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- Question: Why is she luckier than I am?
- Question: What should i do, if i know my friend (exbestfriend/Roomate) has my phone but denies it?
- Question: How can I make friends throughout my whole life I never had a single real friend outside of my family?
- Question: Is this a stupid reason to be mad? And who is in the wrong here?
- Question: Should I delete them? Please help?
- Question: How should I have defused this awkward situation?
- Question: How do I get over being so self conscious in public?
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- Question: How do I tell a friend I don't want to be friends with them?
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- Question: I'm really hurt by this whole situation -?
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- Question: Could it have been a sick hoax?
- Question: As a person with pretty bad trust issues, how do I tell someone I love them?
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| Question: Cutting off high school friendships after graduation? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 05:10 PM PDT I graduated two months ago and so many people who were my "best friends" in high school immediately stopped talking to me after graduation. I mean, I guess I knew it was going to happen eventually, but I didn't realize it was going to be such a sudden thing. I'm definitely excited to go to college and meet a whole new group of people. I understand that everyone's busy and focusing on making new friends. But I would still like to keep in contact with my old high school friends, so I can have people I can hang out with and reminisce with over breaks. I also just hate cutting people out of my life, period. I would rather add to my existing list of friends than throw away the list and make a whole new one, if that makes sense. anyway, my old high school friends with the exception of a few have made no effort to contact me, ask me how I am or if I want to hang out this summer. I would like to see them before I move away for school in three weeks, but I don't want to seem desperate by asking them to hang out when they haven't seemed interested in me. what should I do? I don't understand how you can spend every day for four years with the same people, and then completely forget/not care about them. |
| Question: Why is she luckier than I am? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 05:08 PM PDT I am 19 years old, and I know this girl of the same age who seems to reach her goals way faster than I do (sometimes I never even achieve them), here's what I mean by that: 1. I have been wanting to go to Europe since I was 14. I've been begging to my family to take me, but they have always said it's too expensive. As of today, I still haven't been there. This girl started wanting to go to England when she was 17. She talked to her parents about it, and she got to go there when she was 18. 2. She and I are both fans of a show called "The Loud House" (I'm sure most of you have heard/know about this show). She got to meet the creator (Chris Savino) TWICE! Once at a book fair, and another time at a book signing event. I also badly want to meet him (I didn't know about these events), but he doesn't seem to be making any upcoming appearances in Southern California (which is where I live) anytime soon. Also, she became friends with him on social media, but whenever I try to message or add him as a friend on social media, he ignores my requests/messages! I don't get why this girl is getting it all, but I'm getting it none! We're very similar people! Can someone explain to me what is going on? Am I doing anything wrong? What should I do? I feel like my life is rigged... It's more like "envy." (there's a difference between "jealousy" and "envy.") @Edna I don't think so, but I know that's opinion-based. @jimanddottaylor "2 things like this does not make her any luckier than you." Ironically, you stated "she decided to be born in a more affluent family." Nobody decides what type of family they are born in, it is pure luck. |
| Question: What should i do, if i know my friend (exbestfriend/Roomate) has my phone but denies it? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 05:07 PM PDT Okay honestly, there were a LOT of small things that led up to being bad. Long story short i made the decision to move out, after he tried to tell me i dont know how to take care of my dog, and that my dog cant stay their because HIS name is on the lease. So i said thats fine, and moved out within the next week (tried to anyway) and he ******* changed the locks on the door so i couldnt get half of my stuff. Finally i had to go over with a deputy and get my stuff ( He demands i pay the rent for the month even though i only stayed 4 days. I gave him 200 and hes demanding another 458) Well he moved my remaining stuff to a closet downstairs. I have everything but 2 things. My phone, and phone charger. which I know where i left and my friend who helped me move, saw me leave it there. I have triple checked EVERY bag i brought into my new place. I have completely cleaned out my Vehicle. I have tried to confront him with the question and he just denies knowing where i put it. Claiming not to have it. So besides me just ignoring it and moving on, because i do have a lot of memories and things on this phone that i would like back. How would you guys handle this scenario? If he returns my phone i dont mind paying him, which i told him before but he still denies it. |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 05:05 PM PDT The people I think I can call a friend either hit me, call me names, or aren t really around me much I am a shy 15 year old and don t talk that much because of my low self esteem I feel like people don t wanna see my ugly face ever so I don t like talking to ppl so they don t have to |
