Not enough is said about it here on yahoo and I find that very annoying and it makes me feel angry. As a man in my early forties I have lived with loneliness and isolation now for 15 years, I live alone in a flat with no relationships or friends or support network except my elderly parents who live far away.....I also cope with borderline personality disorder and severe anxiety issues.....it is a very INTENSE situation to endure... Time after time I ask about my situation and what to do Because it is agonising and torturing but I get very few people responding or understanding where I'm coming from.... At this juncture in time what do I do? I have been very strong to endure such a hard life, I have been through countless hardships, too many to mention here.....what do I do? And why don't more people ask about loneliness and isolation on here?..

My two older brothers moved far away from where I live to my relief. They have always been horrible to me. They are constantly in trouble with the law. When I was in High School they started spreading rumors around my hometown that I am sleeping around. In the past they've tried taking my stuff including electronics to sell them. I told them I don't want them in my life anymore. I blocked them on all social media and my phone. They keep trying to contact me through my parents and through writing letters in the mail after my parents gave them my apartment address. It isn't any type of apology though they always reach out asking me to lend them some money. I am a college student so I do not have a ton of money to my name. How do I convince them to stay away and don't contact me? My roommate has told me to get a restraining order against them. I think if they don't stop it's what I'll have to do.

Anyway the call the kid's dad and have him pick up the kid, it turns out they are splitting up and this little stunt might get him custody, then the mom comes back to pick up the kid not realizing the dad has here and thinks the kid is now lost, but tries to play it off like nothing big has happened when talking to the dad

My baby father have been lying to me my whole pregnancy. He told me that his ex was unfit, she was living bad and she was broke with no money. he'll ALWAYS go to her house recording her showing me videos of her house and empty refrigerator. He didn't tell me WHAT HE was DOING. Then one night our of the blue, she text ny mom saying that my baby father wasn't ANY good, and we KNEW that She said to pick up the baby. I WAS so confused because he told me she didn't want him around their baby. After that, she sent HER screenshots of him saying he doesn't want ANY of us and as long as I do what he wants me to do he's good. I don't understand him at all. He was obviously telling us both something different. Is he playing me? *He's living with me. She changed her number! 

Hi. The other day I was helping my dad since we had a leak in our ceiling. I was in the doorway of his bedroom and he literally changed his pants right in front of me...like a couple of inches away from where I was standing in the door. I feel really uncomfortable about this encounter. He had underwear on and we didn't touch or anything, but why couldn't have he just changed in his closet in the other room? What are your thoughts about this? Am I overreacting? Like I had said, he was in his underwear and I was fully clothed. Also, am I ok? I have never been so close to a man like that before. I won't get pregnant or anything, right? We didn't do anything sexual, but he was just changing pretty close to me.  

My father in law is a bully help! It's gotten to the point I can't stand being around him. He constantly has degrading comments directed at me to try and hurt my happiness and confidence.  He does the cleaning in the afternoon at our buissness and now I wait till he's left b4 I go there. Just to avoid him. He does his work well he is just horrible and also gets staff in a bad mood. Negative vibes big time. He s also been trying to control things we want to do for the buisness.  For example I wanted to put umbrellas on the terrace. He said it was a bad idea. Same reaction when I wanted flowers. So don't know what to do..... It's ruining our marriage. He leaves for pension next month and now my mother in law is saying maybe he can stay 1 day in the week to clean the windows because it's his man cave....? I am so beyond confused and sick of this controling behavior. What can I do?  I love my husband very much. 

