He is an arrogant puss. 

I have really mix feelings, (4 months) and feeling jealous. My boyfriend ran into this girl I never met, and she was saying how she wants a place, and he asked her right away to move in. That he has an extra room, and she agreed.  I was upset, and he said she is like my sister. We pretty much grew up in the same house. She's basically a cousin.  They seem really close. Apparently that don't share any DNA. My bo friend dad is step mom is her step dad's brother. They grew up in the game house from 8-20. They had their own apartments but it was connected  I don't know why but I feeling really jealous. I don't like the idea, but I feel I can't say anything (Advice)

I am super annoyed by this for some reason, since I was little my OLDER brother who is 4 years older than me copies me a lot. Like when I showed intereest in Taekwondo and other sports, he copied me and everytime i change my clothing style or hairstyle, he copies me!!!! And i thought he would be copying me!!! But there is one thing, now I am Asian but I have really tan brown skin that nobody else ever has, and I've heard that hes trying to get tan like me and It REALLY PISSES ME OFF this problem has been going on for like 10 years now, (btw, Im 14 and he's 18)

My sister asked me what is going to be different about Philadelphia now than it was when I was growing up... Because Philadelphia changes only from the top down.. It's very slow to change from the bottom up. So what is going to be different this time around. I said well this is going to be different. #1. Unlike my dad.. I work. I'm going to go sell Cheesesteaks, Fries and drinks at the Reading Terminal, downtown.. And I'm going to have some money to actually be.. Because im working now to begin with. -This gives me a schedule to keep. #2. Unlike my dad, I'll afford to finance up to $350,000 for a house. And I'll be able to finance a Mitsubishi. #3.Unlike my dad...I don't drink, and I never had drank. I don't hang around bars and clubs.. Thins that can cause boat loads of personal problems. #4. Unlike myself back then, I know what is good for me lol.. And I have the money to pay. I can go pay for a gym membership at a place with a pool..to beat the heat during the summer. I can afford to go to Ocean City, New Jersey for a day, a week or the weekends. I make my own decisions.. And I have nobody in any authority telling me I can't..or that we can't afford it. #5. I'm an Adult and I choose my friends.. I choose church. That's what's different.

I'm a 20 y/o college student, I live with my mom and step dad. My step dad was emotionally abusive growing up and my mom played a blind eye to it. Things are up and down now, sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not. My step dad only changed since they had a daughter, but growing up (he had a son who was my age) he always made it VERY clear that his son was more important than me. The contrast was very clear. Now, last week we got into a fight. My parents have been talking about me and telling me to "get the **** out"and "I'm gonna throw all her **** on the porch" ... my own mother ignores me and talks about me behind my back with him all the time & tbh it's emotionally painful. Due to the current situation, they're 2 months behind on rent and they want money for it , otherwise bank might take the house. I had $ save + I'm getting a federal cheque of $2000 a month (Canadian), but I am so hurt & so tired of living at home (I'll be 21 next month), that I want to save that money and move out as soon as this is over!! I told my mom NO, point blank. Am I making a good decision or a bad decision??  Mortgage *

My family has this 'conservative mentality' where they will even go to taking something out of the trash and eating it instead of going out and rebuying it. What should I do? I'm not trolling 

Growing up (and even now) my parents have always sworn at me, insulted me, or were just plain rude to me for simply being in the same room sometimes. Then they got mad at me for copying their behavior when I got angry. It wasn't until recently that I learned that behavior is learned, and it's very difficult to break the cycle when you haven't had any proper teachings to do so. However, ever since I became more religious (my parents are mostly agnostic/atheist), I've tried not to react or behave like them. Sometimes it's very hard to be the bigger person in this case because they mock me for not insulting them back or claim I think I'm better than them for controlling my anger around them. It can all be very frustrating at times. I always have to remind myself to be the bigger person because they are not going to be, and I don't want any unnecessary trouble than I already have for getting angry back at them. I'm not saying everyone needs to be religious or convert to something, but being so has really helped me reduce a lot of anger and has helped me be more level headed around them. Before finding my own path, I would behave just as they had. Swear back at them and get even angrier, which resulted in even more conflict. What do you think? Do they deserve a taste of their own medicine or am I being right to control myself around them, even if they just try to get me riled up even more?

