My husband and I have had a rocky marriage and right now it's on the edge. But the thing that worries me the most is that every time we fight no matter what it's about he always tells me that he wants me to leave and if I don't he's going to kill himself. He says that he would rather die than be with me. He has threatened this several times and nothing has happened but I really worry about it. I also worry that if I do leave that he will just go through with it. ( He tried to kill himself in the past, years before he met me)I have tried to talk to him about getting counseling bit he absolutely refuses and gets extremely pissed off if i bring it up. I don't know how our marriage will turn out or of we can fix things but regardless of that I still care about him and definitely don't want him to commit suicide. Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be appreciated!!!?

Les contare toda la historia.... mis papas tenian problemas pero nunca tantos como para el divorcio por lo que aun con peleas seguian juntos me di cuenta que mi mama pasaba mucho tiempo en la calle y siempre hablaba con alguien que nunca logre ver bien el nombre, siempre vi un tal jeny por lo que nunca pense mal y hoy venia ella en el carro y yo atras e hice la cabeza para enfrente para decirle algo y vi en su celular a esa misma persona que mencione pero tenian caritas de corazones enamoradas y pense mal pero como que se dio cuenta y se tapo con el cabello, pero para quitarme la duda agarre mi celular y desde atras le tome foto a la conversacion que tenian y cuando llegue a casa las vi y aun que no todas se veian logre ver unas que decian que su primera vez fue mejor, q omo que pensaban volverlo a hacer se decian te amo y todo pero no dije nada, me di cuenta que mi mama engaña a mi papa con quien esta CASADA, estaba desesperada e hice una cuenta falsa y le mande un mensaje amenazandola de que sabia todo y si no dejaba de hablarle y verlo le diria a su marido(mi papa) y a sus hijos para que se enteraran, la vi leyendo el mensaje y creo que hasta se lo mando con el que lo engaña si mal no vi, que hago???? Le digo a mi mama que fui yo aun que probablemente empeore todo, le digo a mi papa o dejo que el se entere, PORFAVOR AYUDA, tengo 15 años estoy desesperada

Help please.. I am 17 and not having a kid for like 5- 10 or so years and getting married by then so.. But anyways my cousin turned 18 in June and is EXTREMELY immature. I love her but I have to say it. She throws temper tantrums like a 12 year old girl who doesn't get what she wants. She is dating a mid 20sx offender who basically tells her what to do and is EXTREMELY controlling of her. (He doesn't appear abusive as of now and hasn't actually hit her so we can't legally do anything). She is moving in with him and living in an apartment and is already discussing marriage and children (she says not now but says it like in a few years and not too soon). Can I help her in anyways? Her mom (my aunt) married when she was 19 and regrets it and even calls her ex husband her 'sperm donor'. What can I do to help her? I don't want her to get hurt and I don't want her to regret in 10 or so year a when she actually is ready. (She's also only known him for a few months)

I feel angry at him...resentful. I don't know how to not feel hurt.

I'm talking about marriage. Does anyone really "know" if the person is the one for them/soulmate? How do you know?

I am from Texas and my husband is Australian. His family make fun of my accent. I am 5 months pregnant and my MIL keeps saying "I hope she doesnt get her accent. But at least she is cute...maybe the baby will have her looks and thats all"....My brother in law is the only one who doesnt make fun of my accent or order me around but he does obnoxious things like smack my behind and tells me how huge my breast are getting and how its lucky his brother "got to me first". They all order me around like I am their personal maid/bartender when they are in the same room with me..... I cant deal with this..I tell my husband and he just says that is his family breezy and laid back..I think they are jerks...he also says that's just how Aussies are..wtf I know lots of Aussies and none of them are like that. I feel like I married into a family of bogans..;( How do I make my husband understand this is hurting me and I cant take this and I am carrying his child and this isnt good for me or our child..;(

Say you had a photo of your wife, who has given you 2 children, taking it from behind from an unidentified man in a wooded area and you wanted to confront her about it-- How would you go about doing so?

My husband and I separated and we agreed on him giving me money every month. He s a great responsible dad I have to give him that. We are not childish we don t need the court or any drama. I just want to know if our agreement is good or I automatically have to put him on child support?

