I'm currently 19 (f) and living at home with my parents while I go to college. My dad pays for my tuition and for most of the needs of my family and I. He keeps a roof over our heads and I am thankful for that. However, he's an egotistical and sometimes flat out mean person. I'm not saying my mom is a perfect person, but the way he treats her really bothers me. I know it was her decision, but she left her family to come to the United States with my dad and be a housewife. She tends to his every need and no matter what she does, he has to find fault with it and complain to her that it's not good enough. Whenever they get into a fight, he will lock himself in his room and not speak to any of us (including my brothers and I) until my mom apologizes and accepts full blame. My relationship with him is mostly formal and more often than not, I feel uncomfortable when he's around. My aunts and uncles on his side (9 of them) benefit off of him financially and they've tried many times to separate him from us so that they can use his money for their own benefit and it's almost as if he wants that too. Needless to say, there's been a lot of tension building up over the years. Two days ago, he was on the phone with my uncle and said my mom wasn't a "real woman". When she overhead and asked him about it, he began shouting at her and saying really nasty things. I got so angry after that and haven't spoken to him since and walked out of the room when he came in. Was I wrong to do this?

He seriously doesn't appreciate anything I've ever done for him. He's 15, but I don't care how old he is. When I was that age and if I talked to my parents the way he talks to me, I would get a back hand across the head. I don't believe that age is an excuse for anything, it's all hollywood conditioned crap to me. I even had my father come down and talk to him, because my husband never sticks up for me. In fact, my son and my husband are a team of best friends and leave me out of everything. To say that I am p*ssed with my family is an understatement. I have little to no respect from anyone in this household. My husband doesn't initiate the disrespect, but he never sticks up for me. I am the only woman in this household and I never felt so alone. If it were up to me, I wouldn't have a family at all... if I knew it was going to be like this. When my father came down to talk to him he basically gave him the same speech about his teenage angst that I am giving here. He told my son how unhappy I was, how I destroyed my body through childbirth and gave up my dreams for him (and his brother), and how much I am doing homeschooling them throughout this pandemic of COVID-19. Sometimes I am insanely jealous of acquaintances without children or partners. Children say all the time how we don't understand them. Call me immature for this part: but no. It's children who don't understand us. My son has free room and board, free meals, little to no responsibilities and free stuff. Where did I go wrong with him? The youngest is 12, and I'm really starting to dread his teenage years simply because his older brother ruined that experience for me. If I could do it over again - right now, I would. Or I would at least have a daughter with me so I wouldn't feel alienated from my own family. My youngest is okay, but he favors his father over me. Everyone does, and it's causing resentment with me towards my husband. I just want someone to tell them all to grow up or get out.

My four year old child has been very annoying lately and this quarantine thing and this child have driven me crazy. HOW DO I GET RID OF HIM? Pls answer my question as soon as possible.

I feel like it is too late. I am a 17 junior in high school now, and he has been drinking since I was maybe 6 or 7. I have dealt with my dad touching me inappropriately when I was in 3rd-6th grade. It angers me because I did not seem to notice until I was in 6th grade. I shouldnt have been touched like that, he'd grab my breasts, or slide his hand into my pants, he'd even grab me by my ponytail and bob my head around as if I was giving him a *******. My mom heard about it after I mentioned it, but I mentioned it as if it was a normal thing to do. It happened again, but he walked in on me after taking a shower and refused to leave, and touched me inappropriately. I told my mom, and they argued about it for days and my mom refused to sleep in the same bed with him anymore, they are still married. Not only that, whether he was drunk or sober he was very violent towards my mom, sister, and I. CPS has been to our house twice, but nothing happened. My dad still drinks, but not often. He likes to blame his violence on us, because "we made him mad". He doesn't do anything around the house and expects us all do it because we are women, those words came out of his mouth. I dont know how im going to forgive him. Everyone else in the house chose to forgive him except me, which is why I sometimes think I am a problem. Its hard to forgive someone who does not genuinely apologize, because for years he has called me a liar when I claimed he touched me. When my mom gave me the option to report him to the police, or we can all separate from him my dad threw a big pity party and decided to cry about it. He has never apologized. He is only scared about going to prison. He is not sorry, he only apologizes when my mom pushes him too. If she never confronted my dad he wouldn't have apologized. The first time he apologized was for my mom to be quiet about it, he yelled it out of irritation simply because he was tired of hearing it.  It's so irritating. I dont know who else to go to. I am not allowed to talk about it to anyone. I have told friends, but only the ones who I know would not tell. I want to talk about it to my preacher, he is also a counselor. I'm not sure how my mom would react if I asked, and I'd have to wait until quarantine because I would not want to speak to him about it over the phone.   My dad has kinda changed over the years, but I just don't know how to love him again. It's hard to even go places with him alone. I know he loves me, but I'm not sure if he's really sorry. I just don't want to be around him. But he's my dad, he's never going to get out of my life. I don't want to live with him anymore. I don't know what to do, I've been feeling this way for the longest time.  I just think the fact he is drinking again is so selfish. All this he has done because of drinking, and he wants to dig into that hole again? He continues to spend money on us like anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, etc. That's kinda the only way I can tell if he loves us.  When my mom gave me the option to leave or take it to the police I was honestly scared. I didn't want to ruin the family. How would my sister and mom feel? I didn't want to deal with that. Even though he's rude, and he is aggressive and toxic, a part of me still somewhat cares. It's confusing. 

