I'm 99% sure they hated being forced to do chores when they were kids. Parents are supposed to want their kids to have a better life than them. Why would parents give chores when their parents gave them chores, and they hated it

She is obsessed with me getting back with abusive. She says I am sure he didn't mean to hurt you. Then she wonders why I don't tell her anything because it makes me feel like a liar. Then I don't talk to her and I am a ***** and she gets mad at me for taking things wrong. Whenever I get an interview for a good job she says you will never keep it , it is too hard for you. Which pisses me off. I had a baby I left a jerk I feel I can take care of me.

When I was first married to Joan, her mother Carrie helped us out financially. That was many years ago. We never paid her back the money she gave us. Fast forward to the present. Joan and I had a friendly divorce and she has remarried. I am in a MUCH better financial position now than when we were first married. I have evolved over the years and I now believe that it is the morally right thing to do to pay Carrie back the money she gave/loaned us with interest. I did this by depositing the money directly into her bank account so no one else had access to this money. All of my friends that know what I did tell me I am crazy for doing this. They tell me I did not owe Carrie anything. Even my ex wife Joan are unhappy that I gave this money to her mother because she said I made her and her new husband look bad as they don't have any money to give to her mom. Does what I did sound crazy to you?

I have a 15 year old sister Nancy that has been my best friend for my whole life. I really like her. I am a 19 year old guy. We are very close. I am very protective of her. She has developed into a beautiful girl. She recently ask me to tell her about boys and sex. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT that she know the facts especially about sex. I don't want her pregnant. I told her I would prefer she talk to our mom about this. She said it would be to embarrassing to talk to our mom and she wants me to educate her about these subjects. Should I tell our mom about her asking about this and ask her to talk to Nancy or should I tell Nancy the facts about her body and how to prevent pregnancy. Nancy trust me completely and feels she can talk to me about anything without embarrassment. Mom and teenage girls, PLEASE give me some advice her. I only what is best for Nancy

I work for my father on sat and sun he pays me well but he's really MEAN to me. He keeps me in his office for 10 whole hrs sitting in a chair and it hurts my back or if he rolls his wheelchair on my legs he gets mad I move his wheelchair off my legs. I work 12 solid hrs and put up with his abuse just to keep him out of a nursing home! He mentally abuses me with mean words and always uses the lords name in vain at me like God d@mmet. Ruby....😠 Keep in mind I've only had one legit job my whole life and I'm 31 with no work history what so ever and I worry no one will hire me if I decide to quit taking care of him. Good thing is I'm single with no kids We don't live together 

She is horrible but she is a sibling still.

He was negligent to all his elders, especially his mother.

I pissed her off, because I asked if she knew how many servings this was for one sitting. She said she was really mad and she's about to cry..  I don't know how to be loving and supporting and telling her she shouldn't do that. 

My father has been upsetting me for the past five years. I tried to explain this to my mother on the same day that she said we couldn't go to the mall (however, I've also explained this to her in the past). She left the house and I texted her saying that my father is upsetting me, she says that I'm upset that I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. This is not the case, I have been upset for five years and she won't help. What should I say to her/ do in general?  I am fifteen years old. 

Yesterday my boyfriend vented to me about something I think is kinda serious. He has a younger sister me and him are both 18 she's 15. His parents are consistently favoring her and putting her first. For instance she's in Girl Scouts, and she needed cookies delivered to her house while her parents were out of town, but wanted to go see her boyfriend at work. My bf was busy writing an essay for college. So when he told her "no, I have to finish this I can't take you." She went to her mom and got her parents to tell him if he didn't he's grounded, the drive was over 30 mins away just to get there. Then his sis told him he needed to get the cookie order for her since she wasn't there, then pick her up when she was done, and he had to pull an all nighter just to finish his work. They both do chores in the house too. But if his sister doesn't do hers, his parents get mad at him and make him do it. Last night I went over and walked in on a fight where I witnessed his mom completely ignore anything he said. she told him to just "shut up and stop making everything about him" he's told me he's tried everything to get his parents to even talk to him. They won't even try to sit down and have a civil conversation because " they are the parents and he should stop questioning everything they say." He's told me he's tried everything and the only way to even speak is if they're in a screaming match, But his parents still don't listen. I want to help him but idk how.. any advice is helpful 

He's 16 and I found him playing an M rated game. I've already sold his Xbox, but how do I really deter him from doing this again?

