My husband, his mom, step mom, step dad and dad all smoke like trains. I used to smoke, before I got pregnant. I quit cold turkey. My husband will not quit or even attempt to quit. His mother and step father live right next door. I don't want people smoking outside then coming in the house to hold the baby covered in cigarette smoke and kissing her with cigarette smoke on their breath. What are some rules I can put in place for my husband and his parents regarding their smoking and the baby? I'd keep them all away and tell them all no touching if I could but I know I won't be able to. What are some suggestions? I all ready know they'll have to wash their hands, have a clean shirt on...but I honestly don't think that's enough. My husband says I'm being a control freak even asking for them to do that. So it's incredibly frustrating that I have no support regarding this. 

It's graduation season, and my two closest friends are leaving for college. On top of this, my boyfriend cheated on my a few months ago, and while I'm mostly over it, I still feel as if everyone around me is growing up and moving on while I'm stuck in the past. I'm scared of the future and I'm scared of change. What do I do?

I have lived alone for 15 years in a small flat, I am a man in my forties who has never achieved any relationships, never had a female partner and my only support system is my elderly mother and father who live far away. I also cope with mental problems and anxiety and at night and in the evening, when I'm here all on my own I feel very isolated and lonely and wish I had a girlfriend...... How do I cope at this juncture in time?

When I was younger around 18, my older sibling 25 had already 3 kids. She saw my as a resource for help like free child care, get off and do groceries, let me borrow some money, spend the night at her spot while I help clean etc. I was polite and started slowly declining request. I enrolled into a community college and got a certificate and made some great friends. I started getting invited to events etc. Where I found the love of my life. Now as I got older there is a lot of resent for me because I started living my life etc. she has anger for me. But why was I responsible for helping her out? She claims I'm the reason why she failed?

My ex and I had a lot of fights before we broke up. So after our breakup we said we would still be friends and since we love each other a lot, we just need time apart because of our constant fighting and finding no solutions. So, then he got a new girlfriend a few weeks later, but we were still talking. And i said I can't do this... Seeing him with another girl was just heart breaking. So then we decided to write out promises to each other. We said if we ever broke one of them that we would never get back together, but if we would keep them, there is hope for us in the future. Months passed and we still occasionally met up to go train in the park or watch movies or make food together, and suddenly I got calls and messages (paragraphs of them) from his girlfriend. I know that maybe hanging out with my ex was wrong, but I really told him to tell her about it. He decided not to, so the girl called me liar and desperate... I didn't even talk to her so I wasn't sure how I was a liar.  Anyway, then out of nowhere my ex says they split up. I felt relief and I felt happy because I thought that he finally understood how bad she is. But 4 hours later, they were back together again and I got jealous, frustrated and angry, I sent the girl my first messages back telling her that we have been meeting up. But that was one promise I broke. Now my ex and I are not talking and I told him we are 100% done forever, but I don't want it to be.  Should I apologise or leave it be?  The promise was: no sabotaging any relationships. And I did that by telling her we met up. The thing is... It seems like they are better than ever now, so somehow it doesn't feel like I really sabotaged anything. But my ex and I are on non speaking terms and I don't know what is the right thing to do.