Hi I m 30 and I have been married for three years. My school is sending me to France for the semester and I was jokingly telling my husband that I will find a charming French man and have an affair with. Surprisingly my husband was like OK with the idea. Should I go ahead and do it? my husband said that he wouldn t stop loving me. Has anyone had an affair in the past can you tell me about the experience is it OK to do it or should I not do it. I honestly would love to do it but at the same time I don t want to destroy my marriage because I love my husband.

Spouse gives silent treatment.Stops normal routine,calling home, cuddling, love making,when not mad those things are normal and the spouse goes back to normal behavior when they're no longer upset. However when upset the silent treatment takes place. The spouse seems to think it's no big deal when they're upset not to communicate but when everything is " going good" things are done in a normal fashion . How to end this behavior?

I know its a male fantasy but he wants me to wear it again for him. Why I find it creepy is because it just feels weird to pretend like I am a teenager and he is grown man. I dunno he really wants this and his bday is next week. Should I do it? Is it as creepy as I am thinking it is? Am I overthinking it? No I am not a troll, we found the outfit looking through a box my mom gave me....its how it came up and I do think its creepy. I doubt he would want someone named poopy princess who has a pig for head to wear it for him..;)

I am away 2 nights a week for work. My husband had a pass code on his ipad and would not tell me what it was until about 8 months into our marriage. Once I finally knew the password, I looked through it while he was sleeping. I found out that he had been using porn. All the thoughts ran through my mind (but we are newly weds, am I ugly, does he think I'm fat, is he not happy with me). I confronted him about his porn usage, he was admittedly sorry and took the password off and told me he would stop. Fast foward 4 months and I hadn't checked his iPad since a couple weeks after we took the pass code off. I decided to look through it again, he was using porn still. We talked again and He told me that he doesn't know why he uses it and that I can take his iPad away and he won't be able to even attempt to use it. I've had his iPad for the past 4 months when I am away for work. I still don't trust my husband when it comes to his addiction.. I have the password for his phone and I do check it sometimes but there is never anything on it. The only thing I've noticed is that the search history is always deleted from the two nights I am away for work. Also, I again have to check it while he is sleeping because he won't let me see his phone unless he looks through it first. He can pick up my phone and look through it no problem and I don't care, but the second I reach for his phone he gets mad at me and tries to get it away from me.. need advice :(

I gained a bit of weight after having twins. he is worried that I will make our twin daughters fat if I stay at this weight. He said that fat women turn him off and that the only asset of me being fat that is remotely a turn on is going up a cup size on my breast. I told family and friends and they said they dont know what in the hell he is talking about I am not even that fat and I look good. One of guy friends even said any guy would find me attractive and that especially as I am a nice caring person my husband should count himself lucky.... honestly the best I have felt since my pregnancy as far as my body goes but...am I fat? I am 5'5 and 128 pounds. I dont want to lose him but it really hurts when he puts me down. He also has become the food police. Last night after dinner I got a bowl of icecream and he said I thought we talked about you losing weight.. I couldn't even eat my icecream after that..He is the only one who seems to think I am fat but he is my kids father and my husband the one person whose opinion really counts to me... I know you are being sarcastic but you pretty much are the 12th person tocall my husband a douchbag today.. Well if you think I am troll then you wont be upset when you dont get picked then. No I am not a troll. Sorry you think I am.

I am considering divorce.. But there are a few problems: 1- i am an immigrant-visa depends on him 2- i earn little money, I can't afford to move out 3- i am on my final year of a degree which i dreamed to do for so long 4- I don't have a lot of family left back home.i cant just go home and start from zero 5- i have no friends that can help me.. I am all alone 6- i have zero savings and a huge amount of debt can't even look at him anymore.. All he does is say how im fat (im not really) ,says my clothes are ugly old (I can't afford anything new.. He has a good job he buysclothes for himself every 2 weeks), even when we go food shopping he tells me he is embarrassed to be seen with me because my clothes are not new(its not that bad, jeans +flats +fitted t-shirt.. He criticizes my career because I am an artistMy art sell cheap,i am always broke.iHave been bending backwards to please him and it's impossible!He says racist things 2me, e criticizes my mom).he is not struggling financially, I am.He likes keeping everything separate, but if i have any money i give him.I'm always terrified to give my opinion because he starts screaming.He puts me down all the time.. spends all his time chatting to his buddies on the phone, and his weekends @his mom.. He never takes me out and when he does he fights with me and makes me cry or he goes off on his own and i wAlk alone.if we are going to the same place-he drives and i take bus.. He rather spend his time doing anything instead of with me.

