He "plays" with her by mocking her, telling her he doesn't like it and then just say's he's just playing. I catch him telling her "haha" when I don't give her her way. He's never had interest in her, and It wasn't until we had our son that I seen the huge difference of treatment. He will pay attention to her when she misbehaves and that is it. He puts no effort in spending time w her, playing w her, or just being an affectionate or loving father to her. When we had her he was not supportive of the pregnancy and really wanted me to abort. When I was due, he became supportive and financially took care of her. We worked on things, and got married. Had a son later and he is the absolute opposite. She's 6 now, & I'm beginning to worry about the effects on her long term.

My husband raped me and has sexually coerced me into sex on numerous other occasions. I finally left him and told a friend what was going on -- she wanted to know what I was so terrified of a man who was mainly an emotional and verbal abuser. Since then it seems of have opened a floodgate of negative emotions for me -- especially since some people I thought were friends seem to think I was making it up or exaggerating what happened. My husband has wasted no time telling people I am nuts and out to get him and making false accusations in order to get a restraining order against him. This is frankly making all of the negative feelings worse. How does one handle this?

Mostly because I think it would wreck my son, he's very sensitive and I think he would get depressed. I'm also not financially independent but I'm working on it. My husband has just gotten more and more insufferable, he's a loud mouth and when he drinks he gets verbally abusive and he complains constsntly and I'm always crying. I wish I'd never met him.

Unless you live in the middle east... you'll find that times are very liberal, people move in with each other, phuck like bunny rabbits and then like 5 years later, the guy will 'propose", you'd figure after all that, that they wouldn't divorce since they had all that time to live with each other and get to know each other, but yet, divorce rates are very high. I don't get it, there are no secrets before marriage, why the high divorce rates ?

41 year old male. I play video games on my computer at night (above 10 PM). My wife doesn't know because she thinks I'm on the net reading something. But I do not play kids game (pokemon go or Final Fantasy). I'm a sports fan so I play NBA 2K15 (basketball game) and Project Cars (a racing simulation). Those two games are more like simulation than a video game!!! I have dinner with her every single day and that's when I talk to her.... @trisha: are you married yet? married couples do not have sex everyday. when she's tired feeding the kids, she will sleep.... @trisha: so you got married because of sex? isn't that right? at least 5 times a week? wow! we do not have time to do that many and we are not a pornstar. And I'm guessing you just got married months ago? oh btw, I got 3 kids..... we tried hard to make the 1st one if you know what I meant....

Judge me if you like, I'm sure you sin differently. I can't help but feel these attributes towards this person for many years. The attraction and seductive flirtatious feelings are mutual...or so I feel. We have spoke and we each engaged in both flirting and talk of personal things. I can't lie. I enjoy his company, the feeling he gives me. We know it's wrong but to me it feels right with him. Only issue here is ...if we both engage in these...it will be an affair. In someways I want this. I would have an affair with him. I love my husband. He loves his wife. I am confused in more ways than one. Obviously.

We are in college and can t afford our own place yet, I don t care about a big wedding.

So yeah. It's dark in there. My husband and I were watching porn together and noticed these women have lighter, hairless bum. I trim down there. Bleaching? Never crossed my mind until I looked in the mirror. Should I or shouldn't I? Been married for 14 years. Would it still matter?

Someone said that a marriage where you do nothing but work, raise kids, do chores, go shopping, cook food, and sleep would be an unfulfilling marriage. I'm just trying to find out if we (on these forums) believe that it is a partner's job to keep us fulfilled by having more activity in the marriage so we aren't having to deal with life's mundane reality?

I love my husband very very much. I cant imagine spending a life without him. He s the sweetest kindest person. But i feel extremely guilty in admitting that our physical intimacy is completely absent, and i just want more. No matter how much ive spoken about it, the sex is either not there for long or its the most boring ever. Would it make me a horrible person to find physical intimacy with someone else, yet stay completely in love and devoted to my husband? Does it make sense at all :( i cant imagine the rest of my life like this, im only 25.

