Growing up as a kid, I have several older brothers who had kids young and than we all started developing different habits. I don't have any children so I obviously do not get invited to certain places which kinda offends me. During family parties, I am often skipped by my nephews and they do not say hi to me. Everything is just terrible and I feel left out. Do you feel this way?

I am a 19 year old teenage boy and my mom told me to unload the dishwasher without giving her any lip before I go to work and I accidentally broke the dishwasher and my parents said I did it intentionally. I so f**king hate them right now. I feel like I don't even know them anymore. I am worried I'm going to lose my job and I kinda wished my grandpa was here and I wanted to call him but they won't let me. Can you tell me what is wrong with them?

Hi there... looking for some advice on a family issue. I have never been one to root through my mom's closet, but since I went away for college, my younger sister has gone in claimed several articles of clothing that are my mom's (my mom is still alive, by the way). One shirt in particular is one I've always loved that she wore when I was a very young kid and I always loved looking at the pattern. It's hand-embroidered and upon coming home from school I found that my sister had claimed it and gotten paint on it and throws it on the floor of her room, etc. It's something I would have liked to keep and something I would like to be taken better care of. I'm upset that she just took it out of my mother's closet and decided it's hers now without taking me into account or the sentimental value it has to me. Is there any way I can address this with my sister (or perhaps, even my mom, who never actually gives her these things)? I assume my sister just took it because it looks hipster-y and vintage to her. She isn't very sentimental about objects or clothing like I am. I want her to understand that there are pieces that belong to our mom that I value and that I don't want her just taking and trashing when we're both so young and I'm not home. Any advice would be helpful. I know not everyone cares about this sort of thing, but it really gets to me.

When I wake up in the mornings I usually want to drink a glass of water and read something or watch a YouTube video that is truly my routine. However, sometimes my parents force me to eat at the family table and I have to eat when I am not hungry. I also have to eat things I don't like. I also have to answer questions I don't want to answer. I have to go places I don't want to go for example go to an uncle house just to watch people get drunk. I want to do other type of things. My door gets knocked on so hard they won't let me focus on my business. Basically I can't relax and study. Why is this ?

I have a friend that is practically forced to take care of her two little siblings ( ones three and ones five). She will have to cancel plans with me just to feed and play with her siblings, while her parents play video games and go out to eat. For example, we just made plans for her to stay over, but her mom made her ask us if her little siblings could come over. We can t take care of her kids for her so we had to politely decline, and right after we were told she couldn t stay over anymore, because there was no one to watch the child at home. There s rarely a time I will see the parents take care of the children themselves. They also own around 6 pets, in which they stack the cages of top of each other and their feces end up falling all over the floor and ontop of the other animals. The dogs half the time are eating plastic and moldy food off the floor because the kids were never taught to clean after themselves and the parents will leave it there for days before cleaning it up. They have toys and dirty clothes stacked ontop of one another over every piece of furniture, every bed and every closet. The furniture all has gross food logged in it as well. I also almost never see the animals get cared for besides giving them food and water. My friend always complains about all of it, and has even cried over the fact that she has to take care of her siblings. Her mom knew she wanted more kids, but apparently only because she wanted her older kids to take care of them for her.

If you grew up without a mother for whatever reason, how was it like for you emotionally? What are the effects of growing up without a mother?

I really want one but it'll be awkward to ask, and out of the blue. I know sinus are huge responsibilities and commitments but I think I'm up for it. What if my parents don't believe so? What if they say no? I'm super anxious. Please help.

I really hate my brother...He never lets me use the Xbox my dad bought for MY birthday, he gets everything tooken away from me and he always lies saying i hit him my parents alwayts pick him over everything!! (no he is not the youngest) One day they told me to stay home with my other little brother (yes im the oldest) so she can go to the store...when she comes back she bought my brother this $50 toy gun when i been working my butt off to get something for $30...but he did NOTHING to earn it and i got screwed with a lolipop and never got the thing i wanted :( PLS HELP