So my husband and I have been married nearly five years, we have a three year old daughter and four month old Son together. I care a lot for him but he has not had a stable job in all the time we've been married. A few weeks after our son was born I told him he needed to stop smoking pot, get a job and start counseling (He has anger issues). He agreed. 4 weeks later I told him the same thing and he proceeded to lie to me for over two weeks saying he quit smoking and his entire family knew too. When I finally knew for sure I told him I still love him but don't trust him and Iasked him to Move in with his parents He is guilt tripping me at every turn, telling our daughter I won't let him come home. But he's also saying he'll do whatever I want if I just let him come Home. I don't want him unhappy but I don't think I trust him. Any opinions? Please don't be rude PS I am not against Weed but believe a parent should be willing to quit in order to pass a drug test to get a job

Legally married couple (who aren't legally separated but live separated) decide to divorce and one of the spouse have some money in overseas country saved during the marriage but never told anyone. In time of divorce can the spouse find out about the money or not? Thank you!

Here it was dictayorsip 25 years ago.and the cetemony at church is done almos optional...after an abuse of being state maried by an officer our god..yes..a . state called civil state .married.

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and even from the beginning of our relationship his sex drive has been really low. But for the past year we decided we want to try to have a baby but he always tries to get out of it saying he's to tired and exhausted from work and this has always been his excuse. I really want a baby but he's not putting any effort into it and him never wanting me makes me feel useless and unwanted. He's only 29 so this doesn't make any sense to me. I try bringing this up to him but he just gets mad saying it has nothing to do with me he's just tired. We only have sex a couple times a month. Is this normal for some couples? I'm 23 and he's 29 it's not like we're some old couple. Just need some advice please!

My husband and I have been together 7yrs, We met a month after he got back from his tour in Iraq, married a year later. Since I met him he has always been a very closed off person, he doesn't open up easily and doesn't want to be around many people, He rarely attends social events with me as he says he prefers it to me just me and him, Despite that he is the most caring man ever, I love him so much. The other night we had a huge intense argument, one like we've never had before, we said things that hurt each other, me telling him ( purposely to hurt him) that I hated him and regretted marrying him, Straight away I could see the hurt in him and I regretted saying it but he walked out. I went to have a bath to calm down, he obviously started drinking when he was out, A while later my husband came into the bathroom dragged me from the bath and into our bedroom, the rest is pretty obvious, I tried to fight him off but I couldn't, he then just walked out of our house. I was in shock but straight away packed a few things and checked into a hotel. I've been ignoring his calls asking and pleading me to forgive him that he didn't know what came over him. I love him so much but I cant get past this. I'm feeling like I've over reacted about the whole situation, My head is all over the place right now I need some guidance, Am I over reacting as he's my husband?

I was wondering what are ither peoples opinion on their wife wanting to go out clubbing. Me personally, I dislike it. I feel that a club is a single persons place to go try to hook up or meet new people. I feel that if I'm with her, I have zero interest in meeting other people. I don't need to go out to a club and IF I did I would invite her. What is your opinion? Does your wife like to club? Do you let her? What do you tjink of clubs? Bad or good place for married people?

Is this ok? Is it common?

Don't get me wrong, she loves being a mother. The kids are our life, but they are a lot of work. She says that I don't understand because she's with them more than I am. They are very active and into everything, as kids tend to be. The last two days, she's come in extremely worn out and out of breath, which I assume is from chasing after them when they escape from the playground. Last night I actually helped bring the kids upstairs to our apartment, and she told me that our daughter ran into the street twice and towards the pool twice. A friend of ours told me that I should let her have some alone time without anyone around (including me), and pointed that I get some time every day while my wife is outside playing with the kids. I found it very rude of them to say. It's not like I'm vegging out in front of the TV or anything. Cooking, cleaning the dishes, and washing my work clothes is work--housework, but still work. Then our friend told me that it's not the same as caring for the children, which requires patience and much more energy. We live in Florida and it's been running 95 degrees in the early evening hours. I can understand why my wife comes in out of breath, running after the kids and not drinking water while she's outside. Although she hasn't come and asked for a break (she never does), should I be concerned about it anyway? She has asked me to do a few extra things in the evenings, but those are essentially her jobs (I mean she usually does them). To clear some things up, our kids are 3 years old and just under two (our youngest will turn two in October). We BOTH work F/T jobs. She brings in more income than I do with the OT she puts in during the peak season, and her job is much more demanding than mine. The front person in the management office of an HOA, she hears complaints from residents down to staff and vendors. She takes care of all of the household bills and finances, since I have no idea about that stuff.

