband put me down many times. He belittled me in front of all of his and my friends and my family. He constantly lectured me about how much weight I gained during pregnancy with my first born and threatned to divorce me at least 5 times because I cut my hair. He was rude to my family members. He would go out with his friends and left me at home with the kids and would take my car, my phone, and would shut the power off and locked the breaker box with a combination lock. He would talk to other women on Facebook and leave it open on purpose just to get me to pick an argument then he would accuse me of overreacting and being controlling. All this went on for almost 3 years. Then after an argument that started when I told him I didn't feel like going to church that morning he pushed me and knelt down and told me he was going to go out and if I didn't "fix my habits" he would kill me. Then he left to go to his "friends" and I took the kids and left. Now, people are trying to make me feel guilty for leaving.I explained to them what happened and they tell me I shouldve listened to him more and took care of myself and all that bs. I couldn't take care of myself because I had to take care of his stupid *** and my 2 kids. Cleaning house, cooking 3 home cooked meals a day, and mowing the grass because he was too "tired" after a long day at work to do it although I was up at 5 am til 11 pm every single day. Why should I feel guilty? Why is it all my fault? What did I do wrong?

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I'm a 25 year old Indian women currently living in St Louis. After dating lots of guys, I'm finally getting why my parents want me to have an arranged marriage. I agree, you can make a relationship work with different cultures, but I don't have that kind of patience. After all, it doesn't seem bad to find a guy tailor-made to your needs, and my parents are allowing a couple dates before deciding. Anyway, I told my parents to start searching, and they've found two eligible candidates. I'm not sure which one one to choose. Guy 1: He is born and raised in New Orleans. He's 26. He went to Upenn, which is very impressive. He later went to law school. He's a corporate lawyer. I've Skyped with him, and he's really good looking. Also, sice he's raised in the US, I think he'll be less judging that I drink and had previous boyfriends. On the other hand, he tells me that's he's being blackmailed into arranged marriage, and while he's polite, I don't think he's that interested. He's also kind of shy and self doubting. Guy 2: He's born in India and is raised there. He's 28. He makes decent money working in IT. He's average looking, but he's confident, charming and funny. Sadly, he can't speak English very well. He also has made it clear that he expects me to be a non-drinker, pure, a virgin and innocent. (I'm none of those) He is a bit on the traditional side, and he's going to make me move back to India, which I don't like. However, I feel a spark that doesn't exist with guy 1.

Well first, please forgive my English, here is the situation got married back in June, dated for 5 years move in to her house once we got married, Unfortunately I found out she was exchanging naked pictures with a guy, since then everything was nothing but arguments for 2 weeks until she ask me to leave her house, well I have no choice but to pack my stuff and leave to an apartment. I waited for 2 months for her to ask me to come back and in fact it's worse now, she is not talking to me at all just enough about bills and our kid, she had me block on her Facebook for a month and now she is adding couple of exes on Facebook, leaving hearts on other men pictures, any ways to make the story short I just want your opinion on this matter because just filling for divorce after 2 months is honestly embarrassing, but I know in my heart she cant manage commitment and looks to me she will never change, I caught her laying to me several times this is not the first time, she has men on her contacts cell phone using girls name's just to make sure she don't get caught, please let me know what you think, I need some help to take an educated decision here.

