When I was married my wife's father Bill wanted my help in starting a business. I gave him some money and some training to get him started. He agreed that if the business was successful he would share the profits with me. I continued to offer him advice and training for a few years until he as able to run the business on his own. In the years that followed I got a friendly divorce from his daughter Jill. Jill and I are still friends and we email and talk each other sometimes. Bill sold his business recently for a lot if money (millions). We did not have a written agreement about his promise to split the profits so his family and relatives got an attorney to tell him he did not have to give me anything. To my ex wife's credit she insisted he keep his word to me and give me the share of profits he promised. I knew legally I was out of luck as we did not have a written agreement when he started the business. I was young and did not know anything about business. I very much wanted to show my appreciation to Jill for standing up to her relatives that I took some of the money her dad finally gave me and paid off her student loans, paid off the loan on her house, and bought her the new car she always wanted (BMW). My friends tell me I was insane for doing what I did. They tell me she is my EX and I don't owe her or her family anything after they tried to cheat me out of money that was rightfully mine. Did I do the right thing or am I insane for doing what I did?

I need some help here, basically I m 14 and my uncle has a disability where he can t walk properly so he s in a wheelchair, me and my mom live just a few minutes away so we visit him regularly. Lately he has been acting really weird, he usually likes to sit and watch television or play games on his Xbox and he d occasionally come and visit us in his wheelchair for a chat and tea etc but the past few days he s been acting weird, I ve came down to his house and he was sitting on the floor eating food in the pitch dark, the lights were off, no tv on no nothing. He was just sitting in the floor, I talked to him and asked why he was just sitting in the dark and he kept on replying with "don t know" or "I ve no idea". So then I asked him if the phone has rang for him and he replied the same, any question I ask 9 times out of 10 he d just say "don t know". I ask him if he s listened to the radio lately and he says "can t remember, possibly". All the times I ve been down in the past week or so he has Been sleeping or sitting doing absolutely nothing and just staring at a spot on the wall, no tv and no lights on.The only thing I ve got out of him is how he feels nervous and he doesn t know why and how he s trying to work out what s going on in the world. I think possibly it may be a mix of anxiety and depression or some form of midlife crisis, I just thought it he best to ask. Thanks.

I'm 21, she's 20. Growing up I was in the accelerated program in school, I finished the high school curriculum my sophomore year and when I graduated, I didn't even get a congratulations. My cousin was in remedial classes throughout high school, she was taking algebra for the 3rd time her senior year, when she graduated our grandmother took her to Paris and have her $2000. Since I graduated I've been going to school on and off and often working 2 jobs. I never treat myself, which is expected since I'm young and just starting out, I don't have the money to go shopping or buy new items or anything like that. All of my money goes towards bills and groceries or I save it for my future bills and groceries. My cousin has worked a total of 2 months her entire life....and she blew all of the money form her pay checks in weeks from buying new clothes, shoes electronics etc. But she can, because at age 20, my family still gives her an allowance, and pays for her phone bills and food (her mom gives her $50 a week for groceries, just for her, for 1 week!!!). Recently she asked if I would buy her a bottle of liquor and I said sure, where's the money? She said she has none so I said I'm not buying it, she should have saved her money. And now my family is upset with me because I didn't lend her money....

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece Jill, my sister's daughter. Jill often comes to my house for help with her homework. If we finish her homework late she spends the night a my house and I take her to school the next morning. She told me she was a nervous wreck from her mom and dad fighting all the time and they were getting a divorce. She wanted to stay with me until the divorce was final. I told her that was OK with me but she needed her parents OK which I thought would not happen. However her parents thought it was best for her not to see them fighting all the time and agreed she could stay with me until there divorce was final. I was very surprised by their decision but I think they were thinking of what their fighting was doing to Jill. Jill moved in with me and has been living with me for 2 months. She is a very nice person and is no longer depressed. We have had a lot of fun time together going to school events and sporting events. Jill ask me if I would adopt her so she could stay with me permanently. I told her that I doubt if her parents would let that happen. I don't know if you can adopt someone that has living parents. Does anyone know if that can be done? Would a better solution be to just let her live with me as long as her parents are OK with it?

