Okay here s the stitch. I m 17, entering my junior year of highschool For the past year and a half I have been trying to get a job but whenever I try to apply somewhere my mother says "you don t need a job" and then she ll say that "what do you need money for?" Or "I m paying for your college, don t worry about anything" Now if you look at where I live, you d think my mother is crazy. For the past 4 years my mother has been trying to pay the loan on our house and she has been slacking a lot. Our financial issues include, not having WiFi, not eating everyday, unable to afford new clothes, unable to afford bills half of the time, it gets to the point where 5 out of 6 people have to share one bottle of shampoo for 2 weeks To me, it s unbearable Most of the time it s my friends buying food for me instead of my mother I feel it s unfair to me and unfair to them In my class almost everyone ether has a job, license, and wears expensive name brand clothes and I dream of having my own car and job to go and buy whatever I may want when I want rather than putting it on a Christmas wishlist and seeing if I get it I don t wear name brand clothing While my friends buy clothes at stores like American Eagle, Hot Topic, Holister, Forever 21, etc. I get clothes handed down from older relatives or I get clothes from JCPenny or Walmart ust doesn t make sense to me that my mother won t let me get a job to afford basic necessities like clothes and food Any advice?

My dad says i need to be more communicative to him and my mom cause im so seperate from the family? Im literally just in my room cause i love being alone and not being bothered by anybody, im the only child and i do talk to my mom normally but my dad works so he doesnt get home til laterso i dont really see him and he wants me to not be in my room all the time because he says its bad? expects me to come out my room and be in the living room or kitchen instead of being in my room cause he says its like being trapped in just the room? Like whats wrong with wanting to be in my room i have no reason to go in the kitchen or anywhere around the house , i love being in my room. He also says i need to talk to him more about anything but i seriously do talk to them its not alot but its something, its not like i never talk to them? What does he expect me to do like im not the type to talk away about anything to them i just dont like it. Advice?

I'm a thirteen year old girl, and last night it was 11PM and I thought everyone was asleep. So I started masturbating with my shirt on but shorts off, plus I didn't have any covers on myself so it was pretty obvious I bet. Anyways, my door was almost closed, only barely even a crack open and I made no sounds at all. suddenly, my door closed the rest of the way. Not quickly or loudly, it just quietly shut. I listened carefully but didn't hear any footsteps leaving my door. Now sometimes my house will creak and move a little which causes the door to kinda move so maybe that caused it to close but I'm not sure. Anyways HELP what do I do? I feel so confused and awkward cause I don't know if it was my mom or what. She doesn't seem any different today towards me, but she could just be pretending it never happened IF she did see.

I'm 20 years old. I find it so easy to open up to my boyfriend and I trust him to be open-minded with me. My family is different though (even though I love them all.) My mom is beyond angry with me right now (disappointed) because I don't willingly share things with her unless she asks, and she thinks it's because I think she's stupid or something. It's usually because I'm always afraid of her reaction to whatever I bring up, so I just keep my mouth shut and my opinions to myself. My brother is the same way, always been very critical and domineering, so I just closed up in regards to most things. My mom and my brother fight a lot, but they make up just as quickly. With me, she just stays angry and disappointed. They've always had more in common, so he always talks with her about everything, but I find it way harder to. She compares me with him and asks me why I'm not more like him in that way. What am I doing wrong? Is it wrong for me to want to keep things to myself?

I have a job, and yes, I do go to school. My sister who is 23 still lives at home too. We both work and pay bills. We take turns to cook, do laundry, was dishes, etc. It's extremely hard to move out to a place of my own. I tried it and failed once. I'm scared to attempt it again. No girls talk to me because of that problem. I feel like I'm getting older and wasting more time. How do I start moving out? Where do I start? How do I do it? I don't get how normal people pay for everything and have enough to live that way.

She says she hates me all the time and ever since I was little she says she wonders why she had me and that I'm going to a different family. And she once said "come downstairs so I can kill you". She hurts my feelings a lot and sometimes physically. Does she really hate me? I know they say you love your mom even if you,act like you don't, but I really don't.

Im 48 years old my daughter is only 15 and she stole my car this morning because had to go a friends house where it is right around the corner she has a bike which she does not use as much as she did when she was younger she claims it was an accident but how could stealing be an accident so she has an Xbox One which she always plays always talks on there so i made her sit through me deleting her data and profile she called the cops on me saying I beat her and stuff and put lipstick on to resemble blood the cops came looked at her arm and they knew she lied I told them about her stealing my car and faking me beating her so they took her away I hate stealing that's all I have to say.

