Family: Question: Is my boyfriend's mom being normal?

Question: Is my boyfriend's mom being normal?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 01:08 PM PDT

My boyfriend and I just finished our freshman year at Ohio State, both 19. Now it's summer and were both at home but we only live about 40 minutes from each other. I keep getting really frustrated by his mom. First of all, he works doing a desk job she wanted him to do 5 days a week 8 hours a day. She enforces a strict curfew of 11pm on week nights. She also makes him come home and clean for an hour every day after work. So because she wants him to come home and clean after work, he has to drive an extra hour and a half to come see me every day which she knows he always likes to do. Is this curfew and cleaning business normal? He also has never gotten in trouble with her EVER, perfect grades, no past incidents whatsoever.

Question: My boyfriends sister is cooking dinner for the family and I but its nasty . what should i do?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 12:56 PM PDT

The food is disgusting and i really dont want it..but i cant leave my plate full and not eat .

Question: Im fed up with my family.?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 12:26 PM PDT

im 21, my parents know my plan that i want to save a plane ticket and go live with my bf, we want to finish school and then move completely out. i live in hawaii currently but schooling is so expensive and ill be paying for it. my parents think im living a fantasy and my aunt says i need to see a psychologist because i need help, so i cant make my own decisions?! my mom thinks im going to ruin my life and get pregnant. they keep saying negative stuff and i cant take it. yes im on birth control, and dont want to get pregnant until we both graduate and have good jobs and are stable etc :) . they just dont trust me to make my own right decisions and think ill be making bad ones which is not going to be it. its not going to be easy of course it will be hard but we can do it. He has his own house, but is taking care of his mom and brother/sister. theyre very nice and dont mind at all, his mom is willing to help us and she said we can stay until we graduate the program we will be attending and have money saved to get our own place. hes very family oriented :)

Question: How can I earn money?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 12:25 PM PDT

I'm only 15 and I don't go to school because ya know. Broke. My parents both don't have a job so we live under our grandma's house. And I REAALLLY DONT WANNA LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE. I wanna be able to do things i want and be normal. I'm also tired of depending on my uncle's money because he obviously hates us.

Question: Should an orphan care about her family who abandoned her?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 11:29 AM PDT

My parents divorced when I was a baby and sent me to an orphanage where I grew up in eastern Europe. They totally abandoned me and rarely came to visit. I didn t really have a relationship with them at all when I was growing up. I moved to the USA about 7 years ago and since then I ve been trying to reach out to them and reconnect with them. They are very poor and my husband and I are always sending them money and helping support them. I don t know what to do, I don t know why I feel obligated to help them and to try to reconnect with them when they didn t care about me at all when I was growing up. Part of me feels obligated, but I don t know if I should. It s starting to really stress me out, because they re always asking for money and they re always making me feel really depressed. I don t know if I should just forget about them and shut them out of my life the way they did to me or if I should care about them. Does anyone have any advice or have a similar situation they could share? I d appreciate any help. Thanks!

Question: My little brother keeps getting beat up at school age I don't knows what to do?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 11:02 AM PDT

He is 9 and I am in high school. Apparentaly there is a kid in his grade who keeps beating him up (like punching and kicking) and he isn't he only one. My brother has told teachers but they won't care and/or don't believe him. Because the kid always punches people when the teachers aren't watching. And apparentaly this kid punches and kicks a lot of people for no apparent reason. He's just your run of the mill bully. And my parents don't really care. I want to help him but I don't know how.

Question: Should I complain about my coworker getting away with everything?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:57 AM PDT

Our sister store closed, so we absorbed some of it's employees. Ever since, one of them has only showed up to her shift seven times in a two month period. she sometimes calls out but usually just doesn't show. They continue to put her on the schedule and she never shows up. I have to do her job on top of my own. I got in trouble for being five minutes late one day, what gives?

Question: My roommate purposely uses the kitchen when I do. What should I do?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:30 AM PDT

He literally comes out to cook his food as soon as he hears me starting my own food in the kitchen. I don't understand why he does this. He stays in his room for hours, not doing anything before I start cooking and as soon as he hears stuff simmering in the stove or dishes clinking, he comes out. It's extremely annoying because we have a small stove and kitchen and we end up playing an awkward "Twister" game in order to get around each other to the sink, stove, etc. Not to mention, the kitchen gets double as hot with both our selves in there and the extra burners he uses (to a point where I almost get heat stroke since we don't have a kitchen ac). Should I tell him to not do this or do I have to deal with it because he pays rent?

