when they were kids

I'm 28 and the majority of women I meet and am friends with don't want kids. the MAJORITY (over 75 percent). Is that sad? I feel like men want children more than women these days. And it's usually for completely selfish reasons like "I don't want to ruin my vagina" or "I don't want to gain weight or get stretch marks"

So, my dad has this construction business that he wanted to give my brothers and me. I had been struggling in college because I couldn t find my passion but I finally did. But my dad would always say (I think due to desperate of my age and still in school) "what am I gonna do with a piece of paper (like the degree after if I graduate) when I can offer lots more?" I don t like construction because of the heat on spring/summer and cold fall/winters and like indoors because of the AC and heater. But I do like working with computers either way. So so far I ve been working with them, a worker, my brother and dad. My other brother decided to focus on his career so he wanted outs. I feel like if I learn I can work with Adobe products editing videos and pictures and I got interested in that since the longest, just didn t know it was a career until recently from a you-tuber. Everyone like my dad, mom, brothers, close relatives tell me that to understand that in my dad s business I m not gonna work, I am gonna be telling everybody what to do and my dad is only making me work now just to know how the work is but I am not gonna do this for the rest of my life. And know the idea of me being able to decide my vacations, whatever time to show up to work, and the money. This is a flipping business, buy old broken houses and selling it for better price... and my dad made me let s just say the digits are $???,???. Am I stupid if I let this opportunity go? Thanks

Hope you are all ready for a rant. This is something that has annoyed me for so long. I'll probably have to continue it onto updates if I run out of characters on this part. I'm 21, my older brother is 28, we both live at home. We both have jobs. My mum doesn't work. I've always been the one who has had to help with housework, I don't have a problem helping out, if you live at home then yes doing your bit to help out around the house is fair enough. What angers me though is that it's only me who has to help out with the housework, my brother doesn't have to do anything. It really annoys me. We both pay "keep"/rent to our mum for living there, but yet I pay quite a lot more than my brother does, even though he gets paid more in his job than I do in mine. That's another thing that annoys me, but when I complain about having to pay more rent than my brother my mum either shrugs it off saying "oh you know he won't pay more than he does, he never has money because he spends it on the gym, his car, his PS4 games, netflix etc". Or she'll get annoyed and start saying "move out then, I'll have to get a smaller house because I won't be able to afford to stay here if you move out", which then makes me feel guilty. When it comes to housework she'll always shout for me to help her with something like taking the washing out of the washer, hanging out the washing, drying the washing up etc but she never gets my brother to help, he doesn't do any housework at all. Main description continued. My brother doesn't have to do any housework at all, he even leaves his room a mess and goes out without tidying it and my mum gets me to help her tidy it, and she'll start complaining about my brother saying she wishes he'd move out and she's sick of him leaving it a mess but yet she won't say anything to him about leaving it like that, and instead tidies it for him and gets me to help. If I ever leave my room a mess which I rarely do she shouts at me.  I work a lot and do different shifts, the main shift I do though starts at 6PM to the early morning hours and don't end up getting home til 4AM. By time I've had a shower, had something to eat and got ready to go to sleep it gets about 5AM, so of course I don't wake up til 12PM or 1PM. When I get up I get ready and stuff and then help out with whatever housework my mum wants me to help out with or I go and do my own thing before I have to start getting ready for work at 5pm to get to work for 6 I don't have a lot of time to do much between waking up and going to work so yeah I do like time to myself sometimes. My brother works from 9AM til 5PM, he doesn't have to work til the early morning hours or has different shift changes or has to change his sleeping pattern to keep up with shift changes, he has a lot of hours to spare before going to sleep to get up in the morning, but yet it's me who has to do everything. If I refuse to help out she starts calling me lazy, says I do nothing and just sit on my *rse all day, so I end up shouting back at her. I did ask her during an argument once why my brother doesn't help out and she answered it saying "he's a lad, you know lads won't help out with housework". That isn't an excuse for him not to help out. Even my grandma said it's unfair, I'm at my wits end and considering moving out but she'll just guilt trip me.  Sorry for the LONG rant but it really annoys me 

This is an awkward question to ask so I apologize if it isn't  clear. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she has 2 kids from other relationships. The youngest I think of as my son as his sperm donor was never in the picture and we have a great father/son relationship. The oldest, however, is extremely passive aggressive. Like whenever I say his name he responds with "what" in a tone that conveys "screw you" I'd like to bring it up but I dont know how describe why its rude and what else to say as I usually respond to someone calling my name with a cheery "what's up" which on paper looks 2 steps away from his anger filled "what"

I can't have a party or anything because of all these stay at home orders plus I assume no one in the family wants to celebrate it.