| Question: Is this a stupid reason to be mad? And who is in the wrong here? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:53 PM PDT My best friend and I have recently been kinda upset with each other. Here's the story. So my friend has this really cool fox tail and I've always wanted one so she told me where she got it and it was at some sort of yearly festival. So this year when she went she got me a fox tail so she texted me a picture of which one I wanted and I chose one. I told her thank you and all that and everything because I was really hoping to use it for a costume this year. In past years, the tails have ALWAYS been $15 so I thought that was a fair price since they take 6 hours to make. My friend never told me how much they costed so I assumed they were the same price because she would've told me if it changed. After she bought it, I texted her the next day asking how much it was and suddenly the price is $30!!! If I knew that beforehand I would've NEVER bought a TAIL for that much money! We recently had a garage sale too and that's half the money I just made! She said if I don't pay her back like I said then she said she's keeping it. I agreed to pay back $15 not $30! I'll still buy the tail because I'll feel guilty if I don't, but my mom is really mad at me and said that's insane for a stupid tail. So my question is... Who is at fault here? And I'm 99% sure she is mad at me, don't you think that's a dumb reason to be mad? Over a FOX TAIL? And one more thing... We've been friends for 8 years now and we've never really gotten mad at each other unless it was for 5 minutes over something dumb. The only time we've ever gotten mad at each other over something SENSIBLE is when I almost broke my neck on her trampoline by almost falling off and I told her I was going to because the netting wasn't attached right. |
| Question: Should I delete them? Please help? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:47 PM PDT My two best friends have grown closer & closer for the last couple of months. I use to be as close to one of them like they are as close to each other now & it really sucks to watch. They are always hanging out, posting about each other on social media, texing,etc. & I dont hear from either of them at all. No invites, texts, calls, nothing. I miss them and have had more than 5 conversations with them about how it makes me feel & hurts my feelings. They have apologized & it seemed sincere & things seem fine for a day & then no talking. Now i havent talked or seen either of them in a month. When we all were still very close & talking they wanted to go to a festival & I declined due to the price, which was totally my call. The thing is the festival is this weekend & they are driving to it & all im seeing on social media is their pics of it. I really feel like things will never be the same between the 3 of us & im always going to feel like the odd one out even when we do hang out. I feel like im catching up on life every time I see them & then its just awkward because i hardly laugh or understand their conversations. I dont feel happy really when im around them & as much as I try to act goofy like before with them, I cant. I know they will both see if I delete them from social media & some social media doesnt let you hide peoples posts, but I dont want to see them always having fun when im not apart of that anymore. Should I delete them or what else should I |
| Question: How should I have defused this awkward situation? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:46 PM PDT So this happened during lunch. At my school there isn't many lunch tables so all the tables get taken easily so most students are eating standing up. So when the bell rings my friends and I run as fast as we can to get in the lunch line first, and well we did it and we got a really good table, it was a round table but it was only me and two other friends so there was still room for two other people (no one really sits in a table with people they don't know).. so I was surprised that two of the hottest girls in my school sat at our table, it was so random. We are like 3 of the most socially awkward students at the school, one of my friends wouldn't stop smiling, and the other wouldn't stop giggling. I was avoiding eye contact like if they weren't even there so I tried to defuse the situation by saying "why are u laughing" to my friend and he said "because they keep staring at u and u won't even look at them" there's when I turn to look at them for the first time and they finally broke silence. One of them said "wow you guys act like you never seen a girl" the other said "do you guys even have friends that are girls"..we all laughed nervously and they finished eating, got up and left.. |
| Question: How do I get over being so self conscious in public? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:46 PM PDT I get stared at a lot when I go out in public. I know it's not just my imagination, because my family and friends have commented on it when they go out with me. It's gotten to the point where I experience a lot of anxiety about going out in public, especially by myself. I feel like I'm treated differently and noticed more than other people. I'll change my outfit or redo my makeup five times before I leave the house. I know I'll be getting stares, so I feel like I have to look absolutely perfect all the time Sometimes I feel like I'm getting stared at because I'm ugly or because I'm pretty, I can't decide. I don't have a lot of natural beauty so I spend a lot of money on the latest clothes, makeup, or getting hair, nails, eyebrows, eyelashes done, etc. I've been stopped on the street by people telling me I'm pretty and I've also been made fun of for my appearance if even the slightest thing is wrong with my makeup., I try not to be too conspicuous but somehow I always get noticed. I'm 18 if that helps. And I'm smaller than the average person at 5'3 and 95 pounds, if that has something to do with it. But I'm not unhealthy looking. |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:28 PM PDT So basically my mom and dad are making me go to my football practice everyday thats in the afternoon that are 3 hours to miss precious time with my best friend that is coming to Florida from kansas to see me and i want to know how i can convince them to let me stay with my friend instead of going to a worthless football practice |
| Question: Friends in tanzania? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:11 PM PDT |