Mother in law makes me raise her youngest child, I HABE to do everything for her pretty much, make her school lunches, watch her everyday, she doesn't take her out with her, I have to carry her along everywhere with me plus watch my own baby who is just turning 1. She makes you feel bad about not watching her child or "including " her in an outing I'm going. I have to discipline her child and deal with her temper tantrums all the time, I feel that her mother is a bully.. at first it was my s/o watching hwr which is his sibling, doing everything for her, since she was a baby, she's now 6 years old. He has to jobs I'm on mat leave but soon going back to work and school, his mother actually got mad when both of us would be working. She always brags about how much money she has but doesn't get a baby sitter or daycare lol. What can I do to stop this? Besides move out, we are staying here for a while saving up for a hoise. Trying to stay on her good side but I also am beginning to hate her and her selfish behaviour. She recently had a j live n her house and she takes him everywhere and cooks for him and everything, but not her own child. She uses her working everyday until 3pm to not do anything for her. She's 44 but it's not our fault she had a child late and can't take care of her and uses everyone else to do it.  No one even asked me if it was ok for me to watch her cause I'm on mat leave so they assume I can do it just because. I'm stressed out she's a bad child to deal with.  I have to take her to and from school even though most days she's able to pick her upc I HABE to travel through blizzards everyday with my one year old. Even today her child wanted pancakes I didn't feel like making them as I'm tired, and her mother has been home all week.. on vacation. She made a remark saying " none of these ppl want to make you pancakes " so just leave it at that.  Oh and we provide ourselves we both give her money out of each paycheck and I buy my own food and provide for my child. And on top of that I pay for her child every time we are out and she doesn't do any of that for us. Unless she "chooses to" And let me be clear, she doesn't have any say on what's happens with my child.  To the anon assuming I said my s/o we are married! :) and were living on our own but we are upgrading to a house and find it cheaper to reside with her unfortunately. I'm on mat leave... where I'm from we get a two paycheck based on our earnings from my job! 

Yesterday was my birthday and I got a text from my sister like a conversation. Nothing on her facebook/instagram... Today is my other sisters birthday (shes 3 years younger than me) and my sister who texted me (i have 2 sisters no brothers) puts this huge post on instagram saying "happy birthday to my big sissy i love you" with photos and everything. Is it wrong i feel a little upset about that? Like shes embarrassed to do that for me but can do that for my other sister? Or am i acting like a baby and should ignore it? By the way they dont text me usually but when i go visit my family (i recently got married) they can talk to me when i go over and stuff like they dont hate me but i kinda feel like they do because we dont have similar interests 😓 I dont feel like i was treated like this all my life by them but they have been known to hangout more often and stuff i guess because they have similar interests but still how do you acknowledge one sisters birthday but with the other you lay low and send text messages only??

My older brother is supposed to be staying with me and my sister, "babysitting". Mostly because my sister is still a younger teen and I don't want the responsibility of watching her. My older brother is 15 years older than me. My sister and I were bickering and she said shut up b**** to me. So I said the same thing back to her. Then I told her to leave me alone so I could do homework and she said f*** no. So I threw a pen at her. My older brother walked over to us and grabbed me by the arm and told me not to throw things and I can finish my homework in my room. Then he sent my sister to her room for swearing. I told him I didn't wanna go to my room and he told me he's in charge right now and things will go as he says. So then on my way up I kicked his shoe and he told me he'll be coming to talk to me shortly. Should I have listened to him or not? What should I tell him when he comes to "talk to me?"

My mom and dad are insanely paranoid and protective of me. I am not allowed to go out alone like at all. My dad takes me to school and the only amount of freedom I get is when I go from school to home alone. I've tried to confront them about this before, my mum simply believes that I should be happy with that amount of freedom I have - she talks as if it is a lot when it is simply nothing. Me trying to talk to them about this has just ended in me getting hit and then crying about my life. On top of that, they call me useless, etc and especially an idiot for wanting freedom instead of being a good daughter. This has made me so depressed that I used to be suicidal and had made many attempts to kill myself - they don't know though. I am 15 and I can never be allowed to be at home alone for even a minute. I suppose my only plan is to get into a university far, far away so that I have to get an apartment and definitely minimise the contact. Yet, I also want to have a life - at this rate I would have wasted all my life up to the point I am at Uni and far away from them. What should I do?

I really want a $1,500 ring. I haven't formally asked my mother for it yet, however I plan on doing so, and I am wondering if there is an effective way to do this. I'm fifteen years old, a fantastic student, and my mother is extremely wealthy. If I could have a job and purchase the ring myself, I would. My mother does not want me to have a job during the school year and did not want me to even have one last summer. Is there any way to do this effectively? 