So, I was washing a pot out and there was still food sticking on the pot so i used a spoon to scrape it off and it left a little scratch that i didnt even notice and so my mom started screaming at me saying i dont give a **** about her items tht she works hard for. i tried telling her it was by accident but she said that she doesnt want to hear it and that she wish that she never put all the energy just to feed and take care of me. It was a mistake and it made her really angry because she already doesnt like the neighborhood we live in because she says we cant do any better so that triggers her anger.

My died when I was a baby. My mom and step mom had a huge fight and the fight got worst because my older half sister and mom ended up in a huge fight where they went to court. People say I look like my half sister and even my mom say that I look like my half sister. I don't see that, I only see a reflection of my mom in the mirror, I look like my mom. I have notice my mom yells at me for no reason sometimes and I am thinking if it has to do with how I look or maybe she's just getting older and annoyed that's why she's yelling at me?  My and my half sister have the same dad, different mom 

My sister keeps telling me what to do in my life. She tells me I shouldnt move out on my own but I cant live at home because Im in constant arguments with our mom who has severe anger issues. My sister is moving out though. She said I shouldn't get my car inspection done even though its due today, and I shouldn't get my brakes done even though Ive been getting several warnings about them in the past. She told me since there's covid i shouldnt spend unnecessary money and I dont make good decisions because Im an impulsive borderline personality. I do have borderline personality. But I would so much rather be safe than sorry with my car.

My boyfriend is a stay at home dad after Lilo was born we agreed that he would stay at home while I went back to work since my job is a little bit more higher-paid then his. A lot of people we've been in contact with for years seem to have a problem with him staying at home while I go to work? I mean, what gives? They say really awful stuff about him staying home which is thankfully not bothering him, but it's starting to piss me off the more they rag on him I've tried to shut down the haters, but they won't stop

Any advice on that? Keep it short and sweet?  Adult sons.

Before you say call it off, we live together. I also care. I'm tired of cleaning a hoarders house. I did it behind her back because if she sees me decluttering her room she gets very angry.  @regerugged. I'm afraid her habits wont change. Only prevents the inevitable.  @Anom she cant have kids, can't afford a therapist, shes even asked me to leave, but is just playing reverse psychology.  @Heken thanks for the sarcasm, you must a real trooper to be with.

I want out sometimes, but cant tell if I changed, or she did, or shes gotten worse? Besides this depressing covid, things for pleasure and pleasure only keep me from losing my cool. I'm stressed living here and not happy with her as much and she just doesnt care to improve. I feel like I'm almost ashamed to be w her but still love her.  She needs to exercise, clean up her place, quit smoking, and think more positively, also talk less. She talks to much and cant handle being quiet.  So am I at a point where I want a way out or change in my life for the better?  I guess her living standards are lower than mine.  I used to drink to get very merry and party, now it's so I dont go crazy with chest pains or get all uptight. I used to play video games as a rekease or fun get away, now it's to keep me from losing my mind. I used to order pizza once a week as a happiness thing, now it's like to keep me from feeling miserable. Am I making sense?  I used to exercise to look good, now its for my own health benefit.  I hate being so isolated as if on house arrest.  Covid made things worse. We are both low income right now. I lost my job too. We got along better not seeing each other 24/7.

My 12 year old brother has and always will be loud. I mean he yells when he talks and basically screams when he wants something but what I don't get is why he makes nonstop sound effects from the time he gets up to the time he goes to bed. Like he'll make Mario noises or he'll just make vibrations with his mouth or he'll just make Minecraft noises. Pretty much any sound effect you can think of he will do. Its been effecting my sleep because he does it even past midnight. Its super annoying and he doesn't stop even when you tell him to. Why does he do this and is there a way to stop it?

