| Question: How to comfort your girlfriend during a scary movie ? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 09:38 PM PDT Me and my girlfriend were watching a movie about Charles Manson she's really afraid. It's not the movie that scares her it's the screaming. She likes running around herself screaming and acting but she doesn't like hearing women screaming in movies it scares her it always has since she was a kid. I can't tell her it was just a movie it really happened. She has a bad headache. She doesn't mind seeing the blood and stuff it's just the screaming that bothers her. She's shaking she's starting to cry. I never heard of Manson until I watched this she knows about him but she's never watched anything like this. She's also 10 weeks pregnant which is making her even more scared. How can I comfort her ? |
| Question: Why do people believe that no one ever cheats? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 09:28 PM PDT It's so funny how people believe there is such thing as no one ever cheating. I believe that every guy pretty much cheats. Why do people even believe in marriage. I don't even think love exists, only temporarily |
| Question: What do you think about a woman who won't divorce a man who clearly doesn't care about her? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 09:23 PM PDT My friend's mom has 3 daughters with her husband and everytime i'm hanging with my friend her dad is abusive to the kids and complains about needing money to the mom all the time. i know its not much of my business but my friend always tells me about how she tries to talk to her mom about leaving him and just tells her to shut up and that she doesn't know what she's talking about and that she needs to stop acting like she is grown. her dad has also been caught with different women multiple times by her mom and me and my mom and we've told her and she just says oh okay like its no problem. My friend always tells me that she has zero respect for either of them. her dad, because of the obvious reasons. but her mom because she says you don't deserve to be a woman if you dont leave a toxic relationship like theirs. and if you dont you must not respect yourself. |
| Question: How do you make it hard for a man to get you so he can enjoy a chase and also make him want you emotionally? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:53 PM PDT I'm a Christian girl. I do not do sex before marriage. But other then that Idk how to "makr him chase me" and also to "make him connect emotionally before sexually" so he will want you emotionally forever. Thank you. |
| Question: What set your husband apart from your exes? Was his treatment better from the rest and that's why you've lasted? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:41 PM PDT I just want to know to see if the men in my life if I can tell like you have from night and day of the treatment you received from your ex vs husband. |
| Question: Is it normal to do this ? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:34 PM PDT My wife is 8 months pregnant with our daughter I love rubbing her belly and kissing it. I even put my hand on it when we go for a walk or when we're sleeping. Sometimes I even sleep on it. Is this normal ? |
| Question: What does it mean to suck eggs? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:32 PM PDT My son who is 8 and will be 9 by this time next year told my wife he'll teach her grandmother to suck eggs wife and I are trying to understand if discipline is necessary |
| Question: What do you think about this ??? (Relationship advice)? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:23 PM PDT So been together for three years now. Relationship has been Rocky then good so on. So Im just curious what other people think. I basically do everything yes my husband works but three days out the week the off for 5 days. He literally makes me do every thing he wakes up sits down on his phone and does that all day. If he doesn t do that he is with his friends drinking and eventually ignores me and comes late. The baby will be crying he will call oldest to get her instead of him. I ask for help he don t do it. It feels like he is not working hard enough for this family because his last marriage he made sure she was okay and me doesn t feel like it. It feels like he is holding me back but then he just does stuff that changes my mind. I try to talk to him he either don t pay attention or he just doesn t answer me :(. When he is drunk he says he can careless what I do for him is a t true what they say drunk men speak the truth idk this is just a little of what is going on. Please be nice I don t need negative feedback I already get crap talk to me thank you everyone. |
| Question: Should I leave my girlfriend? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:14 PM PDT I have been dating this girl for about 6 months...she has just now confided a shocking secret that she uses drugs--and I don't mean alcohol or marijuana. She further revealed that she has been using since the age of 13 (she's 22 now). Without even experiencing it myself, I know all about how drugs not only destroy a person, but everyone around them. One woman I read about found herself thrown in federal prison for 24 years after relaying what turned out to be coded drug sale messages for her boyfriend and periodically picking up a backpack that he "left" at a friend's house. (She was pardoned after serving 7 years) I really care about her a lot...but I don't want to end up a victim story, in whichever direction it goes. Should I break up with her? Work with her to get clean? What do I do? (And yes I put this in the marriage section--I don't feel like hearing from a bunch of bored teenagers and trolls in the dating section) |
