I hate the fact that I'm alone and it's not under my control. I can try dating but theres no guarantee and it never works and I'm nearly 30 and not married. I dnt have siblings and didnt have a mother growing up etc. My dad tells me to move forward. I try but I'm just lonely and it hurts. And I hate that it hasn't event changed and not sure if it will. I feel I need a life and family of my own or something. My career is in flames (that's another issue). But how can i move forward if theres nowhere to go?

I don't really care about my family like my cousins and aunts I really care about my close family my mom and dad that is it I just unfriended a cousin whom is not any blood relative by any means was that a shitty move or smart? My family doesn't matter to me

I left door unlock, I was kneeling down, flipping porn magazines pages on top of toilet bowl when all of a sudden mom barge in and shocked... I was so frozen to death 

My dad makes me sad to the point that I dread being sent to visit him by my mom. I can't go to him if I'm crying. He'll just tell me to suck it up or angrily rant at me; he doesn't care what it is. I'm basically not allowed to feel sadness. He nags me by telling me things I already know how to do. "Did you shower? Did you take your medicine? Did you eat breakfast? Lunch? Dinner?" I haven't forgotten and don't need an unneeded reminder.   When I got seizures at 13, I was forbidden from using my phone in the car because "I'll get a seizure." I don't have photosensitive epilepsy... I went against it and he threatened to take my phone. I had self esteem issues because he kept telling us how much we looked alike. I thought I was ugly cuz I looked like my dad as a girl. Today he joked I was going to be as tall as him (not even close). I calmly told him to not say that because I don't like being called tall but he cut me off and told me I was being mean. He later told me, "If you're being a b**ch, I'll be an a*hole back to you." Any time I've stood up to him (calmly or aggressively), he just takes it as, "So you've chosen war..." If anything bad happens, he'll exaggerate. He'll go into details about how depressing it is a lot longer than he should. Sometimes he mopes to me about not making enough money at work.

If a child is 75% Caucasion 25% Hispanic what do you claim on the questions that ask if they are Hispanic?  I see the hispanic question on many school registration forms

I am doing some market research with regards to women ages 18-65 who have been through abusive relationships. I am specifically looking at spousal abuse and parent to child abuse. I know that after women have moved away from the abuser(s) it can be difficult to get your life into a state of thriving instead of surviving. Many women who have been abused loose their identity and have no idea who they are and how to take care of themselves. I am researching to see what kinds of things women would want to learn or know about with regards to learning how to thrive instead of just survive day to day life after abuse. Please put your comments down below. Any and all comments are much appreciated. There is no right or wrong answer. The more honest your comments are the better this will be for my research. Thank you.

Not the whole robot thing, but the whole inability to satiate the need for a maternal connection that will never come to pass (emotionally unavailable mother)? How do you learn to live with this? :(

I don't listen to my biological parents why would I listen to step parents

I dropped some food on the floor when I took a bite from my plate while I was standing up. My bf then reached across the table with his fork and picked up a big bite of food and began shoving it at me from above the floor saying "Look I'm going to drop it just like you, grow up and have some manners, why the f*** do you do that" And started yelling at me. I started to cry and he called a little baby. He also has thrown a bottle of protein powder at the wall when he was mad at me and then blamed it on me for not being supportive of what he was talking about. He will ridicule everything I say or do. Like I could be telling a story and be enjoying what I'm saying and he'll be like "Uh does this story have a point..or are you just talking." He will withhold intimacy from me and say "If you want me to be close to you you can ask and I might want too." He told me if we ever got married we'd need a pre-nup and that I'd have to buy my own ring. He said he'd leave me if I ever got pregnant and didn't have an abortion. Everything he talks about he thinks he's dead on and right. He acts like he has the coolest and best ideas on the planet and constantly puts others down; including me. I have no idea what is wrong with me and why I stay with him. I own my own home, have my own car and a good job. I have no idea why I lack respect for myself and tolerate it, because when I think of leaving I get really sad and feel like I can't breathe.