Hello, I m 22 Back in February my mother passed away from heart failure, we were living in a shared house in Jersey, we werent in the best living situation but it was alright. When my mother passed away I had nowhere to stay, my family doesnt talk with each other and I cant rely on them, I ve reached out to my family, but no one is helping me. My boyfriend (whom I m only dating because he said "if you won t date me, I won t stick around" and I didnt want to lose him from my life so I started dating him) offered to have me live with him and his mother in NY. I ve been living here with them for 6 months now, I dislike the environment, I m not doing well mentally, these people I m with are very passive aggressive, put and put me down constantly, I m prone to anxiety, I havent found work, I want to move out and be independent. Recently I wanted to apply for benefits and food stamps just so I can support myself and buy food, but they were against it saying that they know whats better for me (theyre not exactly doing too well themselves) his mother is the sole provider and he is 25 and still in school, i want to get out and be more independent, but right now I feel stuck. Is there any way I can apply for benefits or anything else so I can start supporting myself and get out of this toxic situation. I lost my mother, I m all alone, no one can really support me, I want to escape, someone please help me find the resources I can use to live on my own please, I hate where I am in life

When my brother was little my parents always pleased him in everything. He had different phases for example he had a phase where he was into rock and my parents had to buy him equipments and ext...I've always noticed that my brother had some kid of anger issues because whenever he wouldn't get his way he would like over react on everything and lock himself in his room scream shout it was over exaggerated. As my brother got older at around age 16 my parents got it divorce and things started getting worse he would want to be locked in his room he would isolate himself from everyone he wouldn't want to talk to no one. My parents would each blame each other for his actions and none of them would give him consequences for the wrong things he does they would just reward him with things because no one wanted to be the bad parent. Now my brother is 22 years old he has a drinking and drug problem... he is a completely different person he constantly lies and ask everyone in our family for money... He lives at home with my mother and honestly I know that they spoiled him when he was young but I feel so bad and I don't think she deserves the way he is treating her because he verbally abuses her. Since he is an adult there is nothing much that can be done because he needs to make decisions for himself and my mother can't physically take him to a center by force no one can but himself. I kind of just want it to express myself to see if someone can relate to what we are going through.

I needed it for some projects around the house, but then I forgot to return it. He texted me a few times and I said I would drop it off, but didn't . Today he shows up at 7:00 am and bangs on the door demanding I return it. I thought this was quite rude. Right?

I was bored and created an instagram with a picture of my car as my main pic and my profile is private btw, Now stop right there if you know my car then you forsure know it's me. As i was adding everyone i was debating to add my ex or not. I decided not too, but still checked out her videos etc lol. What happens next? i got a friend request from her but i did neither deny or approve i instead ignored both options and kept it there alone. 3 days later i got message from her saying is this who i think it is?.. Her: Is this who i think it is? Me: ugh guess? Her: Eddy? Me: Yes how you been? Her: Good and you? Me: Good too and i saw you and your bro (bs i only said this so it won't look like i was stalking i bet her ig let her know who viewed her videos etc this is how she knew). Her: By where? Me: The beach and hey would you and your bro would like to get drinks say by my hood? Her: No i got my own place now Me: Ok well hey glad your doing good, Take care. Your bro was so small and now he's huge. Her: Yeah he's huge he play's football too After i didn't message back since i took this as i got denied for a date. All my friends are saying she might of hinted for me wanting to come over but i don't think so. MY friends also said she wanted to keep talking but that i ended it too early. Overall what are your thoughts?

So my mom abd dad are both surgeons so they have tgese little fake glass and plastic hearts laying around. So i was running through the house and when i went up stairs i knocked over one of my parents glass hearts anf it broke because it fell on the hardwood not the carpet so J told my parents it wasnt my fault ans that i didn't knock over myself but my dad spanked me for so isnt that like overreacting plus I'm 12 so a little old for a spanking the problem is he was just mad I mean he can just buy a new fake heart he doesn't have to get so upset because it is one thing for him to tell me not to do that and not run through the house but why would he spank me I am like small so hurt more with him because ny mom used to punish me back when i got in trouble more but like isnt it overreacting to punish me like that just for breaking something and plus having my dad punish me because if it is to be like have the son be punished by dad rather than mom they havent done that til now.