| Question: I have a friend that is kinda my best friend but kinda not? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:04 PM PDT We've been friends for awhile, but it feels like I can't be completely honest with her. Whenever I try to say something about it, she's always on her phone or not paying attention to me. And to be honest we're not exactly on the same wavelength. She tries to understand me and I know she's making that conscious effort to...but I don't think she gets me at all. What should I do? |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 03:34 PM PDT So I used to live in myrtle beach , South Carolina and I live in Florida now . My bestfriend ( she's been my bestfriend for 4 years ) is 13 , like me , and we are very mature for our age - surprisingly . My mom let me take my old bestfriend to Tennessee which is father for like two weeks , and she has cancer and I no longer have contact with her . My current bestfriend , has a peanut allergy . If she eats peanuts she will die . So my mom wants to take me and my brother , and I really wanna take my bestfriend and my mom loves my bestfriend just she's scared something's gonna happen while we are in South Carolina . Even my bestfriends mom is okay with it, I don't know how to persuade her :/ |
| Question: How do people do it? How do they enjoy their lives? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 03:34 PM PDT What is the difference between the people who spend their lives fighting off depression, sadness, and pain to the people who legitimately enjoy their lives and have fun? What do they do differently? |
| Question: How do I tell a friend I don't want to be friends with them? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:57 PM PDT I've known him for years, but I never really liked him. How do I do this? |
| Question: Should I delete my friends? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:45 PM PDT My two best friends have grown closer & closer for the last couple of months. I use to be as close to one of them like they are as close to each other now & it really sucks to watch. They are always hanging out, posting about each other on social media, texing,etc. & I dont hear from either of them at all. No invites, texts, calls, nothing. I miss them and have had more than 5 conversations with them about how it makes me feel & hurts my feelings. They have apologized & it seemed sincere & things seem fine for a day & then no talking. Now i havent talked or seen either of them in a month. When we all were still very close & talking they wanted to go to a festival & I declined due to the price, which was totally my call. The thing is the festival is this weekend & they are driving to it & all im seeing is it on social media is their pics of it. I really feel like things will never be the same between the 3 of us & im always going to feel like the odd one out even when we do hang out. I feel like im catching up on life every time I see them & then its just awkward because i hardly laugh or understand their conversations. I dont feel happy really when im around them a& as much as I try to act goofy like before with them, I cant. I know they will both see if I delete them from social media & some social media doesnt let you hide peoples posts, but I dont want to see them always having fun when im not apart of that anymore. Should I delete them or what else should I do? |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:32 PM PDT Start of junior year in high school, a group of my friends and I went to a fair in Arkansas. Cost modestly to get in and ride rollercoasters. Not worth going unless you went with the right group of friends. Mostly teens go but a lot of families go too and security everywhere. Fights/shenaniganery almost never happen. We eat under the gazebo of a chicken sandwich joint, having the best time. Then we see this dude in line. Spiked blonde hair, wore a cross, white Aerop. shirt, looking kind of like a young jumped up Rob Dyrdek. No older than 16. In our conversation, we're all focused on each other, we're a circle, recollecting funny stories from school. In a sudden, we all fix to this blonde kid in line for no reason. We all glance. Back turned to us completely, he darts back to my Asian friend, Lucas. My sister there snorts of laughter. We all look away in a snap. He noticed. He takes his food/drink and walks away peacefully. We feel bad and know we should have acknowledged that we didn't mean anything. Minutes later he returns with his dad, mom, and lil bro. All are swearing and threatening to fight us except for Mom. She just told us we shouldn't bully her son. He spills his drink over himself. Manager of kiosk comes out, says he's going to call security. Kid's dad says, "Call f***ing security!" Tells us all to s**k his d**k. Then they all run away. We did nothing. We were too engrossed in the moment, and were told later this family were gypsies. Never saw them again. |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:27 PM PDT Am I very ungly? |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:09 PM PDT Please help i wanna make friends with out getting crushes helpppp |
| Question: How to be normal around guys? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 12:40 PM PDT |
| Question: How to win friends and influence people? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 12:31 PM PDT |
| Question: I'm really hurt by this whole situation -? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 12:11 PM PDT ok so from my point of view, I go to a crap school. I know it's summer but I feel like I have no friends. everyone always goes out without me, everyone talks **** about me, everyone just lies and lies. I had a best friend but he just started ignoring me out of the blue. if I ask someone a question they say "cause I can" "why does it matter" "how" "what" "why are you asking that". i'm never invited to anything and it's starting to hurt. usually I wouldn't care but it's starting to happen a lot. theres this girl who I was absolutely enemies with 2 years ago and she sortve invited me to this friend circle after I asked her why she hates me so much and we worked things out. i'm now in this friend circle but those girls just snap each other and have stupid nicknames and just say dumb things and just don't even talk to me. I feel so used. in march a boy who I was best friends with started to develop a crush on me, my other best friend really messed that up by asking if he still likes me and asking him a ton of questions about me. in may that boy and I got into a huge fight because of her and he ended up hurting me emotionally. I don't really think anyone cares about me. I'm not going to move schools because if I do then people will just talk about me. I don't know. I didn't really do anything wrong. I'm just never invited to anything unless it's on a group chat, i'm constantly talked about, i'm an outsider and i'm going through a rough time. |
