We were arguing obviously and it really hurt my feeling. I mean we both work and share all the bills i really dont ask him for much at least i didnt think i did. I guess now im questioning that. How ever it really broke my heart.. am i over reacting. Any opinions would help thanks.

Is this a smart thing to do? I want to give my daughter the closest thing to normal of an upbringing as possible. Her mom and I were never married and she wasnt exactly planned, we split up but have been good with each other throughout. She turns 6 in late August and I want to take her on vacation somewhere to celebrate. Id like to do it as a "family". Her mom and I are still friends and if we can make something like this a regular thing I'dike that. Is it a good idea?

Im not so much worried about the divorce part, but the fact i might have to choose who i live with, my mom in miami, and my dad in maine. I love them both so much but I dont know what to do. I am visiting my dad who just moved to maine 6 months ago, and he sat me down and told me that they most likely would not be together in the future, he told me that we still would be a family together blah blah blah and stuff like that but please tell me what to do? idk why people are saying im not going to love both parents equally? If it came across that way i just want to clear up that i love them both equally no matter what.

We have literally been married for 2 weeks and he drives me insane! Everything he does makes me want to throw something at him! He is constantly following me around like a lost puppy, complains all the time if I'm not entertaining him, demands sex all the time. We have pretty much gotten into a fight every single day since our wedding day! I have slept on the couch almost every night because he repulses, and typically by the end of the day he has said something to make me mad enough To not want to sleep together. We dated a year before getting married, we hadn't lived together prior to marriage because our religious beliefs wouldn't allow it. We can not get divorced due to our Christian beliefs. I just don't know what to do, I literally feel so much anger and violence building up inside of me that even just looking at him pisses me off. Help me,

Me and my fiancé have been married for 3 months, but together for 4 years. Before we got married we started fighting but a lot was going on so we figured it was because of that. Now we are fighting probably once a week at least and I'm starting to hate him. He makes up his own rules about how I should act and behave. He shuts down during arguments, blames everyone else, is condensing and I have resent towards him. All 4 common factors towards divorce. He is a great guy and I love him deep down. But I cannot stand him at the same time but I don't know what to do. We cannot get divorced or break up, I'll kill myself first. I will not go through the shame of divorcing. So I don't know what to do I'm so upset and broken. Please someone help me.

How do you get over the heartbreak of a divorce. Some days I am fine but days like today I can hardly breath. It's so hard because I have no family to turn to. We moved across country so I have no friends here either.

So we had been invited to a party and our friends were there and my husband picked their little girl up and started tickling her while she sat in his lap. He suddenly grew quiet and started using his phone and the girl started to wiggle and look uncomfortable and I thought she needed a diaper change and picked her up. When I did, I saw the hugest b*ner on him and he looked embarrassed so I just got mad and left. I haven't talked to him since and I think he's afraid of coming home because of it. Should I be concerned? Is he a pedophile? What do I do? Ps. It's been 24 hrs since I saw him at the party but he's tried to call me once. The little girl is only 2.5 years old.

We are perfect for each other! Head over heels, in love. But I want to eventually be married legally. I don t want a ceremony or anything. Just go to the courthouse and have it legalized. If it was his way, he would just have it done common law wise. No asking, no proposal, or marriage certificate. I also would want children someday, he doesn t. It s nice I think I could spend my life with someone but should I change my family goals and ambitions to stay with that person? Just go with the flow? Should I leave and find someone who wants the same thing?

I'm 27 and my husband is 30. I'm biracial and he's white. He acts like a typical white man and annoys me all the time. We have 5 children the youngest is 2 months old. My husband works long hours and I appreciate him for that but he's so annoying. He leaves a mess wherever he is and makes stupid jokes. We have been together for several years and he has always had a huge sexual appetite. I'm tired all the time and he expects it every night. When the kids are sleeping I am lost of energy. We are going on a date night tonight which will be nice but he just thinks about sex all the time which annoys me, what do I do?

I've been married 5yrs and we have a 6yo son together Before we met my H was a drug addict but had been clean for 4 months when we met. He travels alot for work and our son and I travelled with him when we could,He always said that he doesnt know how he got so lucky in life after all the sh!t he done, that our son and I gave his life meaning & kept him together, We almost never argued but I had been suspecting him of relapsing before I decided to leave because there had been some tell tale signs of drug use I could see it in his eyes and demeanour. He eventually told me that I was right he has been taking cocaine but that he "has it under control" which was bulls*it, I refused to have our son around that and I am still so angry with him for falling but that all happened 6 months ago and he checked himself into rehab and has been doing great ever since and claims it was just a slip. Despite his staying clean he tells me he is struggling without his family and wants me to move back home saying im his anchor and he needs me more than ever. I decided to not give in to him but I love this man so much I want to go back but im scared and don't want to see him at rock bottom again. I don't know what to do or what the next step is, Please give me some advice, Thanks.

