So, I'm 26, I got a late start on college because I had such a difficult time in school with my learning disabilities and never having a proper teacher to help.  But one day I finally got the confidence to go out and work on my GED. After several months and a lot of tears, I got it. I learned how to learn for myself. Soon after that, I found a fine arts college just a few hours away that takes GEDs and focuses primarily on your artistic ability. I got a copy of my GED, and applied thinking "maybe" and got an acceptance letter last month.  Now my husband and I are saving up every last penny, and by the saintlyhood of my parents, they are also helping us financially.  Thankfully, I have a family that owns property near the college and they said we can live in the apartment above their garage for $100 a month. Great deal.  So, this all sounds great, right?  Well, while sitting at a local park drawing my favorite overgrown oak tree, I'm also on the phone with a friend telling him about my good fortune.  Near by, apparently, were 4 women listening to me talk on the phone. They acted friendly at first, and I thought this was just a nice bunch of ladies wanting to chat. Then one of them mentioned they heard me talking, and started talking about their superior choice of becoming at home mothers. And that this little outing was their way or getting some oxygen away from home and some girl time all day once.  Continuation on next row... They went on and on about their lives at home and what their kids did and their husbands being great at making money, and I said that that life isn't for me. I mean, being a mom is fine for some, but I've never seen myself being one and I have my own future to shape.  Then one of them stopped me and she said something like, "All we had to do is open our legs and marry well. If you have to go to school to be happy, something isn't right."  The arrogance in her voice was enough to make me want to punch her.  I've always known that there are women like this, but WHY are they do arrogant?  What's wrong with wanting to be educated instead of a parent??

Look, I know it's been said that difficult people make you better but this one is a doozy. I'm in a situation where  my family has a caregiver in the home 3 times a week,(about 20 hours)  and often She really is needed by my Parents. However, when they're not around She becomes verbally abusive to me.  This has been an ongoing problem and it's obvious, despite  previous conversations about Her behavior, She's not going to change. As of today I've voiced to my Mother that I want Her fired. -BUT- She seems reluctant to do so, because She doesn't want to part ways on bad terms. This woman is 57(I'm 36)  is extremely anal, over-emotional, and was previously a Teacher in an emotionally impaired program. Between the limitations my  controlling Mother puts on me and this overbearing woman, I've had it. If I'm forced to deal with Her presence even longer, what shall I do?

I'm furious at my home situation. My father has multiple-schlerosis and my     family never recovered. All the good    things he does, he ruins with his    anger-problems. I always feel    like I cannot ask him for anything.     Mom works 60 hours/week as a real-estate agent and takes her     anger out on me.     Yet, My counselor said I should be grateful to live with them. I     don't know who to turn to. Who     is supposed to be on my side?!?

If just one person takes the time to read my dilemma and has any sort of advice, it would mean the world to me. My mom is a sweet woman that will do anything she can to help the people. She cooks, cleans, and does everything a stay-at-home mom would do. We have a pretty good relationship, except for when she drinks.  She is not an alcoholic by any means. She doesn't drink every day. She'll drink a few nights in a row here and there when she wants to destress or just have a good night. But when she drinks, she goes out of her way to find me, and only me. She will then unload everything on me. She accuses me of things, screams her head off, and taunts me to try and physically fight her. She has always been bad at communicating with me, but it's worse when she's drunk/buzzed. There is no getting through to her, no silence, apology, hearing her out, ignoring, etc. will do the trick. When she's mad, she says awful things to me and screams until I yell back, and when I finally do stand up for myself, she acts like I attacked her, like she's the victim. Then she gets physical and taunts me for not fighting her back.  Does anyone know why she might act this way towards me? I have two older brothers who don't experience this behavior from her. I'm the only child she trusts. I help her around the house and run her errands. And I am the only child who has some sort of relationship with her, so I cannot understand why she would act so violently towards me when she drinks. 

Im her older brother and the post was mainly about a fight between her and her younger sister but somehow I got mentioned in it and she said "I feel the same way about my brother" for the entire world to see. Im shocked and angered at the same time. Edit: We are all adults in our 20s and almost 30s.

Who suck at talking to others? I know this person that i honestly don't enjoy being around her bc if she's not being ignorant about something then she's putting her foot in her mouth or not watching her tone but seems to expect others to watch their mouth when they talk to her. I avoid it by not talking to her and keeping the communication with her minimal as much as possible. But sometimes it seems like that's not helpful enough. What do I do?