Question: Would you marry a person who drinks urine for fun?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:22 AM PDT

Question: My parents used me in their family feuds to get other relatives back as a kid. How do I overcome the trauma of this?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:17 AM PDT

I feel so bad about myself that I allowed this to happen but I was only a kid. I missed out on so much family time that I feel so sad and ashamed. How do I get over the trauma from this? What do I tell myself so I stop beating myself up for the abuse my parents did and so I can forgive my parents?

Question: My family exhausts me?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:16 AM PDT

I'm too tired to write a description please help

Question: I am scared of my aunt because she raged at me once when I was 12 five years ago. How do I stop being scared of her (she is otherwise nice)?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:15 AM PDT

I am 17 now.

Question: Tips on how to stay out of family drama?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:14 AM PDT

It's exhausting to deal with my family's constant hysteria over their own self-created drama. Plus the bad attitudes I get from people when I don't want to involve myself in the drama that doesn't involve me. Plus it's frustrating because basic chores like cleaning and cooking don't get done cuz everyone's being dramatic all the time. What can I do?

Question: My Mom is a racist. How do I avoid my friends noticing this?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:14 AM PDT

Question: My mom has an annoying voice, how do I cope with that?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 10:08 AM PDT

Question: How important is the father figure to a woman? Absence of father or an abusive dad, which one is worse?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 09:53 AM PDT

If a girl have an emotionally and physically abusive father when she grow up, can those damages ever get fixed?

Question: How to stop masturbating?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 09:40 AM PDT

This summer all I do is lay in bed and play with my private part and watch porn. I been texting this guy and we been going back and fourth. We talk dirty than I masturbate, all I do is think about is sex Sex SEx ..I watch porn I stare at naked pictures of girls, I'm also bisexual..this summer has been filled with sex..next month I'm getting my licence so I can hook up with my crush if I fail I'll just take the bus to meet up with him ..now I masturbate and get horny and excited please help how to stop? Btw I'm only 16 years old.. Just turned 16..how to stop doing it too much I'm addicted to sex?

Question: Will this affect me getting a car?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 09:28 AM PDT

I'm 19 and have a pretty well paying job for my age and my credit is almost where it needs to be to start thinking about getting a new car. I still live with my parents but I pay rent and they're currently looking to buy a house and want to put my income down and asked me to bring some pay stubs from work. I've worked my *** off to get the job I have and really wanted to treat myself to a newer nice car and also getting my credit to where it is now but my parents really want my help. Is this going to affect it? I'm reposting this to explain why they asked. My moms a bartender and actually makes really good money but on paper she doesn't make anything. She's already said nothing will be put in my name but it doesn't make sense to me why she needs any of my stuff if nothing's in my name.

Question: My 8 year old wants to live with me?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 09:26 AM PDT

Me and her mother split up 6 years ago and I only see her once a year in summertime and alternate Christmas. This year, she tells me she wants to live with me because her mom doesn't play with her and I take her everywhere and is closer to civilization and she says I spend more time with her than her mother. Is there a way to change the custody. By the way I live in Maine and her mom lives in Louisiana

Question: Does anyone elso know someone who just won't shut up?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 09:13 AM PDT

My mother-in-law drives me crazy. She just talks about herself and her life non stop. It's very hard to have a normal conversation with her because she will just find a way to use any topic you bring up as a platform to launch into one of the many stories which she's already told a hundred times. It's not age or dementia related either. My wife says that she's always been like this. It's as though she can't relate to anybody else so she just fills the conversation with stories and irrelevant commentary.

