Today was my breaking point. I know this may sound like something simple to many people, but today my mother spat on me. For some background, my mom used to spank me with a wooden rod as a child and pull my hair, pinch me, etc. I was never allowed to say a word back because we're religious and any disrespect to parents is like heresy. Fast forward to today, her and I can have lovely times together that last for about a month. But then, the vicious cycle starts, where one day I catch her in a bad mood and do absolutely nothing but end up being screamed at and called mean names by her. I'm horrible at hiding my emotions, so this usually follows with a full day of me looking sad (sometimes bored, as I try to not burst out crying). Im not disrespectful, i do my chores, i just can't find it in me to smile. This angers her as she believes she always deserves hugs and affection and apologies. The next day she'd call me a horrible daughter for treating her like this and would say she hates me (I never say anything back, bc i dont want my dad involved since he gets physical). Today, while she was going on one of her rants about how she despises how i act (not being cheerful after she screams at me), she spat in my face. i dont know why, but that hurt me deeply, more than any beating shes ever given me. I don't know what to do. I don't love her but she forced me to apologize and I'm stuck at home with her but i keep remembering how horrible it was to be spat at. I dont know what to do.

I'm asking this question again because I probably said it wrong . My ex husband and I went to court for our son at the time he was about to turn 9 now he's 14. It took me a year in a half to take his dad to court for custody because I wanted our son to have a father . Before that his current gf who knew me since she was a friend of mine basically called our son a bastard to social media to our friends. During court she called him names to his father because his father told me but I still allowed our son to see him and go to his house . After court they gave him every other weekend because there was proof he wasn't seeing him and he was name calling him as well. After court he said let him prove to us he will change at the time our son was depressed due to his dads attitude I said ok he could pick him up when he wants too and take him to his house . By that time he already had another child with his wife now and I wanted our son to know his sister. But his father never picked him up and we live across the street from him in different apartments that his wife doesn't know. He would come and see our son twice a month with his daughter when I told him I felt uncomfortable he would tell our son I was being mean and I was kicking his sister out so I always let them come over when he did. He never invited him to his family gatherings or Father's Day he still would try to have a relationship with me but not our son like he should. The third & final time she said things about our son That was it for me because obviously I said he can't be around her  she doesn't want him in her house as she said and his father doesn't say a thing to her now our son will be 14 soon and now he's telling our son I don't allow him to go & when I finally said ok he can go but promise me he will be ok he said yes this was in October of last year and he never came just once a month Like 4 years ago . It feels like he wants us to fight me and our son because he says things about me he knows it's 

I was walking my dog in the neighborhood and its a black lab and he started pooping in someones yard and I usually never pick it up or clean it because I make sure no one sees but today someone saw and a woman came running out of her house screaming at me and I ran off with my dog and on the way back she was still standing there and told me to come here And I told her to leave me alone and she started walking after me, can I get her in trouble for harassment and stalking. waiting there for me is creepy

I have just finished my first year of college out of state and I would do basically anything I wanted to do whenever I wanted to because my parents weren't around me. I hate having to tell them I'm going somewhere all the time when I am home because I am an adult and sometimes where I'm going is to go to have sex, they don't need to know that. I understand they want to protect me, but I am an adult.

My 1/2 year old swung her hand because she got upset ok whatever I gotta correct that behavior that she can't just swing at me . My child and I are staying with my mom for 2 months until I move out I'm 31 and this is just temp stay due to loss of job coronavirus. My mother which is my child's grandma said HEY I'm gonna hit you with this shoe you don't swing at your mom . I said no you will not hit my daughter with a shoe and a dirty one at that . My mother responded yes I will if you weren't home and I had her I would hit her with this shoe ! That's the problem with kids . When she grows up she's gonna be kicking your butt.

