I had an affair with a married 60 some y/o man, we never had sex, known each other for a few years,got more acquainted at church, i know his wife and family,we had affair for almost a year now,he's done nice things for me,getting certificates to a massage and given me money for my birthday. i think he was doing those nice things to get in my pants.That was the only thing he wanted from me,he doesn't care about who i am,he doesn't have respect for my decision to not want to have sex,he wishes that we would of had sex,met up at his house once,he told me was frustrated and gave me a BS excuse,he was mad because he didn't get his way,and he knows he wont get his way,is that why he has a wife at home? He told me that he wants inside of me and he would rub his pants against my hoo-haw. PLEASE, don't call me names like s***,s****,w*****,hoe, b****,i realize my mistakes and i am not falling for this trap again,just tell me what i should do to get go of my guilt of this situation? Should i let this fade away on its own or should i tell my parents? the problem is i allowed it and so did he,if he didn't allow it,he would not of pursue this affair with me,i am part to blame and so is he, he knows what he did was wrong,so now I'm going to distance myself from him and not talk to him after how he's treated me,he's married and i cannot do this anymore and will not do it anymore,I'm moving on with my life for bigger and better things,he can get his desires from his wife

Her ex-husband recently lost his job and had been selling off some of his property and toys. He's been paying his court ordered amounts, but he hasn't split the earnings from the sales. Unfortunately the stuff he sold was purchased after their divorce, so we're confused about what we're entitled to. Doesn't that count as his income? If so, we should be entitled to our fair share. We looking to see our lawyer soon, but want to go in with as much information as possible. She spent three years of life with this man, and he wouldn't be anyone without here. The judge saw that and that is why the judge said we were entitled to 40% of his income. His income has gone up from these sales. We deserve our share., Uhh, neither of us are able to work due to disabilities. I have generalized fatigue & anxiety syndrome and she has depression due to the all the stresses she went through while married to him. We have doctors who back this up. You shouldn't be judging us for something you have no idea about. Shut up, Liz. Btw, the abusive man in question has a sister named Liz. Go harass someone else.

living alone for kid for her future Missing my hubby who is working jn gulf Its really painful when you love ur husband more than self Does anyone on same boat??

My boyfriend legally has two last names, one from his mother and the other is his father's. The other day we talking about if I take both names when we get married or if I just take the one he primarily uses which is his dad's. Does anyone know if I would take both or just the one he usually uses?

A couple of years ago, a co-worker introduced me to her son (who had apparently been interested in me for about 6 months), we met, he asked me to marry him, I said I needed time to decide. He said he wanted to get married asap. I said I wasn't sure or in a rush. He stopped all contact. He got engaged to someone else shortly after. I heard after 6 months that he broke off the engagement. His mother told me last month that he wanted to see me again and that it was his ex-fiancee who had broken the engagement. I agreed to see him if he won't rush me. He has moved afar so I we have been largely communicating over video conference. I have met him in person only once. He seems very into me and is not rushing me. I really like him. But I do not want to make a decision just because he is there and wants me. I want to be sure. How do you know? How do you decide? In view of the first answer, the shared values etc is all there. It is surprising how much we think alike actually. sometimes I think he is being overly agreeable but even when I ask him stuff without telling him my opinion on it, it is remarkably similar. To clarify: I have met him in person quiet a few times. I am friends with mostly all of his family. I have met him once since he moved away.

I was in a married cousins without kids photo at my husbands family party and my sister inlaw said I guess I'm not in this one ,I thought she was joking but then after she left me out of all of her pictures and she has ever since . I asked her if I made her mad and she just says that in not around but I am . How should I act when I have to be around her because she blocked me on Facebook over it

I've been with my husband for 8 years. I'm 26 and he's 27. A few days ago I was looking through his old messages and I found out he had sex with a girl while we were dating before we got married while we were dating and he had sex with 3 girls a month before we got married over 6 years ago. He hasn't done it in 6 years. Should I ask him about it or let it slide?