Why would a married man lock his phone?If its locked while your at work because you have a shared space with other employees, why wouldn't you simply unlock it when your off??? I just can't understand why my husband needs to have his phone locked.

I began a rationship married the love of my life. We were married for 4 years. Things slowly Bagan to fall apart. He was drinking more having anxiety attacks didn't want to have a child with me. We fought constantly physically and mentally. One day I was at work he asked what time I'd be home I told him what time we'll I ended up getting off early that day was going to surprise him. Well I surprised myself by seeing his ex pulling out of my driveway. Come to find out they had sex in our bed. It messed with my head mentally... so I left him and started dating another guy. Well I thought I was over my husband was still married to him but seperated. I ended up getting pregnant and the boyfriend had found out I was talking to my husband 1 month after being with him broke his hand punching a wall. Again a week later he saw I spoke to him again this was right before I knew I was pregnant we both had been to a party got drunk and he pulled me out of the car through the house and slung me into the floor I ran and went back to my husband. I felt as if I missed him but the feelings went away and that's when I went back to my boyfriend and found out I was pregnant I couldn't decide on who I loved so again I wentered back to my husband and that's when he told me I had to get an abortion so I could have his child. I am strongly against it so once again went back to the boyfriend. I see that I can do a lot with my boyfriend but I don't know if I love him or not.

I am very stressed, and the reason is my husband. My husband and I are both in our early 30s and both work full time jobs in our field. The reason I am stressed is due to worry that my husband will lose his job. It seems as if every job my husband gets, he always has an issue with his supervisor. The last job he had, he was fired for insubordination; the job before that he quit due to an issue with his boss; and the job he had before that he was also fired from due to an issue with his boss. He's now been at his current job for a year, but everyday I get a call from him complaining about what his current boss has done--he frequently is in her office or emailing her and complaining about something. He actually JUST called and told me about an issue he had with his boss' boss today due to denied PTO request. I am terrified my husband will be fired again, and stressed because when he gets fired, the financial burden frequently falls on me--we cannot manage on just my income. My husband does not know how to hush and when he thinks he's right, he is combative and won't let it go. I have told him about my concerns and worry but when I do, he gets upset with me and says i'm taking their side and will give me silent treatment. What can I do? I am in a constant state of worry and anxiety about this!

My husband and I have 2 children together. He had a son prior to our marriage. I have noticed that grandparents and he treats his son better and are more involved. Their excuse is always bc he doesn't have both parents together like my kids do. or bday parties, summer programs, ballet or karate -My husband never wants to contribute or has an excuse. However when his sons mother asks for a contribution for soccer camp, birthday party,gifts he is always willing. He does not spend time with our daughter, but always asks to have alone time with his son. I am just getting really tired of the whole situation, but feel is a sensitive matter so don't say much. I am seeking others opinions on this. Him and the mother have been separated since the child was 9 months old. I have made him aware of my feelings, but he uses the "mean step mom" manipulation. I always buy and take all them out and include his son in every family event. However he doesn't put the same effort in treating them equally. My kids are 6 and 3. and his son is 9. Grandparents have a better relationship with the 9 year old because they put in effort and time with him. When I ask them to have my kids, they reject.

Is it ok to not want to be around your spouses ex even if they share children with that person? What if they give you the creeps and make you uncomfortable and you feel your spouse always takes up for them and is overly friendly with them to the point it makes you feel weird? What should you do?

Hello. I am inlove with my husband and he in me. I feel like I know him better and better with time, but still not enough. What I do find out, about his character, I get bitterly dissapointed. We are young and we still don't have any kids. But I plan to get pregnant this year or the next. It's about his brother. His older brother raped an old woman and is in prison. He gets out in an year. I amm worried for my own safety since we live in a same house. And not only for mine, but for my feature kids, what if he does something to them, I will never forgive myself. I told my husband this and he yelled at me, was nervous, like I am overreacting. What his reaction if it was justiceful, should be? What are your opinions? Hi guys, thanks for the answers. We live in a small countri in Europe, and the mind and opinions in people aren't so high (or even tolerable) as in other places in the world. My husband reaction is "you are overreacting!!" and he yells. I got very dissapoined, like whoever I am married to?

