When i turned 18, i immediately got into the work force to help my mother pay bills, which i did not mind. For almost a year at 19, i obtianed a second job to save money to but ended up having to pay all of the bills and provide for myself, my mother and younger brother because my mom couldn't find a job that suited her. When she began working again, i immediately quit my second job out of fear of being in that position again. Fast forward 4 years later, I'm 23, dating and planning on moving out. I've wanted to move out and explore the world for while, but didn't because i was the only sibling my mother could talk to and really count on. Plus, she has been by my side when i went through mishaps in my life. My mother has been working a part time job for about 3 years, but doesn't make no where near enough to pay the bills on her own. Not to mention, she's drowning in credit card debt with a car that needs to be fixed badly. My mother is far from a bad person, but i feel like she's been using me and my brother(now a working adult) as a crutch. We both plan on moving out because we need our own space, but i feel like I'm doing a bad thing because my mother needs so much help financially, but if i continue to live with her and give her money, then it henders me and it'll never end because she has become too complacent with my brother and i splitting the bills with her. Talking to her and being honest with her will only hurt her and lead to an argument. What should i do??

I told him today that I couldnt make the trip to the store because I was exhausted. He does nothing but make fun on me sleeping all day, "try to get as much sleep as you can, you wont get any anymore!" He makes me feel bad for not having a job and I still go to the hospital. I was even trying to dance to make him happy and he called me fat. I hit him today right in his hernia and he threatened to call the cops but idc. My mom was sick and dying also and he treated her like crap too. My dad always checks in on his friends in the hospitals and hope them well. He sucks his teeth at me when I tell him I dont feel well and start talking badly about me. I fix him food and help around the house and Im not even respected. I told him I hope he died in hernia surgery, I feel guilty for even telling him to go to the hospital.

I have created a list of things I have observed from her. I just want to know what exactly I'm dealing with, so anything could help honestly. I believe that she is possibly Bipolar and Narcissistic. Anyway, here is the list: Mental ConditionUntrusting (even though she has no reason to feel that way and never has)ManipulativeParanoidThinks the world is against herCrazy Christian (Uses bible against you to get her way or support her point even though most verses are taken out of context)Is conscious of issues caused by other people but not from herself (painfully ironic)NarcissisticEats nothing basically (Addicted to coffee)Hugely attention driven (Pity or Admiration)Denies even the thought of going to therapyControlling (Calls it respect)Believes she is superiorConspiracy TheoristThreatens to prove authority Possibly uses suicide as a way to get what she wantsHuge temper and attitudeHas no boundaries or understanding of personal spaceWishes to be treated kinda like GodNo point to try and reason with her because you can't Has this "Perfect" view of what a family should be but its not really a fair idea.My family has always been a little odd but after my parent's divorce, stuff has kinda went to ****. As in, my mom's craziness has been intensified a lot (obviously).If you have any questions or want more details on something then just ask. lol  Sorry it's my first question on here so i didn't realize that the format of the list would go all weird

I don't have enough money to start a bank account but even that would mean I have to hide my debit card. The point is my mom shouldn't know I have money or she will try to coerce me into giving it to her because she's very money hungry my mom will grab every and any penny she can get from the street and will steal my loose change and then say she thought it was hers when i ask her for it I hid my money in the back of a picture frame and she found out all my saved money (i had around $100 that i saved for months) and she scolded me for not telling her cause she says she needs money and that all my money was hers my mom rearranges my things in my room with the guise of making it more tidy but its also a chance for her to get into my business and read private things about me so shell find it in my closet too shes very gossipy and wants to know every single thing about me

My mother called me from my sister's phone saying THAT she loves me and that she wants to see me doing good in life. But one, she said that I slept with her man on facebook, she took $400 from me and she said THAT she hope my baby die. Is she jealous of me? I mean come on...who does this to their daughter then say, "I love YOU"???

He was always really grumpy so I stayed away from him and just played with his kids. His wife was always nice and I liked her but she loves to hold grudges and make enemies. As a result we don't know her or her family anymore (still know her kids I mean her parents and siblings and their families). She's distant from part of her family anyway now. So curious why he is suddenly nice after his 22 year marriage ended in December (separated since previous November). The guy was even giving hugs as we were leaving at Christmas.

My father adopted her when his 1st wife died as her father was out of the picture. She is 42 and spoiled. I'm only 23 so much younger. 

So my relationship at home with my mom is very rocky. We constantly fight, argue, and never get over things. My freshman and sophomore year of high school I was very suicidal (I'm very happy where I am now) and my mom knew I was, one time we got into a small fight and she told me she hated me and told me to kill myself already. My sister who is a kiss *** to my mom attacked me in another argument i had with my mom because i called her abusive, and my mom stood and watched while my other sister held me down to "protect" me. There are so many other things i'm not gonna list that's happened. My older sister, the one who actually understands what i go through and the only one I got along with moved out because she couldn't deal with it anymore. My mom was heartbroken and she put her anger on me because me and my sister were the closest. I met a guy and we fell in love, when I turn 18, which is in July, he wants me to move out and live with him. But i'm scared to tell my mom, i'm scared of how she'd react and i'm scared to hurt her like my sister did. What do I do? Moving out? edit: me and my mom are fine as of rn, but it doesn't change the fact that i want to leave.

