I'm 16 and when it comes to loving someone I don't distinguish between men and women, I have fallen in love with both genders. Why are older generations more socially conservative and with such a toxic masculinity? Have times changed?

All my siblings are extremely independent except 1. That was is a few years older than me. That particular sibling when I was younger around 19 years old wanted to always hang out with me but so that I can do favors. For example, help me babysit my kids (free). Help me clean my house. Help me loose weight(cannot do it alone). I found this extremely manipulative and put a foot in it kindly started rejecting requests. Did my own life went to college graduated found a spouse. Now that we are older this sibling resents me for not helping her out, helping her move forward with her life, paying for some trips some vacation trips. I find this extremely annoying me and my spouse really only focus on us. What is the problem with this sibling? Feeling super owed.

My parents feel sad every time me and my other siblings reach big milestones — for instance, my brother graduating high school and getting a $50,000 scholarship award to a famous university. They keep talking about how my sister will have a hard life and that she'll have to live at home for much longer than expected. I remember how my mom cried when she found out that my sister is autistic for the first time. My sister was 5 years old when she was diagnosed by a professional. My parents were devastated. It's been 9 years now, and they still cannot fully accept the diagnosis.

I (f16) often have my boyfriend (m17) over and we normally hangout in my basement because we aren't allowed in my room. My mom has cameras pointed on us from multiple angles and I don't find it reasonable. We aren't allowed to kiss or even hug, and if she sees us hugging or something she gets really mad. I don't understand what she expects because i've been with him for 3 years. I wouldn't have sex in the house and i've made that clear with her. What do I do?

Putting anonymous as I keep it a secret. My Dad was an alcoholic until his death. I know how the cousins, who are much younger then me, feel. The uncle knows because my mother divorced my Dad and yelled from the rooftops that he is an alcoholic but I felt so ashamed by this. Ever since my Mom softened for me when I entered high school and allowed me to start seeing my Dad again at the insistence of a school shrink I have devoted my life to making up for being estranged from him for 5 years after my Mom left him. He died 2 years ago and I was aged 30 at the time. I have covered up so much for him. I am an enabler but proud of it as it is to make up to him for the 5 years estranged when I believed my Mom when she would insult him. Now that he has died I am trying to show some forgiveness towards my Mom. So now I have cousins whose alcoholic, my Mom's brother, is an alcoholic. He is very similar to my Dad only not as severe. Last Christmas he and my aunt (his wife) were so drunk that my Mom had to call his daughters to come pick them up. They had both left in disgust. The aunt gets mushy and drools on me telling me how wonderful I am. The uncle gets nasty like my Dad would. I understand their embarrassment. However, it is a secret that my Dad was an alcoholic and died of liver cancer (I told people he had colon cancer and even managed to put Colon Cancer in the obit). So do I tell them this secret or just hold on to the secret? I am scared they will share it. For some reason my Mom asked me to keep it a secret when her brother got drunk last summer in front of us but like I say she shouted from the roof tops when it was my father (her then ex-husband). This part bothers me and makes me feel I was used when she kept me from him (she left him because of his drinking and his personality from it. Says it was to protect me but that makes me feel responsible as I think to a degree she is right). 

Sixteen year old grandson and his mom have lived with hubby and I thirteen years. We get along on a superficial level. I've learned to keep my mouth shut in the sense of offering advice or suggestions. What drives me crazy is they (mom) wash 1-2 loads of laundry every day. Grandson wears clean pj's to bed and puts them in the dirty hamper in the morning. He showers almost every night and puts his one time used towel in the dirty hamper.  My hunch is tossing pj's and towel in the hamper is easier then putting them in a drawer or on a towel rack. I hate wasting natural resources.  We live in drought plagued California.  Conserving water is a way of life.  Our electric and gas bill is always high.  The money doesn't bother me, we can afford it.  But wasting natural resources really bothers me. We have a low water use front load clothes washer, and when feasible use our clothes line. I can't think of any way to approach this issue that will be at all successful! I swear I could suggest we should breath in oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide and it would go over like a lead balloon. Should I just let it go for the sake of peace and harmony?