I married recently and i used to live out in the woods with Mr.Wilson away from the so called modern life. Friends n relatives insisted that i get married and that this woman was the best candidate etc. Mr.Wilson is more than just a cat; he helped me step out of depression, eat when i was starving myself and we just spent so many goid times together i couldnt wait to go home to see how he etc. I told my future wife about Mr.Wilson and all i asked her to do is to ignore him; he's self suffcient and has his own rythems around the house. He's so well mannered that he'll look over his back when pooping and if someone is looking he wont do his business. One night while watching my fav WWII documentary Mr.Wilson hissed at my wife before jumping on my lap. I laughed caused she got scared he might claw her ankles but i also knew she must have upset or even hit him when i was gone. The next day she texted me ( cause she couldnt tell me in person ) that Mr.Wilson "must find a new home.." LOL. To me thats like saying your arm needs to be transplanted or telling the Pope that the Vatican needs to be demolished to make room for an icecream stand. Instinctivly i was about to book her a room at a motel while i redecorate the garage into a one bedroom studio. Now, how can i keep her with me and Mr.Wilson under the same roof ? Is there any logic i can adopt to convince her that she must make room for him ? * grow up and stop moving my question; troll. Calypso: i agree but i also told her to ignore him from day one. He only hisses if someone mistreats him and he percieves them as a danger.

Hi! I am 24 years-old, and my ex wife recently birthed a baby. I thought the baby was mine, and was so excited to see my son. However, at the hospital a man I've never met before comes into our hospital room. I asked my ex who he was, and she said he was the baby's real father, and she has been cheating on me since we got married. She expected me to care for the baby, and she could just run off with her new boyfriend. I put my foot down on that one, and told them I'm not taking care of someone else's baby. They got frustrated, and eventually I won the argument when my friend (nice, but intimidating looks) came in to our room, and scared them. However, my ex still wants my life insurance. I told her no, and immediately cut her off my life insurance. My friend and I left the room, and went to my house. Admittedly, I cried a little, and luckily my friend comforted me. It's been 2 weeks, and we already got a divorce, but she still calls me. I picked up the first few times, but it's starting to get agitating. Should I just call her, and tell her to leave me alone?

We been together since 5 years and have 2 children I love her she's an amazing person I find her cute and funny I just don't find her sexually attractive anymore over the years she's let herself go she never had a great body she was always a size 10 but now she's at a size 18 and I tell her all the time that she's gotten too big and she always replies that she don't care she don't dress anymore she don't even try to look good anymore so I told her how I feel she cried a little and the next day she acted like it never happened I thought by being honest she would want to change herself for me but she didn't so now I feel angry towards her because it feels like she don't care about our relationship anymore I'm really frustrated what should I do

Four years ago, I had an emotional affair. Our divorce was ugly but we managed to reconcile. I met a guy last week at our fitness club. He introduced me to his friend who lived really close by. It was instant physical attraction and I guess he felt the same. All we did was talk and talk. As I was walking my dog last week,I saw the same guy. We talked, invited me in his house and next thing I know is we were getting it on. I went home feeling bad but we had several tryst last week and this week. Sex is really amazing and I just don't know how to stop. I crave for this guy and I feel him touching me when I close my eyes. My husband has been clueless about what I fo during the day. I feel numb when he is around because I want to see the other guy. I walk the dog more than I should and this guy waits for me. What should I do?

So my husband has ADHD and depression. We've reached a point in our marriage where he will blame me for his violent acts. One time he got so mad at me he threw our coffee table towards me while I was sitting on the couch. Our coffee table had glass on it so I got cut. He will blame me for things he does. He will say, "You pushed me to be violent. You can't do that. I can't handle myself when I get mad." I just don't understand why I should go to couples counseling when he is the one with the problems. He recently mentioned that he wants his depression medication increased. I get so stressed out just having him home. It doesn't matter what I say or do we get mad at each other. I will try to sit him down and talk with him about my problems with him, and he will just shut down and not talk to me. Is there a different option we can do? I just don't feel couples counseling is the solution if he's the one who is mean.

He s in the military. We both lived in GA but before we got married he got stationed out in California. So I had to sell my car, quit my job and leave my family. AND I have a 3 year old child who s bio father was never around. He keeps running up on ecigs and I keep lying about where they came from because I know he doesn t like me doing them. I always want to tell him but I lie even though I know I should tell him the truth. He wants a divorce and wants me to go hom. But it scares me because I m going home to just my family. No job no car to get a job no nothing. I gave everything up to be here with him. He thinks I should just stop out of respect for his feelings about it but it s hard when I gave up smoking to be with him so when I get stressed out by the bio father or fights we have I smoke my ecig so I don t smoke a cig. I m really just looking for advice and different viewpoints from readers. I feel like he s getting mad over me lying but things could be worse. I could be cheating. Atleast that s how I see it. Please help!