i'm 24 and i know i can move out but i just lost my job. it's easy to get another job as an essential worker right? well i've tried and i've been turned down for being "over qualified". I also know i can just "put up" with my fam until i can afford to move out but it's been harder each day.  a month ago, they falsely accused me of being on drugs and called the cops on me for no reason (they like starting drama). after the cops figured out it was a scene, they just left and told my parents to not call them ever again unless it's an emergency. my parents kicked me out that night and the only place i thought of going was my bfs house. i did and i stayed there for 3 days with him and his family. i came back home and my parents proceeded to yell at me and tell me i was a disgusting human for staying at my bfs and sharing the same bed and bc of that he's banned from visiting me / seeing me and i can't talk about him at home.  i have 2 siblings with significant others and since then my parents have praised my siblings and their SOs for little things.  my mom doesn't talk to me. my grandma talks mad **** about me with my sister. my dad ignores me.  it's been a month and it's starting to actually hurt. 

I am the first in my family to go to a university. I am studying medical molecular biology as a premed student. These courses require me to spend a lot of studying. Luckily for me, I love studying so in a lot of my free time I work on schoolwork. The other day, my aunt asked if I was smart, which is kind of a weird question and I didn't know how to respond politely. But, before I could say anything my mother said "no, she is not smart. she has to study a lot but she's really diligent. Her older sister is really smart. she never had to study and always made good grades." Later, I asked her why she said what she said. She said that she was just being honest, that I "HAD to study when my sister never did." She completely looked past the fact that I was a medical student and my sister had only completed high school. I just don't think comparing the amount of studying a medical student has to do to a high schooler isn't fair at all. When she saw that I was upset, she said "wait...did you actually think you were smart?" And this just really hurt me. I don't understand why she thinks that studying makes people less smart or why she completely overlooks my grades and ability to admire at my siblings ability when they haven't even done what I've done. My mother used to always say that my brother was smarter than me, but I always thought she said that to encourage him. I didn't realize she actually meant it. I've always downplayed my abilities, but I didnt know that would lead to this.

I love my boyfriend so much and always care for him, we've been together years. He's never ever been like this he treats me amazing and is so caring. However we broke up and saw eachother this week for the first time in 2 months and he's been weird. For example, he usually treats me amazing and has been sweet but he tries to have banter that I don't like e.g his swearing his terrible f*** off, u b*** and he is kidding and would never ever hurt me. But sometimes when he  has been mad he has said it and meant it. Nearly always banter though, I say it back to him which I shouldn't but I always thought of it as banter until recently. He's only been like it the past week, he wasn't before. I've told him so many times this week that I don't like it, however I shouldn't do it either and he said before we get together he's gonna change and be More mature (stop the language etc) ,We playfight as a joke but it's like we punched eachother in the arm as a joke which in fine about or tapped eachother on the cheek and I'm ok with that, even though I said that should stop. It's more his language and swearing, and I know I do it too but he said he will stop so things can work. He's never been like this before, are we toxic and can be fix it if he stops being annoying or saying stuff

For having him caught having sex with a 13 years old girl, he is 17 about to turn 18, and the two grew up together like siblings? Is he allowed to call him dirty, garbage, disown him and refuse to speak to him after taking him and hitting him repeatedly while he was begging and crying, and the girl also cried trying to stop him?

I estranged myself from some of my extended family and I don't want them to know anything about my life. How do I prevent them from snooping into my private life after they die?

understand that if I don't do this I won't be able to get the degree.

My mom and dad are actually brother and sister. My dad was adopted at age 15 by my mom's parents (my grandparents). They ended up liking each other (I guess in a bad inbreeding way).

My immediate family like my mom, dad, and siblings have always been supportive of me being gay. But my aunts on my moms side I can tell don't like it. Especially that I'm engaged.  Now they don't outwardly show homophobia but they also don't seem to care I'm engaged. I remember my cousin finding out on accident and telling my Aunt Laurene and she didn't say congratulations to me. Just looked at me weird. It sucks because I know I'm not making this up in my head. My mom thinks I am. But its different when you are the person getting treated different. For example- my sister got married in November of 2018. There was so much hype about it. She got so much attention from my aunts. It was the most talked about thing at the time. And now I'm engaged and it never gets talked about at family gatherings. I know they know I'm engaged but they just don't care. I feel like I'm not seen as an equal couple to my sister and her husband just because I'm with a girl. When I have my wedding too I just want to feel special. Is that too much to ask? My sister was treated like royalty by my aunts. They gave her gifts. They were super into planning it with her too. I guess I just feel super depressed about it and wish there was a way I could confront it without being super accusing or out of line :(

I'm 16 turning 17, I rarely smoke weed, I just had a joint given to me from my friend and was smoking it and she walked in then walked right back out. Hasn't spoke to me in like 45 minutes.