My parents agree, at least my Dad who is the one with a brain, that my sister is the one with the problem and not me. I also don't want to see the toxic witch so it is not like I would voluntarily go over there. However, it hurts my feelings that I am officially asked to stay away while this witch is there. How do I cheer up and why is it that something like this upsets me when I don't even like my sister so shouldn't care. No one in the family likes her so I am not the only one. Even our grandmother agrees my sister is a monster (though she didn't use that word).  My mother caters to whatever my sister demands and that is why she, the sister, has become narcissistic as a young adult (age 26). I am aged 23. 

Family members are hosting a virtual family reunion. I tested the platform and am unable to block individuals from seeing my camera without turning the camera off for everyone attending. Like an in-person reunion, there's always somebody who you aren't on speaking terms with, and I'll say its due to their action or more inaction, so I don't want to give them the privilege of seeing me nor my family.

Example: I told my 65-year-old mother that I recently watched the De Niro film "Taxi Driver" and that a I'm glad she recommended that movie to me. But with the way she reacted, you'd have thought I told her that she was an accomplice to 9-11, or that she told me that 2 + 2 is 10. Basically, she bites my head off, "I never say that!" or "Why would I say that?!" As if I told her that she said something irrational like "Aliens from outer space are coming for us." Why does my mother yell at me when she doesn't remember something I claim she said, when it's never something out of character that she said? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I'm around her, or that she's a boss who's yelling at me for something that wasn't my fault. It's like she gets these random mood swings where I'm perceived as hard-headed or annoying her. And of course, she never remembers yelling at me about the De Niro movie and such, even if the conversation was just yesterday. I'm well aware that bipolar people get moody and in denial to the point where they have to have the last word. But with mild dementia, I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do. Why would my mother get angry at me for claiming she said something that even implies she's very smart? Yes, she has yelled at me when I reflect on good advice she gave me, "Why would I say that?!" please help!

I suffered in high school in adulthood and I still do, Why should I put a Son in this ******* world? I don't want anyone to suffer.

I love rats and in new york theyre starving and committing cannibalism on eachother and their babies because food shortage. I cry over it Everybody hates them but they don't do anything unless you have a huge infestation in your home. Its the fleas and bugs on rats that carry disease, not them. They dont attack people, they always hide. Please feed them for me or if you want i can mail you a lot of food for them. Can you help me? No one will probably care though because theyre not dogs or cats.

It started small but my sister with autism made it a lot bigger on purpise for our cats to come in and out. I feel like killing myself or her. My parents dont want to fix it, despite there being dead and live roaches and other bugs in the kitchen, cupboards and other rooms.

I grew up in a large family where my parents were very money hungry. When I started a business my father demanded trips, attention, money. My wife did not like that at all. She doesn't find it normal. My family seems normal in pictures but they are actually quite manipulating like my siblings are older than me and would constantly ask for help? Again my wife doesn't understand why they can't help themselves? What do I do?

I am 27 male millennial. i had a good childhood life raised in a nice two story house in Texas. Both parents were great and 1 sibling.. i was a type of a quiet a shy kid not many friends but happy like a normal typical kids doing fun outdoors activities. By the time I turn 12, my step brother moved away to his dad in California. Me, and my both parents moved to another 2 story house. They weren't getting along and I was doing well in school but like a typical kid got in lot of troubles.. by the time i was 14 we moved to California and it all fell apart my mom met a dude who at 1st a conman conned my dad but never any proof so no justice. I can't explain why he & my mom still together because he a conman (13 years later). My dad doesn't seem the same seem like not very supportive of me of my dream career, just say ok,I understand but the vibe I just don't feel it. My mom i don't know if I can truly talk to her, she always like when I go to church with her few time when at end of mass they do the thing of salvation and I notice i glance my mom has that look at me am I saved or something.. my brother i don't know he is back in Texas cause of a teacher job opportunity. I feel like betrayed? I don't know. Is it just me, am I just over thinking too much or is there something wrong with me? PS. I don't have much friends.. only 2 friends but in Texas. None in CA due to home schooling which i hated. (This last part is likely unrelent). sorry 4 my spelling is kinda poor and I also didn't have a lot of characters to type/write. About the part going to church with my mom part.. she always had done that even when I was a kid.. there was this one moment with the exterminator at the house in Texas.. the exterminator guy "ask if I was saved" and I was at that age where I could go to hell if I wasn't and I was only like I don't know 9-10? Still in elementary school  Maybe that is why I don't like Christian people or any type of religious.. maybe they all too judgey i don't know.. i just live life as i can doing what i love. I sometimes feel like there is a God because I witness the experiment when the church do experimental for proof of God.  But I for some reason just can not get into reading the Bible and my mom or dad never really took the time with me to teach me even though my mom is really religious and my dad was a Sunday teacher for church. But never sent me to Sunday school.. but yet my mom seem to judge at least it feel that way even though she doesn't say it maybe it is just me?  That exterminator guy he was talking to my mom.. i was somewhere in the background.. but I overheard their conversation 