We went over the in-laws for New Years Eve and brought our dogs with us, and we were supposed to stay over. Well it turns out I forgot to bring the dog's seizure medication with us (I packed it but left it by the door accidently). So we ended up having to drive home that night. Husband was saying in front of his family " we have go home now because SHE F'ed up. She can't remember anything. It's her fault." I didn't even think we needed to go home that night, the dog would most likely have been fine if we gave him the meds in the morning, but husband insisted we needed to go and insulted me in front of his family. By the way I do 90 percent of the dog care. Was he in the right to show such anger in front of his family? I'm really embarrassed now, i would not say such thing about him to my family because then they would have something against him.

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 17 years. He is 73 years old. We had an amicable non-contested divorce. We don't live in the same town and do not see each other. We have a grandson who is 18 years old and will soon be enrolling in college and will be accumulating college debt. Is it possible for me to take out a life insurance policy on my ex-husband without his consent and make our grandson the beneficiary of the policy. I would assume the responsibility of making the payments for the policy.

Don't they have anything better to do. Its funny when two people have sex. Just for a few minutes of fun they are making life harder for themselves because after that they have to look after their children, spend time nurturing them. Its sure hectic and pointless to have sex. further the world population is increasing at an alarming rate n u r yourself to blame. no sex = no children, thus the older populatin dies eventually and the world becomes much better but who will listen to me? isn't it so moral: don't have sex, there are only long-term harmful effects of doing it and hardly any long term benefits. Think about it, u humans...!! I wish someone has the balls to prove me wrong. Why sex? Do something else, anything... may be watch tv for hrs. at least thats better than destroying mother earth intentionally by having sex. more sex= more children, and when children grow up they just dont care about anything anymore. PROVE me wrong. I will be glad even if u try Isn't there any REAL man/woman out there, who can PROVE me wrong? At least be brave for a few minutes, and try to PROVE me wrong. You people disgust me, seriously I challenge you to PROVE me wrong. Why sex? Do anything else, but why this act? I believe people are too busy trying to live in an illusion. Nobody i challenge can face the truth. You humans(men) disgust me. You are just hiding behind ur wife, i am sure about that. You people are too lazy, dumb, scared to answer my question. You are an absolute waste of sperm but u all don't even care. I dare you answer my question, but i KNOW nobody will!! i win !! because i know i am speaking the absolute truth n u ALL r just puppets of someone else. u all r living in a world full of peer pressure, jealousy, hatred etc.and u ALL r brainwashed to believe that these r just fine!! I WIN!! hahahaha. Period. Chill people. I was PROBABLY trolling.Hahahha can't any MEN understand after he does it with her, she has to go through pain for 9 months.Why would WOMEN suffer because of MEN? Why do WOMEN even allow that act to happen in the first place? Do they forget that they will be in pain for around 9 months, then during child birth more pain. Some even die. Are YOU all still telling me that YOU are right no matter what I say, and I am wrong? Think about it, you HUMANS. 6 brave souls have tried to PROVE me wrong,but yet no one has succeeded. I WISH there were more brave HUMANS out there, but sadly all others are just big cowards, time wasters, ugly, greedy, full of lust, jealous, hatred. The ONLY human to ever live who is actually better than me is Lord Buddha(founder of Buddhism) NO ONE else is even MAN enough to reply. Go have sex, eat junk food, be jealous of other people, eat meat, masturbate,feel suicidal etc. etc. etc. do whatever you feel like. I WIN!! because there in no one left on earth to face me. Period. I will come again after some brave one tries to PROVE me wrong, but that won't happen. I WISH it had happened but . no one has the balls to reply to my question. I guess the few brave humans out there are busy trying to find cure for cancer, aids, malaria etc. But yet no one has succeeded. Overall HUMAN race is pathetic. 99% of the population is just happy to be mediocre. I am not one of you, thankfully. I have high standards And the happiness that the 99% is having is just semi-happiness mixed with feelings of sadness, fear, hatred etc. I WON'T COME AGAIN UNTIL SOMEONE SUMMONS ME. I PROMISE. AND I WIN!! Period.

