I would go to my Dr visits every month for four years. He put me on 6 different medications for bipolar. When I would go in his office, he would ask bout my personal relationship with my husband, like if he took me out to dinner and surprised me with flowers and took care of me like "the princess that I am". And I would say no and explain we had no money to go to expensive restaurants, fine and dine. Except my husband did take care of me he just never bought me flowers or go to sit down dinners, out to eat. And he continued, that he would treat me like a princess and take me to dinners and buy me flowers. Remember I m heavily medicated so I don t know what he s saying or going to do at this point. He then stands up behind his desks, comes to me and kisses me on the check and would give me long hugs. He even said if only I weren t married..... I didn t want him to say those things to me! I didn t want him to kiss me! I didn t want him to touch me at all. But I didn t know what was happening because I was drugged up like a zombie. Now I m unmedicated and in touch with reality and realized what has happened to me all them years. Now I want to do something about it? Can I take legal action?

Ok so my mother is very lazy. She works full time, and when she gets home she expects the house to be clean. So I clean. She expects food, so I cook. I'm fine with doing that. My problem is she has no motivation to do anything except cry and complain. I literally cannot stand it. She's always whining about I'm not feeling well. So I encourage her to go gym. She rarely does. She shops too much, then has too pay off the dept stores at the mall. She's an accountant so she understands the value of money.. I've been trying to convince her to spend less, she says leave me alone. Her and my dad are currently going through a divorce and she has made no effort to look for a lawyer for their upcoming court date. I try to talk to her and ask why she's not looking. I've even put a profile on legal match, and she says don't bring that up it brings me to a bad place. The problem is my dad created a lot of debts in the marriage and he wants to split debt and she shouldn't be responsible for his transgressions, also he doesn't support us at all. But it seems to me all she wants to do is cry about it to her kids friends family. I just I'm getting very annoyed at my mother lol. It may seem that I'm ungrateful. but I just try to give her that extra boost bc I know she works full time, but It seems like when I do she stops trying for herself. Some other example are like how when she's gets home from work she sits on the couch and expects me to bring her a plate. The other day I was running late to pick up my sister, as I was leaving I fixed a plate and put it on the table in front of her. The lady starts talking about some "Why didn't you bring me anything to drink do you want me to choke?" When the kitchen isn't that far away lol. Stuff like that.. It just gives me a lot of stress, I feel like I do the taking care in the house although I don't work. And it makes me worry about what if she's that lazy at work, then she loses her job. She has a very good job so wth would we do. IDK IDK IDK. Someone help me because usually my first instinct is to get frustrated with her............

My professor is 35-year-old male, not married. I am 20-year-old female. He was asking if I would like to have coffee with him (only "me and the professor" alone, no other people accompany us) Does he simply want to chat with me and drink coffee? Or, does he have other meaning? He didn't mean to discuss any problem or homework assignment.

She'd fit in the suit perfectly, but she says I would never appreciate her in it because my previous lover filled it out better than her.

We both work, it's just the two of us. We have a woman that comes to clean our house every other week. She does vacuuming, scrubs the floors, dusts, all things that we both hate doing. We are in a pretty great place financially and growing up, my family wasn't so I believe in being generous to others. Well, she missed cleaning our house last week because she had an ovarian cyst removed. It wasn't cancerous, which is great news, but it was still troubling and a painful ordeal for her. Even though, she didn't come to clean our house, I still paid her usual rate ($70). And, I cleaned the house myself. I didn't want her to have a worse mess to come back to and I didn't want my house to look filthy for the next two weeks. He went on this long rant, "I can't believe you paid her not to work. She has insurance. Blah blah blah. I would live to lay in bed and collect a paycheck." He is not always conservative about money. He is very generous to me. If I ask him for something, if we go out on a date, if he buys me a gift, he spares no expense. But the minute the money is for someone else, whether it's a server, our cleaning lady, a relative, that I use my own money for, it's a waste. I don't know if I should keep my generosity more private or just work to hopefully convert her? Part of me feels grateful that is so generous to me and that I should leave it at that but it just gets on my nerves. I didn't tell him but wasn't hiding it either. Sometimes he reads my bank statements. Then he asked me and I told him :/

