first of all my friend just got diagnosed with a really rare brain tumor. I don't know all the details, but doctors aren't sure if it is operable or how long she will live. she lives across the country, so I cannot see her. I am really upset and don't know how to begin a text message or if I should call her (I know this sounds stupid). I know if I call her, I'll just cry. for some reason I feel too shy or upset to ask my parents. I guess I could ask my sister. I am trying not to google too much about her tumor but it's actually making me anxious upset angry and giving me headaches. I'm having trouble coping and know I need to reach out to my friend. I keep waking up wishing it was a dream. 

I hear women call each other "girl" for example "Girl! I know what you mean that guy is a jerk!" Is this a verbal form of friendship or sisterhood? I feel like it is if between friends and in a friendly tone. 

This happened last year in my college class When I was staring into space & i was staring at the trash can & i see the girl i liked looking at me. Then later I was staring at the wall & when i look over i saw her Leaning her Head Against her Hand While looking at me & smiling.

Our friend group all wants to hang out but because of our differing schedules it seems impossible. The first girl has 2 jobs so it's hard for her to ask off both at once and the second girl's department only lets one person be off at any given time. This leaves me and my best friend to be the ones to take off work every single time we want to plan a trip. Neither of the first two girls will even attempt to ask or try to take off. Every plan I or my best friend comes up with that would require us all to equally take off one day is always shot down and replaced with something that "suits everyone" -except us two of course. Lately, the two of them have been bugging us about taking off for a day in June to go to the lake. Am I selfish for just not wanting to go? I obviously do want to go and spend time with them but I am tired of being the one to take off all the time. With the recent pandemic and unemployment hours issues, I'm not even sure if our manager will let us take off even for one day. Of course when I mentioned I might just visit for a few hours instead of staying the whole time, the two girls are coming up with every possible way I could ask to take off- but they refuse to do the same. I know with their jobs it can't be helped but it just feels so unfair. My best friend was in a terrible car accident and broke her hand so she has been off the past week and I'm not sure she wants to take off anymore time. Is there a peaceful solution? Or should I just suck it up and go?

So I have a friend who's been my best friend since 7th grade. We weren't always close but now she's basically my only friend. She's pretty much a sister. We made all these cool plans to move in together and rent a house, but then she told me how she missed her family so I convinced her to move back in with them. She now stays with her two sisters in their apartment. It made her realize how much she wanted an apartment so we changed our original moving plan to an apartment, but now she's acting different. I don't feel like a friend I feel like everytome I text her I'm annoying her. Her whole attitude towards me has shifted and I don't know what to do. Do I ask her about it?? I don't let many people as close as I let her and now she doesn't act the same. I really don't know what to do.

I hear women call each other "girl" for example "Girl! I know what you mean that guy is a jerk!" Is this a verbal form of friendship or sisterhood? I feel like it is if between friends and in a friendly tone. 

Sometime when I saw a nice looking female on sidewalk. I wave at girls. Next those girls give me a middle finger. So what should I say or do? Keep waving or give them finger back to them? Or what?

As in "Girl! I know what you're talking about I bet you can relate. In terms of girlfriends talking to each other. I know it's patronizing for men to call women girls I get that, but especially in the south I hear women say it to each other as a term of endearment or sisterhood? Am I misunderstanding? 

I had a close female friend who was experiencing FOMO during the quarantine and we were kinda talking. I made some jokes and then told her about the group I was a part of. I made a point about how sometimes we aren't invited to things in life and it isn't because we aren't loved but because sometimes things don't involve us and that's ok (I learned that lesson the hard way) I mentioned a mutual friend of ours who is a married man who she has shots with privately and said I would like to join that, but I know it doesn't involve me. She said I had crossed a boundary and then stopped talking to me. While maybe I wasn't tactful that seemed like an extreme response? I didn't intend to hurt her, I've experienced being left out a lot growing up and have learned to cope with it. Am I an asshole?

Basically I told one of my friends who I also work with how I was kind of upset about my pay and how certain other coworkers were putting their responsibilities on me. As I asked them to, my friend promised they would not tell ANYONE, because I really just wanted to do something about it myself after thinking it over. The next day my boss called me, and basically my friend had told my boss everything I said. I talked to my friend, and they didn't even say sorry, they just said "oh yeah it came up when I was out getting a drink with our boss"... seriously? As someone who has severe trust issues this really bugs me since they didn't even apologize, instead gave a crappy excuse. How should I react? 

My husband wants me to be friends with his friend's wives. I am not interested in pursuing any type of relationship with them. I have had bad expierences with jealously and craziness in the past with his other friend's wives. I am older now (29) and not interested in the drama it intells at all. I have my own friends to talk to and do things with. My husband goes out to his friends house and wants me to tag along. But I know what that means, I have to hang out with the women while he is with his buds. Thats a big nope for me.  I would rather he go and have a good time with his friends than have to deal with me being uncomfortable and wanting to leave. Am I being unreasonable? 

I have a friend that has 3 deceased husbands. As she is getting older she is planning for her death. She wants to be buried by each of her deceased husbands. One plan is to be cremated and divide her ashes with 1/3 going to be buried next to each of her deceased husbands. The other plan is much more weird. It is to have her body cut in 3 pieces and have each piece buried next to a deceased husband. Can she really do that?

I'm moving into my new place this weekend. I told my friend a week and a half ago that I don't have a bed. She called me this weekend while I was looking at beds that she is selling a bed and I told her I will look at it today. However after the call I found a bed that came with a whole set.  How do I let her down easily without upsetting her?