my mom says I love you all the time and I never say it back. I think it's weird and because she says it so much I find it ingenuine.. when we think of I love you, most if the time it's supposed to be your girlfriend or lover saying it to you.. so I'm 30 so why is my mom saying it to me all the time? she says it every time she calls me or drops me off somewhere.. her boyfriend doesn't say it to his daughters every time he sees them or calls them so its like she expects me to say it back but I feel like no one else does this and its very weird.. also I feel like other parents actually care about how their kids lives are developing as independent people whereas my mom is just stalking me and smothering me while not really caring that my life sucks and is not developing independently.. like she's not helping me grow as a person she just wants to call me all the time and spend a lot of time with me even tho I believe she was very psychologically and emotionally abusive to me and still is.. but she's always saying I love you..

My mom has been with my stepdad since I was 3. He always had temper issues, and sexually harassed me as a child whenever my mother was at work. He made me shower with the door open to stare at me. He forced me to wear extremely short dresses and sometimes shirts and no pants when I was little (I thought it was a weird fashion thing at first), but he would do it to grope me a lot and look up my dress/shirt. When I told him to stop because the touching was uncomfortable or asked him why he was doing it would react aggressively and that scared me even more, or just remain silent which was also scary. I ran to hide in the bathroom when he tried to escalate it further to "have fun" and I have scars from resisting sometimes. This was all very disturbing for me. My mom didn't believe me when I eventually told her (I was too afraid of what would happen to me if I told her) and she grounded me for "lying". My dad doesn't know and if I told him he would immediately take him to court, but I would most likely lose due to the lack of evidence. I never got therapy and can't for this reason. Now I have temper issues and I'm just rarely happy. His voice makes me feel sick, and he mocks me for avoiding him. I graduated high school but dorming is too expensive, I can't leave. I don't know how long I can stay here without being driven to suicide. I have very few friends and the ones I do have already knew this situation for years, but they don't know what to do.

My brother is now nearly 38. He has been married for a good 10-12 years now, I think. He met his now-wife sometime around the time when she and her ex-husband had divorced and had a newborn baby. My brother started living with her around that time and basically adopted the stepson as his own. Present-day, things are really messed-up in the family. The stepson is 14 or 15 now. My brother with his wife and he is 6. The ex-husband has custody of the stepson Monday-Friday because my brother's wife couldn't financially take care of the son that they had when my brother met her. She's pushing 40 and has literally worked about 6 months in her life from what we can tell. Her father/mother as she calls them are her aunt/uncle that raised her. Her dad died in a car crash when she was extremely young (possible DUI, because they keep so hush-hush about it) and her mother lives in another city about 60 miles away from them. She doesn't seem to have anything to do with her mom. My brother is an Air Traffic Controller, so he's making a good $8K per month after taxes, if not more now. About 8 months ago, my mother got a collection call regarding his wife for a car loan. I got one for my brother regarding a car loan and she said she needed to talk to him that day. They both have newer cars. He "got her one because he needed one" is basically what happened. She was born with a silver spoon in her mouth and had everything handed to her in life by the rich uncle. The rich uncle has a fancy management job with the FAA/Airline and helped my brother by telling him how to become an ATC. He drove to Oklahoma for 4 months (from Georgia) and stayed there for training. During that time, myself (brother) and his mother helped him financially pay their bills. His wife stayed at home with their kids. After he got the job, he just became a real POS. Stopped calling. His wife has turned him against his family. He acts like my mother didn't want him to get the job and tries to lord it all over her. In his late teen years, he went to college and flunked out, but kept going over to the college hanging out after that. Some nights he wouldn't come home from work at all and must have spent the night with said former roommate guy at the college or something. He got weird. He was fighting with our mother constantly, saying that she "didn't trust him"...but he was a liar, having sex with people, etc. He doesn't want anything to do with family, basically. She hasn't seen her grandkid in 1.5 years. We went to his house one time after he didn't answer the phone for 3 months. His wife texted him that she "felt interrogated" by us showing up to see what was going on. His wife, in the same way, has cut off family and friends who told her to get a job and help him with the bills. She played the half-college game and didn't finish. Then she wanted to be a gym coach. Just a bunch of nonsense. Her ex-husband spends a ton of time at my brother's house. For holidays, when he would come over and we were visiting, my brother's wife would put on skimpy clothes and just sit in front of him for 2-3 hours cutting up while my brother was running around prepping food and such. I don't understand how he changed so quickly. He used to stand up for himself, but he now feels that they "shouldn't fight over ex's" and therefore is okay with that guy in his house. He even pays him to do stuff for him.