I don't like her at all no one in my family likes her but my brothers. So this girl is 2 years younger than my brother she got pregnant at 14 and had the baby at 15 and then got pregnant again and had the baby at 16. So she has 2 kids now they're in 1st and 2nd grade. So her and my brother have been living in my house for years and their kids are just crazy. Mostly the youngest one. Okay so my brother told me it was okay to tell them what to do if they were misbehaving and stuff but I guess according to her I can't and I should leave her kids alone and "the kids hate me enough already" just because I'm trying to get them to behave. By just talking. Also she tries to tell me what to do in my own house and she once kicked me out of the bathroom so her kids can use it because they need it more than me. Her daughter is seriously a demon child she kicks my stomach and bites me and tells me I'm stupid and fat. And she loves throwing my stuff around but I'm not allowed to tell her what to do. Her son once tried choking me and got no punishment whatsoever. Because apparently they're just kids.. Seriously need help

*Okay helpful answers only!* I'm 15 and live with my aunt but my legal guardians still have guardianship over me. I wish not to speak to them or for them to be told about me unless it has to be. They got rid of me last month of something so stupid... I uprooted my life by force to move away and that includes leaving my dog, my bed, all my friends, my school, everything. And it's very stressful you know? Anyways the bed really isn't mine and someone is going to pick that along with some other stuff that is mine. And what I mean by mine is that I bought it with my own money or it was given to me but someone that is not them. Like I said I wish not to speak to them. But what are they making me do? Talk to them to get the bed... Now come on isn't that childish? My aunt has told them everything... Who is gonna pick it up and when and what I want. Anyways if I want my stuff I have to call... So what do I say? Do I even call at all? This is picking a fight with me (btw I'm a short tempered person) This is putting me in a uncomfortable situation. How do I go about this?

My husband is a total perfectionist like his parents are. They've treated my sister-in-law badly for every mistake she's made that she cut ties with ties with them. My husband expects me to do everything perfect because he himself says he's perfect compared to any other guy. I can't make mistakes or he'll see me as a bad person and then verbally and physically punish me. He and his parents control my appearance by telling me to get eye reconstruction surgery to look more Asian because I look too confusing to others since my eyes look Caucasian and they want me to have an Asian nose. My nose looks more Caucasian than Asian. Plus they want me to get chemical straightening and thin my hair since it's too wavy and thick and be very petite and stick thin even though I'm 5'7" and weigh between 128 and 130 which is unhealthy just to look Asian since my parents are Asian but have White grandparents and my husband is Asian as well. My parents seem blind to my husband and in-laws attitudes because they wanted me to marry into this family just because they are well-established. Has anyone been involved with a perfectionist who expects you to be perfect or is currently involved with one?

I grew up in a poorer neighborhood in Chicago. Its not the worst but crime and poverty is present. This was all I knew. I went to college locally. After college now I make enough to live in a nice suburb of Chicago and I absolutley love it. I never knew I could feel so safe. I can go jogging walking outside without a care in the world. People who never lived in a crime ridden area takd this for granted Anyway now my friends and family still in the neighborhood make commemts like I am too good for them because I moved. I hate this. I still remember where I came from but more proud of the fact I worked full time during college , supporter myself to get a good job to get out of that place. I would think my mom would be proud but theyre not.

My mom collects them and my dad gave her one when they were dating. But today, my aunts dogs peed all over them all. My mom is still crying and I don't usually give into people's emotions but I feel really bad for her. So where can I find some old nursing books? 1920s or before. Preferably cheap

He comes here every weekend 1 night, he comes in the evening and then they watch some weird tv programs together and have cookies and stuff and my mom gives to me too. Oh and sometimes her boyfriend wants to take me somewhere but I don't like it too much, but I think the reason I get cookies and stuff is because they want me to like him I don't hate him wtf I'm just curious :/

My parents divorced when I was 3 and my mom remarried right after. It took my dad a few years to find a woman. I was 7 when I met her for the first time. She seemed nice. She had kids from her own previous marriage and we got along. I live with my mom but my dad lives walking distance away from me so I'm at his house two or three times a week. He isn't home when I come over and I normally stick around and wait for him. Lily will come home and see me on their couch and she gets very mean. This all started when I was 10 and I was trusted to walk to my dads. She's always rude to me when it's just us. They got married in December of 2014. I recently spent a week with them this summer and she ended up pushing me when I accidentally let the bread get stale. I'm 17 now and I don't know how to address this problem. She's called me a ***** to my face and threatened to take about my electronics that I have at my dads that are in my room there. I have told my mom and she told me she would talk to my dad, she did and that caused a fight between the three of them. What should I do? My dad thinks it's just jealously and I'm making it all up.