My sister and I live together along with my 29 yo intellectually disabled son and her two yo daughter.  My son goes out with friends from time to time and every time my sister changes the locks so he can't get back inside she says because he could have caught the virus while he was out.  Last night he left and when he got back he called the police, they told her she would have to give him thirty days notice before she can do that. He said he would like to leave here, NC and go to AR to live with my father he also asked me if I will come with him.  I told him one of us can move after the pandemic ends.  I don't mind going to AR but I know he loves it here in NC he just doesn't get along with my sister right now.  And she needs me to help out with her two year old.  What can I do to calm these two down over this? I have another sister who owns the rental and all three of us rent from her...my sister who I live with was here first, next my son, then her daughter was born, then I moved in to help out with her daughter.  I'm on social sec disability and so is my son.  All three of us pay rent.  My sister rents from my other sister and my son and I sublet...or rent.  My sister can't afford child care and she's very afraid of the coronavirus so she wouldn't send her to daycare anyway. My son is normally respectful but he gets stir crazy and doesn't get that he can't go out at all.  I know how it feels when my son does it because I felt the same way about my sister going to work twelve hours a day for a place that says they have to stay open...they manufacture light bulbs.  I thought she should quit initially now I don't know.  I haven't been anywhere since February 28 except an emergency to have my gallbladder removed and my appointment follow-up was on the phone.   The child hasn't been anywhere since January and it doesn't seem right.  I sure will feel good when this pandemic ends.

I am unfortunately living with two moronic people at this time. My sister, her evil boyfriend, and my mother. I'm 23 years of age, and I have just recently finished my work for school online. Nevertheless, last night my evil sister and her disgusting, illiterate, lazy boyfriend were having sexual again for the 200th time. It almost seems like they intend to annoy me by purposely being loud. My joke of a mother doesn't even do anything about it! I was having a bad night, so I forcefully knocked on the door and told both of them to shut the f*ck up! My sisters ugly black loser boyfriend tried to threaten me with bodily harm so I went back to my room and got a knife. Although this may seem childish, I'm 5' 10" and 140 lbs, while my sisters boyfriend is over 6 foot. Anyhow, I went to their bedroom door and started stabbing it as I expelled rage. My disgusting, evil mother called the police. Long story short, I'm now living at a hotel. My mother has now banned me from the household, while she allowS that monkey and my dumb sister to f*ck around the house. Will I get in trouble if a were to pepper spray both of them? Or perhaps throw some vile item into their room through a window? What is the best way to get revenge on them?

I am so tired of being the adult in my family. Not literally but mental!  My family has generation of past trauma everything from broken family, drug abuse, abandonment, EVERYTHING. I am 24 trying to live my own life but everybody including my mother and grandmother, come to me to "Help" them with their life. I am currently taking care of my 5 younger siblings while my mom is living with her friend and looking for housing in another state. It's been 3 months, and I told her yesterday that I am bringing them back next weekend because I am mentally exhausted and gave her 3 months to get her life together. I believe she does have some mental issues because she will literally LIE about everything and I think she believes her own lies. I was talking to my grandmother about my frustration with my mothers lies and irresponsibility and she basically told me that it's my duty to keep the kids because I'm their sister. I have taken care of them on and off all my life. I AM TIRED AND  READY TO LIVE MY LIFE!!! I do feel a little guilty but how can I be any help to them if I'm not happy myself. My relationships are suffering with my boyfriend and my friends too because I don't want to be bothered , and I am so stressed about my life. I know we all need counseling, which I have sought help. Because all this stress is not my fault or from my actions. Does anybody have any advice for me on what to do about my family, taking my life back, and guilt?

Hi everyone. So I need some advice on how to go about dealing with this situation.  We are having a very difficult time with our landlady at the moment.  Myself and my partner live in a house share and the landlady lives with us.  She is constantly moaning and shouting at us for something and it's getting extremely frustrating.  She has 3 dogs and she doesn't walk them and then she will ask me and my partner constantly to walk them and when we say no she gets argumentative and starts slating us to other housemates.  She has gotten into the habit that because we live in her house what we do with our personal time affects her. She moans at everything we do. She moans that we spend to much time in our room, well for one me and my partner work close to 60 hours a week and when we come home from a day's work we want to relax in our room that WE PAY FOR.  She has nothing to be able to moan about rent wise because she gets her rent on time EVERYTIME it's due.  And the amount we pay for one room is stupidly high. But in these times we have too.  She expects nobody else in the house to walk her dogs either she will just constantly ask myself and my partner sometimes 10pm at night also when we are just winding down for bed for the next days work.  We physically and mentally cannot take it anymore and we need some advice.  Any help appreciated. 