I am 31 and have bad eye bags and wrinkles around my eyes. It seemed to happen out of nowhere. I look back at my wedding pictures from 2 years ago and they weren't there! I've tried everything to get rid of the bags to no avail. I just have bad skin and bad genetics i think. My younger brother who is29 also has crows feet. All of a sudden i never get carded when going out anymore, when just a couple years ago everyone thought i was under 21. My husband had also commented on my appearance recently and thinks i just need to take better care of myself, but i am! I eat lots of fruits and veggies, drink plenty of water, get plenty of sleep, take vitamins.... I'm thinking of going for a consultation at a medi spa. I see the before and after pictures and i want that so badly. But i know my husband is going to be super judgy about it. He's not going to want me spending money on that and he's going to think it's stupid. How do i talk to him about it and get him to understand? I even look at pictures from this past April from my birthday, and the bags and wrinkles aren't there! @Michelle, understand that this may be the only way to improve my appearance. That diet and home remedies may not be enough. That I need outside expert help, and that this is important to me.

is usually something revolving around "she doesn't feel like having sex with you anymore, you must be doing everything wrong". If that's the case, and it might be, why doesn't the wife say it out loud, and leave, instead of continually scarring her husband by rejecting him. That kind of psychotic, not? Why would a woman stay with a husband who she doesn't love anymore? Is it because she feels as though she can outdo Guantanamo, with the torture of a sexless hell?

Ok my wife is by no means fat and I tell her how beautiful she is every day but she has put on some weight from what she use to be. I have no problem with this what so ever other than she is constantly getting down on herself about it and calling herself fat. Exercise has always been a big hobby of mine and I am in good shape. She also hates it when I give her advice and I don't want to critics her work outs she sometimes does to help her make them more effective. But when she doesn't feel good about herself she has no sex drive and is kind of frustrating. But in short I am willing to help her but she doesn't want it, I think she is perfect the way she is but she doesn't, and she knows it bothers me she doesn't want to have sex but she won't do anything about it. All I know is when she feels sexy she is more in the mood. And I won't tell her anything that would hurt her feeling but not sure what I can do.

Imagine coming home from work and noticing that your wife, kids, and a bunch of furniture is missing. You make calls and eventually find out that she left you. A week later you get a notice telling you that you have to pay child support. Can this really happen? If so, that's messed up.

I've been married for 6 months now. I used to date before marrying and had no problems with guys using my backdoor. It hurts a little at first but then i feel nothing, its just like a brazilian wax. I told my husband i dont do backdoor stuff but i think he knows. I told him i've to think about it and only if he really loves me. How long should i make him wait ? Im very self conscient too. At snack: he's my husband so i cant show him what a slut i really am. You need to find a woman.

Since my adoptive mom was never married, is obese, and lives alone- she has always been clingy/co dependent w/me. She refuses to watch my kids so I can go on a date with my husband (alone). Yesterday, she told me that we don't need a vacation with just our kids and us 2 and that she deserves/needs to go along as well. We told her we were planning a weekend outing near the beach with our kids soon and she says she is interested in joining. Should we be allowed this time to ourselves (even with kids for vacations) or should she come? My grandparents also never allowed us our own vacations and said they wanted to go. She will try to plan things with my kids if I do not tell her. I mentioned the outdoor/beach thing and she invited herself.

My husband is currently attending a police academy. I am so extremely proud of him and know it is a great step for our future. However he has to stay at the training base Monday-Friday(12 weeks) and isnt allowed to use his phone. I understand why they do this-helping them prepare for a stressful job and all. I also realize that there are people that don't get to see their spouses for months at a time. However, right now I am struggling not being able to even get a text at all during the week. Any advice?

I recently had a baby and my mother in law flew in from Indonesia to visit. She stayed in our house this time instead of a hotel and I was forced to share my bed with her!! I told my husband I did not want to but he said it's just for a few days. We have an extra mattress in the house that I said I would sleep on and said that she could even have our bed! But my husband thought that would be rude. So the next morning I woke up at 5 and my husband asked what was wrong and I said I couldn't sleep (I had to work that day too) and then he got mad at me and started yelling at me because I couldn't sleep because his mom was there in my bed. Then his mom woke up from all the yelling and told him to stop, and then my husband told her that I couldn't sleep because she was in my bed and she said to me why do you have to do this and started wailing and packing her stuff. Which I told her I just wanted to sleep on the other bed with my husband in the living room. Then she told me how disrespectful I was and how she sacrificed to stay in my "dirty" house and said that her back hurt sleeping in my bed. And then I replied " I did not disrespect you this whole situation is crazy and then I brought her to the hotel because she refused to stay in my house because I didn't want to stay with her in my bed!

Ok so I ll make this as short as possible. My husband of 16 years has been cheating for the last 7, busted him with two secret cells,dating sites ,ads on cl casual encounters, he s a serial cheater.. We have been discussing divorce (which he does not want) he s saying he s a changed man, wants to keep this marriage, only loves me, and he says he ll never do this again... Well this last January his dad was diagnosed with cancer.. He passed away 2 days ago, we were all very close to him, but his dad never knw of his infidelity.. He is acting as if we are back together and I knw he needs my support, but how in the world do I handle all this? I don t want to hurt him while he s grieving the loss of his father?! But I don t want him to think everything is all peachy now? How do I support him and let him knw I m not his lil wifey anymore?

