As in if they're not family but the 14 year old considers the older girl as her best friend or something, is that okay?

im 16 right now & this was about 4 months ago. I have had an extremely hard time coping with this and still do. Heres info and the question (sorry if it gets long): The boy who raped me is this older kid in my school, ive always had a bad vibe with him and believe it or not, no one in my school really likes him . he started talking to me out of the blue one day and i felt bad so was nice . never doing that again . Long story short, he kept harrassing me to come over for a house party . i thought it sounded fun and i was under the impression that there was gonna be others there so i went. i go there and no one was . He gave me a drink, drugged it and i woke up in the middle of him having sex with me and he than physically abused me (choking me to keep me down). I did not report him because I was afraid, ashamed, and disgusted with myself , i didnt want to raise any hell or for anyone to hear about it cause of my age . my parents are also abusive . I find myself constantly getting flashbacks. Constantly having nightmares and i have an extremely strong hatred towards him. im also in a very tough position cause this guys only friend is really close with two of my best friends, so i always have to leave and make an excuse when he comes along and stuff . I go to counseling, Nothings been working. Id like to know if it is going to get better, but I fear i wont. I still am ashamed of myself & find myself absolutely disgusted with myself. I would like some advice or coping method he also had the guts to twist the story and tell a few people that i willingly had sex with him , the most disgusting person in my school . ive done everything to avoid him and i also very much fear everyone finding out and believing him . one person asked me about it and i convincingly denyed it . im tired of the thoughts

My friend and I are playing a game: While he is sucking me off, I am going to be trying to do other things normally. However, we are trying to think of things that can be done. Ideas?

I am 13 and my stepmom is having a kid with my dad. I know she loves me, but I have heard that there is nothing you can love more than your own kids. Will she love her more than me? Have you been in my stepmoms position? Honestly, how do you feel about having another child? Do you love it more? It's all so complicated for me.:(

I tell him no, and then he calls me a lesbian

I find that as gay relationships are accepted more, then why aren't incestuous ones accepted. Im talking between CONSENTING ADULTS. Also please don't make the argument about pedophilia or beastiality because its not between adults or humans. And the claim about reproducing, I agree that there should be caution for people in an incestuous relationship and want to reproduce, but they can always adopt or find a surrogate like many gay couples do.

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So I don't have the money to pay for an abortion, and I heard that there is some way in New Jersey of obtaining free health insurance to pay for an abortion procedure for minors. I want no traces of this procedure to follow me throughout my life.... If I manage to get a medical abortion (pills) for free, is there any way that ANY other person than me and my partner will know in the future? Thank you!

So I met this girl and when we first started talking, we had a good conversation. It was something you would do as if you were on a date but we were at work and it was through a phone. We haven't met during that time because she was at a different work location but we always anticipate each other calling. After a few month we started connecting on a higher level and we started spilling all our secrets to each other and everything about each other. We admitted to each other that we have feelings for each other and we knew we had the spark and the chemistry. Even with all this we both know our relationship is taboo. She's married and I'm single. She told me about her marriage and from what she has told me is that her marriage is not a happy one. Her husband is trying to make it better but when she bought home a apple pie from work, he got really mad and pissed off. She didn't like that and her husband doesn't let her go out and do anything with her friends. As much as I want her marriage to end, I really don't like having marriages become a divorce. I'm already becoming a benefactor if she happens to have a divorce she'd run to me but it hurts thinking about it. I really love her and care for her but is this really what we both should do? Is this even healthy for us?

Llevo 5 meses con mi novio y en una fiesta de la semana pasada besé a un chico que era mi mejor amigo en la secundaria, si estaba un poco tomada pero sabía lo que estaba haciendo y no lo evite, tampoco sentí mucha culpa que digamos y mi novio sospecha desde entonces algo y estoy en un punto en el que le quiero decir pero no se, por favor no me digan que hice mal y eso porque ya lo sé, simplemente no sé si decirle o qué hacer, ya que hasta a mi mejor amiga le ha estado diciendo indirectas. Hoy vamos a ir a una piñata de su familia y me va a presentar a sus tíos y eso y no sé si sea lo mejor.

