So, I don't know if any of you have seen the TikTok videos where people prank their friends into changing their Insta name to something like "nutsack" or " i ❤️ balls" and they can't change it again for two weeks, but I honestly thought that was funny and stupid. I did it in my friend, and her insta name is now "nutsack 👁👄👁". After realizing she couldn't change it though, she told me her parents check her instagram and she'll get in trouble. I didn't think too much of it, since personally my parents wouldn't even care. Plus, I thought even if they did confront her about it she'd just say something like, "oh, i put it there as a joke and now I can't change it back," or even just say what actually happened. Her parents did actually end up confronting her, but instead of saying something like that she told them that she's given me her Instagram password and i "hacked in" to her account and changed it. I know this isn't that big of a deal, but it kind of showed me that she's not hesitant to throw me under the bus. It's a small thing now, but I don't want her to do it with something bigger later. And I can tell her parents don't like me now, because she literally told me her dad said I wasn't a true friend. Sorry for the essay, but, am I overreacting? Is this just not a big deal at all? I know it's a pretty stupid situation. But I've trusted her with some pretty important stuff and I just don't want it getting out later because she's trying to protect herself.

Anyone else purposely sit away from people all the time. Then those people come blabbering about work drama and their personal problems. Why can't I just sit in piece there is a reason I don't initiate conversations. Anyone else have the same problem ?

the impossibility of  separation".

I wanna try this one day

Ok in like 2 months is my 21st birthday. The thing is I don't really have friends or a girlfriend or anything I have one friend who is dumb and stupid. I'm not being mean but it is true one girl asked me if I'm doing anything big and I said I have no clue. What if she comes and it's just me and this other weird guy oh man that will not go down well. I really want new friends, real friends who can be trusted and not losers who never shower and break my stuff. It's upsetting not having anyone to talk to and my parents get on my nerves. The thing is people will probably look at me and think I have hundreds of friends because I'm always happy and I'm clean and not scruffy. But they have no idea that I'm I'm just a loner. It just makes me feel hopeless. What girl will want to talk to someone like me? If I had real friends then problem solved. What can I do?

Me and my partner love eachother a lot and he treats me well, always shows me affection etc. However just this week we've been bantering but it's been a bit over the top sometimes like he will swear and say things like f*** off or b** as a joke but i am sensitive. I will say things back like that too as a joke and he always tells me we're just kidding but. He's very immature but we've been together years and  never been like this. It's not constant but like I might say I love you and he might go I don't but then say just kidding I do love you and stuff, I know it's a joke but it's like I don't want us to namecall as a joke. I've been told all relationships have banter and  name call and yet I still feel sensitive about it, I told him I don't really like it going over the top. Are we a bad relationship or do I just need to lighten up?

People who I've told secrets to, sent pictures or videos to that are being used to blackmail me, and people who make bad stuff up about me. It's hard trying to remove a toxic person from your life when they constantly keep turning people against you. In some way or another, their toxicity always returns. The second you don't allow them to use you anymore they turn everyone against you when in reality, you never did them wrong, they done you wrong.

I have a friend who said she is going into hiding for a few days to not think about anything for a few days. I'm planning to not text or call her for several days, but want to make sure this is considerate and not antisocial. To me it is just wanted to make sure this is the best way to help this friend who wants to clear her head? 

I feel like i'm at a dead end. i worked my *** off all year. yesterday i found out i lost student government elections (came in third but there are two spots). today i didn't win one of the three grade awards (we have a really small grade) but my friends told me they've heard teachers discussing me being in the running for the awards before :( there's also a bunch of smaller stuff but my heart hurts. to fail at something you worked SO incredibly hard for.

There has been a toxic person that I've allowed access into my life for a few years now (3 or 4). I m doing my best trying to remove this person but this person never leaves. The moment I closed off his access to spread negativity in me and manipulate me, he goes and starts talking smack and spreading rumors about me. He has been doing this before but at a small level, but now he turned my whole friend circle against me. I don t know what to do. This person is ruining my life and I'm trying my best to remove him but his toxicity is spread so deep into my life it is almost impossible. Any advice on what I should do? There are cold people out there, I just don't get how people can be this cruel. I wanted to be mature and respectfully and delicately remove him from my life and I never said anything bad about him. And he goes and talks all this bad stuff about me that isn t even true. Goes to show how my instincts about his toxicity were correct. If he was a true friend, he would've understood and not turned his back against me the moment I didn't allow him to use me anymore.

Long story short the pastor's family literally cut contact, avoided, ignored me, and blocked me without ever talking to me about what was bothering them; save for a verbal insult; needless to say it was painful. Still, for some weird reason I still love them though I know I shouldn't. I guess I just want to have hope that maybe one day they'll reach out to me to discuss things. i can only live my life in the meantime.

Hello I have an issue. So I have a friend and she leaves me hanging a lot. One day she'll say we should hangout. I'll agree to it but then she changes it to tomorrow for some reason. So tomorrow comes and I ask 'So we're gonna hang today?' and then she says hanging out at 1:30 is too late apparently so it gets changed to the next day AGAIN. It keeps going on and I don't know if she just cant be organized with it or what, but it's pretty irritating and it leaves me hanging, cause I can't just be available whenever for her to be changing her mind all the time.