Isnt that rude to brag and boast? Also lecture me a lot ?

He is at a school called Discovery Ranch now for bad teenagers. He has been there since December 15th. He is the worst of the worst it seems like but our Mom say we have to love him and that he is sick emotionally. I don't understand how emotionally sick makes someone do the things he has done when he is not delusional or mentally ill or anything like that. He is 16 and has pulled a knife on our mother, carried marijuana and got booted from a school for it, stolen over 1,000 dollars in checks with a friend from our parents (that was when they sent him away), daily eruptions of rage at our Mom who is not the best at handling it, blamed her for our sperm father having an affair and leaving 9 years ago, and worst of all he still talks to our sperm father and visits him when the rest of us know never to speak to him again. They Facebook chat and he has visited him against my Mom's rules. The sperm father of ours will not participate with the school in Utah he is at (I wish he would just go live with the rotten apple and his new family). So when my brother returns which Mom says will be late summer how do I stay calm from the anxiety I will feel. I hate him almost as much as I hate our sperm father (no one is hated like our sperm father) but have to pretend to love him for my Mom who I love? What do I do if my brother is the same as when he left? Our loser sperm father won't take him in cause his bimbo wife doesn't want to deal with it all.

I sometimes hate him for this.

When she's talking to my sisters she can sit and talk for hours on end but when it's with me she kinda just nods her head and keeps it short. 

I helped her for 15 years remodel her houses and it caused me to not succeed in life because she was very controlling, manipulative and bossy. I finished school but instead of peruse my career, she had me remoding or there was hell to pay. I moved out but need help with things she promised me, instead my loser druggie brother constantly asks for money every month. He never helped out at all!!  It's unfair. My mom is super clingy too and acts like I'm the favorite, but gives him money instead. He's a butt-kisser! And sob story guy. I'm the better son! 

My dad beat my mom and took off when I was a baby. He paid his child support and popped up from time to time, but it was usually just to try to bang my mom and never really to see me as I grew up. My memories of him when I was a kid are basically him driving me around while he drank beer and him being a pervert. He always prided himself in his job because he made good money. Well. He lost his job and house due to covid and now all of a sudden, he's calling me every day checking in on me, he keeps giving me unwanted advice about the dumbest sh!t too. Now that I'm in my 30s, you wanna act like a concerned dad, even though I'm doing better than you?.... ok. has been staying with me periodically because he has nowhere to go, asking me for money, etc. Really, it's fu*king annoying and I don't like him as a person. I think he's an unpleasant person to be around. I'm just curious if anyone else would give their sh!tbag parent the time of day after they neglected and abused you as a child. Or should I just tell him to **** off and die?

Hi, first of all, I have nothing to complain about my financial situation, but I have parents that always being toxic, clingy, overprotective individuals that treat me like a child which is frustrating me at the age of 25. I work overtime, they complain about how I'm focus on my work, they complain about all the women I date, they complain about every aspect of my life. They don't allow me to move away and threaten they won't give any of the inheritance if I choose a path they don't want for me.  am I crazy for not caring anymore for the large amount Of money and just want to move out and never speak to them again? Even if they are nice to me, I'm getting triggered just by them knocking on my door. I'm also helping with the rent and other bills, it's not like I'm ungrateful. Especially my father, he is so talkative and want me to talk to him and spend time with him, and answer his thousand calls whenever I'm out. If I stay over at my girlfriend, he constantly calls me, when I come back home, and gets angry if I stay the night there.  They become a burden to me. I had plans that I will use that inheritance money to open my own Franchised McDonald's business, but I can't take them anymore, how they use the money as a tactic to control my life.  No doubt about it that this money will upgrade my living situation by a lot so I'm in a confused state what I need to do. I need different perspectives, please tell me what you will do if you are in the same situation? 