Hello, I'm in debt and want to sell my house. Currently my brother and my mother are living in my house. My brother has been taking care of majority of my mortgage lately because I was left without work. I'm drowning in debt and have been wanting to sell my home since I got divorced in 2018. I don't want to deal with the yard maintenance and don't have help around the house it's very frustrating. I've been holding back since my mom and my brother live with me and don't have anywhere to go. Another part of it is because my brother and his gf both live with me (have been for a while now) his gf doesn't pay anything, his excuse is "I'm paying her part" and they don't make goals or intention to get out on their own. They both do the bare minimum and I feel like being around them brings me down. Both recently quit their jobs, brothers excuse is "I have savings, I'll be alright for a year" I feel like I do not need a house nor the responsibilities. I'd be happier living alone or in an apartment with a roommate, without having to worry about yards. And idk why I feel really angry about my living situation. Am I being selfish? I don't know what to do? I feel like I just want to live alone. Why am I so angry about this.

I don't get along with my dad at all.  He's not abusive or anything, just really annoying. Whenever I have to spend a lot of time around him I start daydreaming about living alone, because I genuinely feel like sharing a house with him stops me from living the life I want and being the person I want to be. Is this just because I have to spend so much time with him? Will I start liking him when I move out and we only see each other occasionally?

I'm 19, turning 20 in a few weeks and I'm a female. When I was 18, I moved to a dorm next to my university, but now I'm back home for a while till the virus crisis is over. My brother who's 27, still lives with my mom. My parents got a divorce when I was 15 and just on the first day of Easter, my dad texted my brother, saying like: "I'm sick of you all. I don't want to see you again.". My mom cried a lot. She says he is and he will always be a member of our family and he's the father of her children and that's why she loves him. They haven't had any sexual activity for 20 years and I and my brother were both adopted, since infancy. We haven't heard of our dad for months now. He just occasionally texts my brother, but he refuses to talk to either me or my mom. Anyway, today I took the dog for a walk and when I came back I saw my mom crying desperately. I asked her what was wrong, but she refused to talk to me. She finally said:"I'm tried of this loneliness. I'm sick of pretending to be alright!" I said:"During the lock down, we've all been feeling lonely. It's normal." She suddenly yelled at me and said:"That's not true! Don't argue with me!" I said:"I didn't mean to argue with you. I just wanted to comfort you." She said:"How can you comfort me, when I witness so many unusual things around me?" I asked:"What unusual thing?" She said:"I can't explain. I just wanted to vent out my grief, so I cried a little. Go and change your clothes." That's all.

Living with an elderly person in lockdown. Don't usually live with her. She seems so angry all the time. I am not sure if she is herself. It's very stressful as we have no other relations except distant cousins so I can't ask anyone else's opinion. She always acted different with her friends. I normally live miles away. Worried sick about after lockdown too.  I don't want to betray her by putting her in a home. She's v independent but knows herself that she's starting to lose things and not cope and find life hard -maybe this causes the anger & depression. Lockdown has not helped as all her normal social activity has ended. I want to help her and don't feel I can abandon her but also don't want to give up my life elsewhere where I am happy. She has all her friends here though. She is nearly at the point where she needs someone with her all the time.  She also has health issues but the doctor seems to ignore them which adds to her unhappiness. Sometimes I think she's getting a bit childlike and sulky. Is this a symptom? Anyone who has experienced this?

Prisinors serving time with Manafort still have 10 years to serve COVID or no COVID.

Ok. Well, in class, I cursed my teacher out for not letting me use the bathroom. She came over there and told me I better shut the hell up. I told her to get out my face. So she got mad (she has anger issues) and she slapped me across the face hard enough where my face has a dark red bruise.. I slapped that *****. back. Then, I slapped her again on her face. Then, I just went walked out of her class and out of the school and went home without permission since i have a car and drive to school. What do you think?

