I have 2 sisters, one who's 27 and one who's 15 turning 16 in a few days (I'm 19) me and my older sister aren't close but me and my younger sister is  and I feel like me and my younger sister are but I feel like were growing apart. we didn't grow up in a household that expresses our feelings and I don't know how to approach her to let her know I'm here to talk and after that phase, I don't know how to just sit down and let somebody talk to me nor do I know how to talk about my feelings (her as well) but she's getting older going through stuff, we don't really have a good mom, so I don't want her to feel how I felt when I was that age, unable to talk to anyone, getting depressed. Like I did. Help!!!

Had an argument with someone I'm living with.  Has been snapping at me about the smallest things for the past few days. For example, I ask her if she knows what the dinner plan is. She'll get flippant and tell me to ask her boyfriend since he's the one preparing meals. It's not what she's saying, it's her tone and how she words it, there has to be some kind of attitude when it's never really necessary.  Today it hit its peak. I ask her boyfriend if I can barbecue the pork chops tonight. She snaps at me to ask HIM instead of HER since he's the one making them. Uhhhh...I did? I pointed out that it'd be impossible to ask an open question like that to just her if he's sitting right next to her on the couch.  I should've told her it was the way she was telling me what bothered her, not so much that what I did bother her in general but she won't let me.  Well, I'm trying to explain this when she turns to her boyfriend and goes, "Am I in the Twilight zone? Is it me? Is this really happening?" Turning her head to me and pulling this stunt with her. First I say she's being condescending and snarky, she just continues to do this and compares me to her boss who she also complains about. Basically being petty. So I finally snap and call her a snarky *****. That it may not be everyone else but sometimes it's her causing the issues (has had conflict with other people, boss and others).  I'm contemplating apologizing but don't want to if I'm not the only one in the wrong. Thoughts?  Just give it to me straight. If I'm wrong for calling her a ***** then by all means tell me. Just be respectfully but brutally honest. I'm just tired if always saying sorry when she accepts the apology but never says a word of how she may have done something to egg it on or add to the issue. 

So I found my little brother on Facebook, he was maybe 3 the last time I saw him and now he's 14 so I doubt he remembers me much. Our biological mom was a drug addict and so I ended up moving in with my dad and since our mom and his bio dad both were heroine addicts he was put out for adoption. His adopted mom isn't a huge fan of his biological family because she's scared he'll find out what our mom was really like. I really want to message him, but I don't want to seem awkward. What should I say to him? 

My moms boyfriends never shuts up all he does is talk on the phone next to my room all you hear is his voice every second for hours..not only that but he just thinks that he's "the entertainer of the house" all he does is sing obviously loud.. like I don't find it funny i find it's very annoying.. I can't stand him.. overal is this normal or bad??  Ether he's laughing, talking to himself, singing, talking on the phone.,she's just so obsessed with himself and it's so annoying 

They dont say it but they hate her too. I dont know what to do anymore. Im tired and pissed. I wish she was dead or aborted. 1. Only ate goldfish crackers for a month and mom kept buying them and did nothing 2. Obsessed w toy story, saw the last one 6 times in the theater w my mom, stole lots of toy story sh it at the fleamarket when we wouldnt buy it, has sex with toy story toys. There are 2 woodys and some barbies on the floor in her room missing clothing pieces. 3. Feeds the dogs, cats, horses and other pets lots of inappropriate food and objects that could kill them. Shes the reason our chihuahua is 26 pounds, doesnt move or breathe. 4. Leaves bathroom door open, takes clothes off before getting in bathroom, always clogs toliet and leaves it, shits in shower and its halway still there 5. Broke 2 of our computers 6. Always fighting with all of us verbally and physically 7. Always crying over stupid **** like dying on a video game 8. Picks her nose 9. Eats inappropriate objects and other peoples prescriptions 10. Draws on all the walls and the tv screen a few times 11. Likes porn of Dipper, looks at it in the family room on her ipad 12. Always goes as retarded **** for halloween like the poop emoji or some unknown stupid character 13. Was in special school then online school 14. Always acts up on holidays very badly 15. Got on my phone, stole his number and sent my ex boyfriend a picture of her tit and said look at my big boobie when she was 14.

hes 18 am 12 he has his own car. every time i ask him he laughs and says no is no, and i want to go get eggs. i have angry issues, it makes me want to hurt someone and then cry.he never wants to take me anywhere. a week ago i had to call my 19 year old cousin to pick me up cause i had left a ingredient that i did not get. And i really want to make cookies.:( 

She claims she has depression and she is still able to go to school and work everyday. People with depression can't work or go to school due to their disability. 