Have you ever cheated on them? I have cheated on my wife a few times, the first time was less than a month after we got married. But I didn't cheat on her because I don't love her, though. I just did because I wanted to know what the experience would be like. Now you are probably thinking "What kind of scumbag is this guy?" I can't really blame you, but we could argue about that. I think a great many people would like to cheat on their wives and girlfriends too, that's why there's p*rn websites dedicated to all about that. The only difference is I really did it. You see, most people are fitted with Lead Boots when they are just little kids and have to wear them all their lives. These Lead Boots are called A CONSCIENCE. I have none, so I can soar high above the heads of the Normal Crowd. So just wondering, have you ever cheated on your spouse or significant other before?

My spouse and I are filing a joint petition because we're having an amicable divorce. We're both filing together without representation. We want to reserve the issue of child support because we feel we are responsible enough to communicate and participate in the matter of her financial needs. The same goes for her medical insurance/expenses. What exactly do we write for the reason of "why" we would like to reserve the issues? Are there any specific terms we should use? I just don't want to do anything incorrectly and the instruction packet from the courts doesn't exactly say what to write. Thank you.

Currently he s been drinkinv more and more. He has no patience including desling with our 5 year old son. I have realized recently that he is verbally abusive and always talks down to me about everything. The 3 of us live in a studio together i pay all the rentvand bills. .he will chip in on occasion. I just cant take it anymore.,. I know what i have ro do but im scared because he is very vindictive.,. Im afraid hr will try to throw me under the bus for whatever he can. I am d far from perfect i have had issues in my life too but im dealing with them. What should i do????

? Women aren't interested in men who are shy, unfunny, short, poor, etc...It is evident that women are super picky when it comes to men... and since they are so picky I'd expect the rates of abortion, single mothers and divorce to be very low! but that's not the case! all those rates are super high! why? are women picky about things that have little importance in the long run?

My wife is always at the gym. I know she enjoys working out. Part of me worries she might cheat. She told me she has a crush on a couple of men. Also, she's adding guys from the gym on her social network account. I know she has a thing for Hispanics. She's very attractive. I'm worried she'll stray.

My husband is never going to stop making a 36k salary. There, I said it, or at least typed it on the internet. My husband was dealt a pretty sad hand, being born in Canada and moving to the US when he was 12, never to get his greencard because of reasons out of his control until age 25. He never went to college and works in a company where no matter how many positions he applies to, he never gets... and has never had a promotion, ever. I make almost double what he makes, and I hate it. I am so thankful for having the income I have, because without it, I wouldn't be able to afford a home or anything like that, but that aside, I have come to the realization that my husband will probably never make enough money for us to raise a family. I don't really know how to handle this. I would never leave him, so luckily that's not something I worry about. But he did lie to me going into this marriage... He said that he made more than he did, had an education, and that he was going to get promoted soon and make 60k. This was a loooong time ago.

I am 38 snd he is 58. He told all my relatives that we're getting married 13 years ago. I felt pressured so we got married after 6 months of dating. We have 3 kids 11, 9 and 5. The last one was an accident and I can't divorce him because I'm his second wife (his first wife cleaned him out) and I won't get his life insurance. He wanted us to move to this small town so he could retire. I put my foot down and kicked him out of the house. It's legally his (from his first marriage) but he's at my mercy because well ya know, I'm young and beautiful. He also has a life threatening auto immune disorder so he could pass out anytime. I've already slept with several younger men but he is still around. Should I still suggest open relationship if I've been sleeping around? One of my friend wouldn't talk to me anymore because of my marital issues. Does it even matter?

I know that part of the problem is I've really lost my libido since my daughter was born a year ago. But I've always had a problem where the things he wants to do make me feel dirty and trashy. Not to compare myself to food, but I feel like I'm being devoured by a starving man, rather than someone enjoying fine dining. I know he gets turned on by doing stuff to me, but doesn't seem to care whether it actually turns ME on or not. For once I'd like to feel like I'm making love, rather than some XXX fetish porn. He just won't listen. Advice?