This tension has slowly built up. I recently got my licence and it seems as this is his muse. Every time I drive him somewhere, before we even pull out of the garage, he s telling me what a terrible job I m doing. Keep in mind he s 13 and has no experience what so ever. I m a good driver and my parents agree. He constantly making noises (clicking his tongue, singing, blatant yelling) and when I /nicely/ ask him to stop he refuses. I ve tried to explain to him that it s distracting and i can t focus but he still refuses to stop, even making louder noises. My mom has told him every time that I deserve respect, he "apologizes", and I forgive him, thinking that s the end. The very next time he s at it again. Not to mention the insults that are so petty. Today he noticed I wasn t wearing makeup and said, with a scoul, that I was embarrassing. I m very confident with how I look. I only ever wear makeup for myself. I try to explain things like this to him in a calm, loving tone as his big sister who wants him to respect and love people. Nothing! Just more insults! Maybe worthless wasn t the right word, but I do feel like he doesn t respect me. My parents and I have all told him off but nothing gets through to him. What should I tell him?

I have a brother who lives nearby. He has been malicious & tried to cause me trouble two different times. Once when I was married he wrote a letter to my husband claiming while he was out of town I was going out on him. (not true, but a vicious thing to do) He was dumb enough to even write it in his own handwriting. Years later I was in a relationship & he had a friend of his call my boyfriend where he worked claiming I wasn't going to visit my Dad when I said I was, implying I must be going out on him. (Again, not true, I was visiting our father) After many years of not speaking to him I saw him at the hospital where I Dad was having an operation. I decided to talk with him because it seemed so stupid to sit in the waiting room not talking. He never mentioned what he'd done to me, and I just decided to not say anything feeling happy I had a brother. We then started talking on the phone & even going places together often. SUDDENLY he then stopped returning my phone calls, so I stopped calling him because I picked up on the hint. He only emails me occasionally now, & I haven't seen him in many years. The emails are always very trivial, never wanting to know how I am. He has not seen my daughter, his niece in 16 yrs. or ever met my grandchildren. I never did anything to him. I never have figured out why he dislikes me so much. I ran into him once yrs. ago at a store & he said he'd seen me in there, yet he didn't talk to me. He actually hid from me.

I m the big sister with 2 brothers and I hate it. It s due to the fact that I was ridden with high expectations. Also due to the fact that I didn t have many female friends growing up and I was bullied/shunned by them for my bad hair and for being weird. I also had no older sister, cousin, or any female role model around my age to look up to. Whenever I got into trouble at school, my mother would say "I m very thankful that your brothers aren t following your example" or "your brother/another child have never been suspended or expelled." This hurts my feelings because I can t change the past and I hate being compared to people. Plus, the other kids didn t face problems like I did by getting bullied and having to defend yourself and getting in trouble for it. Even though I graduated college and an getting my masters, I m still holding a grudge against it because I see other girls brag about their cool older brothers/sisters, while I have the lame big sister role that nobody wants. I m pretty angry with God for making me do a job that I suck at, because my mother had a miscarriage before me. I wish I had an adopted older sister or have been adopted by another family so I could have gotten away with being a bad role model and I could have been free to be the person I wanted to be instead of being forced to be a good role model by going to college and then getting a masters. I ve tried ignoring the problem and I ve tried therapy, but nothing is working. To be fair, while its important to be a good example, parents should stop saying hurtful things when their children screw up, because it won't help.

Hello thank you so much for clicking my question. I am a 18 year old girl living with my 75 year old father, mother and brother. My dad has a huge debt and barely has any income. This month a lot of things HAD to be paid, but the bank refused to allow him to have more debt. I ALWAYS give my salary and schoolmoney to him but it's not enough and i'm so frustrated! My mom simply refuses to pay and so does my brother. I don't have a close bond with my mother, in fact i actually really hate her, sorry for that. I always have a huge fight with her about her not giving money to my dad but still she refuses no matter what.. We are forced to pay this bill within 5 days but it's simply impossible! I already gave everything I had.. I am panicking and don't know what to do... I would really apreciate advice..

Our daughter just turned 13, and she now wants a phone. Is this an appropriate time for her to have a phone? She claims she wants an iPhone but we are a family of Androids and I don't want to get her anything TOO spendy! Maybe I could get her an older iPhone like the 5? What's your guys take on this?