My dad and I are both handle the stay at home order fairly well, we're both creative people so we are constantly finding projects to keep us busy. My mom however isn't taking it so well. Every little thing irritates her. She throws full blown tantrums over little things like the battery life of her iPod, a password she forgot, and the normal sounds our house makes. When my dad and I try to calm her down or help her she shouts over us and refuses to listen to anything we have to say. We've tried ignoring her and staying in different rooms but then she seeks us out only to rage at us.  I've never seen her like this, she is usually in such a good mood and is more than happy to join in with whatever my dad and I are doing. My mom is a social person and I understand that her behavior isn't personal, she's frustrated with being stuck at home and doesn't know how to cope. However, her bad mood is beginning to affect my dad and I. We can't do the things we want to do anymore because we don't want to upset her more. Due to the stay at home order there is no where we can go to get away from her either. I don't know what to do or how I can help her. I can't spend the next however long walking on egg shells and not showering because the dripping faucet triggers her.

Every so often my mom gets in these moods that make me just want to leave. Yesterday, I don't even know what happened. In the morning she was fine, then like 30 minutes later she was all moody about something not being cleaned. She then started being more rude to my dad as the day went on. As the kid, I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. My mom talks to me as if nothing is wrong, but then my dad tries to talk to her like ask her how her day was or what she wants to eat for dinner and she either doesn't acknowledge him or talks to him like she's annoyed. I could tell my dad was trying to give her space because he knew she was mad. Then in the morning, she was mad again. He went and got us breakfast. She doesn't even say thank you or anything. He tells her he's leaving to work....again doesn't acknowledge him. I'm so fed up with it. Today, I haven't talked to her because I know I'm going to say something that'll make her even more mad. Like today, I was in my room and instead of asking me the question, she texts me from her room... I don't know what her problem is but I'm really annoyed. I hate that she does this silent treatment thing. The only good thing I've learned from seeing my mom do it is that I would never want to do or be that way with my husband when I'm married.

My Dad has been lying to us for years about smoking. He said he quit years ago, but I know he still does. I've seen his hiding place for cigarettes and he's accidentally left lighters around. When confronted, he says they're old. My Mom believes him, but I know he's lying. I've seen him smoking when he doesn't know I have. I'm scared to say something because I don't want a huge fight especially during this pandemic. But, I have been keeping this in for years and I'm going to burst soon. I can't stand how he can lie so easily and act like we're fools. I love my dad deeply, he's one of the closest people in my life. My mom, too. I don't want to upset my mom, either, because she has heart issues and I don't want to add to her stress. I'm old enough to have a hard conversation but yet I'm scared. What do I do? And how do I do it?

I literally have hatred for him over this and it may be immature of me. 

These are so special to me that I would not be able to bear to miss it. 

Hey, it's me again (M19). I went to an online counseling class, and I was told that my current lifestyle is unhealthy. I don't get why my parents keep telling me I need to change. I live with my parents, I have no real friends (all online), I have too much trouble with women so I stopped trying for a relationship, I rarely see other people, because of my job- I code, and it pays well, I hoard all of my money and I never buy anything, I'm thin as a piece of paper, I don't use my phone for anything, I'm scared to drive (my parents even bought me a '94 corvette to "encourage" me to drive and meet new people, but their plan backfired and now I don't leave the house). but I'm not upset. This was just my destiny, and I don't get why nobody else sees it. My parents have begun to ABUSE my feelings; they say stuff like "We didn't raise our only son to be a coward" and other things like that. They really wanted grandchildren, and when I broke the news to them last Christmas that I would never, my parents went into a rage for about a month. Ever since I said that I was taking online courses to stay at home and not leave when I was 18, they've been slowly getting more and more upset with me, and its upsetting that they can't see the joy in being safe, like I am.