I am currently pregnant with my husband's second son. Long story short, he had an affair with an ex girlfriend earlier in my pregnancy and now can't decided if he wants to be with me or her. After seeing his true self after I discovered the affair, his continued lying after discovery, him abandoning me and his family for 2 months to be with this girl, and him having mixed emotions about this ex girlfriend and putting her before me and his children, I have decided to divorce him and filed the papers 2 days ago. I just found out the sex of my child to be born and it is a boy. My mother in law thinks that after this discovery that he should be willing to change now that he knows that he will have two boys. I don't see how this would change anything. I am still going to divorce him but me having another boy being the reason to change his ways and make him try to make things right with me would mean that he is doing it for the wrong reasons and not truly because he wants to be with me right? When I texted him "it's a boy" he didn't respond but he posted on social media "*tears*" a few hours after my text. So I guess it affected him. If he changes his ways maybe a few years from now we can start over again but why would me having a son cause that change?

She's never been reasonable. She says she's a logical person, but nothing she says is logical, yes it is rational, but none of it is grounded in objectivity, all subjective fears and "hunches". She also uses her feelings as a weapon to get her way. She'll get angry to overcome opposition. She'll get sensitive and defensive when she doesn't get her way immediately. She'll get sad when she loses a fight/argument. She is EXTREMELY moody. And she holds me accountable to respond/react to each emotion "appropriately". In other words, she's doing that experiment with me to make my mouth drool whenever I hear a bell - or in this case, making me behave in a way that she prefers whenever she changes her moods.... And from what I understand, her mother did this to her as a child. So what do I do? I need to get strong to overcome this, but I just don't even know where to start!!!

Recently we got settled in anew house. It's the first house we've owned, and until now we've been very "nomadic" moving around for various reasons. I have boxes of crap that I've been carting around since I moved out of my parents house when I was 18. I'm now well over 50, married 21 years, very happily. My husband was unpacking some old boxes looking for pictures and such, and he came across some old photos of my first boyfriend from when I was 16, and he flipped out! Mindy you, I haven't seen or spoken to the guy in 35 years, and I didn't remember that I still had some random photos of him in ancient boxes of childhood stuff. I certainly wasn't saving them on purpose. Now my husband is pissed off and deeply offended that he found "photos of another guy" in our house. I'm baffled that it's even an issue. I got rid of them anyway, but seriously, an old BF from 35 years ago? What's up here?

Please don't give me the politically correct answer "they do it for the same reasons that men do it"... such statement would be inaccurate! husbands cheat because their wives refuse to kiss or hug or have sex with their husbands..Now, a wife is unlikely to have a husband who doesn't want to kiss her or have sex with her. So why would a wife cheat? because he doesn't listen to her or doesn't pay attention to her? so why doesn't she visit her mom or sister? why cheat?

Are they dr jeckalls and mr hydes?

I met my husband while working abroad in Australia. He was a very lovely man and we hit it off. We dated for 3 years and then when I was told I would be relocating to the US again for a promotion he asked me to marry him. We talked about kids a lot.. We both wanted to have a big family. But when we got married and started trying we were having a had time. Two years later I decided maybe we should go get checked..he was reluctant...he said we just needed to try more so I was like okay we will give it a bit longer..then still we never got pregnant. I went and got checked and the doctor said everything was fine and no reason why I shouldn't get pregnant...I went home the day I found out and I asked him to please get checked...that's when he asked me to sit down....he told me that he couldn't have kids. He had known since his first wife that he was sterile... he said he lied to me because he loved me and didnt want to lose me...I feel so hurt and lied to. I would have been okay with this had he just told me from the get go. Its not like we dont have other options. But he lied to me and I feel very hurt at him. Also it makes me wonder what else he is lying about...but as I do love him I feel guilty for being angry about something that is not really his fault (that he is sterile) would any of you divorce someone for this? Is this as big of a deception as I believe it is?

Hillary Clinton pretty much knew that her husband was cheating on her and yet she did nothing about it. So that goes to show that the Clinton's have no morals.