My daughter thought she was fat (she is a bit overweight but not much) and i found out she had been starving herself this week. What do I do to help her? Shes 12 years old. Around 5 foot. 120 pounds if that helps.

My son doesn't wake up in The morning to go to work, he's supposed to go to work with his dad every weekend morning to learn electrical but we have to bang on his door all the time , and my husband is tired of this, what can I tell my son to get his lazy butt going? He doesn't work during the week or go to school till next year when he starts college.

So my mum and dad are already having financial difficulties and on top of that they want to go to our country it's so Anoying now they tell me to control what I buy and save it's not fair it's not like I want to go anyway ??? I may sound like a moaning annoying kid but I'm not I'm actually thinking about it financially! It feels like they are going to meet family that's all they care about it's like they like them more than me they just annoy the crap out of me !!!! My mom said just because u hate them dosent mean we do !

My girls are 10 and 6 and Their mother is always very busy and I help my daughters dressed and washes her body and washes her hair or whatever he has to do.. I see no problem with it but what age should top? Your thoughts please. thanks well my 6 year daughter wets the bed sometimes and we wash her to help in the middle of the night she is beginning to bathe herself but it is like once a week

My parents have always been so harsh on me. They are foreign while I was born in America and consider myself American. They just haze me to parent me and say some messed up ****. They bring up my weak points and just use it in an argument. For example I got into a fistfight and I got punched so the very next day me and my mom get in an argument and she brought up How I got punched in the face. My parents don t try to understand me. They never talk to me only to tell me what to do yelling it most of the time. I remember getting accepted into my dream college I was so excited I like hugged my dad he just pushed me off didn t care. They put me through so much **** I try to be a happy person all the time and they are honestly my main reason I m not. I hate it. I used to go to a counselor and he told me there s nothing that can really be done and that I should try moving out. They just try to control me and either give me"advice" which is them expecting me to listen to exactly what they say or they tell me to do something for them. It s bullshit I can t take it anymore I can t stand that my parents can t just try to do stuff I like or joke with me. They just don t care enough and I don t know what to do anymore I m so depressed cause of the horrible things they say to me

I started working full-time as soon as I turned 18. My brother was also working full-time then, and I ve always had a good relationship with him, so it seemed natural to share an apartment together and split the rent. Not even a year into moving in, he loses his job. I figure it s fine, I m earning enough to support both until he gets a new job. He never f*cking did. It s been 3 years now and all my talking to him hasn t worked. He just ends up moping like a little b*tch and saying stuff like "I need more time!" I ve tried being civil, I tried to make him understand, I m 22 and I don t feel comfortable dating guys or inviting friends over because of him. I want to start living my own f*cking life, not pay for him. All he does is play TF2 (games) every single day. I m listening to him slamming at his keyboard now as I m trying to sleep and it s pissing me off. I feel so apathetic like I have zero control over my own life. It seems like someone else is ALWAYS making my decisions for me and forcing me to go along. I just want to live my own life. I ve told him this and he has zero regard for it, he won t even look for a job. Just glances at job postings for 20 minutes or something then calls it a day. I ve tried talking to my dad but my dad has zero interest in "taking him back" for obvious reasons (he lives with his girlfriend and earns less than me right now). (C)

Her mother is my aunt so I want her to like me. Yet my aunt resents her own daughter and wants everyone else to resent her the way she does. Not sure if she hates her but she resents her. My cousin had stopped eating and was suicidal so I helped him out. Yet it meant giving him money as he lost a job. So what do I do if my aunt flips on me for being nice to her son and helping him with money? I am 18 years older so have more resources.

I like them both but they are both acting like that are 8 years old. They are sisters.

How would I ever explain that my Dad is a woman?