It had been scheduled for Memorial Day but we postponed it to 2nd weekend in July. It will be a small turnout and I think if things are still really bad I may just cancel for safety. How would I hold a virtual one and how does Zoom work where evryone is not talking at once?

i am 22 years old and my dad says i have to be home by 12. I tell him where i am at and who i am with. Yesterday i got home at 1:30am and he was furious. Even said the next time i will get kicked out. I even told him in advance i might be late. I feel at this age i shouldn't be treated like a child. I try to contribute to the house in a way i can.  I pay for my own things. And sometimes i pay for groceries. In my point of view i feel like he is overprotective and doesn't want to see that i have grown up. My brother is 24 and gets treated the same way but he don't get after him as much cause he is a guy and i am a female. 

We have our own pool and sun beds which btw is freaking awesome. My mom sun bathes everyday now during this current situation. She has a lot of different bikinisg that she takes sun in. I sometimes join her or swim in the pool. I am not gonna lie, I sometimes get horny when I see her. It feels reallt disgusting but she is only 36 and really fit.

I have been financially supporting my dad since I was 16. Yes 16 years old and I'm now 30! He lived in his native country and lost his job. Always said he couldn't find anything because of his age ( 50). He begged to come to the USA and promised will work here because this is the country of opportunities but he arrived here 4 yrs ago and worked for 3 months after forcing him. He was living with me all this time until 1 month ago that I finally moved out with my Bf. I always advised him to get a job and save money because I would eventually move on and I couldn't support him for ever. He never tried. I let him stay in my old apartment for a month to give him time to find another place. My sister who never helped now feels sorry for him and has been asking me to let him stay in my apartment for longer  I told her I can't pay rent, bills, food in two places. I live with my BF but I have bills to pay. She was renting a room for someone and the person was going to move but things got delay because of the pandemic and she can't take my dad with her untill the person leaves. She wants me to continue paying full rent, bills and food for my dad. I refused because I can't afford all that money. Plus I told him 3 months ago that I was moving and he didn't do anything! She wants me to do everything but she won't offer to help. How is that fair? She told me that I'm f** selfish because I don't care if he stays homeless. All these issues are because of him.

In the 17 years ive lived on my own my dad has never once came to see where i lived- and i lived less than a mile from him for 6 years. He's never called me other than once a year on my birthday (for him to say "Hello,Happy birthday, goodbye" its always a less than one minute conversation) He doesn't answer my calls,  doesn't return my texts - ever.  He's never invited me to his house for dinner. He's never asked me about my job, my interests, my recent engagement and upcoming wedding...Ive begged my dad to be more active in my life but to no avail. And he is the total opposite with my brother! He's extremely active in his life! I see all their posts/pics together on FB.ive been crying myself to sleep cuz ive my dad the last 25 years it seems. I know I should just move on somehow. Let go. Cuz he obviously just doesn't care? 

I cannot even go to sleep now. I told my mom about it, she does not care. She will not help me.My younger brother insults me for no reason She wants me to leave. I cannot leave. I love this home, i try to love this home. I would be very sad to leave. This is the cleanest home i know of. This whole family could break apart so quickly. If i keep complaining. My mom would disappear so quickly. I cannot even brush my teeth anymore. It's not good for my dental health.

My birthday was yesterday and I got $300 from my parents for my birthday, I want to buy marijuana, and a vape pen and maybe some edibles. Would it be dumb to waste all of my money on that? My parents want me to spend my money wisely but it's so tempting, I'm 17 by the way. I know someone who will go buy it for me if I give them the money.

hey y'all I'm only asking this because I feel like a useless dumb b**** I'm 18 (about to be 19 in July) and I have never worked... I go to college and so far I've passed my first semester is good grades and my second semester as well (it's not over yet but so far I have straight A's) I feel so guilty abt not working and I wanna cry bc everyday I feel worse and worse abt never working  my mom is a single mom so she works from 7am to about 7-8pm so I tend to help around the house a lot  I clean everyday (kitchen, living room, rooms, and bathrooms) so the entire house she never comes home to a dirty house but I still feel bad because I feel useless  I also watch over my 8 y/o brother and I also cook for my two other brothers  I always make food for them because I'm the only girl... so yes I don't work but I do help around the house, babysit, and cook everyday  I still feel useless like I'm 19 (well almost 19)!!! and I've never worked  the only reason why I don't wanna work during school is bc Ik it'll make hw much more difficult  when I was young I went to the fields but that was such a long time ago... (I'm Hispanic) my mom also works in picking fruits so I've worked like 3x out in the fields but I feel like a bum... what should I do, am I useless? 