Hi I'm a 14 year old guy who is having some family issues. So 9 months ago, my 16 (now 17) year old sister had a baby girl. My parents were pissed. My dad more than my mom. I've been thinking about how my life is going to play out now. I feel like i'm going to be forced to babysit, lend money, and cancel my plans to babysit. Am i just being stupid? I feel like this child should not be my priority at all.

He told me he bought the engagement ring himself and the wedding ring. It turns our his dad paid for it all. The money wasn t a loan to be paid back to his dad either. The information was given to me from someone I trust. My fiance asked for the money from his dad. It wasn't an offer from the dad just to clear things up.

I have been bullied all through my life and my family don't interest me. I rather trade my family to be famous . I have little interest in my family besides the fact they support me and help me. I do need my family for support that's it.

Ever since my brother found a tick on him, he has been a little too careful and a little... I'm not sure. Its getting worse too. He won't eat unless he washes his hands with soap for way longer than two minutes. He's constantly complaining that I don't wash the dishes right. He overthinks about everything and is afraid poison is on everything, like when a spoon is wet. He's afraid everything's dirty and doesn't help the family at all. He loves video games and is paranoid about his health and dying. He's afraid he's doomed. In public, he hardly talks and is very, very awkward. I'm a pretty awkward person too, but it's nowhere as bad as his. At camp, he doesn't join in and only hangs around with this one other kid most of the time. The others think he's weird because he's always spitting. He thinks he has something poisonous in his mouth or something stuck in his throat. He's always not eating all his food. For example, a piece of the toast is a bit brown. He won't eat it. He'll chew it and spit it out. He thinks the rest of my family and I give ourselves the good things and leaves him with all the bad things. He thinks I do everything to him and it's all my fault. I'm worried for him. Can you please help and take it seriously? I want to know what's wrong with him. My dad doesn't want to take him to a doctor and thinks we can change him. Thank you in advance!

Is it true if a relative is upset with me then they dislike me? My mother feels the same that if one is upset with her then they must dislike her. She is overly protective but now I am scared of what people think of me and becoming an adult and don't know who dislikes me and why. How can I tell who really dislikes me and who was just upset with me but doesn't dislike me?

Doing it by accident I mean as obviously it would be an accident. His new wife's name is Joanne and his ex-wife was Jane. By disown I mean never talk to me again as his kids don't know he was married once before (not sure why but he doesn't want them to know)

My brother he's 19 has been vomiting for about 3/4 months. He would be ill for a couple days and then be fine and then it would come back and go. My family all thought he was faking but no we are really concerned. He's always sick in the morning about 6am and he's normally sick about 4/5 times a day. He can't get out of bed unless he's being sick.. He literally stays in bed all day sleeping.. I'm 15 so I'm really upset and don't understand what's happening. My dads dad my grandad died at 56 cause he had a brain hemarige don't know you spell it.. And my dads sister who was 2 died of a brain tumour. They are concerned he has one. He's been doctors twice and they say it's just a migraine! Today on July the 29th 2016 he was sick at 5am and 11 am and at 4:30 my mum booked a emergency doctors appointment at 4 my brother fell out of bed and collapsed he was unconscious we called ambulance but they said his temperature was fine he just needs to drink more?! Please help.

What if you're over 18 still living there? Old journals and drawings do take up space when you have spent years drawing and writing. But how could anyone think it's ok to make you part with them? It's not like something I can just go buy again. Journals and drawings are things I put my time into and they are very personal and pressious. They're things anyone would enjoy looking back on when they're older. I don't care if there's no space. These things are too sentimental and hold so many memories.

Hello, [Yesterday I boiled water in our water machine. I had a pot just below and sent my hand to pour hot water. my father who stood by me suddenly sent his plastic cup to drink. I said "NO" but it was too late ,his cup was filled and his hand got hot and he threw the glass by accident at my leg. I screamed with high pitch out of sudden pain and he screamed at me for "purposely pouring hot water to his cup". He called me stupid and crazy and invented this absurd story that I, for some reason, did it on purpose. He did not apologized for causing me pain and went to bed. (just saying, half an hour before we laughed together).] To be continued... To be continued in the comments!...