My mom gave birth to my baby sister a few months ago and the topic came up of me becoming her godmother. I am honored how she offered me the opportunity but the problem us that I do not believe in the same religious beliefs as the rest of my family does. I do not believe in the traditions they practice and I don't want to lie to my family, and to whoever else i need to talk to in this situation. On top of that I never go to church and I have no idea what kind of questions they will ask me. I really need advice to who I should go on about this situation. Thanks

Let's say you walk in on your daughter making out with a boy. The boy looks her in the eye says. Then she kisses him again and pulls his junk out his pants after he says no not now! then they notices you standing in the doorway. ( they're both 15)

None of my siblings or even my mother has seen me smoke (420). But they know that I do/have, b/c I chose not to hide it. I'm still the first in my family to do many things, including college. He has never left home and I don't even talk to this boy. But EVERY time I hear from a relative, he has something to say about me. Something hateful like "all she does is smoke weed". He tells this to everyone!! Why would he try to give that impression of his sister who's actually doing good with her life and trailblazing, unlike the rest of the family!? Gosh, why do people chose hate? We are both in our 20's (grown). He is just a year younger.

Hi guys. About a month i put my computer for sale (without my parents knowing) to see how much money will the buyer pay. I did this because i always wanted a laptop (they promised me one but...). Today my dad found out about it and he got very mad. I know,some of you will say "Why the heck don't you buy the laptop with your allowance",BECAUSE my parents don't give it to me and if i want something i have to request it for like 2 months to order it for me (and usually it's a 5-10 dollar thing). What do you guys think?

I have a brother who is a year younger than me and honestly never did anything but steal from me, hate on me, make living with him frustrating and then act charming to other/outside family as if there's no reason I want no involvement with him. Though he knows nothing really of me (b.c I chose not to include him in my life) he also spreads ignorant lies about me, which I am now realizing has shaped others attitudes towards me in the past and I was just clueless! My mother acts the same way and has always pardoned him. She's jealous of me and only knows how to raise a non-man. She always complained that no one does anything for him, and everything for me. Which is not true. Go figure, there was a point in our teenage years when he complained about all the things no one did for him (he did NOTHING!!! for anyone). I preferred to hang with the elders in the family (hint no one mature in my household) and sometimes that yielded the things she never provided. He chose to follow around her and that got him nothing. I also put myself through college (with the help of a scholarship) without ANY of her support (she actually told me I couldn't go to college before I even thought of going). He is now 24, security guard working two jobs, has two kids, living with my mother and even younger two siblings, plus a wife (ugly, disrespectful, insecure and no life goals - ha). I don't speak to either of them (mother or brother). Anyone else dealt with a jealous sibling, discouraging parent?

We all went out to a restaurant as a family and she started taking pictures of everyonew while eating and wanted me to smile with teeth showing when I have braces and I didn't want to because I was eating. She then gave me that weird look because I probably had food in them (ew). I didn't want to smile because I was eating and it seems like she is inconsiderate of me . Why would she want me to smile while eating and mostly why do people take pictures of others at restaurants?

I hate my cousin a lot and she lives with me. She's so annoying and clingy. I don't know what to do. I've tried really hard to like her but I just can't. I'm a huge introvert and she is the biggest extrovert I've ever met. I don't want to tell my parents because they'll say "but you two were great friends when you were younger." I have no idea what to do. My life sucks now and everything revolves around her. I'm not jealous of her I just genuinely don't like her. Help me please.

So I am 15 he is 12, and here is an example of something that goes on: My brother did something earlier today really hurtful towards me so I told my mom ( I try to avoid telling on him), and my mom was in shock so she took away his phone, and then he went crazy, screaming saying she is never fair, and she always listen to me. My brother keeps telling his and my friends lies about me, and always says I am dumb, and stupid. It is really hurtful. For a good 30 minutes he was screaming and saying how why can't I be left alone and all that, he said just let me do what I do, why should you care, he said that to my mom. He thinks I am a terrible person. I'm sure I've done stuff that comes across as annoying before, but never once have I ever tried to annoy him on purpose, I've tried to peacefully tell him this, but then he always ignores me, is rude, annoys me, screams or punches me. He is addicted to his computer and phone also. Sometimes he is nice to me, but then the next minute he can start to make fun of me again. I try not to let him push me around, like if he punches me and blocks me from entering my room I'll just ask him to stop, and if he says no I'll push him out of the way. I need help he always says I am dumb, makes fun of me, is rude, and mean. He always says I hate him (when I do not). I can't take this anymore Please help, he never listens when I try anything peaceful, or forceful in response to his actions. Please help me!!!!!

