I turned 19 today

I live with my mom, dad and my older sister. We have this family joke that a man lives with us in the basement because over the years our belongings have gone missing, cups fall in the kitchen in the middle of the night and etc. We joke that he's nice because he hasn't killed us yet and he cleans up after himself but lately our toilet paper has been used more and (we buy in bulk) some of the rolls have gone missing. We come home and there's a conditioner bottle open on the sink that was in the closet, extra used barn of soap in shower. my bag of lemons in the fridge and our blender cups have gone missing. We have a pretty tight security system with cameras, never seen anything. we're friends with all of our neighbors, and it's not alarming because electronics and money aren't being taken but it strikes me odd. I can't come up with any explanation. 

A few nights ago I overheard my mom and her fiance talk about trying to get her pregnant. She talked about how she went to her doctor and her doctor told her that although she's a bit older she still has a good chance of getting pregnant if she does xyz things. This came as a huge shock for me. I'm very concerned about my mom, but I'm not sure how (or even if) I should approach her about it. First of all the main thing that bothers me about my mom's fiance is their age difference. She is 42 and he is 26. When I first found out she was dating so much younger I thought it would end up being some fun fling mom had before she moved on. However, they kept staying together longer and longer. If my mom gets pregnant they're probably in it for the long hall. I'm really concerned the age difference is going to be a big problem in their relationship, and I don't know why my mom is looking past that. They're in very different stages in life due to age difference. Also, the age gap is just plain weird. I'm very suspicious of why he would want to date someone my mom's age and not his age.  Although I don't know why she can't see potential problems in the relationship itself I do know why she's trying to get pregnant now: she's always wanted another kid (the only reason why she didn't have another is my dad didn't want one) and she thinks her chances are running out. However, if she does get pregnant it could turn out very badly for both her and her kid.(click to read very last bit) Some people may say that this isn't my business (I am 21), but I think it is my business. As her daughter, I'm concerned about my mom's happiness and I'm afraid of her making a huge mistake. I want to talk to her about this/try to talk her out of it, but I don't know how. How can I express my concerns to my mom about her engagement/trying to get pregnant with a guy way too young Also, I know I may not be able to convince my mom to change her mind, but what's the best way for me to bring up/express my concerns to her? 

My step daughter moved out of our house and moved in with her mom and step dad and they moved to New Jersey in the United States and blocked our numbers and is having a happy life there. Her mom married a black guy he treats my step daughter as his own. Looks like she wants to cut ties with her dads family for her mother and step father. Her step father treats her like she is his own daughter What is the best way to track her down so that I can force my step daughter to move out of her mom and step dads home and move back in with us? I hope her mom at least bankrupts her husband because white women would want to steal from black men this is not a troll btw and no rude answers

People are going to think that this is a troll and I am not trolling so please here me out we have another fight two days ago and my step daughter is trying to move out and I do not want that to happen. It all started when my step daughter was talking to her mom when she was 13 I did not approve of this and I tried to keep her away from her mother and we sent her to military school and. My husband and I specifically told her she wasn't aloud to see or contact her mom anymore maybe she thought that I was joking we found out that from her grandmother that she was writing emails to her we sent her to another military school far into another city to make sure that my step daughter and her mom don't have any contact she came home when she was 16 and she seemed grateful that we did that for her and everything seemed going well until then my step daughter told me that her mom was pregnant and she was supporting her I wanted to kill her so to prevent her from contacting her mom we moved to Florida to stop her from seeing her mother completely I only allowed my step daughter to go to school and her job I never wanted her to do anything to with her moms baby so we forced her to stop contacting her completely  so 10 years later a lot of resentment has been here for this decade I checked her moms Facebook and confronted my step daughter about it and she yelled at me saying that she is going to move in with her mother whether I like it or not and she hates me then she took whatever Continue: She had and left I can't believe she is doing this to her family this is ridiculous I did everything I could do to stop her from ruining her damn life What can I do to get through to her? I am not going to let her move in with that little *****  Her mom is a life ruiner her mom ruined her life and I cannot stand that little slut  Y@ But I am her stepmother and she needs to listen to me  My step daughter and I had another fight this afternoon and she yelled at me saying that she will move in with her mom this Christmas and she will cut ties with me and she hates me and she will ask her mom to file a restraining order against me  Mrwakeup like I typed I am still her stepmother and she has to listen to me and I sent my step daughter to her room and I grounded her for two weeks for talking to her mom on the phone  My step daughter changed her mind we had another fight and she told me she will move in with her mom this spring break wether she likes it or not and she hates me My step daughter changed her mind again she told me that she will move in with her mom this weekend and that she hates me we had another fight after dinner and my husband allowed her to move in with her mom and she already brought a plane ticket and she left 