My sister is estranged from me right now. She is a narcissist and my mother has always given her what she wants if she, the sister, demands and argues enough. As a result the sister has become a beast. The sister has Crohn's Disease and because of Coronavirus she cannot go out and about as easily because her immune system is weak. So now at age 26 she is texting my mother at all hours and my mother gives her no boundaries. She will yell at her but then cave in to her. She has to drive 45 minutes daily to where my sister lives. Long story short it is giving my mother a nervous breakdown. I did the same to her as a kid but I was a little kid with ADHD. I have a brother with mental illness that did it to her in his early 20's but he was VERY sweet and never argued a day in his life. Plus, he eventually grew out of it and is a normal functioning adult now despite having Bipolar and anxiety. This sister is the youngest of 6 kids and is a monster. How does my mother back off so her daughter doesn't destroy her? I have no relationship with the sister per the sister's doing (she won't speak to me cause I called her out a year ago) but my mother will always be stuck in a relationship with her because she is a parent and has to love her. David B: I agree but in my brother's case he was not misbehaving at all, I just meant my mother was exhausted as he was suicidal and had to be monitored. He was always cooperative. In my case I was demanding and sassy but was ages 7-10 during that so a kid. 

I have gotten in trouble for lying before but he lies all the time and wants me to cover for him.

I had suspicions a guy I dated for 3mths had been cheating on me so I broke. He was the one who approached me at work and asked me out, he had dated a lot and was on 3 dating apps but never had a proper girlfriend. I was close with his mum (knew her from work), I slept at their house 2-3x a week. Had dinner with his family and he met my mum and I met his friends.He had a 2nd job but quit so he could work with me and wanted to go on a lunch break with me every time we worked together. He also texted me throughout the day everyday. He would spend every Saturday night drinking with his mates.He was overly affectionate, always wanting to hold my hand in public. He admitted he hated the thought of me and my ex and said he would get a bit jealous if I went out. He told me he loved me and I looked hot even when I felt like crap. He told me he thought we were made for each other.Everyone at work new we had something going on. He started texting other girls and hanging out with them. He showed me numerous photos of him next to other girls.One day he would he would make me feel like he was so into me, then the next he would ignore me and text other girls. He agreed and thought it was best to brake up but got upset/jealous when I hung out with other guys.It's been 2mths since the brake up and he hasn't contacted me though he checks my WhatsApp status and I know I was the only contact he had on the app.I still feel confused about it all and wonder why he did what he did?

My mother always been the sort of person who would make harsh and inhuman comments to people and about people, especially when they are in a difficult situation and clearly hurting. She always closes the subject (when someone actually calls her out on this behaviour) with saying these people are weak and they can't take critisism and the truth. I'm european but I live in the the Middle East for over 10 years in a multi cultural community, my husband is arabic and my friends are from all over the World. My mother often makes straight forward racisst comments about people of different culture, color and ethnicity and this can be very hurtful to me, especially when she says these sort of things of the race, culture, religion etc. of my husband or a close friend. Sometimes I can't take it anymore so I tell her that her comments are hurtful and I would like her not to say these to me. She always attacks back saying that she won't listen to my "anti-racisst rant" and she is entiteled to her opinion about people and I'm just being overly sensitive because my husband is arab. She obviously never gonna stop being the way she is. I don't talk to her too often or share much from my personal life with her because of the fear of her hurting me, I don't visit her more than few times a year either because I always end up leaving in tears. How could I make myself feel less hurt when she says hurtful/ degrading/ racisst etc. stuff to me?

My brother has been staying with me (I'm 20) for a few days after being released from being an in patient because he flipped out hit my mom and hurt himself. (He doesn't remember doing so) He was released and has been staying at my place for a few days since it's a lot more relaxed and quiet compared to home. My father and mother have asked me to try and get him on a decent sleep schedule so him and I agreed to 1am. Turns out he lied to me and snuck out so he could voice chat with his friends. I would've let him stay up later if he would've just asked. I didn't notice he left and locked my door a few hours later I  get a call from him at 4 am saying someone knocked on my door and he went to check and now he's locked out. I called bs and he admitted it. He's upset and I told him I had to tell the parents but I really don't want to. I just want him to be safe and I don't want him thinking that's okay when ever he comes over. ( the area he snuck out to isn't the safest as a lot of homeless people sleep there during the night.) I feel like I have to tell my parents since I'm the adult in this situation but I don't know what to do. Please give me some advice.