9 MONTHS AGO I LEFT MY KID'S FATHER WHO I WAS WITH FOR 8 YEARS AND HAVE 2 SMALL CHILDREN WITH (5 & 1 YEAR OLD). WHEN I LEFT HIM I TOOK OUR KIDS ALONG WITH MY OLDER TWO KIDS, WHO ARE NOT HIS, AND MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY. MY 5 YEAR OLD WAS REALLY CLOSE TO HIM AND MISSED HIM TREMENDOUSLY AND HAD A REALLY HARD TIME ADJUSTING TO NOT HAVING HIM IN HIS LIFE. LONG STORY SHORT, I TOOK HIM BACK TWO WEEKS AGO AND LET HIM MOVE IN WITH US. I DID THIS AS A LAST AND FINAL ATTEMPT TO TRY AND FIX OUR RELATIONSHIP SO THAT OUR KIDS COULD HAVE THEIR FATHER BACK IN THEIR LIFE. IT HAS BEEN TWO WEEKS SINCE WE GOT BACK TOGETHER, AND AFTER PROMISING ME THAT HE WAS A CHANGED MAN, IT IS CLEAR THAT THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO WORK OUT BETWEEN US AND THAT HE IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE. WITH THAT SAID I DO NEED HIS HELP RAISING/SUPPORTING OUR CHILDREN AND THEY NEED HIM IN THEIR LIFE BUT I DO NOT WANT TO WASTE ANYMORE TIME ON HIM OR ON TRYING TO FIX OUR TOXIC DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP THAT IS NEVER GOING TO WORK. BUT I DO WANT HIM IN OUR KIDS LIFE ON A DAILY BASIS. THE PROBLEMS IS THAT HE WILL NOT PERMANENTLY MOVE TO THE STATE THAT I AM CURRENTLY IN AND I DO NOT WANT TO MOVE BACK TO THE STATE THAT HE IS FROM, WHERE I LIVED WITH HIM FOR 8 YEARS AND COULDN'T WAIT TO LEAVE. OR SHOULD I STAY WHERE I AM AT AND HOPE THAT HE DECIDES TO PERMANENTLY MOVE HERE TO BE WITH HIS KIDS OR SHOULD I MOVE BACK TO WHERE HE IS FROM AND BE MISERABLE JUST FOR THE SAKE OF MY CHILDREN??? I AM SO CONFUSED. PLEASE HELP.

Full disclosure: we had our wedding in my hometown to appease my parents, and didn't throw it the way they wanted. My mother had a hysterical meltdown and humiliated my wife to the point where my wife has avoided contact with her since (6 months ago). My parents then demanded to spend Thanksgiving with us, and booked tickets before I could speak with my wife about it, or check my schedule. My wife did not respond well, and didn't want to see them while they were in town. I ended up going to see my parents a day or two after thanksgiving while they were still in town. We did not have thanksgiving with them because of prior plans, and partially because we were insulted about being ordered to see them. Now my mom is talking about cutting off all contact with me, stating that I obviously don't care about her. I feel frustrated and angry at the situation, and feel like my mother does not respect me as an adult, and is trying to manipulate me to do what she wants. Thoughts?

I have browsed through here on the marriage & divorce topic. The things that I have read on here are literally heartbreaking. If you don't think that you love this person enough to spend the rest of your life with them, then why get married in the first place? If you know that you all will have arguments and you won't be able to take the heat, then why post your dirty laundry on here for the world to see about how you wish to cheat on them or divorce them? All marriage is, is sex, paying bills, and playing house. Then most of you people complain how your husband or wife won't give you sex, pay the bills, or clean the house. Then, when you can't take the heat anymore you come on here, ask if you should divorce your spouse for whatever reason, and someone suggests that you shouldn't but then you get defensive and say things like "marriage vows means nothing". If marriage vows means nothing, then why would you stand in church in front of your family, friends, and God making a promise that you'll stay with this person forever but then one thing goes wrong and you want to end it? & especially, if you want to end it so badly why would you air your dirty laundry on here for advice but get mad when someone says you should stay together because you promised forever?

I would really like some advice!? I am a young girl with young twin boys, I also suffer with MS (multiple sclerosis) I therefore find it very difficult to look after my babies! My husband just does not understand!! I really want to just leave him because I can never be the perfect wife or the perfect mother to my children:( I live in the U.K.....will I legally get both my children? ...and will I be able to change my surname back without any legal documents with my previous surname?? Do other people with MS have similar problems, where they find it difficult to look after their children? - I have 2 and I struggle considerably:(

I do most everything for our family. I am the bread winner (3xsover) work 40 plus hours a week, cook, clean, wash and fold clothes, take the kids to school, pick them up, do homework, bathe and get them ready for bed, play with them, put them to bed, put the leftovers away, pick up toys, pay bills, pay the mortgage. He takes out the trash and occasionally picks our child up from daycare and puts her to bed. He only does things when prompted, I am often hesitant to ask him for any help because I am afraid of the response I may receive.

So I wear 7 inch pumps a lot because I am pretty short and being short I like having extra height. I wear my heels with my outfit everyday for work and as I got home earlier today I noticed on one of my toes there is a blister on there. My husband saw it and told me that he doesn't want me to wear heels anymore and say that it is going to cripple me if I continue to wear it. I am upset because I like wearing my pumps and most of mines are from 5 inches and up. I don't like shorter heels and I like taller heels. He told me a while back that he found that I look sexy in high heels and now he says he doesn't want me to wear them anymore. Why is he not wanting me to wear them anymore ? Is he not finding me attractive anymore ? Is it possible that he is seeing someone else ?