Back in November of 2015 my first cousin passed away and he left behind his wife and four kids. And in November of 2014 my uncle lost his spouse and he also has four kids. Before the half of year mark my first cousin's wife started dating my uncle and I am very disgusted over the fact of them dating. I have refused to be around my family and be around them who are all for the relationship and me being against it. To elaborate more the wife married into the family while my uncle is a blood family member to clear up confusion. How should I express my feelings in a way to not piss anyone off?

I have been communicating with a man that I met online this past April. He seems like a stand up decent man. He's got a great career in law enforcement, he does have a good sense of humor at times. The only negative is that he basically is looking for sex. When our conversations don't involve sex, they tend to be boring. Me, I am not looking for sex. I specifically put in my ad that I was looking for a serious relationship. He comes in talking about how he's seperated from his wife so he ain't looking for anything serious. When we talk, I wish it were more than "what ya doing" "how's your day" "what panties are you wearing" etc. I feel like I deserve a man who wants me for me and not a guy that wants my top area and my backside. He technically is still a married man. The only means of communication we have is through KIk. I know Craigslist isn't a good place to meet men but I never get approached when I'm out and about. Should I just ignore his messages from now on? He doesn't live with her. He sends me naked pics all the time. He's in bed all by himself with his p*nis up.

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She want to chat with me. She seem old fashion or shy. But when I ask for number, she say she does not know me. How to attract or ask her out if you just meet online?

4 months ago , I suddenly fell in love with a guy ! I'm married with 2 kids , 22 years of marriage! My husband was so aggressive in life ! I had always been so strong but one day on my week moment I fell in love with guy working with our company ! I'm a manager at a big company and he was the owner of a big company too ! He was also in love with me as he said . We were going to start something physical as well. Then we only had sex chat It lasted 3 months ! Till my husband found out ! My husband took the **** out of me ! He didn't divorce me as he was too attached to me but he torcheted me as he could . Verbal and physical abuse ! Money ! He told the kids ! All I beared ! But I'm still shock about the soul mate lover ! He vanished ! He never even asked my friends what happened to me ! He left me in the mouth of lion ! I , who was always proud of myself , my decisions, my style , ....., made such drastice choice ? Was he a basterd jurk ? He was well off , I was ok too . So I always thought it was a moment of love ! He just wanted to do sex chat with me ? Otherwise how could he be so indifferent about what happened to me ????

I'm not the type of person that just speaks to anyone. I know my worth. Most people don't talk to me. I guess I just mind my own business. If people knew the truth they'd all want to speak to me but I'm kinda glad they don't. I'm like a mix between the nerd and class clown. I feel like a bad person though. People got their own lives doing whatever they do. I used to be close to my family but they're all moving on & it's alright they're not my real family. I'm stuck in love w/ this girl mind u she's 21 & I'm turning 17. We texted each other how we felt we were amazing. She expanded & claimed I was smart sweet chill. In person she'd constantly claim how cute I was & I think she flirted cause she said i was sexy but idk. I think she hates me 2-3 weeks ago I texted asking if she was alright. I feel like she was just being nice & actually hates me. I don't blame her I always tell people good morning & ask how they're doing & they tell me to hang myself. My dad & I don't have much of a relationship it's like our roles are reversed & my mom is sick so I can't really go out but I'm not bitter she's like my daughter. But I feel so crushed cause the girl didn't reply to my DM. My friends say I can be an egotistical *** home sometimes but they know I mean well. I don't think she'd care if I died. Just cause she said she loves me doesn't mean anything she's got a bf. Maybe She wants me out of her life so I stopped texting. I was stupid enough to fall for her twice

Apparently I am not good enough for him now. He wants a future and he ignores me and he intends to contact me in the future when he is "good and ready". I have also been told he is the type of guy like an ex of mine who treasted me terribly. I already know I don't feel in love with this new guy at all, the problem is his apparent delusion that he can treat me so extremely poorly. I do not see myself respecting this guy, ever. I am a nice person... He taken advantage of me a lot so far. I see no reason for people to act like he is deeply in love with me...disturbing actually to suffer hearing and seeing people act like he does want me because he does not act like it. How does this sound to you? Is he a good guy? *typo

an older female acquaintance was trying to compliment me and call me beautiful (i'm not) and i just waved her away saying "no, no . . ." and laughed it off. then a guy this lady has been nagging to ask me out (in a motherly match-making kind of way) turned around and said to her "you need glasses!" he has been teasing me a lot lately, and we've just been letting our friend joke about playing matchmaker without any flirting. would a person normally call someone unattractive in front of whoever they're talking about? i'm very self-conscious and easily hurt. i don't think i'm beautiful or even pretty, but i want to know if guys usually put girls down for their look and mean it