My dad doesn't treat me nor my sibling well. He'll curse us out, throw things at us, hits us(usually in the back) and accuse us of not doing anything in the house when we do. We have not talked in 3 months because he got mad that I was still in contact with my mom and secretly going to see her. He's basically keeping me and my siblings to get revenge on my mom and he has custody. Yesterday, me and my siblings were playing and he bursts into our room and starts yelling at everyone to clean and then he comes behind me and starts hitting me on my back and trying to take the phone that I BOUGHT away because I was filming him. Of course I tried to take my phone out of his hands and he made me bleed on my knuckle. He threw my phone without care. I've started to take videos again and he starts planting messes of his own to make us look bad and then starts taking pictures of me recording him and of the fake messes. I wanted to make a report and the officer defended him the whole time about why I was filming him and that was disrespectful and that I was antagonizing him. He asked why I don't work I said because I've been looking for a job since December and nobody was hiring and why I'm not going to school(college) and I said because my dad refused to pay. I wasn't working at that time, so I had no way to pay and I don't know how to drive. He said that the cut he left on my hand was nothing and not serious. Is this normal? Can he lose custody? What about the pictures he took of me? 

I am expecting a check in the mail but my little brother AJ and I have been fighting recently. I told him not to open any of my mail or throw it out, because I'm expecting something important but now that he is mad at me I think he might try and go through it. What do I do? Or tell him? Thank you 

Like he slept with a lot of babes

my Husband keeps drinking and driving. He isn't "drunk" but he will drink a beer or two on the way home from work (about a 25min drive). I know this because I keep finding the beer can bags and empty beer cans just rolling around the car every time I get in it. We have a 1.5 year old and I've told him several times now what he is doing is wrong, dangerous, and selfish. Not only could he hurt himself and our family but he could hurt others. Even if he got into a freak accident and had one sip of a beer he would automatically be hit with a DUI and even murder if someone just so happen to die. I told him if I find another I was going to leave and I was done. And BOOM another one just last night. And he acted like it wasn't even a big deal. Financially I'm in a tight spot because I'm a stay at home mom, I have nearby family but it can be daily toxic as well. I'm just lost on what I should do or how to handle this situation. 

Ok. Here's the deal. I'm 37 and I still live with my parents. That's not cool.  The way I see it is that it's time for me to live independently and find myself a nice wife. In order to do that I can't live with my parents any longer.  I've analysed the financial situation and there's simply no way I can afford to buy a house as nice as the one I live in now, but my parents could probably do with moving to a smaller property. As they get older it'll be easier for them to look after.  The best solution all round is if my parents move out and I stay where I am. They're refusing to do this. What legal options do I have? Can I get power of attorney over them?

Whenever i tried to talk to my son he would give me one word replies and I know he is struggling in school. Ever since he started college he never calls me and unless I make the initiative I never hear from him. We use to be close and he was happy when he was younger. I don't know what happened?

It makes me feel like a pos slob sleeping next to floor piles and every desk is a mountain. The stereo is buried in her room. Its causing my anxiety, but she says I cause her anxiety always trying to clean up when she does not want to.  She never does though and it's been years! I stay in my own bedroom now and she refuses to clean up hers. Shes fat, wont lose weight. I'm getting sick of this relationship. Arent women suppose to be tidy and look good for their man?  I been cleaning each room. I feel like there is no turning back once I have had enough. I dont want to quit on her. Shes helped me too by letting me stay here. I put in my work believe me. I help pay the bills too plus a lot of other things. I love her, but she needs to shape up. Its killing our relationship. Plz help. She sits in bed all day. Barely cleans her room. Waits around for a miracle to happen. She prays which is good ok, but I'm more realistic idk.  She won't do therapy and we are poor. Therapists only prescribe meds btw.

By this I mean the habit of a parent passing a bad trait down to the child. This guy had 3 kids and the daughter keeps eating nervously (over eating addictively) and one of the sons is now a grouch the same way, not to the same extreme as the father. The other son has turned out good and he lived with his grandfather after age 13 (ironically was the one to turn out good). I am sure my uncle loved his kids (he died last year) but obviously he did not parent the best in the discipline field. His ex-wife was a sex abuse victim and took the divorce. Finally she left him when the kids were in high school and the one son had moved out about 5 years earlier. Uncle softened a little when he remarried.