| Question: I feel like i have no friends? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 12:00 PM PDT ok so people always say i m popular and stuff but in reality I feel like no one like me. I always text people first, I always talk to people first, no one rlly talks to me. I never get invited to anything if unless it s on a group chat. i m in a friend circle with about 4-5 people and this girl who I would call "the leader" likes to talks ****. one day basically half of our grade went out without me and I said "you guys never invite me to anything" and left all the group chats. the girl I guess had an upset look when she was out and they all asked her what s wrong and she told them that I was upset that they didn t invite me and they all started saying how I start drama and how i m ridiculous and etc etc. i m going back to school September 1st and i m really scared. btw this whole non inviting thing happened before school ended..... |
| Question: Could it have been a sick hoax? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 11:59 AM PDT I'm not trying to hate or anything but a girl claimed,well her friend I should say, family beat her into a coma, and her friend was posting or what if she dies etc and pictures of herself(The friend). Few weeks later she's suddenly back and OK and online. Wondering how the friend had her phone in the first place. Half the people say it was a hoax and strange all the post and how she suddenly is back and those who believe it are gulliable. Others who did believe it called those who didn't haters or assholes. Me myself I find it strange I kinda don't believe it. The said girl who was supposedly in a coma used to post suicidal things or that her parents are abusive. I believed her family was probably like that though, but I'm not sure if she's trying to play mind games. I'm hoping she's not because a lot of people got worked up over it. |
| Question: As a person with pretty bad trust issues, how do I tell someone I love them? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 11:57 AM PDT So I have pretty bad trust issues and I try give my everything to people but I always hold back and lately that s been effecting my closest best friend who I ve known for 3 years now. We are super close and know most things about each other I haven t told him many of my "secrets" as to say like previous mental health issues and stuff like that even though he is well aware of my trust problems and anxiety. But lately he s been convinced I don t love him. (Obv a friend way) and I really do love him but I find the words extremely hard to say and I always have. I don t toss the word around and it takes me a lot of effort to say it. But I really want to say it to him. I send him stickers etc of I love you but it s not enough. SOMEONE PLEZ HELP |
| Question: My whole class hates me? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 11:18 AM PDT Im in a class full of unintelligent and irrational people who just think about attention,we were considered the best class before our 8th grade where everything turned different,they were mad at me,In my school there is a president in the class who is suppost to discipline them,and they're mad at me because I write them down but I still don't tell the teacher so they dont get suspended and I tell them the same thing,theyre mad at me because my mom comes to school often because of problems and they overexhadurate how i "fight" them when all i do is just joke around,nothing tremendous,literaly my mom came to school because some kid ran into me and pushed me and i fell and couldn't go to P.E for 2 weeks,and then they grab me and push me on the ground,I still didnt tell the teacher because I dont want them to get suspended because they're friends,I stopped caring about them but after the year passed,I'm on summer break currently,I was walking down with a friend and he stopped by with them,they just silently giggled at me and it felt extremely uncomfortable,I'm not smaller than them,infact I am bigger than them and stronger,I'm scared what will my 9th grade look like,will I have any friends? You can't argue with them,as they will just argue back with you and make fun of you until you get tired & give up,you can argue with them for hours but to no avail, they have a bigger audience,im born in an unintelligent boring & unintelligent country.And Idk how will my high school look like. |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 10:59 AM PDT I've started distancing myself from one of my old acquaintances from school because he was asking me a bunch of annoying questions, he was also asking me for opinions on certain things that was bothering him and relied on me for answers and wisdom and I've just kept on giving him the silent treatment. Then he asks me if there was something he can do to be a better friend so people will stop treating him like a lesser person, he also told me he'll do anything to be a better friend to others and wants to improve himself in hopes of getting other people to like him, nonetheless I've blocked that jerk on Facebook. THEN a month later he sees me on a photo with a mutual friend of ours and this is what he posted on the photo. "Nice photo, sure miss having her on Facebook, she was a really nice, fun girl to be around, the world will be a better place if more people were as kind, happy and joyful as her" This was according to what my friend told me but IMO he's just saying that so he can get back on my good side which is not gonna happen because he's a moron and an idiot with a learning disability! |
| Question: Real advice please!!? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 10:19 AM PDT Last year I was in high school I made new friends and my old friends didn't like that so they didn't like me and my two new friends.....so they bullied us and said rumors about us and my friend got into a fight with one of them. So it's summer time now and I moved across from the school and my new best friend said she not going to that school no more and she keeps on saying that and I'm going back to the school and we moved away from each other. People change and smoke blunts and changed during the summer time and i don't do any of that stuff I am a keep to myself kind of person so I go back to the school no friends nobody likes me for some reason and I'm going be lonely how do I deal with this what should I do because im not doing no sports or anything btw I'm 15 can I get some real advice thanks. |