My fiancee got kicked out of her home again, it's not about her being a rebel or anything of the sort, it seems like they always plot to force her out. I've seen their texts, I've seen how they act, the mom is always threatening to kick everyone out. My fiancee is adopted, so any time they act like this towards her she gets more upset than a normal person would because the only people that 'loved her' are abandoning her, and she begins to talk about offing herself. She won't, I watch her, I take care of her, I do my best in this situation. They kicked her out again today... why? Because they don't like how my fiancee is slowly moving into being a trangender male, and idk they get crazy when people misplace things in the house but it's clean, I saw it today. She has anxiety, depression, PTSD, and a mild form of schitzfrenka (I can't spell it), she is safe but the shadow people will begin bullying her. Idk Last time she did take 4 sleeping pills instead of 2, I did catch her and take care of her. Last time she lived with me for a month, but because she's 18 I feel it won't be a month anymore. This is day 1, can you please give me tips so I can make this easier on her than last time? She's been needing a service dog for quite some time but I can't help with that right now, other than that I have no ideas. Please help anything? I'm not breaking up with her. She is living with me. Red the questions and actually answer. I'm not mentally stable either.

Just got pissed, everytime I do something it seems to be wrong yo, it's so annoying honestly 22 years old discharged from the military. Always being called lazy, crazy, stupid, weird you name it. It's so annoying too. I'm tired of it. It seems like family is tired of me, honestly making me a mean evilish person, like to the point of wanting to loss the off on purpose by causing conflict, but I don't want to make them anymore dissappointed. I'm annoyed like crap everyday. Constantly feeling inferior stressed out over nothing, got kind of school shooter attitude right now lol, but In all seriousness I need to do something before I really do something that they can't forgive.

My mom's retiring very soon, and my sisters are throwing her a party. I received the invitation in the mail, but I don't feel that I should attend. Thus I haven't responded yet, and I'm wondering what t do. Since the day my wife and I got together, the relationship between her and my family has been nothing but bitter, and now there's no relationship at all between them. It has always been one of the most difficult things in life for me to deal with, but I've still managed to conquer it for twenty years. In fact, it has strengthened me as a man. Now my sisters planned mom's retirement party without involving me in the planning. Then they sent me an invitation to attend and to be deliver a speech. The bad news is that the weekend they chose would force me to cancel a trip I had already planned for my own family. My wife is already upset about the whole thing. And if I respond with a "no" in the invitation card, my mom will take it very personally. I don't want her not to enjoy her big day. What would you do? Let me be a bit clearer about why my wife is upset. She thinks it's unfair that my sisters planned the party without making me part of the plan, then sent an invite with a date that conflicts with our family's trip.

I'm 25 and doing well. I don't need any financial help, I just need the help a parent provides. I am looking for someone to vent to who isn't going to try to solve my problems for me and who leave judgement at the door and can agree to disagree with me. What helps you through the times when you need a parent most and it is not an option. I don't have parents anymore. I drink. I'm a very functioning drunk. I don't have friends because I crave the truth. I want honesty and bluntness. I find respect in honesty. Am I so far from reality and should I just accept that everyone in my life is fake and parrots what they think I want to hear? I've tried therapy, but I don't want to pay for "genuine care". My parents are very manipulative and have been my whole life. EVERYTHING is a game with some underhanded reasoning/outcome to be achieved. I find it very abusing. I don't feel that I deserve the abuse nor should I take it. The Senior Center is a great idea. Thanks. I'm going to check out an "adopt a grandparent" thing with my baby. Thanks. I love how you can take a side without even knowing both sides. Abuse leads to addiction in some. Mine is alcohol. I WILL NOT take the abuse just to satisfy my abusive parents. I am not a doormat. Answer the question before acting like you understand every aspect of my whole life. Just answer the question like an adult.

So, I'm 14 and ny parents know I love Green day and I asked my dad and he said idk and I was literally begging him and he said we'll see. Whenever I do ask them if I can go to a concert they do let me but it's probably cuz it's green day. They let me listen to them and I even have merchandise!

I ve always wondered how people who have both siblings and step-siblings (children from divorced parents, etc) would still feel the same towards them, in terms of love and protectiveness? I d love to know how one would feel about them.

Hi let's just start off with saying my parents grow marijuana and I hate where I live no body likes me. My parents are always mad at me. I do not want to here "Don't run Away" I have a plan but it has some holes 1. Buy a prepaid phone to beable to contact friend I'm staying near or in case of an EMC 2. Gear like cloths (1 week worth) 3. Food 4. In the state of California you will not be refused education 5. I will shower in Public pool showers 6. I am bringing $423 7. Doctors excluding D.M.D will preform work on teeth on a pro bono work It will take me ETA 2 days to arrive What else do I need? Thanks agin

In my family and culture my parents cousins are my uncles and aunts as well. Their kids are my second cousins. What is their title in your culture

I have planned to go visit my long distance boyfriend in Florida for a few weeks, I am 18 and he is about 6 years older and mom said she will not let this happen. I am planning to take an air port shuttle to the air port and just go. She says if I go she will go, and knowing her... She s not lying... she is nervous I am going to get kidnapped, We have talked on the phone every day, video chatted for years now and I know criminal history and jobs and even his friends- I am not worried how can I ease my mom.?.. I don t want her to come and ruin everything ... What do I do if she actually does come? He would come here but it's like a week away and I've already purchased tickets and a hotel room.