So my mom abd dad are both surgeons so they have tgese little fake glass and plastic hearts laying around. So i was running through the house and when i went up stairs i knocked over one of my parents glass hearts anf it broke because it fell on the hardwood not the carpet so J told my parents it wasnt my fault ans that i didn't knock over myself but my dad spanked me for so isnt that like overreacting plus I'm 12 so a little old for a spanking the problem is he was just mad I mean he can just buy a new fake heart he doesn't have to get so upset because it is one thing for him to tell me not to do that and not run through the house but why would he spank me I am like small so hurt more with him because ny mom used to punish me back when i got in trouble more but like isnt it overreacting to punish me like that just for breaking something and plus having my dad punish me because if it is to be like have the son be punished by dad rather than mom they havent done that til now.

And no, it's not hypocritical when men do it for the same reason that women prefer tall men even though they are short. Men and women are different so have different standards. Because i love them and want to spend my time with them? i won't love them for the same reason that women won't love short men. Biological instincts

Im 15 i live in a decent home 3 bedrooms i get all the clothes i want more than probs 1000$ for sure i got like 14 pairs of adidas pants and like 10 pink sweaters and more like 12 boxes of clothes i have my own car already its a 2016 hyundai and live with my grandma shes pretty rich shr has like 13 bank account more than 10 thousand in each but my mom is like broke asf shr has like 8 thousand only my grandma is like my mother am i only rich or poor alot of people tell me im broke

My mom just got remarried and my now stepdad is a total ********. His name actually is Dick, by the way. And it's not just because he married my mom. He was our youth leader at church before he ever started seeing my mom, and I hated him way back then. He's full of himself and always condescending and totally impatient and mean. So, I just moved in with my dad in New Orleans. Things haven't been going well. I haven't lived with him since I was seven. I'm 17 now. Things have been awkward and he's been mean, too. Here's what happened. I need money because my dad won't give me any, not that I even asked, so I went out looking for a job. The day I got here from Michigan, I went out four days in a row all day filling out applications. like 50 at least. My dad lives in the French Quarter, so there are lots of places to apply. Well, I was getting no interest. Like, when I got my first job at Wendy's, my only job, I had only applied three places. Anyway, I got a call from this gift shop in one of the nicest hotels in the French Quarter to come in for an interview, so I knew I needed to look extra nice. But when I moved down here, I forgot my dress shoes. Well, I got the call to come in that same afternoon while my dad was at work, and he said to never call him at work unless it's an absolute emergency, so I borrowed a pair of his dress shoes out of his closet without asking, but my friends and my brother, we borrow each other's clothes all the time without asking. Anyway, I got back from the interview with good news--I got the job! When I walked in and told my dad all excited, he looked down at my feet and went apeshit. He said it was "disgusting" that I was wearing his shoes, like I contaminated them or something. Well, this morning, I was getting dressed and noticed the shoes not in his closet where I had put them after his rant with shoe trees in. And when I walked out into the living room, he wasn't wearing them. So I asked him what happened to them. He said he threw them away!!! He said that he couldn't wear them after I had worn them. The thing is, I still need shoes for this job! I told him he could have at least let me have them. He said he wasn't going to reward my misbehavior. Like, WTF?! It just made me feel so inferior and rotten and totally unloved and ashamed. I'm so upset right now.

I'm 18 and just getting out of the Army due to an injury. I'm back at my mom's place with my little brother and sister and life has been hell. She's recently moved her new boyfriend in and things have been hell. Me and her argue alot and things got so bad today I left and she started texting me accusing me of things that I didn't do and she let me know she saw my porn on my phone. Like what business of that is hers? I pay my own bill. So like I got sick of her bothering me so I sent her a meme saying to leave me the **** alone. Well her boyfriend saw the message and called me out of my in a text. I've never disrespected this man a day in my life. It pissed me off so bad I called him and we got into it talking hostile to each other. Now I can't freaking come home now because I know we'll get into a fight because I'm not going to take his ****. I don't know why the hell she said the porn in my phone is illegal. I'm not into the pedo ****. But afterwards he got the phone calling me out my name. I wanna kill his ***. So bad I checked myself into a mental hospital so I won't act out my thoughts.