My mom was very young when she had me. She is 33 now and I am 16. Everyone else has a mom who is atleast 10 years older or more. They keep taking it up and making fun of me.

Okay so this is really how it is so my friend got me in a group chat on messenger and then this girl was on and we were having a conversation in the group chat and she seemed cool she seemed normal and then she added me as a friend and then she told me her age. when I was teenager it was a terrible time for me and I never got to experience those years I was just locked up in the house and I didn't have any friends and I never went to any parties and such.. So sometimes I think that I still act kinda young ish maybe making up for lost time i dont know so I think I am young at heart though yes I am mature and and I do work a 40-hour job just like the rest of us but I live in the US and she lives in the UK. I know I was going to go down there before to visit a friend of mine and now she's wanting to meet and stuff and I just don't know. I sometimes don't feel comfortable with big age gaps like this and I don't want people to think that I'm some kind of weirdo. I don't know I just came on here to seek some advice and see what you guys think but being friends with much younger people. just to put it out there I usually don't have friends this young I know maybe on social media some people may follow me of course but that's about it..Have you guys ever experienced is online where someone totally younger than you just wanted to be friends anyways I really appreciate your advice thanks. And if you're curious about what she talks it's just her asking advice or her commenting on post. 

So a few months ago I asked a girl out and she ghosts me and tells me she was with someone else 2 weeks later. Yeah I was hurt but so what. I regret asking her out. Not being mean but we were friends and she introduced me to her friends. The thing is I have no friends. She doesn't know that but she will think I'm a loser if she did. I want her as a friend and only a friend. I don't care about getting a girlfriend now all I want is good friends. Of course I blew it when I asked her out. I'm not kidding but that was probably the biggest regret of my life!! If I didn't we would probably still be friends and I may have become closer to her other friends. Am I going to be a loner forever? I guess I loved her and asked her out because she gave me something that I have never gotten before. I with I could thank her for being a friend to me. And she make me feel awesome. She said we could stay friends but she doesn't really answer my messages or want to hangout. I really don't have romantic feelings for her. I want the friendship back. Just any friends. What can I do?

I had been talking to this guy for 2 months, and against my better judgement, I started liking him and wanting a relationship with him. I brought this up to him, and he said that he cared about me but that he didn't want a relationship cause he didn't want to do long distance (we travel for work, but we live in completely different states thousands of miles apart). I understood what he was saying and I told him that we should probably cut down on the contact and interaction and he also agreed. But he continued texting and calling and wanting to hang out, which I couldn't understand because he said he didn't want a relationship. This went on for about a month. Then we got into an argument and I blocked him on Snapchat out of anger and because at that point I felt like we kept going back and forth in circles and I felt like the relationship was never going to go anywhere. I also felt like he was almost just stringing me along, and I kept getting my hopes up for something more. But now that I have thought about it I feel like I should of kept the lines of communication open, and feel like I reacted to fast. It's been a week now, and I regret not coming to him about my concerns calmly and talking it out. I want to contact him now but I saw that he had blocked me on FB. Should I just let it go and move on, or should I apologize to him and try to rekindle the friendship? I feel bad about the encounter, and feel like I was very childish to block him. What would you do?

Her: Hi girl, how are you?  What about the Ramadan? I hope you are well with your family too! Me: I am doing well, I hope you are too. Everything Is alright with us, everyone is fine here. See ya.  I got no reply after this. But I got the read notification. The next day was the Ramadan holiday. So I sent her a well wishes for the holiday. She saw it once again, and no reply back.This is a woman I kept contact with after high school. I invited her to my wedding, She actually traveled from her state to mine to attend so I kept contact.  At some point she solicited my mother for A job recommendation. I helped. We talked about some of our personal issues. towards the end of 2019 i reached out to her on two occasions about relationship, and to ask for gift ideas for my moms bday. each time she tells me she is busy and she will get back to me later.Keep in mind she is always on social media. First one she never got back to me. Second one she got back to me a day before the bday. It was too late to get something for my mom at that point. her and my mom were in the same state which is why I asked her for ideas. And for the relationship issue I could understand if she didn't want to discuss it but all she had to do was to be upfront. She also has a good following on social media, but I saw her as a genuine friend. But after last year I stopped interacting(stop commenting On her stuff etc...) I was still watching though. I was not bitter. so why reach out to me and then act this way? 

Not saying I want to be like them at all. But how does it not bother them? They are rude to people not knowing what that person is dealing with.  You don't know if that person has just lost someone or if they are suicidal. How can they openly be mean to people who have done no wrong to them. People who could be having hard times in their own lives. 

I asked how was my mom physically able to throw me saying when I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing still and she grabbed my arm and I landed on the bed and they said "until you understand the science of martial arts you'll know the answer until then understand that such i magic be grateful that she is the kind of person to take you out!"

People always say don't give into peer pressure because if people can't accept you for who you are, then they are not worth being friends with. But people don't understand that there are very few people in the world who are like that will truly like you for who you are. When I used to avoid peer pressure, I went through MANY MANY years with no friends. I was a loner. It wasn't until I gave into peer pressure when I started to make friends. Those many years when I didn't have any friends were so are and put me into a deep depression that was hard to overcome. So why do people say not to give into peer pressure like it's so easy? It is not. There is are little to no people out there that will accept you unless you give into peer pressure.

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