I've been going through what my mom considers a "rebellious phase." I'm halfway through high school and sick of living with her, and I take my frustration out on her. I refuse to do chores, I avoid family activities, she and I fight a lot. It's actually been stressing her out. Recently a social psych college group visited us and asked if we wanted to be part of a family relationship experiment. My mom was vague when explaining this to me so I agreed and signed the paperwork. Afterwords I found out the experiment asked me to get hypnotized to be more obedient when my mom used special phrases. I was going to tell the hypnotist the misunderstanding but she was already beginning so I decided I'd wait until later to say I want out. She put me in a trance, and the thing about hypnosis is it can affect your memory. So for the longest time I actually forgot all about it. But over time I noticed whenever my mom said "do what your mother says" I would suddenly do what was asked of me without even thinking. I approached my mother to tell her I don't approve but she said the phrase and next I was mowing the lawn. She even had me give her a massage. She's not an abusive mom - I think she's been so emotionally broken down by my disobedience she can't help but feel power hungry now that I listen to her. Supposedly this experiment is supposed to continue for a few more weeks. I don't know, should I just go along with it? Or should I seek help? Can anything really bad come out of this?

He s 19 and steals my moms car and money every night, he s on drugs, he breaks everything every night, and last night he became physical shoving me to the floor and shoving my mom, she s tried kicking him out but he forced his way into the house or just straight up will not leave, he ll agree to leave but then as soon as my mom has a ride for him to get here he won t leave, he s making it a horror to come home to us but we don t know what to do.

I'm a girl and I want to be a boy. I haven't told my mum yet because I'm too embarrassed and I'm not sure how. I've managed to get away with buying men's shoes but nothing else to I just wear the same jeans and the same hoodie when I go out. Also when I wear that I still look like a girl. I've made my hair shorter but I still look like a girl. Please help

Smokey mountains in Tennessee with my parents and two little sisters or home alone and be able to invite my friends over and drink and have my boyfriend stay over night?? But he works a lot and I may find myself home alone most of the time

I am a young adult and after fantasizing about it forever, I went to go rub my sisters feet. She looked confused but she actually let me and didn't care at all. It feels really nice when they're in my hands and I was just wondering if I should keep rubbing them? I also want to smell them. Please help me if I should keep doing this. I really need help. I love them so much.

It just happen today and it bother me. I didnt want to say anything i didn't see no point of it, it happen when i was young like 6 or 7 or younger and he was like 10 or 11 or older idk. My older cousin brought it up she notice some thing was some wrong with me while she was visiting my godmom she talked abouted it with me I didnt told her who did it. Then she told my godmom ( i dont blame her though) they pressure me to tell them. He a familymember he think I forgot about it I didnt I just forgive him. He never touched me again and never threatened me. What he did didnt bother really it was a small memory of what he did. We got a good cousins relationship. Idk i could be wrong or something idk. I just need thought or advice....

Okay so last summer my brother (12) had an epileptic seizure, his first one, no big deal right? We'll get him medicated. In fact, we didn't tell anyone outside of the family about his seizure because we were afraid the people in our small town would pick him apart. Anyways so after that first one he didn't have another until 6 months later, he had 2 that day. Still fine, we upped his medication and life carried on. Then 3 days later he had yet another on the way to school. This was a wake up call for him and he felt reluctant to go back to school, in fear of having one there, and also because of the chemical reaction of embarrassment he feels after one. So we went back to his doctor and she even recommended homeschooling for a while due to the safety hazards in the school like the stairs. No big deal, we'll homeschool for a while. But both my parents work and he can't be left home by himself, so I step in, as the older sister (15) and I also start homeschooling, and watching him until my parents get home from work.After all this is family, it's what's you do. He's had many more seizures since we left school, and they don't seem to be going away no matter what we do, it looks like our situation is going to be the same for a while. I don't want to stress my parents anymore then they already are, I know they feel guilty spending my highschool years like this already but in all honesty, i would have done it on my own. He's my brother. (Continue in updates)