I ve been married for 19 years. I m 43 he just turned 60. We have 2 beautiful children one being a 15 yr old son with Autism. I found out about 10 yrs ago my husband had a foot fetish. Ok fine ppl think it s weird but I have heard of weirder **** in my life. He has had women s shoes stockings nail polish etc hidden throughout our home over the years. He says they are for masturbation when I m not in the mood. He recently stayed out all night and we had a fight I was arrested for domestic violence. He was banned from our home as I packed his things I found ESCORTS NUMBERS CRAIGSLIST ADS SANDALS PICTURES U NAME IT. Also sex toys that we ve never used... ANAL TOYS DOMINATRIX PHONE NUMBERS he says he just wants the women to talk dirty to him but I m like wtf I do when you re not on the PHONE FOR 12 HOURS LOOKING AT PORN I KNOW.. I m not sure what I can do about the adultery the lies and NOW HE IS SLANDERING ME TO EVERYONE. PLEASE ADVISE ME ON WHAT TO DO.. IF THE TRUTH HURTS IT JUST DOES. He is a good man AT TIMES...our son loves him (A BIG PART OF WHY I HAVE STAYED) and he is confused as hell, a wonderful carpenter who can fix anything but THIS.....ANY SUGGESTIONS?

I ve been with my husband since HS. We have three kids 15,10 and third passed away from heart issues 7 years ago. He cheated on me 5 years ago and I forgave him and stayed to try. We moved out of state to buy land and he worked and stayed 2 hrs from house. He came home for Xmas and started a fight saying he was talking to a chick because I wasn t there and started doing Meth. Right in front of kids. Left next day on 26th. Told me to sell myself for money, so I packed what we could and sold land and moved back home and in my moms. Long story short, I don t want to fix things and his already attacked me and punched my truck window in my face months ago. I m taking him to court and asking for full custody. With supervised visitation because he is shooting up drugs. I have text messages with him admitting and pictures of convos of him and chicks from Craigslist talking about doing the drugs together. He hasn t given me any money to help with kids in two months, didn t get our 15 a gift for her birthday. And he keeps threatening to come take MY truck because he keeps not paying for his and he keeps saying his taking full custody and doesn t have to give me any money until judge tells him too. Kids won t talk to him and he blames me. I don t talk bad about him around them, they have seen his mean side and plus he isn t even around. I told my attorney I wanted to do drug test in court as well. I don t want my kids around him. His so unstable.

I love my husband, but at times I think he is very inappropriate and rude. To start off with , he has a habit of making people, including ;myself and my children, feel very uncomfortable when talking to him. He just has this way of making you feel stupid with every word you say. We find ourselves wondering how we can word something so that he doesn't look at us like we are asking a dumb question, or acting like he doesn't understand the language we speak. Also, he complains that he never gets help. However, whenever the kids or I do ask him if he needs help, he responds with, "I don't know, are you capable of helping? Is there anything you know how to do?" Who in their right mind would continue to offer their services if that is the kind of response you get. If we do end up helping, he makes remarks about HOW we are doing said task. A lot of the work we help with are things we aren't very familiar with doing, so, yes, we are learning and might not look as "professional" as him. I admit, he does learn things rather quickly, but that doesn't mean he should make remarks that make us feel dumb. Just the other day, he was talking about how my oldest son made a mistake when measuring something and referred to him as a f- ing idiot. Why would you call a child a name like that? It wouldn't be the first time though. He told the one set of neighbor kids once to, "Go the "f" home if you can't be quiet." He told my sons other friend to , "Get the he77 out of my pool!" because apparently he was horsing around. I understand that sometimes kids do things they shouldn't and it gets frustrating, but is really necessary, or even appropriate to curse at them? He see nothing wrong with it. However, the neighbors no longer want their children at my house. Seriously...I was friend with his ex at one time and I said, "We just get along because we are both really creative." He looks at me with a scowl and says, "You have got to be kidding! She is WAY more creative than you!" Like, why would he say that?

"If a person is your one true love then they will love you as you are" "If a person respects you then they will not ask you to do anything you wouldn't want to do" "If a person loves you, they should be sexually attracted to you no matter how you age, wreck your body, act spoiled, or demand things you feel entitled to" I mean, I hear a LOT of bullcrap on this website. This is the most idealistic website I've ever encountered. No wonder you all have been divorced! How can any person meet your insanely high expectations?!? But now I'm wondering, how MANY lies does the average person believe? And is there a reason to lie to yourself? Does it bring you self esteem believing the BS that you permeate online? Is it a game that the more lies you believe, the more "educated" you are?