| Question: Should I go back to stagecoach drama summer club? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 09:40 AM PDT For this week my mum booked my brother and I on a stagecoach drama summer workshop. However, I am crying now because of how horrible my day was ther. When we got there, there were 91 students and 5 teachers. One group had 2 teachers and 12 students (including my brother) the other group had the remaining 79 students with 1 or 2 teacher coz some were always having a break. Due to this, we spent most of the one doing nothing. And we were shouted at about 50 times the whole day to be quite as everyone would stop talking. Also, all of the parts with lines were given to the people in the group of 12. And to get into the group of 12 you had to sing a solo at the beginning which I did not do as at that time I didn't know that it would give you a good acting part as most of you acting parts do not involve singing. So now I just have oa do som dancing in the background with all the people who are about 13 and younger, whereas, I am 16. Please help me, should I go back? Coz I don't want to waste the money my mum payed ( she is not forcing me to go back as she has seen me crying). Also my brother doesn't want to go alone. But I had a really awful day and I am crying about it now coz I just feel like I wasted my first full day of being 16 (it was by bday yesterday) and I really don't want to go back but also don't want to waste money. Sorry for it being so long, but please help! |
| Question: My best friend chose other friends over me? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:53 AM PDT I've known my friend for several years and until a year ago we had been going to the same school. But we both changed schools and no longer go to the same one. We both made new friends in our new schools but we still texted with eachother and hung out sometimes. The thing is that this summer we were going to a festival for a week which I thought would be a good time to hang out more since we hadn't done so a lot lately. It turns out that some of his new friends were going to the same festival and I ended up becoming less important to hang out with than the others. So he would walk with them and while I was welcome to join them it just didn't feel good. He basically just did stuff with them and I was left to follow them around or go off on my own. I actually asked him about it and he apologized and said that he needed those friends to feel good since he has some mantal problems. I can understand his reasoning but I've known him longer than any of the others have and I don't understand why I'm not making him feel better. We've been through a lot and I've know about his mental health for a long time. I just thought that we'd finally have some time to do something fun together but instead I got left out. I just don't know what to do now. |
| Question: Drama in nursing school? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 08:29 AM PDT I start nursing school in 20 days and I made the mistake of becoming friends with some of the students before the program even starts. Only 40 people in the group to begin with and now there is already drama.. BEFORE THE PROGRAM HAS EVEN STARTED. I befriended one student who she and I quickly hit it off.. She gossips a lot and I have gotten to the point where I just ignore it and change the topic.. she does not like that at all. but I have to say, she is an amazing friend outside of the drama department. All things considered, she is a really good friend. I made friends with another girl but not as close as the one I just explained. This girl told me that she sees me as a very close friend and cant wait to go through the program with me. This girl is really sketchy though and I really feel like she is trying to start drama between people. She told me that she trusts me and that she considers me her only close friend in the state (bc she moved here) but that she just doesnt trust the girl I hang out with.(my friend I explained) I told my friend what this girl said about not trusting her (thinking the discussion would be open since she is always gossiping about this girl) and she completely flipped out. She now wants me to ignore the girl continue or else I make her feel like she cant trust ME bc I associate with someone who says that she is untrustworthy. Now my friend is mad at me bc I told her I would still be this girls acquaintance.. advice on how to handle this? |
| Question: Does this mean anytingv?????? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:42 AM PDT So this doctor asked me out and I told him I was sick and this is what he did 1 we are supposed to meet later the week Oh really, well I hope it passes soon. I'm gonna go to bed though. Try to get some rest, worst case scenario we move our meeting to tomorrow and I can check you out. On the house 😉 Mean anything ? |
| Question: I told my roommates I won't give them rides is that mean? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:37 AM PDT My boyfriend's friends told me they wanted to stay at mine and my bfs house. I told them they needed to pay rent by the first of ever month and I told them I am not giving them rides and that they cannot borrow the car. I do not want to be responsible for giving people rides I work full time and am already busy what do you think? |
| Question: I have nothing to do over the summer? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:10 AM PDT Im an upcoming freshman for college soon and I really have nothing to do for the next month or so. I m not working until the school year starts and some of my friends/classmates are either working or on vacation. I just went to camp recently and occasionally I make plans to hang out with someone. Also, I do go outside and explore my neighborhood or do exercises and play sports. But right now until September 3rd, I really have nothing to do. And I cant afford to be on vacation trips. |
| Question: I have no confidence to communicate with strangers, way to get out of uncomfortable zone? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 07:08 AM PDT So I joined an company last week. Everything was new n still new. I'd like to adapt at this environment very soon so people don't think me as a weird, speechless and unfriendly person. But the problem is I can't get any closer?? I tried to talk more but seemed like our interests are different. I'm not talkative anymore at office,as the way I am at home. I feel like I'm different person that people don't like, or don't want to close to. Please suggest me how can I get close to my co-workers and form a fun-working place very soon..' |