Question: I want to kill my stepmother?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 08:59 AM PDT

To make a long story short she's a hall of fame ****. I'll admit I've made a lot of mistakes and done a lot of stupid stuff in the past but I'm trying to change and it just seems like she's constantly trying to bring me down. She constantly disrespects and talks down to me in front of my father (who does absolutely nothing about it btw). She's also petty; for instance just recently she took the blanket off my bed and hid it in another room with no given explanation. One of the main reasons I'm so upset about it is because my father refuses to do anything about her and it makes me feel like he either doesn't really care like he says he does or he agrees with the things she's saying. Anyways, I've been having sleeping dreams and daydreams all week about killing her and it's the first thing on my mind when i wake up, i also constantly think about killing her throughout the day. Also every time after i do i feel a sense of relief before i snap back to reality. At this point I'm concerned for her safety not because i care wether she lives or dies but because I don't want to spend the rest of my life in jail for such a shitty person. I'm scared if I tell my dad he might kick me out. He says he has my back but constantly letting her disrespect me says otherwise to me. I know this place isn't necessarily an authority on life advice but I don't have anyone I can talk to about this and I feel like I could explode and kill her any second now and I wouldn't survive in jail. I'm 21 btw

Question: Mom is just being mean?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 06:11 AM PDT

My mom sometimes says things that really bother and hurt me. For a backstory, I'm pretty introverted (not shy) and enjoy my own company or people that I am really comfortable with. I have a 4.0 (unweighted) GPA and I am taking loads of AP/DE classes. I like watching TV shows and movies to unwind. Lastly, I like to sleep and take naps if needed. I don't get into trouble or do anything I shouldn't be doing. I don't disrespect people, especially by my mom but she continues to just bully me? A couple days ago my mom said "There's no point in being a good student if you don't talk to people. You might as well get a job at a supermarket for the rest of your life." That ******* (excuse my language) hurt. I'm planning on going into the medical field and have really high expectations of myself and that ruined my confidence. She believes just because I like to be quiet more often that not that I am useless as a person and will get nowhere in life. Then she goes on every goddamn day about my acne which I don't even have a lot of! I get maybe one pimple a month and everyone time she's like "You look like a tramp"/"You look like you don't care about yourself"/ "You look ugly". cont..

Question: How do i let my son feel comfortable around me after he confessed he was gay?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 05:16 AM PDT

I had no idea and yes I was surprised but gave him a good hug and told him i was proud of him for being able to share his feelings and that I was always proud of the man he had become. He's sixteen by the way and I'm not sure if he's in a relationship or not but he seems uneasy around me now. I made it clear this changes nothing especially my love for him. After that I went about my day as usual. Was I supposed to say more? I didn't want to make it a big deal because...its not. Sure it took alot to tell me but it's not like he committed a crime or wronged anyone

Question: How do I stop my parents from fighting ?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 05:06 AM PDT

I am 14 and have another older sibling who two years older than me. However the question is I wanna know how to stop my parents from fighting. :/ I am really very affected from all that happens and am finally fed up as I freeze and start to shake. And many other ways, as I had a really good academic score which I was keeping up from many years, but since 1 year it hasn't been any good now. :( It all started when my father married another woman, and brought her into our house, we didn't know this yet but after some days when my mother got to know it, he had my father leave the house but alright he came back divorcing that woman. Since than they started to argue, I really want to stop them. Any help would be appreciated. :D

Question: Mother buys high-priced food, ruins it yet complains about the cost: how to end the complaints?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 05:04 AM PDT

My mother, bless her heart, is a terrible cook; her food is inedible. She buys relative high-priced ingredients yet ruins everything, and makes such a big deal about how "expensive" what she bought was. She even bought "expensive" dog food and complained about the cost. Her net worth is well over $10 million; I pointed out that $4 for dog food is negligble, and she responded that can after can is expensive in the aggregate. Is there a polite way to say, "Shut up about the expense, or buy cheaper things, if you're going to put a guilt trip over us for your 'expensive' purchases"? Thanks. I don't live with my parents. I live halfway across the country. Mother calls constantly to complain about the expenses.

Question: My parents are going to visit their friends who gossip about the extended family with them. How do I avoid getting sucked into it?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 04:08 AM PDT

I am not going with them to see these toxic friends but I fear my Mom's siblings will think I was a part of it even if I deny it. I also fear these toxic friends will feed my parents more gossip to get my Mom more upset with her own family (her siblings). Lastly, I fear this friend will quote gossip to my Mom's family about me that makes them hate me as a distortion of whatever my Mom tells them. The husband of the couple is fine but the wife is toxic when it comes to gossip behavior as is my own mother. So they are buddies. The same woman knows my Mom's sister well. For example this friend told my Mom recently gossip her sister (my aunt) did about my Mom in 1998. So she is telling my Mom 19 years later. Obviously just stirring up trouble.