If you born as gay, with other sickness that is non cureable disease, would you blame your parents for not giving you a good gene? I know I love my parents...but when they nag me about my life or marrige I really hate them. I am too sick to do anything with my life and they do not get my situation. My parents wants me to treat them with respect but come on...I just hate them or god so much sometimes when my parents nag me. please talk to me any opinion about this...I really wish I was not born to this world.

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My sister is so sexy.

They call me retarded, b*tch, weird, annoying, failure, waste of space, fake, anorexic. They tell me to kill myself, to go die, to shut the f*ck up. They yell at me, scream at me, push me, hit me, throw things at me, pick fights with me. I can't say anything to them without them wanting to fight. They do this everyday. It makes me nervous. I don't want to live in my house anymore. I don't want to live anymore. I'm planning to end my life. I'm better off.

So I got a friend and she's got this twin sister but she's really mean and I got another twin sister and she's but they're both kind of mean to me specifically. And so she wanted them to dance with her and said I was dumb as hell. So I thought it might be a good idea to paint myself pink as you would to diffuse a situation. But that did work and now they're having a huge super soaker war and it's getting out out hand. This has been going on for days and they are terrorizing the neighborhood even during the wee hours of the night and my neighbors are starting to complain. So my question is, what would would be the best way to appease my neighbors without them calling the cops and to calm down my sisters? We're all 28 if that helps.

Is it ok to just leave everyone alone that is in your life? Because I have pretty much been doing this and plus they are all busy anyway. I just don't talk to people like I used to 

I've lived with my little brother out of home for about 3 years.  Having grown up together, of course we've seen each other in the nude enough that it's not an issue. And generally we'll share the bathroom in the morning or walk around naked as calls for it/we feel like. Yes, there have been a number of **** walk ins, but they're few and far between. We don't see anything the matter to be honest and it's generally a keep calm and carry on situation whatever. A friend of mine was over at the weekend though and my brother surfaced late at night for a drink, walking to the kitchen wearing nothing. My friend was shocked which surprised me and asked if it was normal. To be honest, I don't really think about it and couldn't see what he meant immediately.  Imo I think so, but have been wondering if this is typical or not? Anyone in this type of living arrangement or have any thoughts? Sorry. Re ages, I'm 27 and he's 22 Thanks dude!

Im getting tired of seeing them... too old and tired. Screaming, running. Dogs barking. I cant move and im coughing up a lung. I had diarhea. They have made holes in the wall with the dogs. We have squirrels and rodents in the walls and they all want to catch them. Last month, granddaughter took a large pretzel stick and shoved it into my black labs asshole on purpose. Crazy... kids dont listen to me. One has autism. Strips naked. Flickers lights and pulls down blinds and wallpaper. Destroy the pantry. Older children discussing rape, drugs and sex infront of little kids despite me telling them not to repeatedly. It will ruin my childrens relationships if i stop babysitting idont know what to do anymore.

Both of mine are closer to me.