Long story short, a creepy neighbor who used to live next to us almost 2 decades ago called my parents' house and my mother gave him my contact information. I told my parents when we first moved away that I thought the guy was super creepy because he was always hitting on me and the other teenage girls in the neighborhood. But my parents dismissed my feelings, saying that he was like an uncle to me. This guy would get on the phone with me, call me beautiful, invite me to go on vacations with him, etc. Now out of the blue, he called and wanted my cell phone number from my parents Which my mother happily gave him. I was furious and told her she had no right to do that and she again dismissed my feelings. Just like before, the guy is pushing the boundaries on the phone and I can't ignore him because when I don't respond to him, he ends up calling my mother's house And tells her that he can't reach me. I also can't block him because he uses multiple numbers to call me. He is some kind of tech wiz and knows how to call through fake numbers or hide his real number somehow. I can't live like this. It makes me super uncomfortable but I feel like I have no support from my parents and this is all my mother's fault for giving out my information to him after I told her years ago that he made me uncomfortable. I also feel like I have to bite my tongue and not cuss this guy out otherwise he'll run & tattle to my parents

My teenager is making bad choices, she already has one kid (1 year old) with a dead beat dad, he done nothing in the last year for my grandson.  Now she is dating a new guy that also has no job, no high school education, she saying she is in love with him and they are actively trying for a baby she want a girl.  Now she is also talking bad about me to him ( I get copy's of all her text to my email)  They are talking about moving out, getting married and starting a life together, however they both do not have jobs.  How can I get her to see this for what it is without being the bad guy? I also really concerned about her getting pregnant again and home paying for an additional baby. 

i had to spend all of yesterday locked in my bedroom as a punishment, this was for general bad behavour and telling my mum to f--- off, my parents took ALL my entertaiment and confined me to my room, i kept sneaking out of my room and going out into the garden, in the end my parents got feed up of chasing me around the house, so they took the key from inside my bedroom door and locked me in, it was HORRIBLE i was so bored all i had was school books, the weather outside was warm and sunny, i even tried to pick the lock with a hairpin but i couldnt escape, my parents said if i wont respect their rules and punishments then they have no option but to lock me up, what do you think was i punished fairly ?

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If he really loves me and his unborn child will he pick us or them? I think he will choose his family. He tells them too much and I just dislike his sister and their little family. They act like they know everything just because they have children already. Just because she has her mother to help her all the time (I essentially have no family of my own). I feel like they look down on us and talk about us. Giving us their second hand baby bits and charging us. It pisses me off and I don't want to have anything to do with them. Never met them in person. What now

My boyfriend and I loved each other and planned on getting married. I was 22 and he 27. I got pregnant after we started being intimate, he was my very fist boyfriend and everything..the pregnancy was ok, he was really caring and often talked to our baby and said how he couldn't for our baby to be born. Shortly after the birth, he started to change. Started to drink, hang out at night and never come back for the following days. Said 'who knows who you did that child with' and called our baby 'the little b*****d baby'. He was sure I had cheated on him and done him with someone else. We argued badly but never physically. His mom was desperate and didn't understand why he changed and why he suddenly didn't want us anymore. I found out the reason why now. A girl in our town, who was in my same year and always hated me, had told him I had cheated on him (funny thing, cause I have never been with anyone except for him, I never hang out or talk to other guys except for him, and he knew that), he went crazy, said those things to me and went living with her. Now he must have found out the truth, that the baby is his and that looks like him when he was a newborn, and wants to come back with us. He changed again, and is exactly like he was before and left that 'girl'. The only thing, is that I don't want him around. I just can't see him. He made me live with depression and heartbreak when I had to take care and feed our baby. I don't want him to see his son. I can't stand him anymore.  He missed the first 4 months of our son. He said crying 'I take back all that I said, better late than never they say...'. I don't want to be with him anymore. I got stressed ans depressed, I have arithmia since he left and I have to think of my son. I don't care about his money,I'll find a way to raise him alone. His mom is desperate for us to be back together and wants to convince me to forgive his son. But I just can't stand him. I still see him drunk and calling me little b**** His mom is alright, she always was by my side and tried to make her son reason, I let her spend time with my baby but I can't stay in the same room with him unless I start having an accelerated pulse. I just can't cause he makes me remember all the things he made me go through. He can hold our baby for some limited time when my mom or his mom is around but nothing more than that. I go to another room til he leaves. It's sad but this is what he wanted.