Question: Does this message indicate that he does not even view me as a friend now? 10 pts?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 03:54 AM PDT

there is this person I have chatted with online for quite a while now..we have never met as of yet but we are supposed to meet..anyway, i thought he already viewed me as a friend but I was talking to him today via email about how he said he already sees me as a friend and this was his response... ( I copied and pasted it below) " We will see. (I hope) I want to be friendly." am I wrong or does this message indicate that he does not even view me as a friend as of yet? it almost seems like he is saying that he is not sure if he even wants to be friends with me? is that what he is saying? thanks in advance for any thoughts on this.

Question: If my mom is always yelling, and telling to stfu, is that abuse?

Posted: 21 Jul 2017 01:43 AM PDT

Question: Who won the bet me or my dad?

Posted: 20 Jul 2017 03:16 PM PDT

I went to a festival with my dad a few weeks ago. While we were there, these two girls kept looking back at me. So my dad said "I'll bet you $150 that if you ask them if you can hang out with you, they'll say yes". So I said deal. I go up and ask them "Do you wanna hang out and walk around"? And they say "No sorry". I came back to my dad and told them what they said. He was surprised so he went over there and asked them "So you don't wanna hang out"? Numerous of times until eventually they say "Yes". Then they leave me then come back and say "Nevermind" because they realized there was a bet involved. PLEASE TOLD ME WHO WON!

Question: Anyone else find it really hard to get along with their own generation?

Posted: 20 Jul 2017 08:30 AM PDT

I can't stand my cousins. They're spoiled brats who think they know everything but have never ventured outside their little upper-middle class social bubble.

Question: Isn't men cheering on women gang activity? I mean they're 20 yr old thugs. The women probably are scared. I'm reporting this to police.?

Posted: 18 Jul 2017 08:04 PM PDT

My wife was disgusted! They filmed them kissing and posted it to their computer. We didn't scope the computer when buying it and ran across the video saved to some document place. My wife is disgusted at this and is mad at me for buying the computer. She thinks I'm either dumb and is now mad at me for seeing it. It's an old old comp but if I turn it in maybe the police will find them even thugh ears later. Women aren't slaves and objects. They shouldn't be cheered while kissing like they're animals. I meant years later. We bought he computer several yrs ago but you can see on documents it was loaded in November 2011. We bought it in 15

Question: When I asked a question about experiencing near death experience, a guy asked me to get married. He said it would be more than just 'near'?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 10:35 PM PDT

death experience. Is it true? Is Marriage a kind of death?

Question: What would you do or think if you was always neglected by your family.?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 09:02 PM PDT

I'm 27 now but up until today it still hurts, but i still can't hate my mom i love her, at 6 my mom left me and went to another country I was sexually assaulted by my dad, my mom never believed me, as if she ever did, my step father hated me i was like Cinderella but with out a fairy godmother or a prince, i was called so many names from my step dad, i slept outside in the dirt cause he didn't want me in his house, i couldn't eat but i had to clean and do everything only me not my sisters, every year i went to school with the same uniform, shoe, bag ec.. the only birthday i remember my mom was there is when i was 5 years old that was the best bday ever but after that i only got a cake waiting for me at home by myself yes my step dad put me out so my mom just rent a room for me to live alone at 12 years old, I managed by crying myself to sleep every night she loves my sisters so much but why does she hate me so much, is it because i'm the shorter or the darkest or the most ugly one out of my sisters not only she my dad hates me my grandma hates me my entire family hates me. i feel jealous when i see people with there family happy or when my mom treats my little sister like a princess i know i'm all grown up now but these things still hurts, she never once told me she loves me or she's sorry that hurts even more. Is it really me.

Question: Ever get heated this much and just breakdown?!?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 08:48 PM PDT

This moment I was chilling in the living room with the nephew and niece, and my sister and brother. I forgot what happened but it was dumb, My mom began saying stuff like i'm evil, but she's acting like this infront these little kids. I couldn't stand it, I just wanted to relax and the tension was high. So heated that I got up and punched a small cabinet glass door, my brother and sister were trying to help me but I yelled back at them what they are doing is not really helping me, it's too late that I've been inflicted this much pain, my legs collapse, I can remember my crying, I was crying in a way that made my siblings worry, my sister went after my mom to talk and my brother was saddened to me, telling me he doesn't want to see me this way. my nephew and niece are scared of what's happening. This was the moment I was most hurt, didn't talk to mom for a over a week. Having her presence was changing into new presence. Eventually things cool down but another moment happens. I was told on by my sister for some stupid reason, My mom didn't have to go after me but she was at my door yelling and I was so triggered that I hurt her elbow with a pushed door slam. She started saying all this stuff that i'm crazy, how can her and my dad produce a thing like me, she wants me away, she wished she was dead, she was saying how much she doesn't understand me and as much as she thinks she's trying to help, she really isn't helping.