Since I went through puberty, my dad started making really inappropriate disrespectful sexual remarks about any woman he sees on tv but he would do it even more if I would be sitting with him? I was quite young and I never took a stand against it but I remember I used to feel so bad ( sometimes even angry why I was born a girl). Gentlemen,is this normal to do ( specially in front of your young daughter) if yes or even if not, what was my dad's purpose of this?

I'm a 15 year old girl, and my parents don't let me go anywhere without adult supervision, whether it's the mall or my friend's place. Not even a restaurant. Yesterday, they grounded me and did not let me go to my friend's place because my mom had a dilemma to why does my friend own two houses and live there. I was already pretty fed up, so I said that we own two houses as well. Then she grounded me because of my apparently "rude" behaviour? Then from 12:30-2:30 I was made to listen to a lecture about all the mistakes I ever made in my life. I'm not allowed to have any guy friends. My mom started doubting my character and calling me corrupt. She even told me to commit suicide, because it would be better than dying from her hands. My dad started going on and on about how I'm going to be a failure in life, because I can't make up my mind about my career, and the fact that I don't study, even though it's my summer vacations. My mom started screaming at me, because I wrote a story and uploaded it, instead of studying or doing her work. And by doing her work, I mean making her planners, since she's a teacher. My parents keep on telling me how much they did for me, and I'm ungrateful and a parasite. In the morning, my parents confiscated my phone and started reading my texts. Since I cancelled last minute on my friend, I told her that my dad's aunt had died and that we had to go to a funeral. So my parents read that and started screaming at me about lying. They threatened to hit me

Every time I post on my Snapchat "movie night anyone?" This one guys always messages me "meee, i dooo" of course he lives in another state so we joke like that, but why does he do that every time ?

my family was playing a card game and my dad was watching a movie on his phone with his headphones in and i yelled for him to play because it was his turn, but then he ask which card was just put down and i was like "hmm idk maybe you shouldve been paying attention" and he got all pissed and was like "if you dont want to play, dont play" like dude if you wanted to play, you wouldve been paying attention

Hello. I'm about to get into 8 grade pretty soon, and i'm afraid. You see i'm pretty dumb. And it's because i always miss a lot of days of school. Because i get sick easily. Then when i get back to school i don't understand anything. It had been this way since i was in kindergarten. The only reason why i'm never put behind is because i have a iep. But now i might not even get it because they don't think i need it, so therefore no help for me. Even then i never ask for help or asking for a recap, i'm normally too embarrassed and don't want everyone to think i'm dumb, they still think this way anyways. I don't know how to do division, it takes me awhile to solve long term problems that everyone else can do right on the spot. Not just math but stuff like geography, science etc. Mostly anything 5th grade and up i don't get. I have no idea how i'll catch up in time for 8th. I want to do good so i can get into a good collage. So far i probably look like a dummy. I can't even do spanish, and i've been doing it for maybe 2 years now. Any way i can catch up on stuff i missed and don't get?

Ever since the birth of our kids (twins) my husband checked out of our marriage. He is now my ex husband because elf this. He loves his kids but has little interest in raising them in a daily basis and is focused on his work and his own interests. Now that we are divorced he only sees his kids once or twice a week (they are 7 years old now) and takes them to dinner or lunch for a couple of hours then drops them back home. He has never had any interest in doing any of the parenting or raising. My ex husband grew up in a wealthy household and his parents divorced while he was in high school. His parents were wealthy and they lived in a million dollar home but also fought a lot. My ex husband is also addicted to porn, video games and fast food. Is this normal? Is he a good father? Why is he like this?

My boyfriends (soon to be husband) mother is also his boss. He works at the company she is a head director at even though he has little experience in that field. Not only does he work for his mother but she calls him 6-12 times a day , sometimes late at night. My boyfriend has a 6 year old son from his previous marriage and his mother is always spoiling him to the point where its made it very hard on me when I try to parent and set rules with his son. His mother also still buys my boyfriend groceries and clothes, takes him out to lunch and dinner and pays,e tc. Is his mother too involved in his life?

