I am short and most of the women who I know are short.  My groom's groomsmen are all tall there are fifteen.  With his influence I only wanted to choose tall bridesmaids but I just can't come up with hardly enough...so my groom had the idea to use all his exes who still want him chosen as bridesmaids they are all tall and pretty.  I was very insulted when he first brought it up saying the pictures will look good because I'm short and the tall and short bridesmaids I chose are all family to me.  Should I go with his idea or do the sensible thing and choose out of Love.

I wonder if couples discuss it up front during the relationship or it's a complete and utter surprise.  I would think one would know they are getting engaged and even go so far as to pick a date.  Each should want to know the others intentions if and unless sex gets in the way which is more likely the case.

Long story.... As the girlfriend of the best man I've been invited to the hen party. I know the bride but we're not that close we only really know each other because our other halves are best friends. Dilemma is the groom, best man and "Jim" are a trio of friends but "Jim's" girlfriend has not been invited. I'd feel bad going to the hen do when she's not been invited as I am closer to her than the bride. I would feel more comfortable if she were there as I only know 2 people who are going and I don't know who I would share a hotel room with if she wasn't going. The thing is I don't know if the person who is organising the hen do even knows the "Jim" and his girlfriend exist. Would it be rude for me to ask for her to be invited?  I don't know how well I've described the situation. I'll edit if anyone has questions.