My mom doesn t trust me! I am 12 years old, just going into middle school but my mom doesn t seem to understand that I am a responsible smart young woman. I had my iPod for almost 2 years now and it s just as good as it was when I first got it! My Dad and Stepmom were chatting with my mom about getting me a phone, not an IPhone, just a phone! My Dad and Stepmom thought I needed one considering all the overnight soccer and basketball camps I do, all the sleepovers I go to, parties, and just if I want to walk down to the park. I wanted to play Pokemon go on her phone and walk down to the poke stop one street down but she wouldn t let me. She said I would forget to come back up just like I forgot to clean my room? That makes no sense! I forgot to clean my room because I have a life! Please help

Hubby and I have been married for 9 years. We only see her once a year, so I keep my distance as much as possible.

Okay so I'm 15 years old and I'm a girl. I felt like I've been held captive for too long!! I litterly try with my parents I help around the house but nothing seems to work for them I can't even step outside without them watching me I can't go to the park witch is down the street it hurts seeing all those other kids playing that are even younger than me they get to play an I get to watch them I wish I could go places with my friends like the mall or beaches or somewhere fun but I can't I have to be held captive in my home laying down looking at my phone im tired of this I've been asked to go so many places with my friends it's embarrassing to say "no" I have Hispanic Christian parents an they drag me into there religion an belifes I'm so tired of it they say Imma thank them when I'm older hell no! Missing out my teenage years it sucks not even being able to step outside without having my parents breathe on my neck I have no freedom what so ever all I get is a phone for no reason since I can't go places I don't know what to tell them because my dad will never understand that every single day I'm getting older I'm not a little girl anymore I have feelings towards boys now like I've already gone threw puberty my dad said I can't even have a boyfriend till I am 19 I don't play with blocks or dolls anymore I wanna hang out with my friends :(((

My son has been dating a white girl since their second year of college. They both graduated from medical school this past spring and they've been together for 6 years now. He says they've talked about getting married and he recently asked us what we think about them getting married. I don't want him to marry a white girl. I always thought he would marry a black girl and I'm not sure what to do. I don't know what to say.

He is 12 and I am 16. All he does is to spy on me and report everything to my mother, with lots of exaggerations and lies included, so I will get punished and he would get more money from my mother for his stupid games. I'm getting sick and tired of this situation. I've tried to explain the fact to my mother calmly but all she says is "No! Your brother is correct and you are wrong! Now get lost!" How could I deal with my bastard, charlatan brother??? Thanks for helping me.

I feel family always is supposed to like one another even in conflict. But my mother says her aunt, her in-laws, her sister, her one niece, her step-daughter, and one group of cousins of hers all dislike her. This all scares me I will be disliked by family which I feel I wouldn't be able to live with. The only family my mother dislikes are relatives who dislike her or relatives with bad social skills she has a prejudice against. I fear there to people won't like me as I am ADHD. So how do I avoid being disliked by family and does someone criticizing me outside of the immediate family mean they dislike me? In the case of my mother's aunt her aunt has criticized something my mother said about a cousin's divorce but I don't think the aunt dislikes my mother (her niece).

When I was 7 my mom left my dad when she found out that he was spending our money buying porn videos online. When I was 10 they decided to try again. They were fine until last year when my dad was out "for work" on my moms birthday and didn t call. Soon after we decided to move to a better house and on the day we were supposed to move, I caught him texting. My mom began to look through his calling history and he had been calling a woman almost every night for hours. He said that he would fix his problem and help us, but he didn t. He moved out on us two months later and left my mom with a 2,000 dollar rent with a teacher salary. He said that he wanted to be single, but instead moved in with the woman he had an affair with. Me and my mom have finally moved on and my mom is getting married to a nice guy soon, but now my dad wants me to meet his girlfriend. It s as if he doesn t realize that dating someone after you are divorced and while you are still married doesn t make a difference! Now he also said he s taking my moms car away in two days because it s under his name even though she paid for it. We are fine with him taking it, but he gave a two day notice! Also, he has admitted to taking drugs over the summer and that he is still addicted to porn and I have no idea what to do with him. It s as if he has no morals; what should I do?

I am neutral on the issues (both have made mistakes)