Question: I miss my sister even though I can still talk to her.?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 08:26 PM PDT

I recently spent a week over at my sister s house. I got back three days ago. Ever since I got back I ve been crying about her. I can t stop thinking about her either. The weirdest thing is I can talk to her everyday so why do I miss her? I think it s weird because I cry for hours at a time. It also comes and goes. Is this normal? Has any body else felt this way?

Question: Hi i would like to know if you have had any bad neighbors and how you delt with them?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 08:23 PM PDT

Hi i would like to know if you have had any bad neighbors and if so how you delt with it or got them to move i currently have a neighbor that would make most of the neighbors from "my neighbor from hell" seem peacful and nice for resons that i dont wanna tell im not going to say what he did i would just like to say i have tried talking for the past 12 years and it only got worse i have tried tallking to the police but they cant do anything cause i dont have any video proof

Question: How do I respond when my cousin tells me how horrible her parents were to her in a way that shows compassion but does not contribute gossip?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 08:22 PM PDT

My cousin comes from a dysfunctional part of my Mom's family. She shares how terrible her parents, mainly her mother, are. I don't want to say things that add gossip (add fuel to the fire) or sound like I am taking sides. At the same time I don't want to act cold as this cousin is more the victim in the feud she has with her parents then the perpetrator.

Question: How should i tell my dad that i feel he doesn't prioritize me or my little sister but only his girlfriend?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 07:51 PM PDT

My dad doesn t want to pay for anything. He has a girlfriend that is 10 years younger than him and i saw that they had sexted when they were only dating for 2 months. When i asked he blamed me for the situation. Now his girlfriend has gotten an apartment with 2 bedrooms a year later. Her son lives their when he comes back from college but my dad stays there too. My sister and i dont have a bedroom because m dad doesn t want to pay for another bedroom for his own daughters. We spend the night there constantly though sleeping on the floor. My mom has asked why they never got a 3 bedroom but he just ignores her. Then he said instead of just staying there once in a while we will stay there every week night we are with him (2-3). We are literally living out of suitcases over their and i feel like my dad hasn t put as one of the most the important things to use his money on. He never helps my mom pay my piano or my little sisters golf. He helps with nothing. I feel like crying just thinking about the situation. How should i tell my dad about my feelings? I just feel so stressed out that if i tell him i will break the peace. Help please

Question: How to get comfortable around his family?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 06:33 PM PDT

so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now and im a very shy and nervous person so when i go to his house he lives with his dad grandma grandpa and his 18 year old brother and his 11 year old sister when im at his house i feel really awkward he always tells me stories about how his grandparents are really mean to him and im pretty sure his dad dosent like me he just always ignores me and never says hi sometimes we go out in the living room with his family and its all quiet and its very awkward for me his sister will sometimes say hi to me and his grandma will usally say hi but i've never talked to his grandpa and sometimes my boyfriend will leave me in the kitchen while he cleans real quick and his family's there and its quiet and its just awkward again anyways does anyone have any tips on how to get more comfortable around his family it would really help thanks!

Question: Why do parents act like they love their children equally?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 06:30 PM PDT

Question: My brother's first girlfriend's dad hates him and demands they break up? What advice can I give him?

Posted: 17 Jul 2017 06:28 PM PDT

My brother got his first girlfriend recently and a few days ago, he met her dad. Her dad took an immediate disliking towards him, not sure why. Anyway, today her dad visited him at his work (he works at a nearby wallgreens) and demanded they break up. My brother tried to explain he has no intention of breaking his daughter's heart but her dad didn't wanna hear it. He gave my brother 3 days to dump him or he's not going to be so nice. What advice can I give him? I know he isn't going to be physical because from what I've heard, her dad is a cop. He isn't her first boyfriend either. Should I give him advice or stay out of it? I think I'd rather stay out in case I make things worse but the thought of someone blantly demanding him to break up with her with no reason (never gave him one) makes me kind of sad because I've dealt with it too.