What about those that got married much younger than that and have been married for 30+ years? I don't think it's the age that keeps people together at all... more or less, trust and commitment. Oh and I'm 22 turning 23 in January.

I was taking a shower last night about 9 p.m. when I heard the door open my husband walked in in the shower with me feeling awkward I didn't say nothing that's when he grabbed me and held me against the wall insert his penis in my anus it hurts so bad I was trying not to yell because my four-year-old I could smell the alcohol he told I know you're enjoying this cuz you're just a w**** when he was done I had blood dripping down my leg I was so hurt and ashamed I Bre how do I get out of this relationrelationship

I told him I had caught a bad case of the Shingles but it was really the sexually transmitted Herpes Virus. (they are both treated about the same) He found out the truth. Every cents this ordeal he is always suspitious of everything, I think thats why he went overkill over me finding Donald Trump sexually exciting. How can I build his trust back up? Thank You and God bless.

What would you do if your husband bought a new mattress, without telling you he did so, and you absolutely hate it!? It just showed up at my door! I've slept on it the last two nights and am in so much pain it's hard to walk/sit. I have severe back problems to start with and this is not helping! Opinions please! TIA! ***Update*** He asked me this morning if I liked it. I told him no! I'm in so much pain! He told me oh well, he likes it so it stays! Ugh!!!

I am getting a divorce but refuse to sign the agreement. I have a little girl with my ex who is 4. I want life insurance of $50,000 in the divorce agreement that her dad has to pay. He and his attorney put in the agreement that whoever pays the child support pays the term life insurance of $25k - NOT what I wanted. They are now taking me to court because I won't sign.

I was working away I was suppose to be home end of this month but early to surprise her.. And she's cheating on me I kicked her out and she's said she sorry this is not the full story but don't want got make it long We've been together for 6 years should I throw that all away

It is weird for me to want to have romance with my husband often? Both of us just happily married to each other but even before that we re already happily in love and stay with each other for a few years and now we re married to each other. But it weird for me to always want romance(sex) from him not everyday but often, like more often than once a week but of cause not all the time. I love him very much and so does him so sometimes I feel so blissful to have such a wonderful marriage but also feel weird each time I have feeling of romance for him tonight even we just did it like last night....

My now husband and I had a lot of issues prior to the marriage. We were constantly fighting due to dishonesty, disrespect, etc. I told him that I didn't wanted to marry yet, because we have issues that need to be taken care of before we take that step. That marriage isn't a joke to me. So, I hold back the wedding because I thought he would be on board. Then eventually we got married under false pretendences that he will seek help. His mother told me he will seek help, since she is closest to him. He tends to be violent and disrespectful. Long story short, I married him and nothing changed, it got worst. I also protected myself because I told him I wasn't going to bring my babies into this world to suffer our mistakes. He now says that I married him for the wrong reasons (money) because I never loved him and didn't have kids with him. Advice?

My husband bullies me everyday. He is constantly making stories up about me either cheating, lying to him or secretly being into girls. He tells me to be myself if I'm gay and not to pretend like I'm not. He says that I am on the phone talking to the guy I have on the side. That I'm lying to him and that I need to be honest and give him explanations. I have dealt with this for a long time now. He tries to brake me down but can't. Although, I do cry when I'm on my own. Because it isn't fair going through this hell on my own. Recently, he started saying how he found an LGBT app on my phone and that it proves how I really am into girls. When I've always said I love men, not girls. I don't have to prove it to him or anyone but by me sating that, it makes him think that I'm being defensive for a reason. I've never had an LGBT app on my phone. He made it yet he is very inclined on his side. What should I do?

mentioned a hot young girl that I work with. Now I am getting questioned and I'm sure she is looking at it the wrong way. Double standard?