Well, I know it's not too late but hear me out; how would you move forward? I'm the first in my family to do many things, including college. I received NO support, especially from the immediate family I lived with most of my life. This wasn't all that bad, that they couldn't add value to my life -but they DID devalue it. My mother had me young and is emotionally immature. I have a brother who is a year younger than me and honestly never did anything but steal from me, hate on me, make living with him frustrating and then act charming to other/outside family as if there's no reason I want no involvement with him. My mother also was insecure and I think didn't understand that I never shared those insecurities; we were just never alike, but I couldn't get respect for who I was. She didn't bother getting to know me, but just made assumptions and shared it with people she knew to try to make me look bad. My brother had two kids and still lives with my mother (with his wife, who he only married to get more money out of the National Guard). I literally don't share any real parts of my life with my mother or brother, but they somehow (especially him) would think they could talk down about me? My brother never saw me smoke, but knows I smoked 420 here and there, so he tells people that thats' all that I do. This boy is literally had a child before getting his first job and is only a security job. to be continued in update: When I last spoke to them (a few months ago I lived there for less than a year to save up money for my own place and comfortably move out) his wife (no life goal having, fat girl problem/jealous type WHO I NEVER HAD A CONVERSATION WITH (mainly because she did have enough manners to speak when she first came around, and also likely b/c of something he told her) got really disrespectful saying much of the BS my brother would say, and my mother was right there! Taking there side. I don't argue with fools, and was so mad at myself for even being in the situation. My brother and mother put their hands on me and even worse my younger sister (13 yrs) was also there. Gosh, I since moved out and feel like I never want to speak to them again. EVER. But I also can't stop being mad at the situation. I just want to move on with life, live well and never think about the immediate family that tried to put me down. Will time heal this? I mean the pain of the situation, not the fact that I never want to see them. Unfortunately, there's also my 13 yr old sister and 12 year old brother. But I feel like they have to be raised by my mother, not me, and they are also highly influenced by her (which means they are not shaping up to be good ppl with morals and hard for me to deal with now). Idk, I figured I would try to reach out to them when they are older. Wow, this is long! Thank you so much for reading!

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I am sick and tired of my sister getting away with murder in my family yes murder she can do no wrong she is little miss perfect when I was getting treatment she gets all the attention in the family my family is a bunch of feminist

Hello everyone, I'm 12 years old (girl) and for the past 2 years I'm actually quite scared of my dad. I've known about rape when I was 9, and from that age I'm scared of my own life, when stranges come past me or sit down next to me, I'm scared as hell. Anyways, my dad keeps forcing me to kiss him on the cheek and hug him, even if I don't want to. Sometimes he like pats me on my butt, it really freaks me out, don't know if it's playful or if I'm in danger. I never really liked my dad, he is fat, has a weird smile and I don't like the way he looks. Mom keeps telling me not to be rude to my dad, but inside, I feel something's wrong with my dad. Is he molesting me? Please help!

I absolutely HATE going into Walmart or any grocery store these days because I'm scared of crane games. Most grocery stores in my neighborhood have at least one claw machine. Whenever we go to a new restaurant, my mother looks around to see if she finds a crane machine. If not, we stay. If there is, we go somewhere else. Whenever we go to the movies, I make a straight beeline for the auditorium while she gets concessions. I just turned 20 this month. It's embarrassing to me and my mother and I just want it to end. I feel like I'm missing out on some good food at restaurants and winning big prizes at Dave & Buster's all because of my fear. How did this fear start, you might ask? Back when I was younger, my daycare took us on a field trip to Peter Piper Pizza. I was scared of going in the arcade. My cousin dragged me in there anyway. I felt like I was in Hell. I saw this family gathering up near a "Clean Sweep" claw machine. The mother played the machine. The machine made music that I thought was too creepy. It was all in sync to the claw's movements. That tune never escaped my mind. I just want to enjoy the best that life has to offer again.

All my mother does is complain about everything. Nothing me or my sibling does is ever enough for her, not good enough. We walk the dog and clean the kitchen as well as make most of her meals we are like half carer for her. If I complain or question anything she asks me to do she goes on massive rants and get worked up. And if I say no to do something she rants to my sibling calling me a little ***** and a selfish ***** as well. I have no options to move out since I'm in full time education and have little money. My mother expects a lot of me a child to do stuff around the house, yes I understand doing baisic things such as chores but my mother seems to think we don't help enough and that we should be making our own dinner and Doing our own washing. She doesn't work she sits about all day watching TV whilst me and my sibling go to school. When were back after a long day she expects us to walk the dog give him dinner make our family dinner then do dishes. On top of everything she just complains about everything in general, life. She always moans and shouts about stuff if anyone disagrees and she blows things out of proportion. I am very sick of her and talking to her about it is not an option since all she will do it shout, is there any other way I can get through to her?