I'm man and been married 10 years. Our relationship has always been really rocky. I have many times just accepted her behavior to avoid fighting (we have had some real blowouts) but now after 10 years I find myself depressed, and hopeless for happiness. On new years we went out with friends of my wife, one of the issues is my wife always goes way overboard with alcohol and makes an *** out of herself. Last night the dj was grabbing her ***, she fell off a chair while dancing, hiked her skirt up past her crotch while on the dance floor dancing. My wife's friends all told me "I deserve better" and "they would never stand for that". I have worked my whole life for the house and kids, my wife does almost nothing around the house. We went to marital counseling and we just bickered back and forth. The counselor wouldn't judge anybody's behavior saying it was up to us to work it out. I eventually gave up making appointments and leaving frustrated. I'm a man I fully expect to lost in the divorce. My wife will continue her cushy life style and I'll be impoverished paying child support and alimony. Mind you my wife also has a big money spending problem. I just can't bear to come to this realization, but yet I continue to in despair. I did everything right, I went to school, got a good job, thought I was marrying someone who wanted a family life, now its all destroyed. I just cant bear it.

My landlord has repeatedly entered the place I'm renting without giving me any notice, for example, one day last week he came in unannounced while I was there to get something of his in a closet that he had stored there awhile back. He continually finds reasons to come in for repairs and gives me no notice...none of the repairs are urgent or even necessary...and certainly could wait for a 24 hour notice but he likes the freedom to do as he wishes. He's expects me to live by a very strict code of renter's conduct yet doesn't respect my personal space. I told him I don't appreciate how he hasn't respected my personal space and would like to leave and gave him notice. I have always paid rent on time and he is upset that I'm leaving...I'm worried that he'll try to ruin my chance of finding a new place by not giving me a good reference. I always paid on time and was a good tenant.

Is it wrong of me to be uncomfortable when my 13 year old daughter comes in my room and wants to lounge in my bed with me and my husband and we haven't changed the bed sheets yet since the last time we had sex? The stains dry on the sheets and the bed unmade? The door is closed but not closed to and she can hear the TV from outside the room. She comes in and walks to my side of the bed where i am laying. She sits on the edge oof tyhe bed next to me and gives me a kiss. A few minutes go by until a commercial and my husband tells her to get comfortable and lay down. I lean over and ask him "are you serious?' He says "it's new years day, relax"...We have had this conversation before about our unmade bed and what it may imply to a teen girl. My compromise would be to get up and make the bed. All he sees is that I complain too much about everything. He says that I judge her by calling her a Blonde. She is. I can tell her to make sure her bedroom door is closed before we leave the house and stand in the hallway in a daze. Come back out to the car and I can ask her if she closed her door and she will say "Oh, I forgot". Blonde. We all have blonde moments. But she does it enough to earn her the nickname Blondie. He says that I am critical of her laugh. She has this loud screaching thing that she does and my PTSD and my anxiety does not allow for any decompression when she does it. My husband doesn't understand PTSD and it's triggers. When she does something as simple as enjoying what's on TV I freeze. I react and I am jumpy. I try to hide the fact that I feel trapped when she is standing close to me but my husband sees me as being cold and non maternal. I try to talk to him and inform him but then he gets anxious from talking about the same sht and that ignites an argument.

I messed up big time, I stayed with the kind of woman that everyone runs into at least once in there life. The kind that hits you but you cant hit back. The kind that isolates you away from your family, friends, etc. My own family will not have anything to do with me because for the past 8 years my wife has pushed them away, telling them bad things about me and me being the submissive dummy that I am never disputed her because I did not want to make her look bad. Now she has resorted to cheating and humiliating me with it. Right now as I am typing this she is at her ex-husbands, she called and informed me that she is "Spending The Night". I protested and she said that I am free to leave if I don't like it and proceeded to say that nobody would help me, shes right about that part.