My dad used to be cool when I was young. I'm 17 now. He isn't emotionally supportive (sometimes berating). I can't go to him if I'm sad cuz he'll just tell me to suck it up. One time he caught me and all he did was angrily rant. I've been hiding my sadness since I was 7. When I was diagnosed with epilepsy at 13, he started being overprotective. He wouldn't let me use my phone in the car because "I'll get a seizure." I've been tested for no photosensitive epilepsy. He spreads this to my half brother (same dad) who's too young to not question anything weird. He never showed signs of epilepsy. Every time I visit my dad, he finds things to criticize. "That jacket's too thin," "Wear something nice," "Your glasses are dirty! Idk how you see in them." He comments on how we look alike to the point it makes me feel ugly because I'm female. My dad forces me to let my brother hang out with me even if it's 7am on a weekend and I don't feel awake. He doesn't care if I'm doing homework. I like playing with my brother, but I don't want to spend every waking hour with him. When I tell my dad my explanations about sometimes wanting to play alone, he cuts me off. I tell him I like playing with my brother, he says good. I tell him about playing alone: no. It's as if, "he misses you" is the most powerful reason. It outlaws every reason. I've given him numerous reasons and he's only used that. Sometimes I want my space. My brother is able to play with me by upsetting dad by banging on my door. 

I was raised in a very loving home and taught to have a strong work ethic, simply by observing my hard working Father. Thus I am a very successful self made hardworking person as well. However, perhaps it's just aging... but my Mother is SO incredibly lazy! She doesn't believe women need to(or should) work outside the home, and meanwhile Her Sister is a total gold digger. On top of all this the "matriarch," of the family, my Grandmother is a loser on food stamps at the age of 79! I'm actually ashamed to be related to these women.

I'm not happy with my sister because my ex boyfriend passed away recently and she told me that it "shouldn't even effect me because you guys haven't talked in a while". I found that rude and all I said was that I don't want to speak to her for a while. Now my entire family is mad at me because I don't want someone toxic like that in my life. Is it really that bad?

I'm 14, my passed away when i was 13. She passed in April 2019. I've been missing her a lot lately and i dont know why. Its been over a year so I didn't tell anyone about it because they are assuming that im fine. I've been also been missing my aunt, my moms sister, and she died in 2017! I just think about them all the time, is this normal? what should i do

I'm a 20 y/o college student, I live with my mom and step dad. My mom told me she'd let me stay here while I'd go to school so I can save. I've had multiple opportunities to move out; like studying abroad in Barbados, & moving into my boyfriends apartment with him, but I never did because I let my mom persuade me otherwise. My step dad was emotionally abusive growing up and my mom played a blind eye to it. Things are up and down now, sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not. My step dad only changed since they had a daughter, but growing up (he had a son who was my age) he always made it VERY clear that his son was more important than me. The contrast was very clear. Now, last week we got into a fight. My parents have been talking about me and telling me to "get the **** out"and "I'm gonna throw all her **** on the porch" ... my own mother ignores me and talks about me behind my back with him all the time & tbh it's emotionally painful. Every time I tell them how I feel, they verbally, emotionally, and even physically attack me! My mom swung on me & my step dad shoved me into the washer. Due to the current situation, they're 2 months behind on rent and they want money for it , otherwise bank might take the house. I had $ save + I'm getting a stimulus $2000 a month (Canadian), but I am so hurt & tired of living at home (I'll be 21 next month), that I want to move out as soon as this is over!! I told my mom NO, point blank. Am I making a good decision or a bad decision?? 