| Question: Do I stay and keep hoping or get out?? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:59 PM PDT I love my husband, but I don't want to be with him anymore. I kind of love him like a brother or cousin. Over the years there has been abuse In every form. I've sought help but nothing has changed. I've spoken to my pastor and he says to keep praying and believing, but I'm tired of the abuse. I also feel, as a Christian, that I will be punished if I divorce so I've been dealing with it for many years. What do I do??? Do I take a chance on divorce or do I keep praying and hoping? |
| Question: Can we or can we not be friends? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:42 PM PDT Let s cut to the chase, I ve had a boyfriend for a handful of years. We share 3 lovely daughters. How do you make your point across to your ex that you just want to operate as co parents and that s it. Because he keeps trying to give me hugs and offers me things but I don t want to be friendly in that way. We often argue and I m just tired. Can we not just be civil but not overly friendly? |
| Question: Anyone else don't want to be married or have kids? Especially women? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:25 PM PDT It's not that I don't think marriage and/or parenthood aren't beautiful things - anymore than I think, for example, being an astronaut is a beautiful thing. It's just none of those "job descriptions", per se, appeal to me. |
| Question: Rebecca I love you so much, she's the most beautiful woman in the world and I want to marry her one day? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:03 PM PDT Wilt thou marry me? 😻 |
| Question: Is it wrong to feel like this in a marriage? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:38 PM PDT Is it wrong if a male/female wants to talk to other people just to get that comfort if they feel like they are not getting the attention or love from the spouse? After so many arguments and so many talks, nothing changes. Are we supposed to stay strong and stick it out while is killing us inside? |
| Question: My uncle is leaving his wife and my Mom sides with the wife. A war is breaking out in the family, how do I stay safe? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:27 PM PDT My Mom and her mother have aligned with my uncle's wife. They have put a blockade on invitations being granted to him until he cancels the divorce idea. My grandfather died in 2006 but a fight is being fought as to whose side he would have aligned with. My aunt is neutral and thus both sides have sanctions against activities with her. My two uncles meanwhile lean on my uncle's side and thus are considered enemies of the institute of marriage and family. Thus my mother will not let them around her children. Since I am older (age 20) I am able to see them some. One of them noted he does not endorse at all his brother leaving his wife but feels family blood comes first. The other is drunk all the time so I haven't asked and we see him little anyway. Meanwhile the cousins of my Mom's have split their loyalty. Those backing my uncle's divorce are enemies of marriage my Mom and my grandmom say and so we have a blockade against any visit attempts by them and the annual reunion was cancelled this year. Meanwhile the allied cousins (those backing my uncle's wife) have come over weekly for strategy meetings and possible gossip strikes against the uncle. A battle is currently being fought over whether he is seeing another woman. Allied forces say he is cheating but the axis powers of his claim he is divorcing with no desire to see someone else. The battle is currently intense. How do I find a cease-fire? How do I stay safe in the great Miller-Davis Family War of 2017? |
| Question: Is marriage the biggest male scam in existence? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:26 PM PDT Some broad can just marry you for the money, divorce you in a year or 2, and the courts will give half her ****. Who needs pyramid schemes when you have this money making method? |
| Question: Is his mother overbearing? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:20 PM PDT My boyfriend of over two years and I discuss marriage frequently. The only thing that concerns me is his mother. She is a huge part of his life. He is 34 and his mother still pays for his groceries, going it to eat etc and on the weekends dominates his time and schedule. He also works at her company and she is his boss. She calls him between 6-10 times a day even late at nights. She even tries to give me advice and tells me how I should feel about certain things and is very opinionated. I'm always nice to her but secretly this annoys me and I find her over bearing and meddling. He even has a 37 year old sister who is still living at home with his mom, never married etc. Is it worth end the relationship over? I love him very much but his mother is over bearing. |
| Question: Cousin has a disabled child. They stayed with me for 3 nights week for 2 months To go dr. they are back and my husband is freaking out.? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 05:52 PM PDT My Cousin has a disabled child. They stayed with me for 3 nights week for 2 months To go dr. for appointments. Then they did not come for 3 months. they are back and my husband is freaking out. They need at lesst to mid September. My husband Is afraid it will never end and said horrible things about the child. I don't how to talk to him about it. It is my family and I want to help. What do I do? I have never seen this side of my husband. It has bother me the stuff my husband said about my family |