I got a job offer from a random guy for porn ?? He wants to get me into the adult entertainment business. Is this a scam ? Could I get hurt ? I m 19 and female

My mom said screw you, I repeated that to her along with f u you fing b. She said she was dead to me . I refuse to apologize. The argument was over my child riding in a car with someone on prescription pills. When I was younger, I was run over by a driver who was under the influence and I have seizures from it. Since the argument, she is telling other kin folks a one sided story of how I cussed her out and she didn't raise me like that. I am not saying anything to any of those people because I cannot handle conflict, it causes seizures. I have been dating someone for many years and we have been planning a wedding. My mom has spent twenty three dollars on some table cloths and dollies that I picked out along with plates, napkins, and silverware. My daughter asked her if she was coming to the wedding and she said absolutely not. She said she did not raise me to talk to her like that, she wanted nothing to do with me. I am confused. A large part of me is saying she has decided not to come, and has made her decision. To leave it alone and not invite her. Another part of me is saying not to reach out to her just to send her an invite in case she changes her mind and wants to be there. I do not want any negativity at the wedding. If she shows, I will be happy, but I am standing my ground with the kids riding in the car with anyone who has a habit. I am one hundred percent sober and will not allow that. I do not know what to do, please advise me . Thank you so much!!

By older women, I mean women in their, maybe late 30s to 70s. But I'm talking mainly about women in their late 60s. I'm soon 21, and there always seems to be an older woman hating me no matter where I go. At my previous job, there was a woman in her late 30s always trying to grab onto something, even the smallest thing, to criticize me. She also got others to go against me and apparently talked behind my back. Everyone was nice at first, but after a month or so they started picking fights. Now, at my current job, the person training me, who's in her late 60s, went through a similar thing. She was nice at first and now she doesn't even say goodbye and always leaves me out of conversations. She asked our supervisor to switch my shift so another woman (in her 30s) can work with her instead of me. She says comments to make me feel dumb like "You're the computer person, I thought you'd know how to do this!" Today when I asked if she had plans for the weekends, all she said was "always" Even here at home, my grandmother couldn't make it more clear about hating me. She calls me a "dumb ****" to my face, and my mother won't do anything about it, by simply saying "she's old....". Age is not an excuse to be a *****. So at work, I deal with one, and at home, with another. I thought it was me at first, but now I see a pattern. I'm always friendly and smiling, so I have no idea what else to do.

So, one of my friend's asked me out about 7 years ago, it was in the middle of our conversation while texting one night. It took me by surprise and I told him not right now. It ruined our friendship for a while. A couple years later I reached out to him on Facebook, and I thought our friendship came back, but I had problems with my phone and was unable to reach him and it was too later to reply to him again, so I forgot about it. Recently my friend brought up his name was what happened years ago. And I friend-ed him on Facebook again. How do I talk to him again????

I have noticed in the last years that I get excited sexually with almost all types of women. I love sex from the most artistic and conventional to the most filthy. I am 26 years old. Is it outrageous? What do women think about it? I appreciate your sincerity.

I work closely with a man that I admire. When I first started working with him I could tell he wasn't a very social guy. Not social at all, actually. He's 9 years older than me and more established but we generally enjoy the same activities and such. But a few months went by and we started to get to know each other better and started getting along really well. He's given me a few of his personal items, he would suprise me with a little gift occasionally. We started to flirt and joke around a lot. I gave him a couple of opportunities to text me, but he didn't. I spoke to a close friend of his and they said that he's very shy and would probably appreciate a stronger effort from myself. I know he's not seeing anyone, or talking to anyone. So I told him via message, "it may be kind of obvious, but I kind of have a thing for you" (obviously not that good at being subtle about it) and I also said that I'd hope it wouldn't make him uncomfortable to be working around me. He didn't reply. The next time I worked with him I avoided all contact that wasn't necessary and we haven't really spoken to each other since. It's been a few weeks now and I'm wondering if he's just giving me mixed signals, or the fact that I avoided him right after telling him I liked him that threw him off. His close friend is a friend of mine that I trust and I know he didn't say anything to him. In case you're wondering.