I am 15 and my parents have been divorced for almost 4 years now. My dad got married to another woman and I was pressured to meet her. I was crying on my way to meet her. While all of that was happening, my mom was judging my dad's actions so badly, saying that he shouldn't have made me meet his new wife (and a daughter of her own). However, the divorce didn't end so peacefully - my parents are not talking right now, all of the things they ever owned are now being separated and argued about in the court. Now my mom found a boyfriend and wants me to meet him. She told me a lot about him and she said that she loves him. I am scared that I might not get along with that man. Also, before this whole boyfriend thing, I would always joke around with my mom that when she will get married again, we will do so many amazing things. Now I regret it and understand that if everything works out between my mom and her boyfriend, they might get married. I don't know if I am ready to welcome another man into our family... I got so used to living with just my mom in the house. Please help! I just talked to my mom about this issue and she told me that whatever my opinion about this man will be - she won't care. She said she will still love him no matter what I think about him... And if, after getting to know him, he will want to come to our house, she told me that I can just go to my room and stay there. How should I react? I'm in a serious argument with my dad for a year or so now and we only text sometimes (once a month or less). Last time I saw him was 2 years ago. I saw his wife only 2 times in my life. We don't talk at all. There're some problems concerning that side of my family as well, but it's not really on my mind right now.

We have been married for 2 years (dated for 3 years), and my wife is what they describe as "curvy"--a larger woman, but not with the double chin, stomach hanging out in her lab, jiggling behind, cottage cheese legs, etc. To tell you the truth, even though I'm only 145 lb bag of bones, I thought she looked fabulous. Actually, when we broke up a while ago and I was seeing a girl who was 105 lbs, I always found myself habitually making a wide circle with my arms when I'd go to hug her, and saying in my head, "Damn, where is the rest of you?!?" It's like my tastes have been be permanently altered. Well now recently, my wife has been talking about losing weight, and on a social networking profile, she put down that one of her aspirations is to fit into a size 1 dress some day (size 1?!?) Now she isn't eating anything but yogurt and salad, and she's introduced a new member to the family, called a scale. Honestly, I loved her just the way she was and don't want her to change a bit...I just can't picture her at a boney emaciated 75 lbs...is it wrong not to want spouse to change? There are so many men out there that whine about how fat their girl has gotten and how they want them to lose weight, I'm just not one of them!

We have been married 10.5 years and have 6 kids under 8. I have been a sahm the past 8 years. Wednesday he says he wants a divorce. He isn't happy. I give the kids too much attention, Im always tired, I bug him to do chores and don't let him see his friends whenever he wants. Specifically I threw a fit when he wanted to take a weekend trip with his one friend who is seriously bad news the friend lies cheets and has multiple dwis. So he talked to his lawyer and he told him not to move out. But he left for work yesterday and is still not home. I assume to go out for new years. I am really overwhelmed right now. I can't get ahold of any lawyers because of the holiday. What am I supposed to do next? I am super pissed that he wants to live here and come and go as he please. Can i kick him out? He hasn't served me papers yet. I read about having to do that.

Only people who get married? I would just like a few opinions because this is becoming annoying. I see TV shows like "married by my parents" ect and it seems to me like the idea being portrayed is you have to be an independently successful person in order to settle down. I mean do people really have to have a college degree in order to be found worthy enough to get married? What about the rest of us?

duty to stop him form looking foolish?

i m married 1 year ago and i ve a beautiful wife i love lesbians and bisexual ladies and me and my wife are open to each other we watch porn, we watch lesbian scenes etc. I told my wife i would love to watch you with another lady she said are you serious i said yes. She said for you i will make out with any girl . I have an older sister she is 28 and married she talks about girls figure and comments on girls. Me and my wife are open to my sister. I want my wife to kiss my sister and she doesnt know how to get closer to her can you help please?