My husbands brother has 2 children and all my parents in law do is slag his wife and her family off behind her back...and say that their son is an excellent father....  I'm just getting worried now cause my husbands sister just had a baby "who by the way is also excellent" in there eyes, and they are now dropping hints that we should start a family. When we give no reaction on subtle hints she gets pissed. She's even getting my husbands syblings to ask when we want kids and we said we don't know if we want. There is no way I could handle that. She would destroy me. My MIL has already told me calmly that she wouldn't be afraid to tell me how to raise my children! Quite frankly I'm scared of her and don't want children now because of her.  Please help I don't know how to handle this situation? 

my great aunt left a will naming nieces and nephews. only my mother's immediate family - two brothers and sisters were in close contact and took active care of her. i.e shopping. hospitalizations from repeated falls, helping her walk and treating her infections.the other beneficiaries neglected her, and live in another country.both my uncles passed away leaving one sister to take care of her mother and my mother to take care of my great aunt.my mother was not listed on the will and my aunt is the executor. my mother lost POE after my great aunt passed away. summary:my aunt was never married. no children. no brothers. no sisters. no partners.my uncles (beneficiaries), the same, passed away followed by my grandparents.where do their funds go?can my mother claim any inheritance?

I'm in a relationship with my husband now for 16 years. We love each other very much and have a buissness together. I have tried my best with my family in law but it's starting to take its toll on me now... and affect our marriage.  It's got to the point that I don't want to attend some family gatherings.  They all moan about each other for example, my father in law does the cleaning in the morning at our buissness. He will be giving off a negative vibe and being passive aggressive to our staff., which then in turn makes a negative work inviroment. He starts moaning about my mother in law saying"it is never good enough"  "she says I don't do anything and hardly work".   then he starts moaning about how he has to do everything she says and doesn't want to baby sit and then start to slag off people and bla bla bla.  Then she will come to work place and he will suck up to her. Why are you telling me this? She is here now tell her...  They are always moaning and sagging everyone off. My brothers in laws wife and her family can't do anything right . And they have been trying to brainwash me into hating my parents. Who have made some mistakes and haven't been involved in my life a lot due to the fact they live on the other side of the world. Every time I talk about visiting them she will say stuff like " why? Let them make the effort" and "I wouldn't be able to forgive them" and "your mother must be so sad having put 3 children on the world and 2 are on the other side of the world" I am the asker here is the rest of this story. Could not fit it in... So that makes me so upset. Why would she say that to me? I don't want my mum to be sad. And she is not. Of course she misses us but that doesn't make her sad.  I remember the first Xmas in our first home and she came in with name boards and ordered where everyone should sit and obviously I was not seated next to my husband...and so many more things like this.  I said last time I saw her that my husband needs a haircut cause it's getting long and she shook her head at me like don't take him to the hair dressers. She is always trying to control and dictate everything we want and do. She is rude and tries to treat me like a child and tries to make me insecure. She gets pissed when she can't control me.  Please help I don't know what to do.  I live in a Holland my husband is Dutch, I am british. 

My mum just blamed for something I didn't even do and now she seems very calm around everyone else while also giving me the silent treatment. She refuses to look at or talk to me after blaming and scolding me for something I didn't do.

My father has always relied on me on mental health. How should I deal and put up with him needing praise 3x a week? He needs to hear 24/7 that he has potential etc. Should I put reminders on the calendar? Sometimes we are having dinner and the moment I don't praise him he gets sad. The moment I forget to praise he is sad for weeks maybe even months. How do I keep reminders?

Ok, so I'm in my early 20s and working full-time at a supermarket. Right now my focus is to save money and I'm not planning on leaving anytime soon. I'm very happy with where I'm at in life. I have an older cousin (40s) who clearly has too much time on his hands and is stirring up tension about the situation with things like my occupation/me not being in a relationship, etc. In the past he sent me job postings for other places and I just said "okay" and brushed it off at the time. My younger sister is graduating high school this year and he posted comments on her Facebook page saying, "Don't screw your life up and take a gap year from university. People who don't go to college are stupid. You'll end up like your sister and never be able to live on your own, etc." (Quite honestly he doesn't have room to talk since he spent most of his life working as a waiter.)It's even getting to the point where he's calling my mom up and trying to instigate things. I find it highly intrusive and insulting. Quite honestly I'm in better financial shape than most people my age and don't feel I owe him an explanation on what I do with my money. What is the best way to handle this tactfully?