This is a bit personal but my dad and my sister haven't been getting along recently. My dad would always get mad when my sister would come home late(past 10) and and whenever he suspects my sister is smoking. On some occasions, I would come home late but would get in trouble for it. There's a lack of trust between the  2 and whenever they would get into arguments, my dad would be a bit harsh saying that if he were disobey her,  she would get kicked out of the house. When they are in the house together, there is a bit of tension and I just want them to make up but can't really find a way to approach it. They both have have valid points when they argue but they can also be in the wrong for going too far. Sorry if i'm just rambling but I just want to find a way to help out 

I recently had to move back home after a bad breakup with my ex boyfriend and it's temporary until I graduate this spring (i'll be 24 this summer) I work full time and I make a decent amount to afford living alone. I pay my mother a great amount for rent. Plus I do all the grocery shopping, cleaning, buying cleaning supplies, cooking, etc to show her that I appreciate her welcoming me back home. Ironically, my older brother (27) dropped out of college and began working at Apple full time since November. He's an aspiring artist and invests a lot of his money into his music but he doesn't want to contribute to bills...not even $60/month because he said it was too much. He doesn't even buy his own food, and usually asks me to borrow money every week. He also doesn't do his duties of simply taking the trash out everyday,..so my mom looks to me to pick up where my brother lacks or even get frustrated with me when I'm not on my toes on taking care of his dog. My mom tends to make excuses for him but complains to me how she hates how selfish he is..but nothing has changed. She claims he's "going through something" and to be patient. I feel bad for feeling this way, but it feels a bit unfair

Me(22) and my sister(18) have.. lost the close connection to our father. My question is how do I save my sister? I'm asking this cause before I moved out at 21, my dad and stepmom has taken their anger out on me verbally, ever since they found out I was gay, their attitude towards me has gone 360. Me and the stepmom would get into fights ever since we first met her. When we would get into fights, it made my sister have panic attacks cause of how close me and the ***** would get to nearly attacking each other. Of course our father would side with the *****, he chosen her over his own kids! Ever since I moved out, they now direct their anger out on my sister. Almost every week my sister is calling me crying cause of what dad or stepmom has said to her or done. They take their anger out so much on her to the point where her anxiety and desperation has spiked so much that she is cutting herself again! Mom can't do very much cause ever since she lost her job, we have lost the house and now live with my grandma. It's hard enough already for my grandma cause her house can only hold 2 people but since I live their too, it's so cramp up with 3 people. Just tonight, my sister went to the movies with her bf and came back late. Her phone died and next thing we know, our father bitched at her and so did the stepmom. One is enough! She is 18! So I'm asking ya, what do I do? How do I Save my sister!?

For example they took him to Walt Disney World for his 8th Grade Graduation. For mine they gave me a ride to the beach a couple of hours early so I could see my friend that evening (that was it). My grandmother cried when my brother left for college. I left for boarding school for learning disabilities in Illinois and she shed not one tear. Both were the same year. Before my brother left for college my grandmother wanted to have him down for an evening. Before I left for the boarding school they, well they saw me at lunch one day with my baby cousin they were babysitting and they wished me well. When my brother was little they took him to NYC for his 13th birthday, when I turned 13 they gave me a card and probably some Nintendo games. My brother is the oldest grandchild. I am grandchild number 3. My other grandparents (my Dad's parents) favored me and lived in Illinois so I stayed with them when at the boarding school (I was a day student). So they spoiled me plenty. However, it still stings that my Mom's parents favored my brother (my grandmother mainly had the favorites). How do I get over this? All 4 grandparents have died as this was long ago. My grandmother loved me, just not as much as my brother. The family has always noted that she had favorites. One batch of cousins of mine are the 3 black sheep grandkids. One cause she is so cold, one cause her ADHD and trauma make her young for her age, and the 3rd for valid reason, yes he killed someone and is serving life. I am now 42. 

My mom worked for most my of my childhood. I was living with my aunty while she was in another country getting a degree that she doesn't even pertain to anymore. A little background of my childhood is that I was forced to eat nasty food by my aunty and if I didn't finish it I would sit there by myself till it was time to go to bed. When my mom finally moved in with my aunty she was still in school so we barley seen her come out her room. My mom was the type of person to down me for every little mistake. If I forgot to clean something she would call me miserable and continue repeating what I did wrong for weeks. I was always in trouble at school. I hated authority and I guess it was because I had to do everything the way my mom liked it at home so at school I felt like I had more freedom. My mom was the type of parent that always wanted us to focus on school but she never supported with anything school wise or just in general. She expects me to be just as smart as her and ridicules me for not being like her. She makes me clean the whole kitchen and make her food everyday. My mom wasn't the loving type so I went and looked for love else where. I got pregnant and when she found out she beat me up to the point I was crawling on the stairs begging god to make her stop. Am I being to sensitive? Everything in this story is true but I guess it's so unbelievable it sounds fake. I'm pretty sure it's the detail I use but trust me ik it sounds crazy but at this point I don't know if Im being too sensitive or if what I go through is actually that bad. 