If they want me to go out or take a shower or something, they allways use the argument girls. Go out to check out girls, no girls will like you if you don't shower etc. But in reality my parents hate girls, if I actually go to see one, they ALLWAYS needs her parents phonenumber, and if we are outside, there is allways someone tailing us -.- And they are total beasts when it comes to gaming, my 3ds is allways their first resort when it comes to punishment, they allways take that away first! They allways say I should learn by my mistakes but they allways take it away before I can try out "mistakes" like playing before homework

I have an older brother who is married and has a kid and stepkid. He moved out when he was probably about 18 or 19, I think. He was working during his late teenage years and his job would require him to work until midnight, but he would also do random stuff like not come home at night. He would go over to a college that he wasn't even attending and spend the night there with someone supposedly (at least, he said). He had attended that college for a while...went there and flunked out because he had a girlfriend at that time that was very controlling of him. She didn't want him to talk to his mother unless he was on the phone with her, for instance. One day I came across some of his old high school notebooks in the attic...he was writing notes back and forth all day with her in high school saying that he would kill himself if she wouldn't be with him and such. He always acted like my mother didn't trust him, and maybe she didn't give him as much freedom as he "should" have have, but she was just trying to be a good mother. Fast forward to now...he's married, has a son and stepson, has a home and is trying to "live the life" above his means. The lady he married (and lived with for years before getting married) was basically born with a silver spoon in her mouth. Weird situation. Her father was killed in what we believe was a DUI when she was very young, and the mother has nothing to do with her. Raised by her rich aunt and uncle, her brother/sister are actually her cousins. My brother has become more and more distant over the years. He won't even call his mother unless he "needs" something from her, like for us to go to his house and watch his kid if they want to take a vacation or something. Sometimes when we've done that, I've felt that he has lied to us about where they went due to the way the circumstances were. I think he feels that she may judge him for his decisions in life. He has a very good job now, which his wife's uncle ("father") helped him get. His wife has an ex that she's divorced from (hence the stepson). There's reason to believe that they got divorced because he couldn't make enough money to satisfy her uppity lifestyle. My brother makes a lot of money (Over $7K per month after taxes), but they can "barely pay the bills". Around the beginning of the year, some lady called my mother's phone about some supposed debt. The other day, another lady recently called my phone (his brother) saying she needed to talk to him that day. I looked up the company out of curiosity, wondering why they were calling me. It looks like some kind of bank/auto loan place. They have two new cards. He wanted a fancy jeep to ride around in to "look cool." Then when he got one, his wife wanted a new vehicle, too. So, he got her one. Then she wanted to drive his jeep a lot, instead. It just seems like she runs up all of the money. They have a very nice house, but constantly make changes to the house that weren't necessary at all. My brother is denying his mother contact with her grandson. I'm his brother and I haven't seen my nephew since February. She calls him and leaves voicemails, sends him texts at various times, etc. He promises to call her "tomorrow" and send new pics of my nephew and such. He never does. He sent her a snappy text recently saying that he "didn't feel like being questioned" or something. My nephew was showing some signs of severe issues the last time we watched him for them. Supposedly around 5-6 years old, they thought my nephew had ADHD. They've got me on two forms of Ritalyn. Before that, I remember that he just picked at his fingers all day like he was worried. He wasn't himself. My brother was always sending him to his room a lot as if trying to keep my nephew from telling us something that my brother didn't want us to know. We think they may be fighting and not getting along. Now the debt collectors seem to be calling us. Erm...*they've got HIM (my nephew), not "me" on two forms of Ritalyn, rather. Silly autocorrect. My mother is pretty mad/depressed on a regular basis about how my brother is. After my brother didn't call for 3-4 months one time and wasn't answering any calls or texts, we made an unscheduled visit to his house one day. It was 3pm and his wife (37 years old and worked 6 months in her whole life, literally) was apparently flopped in the bed. She texted my brother that we were "interrogating" her. I don't know, he has just changed so much...it seems like his wife is destroying him and their family. She has whined about her "leg hurting" from some silly gymnastics injury back in her teenage days. She wants him to wait on her hand and foot for everything, take care of the kid, work 6 days per week and such...all while she flops around. I mean, it is his wife...that is his situation to take care of. But our issue is the lack of family contact. His life decisions seem to stink incredibly. The stepkid is the kid of his wife's ex...but that ex hangs around for everything. Holidays, my nephew's birthday (absolutely no relation to him whatsoever), etc. We saw his wife kiss her ex one day in the living room when my brother wasn't in there. My brother has even hired the ex to do some work on their house before. I don't understand. Whenever this ex is over at their house, my brother's wife goes and puts on some skimpy outfit and sits and stares him right in the face for hours. When we have been visiting before, my brother's wife would basically belittle him and berate him for his job. "Well, you're just a (job title here)...." as if she was saying he was a piece of dirt or something. An odd "joke" to laugh about with your family, towards the guy you're married to. My brother comes to her defense and she has him in this crazy grip for everything. I can't tell him what to do, but now people are calling ME about HIS debts. He's just messing up right and left.