My husband usually spoils me and buys me stuff and takes me out. Now I would love to suprise him and take him out to show him how much I appreciate him and everything he does. Any ides on what would be a good date for a guy? We are always together and the things we enjoy together are, kayaking, hunting, fishing on the boat, love riding our quads, etc. He's a pretty simple guy that is really outdoorsy and I dont want to do the normal dinner and a movie. Any ideas are appreciated thank you!!??

When me and my husband got married we just went to the courthouse ( at the time I was fine with it cause I just wanted to be married ) .. Now , 3 years later , we are doing very well financially.. We paid off our house, 2 cars, and have a lot of money in our bank account ..we are doing so well that my husband said next year he is gonna buy a Tesla car ( they cost about 160,000$) which is fine cause we can afford it BUT he doesn't want me to have a nice wedding that every girl wants ! He just changes the subject or says " we don't need one " but it's important to me ... If we are gonna stay together then why can't I have my special day ?! I was talking about a vow renewal ceremony but I worded it wrong I guess... Wow , the very short amount of time I have been on Yahoo Answers I have learned only a handful of things , 95% of the people on here are either immature , hateful and spiteful , just answering for points , or wanna be know it alls that pretend to be better then people but actually , behind the computer screen are waaaay worse off then the people who they are being mean to ...why don't people try answering questions with some respect for others feelings ? Everyone has issues !

I was waiting for my husband to artive and then he called saying where have u beeen ive waiting for you to come in cause we were going dor linch. Once i entered the car i opened the window cause i smelled some smoking smell. He then was like ONT OPEN IT! the sun is too jot and im sweating. I then starting shouting at him that he shouldnt talk to me that way and he begun to shout too. I told jom its ur attitude that got me to shout and he htes it when someone does so. Now i know the he wont be speaking to me again and i dont feel like i need to apologize cause he is the one who started the attitude which he denies. If i talked to hil politely he would just tell me no taks to me like that and will not stand up to his way at first. Idont know. What shall i do? I know i'll b angry the whole day or days but if i talk to him he will make me apologize and he would deny what he does and then it will be like it was all my fault!

I've been married for 3 years together for 7 we have had ups and downs like normal couples but for he last few months he's been getting more and more emotionally and mentally abusive. I do everything for him left my job for him I make his lunch and coffee every morning set out his clothes and accessories like phone etc u clean and do all the household chores including garbage hr comes home clothes are set out cold drink is ready as well as dinner he doesn't get up from couch for anything he either rings a bell for me to come or if I'm there yells at me to get him whatever he wants he gets foot rubs for hours when his feet hurt and I didn't mind but this week he has become horrible to me puts me down constantly calls me a worthless bi**h and a c**t a lot He now says he doesn't want me and wants a divorce and also wants marriage counseling go figure. I'm confused I did nothing to him why is he treating me like trash every night this week he treats me like I don't exist and tonight he said if I touch his stuff he will beaty ***. Idk what to think about the mam I married and still kinda love. Is he cheating or on drugs or just bipolar?

Is it normal that in a divorce the mother usually, not always I know, bad mouths the Dad to the kids while the Dad does not insult the mother usually, again I know not always? In my childhood my parents divorced and my mother taught us our Dad did not love us or he would have treated her better and not divorced her. Later I learned SHE divorced him. A 3rd party confirmed this with no stake in the divorce. Both parents made mistakes and married too young. When my Dad remarried my mother told us he loved his step-son more then us and wanted to be in his life and not ours. My mother did love us and was not a bad mother in any other way. However I feel this was abuse. I have read it is called parental alienation. So I am an adult now and am wondering do mothers usually do this or are more mothers mature and avoid speaking ill of the father around the kids? Do most fathers not do this or are most fathers just as guilty as mothers about this? Also do mothers do this in fights with extended family members. Like lets say a mother has a fight with her mother then does she ban the kids from see their grandmother, her mother? Just trying to learn more. My mother died last year but have been curious for years about it. As an adult I am close to my Dad and step-mother and my mother mellowed as she got older. I feel children are the collateral damage of a divorce or any family falling out just like civilians are collateral damage in a war.