I hate her.

I'm the only one out of my siblings who's graduating from college. And every time time I tell my mom and siblings that I can't wait to graduate they get mad and tell me that they hope that my unborn child die or say thing's like they hope I FAIL! What is their problem.? Every time I get paid, I share most of my money with them, also.

I left and went no contact a few days ago. Now her friend wants to talk to me or meet me saying my mom is upset or worried or something. I am an adult woman btw, so its not like I'm lost or anything. She was degrading me all the time the week right before I left saying I was scum of the earth, worthless lazy etc. No remorse. Sorry isn't in her vocabulary btw. I dont expect a sorry from her. I left to stop the abuse. Finally i am free. And now shes 'worried' that im gone? And telling all her friends to contact me??? Makes no sense. If you really cared about someone you wouldnt neglect them and degrade them nonstop.

They do it just to please the partner.

So at my company we are allowed several vacation days that we can take whenever we want and even split them (half days) as long as we notify them timely. I wrote on the vacation sheet to my boss since a month ago I was going to take half a day off today. She told me no problem. Today I write her an email to remind her I would be leaving at noon because I have my dentist appointment, to which she replies it's ok but in the future to book the appointments either early in the morning or late in the afternoon (I'm a 36yo woman, not my first job :S) I got upset because it's my vacation day so I whatever I do with it is not her business, but I was perhaps stupid to mention I had a dentist appointment and then I got lectured. My question is, am I the asshole or is she?

Im 20 now still in college and unemployed. So wouod it be possible for me to break him off then ask for like money compensation for like 3 months survival independently?

I was talking to my crush about driving over text and i said " Yeah! I saw an accident happen when I was driving where a truck hit someone and then kept going and my driving instructor and I helped the person call 911 to get help and stuff" and then she never replied and the next time i messages she had me blocked

I am guessing because of the travel involved they are just having my Mom's generation since it would be so many people to have all the grandkids of great-aunt's siblings. One is going with his father but he goes everywhere with him due to Asperger's. My mother is not even making the trip cause she is seeing her a month earlier when in town for a wedding on my Dad's side of the family.

When my fiancé and I first got together his mom seemed like she really liked me.. 1-2 years after I met her I became pregnant with our 1st daughter and that's when all the problems poured In.. she got into it with me one time when I was 8 months pregnant,  said I was taking her son from her and that I was trying to get in between them? Years go by & sometimes she wouldn't talk to us when we would go over.. sometimes she would even not talk to our daughter. She would go straight to her room , she would not speak to us for MONTHS. But whenever she felt like speaking to us she would.. she's like this with all of her kids when she's "upset" . Years go by again , I get pregnant with our 2nd daughter and all she said was "already?".. our 1st daughter she didn't attend her 1st bday party.. when I gave birth to my second daughter she didn't come visit us in the hospital, her son and her weren't on speaking terms my daughter was born in February she didn't see her until April because WE TOOK our daughter to go see her . We got along after that for a couple of Months then we fell off again because of her she cut ties with us once again. My 2nd daughters first birthday just passed and her and her husband didn't call text or come by to tell her happy birthday ... they haven't seen neither of my kids for 7 months , haven't made contact with us . Every time this would happen I would make it better and I'm tired of it happening constantly and me having to fix it. Is this ok? What do I do 

Shes there because my daughters single mom and cant afford a real house. Theres always people doing drugs outside in that area and its on the news frequently crimes in the area. Scared for my young grandkids

My family thinks that I cant handle living on my own. In fact, they have been trying to put me in a special needs home or some type of group home since I was 18. They tried to put me in a group home when I decided to move out on my own. We finally agreed that I could rent a room from someone. Then later on in my early 20's, my grandparents tried to get me to move into a group home. In 2009, I was living in a different state. Trying a new adventure in life. I told my family I wanted to move back. Before moving back, I was able to have my job transfer me, and found a room to rent. When my family picked me up they tried again to put me in a home. Then in my early 30's, my family again tried to put me in a home. Now, here I am a few years later, and they are at it again. This time I really told them NO. Because I said no, my family is talking about taking my personal rights away. My decision making. They think I cant make my own decisions. They want to become my conservator/guardian. Also, take me to court to have the judge order me to live in a group home. My family thinks im mentally challenged. If so, How can I have be a store manager on the deans list and honor roll at college? How can I prevent this from happening? What legal actions can I take to protect my rights? Can I legally give each of my family members a restraining order and cut ties from them? Why are they trying to get rid of me? I'm not dumb or stupid. I am actually smart, observant, resourceful, and efficient.