I'm 17. I recently contacted NRS to verify if what i was experiencing was abuse. They classified it as emotional and verbal abuse, mental abuse, and gross neglect. My parents do provide for me financially and have rarely hit me, but i have a lot of untreated physical and mental health problems, and I'm insulted and belittled and yelled at on a day to day basis. My parents had found out about my self harm and didn't even offer to get me any help. They said the bible was the only help i need. Now my dad refers to my scars as "reminders of how stupid i am". I want to file an abuse report and live with my grandma until I'm 18, but it would be hard for her to gain custody over me, considering she's on a fixed income and can barely afford to take care of herself. I'm willing to get at least two jobs over the summer to help as much as i can. Is there any way i can do this? I don't want to be put back with my parents but i also don't want to be put into foster care.

Or is it hopeless? It feels toxic to to live with this person now. She wont change and I dont think I should marry or stay w her long term

Just the thought is making me shake. 

okay, so ill give you some back story. In 2010 I visited my best friend who lives on an island in the azores and fell completely in love with this island. I came home but about 3 months later I made the decision to uproot my whole life and move to the island! My mom and dad were very upset at my choice, and my dad chose to stop talking to me altogether. About a month and a half into living on my island paradise I discovered that my boyfriend and I were gonna have a baby. To make that long story short I ended up having to break things off with my boyfriend, and move back home(my parents bought me the ticket). My father made it clear that he would disown me if I ever did that again as he had helped me so much and it was disrespectfull to my parents to do so. Fastforward to now. My parents have helped me off and on through these past years as a single mom, so I do feel a little guilty about this. But I want to move back to the island with my 9yo daughter and give her a chance for a safer life with her father's side of the family( we are all still friendly). I will have a job and a place to live when I get there, but nevertheless I know it will break my mom's heart  and my dad will flip his s****. He thinks I owe it to them to stay right around the corner for the rest of their lives, and that would mean me putting my (and my daughters) happiness on the back-burner. 

I told my mom and dad that debit card does not charge you bill when you make purchases with the card but my mom thinks she's right but she's wrong yes I understand she's my mom I'm not disrespecting her if that's what you think I'm right because I know that debit card is not banks money you're not borrowing money from bank.

Most kids get distressed when they hear their parents fight but I remember as a kid I enjoyed listening to my parents fight. I remember hiding in my playhouse so I could listen to each side of the argument and decide which side I agree with.

So here's the story. I'm currently 18, and I'm graduating high school. (Virtual graduation woot woot). Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months. I haven't been over to her house in a while because my car tire popped. Once my girlfriends dad found out, he offered to buy me a new tire as a graduation gift. Great guy. But when i told my parents they became very upset and frustrated. They told me there is no way they'd let me accept the gift because I need to learn to spend my money maturely. Which i guess makes sense. But they don't even spend money maturely. They used the stimulus check on a kayak and new sink. Now they're complaining about money problems lol. Anyway i don't want to upset my parents, or my gfs dad. What do i do? Why are my parents acting like that?

For some more information, I m a 13 year old girl, which probably isn t the safest demographic to be in when you want to talk to strangers online. But I recently started paying for someone s Patreon and one of the perks is an exclusive discord server. I don t want to go behind my parents backs and use Discord without their permission, however, I paid for the perks and I want to be included in the community. Are there any convincing points that I can say to convince them, and if you have been in my position, do you advise that I do this at all?

I'm 15, and my neighbor (whos also my cousin) asked me to babysit her 3 kids for pay. I said I would talk to my parents about it. My mom said it could be a fun learning experience for me and good to put on my resume in the future. My dad said I'm too young to take care of another kid, let alone three. My mom won't say yes unless my dad does, though. My aunt on my dad's side also thinks I'm too young, even though I've babysat my friend's 3 kids (alone) before and it turned out fine and they liked me. It was fun and I liked it. But now they're saying I can't do it. Any advice? Am I really "too young?" If you think I'm capable, how can I convince my strict dad to let me do it? 