My spouse and I have been together for 6 years and after all the fights and arguments we may have hit the end of the road. We moved in together right after highschool and have lived together ever since. its weird, on a random day I just have my eyes opened and realize we want different things. we never had fun when we were together and we thought it'd be best to end it. But the thing is I still want to be with her, I just don't want to live with her. Is that weird? Does it make me a bad person. I just feel good about that idea and I don't know if I should talk to her about it or just stop thinking about it and just move on..

We ve been married almost a year now and he has gradually tuned me out. He watched television and plays video games all day and yells at me if i try to interrupt it to ask even the simplest question like turn the tv down or what are you playing. If i even shift in bed he rolls his eyes at me and snarls. I ve tried sitting down with him and expressing my concerns and asking how i can improve myself and he just gets up and walks away or changes the subject. Sometimes I ll get Fed up and yell at him until he pays attention to me and then he just holds me and cries until i stop and he makes nothing but false promises of doing better. He rarely wants sex and when he does he flips me over face down and does it as quickly as possibly and then climbs off and goes back to his video games. Sometimes I ll force him to look at me and he just looks at me in disgust. He tells me he loves me a lot and I believe he does but I don t understand why he is so disgusted with me I ve become so depressed and hopeless I ve stopped cleaning I ve stopped my beauty regimen I ve gained weight idk why though because I cant eat. I have no one to talk to because he s isolated me from my family and friends I love him more than anything in the world and I just want to be worth something to him again. What do i do?

My husband and I have been married for six years, more and more people are shocked and almost offended that children are not in our plans. I love my nephew, he is adorable and a ton of fun. I love volunteering at children's camps every summer and classrooms, we just aren't looking to have any of our own. All I can say to change the mood is "I'm 27, so we have time"…but that's not how I feel. My brother and I were both adopted at birth (our birth mom's chose our parents while they were still pregnant) as our parents weren't able to have biological children but they have been 100% supportive of us. They have a fantastic grandson from my brother to spoil like crazy. Is this selfish of us? We have life plans we're looking forward to and my husband has made the choice to stay in the military which is tough enough, I don't think I could do it. Should I feel guilty?

It was an arranged marriage. I live in usa and grew up here. my husband from pakistan. He is not broad minded at all and has issues with me using social media and posting my pictures. He has issues with my life style and dressing even though all of this was discussed prior to the marriage. all the wedding was arranged and I was willing. I had only seen him in pictures. and was happy about this marriage. but when I saw him in person he was not the same as pictures. I cried and didn't wanna marry him, but all wedding arrangements were made and I went with that decision. his family never gave me any gifts on wedding his mom never even hugged me or even said that I look pretty. everyone was very distant from me and even though i message his dad everyday since he uses a phone, he still complains about me to his son. and my husband gets upset that idon't keep contact with his family. so main point i had already disliked him and trying to be with him and bear him. on top of that have to hear everyday the things from him that he doesn't like about me? I asked my parents to talk to his parents. thing is my parents have already talked with his parents once. I didn't wanna do this again. I told my husband I can't take this anymore. he was like if u want to include parents go ahead? what should I do? why is he doing this? I know he married so he could come to usa but even then he is being so difficult? how to handle this. need advice to solve marriage not break?

Back story my husband decided for us to separate this past feb. I have a friend who I was i did something with online but he and I were never in a relationship. I also informed my husband about it and told him this person lives in another country and I wouldnt leave him for this guy. My husband before we married spent yrs talking sexually with woman. also lied and lied and lied about many things including his career and attending college. My husband is now seeing someone has been for over a month. I want to take a trip to see my friend whom I have been speaking with but hes afraid if I do it will effect me in court when I go for sole custody. Im not sure how.. my husband moved on before me, he choose to leave me. Hes never home to spend time with his daughter and one night hurt me where I had to call police. I see everything in my favor..but is he right will it ruin my changes if I go see him?