I do not want them to think "WE" have issues when she is the one who will not speak to me and has the issues. I have no problem seeing her, she has the problem. How do I not let the rest of the family think "We" have issues when it is "HER" that is the problem.

For years anytime something would go wrong at my parent's house they'd always call me to come fix it. Since most of my siblings have moved out of the house there's only 2 of my older brothers living at home with our parents. If a remote isn't working ,my mom will call me. If a light fixture isn't' working or they want a new on installed, Anything tech related I'll get a call. A week or so ago the cable box in my brother's room stopped working so I had to go check on it. I told my mom he probably needs a new one and to just call the cable provider and tell them you needs a new box. I'll go pick it up and install it. Right now my brother is watching TV in the family sitting room instead of his bedroom. I stopped by there yesterday on my day off to see if my mom had called in the request and she said that she's not worried about it right now because he can just sit in the sitting room to watch TV because she didn't feel like sitting on the phone with them. I even told her to add me to their account and I'll make the call. She said she wasn't even worried about it at this point. Am I wrong to think that if you're not worried about something then stop calling me having me drive across town? I love my parents but all this running around is killing me. How should I handle the situation or should I always be at their beck and call when something breaks or needs fixing, or reprogrammed at their house? They never call any of my other siblings because I live closer.

My wife and I are growing concerned with our daughter's weight. She's 17, 5'5, and 175. She was chubby when she was young, we put her in some sports, which led to weight loss, but, for some time now, its been creeping back up. The quarantine has not been helpful, and her using her own money to buy the foods she wants are not helpful. A large percentage of the food in the house is healthy. She eats pretty much only what she buys, thinks our food is " weird". We don't want to go at this like bulls in a china shop, recklessly, and we don't want to treat her like she's not privy to this occurrence. We go back and forth between, " We're her parents, we need to help fix this" and " she's almost 18, let her do what she wants." We're petrified to take the 1st step, simply put. What's the sensitive way to handle this?

I am 28. I have a good paying job. I help  with the bills at my parents place because they're in bad health. My brother lives there too and has a job but its not alot of money to pay bills off of. The problem is, I have the thought that i want to move out really badly but feel like i do, my parents will be without financial stability to live on. What do I do?

I worry I am like him and just don't realize it.

Due to this pandemic, my sister in law will be coming to stay with us for a while  On a few occasions she has visited with us for a day or two and it usually turned out that we tolerated her.   She is bossy, loud, obnoxious, all-about-me (attitude).  Very opinionated. Now that my husband and I have discussed that this is where she needs to be since she has nothing and nowhere to go, and she is family,  we have re-arranged our living area to accommodate her stay.  As time grows nearer for her to arrive, I am getting a bit nervous.  She has thick skin and just says whats on her mind in any tone that she feels at the time.  I on the other-hand am not thick skinned, I do take offense to some of her comments (from past) . In the past I have swallowed my offensiveness and let it slide off my back and moved on.  Now that she is coming to live with us.. hopefully not for any extended time, I am not sure how to handle the situation.   I realize there IS not situation yet, but past history does is haunting me.  I really do want to have open arms and we all live in happiness.    Do you guys have any suggestions of what can be said upfront to avoid any future confrontations?  like.. rules etc?  I have never roomed with anyone except my husband.  She is a couple of years older than us, never been married, has no obligations and lives only for today.  Not a bad thing if that's her choice. I am not condemning her, but I do want respect to a degree and will give it equally.  Ideas please?

Also, why would a parent like this be devastated that their children want nothing to do with them after they disinherited them?