My niece is 9 years old. She's EXTREMELY manipulative, sneaky, and honestly she kind of scares me. She's very jealous of my other niece, to the point of being borderline obsessed with her. She can play you like a fiddle without you even noticing, and she knows she can do it and how. Tonight I got up to pee and her and her older brother (10) were arguing. He said she tried to choke him while he was sleeping. When i asked her about it, she didn't even try to deny it, only said "yeah, because he was laughing at me." She had no remorse for her actions, at all. Her brother also informed me that she was being very rough with my cat, and was slinging it by the throat. What do I do.? No one else was around when this happened, and she can make anyone believe shes an angel, so I'm afraid no one will believe me or my nephew.

Her friend invited her to a Bat Mitzvah party - her family is Jewish and they celebrate religious events when their children are 12 or 13. The thing is, our family isn't Jewish but her schoolmate's family is very religious. I don't know much about these milestone parties that occur when children reach a certain age in certain cultures. E.g sweet 16th, 18th debuts, quinceañeras, etc. All I know about this event is that Jewish girls throw these parties when they turn 12, and are supposed to read the bible aloud to everyone. There will be food and cake, plus a bunch of things that pre-teens would typically like.

I'm 20. Most of this stuff falls on my dad. When I was little I used to play baseball and my dad was very invested in trying to make me the best. This resulted in me getting hit with baseballs and in general hurt because he would get so frustrated if I didn't swing right or missed a ball etc. it was absolute hell for me. My parents always fought and all of this has resulted in me becoming a very dysfunctional person. I have no friends because I don't make the effort and when I do I push people away. I stutter bad and am selectively mute. I'm pretty much an unhappy, miserable college guy when I should be in the happiest period of my life. Anyway, now I'm 20 and things are still bad. My dad has become very controlling. Has a tracker on my phone, wants my door always open, and yells at me for seemingly minor things. I'm financially dependent on my parents and don't have a car so I feel like I'm imprisoned. Basically, I hate my life. My dad is sometimes nice to me and I know he cares about me but he's caused me more harm than good. I'm just too scared to talk to him about it because I'm worried it'll start a fight. I just want things to be better so I'm happier. That's all. My dad is not a bad person but he had a bad upbringing and I fear he doesn't realize all the damage he's done. I mean half the time I can't even tell a person my own name. I think it's anxiety but it never goes away. Can someone please give me some advice?

Should she be shamed or made to feel not good enough? Or should they feel proud when we live in a society that looks down upon this type of work?

OK something happened and I have been feeling numb/heavy ever since. So there is a lot of tension between me and my parents and a month ago or so something happened and I ended up absorbing some negative energy from my dad. I know it sounds odd but I am battling with some bottled up emotions and when I am not careful or don't get up and leave a stressful situation I end up absorbing negative energy from someone I have tensions with already and that is what happened. And since then I have been feeling numb/heavy at home or whenever I get stressed out at home by my parents. So I want to sit down and talk to my dad in the presence of my mom and explain what happened and how I ended up absorbing negative energy from him cuz he did something that day against me that might have caused it but I just wana mention that and everything. But there is tension between us and they put me on a form and I was taken to hospital a few weeks ago against my will and was in the psych ward for more than 2 weeks and I am back home and wana have this talk but I don't know if I should have this talk now or after I confront them about putting me in the hospital against my will and the other time too and other stuff. Should I talk about this or confront them about involuntary hospitlization and other stuff first? Btw I am a male living with my parents. The reason I feel I can't talk with them is because I feel they won't take me seriously or lecture me instead or get mad at me or convey their disrespect through lecturing or other unrelated stuff etc. So that is why I said should I confront them about other stuff first and then have the talk. Btw if I am not careful and not leave a stressful situation I can end up absorbing negative energy from someone I already have tensions with or someone in general or anyone. Yeah it sucks. I am working on it. I have to talk to my parents first and the rest I have to talk to someone else and I talked about some of it at the hospital but I don't know if I will find the same type of situation or people who are willing to listen to me and have the effect as it had in the hospital. I forgot to mention I already talked to my mom. But since I feel I absorbed the negative energy from my dad I feel I have to talk to him too in the presence of my mom. Or is that weird since I already talked to my mom. But I feel that way since it is my dad I absorbed the negative energy from and I feel numb/heavy from his presence in a way so I feel I have to talk to him in the presence of my mom. I am not sure but that is my feeling/thought process.