I don't understand why I can't look my dad in the eyes when we talk and even if I do it isn't no more than a few seconds. My dad loves me so I know that's not the problem however, I don't like the way he treats my family so I don't know if this could be the root of the problem. Any ideas on why I can't look my dad in the eyes? Has anyone else experienced this? 

my Stepmom won't let me move out and let me live with my mom. I want to move out and be happy living with my mom. But my stepmom won't let me me she forces me to live with her and my dad just so that I can be her slave and she even expects me to treat my baby sister who is 3 as my own kid she also expects me to take care of my step sisters she also expects me to do a lot of chores such as taking out the trash and make the beds. My mom says I can move in with her even my dad agrees with this. My stepmom told me she would never let my mom take me. She also wants me to do extra chores my mom and step dad are more laid back and my step dad treats me Like I am his daughter. Can I make my stepmom let me live with my mom? My stepmom is also very controlling 

Them but I just started living here for two months how can I explain to my stepmom that I am happy here and I won't move out and I attend to Stay here

I don't care about this to a degree. However, recently I asked my BIL to wait on a payment from my parents until they received an incoming payment. Now he's not responding to friendly texts. My sister and BIL aren't otherwise bad people but they seem incapable of reigning in their spending and I'm concerned that they'll just drain my parents until there's nothing left. Example: they go on extravagent vacations with their kids (NYC with Broadway musicals every night, flying to LA for awards shows, etc.)  and then say they can't afford to visit my parents for Christmas. On the one hand, I don't want drama. On the other hand, they don't seem capable of stopping or even slowing down. I guess I see a looming financial crisis. My codependent mother never says no to a financial request even if it means putting herself into debt. What should I do? Should I just let the whole lot of them dig their own graves and when my parents are bankrupt and need help say, "So sorry." And if I admit it, I do feel resentment since I'm the one who actually takes care of my parents while my sister and BIL seem to receive most of the money.   So I guess I have worry and resentment both, plus not wanting conflict with my sister whom I care about. Sincere advice please.

Why would a 60 year old woman see her granddaughter on youtube being cute and playing piano at 8 years old and then criticize her for wearing make up and act resentful????  Is that normal or is my mom a narcisist to compete with her own grand-daughter.  Help please.

So it's not the perfect situation, I'm a man and have three kids with three different women.  My oldest is my son, my second youngest is my daughter that I raised half her life, and my youngest is my 13 year old daughter that I've only met through video conferences and her youtube channel (her mom lives far away.)   My two oldest kids have decided not to be a part of my life but do occasionally call my mom.  She was always criticizing my son and oldest daughter as not caring about her personally and also she thinks they just want money.   My youngest daughter, we have never talked to and I haven't seen her on video conference or anything since 2015.  (My mom has never seen her and refused to meet her, because they did not approve of my girlfriend selection.  They called her mom a hoe, simply because she's Asian.)   At any rate, I recently found her mom's youtube channel and found a bunch of videos of my youngest daughter growing up, drawing, playing piano, recitals, learning multiplication, and being cute.  I watched her youtube for many hours and I adore her.   I was so happy I had to show my mom, and my mom honestly acted jealous.  She criticized my youngest daughter for wearing make up, then said I make cute children,   but then said I needed to know my son looks the most like me and that my oldest daughter reminds her the most of herself.   I told my mom that since my other two kids have nothing to do with me (they wont even talk to me and my oldest daughter doesn't even say "i love you" back to me! " So I told my mom that my youngest daughter is now my favorite, and my mom just wants to criticize her.   Now I'm affraid to have my youngest daughter be a part of my mom.  I think my mom's toxic and is resenting her own grand-child.  Should I just not even contact her mom? thank you for the good advice.

I'm going on a trip to the Dominican republic for two weeks. I planned this months ago but now it's one week away and I am so sad to leave my four-year-old. He will be well taken care of with my dad up in Seattle but I can't help but worry and be sad. I've been a single mom since he was born. I don't like seeing him cry when I go. He doesn't see my dad often so he's not really used to him but I know he will be in good hands. I do also feel kind of guilty as I did when I went on vacation for five days in Florida last year. I know I will be safe with my coworker and my son will be safe up north. But I can't help with having this feeling of separation anxiety can any other moms relate? Please share experiences where you've been away from your children! Thank you 

I don't care about anyone. I ignore everyone. I have no friends no girlfriend and I live at home with my parents and I'm 34 years old bagging groceries for a living because I am to lazy to go to college. I have no goals and I hate my job because I hate everyone. I'm the black sheep in the family. I don't have a drivers license but I do watch NASCAR all the time but usually don't enjoy it because I get bored easy.

My teenage step son likes to have his friends over to hang out with him. One time he did this I overheard him tell his friends "I will introduce you to my beautiful, hot, sexy mom". "I am very proud of her". I am not sure that is something he should be saying about his mom. Should I talk to him about that not being something appropriate to say about his mom or just take it as a compliment and forget about it?

Their mother who is was an aunt in her marriage to my uncle also blocked me but she is divorced so I understand it might be awkward though she follows my sister. Only mistake I made was in 2008 I sent more then one friend request when Facebook was new so was maybe invasive. That was twelve years ago though. Also the ex-wife of my uncle dislikes my Mom over typical family spats. They have a brother and he follows me on Facebook and has no problem with me. He is the oldest. The two girls, now in their mid-twenties, block me though. I feel hurt and kind of angry. The former aunt I understand and she has been divorced for almost 10 years but I don't understand the two cousins. How do I get over this? Pearl: You cannot block someone back. When they block you their name ceases to exist on the site from your account. Plus I want to make things better, not worse. 