I am raised by a mom who uses the silent treatment. Whenever she was really mad about something- maybe once a month- she'd just shut down for several days at a time and not talk to anyone except to sneer at them. This only applied to people in my immediate family- my dad and I- as she'd easily turn around and be smiley and chatty with her father on the phone or a neighbor, and then continue to freeze me/my dad out. This has been going on for about as long as I can remember- one incident, in particular, stands out, when she refused to even make me dinner. I was about eight at the time. As I got older, it grew less damaging, since I didn't rely so much on her approval, but it still left scars. She was my primary caregiver- my dad also lived with us, but he's not so great at parenting as opposed to being a pal, so she was the only authority I really looked up to at home. Even though I am only 15, I think it is leaving emotional scars and I just don't know how to deal with it. I come from an Asian household and the primary benchmark is an A. My mom the other day went on my computer and violated my privacy. Now before, "parents should be able to see kids grades" yes, however she could have SIMPLY asked me. Yes, I have a B or two and I will get them up by the end of the year. One day after school coming to pick me up, she was quiet. When my mother is quiet or avoids me for extended periods of time, I start to freak out because I think I've done something "wrong."  What do I do?

I know his drinking and my mother's bitterness towards him were the two biggest factors but I feel I was about 10 percent of the problem cause I was born and thus my mother thought she had to protect me from his mood swings. They became estranged and I have devoted my life to making up to her family. We did get to know him once I was a teen. I devoted the 15 years we knew him to making up to him. He has been dead for 11 years but I still am trying to make up to the rest of the family for my 10 percent. I was the icing on the cake I feel. So does my mother doing it to protect me like she claims mean it is my fault even if that is shared with their fault's also? Might this just be a cover up my mother uses to justify her bitterness? I can't seem to forgive myself for what I did.

He hates them and since my mother has died he expects me to hate them. I fear conflict and even though I am an adult out on my own I get scared of him finding out when I do things with them. Last week I went to a funeral for my Mom's aunt and luckily my Dad and step-mother were away but if home I was scared they'd find out somehow. My Dad hates his former in-laws but I see no problem with them. It is all trivial family stuff he hates them over as my mother held grudges a lot and spread them to him. It was her 1 and only weakness. She died 9 years ago.

I'm 19 years old ( will be 20 very soon), and I have always been small for my age. I was born prematurely and now at almost 20, I stand at 5 ft. 1 inch tall and weigh only 100 lbs. I constantly have issues with people ( sometimes the same age as me or younger), talking to me as if I am a much younger child. As I am a sophomore in college right now and looking for internships and such, I need to be taken seriously. Even in family settings, my family talks to my cousin (he's 24) like an adult and they speak to me like a child. They also group me in with the kids at family events. I have discussed this with them to no avail. I'm looking to move out as soon as possible, and I'll need to be taken seriously in that situation as well. It has gotten to the point where I feel the need to carry my ID around with me everywhere I go because I'm constantly having to prove my age. Even my coworkers,  ( I work in fast food), will occasionally treat me like another one of the 16 year old newbies. I've worked there for two years and train new people regularly. The managers treat me like I'm my actual age, but it gets annoying with the coworkers, especially those who are close in age to me. So I was wondering, what do you do to help yourself look closer to your actual age and to help yourself be taken seriously? No sarcastic or rude answers please. 