I'm 15 and my dad , when he is nice, he is so nice, funny and loving. But he gets so angry really easily. Me and my mum will be having a little argument and he will just but in and yell at me. This morning I wasn't keeping my mouth shut so he yelled at me and told me that if I didn't shut up he would make my mouth shut ( while being really mad and putting his hands up as if he was about to punch me in the face ) . He has dragged me down the hallway by the arm because I wouldn't go to my room and he called me a ***** . He scares me so much as when I do something wrong usually he slaps me really hard . He really scares me and my mum says he is more harsh on me than he is with my sister and she usually sticks up for me

So I am 17 and the only time I would want to drink is on the weekends with my dad when we are watching the football. I know that my mum would rather I didn't but Should I ask her to let me drink?

Well shes 18. Im 22. She is smart. Finished school. On her way to college. I was the drop out. I did get my GED but i work at a barbecue place now and dont plan on going to college for awhile. My sister is always like "you should go to school if you dont want to work at that barbecue place forever" i agree with her but its kind of embarrassing when she brings it up in front of my boyfriend and family. I feel like its kind of rude of her? Shes always telling me what she thinks i should do. Even with my animals. It makes me not want to be around her?/: what should i do

A friend sent me a special gift, It's too important to make this "Thank you" just a simple Thank you. I'm not able to see her in person for a long time. Would a video or a message be more special? I had originally thought to make a thank you video because I message wouldn't get the full emotion and the fact of the things you across but I'm afraid it might be too much

I'm 15, and love both my parents very much. Both can be discouraging though. When I first decided to join polo in my freshman year, my parents were against it. My mom was a little skeptical about it, still supported it. My dad ,on the other hand, was against it from beginning to end. He would always say "water polo is no good" or "swimming is not important" After polo, I decided to join swim to improve my speed and stamina for polo. Once again, my parents were skeptical. They didn't expect me to do it for the rest of high school. My mom said that I didn't need to do it for the rest of high school and that I shouldn't join again and my dad was like "AGAIN WITH THE SWIMMING?!?!?". He said that swimming was useless and that I should just quit it. This made me VERY angry with him, but I contained my emotions because I knew that arguing with him was no use. During summer practice, I was only able to come for one week because my dad thought that practice in the summer was not important I love my parents very much and understand that they work hard. I understand that they want me to prioritize school and get good grades, go to a good college, and get a good job and a family. But I also want them to know that I want to try new things while growing up. I'm gonna be a sophomore this year and water polo practice starts the first day of school and my coach and friends are wondering if I'll be able to play or not. I just don't know how to deal with my parents without hurting them.

He punched her so hard that she went flying out of the marriage, and landed in another man's bed. Apparently, he hit her so hard that her cloths went flying off, and when she finally lost momentum she landed right on another man's penis, and stayed there. And get this- he hit her because the poor dear sweet girl was just clumsy. She was always accidentally tripping and landing on erect penis, so that bastard hit her. Isnt he just a big jerk?

Im 14 and havent seen my dad since i was 5 and i want to go see him but my mom says no.. is that legal/ is there a way i can see him without getting arrested?

So, I'm a 28 her old guy named Arjun. Here's what's up. My parents are urging mr to get married. My parents have n arranged marriage (in Indian culture, it's pretty normal), and because if that, I decide to find my soulmate and marry for love, because my parents never really had a relationship. (I mean, they didn't argue, they just don't love each other.) They say I have to get married before I turn 30, because they want me to have kids fast. Anyway, Imy parents have very specific demands for a girl. One, they have to from India,two, they have to be from the same state, (in India, each state has a different language), and three, she has to be a brahmin. I want her to make me laugh,be good looking, be intelligent, and be fun. When you add all if those, it's very hard to find the right girl. I mean, how likely is that I'm going to meet a girl like that? Anyway, arranged marriages are basically for gold diggers, becayse you know what they care about most? Your job. I do have one girl who i really like,but the bad thing is, she isn't Indian. See, my mom's brother got estranged from his parents because he married a girl from another STATE. I don't like my chances. What should I do?

I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together since October of last year and my parents hate him, They think he's a bad influence on me because he smokes cigarettes, cuts class, and drives a motorcycle. Which is just one side of his personality. I don't know why he feels the need to rebel against authority and to have to be "different" all of the time, but he is very respectful of me. He's loyal and he treats me wonderfully. I know he loves me. But I just found out that I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. I have told my boyfriend and he wants to drop out (it's his senior year this year) so he can support our family by getting a full-time job. But I don't want him to do that. I don't want him to destroy his education because of me. And that decision would make my parents think he's even worse and more irresponsible than they already do. And telling them I'm pregnant would cause World War Three. My parents will freak, especially my dad. But I need to tell them myself before they find out some other way. How can I tell them? Do I just come out and say it? Should I have my boyfriend there with me for support? Or would that make it worse? I feel like I can't go it alone, but having him there might make it more tense. We told his parents already and they're supportive of us. They even offered to let me live there if need be. My parents, on the other hand, will most definitely not be as cool about this. What do I do? How can I handle this? I'm so scared.