I'm 27 and it's now becoming evident that siblings are great sometimes, I would personally like a little sister, I don't know, I like little girls because they are tender towards their older brother, perhaps I'm wrong but that I see. Greetings and pardon my English .---- tsutomu ^_^

Hi. My bf and I have been together for 15 years. He doesn't treat me well. He kicks me out of the house, makes me shave my head, makes me cut myself, makes me do things sexually I don't want to do and is verbally abusive. About a year ago, things changed. CPS came in and said the house was unsafe and I had to get our three kids out ASAP.  I did and we stayed with my parents. In August, with no help from him, I found a new place for us to live. The whole time he kept calling me and telling me he was going to kill himself, it was too hard for him alone, etc. He moved in with us and he is angry because he is no longer in control. He won't help pay for food or expenses. He yells at me all the time and constantly has a cloud of drama swirling around him. He has heart disease and COPD but refuses to lose weight, exercise and quit smoking. Then he blames me for his health problems. When we fight, he pretends to have heart attacks so I will feel sorry for him. I knew it would be hard living together again but not this hard. I have emotional issues and IBS and he has told me repeatedly that no judge will ever give me custody. I don't know what to do. He is sick and has no place to go. The house we used to live in is his but it has been condemned. I don't want to break up but I can't take the drama any more. I'm tired of being treated so badly.

I'm 30 and my sister is 32. I find my sister to be physically attractive and she's a good mother. She's been married for a few years now. But ever since she has become a mother, I've seen a sensitive side to her that I didn't know she had. I consider myself a nice, caring guy who most women just see as a friend. I think my sister really appreciates me for the person I am. Her and I text often. Nothing sexual. I just send her pictures of things I think she would like such as memes of tv shows she likes and pictures of gifts she's given me. I wouldn't try anything with her because it would ruin her marriage but I think about her a lot. I think the familiarity shared between us makes her even more appealing. I know I can trust her and that she wouldn't hurt me.

My younger brother is in his early-30s and recently married. He and his husband are visiting from out of town and staying with us. My in-laws dropped by and my mother-in-law, specifically, kept referring to his husband as his "partner" (they corrected her at least twice e.g. 'Jeff is my husband') and she then insinuated that it wasn't a good idea to let our kids go down to the basement to play video games with them because we "don't really know him."  My father-in-law asked her to be nice, at which point she said to him "Do you really want your grandchildren around that kind of behavior?" My wife said: "And what kind of behavior is that?" and my MIL started harping on about pedophilia, God and Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve... My brother told her he loved our kids like they were his own and Jeff agreed. She responded to Jeff "This is a family discussion." I was appalled. I said to her that she's a guest in our home and that she would do well to remember that. My father-in-law told me to watch how I talked to his wife and then I reminded him that he was also a guest in our house and one thing we do not tolerate is intolerance and much less blatant homophobia. I told them that they are staying with us and if you don't like it I suggest you not come back within the next week but if you're going to stay, then you need to retract your claws. My wife gave me a very pointed look as they were gathering up their hats and coats.  How would you have handled this differently?

My parents have left for a 4-day vacation without me over the weekend. They aren't letting me go over to a friend's or have a friend over, and I can't even be over at my own house to even play video games (I HAVE to stay over at my aunt's unless she lets me go somewhere). The only time I'm really allowed at home and my aunt would take me is when I'm REQUIRED to take care of their pets. Oh, and they took one of the dogs on their vacation but not their child. Please don't say that they wont time for "humping." They're in their 50's and 60's. And no, I'm not an adult in case you're wondering. OK, yes I know my parents could be banging and crap. I didn't say don't say that because I don't think I do, I just honestly don't wanna think about that, especially with all their wrinkles and stuff. Yuck! And I didn't expect my parents to give me "run of the house," I'm just saying is ir fair for them to leave me, take away the fun for the only days they seem to let me have it, and still take the damn dog. 

So my mom is complaining about me missing church for two Sundays in a row, and she doesn't even go to church even though she's off work on Sundays and usually up in time! And why the double standards? I use the same tone when talking to my parents that they used to talk to me with it and then I get a yelling for it and its perfectly okay for them to use it? 

My dad got remarried and my stepmom is so overbearing she won't let me do anything for myself I don't want to be rude and hurt her feelings. But I am fourteen years old and no should have to wake up me for school I have a alarm. I am used to fixing my own breakfast, and washing my clothes My dad has been making so  chores since I was little and she doesn't want me to    chores she said it's her job to take care me and my dad. One day my dad I was throwing the football and my stepmom yelled at him. My stepmom yelled stop throwing so hard she is a girl my dad said she throws harder than I do. The next day my friends I was playing softball and I got hit the eye with the softball and my stepmom make my dad take me to the hospital I tried tell to her that I was okay but she wouldn't listen. Yesterday i got sick and so my dad took me the hospital my stepmom was at the Grocery store when he took me. He sent her a text to let her know that he took me to the hospital. My stepmom to the hospital came talking about she was mad at herself for not noticing that I was sick and called herself a bad mother. I told her that she was being silly. I got bronchitis now My stepmom I watching me let like a hawk. Because she is convinced that it will turn into pneumonia  won't even let me ps4.