My Mom says not to tell my grandmother so I suspect she will not want me to tell his kids. Do I say something or do I just mind my own business?

Before COVID started, I was at my mom's house for  5 hours a day. I ate dinner in my car, spent time at a library, went to school, came home around 1am to sleep, visited my dad on Saturdays, and helped kids on Sundays. Being so occupied, I forgot that I don't have a family or a family structure. My parents are divorced, my sisters moved out by the time I was 11, and I live with my mom. My mom doesn't believe in complaining, if you have food and shelter. This meant that I never had a family dinner, the belief in mental health is nonexistent, not allowed to join a sport, etc. Mom also never came to any orchestra concerts and dad lived too far. I'm a 17 year old female, but growing up, I was never taught what a period was, what sex was, and was banned from shaving. It took pornography and public embarrassment for me to figure these things out. I've talked to school counselors about this, came out about my childhood sexual abuse, and once they told my mother, she never talked about it: not even a doctor's visit. Now that every is inside, my friends always tell me how they're spending time with their families, and I've never had a meal with my family. I just eat alone in the basement everyday. I sit in my room all day now with no interaction, and haven't seen my dad in two months. I'm sharing all this because I want to know if I'm being dramatic. This is making me horribly lonely and I had no clue family time was normal. I also want to know your take on my mother's behavior. 

I have an iMac late 2006 20 inch model and i upgraded it to a new macos version with a hacking tool and it's so slow it takes minutes to open apps and it's SO SLOW and my crush holden told me he's going to avoid me and not talk to me and not be my friend if i don't make it faster so i'm panicking

(this is a discussion about my mom and her racist husband) I initiated a 40-minute, 51-second call with my father about what happened between me, my brother, mother and stepfather. I was criticizing the way my stepfather was parenting his son, and my mom was saying he is the father and I have to respect that. Anyway my stepdad yells at my bro on occasions, calls him names like stubborn, ***** and even the N-word with a hard-r. I have talked with my mom and stepdad about it and they lied and said, "Uh no that's not true, we don't see color or raсe, we see red (blood)." My dad was agreeing so my mom feels good. He said to "just let ѕhit slide." He said he didn't treat me at 8 the same way my brother is being treated by his dad. Re. playing video games downstairs while I was watching a racing car game on TV. Stepdad said he was "defending" me, though I don't even know if that was the case. I heard my stepdad use the N-word 8 times in my life, half of which had the er at the end. One time when referring to Megan Thee Stallion in a song in the car, and he wasn't even repeating the lyrics. He literally said the n-word, he treated my brother like crap calling him a whiny ***** while complaining about noise My mom and s.d. said there are good/bad Jews, black, in "their own" raсe (Armenians). I told my mom while on call with my dad that I am getting tired of the neoliberal centrist crap they give me. My dad? he said that was rude and that I wouldn't even have said that a year ago additional details in my "answer"

I moved out because his mother comes and goes to our home as she pleases. She has a key and let's herself in even if the door is locked and I don't answer when she knocks. He says he'll change the locks, but insists on leaving a spare outside...which defeats the purpose. I hate living there because I feel like a guest in my own home.  I'm pregnant and so stressed/depressed and he doesn't even care. We haven't talked for two days. If I text him, he doesn't respond. We have an appointment for therapy on Tuesday and I honestly don't even think he'll show up. I've been raising his two year old daughter like she's mine since she was 9 months old and her mom lost custody. He let his mom take her for the weekend without asking me if I wanted to see her; so they're basically keeping her from me. I have no legal rights to her, so there's nothing I can do. I've done so much for that little girl and now they're just pushing me out.  I just don't understand how someone can change so quickly. I can't afford my own place so I'm living with my mom. But when the baby comes idk what I'll do because there's barely enough room for me here. My job doesn't even cover the cost of daycare so idk how I'm going to be able to work. Not working means I definitely won't be able to afford my own place. He has put me in such a bind and terrible position. Thoughts of suicide cross my mind multiple times a day because I feel like there's no light at the end of this tunnel. 

basically, lately me and my family were going on a bike ride and i have this really childish headgear for bikes with a ton of colorful stuff since i was 9 (i'm 13 now) and i said that i don't want to wear it (and keep in mind that my dad bought everyone new headgear, even my 7 year old brother a less childish one than i have) my dad said i just wanted to be "cool" so i told him that girls at my school would laugh at me if i wore that (which is true) and he replied to me with " they probably already do" which really hurted. and there was a ton of other times when my dad said "oh yeah... ur too COOL for this i forgot" or something like that when all i want to be is a pretty, skinny girl that people like and obviously i want to be cool of course i do i'm 13! but not the way that he thinks i want to be. i just want to have a cute style and cute things.