| Question: Does anyone ever look up an old friend? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:53 AM PDT |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:31 AM PDT My brother has a big house and for some reason it has gotten to become the epicenter for meetings and gathering among my family and our friends. Especially now over the summer they have had bbq:s, gatherings, parties, guys night, something almost every weekend. My parents go there often and they have their own room and they play with the kids. I just feel like I am not in that position. When my parents or my brother comes to visit me and my wife they usually stay an hour or two and then go home. I wanted to know what was going on, why I am not a part of it all like he is, why he is not inviting me to his guys nights and things like that. He said: "First off I need you to know that you are my brother and I will always be there for you when you need me. Thick or thin. But the matter at hand is why you don't have friends and why our parents don't like to hang out with you as much as me. I will be brutally honest. The fact is that you and your wife are cold, distant,uninviting and kind of boring. Whenever people go there, be it our friends or our family, they feel unwelcome. I don't invite you any longer because I get the sense you don't want to be there. Me and guys joke around, complain about our wives and you look like you can't wait to go home. There you have it". At the moment it was harsh. I know that I will never be the life off the party but my own parents dread coming to me by the looks of it. I don't know what to do? |
| Question: Afraid to post on instagram? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:20 AM PDT So im 17 and im afraid to post o instagram. I just think i wont get any likes or get very little. I have around 120 followers but i see some accounts with a lot more followers and they dont get many likes. I know that there are many bigger problems than this, but i just want to rebuild my confidence and this is my first milestone... Any help is appreaciated :) |
| Question: My friend poisoned my brother I have no evidence help what to fo? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:12 AM PDT |
| Question: How can I deal with being so sensitive? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:12 AM PDT I have a hard time at work. I constantly replay past hurtful comments from co workers to the point of me getting stiff and I have to go for a walk to loosen up my back. Examples of hurtful comments were when I joked around about being a white girl (I know, sorry for the race talk here) when I'm actually Hispanic. I joked around because I acclimated quickly to this country and my hispanic friends and family call me a white girl. It's innocent, it's just because I dress differently from them and love country music and etc. Anyway, the point is, that all 3 lunch friends at work would laugh except this one, she looked at as I was laughing with a serious face and said, "You wannabe white girl." I was hurt. Another time, this coworker was standing in line to get coffee in our kitchen. She was after me, and then that lunch friend stepped in and put her mug down. So I said, "Rosemarie was here first." The lunch friend said in a loud voice, "I'm not getting coffee! I'm just getting a spoon for my tea. You're starting a fight where there isn't one." And I said nothing. Then she repeated herself as she walked away for everyone to hear. "You're starting a fight where there is no need for one!" She said it in a "geez Louise!" tone. There are more incidents. I just don't believe it. People can get away with anything and say they were "joking." But either way, someone said I was just sensitive. So then, what, do I let these things just slide and convince myself everything is cool? How?? |
| Posted: 31 Jul 2017 06:03 AM PDT Okay so i wouldnt exactly say needy is the word but i cant think of another.. anyway we met in 6th grade from one of my other friends we've been friends for only about 1 year? Shes kinda embarrassing not to be rude or anything.. she says shes "depressed" and talks about sex, masturbating etc.. and i kinda just stand there awkward.. she acts crazy and says "I smoked alot of weed" She just jokes around alot.. i can never hang out with anybody else without her butting in.. the last thing i can really think of is she comes over alot.. like sleepovers? She doesnt have internet at her apartment or data.. so she just uses my phone which kinda annoys me for some reason like thats the only reason she comes over.. and i dont want to be rude so i let her.. she runs around the house calling people "hoes" and cussing alot.. which my parents do not favor once i told her to calm down and not to be so loud (it was 2:00 at night) and she got mad and called me a snarky *****. I love having her as a friend but shes so immature and hard to handle.. how can i tell her to chill without making her upset? |
| Question: I feel so stupid for trying now? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:58 AM PDT I've been talking to a guy for a few months now from college. Long story short, since we've been home for summer, we've sort of drifted apart. Everything was much different when we were at school and 5 minutes away from one another. We live an hour away and both work full time jobs. Whenever we do talk, the conversations go great and you can tell were both interested. Same thing goes for when we see eachother in person. There's clearly chemistry and attraction. Anyway, after not talking for a week, I reached out to him about plans we had made in the beginning of summer. Since summer is almost over, I asked when he was free so we could plan a day to do it. This was last night.. I haven't gotten a response. I feel so stupid for even trying. We're "friends" so I don't see what was so wrong about me reaching out. How do I feel better about this situation? I overthink everything and it took me forever to even gets the guts to ask and now I feel like crap. He has never done this and he's not your typical jerk, so I'm just lost. |