My mom and step dad were arguing over something that isn t worth arguing over. I was in my room ignoring them and enjoying my own sanctuary of peace when they call me down. They both start raising their voices at me about the whole argument trying to use me to prove their point when neither of them mattered because no point was needed to begin with. I listened to them, yelling at me for a while until I yelled back. "There s no point to prove! I m sick of hearing you two argue in my room!" I feel bad raising my voice against my mom. Should I apologize?

My cousins (that I live with) just got their own phones. I have my own phone that's better than theirs. One of them are 7 years younger and the other is 5 years younger than me. I am a teenager. I don't know why this makes me upset and a bit mad.

How do I break free of this toxic behavior of hers when I know she will be furious I am not joining her in her anger at whoever the person is. It is usually her siblings or her father though her father died last March. Also her step-mother she is angry 24/7 at and gets mad I am good to her (the step-mother of my Mom's). It is alienation of affection and I hear of it happening in divorces but my Mom is not divorced, she is doing it against extended family rather then our Dad as she is happily married to him. My Mom is otherwise a good person but her bitterness costs me time with family when I was a kid so now as a rising high school senior I want to break free of this. My Mom's sister does the exact same thing to her three kids and even worse since the sister is divorced and so does it against their Dad.

I know he is not my responsibilty but it is awkward. I thought next weekend when we have the reunion (he is hosting) I might find a way to divert the topic. Any ideas? He might not mean to do it. The secrets are things like personality disorder issues his first wife who died at 43 had or how his grandson hallucinates. Things that should be private or for the person suffering to share only. He also insults my grandfather's manners to me with my grandfather right there though my grandfather now has Alzheimers so might or might not notice.

My ex step mother told me this over text after fussing at me about me not studying. Afterwards she said " great now good night, love you " She's never told me this before, so I don't know if she really meant that in a casual way or in a literal way. Your thoughts? Non romantic obviously.

His wife could use to be more supportive of relapse prevention but she is also an alcoholic though she denies it and is not as severe as he was.

Their door was open so I walked in and it was daytime.

So, I've got this cousin. He is 21. I remember this going on since he was 13. When he was 13 he had the biggest crush on this 8 year old female. She is now 17 so it's not as weird now, but he doesn't like her anymore he stopped when she was 13(he told me, I didn't ask). On social media(instagram) he is constantly following people. They are all 11 and under(their pages say their age). I don't spy on my cousin no, but since I have him on social media I see who he follows and what he comments. He is commented on this 11 year old's pages saying "you're so cute (:." And a few years ago when he was 17 he "dated" a 12 year old. My cousin has aspergers and I do not know if that makes him weird like this. Or if something is truly wrong with him? Should i bring it up and ask why he is this way?

My cousins (that I live with) just got their own phones. I have my own phone that's better than theirs. One of them are 7 years younger and the other is 5 years younger than me. I am a teenager. I don't know why this makes me upset and a bit mad.

So me and my mom got into an argument and I told her that all her and my sister do is ***** and complain. She told me not to talk to her anymore. I said to her if my sister had Said the same thing to u,you would still worship the ground she walks. She told me it seems like I'm jealous of my sister. And I said no why would I be jealous. And she said it just seems like I am. What am I to make of this. Is it evident she likes my sister better. Maybe it's because she's better looking. Maybe hats why she thinks I'm jelous. I rlly just don't understand my mom.

im a high school student that does adderall & cocaine occasionally. i do them because for a little while i forget all the pain im feeling and how shitty life is. my sister is on meth and when she was still in my life we hung around people who did it & sold it so i know almost everyone in town now where i can get stuff within 10 minutes. im still in high school though and dont know what to do. my parents wont let me drop out because theyve always wanted me & my sister to finish high school & continue onto college but that isn't happening. the "drug life" in my city is do what you need to do during the day & hang out with the other users all night long but i cant do that due to school. what can i do? please dont tell me to get sober

Here's what happened.. we're teaching my dog how to walk with a leash on. We're starting with just waking him down the driveway. But we were just standing there talking so i asked "w.. what're we doing?" Then my mom told me GO INSODE AND PUT YOU'RE IPAD ON MY DESK!, like what'd I do wrong? #overreactmuch