Hello, currently have I come with a difficult task to face. I am a 24 yr old woman & I have a fraternal twin sister. We have a younger sister that's 20. I am a RN. My twin is still in school & younger sister works in a 911 call center & has A.A. We all have the same dad but my mom raised us differently from her. She says whatever she wants and is rude at times b/c she was always allowed to speak her mind & do as she pleases. She has sense of entitlement & thinks she's always right, when wrong. This has caused a lot arguments. When she is cooking she wants no one near her and plays music very loud, she does not give the same respect to us.She is extremely unhappy with her job b/c its high stress & takes it out on us & acts bipolar. It has always been this way but we are getting sick/tired of it & its childish. Our sis has many bills like car payments and insurance b/c she decided to get a brand new car. We (twins) still share a car but will get separate ones soon b/c we both were in a car accident and finally receiving our 100k settlement ( will only get back 40-50k though). Before we all moved in 6 mths ago, our mom and sister were close b/c mom is an enabler and always has been for her. Now that we moved out, mom can't take up for her. She feels stuck and lashes out. We pay 990 rent for a 3/3 and twin wants to leave immediately. She says its not worth it if our sister is not abiding to all the rules and not just the ones that benefit her. Says we deserve to be happy too.

Hi all! So it took me some time to be ok with my sisters bf. My sis is 30 and he is 25. I'm 28! I just feel he is too young and that she needs someone older who has their life together already! Also he is a bit stingy doesn't take her out to eat and didn't give me anything for my birthday or my moms or for Christmas:/ we invite him to bbq's and make food for him either every week or other week yet he never brings a side dish. My sister babies him and she will clean up after while he sits and watches tv! Anyways,   I just don't think he is right for her I think he is lazy and too young. They are planning on getting engaged this year and talking about having kids they have only been dating a year. My sister lives with me and my mom.  Another problem is that he does things that bother my sister yet she doesn't tell him and she keeps it to herself. I just feel like she lets people walk all over her. Should I support my sister??? I have told her that I'm not going to babysit her kids and not going to go to their wedding. I also told her I don't approve of him. He is still finishing his undergrad degree and he only sees her once a week now before it was about 2 times a week. I just think she is getting caught up in the honeymoon stage this is her first real relationship. He also barely takes my sister out to eat maybe 2 x a month and he stays at our house till 3am and they even have sex here and I hear it from my room. Isn't it rude when others are trying to sleep? 

Ok so my mother in law refuses to eat. So much so that she is 5'5" tall and ways 94 and loosing. She refuses to eat. And all she has said is that she wants to die. We make her food and she either leaves it on the table or she said her throat herts. She hasn't eaten in god know how long, and I don't know what to do. Who do I need to call to help if their is any help.

It seems like that's all he wants.  I'm laying down in the room and he comes in asking me for money when I don't even have my own room.  and he doesnt let me live or sleep in peace ever.  he makes me cry and is a bully and doesn't leave me alone.  money isn't everything.  Why won't he leave me alone?  I'm not an atm machine and I already told him I'm not going to give him money.  I'm trying to save up and I can't if he keeps asking me.  it's stressing me out and causing me more anxiety and he doesn't listen or understand.  why won't he stop bugging me and leave me alone already?

What would you do? I live with someone who yells at me 247 and gets me in trouble.  I can try asking family or friends for help but I am not close to anybody. When I have a problem in life I am usually on my own. I honestly keep to myself and try to get a long with this person but this person just seems to want to give me problems.  I don't understand why this person is the way they are. I have tried talking nice to get some type of understanding and get a long but no luck. This person is obviously mental or messed up person or both. Idk where to go or what to do? I just going to keep trying to get along with this person. I would be homeless if I left. I am trying to get job. There's pandemic. Please tell me something good?? Some advice or encouragement?? This person called police on me and I didn't even do anything. Just to give problems. I don't know to do. This person sleep late making noise too. This is hell but a shelter or the streets would be worse This person begged me to move in and knew I am broke it's just a crazy way to give someone  a hard time. It's not about money that was never asked for. I think this person was desperate to have someone to bother and have someone they can be a problem to. I just ended up stuck here. No way out unless I can find work or something 