My mom and 2 year old little sister share a bed and every night when my mom and little sister go to bed, I hear my mom shouting and my sister crying. She doesn't want to go to bed and I know toddlers cry over everything but is it normal for my mom to yell at her and make her cry every single night? I swear it happens every night there isn't a night where my little sister doesn't cry before bed. I'm asking because I don't know if that's normal and am concerned for my sisters future mental health.

I hate my parents. They've chosen drugs over me and my brother. I've signed up for college all by myself, registered for all my classes, and even signed off on my highschool  registration because they never came to do any of it. I see kids with parents who actually care for them and love them and it was just so weird to watch. I've even heard of my friends talking about how their parents helped them sign up for college and FAFSA while I had to struggle and do it by myself and get yelled at by my parents when I asked for their tax records...  I watched my friend hug his mom and I sat and envied it more than I should have. They even sat down at a dinner table and talked to each other. My parents sit in their room all day with the door locked. It's just something I never do. I don't even love my mom or dad because it's just not in me. I want to become a doctor but I fear my parents will want to live with me when I move out and get my own house... I don't want them to live with me. They see me as a way out of the life they created. I'm not a way out for them. I've taken 4 AP classes and I'm about to graduate with a 4.0 GPA. I want to live my life, the life they took away from me when I was growing up. I almost want to move out of my state of Washington, far far away because I know they won't follow me if I go far. Being raised like this, I grew up very isolated I don't have any friends in highschool. :) is this normal?

I m a 15 year old girl and my mother never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever talks to me and I think she should because she s my birth mother and she created me and I thought we were supposed to talk. I don t know if I love her because she has told me to kill myself and that she hates me in the past but I feel it s wrong to not communicate. She will say one word OR tell me to f*ck off if I try talk to her. This is making me mad and I literally am beating myself up about this. Am I severely mentally ill? I literally punch myself because I feel we are supposed to communicate and we aren t. Thanks

My wife and I are Trump supporters and have strong Christian beliefs. How can we rid our son of his satanic lifestyle and get him to see that he is shaming our wonderful president Trump. We need to make America great again.

I would only be doing this for our Mom. Otherwise I am not bothered by her illness. However, for our Mom I want to act concerned even though I have strong dislike towards this sister and for good reason. James Blackley: Trust me, I would not shed a tear at her funeral. It is my mother I would be worried about as she has to love my sister cause it is her daughter. 

My mom died of cancer 9 months ago and my dad found a girlfriend in as little as a month. My sis and I are starting to think he might've cheated while my mom was alive because they're getting married in less than a year. I'm graduating soon and my sis will be stuck with a step mom that doesn't love her for the next four years by herself. She has already tried to run away twice and I'm scared for her mental health. I love her more than anything and I have always protected her but what do I do after I leave the house?

I found porn on my brothers computer. I have a guilty conscience by not saying anything but if I do say something I know my parents would probably ruin his life for the next month or so. I can't even look at him the same either. What do I do

Idk y my mom have an obsession with me going to an ivy league school, she refuse have a personal life she spends the entire days researching things regarding this, this is the only things she ever talk to her friends about. She hordes SAT and ap test practice books, I have at least 15 books for each of my current ap classes, and I have at least 30 sat books, she just keeps buying more even though I don't think I've even completed one of those books, she's always contacting these tutoring agencies and talking with them I'm not very good at math, but for some reason I've been placed in the advanced math system in middle school, I struggled to get above 85 grades on tests through out middle school in advanced placements, and now I'm a hs junior struggling to keep a 60 in my AP calculus bc and Ap physics mechanics classes, both of which she pressured me into taking, I don't think I'm a math person at all,  the things I'm learning right now makes absolutely no sense. but my mom continues to insist I'm a genius. She has spent easily up to 500,000$ on tutors the past couple years for me on all kinds of subjects but I just can't understand a thing, she also constantly reminds me how much money she is paying, and how much tax my father have to pay every year to pressure me, even though she doesn't even work, and my dad couldn't care less and probably didn't even notice the money gone.  It pisses me off to see money wasted because it would be way better spent donated to others. 

i am 18 and no experience outside of life. i have parents who hide things form me and like to control things from me. i want my own bank acc without a parent controlling. I know that i can take them off but i dont even know my social security and also they would know i did that while i still live with them. I would love to make my own ank acc and be a normal 18 year old. I dont want to be treated like a kid. But my parents are overprotective and do this on purpose so that i can live with them longer. Please tell me how i can find my social security number

I want to grow up and adult I m at the age where i turned into an adult. i just have no clue what to do, i m lost. i don t know anything about finances or bills or income or rates. I know nothing about streets laws ect. i just turned 18 i m trying to learn how to drive i have a disease that causes blindness. I feel bad for having my parents handle everything like insurance ect. and taking me to my appointments or to the hospital or giving me money. I always wanted to be independent and not depend on them because sometimes i feel like a burden.Unfortunately, i realize i know nothing about being an adult and it seems to be so scary to me. I m stressed out about it.