There is an atheist member who hate marriage and call it a joke

money....but he turned me off because he is old. I dated younger men who are well established and are energetic and are moving up in their ranks. Is it a new trend now for women to date or even just to have fun with a young, sexy full of life men? Brian I am not looking to get married. I was married. I want to hear from the woman! Not a man, for all I know they could be old and bitter. Thanks. Kevin I have gone for it. I love it. Infact I am still with the young man we have sex all the time is been two years. Sorry I feel repulsive against older men.... why should I lie to myself. I have confidence to know what I want. Kevin like I said I am not tied to him. WOW you sound bitter. Well then the same can happen to you. The young woman would dump you for a younger man. Kevin its sounds like a younger woman cheated on you and you wanted to marry? That's your problem not mine. Brian the younger man I am with is a Wall Street high roller.. Young attractive with $$$. He is not a low life younger man. They usually hook up with younger woman who don't care. Patricia thanks! We are lucky women with younger men. Who wants an old man. YUK.

Every time my ex has visitation, he invites a child over. My daughter does not like this child but he uses her to entertain her as he sits and watches sports all day (her words). Our child has been called into the principal for arguments with this other girl. They are 10 and she bullies her on the bus and in class. My ex still sees the need to keep our daughter out of his hair and away from him by letting them play upstairs and stay up as late as they want unsupervised. When our child comes back to my house, I have to sit with her as she cries about how the girl bullied her at dads. She asked me to tell dad to please stop having her over but I can not control what he does as we have been divorced for 6 years. She now comes home with a huge attitude towards me saying I am a bad mom who won't help her. She treats me like this girl treats her with name calling, makes fun of me, and of course she gets punished. She resents me. What can I do here?

My fiance asked a raise, didn't get it, so he quit without any back up plan. Since then, he has been doing side jobs not in his field, some in his field. He is not looking for a job, I pay for everything. He finally giving me $ for monthly food expense, but, not all other bills. When I talk to him about it, he says "why should I get a job, I am making money with side jobs." This is very frustrating. I want a partner, not a "child". I even went ahead and posted his resume online. He got mad and said "I know you think I need a job but I don't". He wants to start his own business, but, is not doing anything towards that goal: like putting out flyers or business cards. What do I do?? This has been going on for 7 months! He wasn't always like this and, he is not the man I met. He is only making about 25% what he would be at a normal job in his field, and that is not including medical insurance and 401k benefits! I even offered to make him a website and business cards to get his business going, he gets MAD when I suggest all that and says "he has enough work". Serioulsy!?? What do I do??? I am at my wits end. I just don't understand, why is he doing this? i even tried to have a conversation about what his goals are, he doesn't have any! If I even try to talk about it with him, he gets all mad, says it's all my fault because I wanted a "nice" house and walks away!

I have always had a normal custody agreement with my ex for 5 years. My daughter has a new friend who lives within a mile of my house. My ex has this friend over a lot. My agreement states I am to pick my child up at 6 when I have her. From his house. Instead, he says I can't and that he will drop her off because the friend is over and he is taking her home. On Christmas and New Years (today) I have had dinners. I have had to drive home from my parents (40 minutes both ways) and wait on the porch for my ex, just to put my child back in my car to go back over because my ex demands she be dropped off with her friend. Like I sad, the agreement states I am to pick her up. He doesn't want the girls separated for one second and it is a total waste of time. Advice? My ex lives 5 minutes from my parents where we are having dinner today. Yet, he won't let me come get her as the agreement states. So how am I being petty? I'm the one who has to drive back home and sit and wait then drive 40 minutes back here.