OK..me and my ex husband have been separated and divorced for over 3 years,we have two kids.since then we both have remarried. Now my problem is that they have so much hate for me,no matter how I try to work things out with them for my kids sake,my kids live with me full time. I try to work with them to make things easier for my kids.but they are constantly bad mouthing me,down me as a mother,talk to my kids about me and my husband, they have called social services on me several times,they have tried to keep my kids from me,threating me that I won't get them back,and while my kids are over there i can never get a hold of them on the phone,i could go on and on but the question is....is there anyway I can keep them from doing this,im sick of my kids being in the middle of this mess.im a good mother and love my kids dearly and take good care of them to the best of my ability..can anyone help with some advice...thanks!

If you are in a serious relationship, maybe even married or with kids, is it ok for your partner to have friends of the opposite sex? Ex: your wife text her guys friends when you're together or she's alone. Your wife goes out with a group of friends including sole guys or your wife goes out just her and her guy friend? same thing with your husband, is it ok for him to have female friends? Texting them? Going out with them? Me personally, I feel I should not have any female numbers in my phone. I shouldn't be texting females in my phone. I should NEVER go out with a female friend. All my female friends I habe got distant from out of respect for my partner. She feels it's ok for her to have guys numbers in her phone, or dance with other guys. The dancing with other guys we discussed and she said she wouldn't. What are your thoughts on the topic?

Please don t be rude I have a Serious question my husband cheated when we first got together we were both young and after much thought I forgave him, he promised never to do it again, we ve been married about 5 years now and there have been a few times when I ve found multiple messages and emails about cheating I confronted him and messages the people myself, I went on a trip last weekend he Couldn t go because of work, and found he had messaged a man to meet for intimacy and horrible messages I confronted him and was in complete shock and embarrassment and found out he had been on dating sites for months, I just dont understand because he is generally a great person we are plenty Intamate I am still am undecided what todo about it he said that was the only person then I recieved screenshots today from a woman he was also messaging to meet up with I e only ever been with my first husband and my husband now intimately and relationship wise, I dont know how to process this?

I'm 54 yrs old now and my wife and I have been on this tell all journey lately. I'm holding this one back. Should I tell her? I sucked him for 2yrs 14-16. It was racing hormones and he and I were joined at the hip. We were teen soul mates. I know that teen girls have done this also (sex with best friend)

My husband and I have been separated for 7 months and we have decided to try to fix our marriage. I have some serious trust issues with him but I love him so of course I want things to work out. I m living with my parents at the moment but would love to move back in with my husband. I don t want to rush things but I do want us back together as husband and wife. When is the right time for us to move back in together?

I had a talk with him about how it'd be nice to start a family, but he seemed uninterested. He told me that it'd be a bad idea and that if we were to have kids then once they're born, we would devote too much of our time towards them and we would get too caught up in their lives and forget about each other. He also said that our sex life would be in decline and that we wouldn't be able to the things we used to enjoy together as we would have to worry about kids. What should I do? Do you think he's right?

This question belongs under marriage & divorce. There's no need to change my category. Please stop. Thank you. Please stop changing my category. My question belongs under marriage & divorce. Please stop changing my category! I've asked nicely, so please stop changing my category! This question belongs under the category of "Marriage & Divorce." What is your problem!? My question belongs under "Marriage & Divorce." You trolls need a ******* life. Go to hell! OH MY ******* GOD!!!! STOP ******* CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!!!!!!!! IT'S GETTING REALLY ANNOYING!!!!!! PLEASE STOP!!!!!!! This is NOT funny! This is harassment! I'm reporting you! Whatever. Have your ******* fun you low life troll. I am emotionally mature, I just can't stand trolls. There's a difference. I've moved my question back over 20 times. Just because I prefer to ask Anonymously doesn't mean anything. There, I changed it. Changing it back to Anonymous now, because that's the way I prefer it. That doesn't mean I'm immature or a troll. That just means that's my preference. Some of you need to wipe your mirrors clean and view yourself as the ignorant people you are. You think I'm immature??? There's trolls are ridiculous! Oh my word I've already chosen best answer... stop changing my category! *These