Hello, My name is Eren I am currently 18 years old. Right now I have some problems with my Dad I feel like it's my fault. My Dad isn't the greatest Dad in the world but he's definitely hardworking. He's usually out of town working construction and comes back during the weekend. When he comes back it's usually awkward being around him, since we don't really talk that much and since he only understands Spanish it's hard to communicate with him. He usually sits on the couch and he drinks all day, i also feel he might be doing drugs. My Mom doesn't really love my Dad, she says he doesn't help out with money, he always drinks, does nothing when home, and as well as argue with her. She told me why does he even bother coming home. I've been living with my grandparents all my life since my parents can't afford a house and mom blames my Dad. Me and my Dad had a talk, he was obviously drinking but I still talked to him. At the end of the conversation he told me "what do you do for me?" I didn't know how to respond to that. I really felt bad and that makes me feel like a bad son. I don't know what to do, please give me your responses. Thank you.

My kids are telling me that now my social security checks are coming that I should give up driving and move into a retirement home. I don't feel that old and I'm perfectly mobile and lucid but they think I should go into a home because I'm 65

My mom has a lot of pictures of us up. I am her daughter (the oldest) and I have two brothers younger than me. I notice that she has about 50 or more assorted pictures up of my two brothers only. My dad was the first one to notice and then I kind of told my mom about it. She said she had pictures of me up but no baby or younger pictures because that was a long time ago, yet she has lots of younger pictures of my brothers. The weirdest part is that she only has me in group pictures like it has to be either me and my brothers together. Or me, my mom, and my two brothers together. Nothing of me alone except maybe one. I swear you would think she only has two kids. The funniest part is that my godmother has a picture of me up when I was really young still in her house and I am older now.  What gives? Everyone missed the question, she has a ton of pictures of me but they are all put away

 My parents buy me girl clothe.. I'm a 14 yr old boy ... I don't want to wear girl clothe. They bought me dresses which now that we have to stay indoors a lot they expect me to wear(they know I refuse to wear dresses in public). If I don't wear them they ban my washer and dryer privileges. I only have skinny jeans, which I was mocked and called gay for. I got 2 disney shirts for my birthday and both are smalls so its tight on me. How can I get them to buy me normal boy clothe?  I have been asking since I was 9 but they don't care. They said its their house and i should be greatful they even buy me anything. I am greatful n I love my parents but they think I'm a woman and I'm not. I have boy parts and stuff and they just dont care. My sister gets to where whatever she wants but when I ask I have to have a timeout and stand in the corner for 15 minutes.Sorry for venting so much but I just need to say this. I don't know what to do, I have no other family or anuone I can turn to I'm 14 and can't buy my own clothe i dont have a job or $$. Also, even if I could get a job theyd never let me during the corona virus

I am a teenager entering high school (with hope that we go back this fall!). I am very proud of my mom. She has done a great job of raising my brother and me. The only thing that really bothers me is that she tends to dress on the very sexy side. Full makeup, jewelry, tight tops, short skirts and high heels. She looks very nice, but I get told a lot by the boys in school that my mom is hot. She stops traffic during school events when she walks down the hallway. When I'm cheerleading and my mom makes an entrance into the gym you can hear her high heels a mile away and the place gets silent while everyone turns to admire her. I've shared my desire with her for her to at least dress down a little when she comes to my school, but my requests have fallen on deaf ears. Maybe I should just accept that's the way she is. But if anyone has any ideas on how to persuade her to change her behavior I'd appreciate it!