I was always cordial to her and I always talked to her with respect. Then one day she got on to me about leaving some stuffed animals on my bed. 6 weeks later I accidentally overslept one morning ( 36 minutes) when she usually goes into my room 30 minutes before I overslept. When I came out of my room she started hollering at me and shouted she was never coming back because I ignored her when she knocked on the door. However, I was light sleeping but I didn t hear a knock on the door. I then went to the room down the hall to call my dad and I looked down the hall and she gave me dirty looks and looks like she was about to beat me up. I immediately ran out of the house. She never came back to clean up the house after that. Why would me oversleeping in the room and keeping her out for 30 minutes cause her to quit her job and

I've been blessed with many Job opportunities that has made me quite successful at a young age (23). Due to family issues I had to move out since after being verbally and emotionally abused for years by my narcissistic parents. I bought my own home and car to not rely on my parents for anything. Nobody knew about my job opportunities until I celebrated my new home and car recently. Jealousy was fuming from several friends and family. Some saw and didn't congratulate me but were quick to get their friends to watch me. My closest cousin heard about it after her friend asked her and she sounded so evidently jealous.  As I shared my success story she would only "mhmm" not saying anything else. Every time I would say something positive she would go silent. It's sad because she's 3 years older than me and had more opportunities than I did as children. She likes to live a life she can't afford. Is in thousands of debt, spends recklessly and secretly left college yet I always celebrate her milestones. Her father is maliciously jealous of my dad and it's unfortunate that the cycle is repeating. What scares me the most is this is my childhood cousin. We grew up together and talk about everything including family issues and drama. If she's jealous imagine the damage she can do by exposing my personal issues with others. Advice? 

I'm 29 and my parents seems overly dependent on me. My Dad  Is single expects for me to pay his bills. Calls me to fix any issue business wise. Whenever I go visit he has tons of paperwork for me to complete. I can't even sit down and enjoy the day.  If I don't answer the phone he texts me about how I'm ignoring his call. Then call my mom to call me. I love him he has done so much for me. But it's overwhelming. My mom Is married however,  Always asking me for money. Wants me to buy her a home, because I just brought myself one. Always in my personal business. Every conversation with her is strictly about money. I'm currently trying to save to start a business but she thinks I should buy her a home with my money instead. But growing up she always put me down. I feel she makes everything about her and I want to do something for me. Of course she gets angry and try to guilt trip me. I'm 29 and have put my life on hold for most of my family and I just need a mental break and to take care of ME who I've been neglecting. Is that wrong? Advice please?

When I get home from work she just looks at me and doesn't say a word but if I dint say hi to her she's so quick to tell me something....

So... I was beaten as a child growing up. No dad, lived poor and was left with my siblings where we were to be raised in a hell that we kept secret for so long just to appear normal to everyone else. We didn't get the wooden spoon or leather belt but mauled physically by our mothers fists and objects she could find.  Some examples of the lifestyle we grew up in:  She hated my youngest brother because he was "Too Skinny" (He just had a high metabolism). I remember she would tie him to a chair using cords and feed him large amounts of food. If he ever got too full and threw it up, she'd knock him over and whip him with a thick extension cable and make him eat it. I remember crying and praying that god would show him mercy because he was only 8 years old as I heard him screaming in excruciating pain(Keep in mind this continued until he was 16). I remember when I was 9 she made me take a shower before school and she would strike me with full strength punches. I would slip and fall While she'd continue till my nose would gush blood telling me to get the **** up and hurry up or shed throw me down the stairs. I always wanted to be away from home and would like nothing more than to be at school all day. I was always on my feet waiting for the next painful event to unfold and grew up surviving each day praying to a god that never existed to help us. I know its a long *** post I'm sorry. Im 21 now, we all left soon as we turned 18 and now I just want to know how to forget it all.