How do you get past that guilt of always working. I have a 5 year old. And I work from 6 am to 430 pm. Monday thru Fridays. And Saturdays from 6 am to 11 am. I have to work alot in order to pay the bills. My husband also works alot and we never see him. He pays the rent and I pay the groceries, car, house bills, etc. I feel like I am looked upon as a bad mother by my mother in law. She says I work to much and I'm loosing time with my child. I'm going to start part time college classes in the night in 3 week . I've been doing this since she was a baby. I've always worked since she was born. And I don't think my in laws should tell me how to parent or give me advice because my in law doesn't work. She has never worked and they barely make ends meet. Now I live pay check to pay check, should I feel guilty for working to much. I don't like to depend on people finacially and it feels good to make money and spend it the way you want because you worked hard for it. How do you feel. Any tips. Help please I'm just going through a break down because I don't want to believe whay she says. The guilt ughhh.

My parents were having a party & I watched the kids in the back of the house. My sister (3) was playing with another girl (4). This girl is rotten. She cursed and acted trashy & kept trying to twerk. I really didn't like this girl around my sister. I could tell that she was rough. She kept trying to hit my sister & my sister is a VERY happy child. She does NOT want to fight yet & she shouldn't have to. I told the girl not to do that because it's not nice to hit people. Later she bit my sister and I told her parents what happened & they didn't seem care what she did as long as she wasn't in their way.I had to serve food and my told my brother (12) to watch them for a sec. Two minutes later I heard screaming. The little girl hit my sister in the forehead with a wooden mini bat. I asked her why she did that & she put her hands on her hip/rolled her neck/eyes at me and said "I can do whatever I want!" I just spanked her bottom 3x & told her to stand in a corner. She started screaming & crying like I pulled her eyeballs out. I took her outside to her parents and told them what happend. They need to learn how to control their child. I'm pretty sure they're on drugs bc they didn't seem completely there. I feel bad now bc I've never acted like that towards a child. Seeing my sister crying with a huge lump on my head just Made me so mad. I wish I had more control...How should I have reacted? I never want to reach that point again.

So im 16 years old btw, anyways my fam and i went for dinner at a local steakhouse. my dad said in the car "entrees only". but u cant have just an entree, you need an appitizer and a side or two. and tap water, wtf? what a cheapskate. So we get there and the waiter is taking our order, i order last. My mom got the sirloin cobb salad and my dad got an 8 o.z. strip. that was ALL they got. It took me a while to finally settle on the French Onion Soup, Surf n Turf with Filet Mignon medium rare and I got sauteed brocoli with garlic for a side," my drink was a cherry lemonade. My dad was angry but for some reason didnt say anything. When the bill came he asked them to send him it in email and he looked at me and said "Your in for it when we get home young lady." When we got home he said id need to pay him back through cuares since I also needed to be "punished" for not following instructions on entree only, so he made the chores hard. each chore was worth $10. I had to clean the toilet and scrub the bathroom floors (with a toothbrush), clean up the dog **** in the yard (with my bear hands), brush my teeth with soap, and dust the furniture with my hairbrush. He also spanked me and said "YOU BETTER NOT WASTE MY GOOD MONEY ANYMORE YOU SPOILIED BRAT." Im not spoiled though!!! hes a stupid cheepskate who dosnt understand you NEED APPITIZERS, DRINKS, AND SIDES WITH AN ENTREE.

She and her siblings don't get along but I really like extended family. It is a constant source of anxiety with me fearing I will miss time with extended family on my mother's side due to my mother's anger at them. How do I get over this anxiety-pain? I am an adult living on my own but of course I want to still visit my mother also so I am not going to cut her out. However, she is constantly mad at her siblings for personality conflicts that escalated when their father died and their mother got Alzheimers.

He has done the whole rehab thing before twice so I am not hopeful

Those on the aunt's side try to avoid the cousin and those on the cousin's side try to avoid the aunt? I am neutral though lean on the aunt's side.

They were children... but what do I do? I've never encountered this situation before.

I'm 19 and everytime I dress up she will tell me to go back and wear hijab and cover myself. When I wear it she tells me that I'm ugly and in general she critises my looks. Why is she doing this?