| Question: How to diffuse sexual tension? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:54 PM PDT There is a lot of sexual tension between a man and I, we are both married (to other people) in fact we are in laws so it just makes the whole situation even worse. I can't avoid him all the time due to family gatherings and such and also I don't really want to because he's a great guy and we do get along really well with eachother (we are both the most similar out of everyone but complete opposites aswell). I know he's attracted to me also and I can tell he likes being around me as much as I do but he also backs off at points as do I. I don't think either of us wants to do wrong to the people we love but honestly the attraction is SO intense and gets really uncomfortable too because of how inappropriate it is. How can I get rid of this?? I've tried the imagining of all the bad things that would happen if we ever did the deed and I've tried thinking gross awful things about him and it doesn't work! I don't want to sit down with him and discuss it as I feel if we admitted it there would be no going back and I feel that's a betrayal talking to him about it anyway. I can't talk to my husband about it, he's very jealous and would hit the roof. I've tried just straight ignoring his presence but that makes me feel bad because then I can see him trying to get my attention and talk to me. He stares at me whenever we are around eachother and I feel so nervous and anxious, there's just something there when we look at eachother and it feels like magic. How do I stop this??? Robert I have tried that but it doesn't take it away :/ |
| Question: My 4 week old and was in a homeless shelter because of my husband? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:43 PM PDT When I was seven and a half months pregnant my husband quit his job to go run the streets with his friends stop paying all the bills which led to me and our 4 week old baby to have to go into a homeless shelter I had to stay in there for 30 days they helped me with income help me find a place and they help me with furniture and now I m out to shelter and my husband is trying to come stay with me and reap the benefits of my suffering and acts like nothing happened and feels we should go back to being a family what would you do if your husband did that to you would you divorce him or stay with him and work it out |
| Question: Can I change his mind? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 01:06 PM PDT I have appreciated reading the different perspective on the last two posts from today. My next question is can you change someone's mind? What I mean is if they are so sure that they are done and there's nothing that can be fixed about the relationship and they even told you that an abortion would be the best thing since they were so sure the marriage wouldn't work... Is there any going back from there? I would like so much to change the bad things and behaviors mainly my anger and my dependence on him for happiness when it really had nothing to do with him at all and had to do with me not being happy as a person. I feel like if I stay living here that I might have a chance to show him another side to me and when I asked him if things changed if it would even matter he didn't want to answer the question and then he finally did and he said yes it would matter but it's not going to change and it's too late now. can I change his mind or should I stop trying? |
| Question: My husband wants a divorce and said that week should still be friends? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 10:52 AM PDT I'm going to simplify this as much as I can. He said that we were emotionally damaging to each other and that we are sick and sick are together and that there is no hope and he will not change his mind this time. No amount of begging his made him change his mind. He says he won't do counseling anymore because there is no fixing us and that we can be friends and he doesn't ever want to lose me as a friend but we cannot be together romantically. He says he's doing this because he failed as a husband and I was always unhappy and that he just wants me to be happy now. He said I can live with him after the divorce until I can financially support myself he seems to be fine just being friends which I don't understand how he can get over it so quickly? |
| Question: My mother and I were discussing how fortunate I am that I miscarried? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 10:52 AM PDT My Mother said that if I was honest, and I told her that I was, well, she then said there isn't one thing that my husband is good at, all my other friends have husbands who have great jobs, nice homes, cars, , but not my guy, And when I thought about it, I realized that I married a loser. I'm just worried about my husbands reaction when I tell him this. Do I tell him before or after work? |
| Question: Husband says he wants a divorce but is OK with living together? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:46 AM PDT Me and my husband were fighting a lot and he finally decided he was done with the marriage and that there is no fixing it for him and he will not change his mind because every time he comes back we fight more. Him and I are pretty unhealthy people emotionally and he says he doesn t want us to destroy each other anymore and that he wants me to be happy and that he still loves me and that is why he is divorcing me. I understand this now that I am calm but it took me several weeks to reach this point of not having meltdowns or begging him to change his mind and work on us. I had an abortion a week ago because he was very insistent that he would not change his mind about the divorce and it broke both of our hearts because I know that we both really wanted to keep the baby. I made the hardest choice I ever had to make myself by getting rid of that pregnancy but I just couldn t see myself ever moving on from him or getting healthy and fixing my problems if I had another kid to take care of. He says he still wants to live together and when I ve asked if he would prefer that I leave he said no. I just don t understand this because for him to say he won t change his mind even though he knew that I would go through with the abortion that is how I know he is serious about divorce. So why did he say I didn t have to leave when I asked him what he would prefer? |