My mom told me that I should shower after sweating while sitting in the garage. She said she was not going to argue with me after I told her I didn't do any physical activity. My mom proved that she doesn't completely love me by telling me that I'm grown during our discussion. That means she only loved me as a kid and thinks that since I'm grown I don't need to be completely loved. After I asked her is it wrong to sleep after leaving the garage in which I was sweaty in without showering first she asked me did I think it is wrong to sleep before taking a shower after sweating while sitting in the garage. She doesn't care about me because I'm grown and according to her I was doing something dirty and wrong by sleeping first so therefore I was given permission to stay dirty because I'm not her loved child any more and because I'm just a grown person who can ruin myself without being stopped. I don't understand why she stopped caring about me because I'm grown. She just lets me get into trouble because she thinks I'm grown and is not worth arguing with. I don't think that I should keep living any more if I'm too grown to be completely loved by my mom. My mom thinks that if I say something like what I said I'm arguing and she thinks it is a waste of time to argue with a grown person and she is not completely caring and loving because I'm grown. She has a stereotype that grown people are not worth arguing with,can doing wrong things, and has freedom do potentially harmful things.

Many people they marry and have kids but they end up being in abusive relationships or dysfunctional families. What is point if person marries and have unhappy family? 

My mom is a nurse and just told me it's okay for me to eat my brother's leftovers. He just found out a coworker of his may be positive, and my mom said "you can't get it from eating the same, it's respiratory, it has to be through droplets." I thought the droplets would get on the food when you eat it, pretty positive you can get it from sharing saliva but she's arguing with me to the death about it and both my parents are treating me like I'm paranoid for getting angry at my brother for refusing to wear a mask to work. Am I correct about this or is my mom correct? 

I've already gone to college, it's hard to get a job and live alone, I live with her because she has no one for her, luckily she's lucid. I feel like a failure.

When I was 11 my mom go so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing still and she grabbed my arm and I landed on the bed. How could she do it?

I've lost all respect for my parents. They don't do anything, and yes, they work a lot, but all the childcare and babysitting is left up to me. My younger brother has ADHD, and they don't give him his meds. They sit on their phones as soon as they stop working, and just complain. Then decide to yell at me because I'm the oldest, and because I'm both physically and mentally disabled, it's taken out on me. They're unintelligent and uncultured to the point where it's embarrassing. Most of my friends, and their families are intellectuals. Whenever my mom texts them, she always says or asks something that degrades their opinion of me. They have petty issues, and my dad has no patience. If one thing isn't right or if he has to wait a single minute, he gets angry. He causes huge scenes, which result in my younger brothers crying, and my mother yelling at him. He doesn't realize his actions have consequences, but audibly blames himself for everything that goes wrong. These people complain and don't do a thing and they're unaware of the things they do that draws people away from them. They both ramble, get aggressive, withdraw themselves from people, or brag about parental restrictions. There's a reason people avoid them, and they don't get the signs. They make the worst financial decisions, and we're a low income family. Am I supposed to respect them? How in the world do I do so? 

I just started a new job working maintenance. My first day was today, and my shifts are supposed to be 8-4 with Tuesday and Thursdays off. However, it's my sister's graduation party. Originally it wasn't supposed to be a big deal and I was going to work and then come back for it, but now my parents are wanting me to not go for the weekend and stay home. (I'm 17 btw, so not much option to refuse). It wouldn't be a big deal if it wasn't literally my second day. I need help either convincing my parents in letting me go or asking my boss for the days off without coming off like a asshole. Thanks for any input!

I told her it stresses me out seeing g trash on the floor, clutter stuffed under a table, and just pules shoved in places. Trash mixed with old junk mail, coat hangers, old clothes, crumpled papers, old beat up books, old filthy things. I even found things she needs that lost.  Yet she threw this huge tantrum and has given me attitude since. I also asked not to smoke pot in the bathroom anymore. She yelled at me saying "I know".  Look, the room has never been cleaned since I moved in and shes been taking her sweet time for years barely cleaning it up here and there. Shes data, moody, and I'm starting to hate her attitude about things. Shes now angry I'm cleaning up for her, yet she wont herself. I hate clutter and mess.  I dont want to break up over this either.