I am nearing  age mid 30s. I moved away from my hometown last year ( almost a year ago ) With that , of course came distancing myself from my mother . To interact with my mom , is usually a big stress factor for me . She would always find a way to upset me , just in hanging out with me ( our outings together) or even just over the phone. She has a habit of upsetting other family members and other people ( strangers ) in general. I moved several hundred miles away. All of this , only to still be very bothered and usually extremely angered whenever I talk to my mom over the phone. For two weeks I have had the urge to block communication with her . Block incoming calls , texts and emails from my own mother. I wake up every day bothered by the fact that I have not "blocked" cut her off as of yet . Do I need to ALMOST completely block my senior aged mother out of my life , for my own sanity and well-being? How many other people in the world have gone several months or even years without seeing or speaking to their mom and or dad? Please offer me advice/input. My 74 yr old mother drives me insane ! despite our physical distance. She has pretty much upset me , my entire life. As young as I can remember.

I have been providing for my son for about 10 years now. I never got financial help from his dad nor did I ever take him to court. I have always worked hard to give him everything he wants to make him happy but I always end up being the bad person the one that doesn't understand his dad's situation. His dad has two other kids he supports and according to my son he struggles a lot. So what?? I do too I can be strict with him specially regarding school and I just feel that he hates me and it breaks my heart :( but always defends his dad who he sees once a week or even sometimes every other week. I wish he would give me credit for the things I have done for him. Maybe I made a mistake when raising him? I feel defeated. sometimes I wish he would just go live with his dad but he doesn't want to because supposedly there's no space for him there. So in other words I have to put up with him.  He's 17 years old by the way and for the first in motherhood I don't know how to handle this situation :(

My friend says he has 10 siblings and he's kind of in the middle. (His mom married twice) Im curious how life has been is for these people growing up. He acts like it's no big deal and is pretty chill about it, but I for one would go nuts.

My step mom married my dad when I was 10 years old and I have known her since I was 8. I grew up with her when I went to my dads and we always had a great relationship. I have been gradually becoming less personal and quiet but I've always been an anxious introvert, high school just brought it out more. It has gotten noticeably worse the past few years. But recently my step mom seemingly takes every opportunity she gets to guilt trip me about it. Granted she does a lot for me and I appreciate her so much for it, I always have, I just don't express it the same way I used to or the way most people do. If I come home without saying hi she will take it personally and think I'm purposely ignoring her or disrespecting her when in reality I just don't want to talk. I barely talk to my real parents too. It's not like I never talk to her, I do just not as often as I once did. She has known me long enough to know what kind of personality I have. It seems like at least once a week I find her playing the victim and crying to my dad that I don't love her anymore and that I'm disrespectful and ungrateful when that couldn't be further from the truth. I have personally talked to her about it multiple times and told her how I feel and how I just prefer being alone or I'd rather go out with my friends than sit home with them 24/7 but she just doesn't seem to understand. I'm not sure what to do to fix our relationship, I feel like communicating with her about it is impossible. 

Hello all, So my fiancee and I have not been living together since November I feel it's safe to say girlfriend now since she's given me back the ring we still care about each other a whole bunch but the thing that I guess you could say separates us is she's on a moving kick she wants to move to the upper section of Idaho just cause her parents are retiring and moving there as soon as this stay at home order lifts as of right now I'm back at home with my parents and so is she we both live in the same town literally 6 blocks from each other we still frequently see each other and talk alot in person and on the phone but I just don't see my self moving there I enjoy living in California and also my parents are older than hers my father 65 with diabetes type 2, 10 way bypass surgery 8yrs ago and only one leg due to a diabetic ulser and my mom 66 who happens to not drive and doesn't even  have a license  I feel like if I move and my dad has a medical issue it's partially on me cause I wasn't there to help my mom, I tell my girlfriend these are the reasons I want to stay I need to be here for my mom and dad cause I see them needing more and more help the older they get where as her parents are a bit younger they are both 55 years old and can move fine and have no pre existing conditions but regardless she doesn't listen to my reasons and says she's going anyways so I loose either way I have to live somewhere I dont want to or loose the person I care about I just at a loss.. I'm lost

My father told me to move into the back garage home so I rent it for my finance but I said I apologize but we found something better. He slammed the door. He also demanded I start a business with him. I said I apologize but I have no interest in owning a business I love my job. He stopped talking to me for 6 months. He also shows up to my place where I live and just stares at my wife and criticizes her when she's a law student and he barley went to middle school? How do I stop him from showing up and what is causing this behavior?