| Question: You often get angry with your friends? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 04:54 AM PDT |
| Question: I feel like no one really wants to be my friend or i cant find quality people to be with? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 03:06 AM PDT im in my 30s and moved to a new city 4 years ago and ive tried everything i can to make friends. I got back in school, joined groups, reached out to people but i cant seem to make any friends. Im looking for quality people who have some depth and not superficial relationships. I reached out to a relative who has been wanting to get together but she said she was too busy with kids and couldnt meet 3 months later. I reached out to a girl i met at a group who sent me an email and said to call her if i wanna grab a coffee and she cant meet until a month later. Another girl from a group i joined came up to me and wanted to share contact information and told me she wanted to stay in touch. When i texted her, she never replied back. What a heck is going on? I feel like people just wanna do things on their own time weather its convenient for me or not. It makes me feel invisible. At this point, im getting angry and just wanna push everyone away because i think im too nice. Why cant i find the right group of people? |
| Question: I lied about where I live to my friend's. 'If' I do invite them over, what do I say? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 02:22 AM PDT I lied about where I live to my friends. My grandma has a nice house that is around 8 minutes from my house. Whenever my friend's parent's drop me off at "my house", they're actually dropping me off at my grandma's house. I am too scared to give them my actual address because my house is not nice looking on the outside and our grass is very long and it's very old and it looks abandoned. If they did drop me off at my actual house they would judge me.They always say "oooh your house is nice!" "awh your house is so cute" etc. to my grandma's house, so this makes me more scared to tell them where I really live because they have high expectations. I want to invite my friend's over to my real house because I can't make excuses for why they can't come inside anymore. How do I explain all the times I said they were dropping me off at my house, but they were really dropping me off at my grandma's house? That I lied about where I live. Also how do I make my house less embarrassing? There are 2 draws that have fallen off in my kitchen, my bathroom has a draw that has fallen off, my bathroom sink is rusted, etc. I am scared enough to invite them to my actual house, but now I will also have to tell them I lied about it as well. Please help! |
| Question: Why doesn't anybody like me? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 01:40 AM PDT Like all my "friends" hang out with each other everyday but when I ask if we can hang out and have a nice time somewhere they just say "sorry I'm busy, maybe next time" when later I see them posting on social media with friends at their houses and at the beach. I didn't even do anything I just hate this. Literally I'm so sad because of this and I have social anxiety :( |
| Question: How to make friends in college? Am I screwed at this point? Posted: 31 Jul 2017 12:19 AM PDT I am about to start my second year of college and my social life is basically in the toilet. In the beginning of college, I made a good number of friends, but for whatever reason, most of them came and went and I'm not really friends with them anymore. I also had a roommate that I was friends with but he left the college in the middle of the school year. So after awhile, I ended up going home almost every weekend due to not finding anything to do and people to hang out with. On top of that, most of my high school friends have moved on with their lives and don't really talk to me anymore. Sure, there are people at the college that I talk to and get along with, but there aren't really that many people that I'm actually close friends with or that I can actually do stuff together with. Now that this is year two, I'm not sure that I can make anymore close friends. It's not like college is just starting and nobody knows each other. It seems like most people already have their established group of friends and aren't looking to meet new people. |
| Question: I feel like no one likes me ? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 11:15 PM PDT How do I be this person who gets along with everyone ? Why do I always seem to give off this vibe where I'm a total loser or negative ? :p like people will meet my sister and always like her more and say I'm the quiet and weird one. It's like I've been misunderstood like no one wants to e even be my friend ? I always give off this vibe where I'm just not fun to talk to even when I try to be. I can't help that I'm just so damn awkward. Okay I know it's not a big deal & I somehow shouldn't care, but I really do care! |
| Question: How to make friends? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 11:10 PM PDT Weird question and I know everyone has their own way of connecting with people. Anyways, I have social anxiety. I ve had the same 3-4 friends since Kindergarten. In August, I ll be a sophomore in high school and just thinking about it makes me anxious. Last year, my little group of friends got lucky and we all had classes together. But for some reason, i have a really bad feeling about this year. (Fun fact: no, I did not make any friends last year, I kept the same friends I had because I was too awkward to initiate a conversation and I m so dang weird that people kinda avoided me). I have a fear of being alone, and I ve just been in pieces, honestly. I don t think we ll have many classes together, since now we re all going our own ways and discovering what we want to do with our lives. We all have different career paths, unfortunately. How can I make new friends? Or, is it impossible for me to make friends due to my weird antics and interests? |
| Question: Cutting ties with people and how to deal with money? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 10:57 PM PDT Ok, I m going to try to make this short. When cutting people out of your life and they have paid for some things and you have done the same for them. You have also hosted dinner parties. Are you supposed to try to estimate all of the cumulative difference in what you owe them? Or, do you just pay back what you have said you them like a movie ticket? What s the best way to do it without you ending the association and them feeling like they gave more than you? |