Recently about a few months ago my mom and I had a small argument and she told me to pack my bags and leave. I explained that I had no where else to go. She told me to go to my dads. I went to my dads and everything was fune until today  he had been getting very drunk and has a severe alcohol problem. Today when I got home from work (yes, I work to afford my car that I saved up 3,000 for a down payment by working when I was 14 all the way to 16 and pay $230 a month for) he told me to pick up my clothes in the bathroom. I gladly did it and said I'm sorry for leaving them. I went up stairs and all the sudden, 20 minuets later, he calls me outside and starts yelling at me about the clothes in the floor. I could tell he was drunk by the red, watery eyes he had that I had grown to see A LOT recently. He started to scream and yell and cuss. I got scared of him and tried to go inside and he held the door shut. I started balling my eyes out because I was scared. He was snapping at me fo me some clothes that I left in the bathroom before I went to work. He finally let me inside and came running up the steps after me. I told him once again he was scaring me. He finally left and went out to drink some more. He came back and told me that he loved me and acted like everything's fine. Because of this I've had very bad panic attacks. On top of that I'm Gay but can't tell them because I'll be disowned idk what to do anymore 

my dad is often really angry and crazy and starts the fight with my mom every time and he's fighting with my mom and he's telling her he's feeling numb and going to have a stroke and my moms crying cause he's saying that

i just want him to stop, what do i do

I'm torn cause I don't wanna make this person mad at me and it's not MY family and I don't want his family to get upset with me. The issue is I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and we've visited his family often. Well his grandma has custody of his cousin. He has mental issues and I think bipolar. He gets really mad and tries to hurt himself when he doesnt get his way. Last time we stayed with his grandma his cousin overdosed on one of his medications and the ambulance took him to the hospital. He was so overdosed on the pills he was falling on the floor in his room. He couldnt stand up. Its putting a strain on my boyfriends grandma and i feel for her. She cried when she had to call the ambulance. Hes been in trouble with the cops also. He ran away from home to where his dad was and used a realistic toy gun and held up a convienience store. He's yelled at my boyfriends grandma and threw fits. He cut his arm really bad with a razor blade before too when he didn't get his way. He's 20 years old and I fear his issues are only gonna get worse. He keeps getting admitted to the mental hospital and being released shortly cause Medicare won't cover him for a long enough time. So the cycle keeps repeating. I don't know if going on dr. Phil would be a good idea or a bad one? Or if I'm overstepping my boundaries? Or if I should just let it be? I'm just scared he's gonna eventually harm someone else or really kill himself for good. What should I do? Update:1.he also lied to cps and said my boyfriend touched him inappropriately because he didn't wanna go back to boot camp cause of something he did.  2. His dad and mom will say things to him to get him to do things he's not supposed to. So he's on probation and his dad told him how cheap airfare is to come see him in Wyoming so my boyfriends cousin got the idea he wanted to use some of his stimulus check to see his dad even though he can't cause he's on probation. So his grandma...  2 continued: told him no and he stormed out of the room and swore at his grandma and was tearing stuff up in his room.

I have a Cousin who thinks it not a big deal. She doesn't really pay attention to it. A lot my family are worried about her cause she has four kids and they are sick a lot. They keep talking to her about she blows it off like it's nothing.

I'm 17 and I have two brothers (14 & 10) and a sister (12) we live in Texas. Our parents separated (but not divorced) in 2015. They went to court when they agreed he'd pay child support and has us at least every other weekend. Recently because of the virus, we could go weeks without seeing him and he hasn't paid child support in about two months. Today, my siblings and I woke up in hopes to stay the weekend at my dad's (it's been two weeks). My mom is refusing mostly because of his lack of financial support (child support) and the virus. We insisted we'd go and he'll pick us up but then she threatened to call the cops and ban him from our apartment complex. WE JUST WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH OUR DAD FOR TWO DAYS!! I told her any legal problem (or any problem) she has with him, to take legal action or talk to him about it because I'm not standing in her way! However since 2016, she's refused to talk to him at all because of her boyfriend. Sadly, we'll go another weekend without seeing itr dad. It's just..is there anything I can do??