| Question: How to forget the recently known news for a husband dat his wife slept with his known friend b4 marraige that he discovered only aftr mrg? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:25 AM PDT Now will he have to sacrifice any one of the important people in life (his friend) for betterment of his marraige life? If not how can he face the situation that his friend knows everthing (physical n emotional) about his wife n even knows her b4 him? Will the both friends be able to be comfortable to face other (specially the husband)? Then how? |
| Question: My wife keeps giving me the I'm tired excuse and I'm sick of it? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:53 AM PDT It's been a month again and nothing. And she's rejected me 20 times the past 4 weeks and I'm tired of being neglected. Should I look elsewhere or get a divorce? Because marriage counseling is useless. She's come up with every possible excuse in the book and I'm sick of it. |
| Question: Why do some married people lie that they're single and engage in emotional affairs? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:40 AM PDT I've both experienced and seen that behavior. Like when they engage in the chase, and the game of seduction. But when it comes to going on a date or becoming physically intimate, they'll suddenly hit the eject button. Why do some people put so much effort and focus on an emotional affair, and in physically tempting someone and attracting their crush, without the intent to following through? Do they think that just because they stop just short of being physical, they've done nothing wrong? If they weren't planning on following through, why would they lie that they're single and try to draw their crush into the point that they're sexually attracted and want to make a move? |
| Question: Was it wrong of me to do this? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:58 AM PDT I turned to a male friend about the problems I was having with my boyfriend. I basically told him about a fight we were having and all about our problems. I wen tot visit my male friend who lives out of state without my boyfriend even though I have no feelings for him whatsoever. My boyfriend found out about this and broke up with me. Now theres no turning back. Was it wrong of me to do this? |
| Question: What is a bad reason to divorce? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:37 AM PDT |
| Question: Men do you want to date and eventually marry and court a woman who is very quiet? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:05 AM PDT That's me and idc if you find me "boring" wjatever that means. I don't have many opinions, I barely say words. And I like a guy like that to be my husband and we raise a family and ill be a homeschooling housewife mother. That's how I want my life to go. I don't want a talkative man sorry . maybe that makes me seem boring to most men. But I don't have many opinions on anything. I know my place as a woman as well (submissive) and that I work for my husband. |
| Question: My boyfriend and I accidentally had sex in my best friend's bed. should we tell her? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 11:21 PM PDT Okay so my boyfriend and I accidentally had sex in her bed. Earlier we got into a big fight and my best friend wanted to lock us both in her room to sort through our problems. After reconnecting with my boyfriend she locked us in her room and ended up past out downstairs. So we ended up talking more and it we ended up kissing and ended up having sex. My best friend has NO idea should we tell her? my boyfriend's umm...love juice is in her sheets so im afraid if she finds it because it was stained there. What do we do??? I'm freaking out but he's more calm about it now were fighting again because he doesn't want me to tell her and I want to tell her and she's more confused about why were fighting. What do i do? please help!! :( |
| Question: My husband makes me lick and suck his feet and toes to get any money for bills. Is this normal? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 06:18 PM PDT |
| Question: My husband is withholding my medication in exchange for sexual favors? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 03:30 PM PDT So a little over two years ago, my husband was hospitalized with chemical pneumonia after inhaling some toxic fumes at the manufacturing plant where he works. I vigilantly stayed by his bedside during the entirety of his hospitalization and helped administer his medications during his lengthy recovery. I always assumed that if I ever encountered any serious health problems that my husband would happily return favor without any objection. Anyway, I've been a life-long sufferer of both renal insufficiency and type 1 diabetes. I believe that I diagnosed with diabetes at around age eight. My husband and I are also recovering alcoholics. After both of my parents and my younger sister were killed in a car accident last Thanksgiving, I sort of "fell off the wagon" and my health concerns fell by the wayside. I lost a portion of my left foot due to my poorly managed diabetic condition. I'm now largely confined to a wheelchair and I've been relying on my husband to run necessary errands and care for my basic needs. Recently however, he has been on a bit of a power trip and often won't provide me with my medication and such until I perform sexual acts on him beforehand. On at least three or four occasions he's literally locked my insulin in the glove box of his truck until I eventually "give in" and give him what he wants. Is this type of behavior illegal in some way? How can I regain control of this situation until I'm well enough to take care of myself? Thanks and God bless. |