Beginning from the time I was in college I have helped my mom with her slowly dying business. I would get calls coming out of class like "our cars might be repossessed" and took out a few student loans just to fix her problems and try to help myself stay afloat at school. When I went to basic training and tech school I sent her 500 here 700 there. While I was gone she overdrew our joint account and didn't tell me making my credit go down. Throughout this entire 6 year experience from the time I entered college to now, I've given her 50 dollars here 80 there, 20 here and there, I even moved in with her. The apt complex we were at wouldn't accept her credit, so I got the apt in my name. While I was there we barely had any food a lot of the time. I went out and got on food stamps to try and help the situation. It was miserable. One day she gave me 20 to go have fun on new years. I never asked for it she just did. then when she couldn't pay the rent she furiously said I knew I shouldn't have given you that 20. She would make me feel horrible about not helping her out, when I was right there with her trying to pick myself up too and get a job. {we had recently moved}.Since getting my new job in the military, she still asks saying she has no food.I cant continue helping while trying to get financially stable But I still get guilt tripped. What do you think?She refuses to get a job after her business failed. I moved away.she lives in my old apt b/c her bad credit.What do you think?

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My niece is staying over for a week and she's not the politest. I do not have any children myself and I have no idea how to deal with teenagers.

Hey so I'm a 14 yr old girl who's been on summer holidays for 2 months now and the only place I've gone is shopping with my mom and dinner with my family. All my other friends have been going out EVERYDAY. My parents aren't the type to let us go out - the last time went out with my friends and my parents knew was when I was 11 and that even caused a rift in the house. My bff came back from her holidays and wants us to go to nandos which is like a 10minaalk from my house. I've asked my mom twice and the first time she ignored me, the second time she said she's not giving me money cuz she gave me some some time ago and I spent it on sweet -.- I need to convince her by tonight cuz shes going away tomorrow and isn't coming back until 3 days before the day we planned to go. Please help! 10 points for best answer :)

I'm 13 and I just got spanked. Why? Well my mom asked me to put away the dishes rudely. It was bc she is having a tough day today. I went to go and put it away and I dropped the glass by accident! It shattered and she starts yelling at my to throw it away. Okay. So I throw it away. Now she yelled at me and said i have to wash the dishes. I rolled my eyes. She glared at me and she smacked my bottom. I yelped and told her she was b** and do it herself. I was really trying. I put away the dishes, laundry, fed my siblings, and I wanted a little freetime for myself. I got pulled over her knee and spanked with a brush (BARE BOTTTOM) until my bum was bright red and I was sobbing. It's not abuse bc i was a brat.. But I'm too old!

Him and I were fine or at least I thought we were. We had a nice phone conversation Sunday night and he told me that he'd see me tomorrow. I got my usually Monday morning Good morning text, then I got a text later saying how did your day go but when I called him to tell him how my day went he wouldn't answer the phone. He didn't answer or respond to any of my texts messages anymore for the rest of the day. He completely blew me off. He had never done that before. Then when I tried reaching him the next day he wouldn't respond. He only responded when I threatened to throw the boots he left at my place in the trash. I tried to see him that night but he blew me off again. However, he still sends good morning texts and ask me about my day. What kind of mind game is he playing? Has anyone ever had this done to them before?

many people know that males rarely cry but when i see my dad cry it really hurts me because i rarely see him cry. and it looks like he's hurting alot inside of him. my dad wont even share his problems to me. i actually think he's hiding alot of his painful experience or something. i do know that we have different kind of experience about our dads but im talking about the daughters/sons who have the same kind of experience as mine.

My parents are highly racist, homophobic, and dramatic. They always insult others because they don't like it and they always try to start trouble just so they can get entertainment from other people lives falling apart. I am tired of hearing their nonstop trouble causing mouths and i want to give them a piece of my mind. Though there is a chance it could backfire and they attack me for questioning them. That's why i'm asking random internet people for help. (great idea i know)

My middle daughter is eight. Recently she has been complaining about a bully in her class. She says that this girl is always sucking up to the teacher to get better grades and that she always tells my daughter she is mean. She comes home upset and I do not know how to handle this situation. I have talked to the teacher but she says she has not noticed anything.

I was dating a guy online for 2 years until finally we could be together in December 2015. I moved from California to Istanbul. I am only 18. i turned 18 when i got here. I didn't originally plan to be here for this long. I had a plane ticket back home for Feb. 1st 2016. I didn't really prepare myself to be away from my family for almost a year. Anyways, it has been very stressful since getting here. My boyfriend's mom was dying of cancer when I got here and we took care of her until she passed away this May. That was extremely heart breaking for me to watch. The reason I am here still is cause we are waiting for my boyfriend to have his visa interview in September. We didn't want to separate while waiting for the visa and of course I couldn't leave him while his mom was dying. Our visa case was in California for 5 months waiting to be accepted. Now we know we get to leave in September but I am still extremely homesick. I feel a really deep sadness almost everyday. It hurts inside. I cry almost every single day. One thing sets me off and I'm in a terrible mood for hours and hours. What can I do to help cope until I leave? I know I'm going home soon but I cannot control the sadness I've been feeling. It's terrible.