My 6 year old son has a 3 year old half sister. They have never met. They both share the same biological father. Me and my son have not been in contact with the 'dad' for the past 4 years and definitely don't plan to be in contact. It was the 'Dads' choice to abandon my son. After being messed about so much I decided if he ever got in contact I would tell him not to contact us again. He never made contact for me to even tell him that. I later on found out some disturbing information about him which isn't relevant, just the point is I don't ever want him in our lives. I was tempted to tell the mother because I'd definitely want to know if I was her. She hated me at the time and I didn't want to seem like I was just trying to ruin their relationship, so I left it. The mother is no longer with the Dad. They have broken up. I never considered getting in contact with her when they were together because I wanted nothing to do with him. Now that they aren't together, I am considering contact for the kids sake. I'm sure my son and his half sister would be curious to meet each other when they grow up. Would it just be better if they had childhood memories together? Anyone been in this situation that can give me advice on what to do? I just don't want any contact with the so called 'dad'.

My 5 yearl old s dad "john" and i broke up ovwe to yeara ago, evento though we live in diferentes cities (18 hours on the road, 2,5 on a plane) he has been a crear father I can t complain economically or in his relationship with my daughter. About a year ago he came to pick her up so she could go stay with him and his family. He told me he had a girl friend, showed me pictures and told me she had a 7 year old son, I was happy that she had a kid thinking she would understand the relationship between us, since we get along great. I asked him how he would introduce her to our daughter,he said he didn t know if he would as they d only been together for three weeks, I asked him to let me know if he did so I knew in case my daughter mentioned her and he agreed. Later when she was with him I found about some lies. 1)she had baby Sat when her grabny was supposed to. 2)she had actually showered my daughter. I was like please don t have her shower her and don t lie to me about who my daughter is with, he again agreed. But than I found out worse things. 1) she was living with him and they 3 of them slept together. 2) and she had not one but to kids, both taken away by family court and given to their fathers. I did all I could to talk and not fight, I was really mad, but managed to talk and not scream. Cont... She has texted me "drawing the line" because it's apparently unacceptable for me to have a conversation with him that is not strictly about my gaugther, I should infact talk to her about my daughter and she will mediate. a year She texted me setting limits to what I was aloud to talk to him about even suggesting I talk to her instead and that will be a messenger, I told her she was pou of bunderies ask her to never do it again. A few weeks later she texted me asking for relationship advice I told her to keep me out of her relationship as it was none of my business she ianukted me and I told 'John' about it in person when I saw him, when I did he told me they'd broken up. A few months after the break up he come over to visit our daughter, he told me how party crazy she was and that he had to be the one to make her visit her children and he actually paid the child support she had to pay. A month after that they got back together, because ehia family told him he was wrong, he isn't talking to his family, his mother even told him his gf isn't welcome in his house. Well his sister told me they are apparently moving in together, I can't ask him with out betraying his sister's trust and we're really close so I don't want to do that. And I don't know what to do, how to deal with my discomfort with out hurting his relationship with our daughter or our co-parent-friendship, but It's my daughter's well being, so I do have to do something, I just don't know what the appropriate way of doing it is . He was going to pick up my daughter for some national holy days in September, I jokenly told him "hey don't come all the way here to pick her up and invite me instead" he answered "well,mmm, you know what i'll deal with ih, and agreed" and in will be staying at his mother's house ( she is super happy because we haven't seen each other in over a year.

So I have a niece she is my cousins daughter, my dad has taken custody of her. I'm 17 she's 13. She been living with us for a while now, but I feel like my dad is so mean to me ever since she moved in with us, I get that she is a dad to her since ahe doesn't have one, but that doesn't justify the way he treats me. He takes my phone away for any little thing, he gets mad at me does faces at me when I just wanna speak about something or he'll ignore me. My mom ignores me sometimes too. But it's just he is making me hate him. The other day I wanted makeup brushes cause I really don't have none and then he just ignored me and started talking about how he's buying my niece a phone and all, I don't mind since I have one. But days later , I asked him that I still needed my brushes and he was like " Not yet" like okay you can buy a $300 but not a full set of brushes for $10 I NEVER ask for anything. It just hurts how he treats me. I have an older brother so technically I'm a middle child.