If someone told you you would never see any of your family ever again, would you care?

so i am almost 13 years old and my parents think i can't do anything, like for example today my dad asked me to add some spices to the chicken he was cooking and i asked him which ones because i didn't know and i never did this before and he told me "Ah don't worry i was just joking i know you can't do this" and honestly he says stuff like this quite a lot. Another one would be when my dad asked me to clean the cat poop for the first time because my mom didn't want me to do it. and the poop was huge and i tried taking it all at once in the bag but when i was throwing it away i smeared a little bit of it on the toilet and everyone was yelling at me how i can't do such a simple task. what can i do about this? or what can i do to show my parents i'm smarter than they think?

So i talked to my dad about this show on netflix called outerbanks and that i want to watch it but its rated mature. (im 13 by the way) but on common sense media it says it's 15 plus, and i know i'm not 15 but there is nothing bad in the show, there is no sex, just bad words, they talk about inappropriate jokes etc, drugs and alcohol, and i know my parents are okay with me watching stuff with all of that and my account is rated 14+, except nudity obviously. so about the show, my dad was like "i don't know, it's rated mature" and i told him my friend in my grade that's a year younger than me is allowed to watch it and her parents even watched it before her. so i decided to watch a couple of episodes, like 7, and while i was watching an episode my dad came in and asked me what i was watching, and i told him straight up "outer banks" and he told me turn it off and yelled at me, even though he never said that i can't watch it, just that "i don't know" and i didn't even lie to him about it i was completely honest and now he wants to punish me by deleting netflix off my tv. and i think that really is unfair. and please don't tell me "Do what your parents tell you, ur still 13 blah blah blah, ur too young and that you don't understand" because i am already allowed to watch shows like vampire diaries and riverdale where there is way more make out steamy scenes than in outer banks.

I have 6 siblings and for some years I was in another state completely alone during University years. As I came back I am such a different person than I used to be. My siblings and I are super different like 15 years apart and they have children and I do not have kids. What can I do?

I have grown up around younger kids my entire life, I have a brother 9 years younger than me, and all of my cousins are younger than me on both sides of my family. When I was growing up I was 9 before I ever got a brother, then my aunt S had 9 kids all together on my dads side which we all lived near each other within walking distance. My moms side had 3 kids who also 12 years younger 14 years younger and 19 years younger than me.. they also lived within walking distance.... our town consists of less than 400 people. However my husband only had 1 brother and no other kids around on either side his mom and dad were both only child. He has never really seen a baby "grow up" ..... Also I took ECE for learning about children during high school and college for 8 years.  I am aware babies go through a ton of diapers between birth to 3 years of age. Between diapers and pull ups I have 2 newborn boxes, 1 size1 and 2 size 2... 5 boxes total with 90 in each box. However my husband said I am going way over board.. I say I am preparing because it cost to raise a baby. He gets mad every time I buy anything for the baby. He says everybody is supposed to provide it for us at the baby shower.. would you side with him or myself? 

My mom left home for two days for her uncles funeral ( while wearing a face mask) my dad let his sister over the house without letting my mom know because someone had to wipe and bathe my grandma( my mom expected me to do it but my aunt showed up). Someone with the Coronavirus was around my aunt but she wasn't coughing or anything. She asked me why I was wearing a mask in the house( I do this with all guests not just her) dad told me snitches get stitches and kept ignoring my moms calls.I told my mom and after she came home my dad and her got in a fight, he called her a bi polar fool and she said she was moving out in a couple months so now I have to choose either to stay with dad or go with mom. I didn't know it would go from A to Z so fast.

i'm 19 and she's 17 and we broke up a month ago after she hit me in a fight and ever sense she's been texting me with fake numbers when i block her she makes new numbers and she keeps begging for me back and begging for me to take her back and crying and spamming calls and facetimes every single day for a month and i can't even go on my phone anymore because she won't stop texting and calling, she even said she would sign my number up for spam if i don't unblock her and it appears she did because i'm getting texts from companies trying to sell me stuff every day also