So I and my MIL have never really gotten along from the begging when I found out I was pregnant she said that it's not my fiancé's child to saying bad things about me to my fiancé. Now we are in a decent place but she insists on coming it clean every sat when she comes to clean she throws food out of the freezer and fridge that she sat is unhealthy and she wants the house to be clean her way. She always moves my laptop from my bed because she says you can't work from your bed. When she cleans she touches my clothes and arranges how she wants to be arranged. She says I have too many clothes and each sat she says I need to throw away my clothes. I have candles and she throws them away and says I can't have candles they are bad for your lungs. I tell my fiancé to let's just get a maid he says she really old and I want to spend time with her. But every time she comes she always nags at me and tells me what I should be doing. When my fiancé tells her not to come she says she will come with or without his permission. This past sat she came and emptied out most of the food in our freezer and fridge, and nagged at me for taking a conference call in the master instead of spare room. 

I recently just found out that my cousin has been talking badly about me (To my other relatives.) and spreading terrible lies about me for no reason at all. I have no idea why she is saying these things because I have not spoken to her in months and I have not spoken about her in a long time either. What should I do? I think she is trying to pit our relatives against me because what she says is not true and she started to randomly do all of this out of nowhere.  But I'm scared that my relatives will believe her and then I'll look like a cruel person when I'm not. She claimed that I said that I hope she could never have children but I never said that, is she trying me look bad or something?. I'm so confused and she has done this before but with others. 

When I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing still and she grabbed my arm and I landed on the bed. How could she physically do it?

Im a female and just gone through puberty, I was on the swing set in my backyard which has 2 swings and my grandpa came to swing with me. He laughed and slapped my butt once. I said "ow, please don't do that." And he did it again. I don't know if i want to tell my mom because i don't know if she will defend him and say "oh he was just playing" or something. What should i do?

My close relative (Jim) told me he heard from my estranged brother today after so many years of no contact, Jim never told me what they discussed. My brother has so many family members he talks to who I don't  because they have contact with him.  I am upset because my brother called Jim, the only relative I have contact with. I told Jim not to tell my brother any of my business and that I don't socialize with anyone who talks to him. Jim never answered me. Now I am afraid I'll lose Jim over this and will have nobody. My life long best friend died two years ago.

Sister is 4 years younger than me. Lives out of state. Came to visit me, parents, rest of family. Sister has a LONG history of alcoholism, rehab, etc. We are close to middle age. Since she got here, family has watched her drink excessively, her sloppiness, blackouts. I tell her when she crosses lines, family has joined as well. She contacts our other sister out of state via text, seemingly drunk to say she's going have her "friend" hang out while staying at her friends last night. The friend's name is the same as my ex bf. The ex has been stalking me for the last 15 years, police involved. She used to constantly talk to him years ago in the peak of the stalking, even after I begged her not to contact, as the police advised. When out of state sis pressed on a last name of her "friend", she evaded the question. Out of state sister felt compelled to tell my due to the stalker issue and the history of sneaky contact in the past with drunk sis and him. She's also for days now contacted everyone, including my kid, about how she thinks I'm mad. She hasn't asked me if I'm upset with her, and until last night, I wasn't mad at all. I trust other sister implicitly as she knows the torment that has been caused from stalker and drunk sister. I'm avoiding talking at all to drunk sis because I don't want to fight. I'm not 100% she was talking to ex, but there is nobody else here she knows with that name. What do I do? I'm so frustrated!

I am 15, my niece is ten. I have always been different from people in my age group,, having a mental delay, making me think around two years younger.  I started noticing things changing right when My DN was born my oldest brother practically ignore me, My mother started baby-seating her, spending most of her time with my DN. It wasn't until I was about 8 when I started to have resentment for my DN. I didn't understand why my DN kept on liking the things I liked. I didn't want to have the same likes three-year-old old, but that didn't really bother that, I could play together as I don't have many friends. What bothers my eight-year-old jealousy self, was my DN got all kinds of toys I liked, while I only got one or a toy, and some cheap barbies. Most of the time when My DN was at the house I wasn't allowed to play with her stuff, unless she allowed me.  I learn to deal with it, she is only at our house for the weekend.  A few years pasted, My DN started kindergarten. She realized I was different from other kids, She even called me Retarded multiple times.  At first my mother scolds her, not wanting to hear me, sobbed about being different and not having friends.  Now, at sixteen I think my mother is making me hate my niece even more. It all she talks about, DN and my older brother. My DN has only been here for three hours and I feel so attacked. She has been belittling me, and making fun of the way I say Pregnancy.   My mother never believes me when it comes to my DN. 