My wife is angry with me, because I told her I don't want kids with her. This sounds harsh, but she's aborted twice and she really hasn't grown up. After about 5 years, she still can't do laundry, she can't do dishes, she can't cook... she likes traveling almost every other weekend (and then complain I am not saving enough..). She cries and throws temper tantrums publicly when she doesn't get her way or if our plan doesn't go through (even if it's not under my control). She complains I don't make enough and also doesn't want me to change jobs... the only thing she's good at is doing her job, but she doesn't get along with anyone, so after a couple of years, almost compulsively she switches jobs. The thing is, she says she's getting old and she's afraid she won't be able to have kids anymore. Which in my opinion is a good thing, because she's very unstable (with a history in her family of suicide and mental instability) and I would be okay with being married to her and keeping her happy, but not including my shortcomings (which I have a lot of), I'm just not sure if we can raise a healthy kid. I mean our relationship is really not that stable to begin with, if we have a kid and we end up divorcing.. I really don't want to risk having our kid be alone with her. What should I do??

My dad tells me that women will stick around only if you have money, a proper job, etc and if you happen to lose one or all of these then she will leave you for someone else. Is this true? I am only 21 dating a beautiful girl. My dad doesn't know that I am dating but he told me this when we were speaking casually about marriage and relationships. Does true love really exist?

I really don't even like men my own age at 50. I like them younger and who does not? Thanks.

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It was a big inconvenience when my garbage disposal broke. And I ve been tying for over a month to get my husband to fix it or help/advise me on what to do about it. Our sink has double sides, so were only able to use one side but it slows our cooking and cleaning down and it s been a nuisance trying to dump the water that clogs, etc. My husband tends to leave everything up to me and can be very careless and inconsiderate. And since I didn t know what to do and my finances were limited, I had our son do his best to fix the garbage disposal, which was drained and clogged. It involved taking things apart. So now several months past and we ve found out that the sink pipes were not put back in place properly and there s been a leak that going all the way down to the basement. We found out when an odor started to surface. Now my husband is complaining excessively and ridiculing my son and I just feel so bad. There s only so much I can do and I ve tried multiple times to get my husband to help me but he at that time was not concern. I don t know why I feel that this is all my fault and I m feeling guilty about it.

My wife was not at the party

So my husband and I grew distant when I had a miscarriage. He apparently had this problem in the past (I found out from his mother). Anyway it was really hardcore bondage type stuff and I walked in on him looking at it. When I called him out he said it was nothing. I don't know if I should seek professional council or seek help from a Bishop...I feel like my marriage is crumbling. By the way we are both in our twenties.

When a guy proposes to a gf, before that, are they gonna supposed to plan about the marriage and the date of wedding? Or the guy must propose first.. please help

wives who for one reason or another decide to stop having sex with their husband. then refuse to talk about why or allow any affection or sexual advances.

I was with my ex-wife for 17 years and have 2 kids with her that we have joint 50/50 custody of. She had an affair with a co-worker and divorced me to pursue him. I tried for a year to 'win her back' without her putting any effort or interest in. The guy dumped her after a year. We've been divorced for nearly 3 years now. I interact with her on almost a daily basis about kid stuff. I see her 2-3 times a week during kid drop offs or at kid activites. She frequently asks me to do stuff for her. Help her fix this or that. Carry heavy items from one place to another...transport something in my vehicle for her somewhere. On occassion she comes to me looking to vent about her family members or work. She sometimes wants a shoulder to cry on about her life or her health. She wants me to be there for her in the ways that she needs me to be there for her, but she is unwilling to do the same for me or be there the way I need her to be there for me. It's kinda like, she got rid of the cow, but still wants to benefit by getting free milk. How do you set bounderies in these cases? Sometimes, I push back and tell her, "You had me. I did these kinds of things for you for 17 years and you took me for granted and fired me." Othertimes, I do things for her because I want to show the kids that I'm not the bastard that she tells them I am. I never was mean to her to treated her badly, but that is the story she tells the kids to justify the divorce. Suggestions?

My best friend just got engaged and he just got an AR15. I want to get him something for it as an enganement present however he already has a scope, fore grip and Pmags. What is something I could get him that he doesn't already have? Thank you for the help