I don't know if what my parents say is true and if I should be better. I try to listen to all their demands. For example, my parents say that I need god in my life and so my mom said however long I go out for I need to listen to videos about god. So, I wrote like 2 pages about what I watched and tried to show it to her and she told I still don't deserve to go out because I'm too stupid to go out in the world? and that I have the devils voice in my head? I understand I have messed up a few times because I do drink w my friends and smoke. I am also 19 almost 20 and I stayed home from college because she wouldn't let me leave. She also wont pay for me to go full time because she says im not smart enough to handle more than 3 classes. I literally feel no love from my parents and everything I do I'm still a bad kid. I go crazy trying to meet their expectations but somehow even when I do everything she's still mad at me. if I sit on my couch and do my homework my dad tells me I'm going down the wrong path in life and that he can't wait for god to curse me and for me to suffer and be broke. I get that I do have problems w studying sometimes but I just don't feel like getting out of bed sometimes because I'm just so overwhelmed and stressed by my future I just feel so exhausted and sick/hopeless. I know I should be trying harder in school and I'm trying my best. SO basically my question is am I being a bad daughter? is what they say right?

I'm 22 years old and I'm gay, I've known I was gay since I was 5. I've always been more feminine than the other guys, my parents always wanted a son, my mom had me at 42 years old, and my dad was 47. I have 4 sisters and I am their only son, so they expected a lot from me, they always tried to force sports on me, when I was a kid I wanted to play with dolls instead of "boy toys" my dad always told me to act more like a man, and it put me into depression because I knew they hated me, I came out as gay when I was 17 and they pretty much disowned me, they hate me more than ever and I barely even talk to them. I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for almost 2 years and we are getting married soon and it just sucks knowing I will have no family at our wedding because they are homophobic. Me and my boyfriend want to have kids via surrogate but my parents already told me they would never want to meet the children just because I'm gay. My sisters also hate me for being gay, and the rest of my family always tells me that I'm going to hell and stuff and it hurts, so I rarely ever see them. They do invite me over for holidays and I go, but they just judge me. What should I do about this? Should I cut them out of my life forever and never talk to them again?

I'm babysitting my fiancé's sister and like what the ****? She's started eating nickels to get me in trouble I think. But, I don't know how this will get me in trouble? Anyway, how do I get her to stop? I'm worried she'll get poisoning but any time I try to pull them away from her or keep her from them she bellows at me. Is there a substitute I can offer her? Money means nothing to her so I can't bribe her. I already tried that and you can guess what happened.........:(

I am raised by a mom who uses the silent treatment. Whenever she was really mad about something- maybe once a month- she'd just shut down for several days at a time and not talk to anyone except to sneer at them. This only applied to people in my immediate family- my dad and I- as she'd easily turn around and be smiley and chatty with her father on the phone or a neighbor, and then continue to freeze me/my dad out. This has been going on for about as long as I can remember- one incident, in particular, stands out, when she refused to even make me dinner. I was about eight at the time. As I got older, it grew less damaging, since I didn't rely so much on her approval, but it still left scars. She was my primary caregiver- my dad also lived with us, but he's not so great at parenting as opposed to being a pal, so she was the only authority I really looked up to at home. Even though I am only 15, I think it is leaving emotional scars and I just don't know how to deal with it. I come from an Asian household and the primary benchmark is an A. My mom the other day went on my computer and violated my privacy. Now before, "parents should be able to see kids grades" yes, however she could have just asked me. Yes, I have a B or two and I will get them up by the end of the year. One day after school coming to pick me up, she was quiet. When my mother is quiet or avoids me for extended periods of time, I start to freak out because I think I've done something "wrong."  What do I do?

Whenever I'm with my parents my dad always trash talks my moms family about inheritances and money and stuff. Is this normal? Is it okay? When people trash talk does that mean they don't love each other? 

When I ask my sister or my mother a question, they will ignore me and act like I am not even there and when I include myself in a conversation, they will completely ignore me and go back to their conversation. No, I wait until they finish speaking and then I will make a comment or ask a question. I don't understand why they do that, when I am not even interrupting them. Thanks for the answers. No, I am not exaggerating. It doesn't happen all of the time but it happens often. @Ace shorty, I'm a female. Why do you ask?.

There is this relative of mine, who always complains and seems to see negativity in everything. When I try to be positive and be hopeful about something, she always brings up a negative topic and when there is a problem, she always talks about a even more negative topic. What should I do about this?. I have confronted them about being negative and they either insult me or makeup excuses. Because I have to always deal with negativity.