My father is a single parent, but my siblings and I are all adults now. I (20) still live with him, as well as my younger brother (18). My three older brothers all live together in an apartment.  All four of my brothers, for lack of better words, emotionally tear into me. Since my mother left, I have basically had to help raise my younger brother. I have recently discovered that he is a TAKER. I take care of him, and all he does is use me. He doesn't appreciate anything I do for him, and is completely ungrateful. I find myself doing a lot for him, and he never reciprocates anything.  My older brothers all hate me as well, and I am currently not allowed in their home. This happened because the oldest one (33) asked me to return his ex's belongings to her, and not wanting any drama, I said no. Since then, he has called me "unloyal" and "not family." I am also not allowed to see my niece and nephew because of this. My dad seems to be the only one that doesn't hurt me on purpose all the time, but he is practically silent to my brothers. I ask him why he is unwilling to speak to them and he says "they are adults; I can't do anything about it" even though he disapproves of the way they treat me.  I feel like I have no one!

So, I located my Dad after a long time searching for him. I've never met him & he knew about me but not until after I was born & he wasn't sure he was my Dad or not as there was another fella who was also in an on/off relationship with my Mom at around the same time, it sounds kind of messy if you ask me but not my fault to be fair so anyway my Mom placed me in a children's home for adoption, my Dad moved away & started a new life, married & had kids. He lives on the other side of the world now & he'd like to meet me & my family. I have 2 children & I'm settled down & I'm happy with my family life. My question is that I'm worried to meet him & then possibly never meeting him again & deal with the very real upset of that or never meet him & not have the heartache of meeting him & having to cope with him leaving me & going back home which is literally on the opposite side of the globe? Is it better to have something & have it go away again after a short period of time & you have the upset of that or never meet & don't have the upset but possibly have the regret when he passes away in the very distant future hopefully. Also, I have siblings(well half but that's not really an important detail to me anyway), what do I do if they wish to meet me & my family? I didn't know about them & they don't have anything to do with me, I don't know if there's much point in meeting them really. Some helpful advice is much needed & appreciated. Thank you in advance.  Also, I didn't know my Dad was in the place he was in until I found him, my Mom had heard he could be in two different places but she moved to 3 countries in Europe & then a couple of countries in Asia too so she was in lots of different places & he  was quite hard to find. Last I knew for definite he was in the next country to where I live. I thought he was living an hour from me on the plane. I couldn't be 100% sure of the info my Mom gave me of my Dad's whereabouts as she heard some rumours.

My baby father had been telling me horrible things about his baby mom. He told me that she's living back with her mom and she's unfit! And when he told her I was pregnant, she flipped out , started wishing death on my daughter. But come to find out she sent messages of him actually threatening HER nieces first over some money she spent on their son. Now he's telling me that he want his SON to meet our new born daughter knowing I got into it with HER over what she said about our baby when I was pregnant. He also said that he showed HIS son a video of our baby but his son started crying for his mom. After that, he called me telling me that she was very mad about it, so I guess she changed her number. Is he being messy so we'll fight over him?

i'm 17 going on to my senior year I've never wore make up only to like events but someone does it for me . I don't know what foundation color i am . i Really don't have any sisters and i live With Just my dad and brothers . And i always been a tomboy my dad hardly let me wear revealing clothes like all my friends parents do i always dressed with normal girl clothes 😔 and i told my dad and he said fine that he will buy me make up i always would watch how to apply make up but my dad told me i better know what to get when we go get it so can you pretty ladies help me 😭💋

So schools been out for a while and i'm only 17 year old girl but recently my history teacher who's in his 30s with glasses and short brown hair sent me an email to my school email asking how ive been and i replied nicely and we talked a bit over email and eventually i stopped replying because i just got bored and then a few days later he added me on snapchat? idk how he got it then the next day he emailed me he wants to call one on one because it's more friendly and i didn't reply then he emailed again saying he posted some school work on instagram and to follow him so i can see it because his account is on private, what do i do