My parents (mom/stepdad) have been together for 20 years. I've always considered my stepdad to be my dad. Lately my parents have been having marital problems. My dad cheated on my mom last year and she won't let him live it down. My dads birthday is coming up and I wanted to get him a gift but I know my mom will be pissed. Since they've been fighting she's refused to give him the gifts I mailed him for Father's Day/Christmas. Shes been calling me a traitor for sending him gifts. She's turning everyone against him. It's so annoying bc regardless of what happened I still know he's a great father over anything. She's cheated on him as well but he doesn't know so I really hate the way she's behaving like a hypocrit. It's childish. I tell her to divorce him if she really feels this angry but she's dragging this out bc she loves the drama. My siblings have distanced themselves from my dad bc she told them he wants a new family & he doesn't love them. (They're under the age of 10). The older siblings are just siding with my mom. It's all too much to type. I want to send him a gift but I don't want to hear my mom yelling at me over this. My only option would be to send him money but she'll take it from him.

I'm a going to be a senior in high school and an all-state girl swimmer. I have multiple D-1 athletic scholarships, including some to some great schools I couldn't otherwise get into (I'm a good student, but these schools are even better). One of those schools is my first choice. I like the academics, the location, the coach, and the atomosphere of the swim team there. It's a great fit for me. The best fit. But when I took my on-campus visit I realized that they all shower together before and after practice, and that the showers are completely wide open (poles in the middle of the room). I don't have any sisters, have never really been nude around anyone, and my high school team had shower stalls with curtains. I know this "shouldn't" be a big deal, but it is freaking me out and making me consider other schools I have offers from. Some of them I noticed had private showers, others had open ones but the team went to great lengths for privacy. But it also feels like a silly thing to make a decision on. If the team is comfortable, its all girls, why shouldn't I be comfortable too? But I'm not comfortable, I'm really nervous. What do I do? And if you do think I should go, what can I do ahead of time to get more comfortable with the idea?

I'm a 15 y.o. girl. I recently, at my request, moved to Mississippi to live with my dad and stepmom because my biological mom has drug problems and has been a very inconsistent mom (to say the least). I love her, but my dad and stepmom have always been there for me. and I needed stability. Before I made the decision to move here, my dad and stepmom warned me that they still believed in spanking as a last resort even at my age. I was kind of shocked, but really wanted to move in here, and (since I rarely get in any trouble) wasn't all that concerned. This morning I got in big trouble for something that I, in all fairness, deserved to be in trouble for. But I was still flabbergasted when dad had my stepmom take me out back and bust my behind. She didn't leave any bruises or "hurt" me or anything like that, but she did light me up something good and the pain was/is very intense. I'm just kind of shocked. I know that they love me, I'm NOT looking to turn them in or get them in any trouble (regardless of the answer to this question), but this is so far from my cultural norms that I have to ask, are they even legally allowed to do this? Is it fair at all? I just never really saw this happening at my age, and it all went down so suddenly.... Is this legal? Common? Fair? Typical? I lied about where I was going, and yes it is a 2nd offense (I got grounded the 1st time), and lying is their #1 rule (understandably). I'm usually very honest but I was really stupid this time. The lie was about where Id been. I said I went to a friends house but I really went to a different friend's house to swim alone. I had permission (from the friend) to use the pool, but I knew my stepmom wouldn't let me swim alone and couldn't go with me today, so I went by myself and made up a cover

She is married to my brother and they have small children. She always has something to say about how my daughter is mean or spoiled. Or they try to correct my daughter. My mother watched my daughter while I am at work. I pay my mom. Then they will bring their kids and drop them off after my mom has watched my kid all day. Neither of them work. They are getting unemployment, living off food stamps, and school loans and grants. I have a good job, and bills. I am jealous of them. They always have money to go on vacation. My dad babies my brother and gives him whatever. They don't have to worry about working, dad will help them. But my dad is not that way with me. I have tried talking to my parents about it. I just don't know why I feel like this. I thought she was my friend, but now she has made new friends and does not include me anymore. My brother and his wife say things to try to make me jealous. (Stuff they buy, things they do, going out to eat. etc) While we are on a budget, trying to pay dr bills and our rent. Which he never pays fully. But gets away with it. We both rent a house from our dad. I have to pay all of mine. My house needs repairs. My dad will not repair. I try to hold i t all in and say nothing,I feel like I am going to explode. They are always asking me to watch their kids so they can go out. I usually want to spend time with my kid after I work all day. Why do I feel guilty for feeling so jealous of them?Should I just move away

I'm currently pregnant with my first child. I'm 24. my child's father is 45, he (looks way younger). I live 3000 miles away from my family. Theyre shocked by my pregnancy & they all want to know who the father is. I told them it's none of their business. My mom is angry of course and so is my best friend. I just don't see why I should have to tell them who he is. They're all so judgemental & I don't want to deal with them. He will be in the child's life and help support this child & that's all that matters to me. If you knew my family you'd understand why I just don't want them involved. It's more harmful than good. Should I just tell them to get it over with? Or keep it to myself? The odds of them meeting him are very slim.