My father is not as controlling as this may sound. However, like anyone he has his moments. When his uncle dies I would like to attend the funeral. The uncle lives in Atlanta area as do 2 of his 5 kids and I went to college at Emory University for 2 years and go to know them all well. They had me over for family events like I was a nephew even though I was their cousin's son. I know some of his grandkids also though there were a lot younger. When this great-uncle dies I would like to travel to Atlanta for the funeral. I live, as does my father, in the Phoenix area so it is a long hall. For me it is a must. However, I mentioned it to my father and he said "Mike, why are you making plans for something that has not happened". That means he was really saying "don't go". I am an adult living on my own but I work for my father. So technically he could say no to the time off. More likely he will just get angry and raise his voice like I am 12 (I am 37). So how do I get him to approve and how do I react when he begins to argue it? I think his reason for arguing it is I care too much about family he feels. I am passionate about keeping close to extended family and cause I have OCD there are times I worry too much about it. However, the passion is sincere. Also, and likely the main reason, is he will not want to go and me attending will make him look bad. So what do I do when this situation comes? The man is not at deaths door but 88 and getting weaker I am told. I should note his kids that live in Atlanta I remain close to. A 3rd one of them I know also though the two from NY I have only met at reunions. So I would be going for the 2 I remain close to. 

They often talk as though I am still 14 years old and living at home. I am an adult.

My daughter is 15. Her father does not have a relationship with her and at times she can be difficult like any other teenager. I'm pretty much going through a break up with my "fiancé" because he does not want to try anymore to be a father figure to her  and I want to know if anyone else is going through a similar situation. He has a son and he just treats them very differently. I treat them both as my children. He picks on her for stupid stuff and if something she does is not perfect then he gets upset and throws it in my face. I don't want to deal with this anymore plus other things and I just want to know if I am doing the right thing. I feel as I am but idk. Thank you 

Around this time in in 2016, it was around 1am. I was getting ready for bed putting my cell phone up and I heard a gravely voice say, "We're taking him home!" I said out loud, "No, you're not!" welp I got woken up at 3am my mom woke me up saying something happened to my dad. long story short he died on march 1st, he didn't wake up from his coma. He died on his moms birthday. my question is who did i hear? 

At work or with friends I constantly being reminded how dumb I am. Everyone I know points out that I have a learning disability except my dad. I confronted my dad that it bothers me that he doesn't acknowledge my learning disability, but the conversation never goes anywhere. When I'm with my dad I feel really smart but around others I know I'm really stupid. I have an IQ of 70. Why does my dad make me feel smart when I'm not?

My daughter is moving In with her low life idiot of a boyfriend. He lives in a junky apartment, and they both have dead end jobs. Can I get custody ?

She's 29 years old can't keep a job she has 50 cents in her bank account. She used to dress nice but now she goes everywhere in sweatpants, she barely bathes she smells she spends all day in her room and only comes out when it's to meet a man. Oh she doesn't know that we know but she's been cheating on her boyfriend. Every night around 1 am I see her walking to a mysterious car that's not her boyfriend  And no we don't give her money for food because if she can't be bothered to get a job she will see how it feels to be hungry. This will make her a stronger person and she will thank us in the future. Now if her boyfriend wants to give her money that's on him but I've advised him against it. Also her bathroom is disgusting she has poop and pee everywhere tissues everywhere grime everywhere. Every time I talk to her she said I'm stressing her out. I talked to my sister about this and she said she believes our daughter is paranoid and depressed. Another problem is our daughter washes her hands 24/7 this is getting worse she can't even open the car door without washing her hands her hands are cracking and bleeding .now I noticed she's been throwing up a lot and I asked her if she was pregnant and she said yes. I said this is in freaking believable. She told me she couldn't afford plan b r birth control and she didn't want to ask anyone. I hate to say this but I'm starting to hate her. I know she's my daughter but I didn't raise her to be this worthless. 

My youngest sibling is clumsy and recently broke something belonging to our brother by accident and not out of malice. Our father a few days later after the breaking of said item told him to go get his favourite toy and to give it to our brother, then he told our brother to smash it to pieces since he broke his toothbrush holder. I put a stop to it right away and had it out with my father.

My mum was married with 4 kids before she reached 30. She also finished University and had a job in HR. We live in London. I would like 3 kids before I reach 30 as well. I do not want to be one of those women who go home to an empty house and only have their careers. You are not going to have a plaque on your desk when you die. My mum mentioned that there are many White ladies at her workplace who are in their 30s and 40s, single, no kids, not much of a social life, they love to drink and rarely see their parents or siblings. In my family we all meet up once a month for a big family gathering. I have cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, great aunts, great uncles, nieces and nephews. There is also so many events such as weddings, funerals, birthday parties, special celebrations, graduations and during the summer everyone likes to hosts barbecues. I cant imagine my life without my big family. How there are not many families like this in the West?

im 15 years old living in louisville kentucky. my mom and dad want to move to south carolina this summer (its february now). i dont live in a bad place and i love my parents dearly, but i will miss my friends very much and i really want to finish off my last two years of high school at my current school. what should i do?

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