I've been hooking up with a married coworker who is literally twice my age, and I'm in my mid-twenties, so he's no spring chicken - but he's incredibly attractive and his personality is captivating, at least to me. He loves his wife and family and has no intentions of leaving them, he is just hooking up with me because he is far more sexually adventurous than his wife is. This is totally fine with me. So we've been hooking up for 2 months and things have been going great, until today he told me that we have a routine going and he wants to switch it up.. which is his indirect way of telling me he's bored. No problem, I'm all up for trying something new, but when I ask him what turns him on or what he'd like to try, he doesn't give me anything to work with. So what am I supposed to do if he tells me he wants to try something new but won't tell me what he's into? Any advice? We're already currently having vaginal, anal, and oral sex. We 69. Don't know what else we can do...

I met someone who is incredible on so many levels. He works full time and just started up a business with two others. He's got a lot invested into this business, which I understand is his passion. We talk openly. He said he is holding back with me due to the fact that he doesn't think it's fair he doesn't have time for me. He's had two other businesses in the past and was involved with women during the time frame, which they left him because they couldn't handle how busy he was. I don't now how I would handle it, but I want to at least try. I think he's scared to take the risk again with another women while starting a business. Should I move on or continue to see him once every week or two and see if I can handle things. Any advice?

My little sisters both eat chalk (like straight up EAT it, looking like just licks n nibbles but before you know it half a piece of sidewalk chalk is gone). One's 10 and the other is 9 (it's mostly the 9 year old), they've been doing it since they each were like 5. Our dad (we just have a dad) doesn't do much to really prevent it other than telling them to stop. He says they're non toxic so if they do do it behind his back he doesn't see a huge issue. But he does really try to tell them not to. I'm wondering if it could be harmful? Or if it's no biggie? Is it possible for it to build up in their system and cause problems? Or will it just come out the other end? Thanks in advance.

We were together for 10 months, but he broke up with me once before because his friend told him to (he's 27 and his friend is 29 and getting married soon) He begged me for a second chance not even a day later, and I said yes. Well he just broke up with me again. We lived over an hour apart. I don't make the greatest money, so I was honest from the start and told him I couldn't drive to see him that often. He ended up moving even FURTHER away when he had the chance to move closer, and I probably said it a hundred times. I drove to him on the weekends or a night during the week, but he blames me and says I "didn't show love" because I didn't spend enough time with him. This, along with the last breakup, came out of nowhere. He always seemed happy, and I was happy and thought things were good. He tells me he hasn't been happy for the last month. But then he says I lied to him saying I'd spend more time with him when I got out of school, but I can only do what my bank account allows me. There have been times he refused to leave his hometown when he doesn't even work there or have connections besides his family, but I offered to leave my town to meet in the middle and it still didn't seem like enough. I told him looking at apartments together may solve the issue, but it didn't stop him from leaving again. Now I'm questioning myself and actions wondering if I could've done something differently? To make things worse, he posted it to Facebook saying he "can't take the pain anymore and he's better off single" and his mom, brother in law, uncle, and sister all liked it when they are all friends with me from adding me.

My boyfriend is very important to me and I care deeply about his happiness and wellbeing. Because of this, I do a lot for him even when it is an inconvenience (which of course I never tell him it is). It used to feel like these feelings were reciprocated by him. Lately, however, it feels like I'm just not on his list of priorities. It often seems like he'll only hang out with me if his friends aren't doing anything, and it's been ages since he's taken me on a date (I actually pay for him way more than he pays for me, and then the rest of the time we just split things down the middle-- even though when we go out to eat he tends to order and consume way more than I do). This morning he drove me to the airport but only after I said I would like him to, and he grumbled at one point about how much mileage it was putting on his car. I would have been more understanding, had it not been for the fact that he didn't even have a car for a few months and I drove him everywhere. The last time he "drove" me to the airport, we took my car and that of course put twice the amount of mileage on it and I paid for gas and everything. It just doesn't feel like he cares that much about me anymore. Things used to be so great between us and I've never been more attracted to a guy I've dated before, so I would really like to give him a chance to fix this before I consider breaking up with him. What would be the best way to bring my concerns up? Anyone else ever been in this situation?