I've always loved my husband's hair. Since I met him, he's never kept it too short and styles it nice. Whereas I'm from a town where the guys are all rednecks and just buzz their heads and both my exes always had that and I kind of hated it. I think my husband has never buzzed his hair before. He's from the bit city and went to hair dressers and has always taken good care of himself. Anyway he just came up to me and asked what I'd think if he buzzed his hair. I was kinda like "ehhh, do what you want, I'll still be attracted to you, but I probably won't like it. I like your hair how it is right now. Just being honest." Now he is in the other room sitting there moping, and I came in to ask what's wrong and he's just all pouty and like "nothing I'm just sad." He's super sensitive and gets hurt feelings easily, especially if he feels like I'm not attracted to him. So I left the room and he disappeared again, this time he's in the baby's room in the dark just laying in the baby's crib. Kinda weird. Was I in the wrong, is it bad to have preferences when it comes to your spouse? It doesn't mean I'll love him less... or find him significantly less attractive. I'm just not into buzzcuts and he's known that about me for a long time. I feel like it's this small town's influence on him. His boss has a buzz cut and he's been copying everything about his boss lately.

I have been living with my best friend for 6 months now. Both 23. Everything has been going better than could have ever been imagined. We love living together and are having an awesome time. We've had several talks about renewing the lease etc. and he said multiple times that he wants to stay roommates until he gets married to his girlfriend "At LEAST 2 more years" Because of these conversations, I had a sense of lasting security knowing that the good times wouldn't be ending any time soon. Last night he dropped a bombshell on me when he said he's been looking for engagement rings. I said, "Oh so you're going to propose to her on your 2 yr anniversary in August and have a year long engagement to Fall 2018?" and he said they were so anxious to get married that they want to be married by this coming fall. I feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me, as renewing our lease is totally up in the air now. I just don't get it. They're 23! She's a full time student until Spring 2018, he is a recent grad trying to find a good company to work for. How can they plan a wedding from just this June to September? They have no money saved, and a whole life ahead of them. I'm devastated but as the best man don't want to seem like I'm not happy for him. He said there's a chance the three of us can live together when they're married, I just wish this wasn't happening so fast. I'm hoping they both reconsider and take a bit more time...Any advice/ similar situations I can learn from?

Please pray for the restoration for my marriage. A week ago I said something that crushed her and has caused her to stop trusting me. I never wanted to hurt her, but after a lot of thought I was being shallow, selfish, and insensitive. She doesn't know if she can stay in this marriage anymore I promise I never meant to hurt her I said what I felt in that moment in time but it was out of fear not love. I love her more than anything and everything I miss her and this has been the hardest time in my life and the only thing I want to do is talk to her about it but I cant. Please pray for the restoration of my wonderful marriage. Pray my beautiful wife will come back to me and we can work this out i cant be any more sorry than I am. Pray for us please

Hello im in a pickkel me and my wife have been married for 3 years but when we got married it was rushed norhing felt right the i do did but it was rushed for no particular reason.. now i have the opportunity to give my wife a real wedding should i tell her and let her help or should i do everything and let her be surprised the day or 2 befor idk help me

Any advice for a couple that are having this issue? Will couples therapy work? Need points of view from both parties. Thanks

I have been married since February and my wife got me a $99 ring. I am not the type of person to be materialistic or anything but when I found out it was only $99 I got upset because I know she spent almost $500 for a ring she got her ex. I thought "wow I take care of everything financially, buy you expensive things that you ASK FOR and you can't even drop a couple hundred bucks on a ring I am going to wear for the rest of my life?? I only make her contribute $600 to our bills which leaves her close to $500/ month to blow on whatever her heart desires. She has asked me to buy her Xbox One, Timberland boots, an Apple Watch...And I always do it. I pay for all our vacations. Am I being petty that I want her to have to actually work a tad bit harder to save for a ring that I will wear forever?? I feel like I give, give, give and she takes, takes, takes and it just doesn't feel like this is equal at all. I don't know. Any insight?? EDIT: I think you all think I expect this ring that cost thousands of dollars. All I want is a ring that will stop turning yellow. I feel like it's so easy to call ME selfish. I love this woman. I would do ANYTHING for her. All I want is a ring (Hell maybe even $300) that will stand the test of time. How is that selfish at all? Also in case anyone is confused...I am a woman. Not a dude haha just so there is no confusion