My husband of 7 years has been secretive with his phone lately. He's been texting someone at odd hours, and yesterday was on the phone in the basement (out of earshot) for 3 hours. Come to find out, he's been talking to a single lady in another state. His Facebook was open on my computer, so I took a look. He had deleted almost all of their conversations, but he did keep one where he said his heart races thinking of her and complimenting her beauty. I talked to him about it, and he said he did it because his mutual friend (who is interested in this girl) asked him to sext her as a test of her loyalty. I asked the friend and he never asked that. So now my husband is saying his friend didn't need to ask, being the caring guy that he is, he decided to test her loyalty himself. What should I do in this situation? I can't start arguing with him on intention, obviously I can't win that battle. I don't know how to approach this and what action to take! I just thought I'd add that since this woman lives halfway across the country and this has only been going on couple weeks, that he hasn't physically cheated with her.

Okay so I love my husband to bits and pieces, but he ALWAYS needs to be on the move, and I don't know how much we can afford. His ex-wife will go after him for child support, for kids she had while cheating on him, so we need to rely on me for income. We have a business, but we need flea markets. He is very stressed all the time and always jumps to conclusions. My family will not help me figure out anything because they hate me for no reason, so I am on my own in trying to figure this out. What would you do? Thanks!!! we were on the road for 2 1/2 months and went 18,000. I'm afraid we won't be able to cover auto expenses. Constantly I have to go to work sites with him, which I don't mind, but I honestly feel like he's not a real provider. I understand 50-50, but I thought the man was supposed to mainly provide. Am I his backbone here? I can't ditch him, nor do I feel I want to -that would be extremely mean. I feel like I'm being selfish? Please help!!!

I began talking to Asian women because they are much more feminine and old fashioned. I did research and so many people online like to talk about how most are just in for a free ticket to the US, or that after marriage a lot of women turn like any other woman. A lot of talk about how it is a horrible idea that will turn out bad. But according to Immigration system that monitors marriages for a 10 year period of marriages to foreign spouses, the divorce rate is cut in half from the rate of US peoples marriages. Also i live in a military town, and every single day i go out i see at least 6 white guys with asian women following them around, both with a big grin on theyr faces. I'm talking to a great woman from Indo the past couple months. Whats your experience or observations on these marriages and how they turn out? Whats a bunch of talk and whats real? Maybe people from bigger towns see more of the outcomes than i do.

My husband is an alcoholic. Our short marriage has been very rocky due to this. For the past couple of months, he has completely isolated himself from me by running upstairs to the guest bedroom, getting drunk, and talking to other women on Facebook. I have given him so many chances to show some kind of remorse for his actions while he's drunk, but he just doesn't care. Things have escalated today, and I told him I wanted him out. We agreed he would go on Friday when he gets paid, and he'll stay upstairs until then. I want him to go. I want my life back. I want to find a healthy man to love me and spend the rest of my life with.....but.....I still love my husband and yearn for the man that I fell in love with. I don't know where he's going, and I'm so afraid it's to another woman. And I know how silly that is! I should let his butt go.....so, how do I get over this fear of losing him? Please no bashing. I know this is for the best, and once it's all done and over with I will feel better...but right now I'm fighting my feelings and fighting myself to remain calm and rational. Sheloves, you have no idea how right you are. Just yesterday I told him that I see he is trying to emotionally manipulate me and I will not allow it to happen. And now today, POOF, he's leaving! Beatrice, thankfully there are no children involved, and no property or assets other than our vehicles, which we are both paying on. He can take his truck and I'll keep mine. We are living check to check so no money to split. We both work fulltime jobs. It will be an uncontested divorce. My SIL is a paralegal and she'll help me file all the necessary paperwork. The house we live in belongs to my mother. Mike, he's NOT coming back....once I'm out of this mess I'm not getting back into it. I know what I want and it's not him!