Hi, I m turning 20 in September but I ll be getting married in a few weeks. My parents are super old fashioned, and my mom, is super over protective and clingy. I want to move in with my fiancé because we have a long distance relationship, he lives 6 hours away & it s hard to see each other often. I want to move in with him because I have 0 responsibilities where I live, & honestly I have a lot of anxiety and stress living with my parents. When I m spending time with my fiancé, I eat more, I smile more & the stress is not there, the anxiety is not there and I feel at ease and happy. While I m here at home, I always have stomach aches, constant arguments and a lot of drama within the house. My anxiety is usually through the roof and I hardly eat because of the stress. When I mention moving in with my fiancé my mom goes off and starts bringing in her sickness and uses it as a way for me to stay, I feel guilty & sad & I don t say anything more, but I am feeling really unhappy here. I don t know how to handle this anymore because I feel like I seek approval but I think of my happiness and I think about how happy I want to be but can t be because of these set backs. What do I do?

A friend sent me a special gift, It's too important to make this "Thank you" just a simple Thank you. I'm not able to see her in person for a long time. Would a video or a message be more special? I had originally thought to make a thank you video because I message wouldn't get the full emotion and the fact of the things you across but I'm afraid it might be too much

I'm not quite sure what to make of the situation. Please don't chastise me I am legitimately confused about this and I cannot tell myself. So, when I was younger (about 5th-8th grade) whenever I would bring home a B for a grade (as in test or quiz not overall- my average was never below a 90) she used to scream at me, and call me stupid and hit me. In addition, even now, she is extremely focused on my appearance. She often says things like "you're ugly with your glasses" and then makes conflicting comments about my weight (either saying "no wonder you've gained weight" despite me actually losing weight or "oh don't worry about your weight you look fine just as you are" despite knowing that I stuggle with self esteem issues and am recovering from an eating disorder. Also, she has a short temper and as a result she tends to make harsh comments toward me even if something I say isn't necessarily offensive. And recently she's been less volatile, but not really because within a week she's called me a ***** twice and said that she "puts up with me because she has to." Which kind of hurts coming from your own mother. And it's not necesarily one sided, but I tend to not voice my thoughts like that out loud. And she provides for me and does a lot for me physically but at the same time the things she's said to me have wrecked my emotions. And because of that I can't tell. What should I do? Is she emotionally abusive? Am I just being overdramatic?

I'll try to make this as short as possible I am 18 years old and will start college soon, I have a part time job and my mother works nearly 80 hours a week sometimes just to support the both of us. My dad showed up at my job, seemed annoyed why I didn't give him a graduation invitation (From HS). My dad was never really in my life, the first time I met him was very cliche, like at 12, and said he was my dad. I feel like I'm talking to a stranger. I don't have his actual address but his phone number but I rarely ever see the need to talk to him. Anyways while on my job (and ruining a great but short break) he told me that I need to decide whether I should want him in my life now...I told me mom and she told me that he didn't believe that I was his son even after tests proved so and that he's really behind in child support, he hasn't even filed his taxes in a long time. Lastly she told me that I should make a decision myself. What should I do ?

Not very sure if what I did was too overboard but every friday we must go pray at 12:45 pm at the mosque, and my dad woke us up today for that.. in very annoying ways, yet I am not sure if I went overboard. Anyways he came in the room and told us to wake up, just to put that out there, I'm 17 years old and I share a room with my brother (by choice), so he tells us to wake up and I wake up but I'm still in bed, and it's 11:23 am I told him I'll get up yet he thought I'm lying, so a few moments go by and he's rambling and talking and lecturing us all at the same time, then told us oh! I think smacking you with this huge this huge thick wire would help you wake up. he comes to my side and he tells me to wake up and i tell him to stop while he smacks my arm, and he thought i was very rude for answering back so he smacked me more and i told him to stop again and that it isnt funny and it repeats over till I start crying and telling him to stop treating me like a child and that all he does is be annoying and I kept yelling at him and he was threatening that he'd hit even more, then when i got off bed we sort of kept arguing and he told me to stop acting tough?? then I entered the bathroom and so he left, despite me being responsible enough to understand that we have prayers and must wake up(which can on my own) . As a person I just hate violence, being raised and taught that violence is something ok and traditional?parents pls note that beingviolent wil just make your child hate u

I am 26 and thinking about moving... I am just a little worried about money. I have it but I am worried I will regret it when I see how in debt I am or how much work I have to do besides my grad program. Did you regret moving out? or was it a good decision. especially when you don't have good place to study and with strict parents and kind of caged.