I'm the only one in the family that doesn't have any talents. Both my parents can sing and my two older brothers can sing and dance. My parents are also good at Math. They're both engineers and my brother is a painter and the eldest is an architect. They're just really smart and talented people. Meanwhile I'm 24 and I'm the youngest and the dumbest. I can't sing, dance, and draw and basically I can't do anything at all. At family gatherings, I always feel so left out because my relatives are really smart too. My uncles, aunties, cousins are doctors, engineers, artists, and business managers. So basically, my entire clan are talented except me. I work as a cashier at a local grocery store, and I also work part time at a home care facility. I'm the only one who works the lowest paying jobs. Sometimes I wonder why I exist. What's my purpose in life? Why was I born? Why did God put me in this situation? If he truly loves everyone, then why is my life a mess? I feel so depressed and I don't know what to do with my life. 

I am only 21, I want my own life, my own independence. I am tired of being around family and having them call me. I want my own independence and want to do my own thing

so i was on my mac pro cylinder 2013 computer doing school work then suddenly lines appeared all over the screen and it shut off and now it won't turn back on and smoke was coming out of the top, i tried putting it in the bath tub to cool it off

I get Im the younger sister but its very frustrating. I wouldn't mind if it was once in a while but she constantly asks me to drive her to fast food places. I feel like a chauffeur without the pay. She has her own car but doesn't like driving and I feel compelled to do it because we're family

My baby father ex keep texting him telling him she HOPE he dies. Every time When he doesn't do thing's for their baby she catch an attitude and start telling him she wish he was dead along with OUR new born baby. She keeps saying he made her depressed by punching her in her head, lying on her saying they didn't have sex my whole entire pregnancy. She also said doesn't forgive no one and she REALLY just hope he was DEAD. What is her problem? This is exactly why everyone THINK she is crazy.

My boyfriend is 20 and I am 23. I have savings and so does he. He's at about $25k in savings currently. I also have savings as about $30k so no I am not jealous at all. My bf is full time with an excellent job at around $55 an hour. I understand he's saving but it's gotten to the point where he'll complain to me about him purchasing a $10 shirt because he can get it cheaper. Or him refusing to eat dinner when we're apart because he doesn't want to spend on fast food ( when he's out of groceries ) he lives rent free with his parents and only a car so he has no expenses. He'll complain to me when his mom asks him to buy groceries. I'm tired of being around a cheapskate,  I know it sounds like I'm jealous but I am not. He's offered me expensive gifts for special occasions and I refuse because it feels wrong. I understand we're young and not married so it's none of my business really but is there a way I can talk to him so he eases up a little without sounding harsh ? 

My husband works in the evening, and the kids stay with me until their dad gets off, but I had already made plans to see my parents and sister. Is it wrong of me if I don't want them to stay with just me?

I go to the university in my city and live at home with my parents. My mother was always strict. If I was rude or overstepped the mark she'd slap me sharply in my face. I thought it would stop once I started going to college but it hasn't. If I swear at her or slam doors or even get a bad grade, she'll slap me across the face and tell me I need to improve.  She still treats me like a kid and when I get slapped I honestly begin to feel like one too. Getting hit on the face has that effect, and once she slapped me like that in front of my girlfriend and I thought my gf was surprised because I just got scared and did nothing. The thing is, I can't do anything because I can't afford to move out and my mother is paying my tuition. I know the law says parents have the right to slap their kid until they're 21, but do you think swearing at her or getting bad grades is a reason to get me slapped, especially on the face?