I feel like my sister has no compassion for anyone, well besides her son. I love her and want her to get better but I just don't know how to. We are 10 years apart and do t have much in common and don't talk much at all. I sometimes don't talk to her because she would be in a bad mood (which is most of the time) and would probably give me attitude. She never says I love you and rarely shows any emotions towards love. I know that everyone is different and not everyone shows love or empathy for others the same way but I barely see her do. She has called my mom the b word and is disrespectful towards her sometimes. She demands a lot from her boyfriend and doesn't treat him well sometimes. However despite all this, the one person she treats right is her son. I always hear her tell him she loves him, which is good. Even though she treats him well she is not with him a lot. Most of the time she is either working or watching tv. Her boyfriend is always the one to bathe her son and to clean up all the messes he makes. I've been noticing that her behavior has been getting worse and it's been bringing me down a lot. If anyone has any suggestions that would be great.

I live with someone that is mean and uncaring but I have no where to go if I leave how can I live happily while living with someone like this? There's no talking to this person just a hateful crazy person. I have tried to get along. I wish I could get my own place but I can't. This is hell but a shelter is much worse.. Shelter staff and homeless people are some of the meanest people ever. Shelters are gross everyone is always sick there too.

My sister was sexually abused as a child by my mums partner, it lasted 3 years before my mum found out and he went to prison, I was a newborn. This tore our family apart and my mum suffered numerous mental health problems, for 24 years she remained single. She sought counselling and 4 years in she began dating a work colleague. At this point I was 28 and had a 3 year old. My mum had my daughter for sleepovers 2-3 times a month and my partners parents had her sometimes too. After a year of dating my mums partner moved in and I felt nervous to let my now 4 year old sleepover with him in the house. I had also just had another baby and told my mum my eldest wouldn't be sleeping out for a while so she could bond with the baby.  But secretly, I was still letting my daughter sleep at my partners parents. It's been a year since my mum last had my eldest sleepover and I dread everytime she asks when she can have her next. Long story short, my mum found out today through fb pics that my daughter slept over my partners parents before lockdown. My mum phoned me and was crying asking why. Thing is, statistically, it is more likely a non paternal grandparent/parent is likely to abuse a child than a paternal one. I trust very little people with my children, when she does sleep at my partners parents it is only when all her cousins also do. I don't want to set my mums recovery back but I don't know how to approach it with her. I mentally couldn't have my children sleep at my mums anymore.  I must add that she does regularly see my children but when I take them and am also present, they're never left alone without me. My partner is a woman and so am I. My partner supports my decision. 

My mom has been constantly talking to me in a very rude and nasty lately .ever since late yesterday, she makes unwanted and unwelcome critisism over what I buy with my own cash, accusing me of being addicted to chocolates and ices coffee,  Just now, she got real mad at me all because I was eating a kit Kat treat. I have not said or done anything nasty to her. She says it s my behaviour that s causing the problem... What should I do?

I am in my late 60s and my daughter is in her 30s. For two years now my daughter, her husband, and their kids have been doing this YouTube "vlogging" thing. They basically film their lives everyday and upload it for the people who are subscribed to their channel to watch. I've never been on board with it. Even though my daughter assures me that her husband and kids enjoy it, I don't think they should be putting their kids (all under 13) out on the Internet. Yes, I can now "catch up" with them everyday, but why does it have to be done so publicly? Maybe I'm old and just don't get it! But seriously, they don't know WHO watches these videos and would the kids want this out on the Internet when they are older and applying to college, say? Since I don't regularly watch YouTube, I can't relate their current number of subscribers to anything, but they are definitely not super famous, but still being watched by a substantial number of people. I just have a gut feeling that what they are doing isn't good for themselves and their kids. It's difficult, because I know they are earning some extra money, but I feel the need to tell my daughter that it's not safe. We have a good relationship and I know this is important to her, but I need to say something... I know I wouldn't have wanted to be filmed as a kid, or if so, I'd certainly have regretted it by high school. Can anyone help me with how to advise my daughter that this isn't the best thing for her and her family? Thank you.  Thank you all for the helpful answers. I guess it's not my place to tell her what to do (as she is grown, and content with her life), but I wasn't sure if I should advise her or not :)