She has in the past said things like "you can be really difficult", and makes me feel like things are my fault. Like when my stepdad lied saying there was an FBI investigation on me after i smoked some weed, which isn't okay for a parent to do that lol, she said "im not saying i agree with him, but i can see why he did it, you were smoking weed in the woods" so... legit take out the "im not saying i agree with him" and u legit have her agreeing with him? Now my suspicions are that she wants me to not move out, so she makes me feel crazy, which I feel like is an intense thing to believe about your 16 yr old daughter, i mean idk. Like I get i shouldnt have smoked the weed but still, i dont think yelling at me then saying "me yelling is your fault, if only you didnt smoke weed" is really gonna help the case. and she compares me to my delusional dad a lot, and has been told not to by my psychologist, but then she goes "im not comparing you to your dad, but when your dad smoked weed it messed him up and caused him many problems", but again take out the word play of "im not comparing you to your dad" and she's fr comparing him to me. now more situations like this have occurred without weed being involved, im not a frequent user and this isnt something that has been going on for a long time, but the way she speaks to me has been going on for a long time. i fr think she wants me to believe im paranoid and crazy so i dont move out, and another thought is if i rlly am crazy..?

Obviously the mother did not know though I suspect she might be in some denial and not have validated her daughter's pain. Yet, I wouldn't think someone would disown their mother over this. I understand her disowning the brother who we do not speak to either unless we see him at a funeral (he is a dirty pervert and I cannot believe my mother let us be around him at family reunions).

Or should I be extending olive branches? Everyone backs me so I know there is nothing I need to feel guilty about. The sister is a narcissist so obviously I am not missing out on anything as the relationship was a toxic one. At the same time I don't like being estranged from family as I always looked down on people estranged from relatives.  Judy and Charlie: Sounds beautiful but if I asked my sister to lunch the odds of her accepting after last summer would be the odds of Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton having an extramarital affair this summer. Also, the odds of Chris Christie dying of anorexia. 

 Over the past 2 years i have witnessed my niece go through emotional abuse, physical abuse, and exposure to domestic violence. I've even heard the stories about how bad her dad beats her. I'm fine with a child getting a pop or spanking but my brother is a grown man beating her as hard as he can with a belt and i'm not ok with that. I've seen him smack her in the face. She is only 6 and yes this has caused a lot of physical fights between him and all of my family members. We are not ok with this. His girlfriend does nothing about it but defend him. They both sell and smoke weed. People come to the door all the time to buy weed. I'm pretty sure they have unregistered guns in the house. They recently just had a son and i feel so bad for him because i know the kind of parents he has. Now i know all this is enough to say yes report them both now but i'm so conflicted. I come from a black family and they love to keep things in the dark but it's only so much i can take as a aunt to see my niece go through. This **** i'm saying isn't even the worse . I was in foster care and it was very hard i thankfully had my sister with me. She is a kid and she goes into foster care alone. I won't be able to be there for her. What if i can no longer see her? I love her so much and i want whats best for her but i don't want to lose her. It's so hard for me to think she's going to be alone and afraid and confused. I don't know what to do. 

I am 39 years old. My mother is 78. She and I got into it today over my hatred of my father. She refuses to understand or accept that I don't like my father and I never will. She asked me what he ever did to me and I reminded her of all the times he used to hit me with his belt when u was growing up. I even reminded her of the night that I was 14 and I think I looked at him cross eyed or something and he grabbed me and threw me down on the wood foyer floor and put his foot on my back to hold me down while he hit me all over with his leather belt. During that time my mother and older sister both yelled at him to stop and he told them to shut up and mind their own business that what he was doing didn't concern either of them. I had red marks all over my back, but, legs and arms from the belt. My mom told me that I need to forget that ever happened and move on with my life. And that I need to forgive my father and start respecting him. My father had never once apologized for treating me that way. And, to this day, thinks he did nothing wrong.  I asked my mom if this had been about my sister being molested as a child if she would tell her to forget everything that happened and to move on with her life and to forgive her molester. She said that she WOULD tell her that. I don't know what has happed to my mother. She used to agree with me on this and be on my side. Am I wrong? Is my mother right? Also, when I was a senior in HS, I was working on a paper for one of my classes when my dad walked in and told me that I need to turn off the computer and sit down and write my paper by hand like he did.  Then he told me that computers are for the lazy and that I am going to be a failure at life and a loser. He then, out of nowhere, slapped me hard across the face. When my mother asked him why he did that he, angrily, looked at her and told her, "I'm trying to knock some sense into that boy".