I've decided that when my son is born I don't want photos uploaded to social media. Like Facebook. Is this unfair of me to ask my fiancé. If his family want to see him so much they can come and see him and be in his life physically. There are too many strange people on the internet and I do not think they should get the privilege to be lazy and just see him grow up through Facebook. Thoughts? 

Me and my parents were driving and they decided to surprise me and my sister with Dairy Queen for lunch. However, the line to get in was 10 cars long. Two cars go ahead, but the second one takes too long to order. After two minutes, my parents offer me a choice to leave. I say that I want to, and that's what we do. Given the current situation is why the line was so long, was this the right decision, or should I have asked them to stay? What would have you done?

I've been staying in my room all day for the past 2 months. I go out but at home I'm in my bedroom ever since we moved to a new place. I used to sit on the couch often but all I did was scroll on my phone, which I'm trying to do less of. I'm an only child and now I'm starting to regret just staying in my room all day but I don't know what else to do. I miss my old self and I miss hanging out with them more often. I'm not really close with my dad and step mom.

I learned on Ancestry.com that my Dad's grandfather is the step 3rd great-grandfather of husband of aunt of wife of 1st cousin 9x removed of wife of 6th cousin 6x removed of wife of 1st cousin 1x removed of 2nd wife of father of the ex-husband of aunt of my mother's. So this is obviously way out and not like my parents are committing incest in being married or anything. However does this mean they are related?

So, my brother (19) is distinctly different from me (16). I don't mean looks, as we look quite similar. We grew up the exact same way in the exact same environments, & yet we are so different. A bit about me: I'm a generally happy kid who loves school & tends to get A's & A+'s in my classes. I have a close but small friend group, mostly theatre kids & other smart kids. I spend a lot of time with my family (except for my brother, but we'll get to him). I do not do drugs nor do I drink, & I don't leave the house very often. I respect & care for those around me. Sometimes I have my outbursts, but I apologize if I hurt someone & I can collect my thoughts pretty quickly. Now, my brother: he started out very similar to me. He loved school & was very happy. He was a major role model for me when I was younger. Then around third or fourth grade, he started to fade away. Now, he's a high school graduate (barely) who still lives at home & flunked out of college recently. He doesn't try, he's very rude, he lies, & all he does is play video games all day & smokes pot with his friends. I genuinely have no idea why we ended up so different. We had the same internet exposure, same school, same teachers, & the same ideals growing up. Of course, we had very separate friend groups & we are different genders. He's also nice to me sometimes. Sometimes. But could there be something more?

i am a 16 year old girl and my mom is 50. it is just us who live together during this quarantine. the more that i have been home around my mom i start to realize it is simply exhausting. she is like a best friend to me and don't get me wrong i love her so much, but our parents are divorced (have been for about 11 years) and THE only thing she seems to talk about is how much she hates my dad, how much he did her wrong, how much of a horrible person he is. i went to my dads yesterday and today she completely flipped out on me saying "Oh just because you went to your dads now he's the greatest guy in the world!!" and just takes all of her anger out on me.i love my dad but she tries to make me hate him.  she was screaming and calling me names and says "just wait life gets worse once you get older" and it makes me scared for the future? i'm always so positive but she is literally so negative i think it's affecting my mental health. she will say she never thinks her life is going to get better, how lonely she is, how she'll be lonely forever, etc. i feel bad for her and before i would always talk to her about it thinking my words would change her perspective on things, but the way i see it my words no longer do anything. my mom had gone through a lot. recovering drug addict, divorced, her dad died, but this was all years ago, and she thinks now she is going through it. i think she needs therapy. it starts to make me feel depressed. what can i do about this? 

I have 2 children in college and my daughter is in high school. As you can see, money is tight at my house because of college expenses. My daughter Nancy wants to be like all her high school friends and have nice clothes and other nice things. I just do not have the money to buy her all the things she wants. When I tell her I can not afford the things she wants, she will call my mom and ask her to go shopping with. When she finds something she wants, she will tell my mom and my mom will usually buy it for her. With what mom is buying her, she is living WAY above our means. She thinks she has the greatest grandma in the world. Please give me some advice on how I should feel about this. Mom can easily afford to buy her these things but should she? Is Nancy taking advantage of my mom? Mom did not buy me these nice things when I was Nancy's age. Parents and others, please give me your thoughts on this.