Hi yahoo, so I have a question? I've been bothered for the last couple of days because I feel like my fiancé wants better than me. We had a really bad argument a couple of weeks ago and I went to my mother's house to stay for a few days so we could cool off and give each other time to think if being together is really what we want. In the midst of that time, he suggested that we go on dates, not sex, with other people to see if we're missing out on anything. Now I totally understood where he was coming from but I was not up to it. I have 3 children, 2 by another man, the relationship failed, and one by him. We've been together for 3 years but we were friends since 2008. I've went into the military, got out, I work in security now, and I'm going back to school to finish up my degree in Criminal justice. I get along with my first 2 kids father and the grandmother, they're great support. I have great support with my 1 year old as well. I don't have issues with money, I don't struggle, I live a pretty good life. My fiancé and I are both doing well and we get along great, we both love each other dearly, we both have pretty much the same things in common besides me being an introvert and he's an extrovert. My whole thing is, why would he suggest that we see other people if the time away from each other was supposed to get some alone time to ourselves and think of how we can better ourselves or think of if we'd be able to come to an understanding of what happened? Is he happy???

This also frustrates my wife because I am not in the mood for sex very often. Money problems kill my desire for sex.

I've never been in a romantic relationship...but I know a thing or two about them. I've seen my parents divorce and re-marry, I've seen my sisters marry and my best friends making out with their boyfriends. As that one kid that sits quietly in the backround and watches all the drama go down as I'm comfortably sipping tea, I wonder.....how much does age effect someone's relationship? I've seen couples that are 14 years apart and happily married! And couples 5 years a part crash and burn. Does age make a difference? In your opinion, when do YOU draw the line?

I don't know if she got this idea from a movie or something but my wife made tea for me when I was in bed. To wake me up she put my hand in the hot tea. I got angry and slapped her.

Hi I,m 25yrs old and married with one daughter only six months old. My problem is that I don't love my husband anymore, he has been cheating and cheating and cheating and those things really affected me because now I don't even enjoy making love to him anymore I only have to think about someone I have a crush on to keep the sex going but its really killing me inside I don't want to be with him anymore. sometimes I take a long bath at night just to make sure that he sleep and I will sneak in bed to avoid having sex with him. NOW!!! There is a guy ive crushed on for about a year I spent a Friday with him just chilling after work I like him a lot but this guy is my BOSS. we kissed just few days ago and now we are kissing almost everyday and it feels soooooo good to kiss someone you really want to kiss and now I really want to **** this guy but again I'm thinking is better I stay with my husband and just **** with my BOSS so that I can be happy because he really makes me happy and hes caring too I don't know if that's a good idea or not. MUST I LEAVE THE MARIAGE OR STAY IN THE MARIAGE FOR THE SAKE OF MY DAUGHTER AND CHEAT WITH THE OTHE GUY AND GET SOME GOOD SEX FOR A CHANGE. by the way I love sex sooo much but my husband doesn't last for long hes only active for a minute then we are done but I need a man who can just **** me so hard whenever I need sex and my boss seem to can do that very well.

I've been with my husband for 14 years & we have a 12 yr old girl. I feel depressed because although I'm happy my husband & daughter have a great relationship, I don't have any kind of adult relationship with my husband, he would much rather spend time with our daughter. We as a couple have not gone to the cinema or gone out for dinner or done anything like that for literately years. But my husband regularly goes out & does stuff with our daughter, they have loads of stuff they do together like they're both into comics & games etc. The thing that really depressed me the other day is that I invited my husband out for dinner & said I'd take him to a strip club afterwards (we used to enjoy being a bit kinky), he said he'd love to but at the moment he was really focusing on work & didn't have the time, then a few days later he invited a bunch of my daughters friends over to play a game and he took a whole day off work!! Until my daughter was nearly 11 she slept with us in the adult bed, my husband & I only had sex when she was having a quick shower. And he would never listen when I told him that I wanted some personal space. I had to SCREAM to get her to leave the adult bed. Im unwanted in my own home. I know I'm not really wanted. My daughter is close with her father; my husband and I don't have sex, or share hobbies or intimate times, we don't have any long term goals that we share. I feel like running away, or even sometimes I think about killing myself. What can I do? By the way do not say "go to relationship counselling" with my husband, he refuses. Also don't bother saying "sit down and talk" I've tried that too.

my parents got divorced a few years ago. my mom and her boyfriend are going on a date tomorrow night and my mom wants me to meet him before they leave. i am kind of nervous but i am excited. i don't want it to be awkward as I'm sure it will be. i need some advice to calm my nerves...