| Question: My parents lie a lot? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 10:33 PM PDT My parents lie a lot but not generally in a malicious way its more of a if it fits their needs they say it. I can remember this going back into my childhood and it affected my teen years in a negative way. Its almost as if they believe their lies and when I confront them about it they get angry what should i do? |
| Question: Should I still be friends with this guy? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 10:03 PM PDT I consider him my best friend but he calls me and says sorry I dial wrong number. then he says are you jerking. I rarely hangout with any one who isn't my family member I consider him my best friend but he calls me and says sorry I dial wrong number. then he says are you jerking. I told him no I'm busy doing something . I rarely hangout with any one who isn't my family member |
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| Question: I am 20 and my friend just revealed to me that she is 13? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 09:02 PM PDT She felt as though our online friend group wouldn t be as honest with her if she was honest about her age. Of course our friend group screws around a lot and makes... obscene jokes, but I didn t think she would be so young. She acts and looks very mature, but I m worried that the things we say could get us into trouble. I d also like to say that our relationship with this girl is NOT sexual in any way. We simply have the same interests and enjoy chatting together. I don t want any of us to get into trouble. However I d like to continue chatting with her, she s very sweet. I probably sound immature... |
| Question: Is this okay to do guy to guy? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 08:28 PM PDT A few of my guy friends are coming to the same university as I am. I'm sure they don't share the same feelings, but I'm thankful for having them as friends. I want to begin doing little things for them, just to show them that I value our friendship. Some of these things are putting a sticky note on their door room saying, "Happy Birthday" or by sliding a Happy Birthday card below their door, go visit them in their dorm every once in a while and bring them treats, bake them something, and/or asking them to come shopping with me. Will my friends get weirded out by this? Will they think I'm hitting on them? (Not that it matters but I'm gay [pretty sure they don't know] and they are straight) |
| Question: Are they just jealous? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 08:10 PM PDT I am finally starting to love my curly hair, my big brown eyes, my tan skin, and my hourglass shape... But whenever i say something like "I look good for once" my friends either point out one of my flaws or make fun of my "valley girl voice" :( |
| Question: Do you guys think my parents were right in doing this? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 07:48 PM PDT Okay so two days ago i went to this party and i got drunk. when i got home my mom opened the door and smelled alcohol on me and realized i had been drinking. i had told her i was going to go swimming instead though so i had to play along with the story. i told her i only had like 3 sips of beer and my friends parents were there too. she was still mad. so i wanted to go to another party the day after and she told me i couldnt go and that i was grounded for a whole week. wtf!! i hate how she always has to treat me like a baby even though i know im careful and know when to stop. and i really wanted to go to this party because all my friends were going ugh now im really annoyed also im 18 |
| Question: Should you have to change to make friends? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 07:31 PM PDT So in high school (I went to a somewhat predjudice one. Im black and my "friends" act like they didn't even wanna touch me) and as I started succeeding more and more, they talked to me less. Around this time I was rather naive and assumed my friends would be happy for me making better grades and stuff. Instead, they shunned me even more. I'm starting to think they were only my friend because I was below them academically, but when I got on their level that's when I started getting the silent treatment. As a result I tried hiding my accomplishments so my friends wouldn't think I was doing good and would accept me again. I know that sounds stupid now, but at the time I'd do anything to be popular/get social acceptance. We're they simply jealous? I really don't gloat about my success. At the time I was very happy things were going well and told them. Should I have just found better friends? (Like I have now, 6 or 7 close ones) |
| Question: Dealing with a potentially unfriendly roommate? Help please? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 07:13 PM PDT Okay so I am about to start my sophomore year in college and last year I had my first experience with a roommate. It was not good at all. She seemed to dislike me for no reason. When we first met I was cordial and tried to talk to her and she would never make an effort. So I got use to sharing a room with a silent stranger. This year I wanted things to be different. I found out who my new roommate was as soon as they told us and the next day I texted her to introduce myself. However, she never responded. From the looks of her social media she seems like a nice respectable girl. She is very into "peace and love" but isnt it odd that she does not have the courtesy to just say hello back? My text message was really non chalant and friendly but I just don t understand why it seems like she s ignoring me when we have never even met. What would you do in this situation and what do you think I should do???? Thanks for your help! Extra info : I believe she recieved the message because we both have iPhone messaging and it said "delivered". |
| Question: Will I get pregnant this way? Posted: 30 Jul 2017 07:11 PM PDT I've taken an ovulation test it has a two lines which someone said that means ovulation is on its way. Me and my partner are going to have sex two days in a row as we are trying for a baby, will I get pregnant this way? Is there a chance? |
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