My grandma was given 3 months to live, she's turning 86 in 2 days, should I still get her something knowing she's going to be gone soon?

I met some kids in the neighborhood at my aunts house while I was practicing basketball. They were younger than me and they were nice. When i went back inside my family was acting really weird around me and laughed at me. Is it bad to play with neighborhood kids? Are they dangerous or something? Did I do something wrong? At least I'm socializing?

I've done everything for my daughter a disabled single mom. I went back to school, fought with my health just to have a better life for her. 2 months ago when I had to pick her up from college, she's 19 yrs old. She here for 2 week's then tells me she wants to stay wth her dad because she and I won't get along! I'm confused because we don't argue and you haven't been here because you've been away at school!? I allowed her to go. She stays with her dad for 3 days before she ends up with his sister, her aunt. She and i do not get along. She's one of those people that thinks she's better than everyone else. She also believes I was trying to keep my daughter from her last Summer because I wanted my child to get a summer job and be responsible, have work ethic. She tells me, that's okay I'll just do what I want with her when she leaves your house. My daughter has been defiant all her life, I say go right, she questions it and wants to go left. Instead of her telling my daughter to be respectful to your mom, she upholds her in her wrong and now rewards her with using her car at anytime during this pandemic to travel an hour to see her boyfriend and putting her on her phone plan. We shared some words and she basically called me a bad mom. I asked her how exactly am is bad mom and what is my daughter's problem with me since she's knows it all. Her response was I don't know, which was also my daughter's response. I Am So Hurt and feel betrayed by my own daughter.

My husband lost my mother last night. We've been at the hosptial last few days and the nurses finally gave her the push last night. He is really upset about it and has decided he wants to participate in the embalming process. Can he help do it?

My Mother's Day sucked. When I told my SO how disappointed I was he responded that "it's all about money" with me.  Backstory: We've been together 10 yrs & have a 3 yr old. I've helped his 3 kids whenever they needed anything, & I'm a SAHM. I do every single thing related to our child & within our home. It's clean & he gets home cooked meals. He works a job from 7-5 & then picks up extra work if he wants. He picks up extra work 7 days/wk. He isn't home much with me & our son. Here's what happened on Mother's Day. He wakes me with a card & candy. Then he left to do extra work for the next 8 hours, & I was left home alone with the 3 yr old all day. He came home & I cooked dinner & washed the dishes while he watched tv. He said he wanted dessert & asked me to go to the store to get stuff to make it. When I said I'd rather have a different dessert he said no & insisted on having what he wanted. So I went & got the stuff, & noticed receipts in our truck. I saw they were for what he bought for Mother's Day. He got his mom a card ($10) & a gift card ($50). He spent $2 on my card & $10 on candy. I sobbed & was still crying when I got home. He asked what was wrong. I told him I would've been okay with what I got if he'd at least tried to make the day special by cooking or something. The fact that he spent 5x more on his mother than me just made me feel so devalued despite all that I do. His 3 kids didn't even call me or send a card. He said I was materialistic. Am I?

The quarantine has ruined everything. My future plans everything. Plus I haven't found a girl in 5 years. 

Everybody in my life except for my dad seems disappointed in me, especially my mom and my brother. I get yelled at or teased for it every day and I'm tired of it. No matter what I do, it's only good enough until I mess up again and nothing is better afterwards. My brother gets constand appraisal and leniency, but I get nothing. How do I stop it?

if your spouse's parents say that we could move into their house after they pass, would you? 

I'm the youngest I have a full time job and self sufficient . 4 older sibling in their 30s one who is constantly in debt. two others that hardly work and just about get by and another who suffered mental illness, he is okay now but has never worked, does not bathe or even brush teeth , no house work does nothing at all also does not want to change thinks he is fine. This is all due to my parents , it's too late for them to do anything now . But this is a constant worry for me for example If my parents die I would have to step in and a part of me feels it's not fair my entire life has been taking care of others I want my own life and family too but I'd feel too guilty 

When I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing and she grabbed my arm and I lifted off my feet and landed on the bed. How could she physically do it?