I have psychosis i live where my dad pays rent mom downstairs. I dont like my life my sis is trying to keep me psychotic so she can control my life argue with me and be better than me and argue til i die and ruin my life. She helps my brother workout and not me not that i need her help but she didnt want to help me with my online business she older and bigger and tries to make me look stupid fight me or make me angry and get a strong reaction out of me. She hates my dad for loving me and she doesnt want me to have fun and enjoy myself. She always says stuff like when im rich and famous for my art im not buying you ****. She said your art sucks your writing sucks just because im not as good as her and people have said i am near professional in my art. She's a lying ***** she smokes pot she talks **** and if you laugh at it and she sees you un bothered she does extreme **** to make you upset she tortyres tge dog and makes him bark she humiliates people. I dont do anything but i get yelled at for her ****. She doesnt like me and i want nothing to do with her so she goes around my best friend (my mom) so i cant see her cause she knows shes the queen of arguments. I feel bad whenever im around her. 

Moving far away from a disabled parent so I don't have to help them

im 17 and i tried to cut off a mole on my face because my crush who is 19 said he wont like me unless i get rid of it bc its a turn off so i tried to use a knife and literally cut if off and it bled for hours and its been about a week and its still red and wont go away infact its getting worse and it might even be infected

I'm 19 and my mother keeps bringing me down and says "your nothing you will be nothing and you were a mistake" and she hits me and throws things at me but I don't have money to move out and I can't stay at the shelter anymore because they say "you do have a place to live this is for homeless people and people who really need it"  i don't know what to do and how to live with her i have no family to live with 

My sister is two years younger than me and my parents appreciate her way more than me. Being the older sister, I have all these expectations, and when I don't exceed them, I am literally nothing to them. My sister and I are both imperfect. Although, my sister always receives so much compliments and love from them and it sucks. All I get is remarks and it hurts. We're both A students but my sister is smarter than me. She also has this new boyfriend and my parents adore him. And I'm single, I had a boyfriend before, but my parents didn't care less. I am also a senior going into college and it sucks because my parents want me to stay at home for four years so they can save money. This is so terrible. I just feel like it will be the same all the time and they will always compare me to my sister. She's smart, pretty, and can have anything she wants. My parents are also very willing to send her to her dream school, but they won't even send me to mine. I got in to mine as well, but they want me to stay home. I feel super sad. I don't want to stay home for college and always hear about how my sister is so much better than me. Everytime I explain things to my parents they blow it off and say "stop being depressed, why can't you be like your sister" It's gotten to the point where I cry literally all the time. I have nothing to look forward to, esp that I'm staying home to go to this college no one likes and will have to relive this reoccurring nightmare.

My son is 31 years old, he sits at home all day playing games and sells marijuana. He recently got out of rehab for the 2nd time and he's still smoking marijuana. My eldest daughter asked me to live with her and I really want to but what will happen if I leave my son? My husband won't take care of him because he's 31 but I know If I leave he won't have anywhere to go. My step daughter is 24 and she got into college with none of our help. She will be moving out next month. 

We are both adults but our parents are still living so we're stuck seeing each other sometimes.  

When we were first married, mom helped us out financially. That was many years ago. We are in a much better financial situation now and my husband Bill says we have a moral obligation to repay my mother for her help when we were first married. Now when mom wants or needs something no matter how big or how small Bill buys it for her. He is not keeping track of how much mom gave us and how much he is giving her. If mom wants it she gets it. Mom is very happy that we are doing this for her and I am very happy that we can do this for her. My problem is my sister and her husband are mad at us for "making them look bad". I assume but I do not know for sure that mom helped them when they were first married. They can well afford to repay her but I don't think they are. I discussed this with my husband and he said that is my sister and her husband's problem. He said we will continue to help mom as it is the morally right thing to do. Is my husband right about what he is doing for mom? Thanks to everyone that reported these insulting answers that Yahoo removed. You helped clean up Yahoo.l