So about 3 to 4 years ago i had to make a difficult choice to give my cat Max away to a family member. My mom said either the family member or an animal shelter. So my great grandma and my second cousin took him in promising to give him back as soon as my mom and our family were on our feet. I then got put into foster care but still got to see him after a year of not. My grandma would pick me up from my foster parents and would take me to see My cousin and Great Grandma along with Max. Even with being gone for a year he still remembered me and was very affectionate which he never really was before. He would only curl up next to me now he would jump onto my lap and start purring and falling asleep. I havent seen my cat again for a year and a half. the reason this is because im back with my mom and we are fine but i never got my cat back. My grandma has died so i cant ask her to take me to where he lives. My mom and cousin dont like each other at all so i cant ask my mom to help me see him. Im not even sure if he still lives with my cousin or if hes still alive and i ask my mom again and again if she can take me to see him and she keeps saying "Not this again" and laughs but to be honest it hurts that i dont have him by my side anymore and my mom thinks ill just be able to get over the fact that i dont have a pet that i loved dearly. I dont know what to do i miss him more and more everyday and my cousin refuses to answer my calls please help!

Like wont the parents tease their kids that they are failures and compare them to other people? I heard it happened to many people 

I hear in west once the child go to college they move into dorms and legally adults they must be independent. However do American parents feel disappointed in their children if they didn't finish college or they dont care? 

she now told me to stay in my room until she comes home from partying and to not eat drink or move unless it is an emergency. she said not to eat dinner as my punishment. she said she might not be home until tomorrow. she calls this learning I call it punishing. this was after I cleaned it

My 13 yr old DD (lv 9, almost lv 10 gymnast) has always enjoyed gymnastics, running, and soccer. She started focusing more on gymnastics these past few years, but is a really talented runner. She trained a lot of hours at the gym, but she also did a ton of conditioning at home, and it really paid off. She is so motivated with whatever sport she does, (just not school as much!). It comes from within. My other daughter (14/15) is also a gymnast, but is part of a less competitive program. She is in HS and does other sports and wants time for other things, etc. Completely understandable.  We have been in lockdown for two months, and I noticed my younger DD wasn't showing as much interest in conditioning and was starting to run and bike more (don't get me wrong, cross training is amazing). She occasionally did stuff on mats and tramp with her siblings, but the other night she told my husband and I that she wasn't sure if she wanted to return to gymnastics. She'll be going into 8th grade next year and I know sports and whatnot are iffy.  We talked through it. Husband seemed more OK with it. Gymnastics is dangerous! And he likes to running workouts with her. She said she actually doesn't miss it which is REALLY SURPRISING. I asked if she wanted to switch programs like sister, but she just said she'll do it for fun at home.. no interest in competing, training, college anymore. I'm not sure if something happened or she really just lost interest all of the sudden. she wants to run... (continued): And she said running would be better for her. She said the levels are getting harder, and though she's kind of a natural, she's had to work. But the problem is, she really wants to be the best... If it gets hard, she's normally willing to work, but now she is saying there's no point in doing gymnastics anymore. I'm still upset and I think she knows. I've tried talking, but no use. I feel like she thinks I'm forcing her, but I just want her to think more. Could she change her mind?  please don't get the wrong idea about me: I am NOT pushy, I hate over scheduling, and it's not about being the best. It's about having fun, and working hard (if want!). I'm just feeling sad...

because they can decide to move out and stop contacting their parents if they want? However at the same time they tell to adult children who live with their parents to move out if their parents are oppressive. For example if a parent say "I have a 20 yo son who lives at home and I decided he can't have friends", people would suggest to the parent to stop being oppressive. However if a 20 yo who lives at home says his parents don't want him to have friends people would say his parents have the right to set this rule and he has to move out? English isn't my first language