I feel bad and stuff now

Middle school was what started the domino effect of my self esteem. I'm 27 now and things haven't really changed. I never really fit in with my peers and they bullied me for being weird and ugly. I made terrible choices regarding friends because I Was so desperate and I had no standards and those people turned out to be the worst people. Even after improving my social skills and seeing what repelled others from me, I still have issues with fitting in.I think that's why I made a Facebook status talking about how I wish I wasn't acting weird so people would have stopped being so mean to me.  I mean if some people don't like me nor want to be my friend, then that's okay. But does that justify humiliating me in front of my peers, being excluding me from social situations, and judging me before getting to know me? Because of this, I do notice that I find myself feeling envious of people that everyone likes and can make friends easily. It makes me ask "what do they have that I can't give people?" I wouldn't mind trading either my personality or life with theirs if it means I can finally stop being unhappy with who I am.

Let's say the two of them have video chats on Facebook here and there. In addition, the woman talks about her marriage and sometimes they talk about sex.

I don't really have friends anymore. I used to feel sorry for myself and and think that it was everybody else's fault, but I've realized that if I was a more like-able person that maybe more people would like to be my friends. I've had a decent amount of friends in my life but I've been a fake friend to a lot of them. I don't think I'm necessarily a horrible person, I can just be annoying and awkward sometimes. Does anybody know how to become a person that people like and how to improve friendship skills? Anything is appreciated 

Why is my to friend trying to get me to open up, talk, to him, and said to me that I want you to know that you're not bothering me or anything...I'm a girl and this is a guy friend. How can you tell if he has feelings for me? He's upset that I end conversations short & he said that he's frustrated that I won't express my emotions when he knows I'm upset. Like why is it even his problem?!  He knows that I never want to be more than friends...I guess I shouldn't talk to him much anymore because I'm being such a bad friend and saying bye so fast and that we shouldn't text much anymore 

She lost weight she's skinny and she'd  rather starve herself than eat anything she thinks is unhealthy because she thinks she'll get fat.

Years ago a person I was very close with passed away. Since, I have formed a close friendship with one of the deceased's parents. This parent and I have known each other for years (have been "friends" for 7 years after the deceased parted). The parent has consistently withheld the whereabouts of the area where the deceased was buried; this includes bailing on plans to visit, avoiding the " where is '****' buried?" etc. I have let this go, assuming it was hard for the parent to speak about it. HOWEVER, because the parent and I have been friends for a significant amount of time, they chose to host an event for a recent accomplishment of mine. Towards the end of the event, I casually and privately questioned the parent; they lashed out, "since I'm going to the location where **** is buried soon you might as well come along" in a cold manner. I left the gathering due to said scenario. I do not know what to do, but I do feel obligated to thank the parent for the event, as this was considerate. How do I handle what occurred and how do I thank them for the event? (Note, I really do not feel the friendship is salvageable but I would like to thank them and leave the situation in a positive manner).

I live in a apartment complex and I have a neighbor that has called the cops on another neighbor for dumb stuff. She can act like she owns the place and has gossiped about other neighbors. The maintenance guy can do the same gossip about other neighbors. He will tell certain people not to park in certain spots when hes not the property manager. The property manager said I can park wherever. He's done it on other people. Then sometimes it takes a while for him to fix things that you request. I'm moving out in a year to a cheaper place. But sometimes crazy stuff happens here.

I'm in college and live in a student apt with three girls who were my friends before moving in. One of the girls  lived with me last yr and we both have ESA cats and everyone knew this prior before moving in together. I love two of my roommates but one of them is well...a roommate from hell. When we moved in she all the sudden had a problem with the cats roaming around our apt and would always toss them in our tiny rooms when ever she had the chance even though they've made no damages to anything and just like to sleep. This started the issue but it's only gotten much worse. She has never cleaned the apt and I'd probably see hell freeze over before seeing her clean up her messes.  I've had to clean up after her for months and she always leaves moldy dishes in the sink until I cant bare it anymore and have to clean it myself. It get so bad that I can't even use the kitchen. It's gotten worse since her bf has practically moved in with us 3 months ago. He has anger issues, is very loud, and is as inconsiderate and messy as her but he doesn't pay for a thing. I came home after being gone for a week and our kitchen was covered in drugs, was absolutely disgusting and it turns out that her bf has had a shot gun in our apt with out telling us as well. All of these things are against the lease and bc they're in the common area we can all get in trouble. Ive tried talking to her about it and she gets mad and goes off on me/ threatens me and I don't feel safe here anymore. Any advice? 

I'm always missing my friends calls because of my constantly changing work schedule and when I'm busy. I don't have a set time when I'm available. I miss my friends call a lot. It makes me feel bad because I don't want them to think I'm ignoring then. I would just prefer them text me before they call so I can let them know when I can talk. But I don't wanna come off as rude or stuck up.

I met some online people, and we really hit it off, I've known them for a couple of weeks, maybe a month, and I really like them, platonically. But apparently one of my online friends like me. Romantically.Obviously I dont like them back, as I wouldnt be asking this question on what to do.But I'm the person who cant say 'no' to people, so I accepted their confession.  I dont want to hurt her, but I'm not someone to have crushes on people. The only times I did was when I really, REALLY, knew them. And even then, it's not likely. Again I dont want to hurt her, and I dont want to leave the group we had, and I already accepted her I just created this mess by myself.