I asked this question a long time ago, but it never got posted. This section is censored.

Ok.  I've been asking for how to make a marriage more exiting and all I get are bland things like: 1) communication  2) read a book 3) take a hike  4) "I married the most interesting person in the world, oooh yeeeah" 5) there aren't any bags of tricks 6) "I enjoy my spouse so much we are fused at the hip" I figure if I ask how to make marriage more boring, maybe I get the exiting tips! So, let's hear your most ultimate boring ideas to make marriage more boring.  I'm all ears!

My husband and I have been married for 18 years, I have tried to be patient with him with regards to him getting things done. He pays bills late, I have to ask a billion times for him to fix things he's bad with money. He waits till things actually completely fk up before he gets into gear. He's not romantic he's never stood up for me and made me his first priority. I met him when I was 16 got married at 22 and it was basically forced. I sometimes wonder if I would have chosen a diffrent type of man for my life. Am I stuck, I love him but I'm aggravated sometimes I want him to lead and get things done.I want more I want to eventually own a business but he is ok with how things are. My question is am I asking too much?  Am I just being selfish?

Sometimes the mother in law or the wife's friends can be a man's worst nightmare, am I right ladies?

we have nothing to split and no kids, we both want the divorce, no lawyers. How would I go about writing a "memorandum" when there's not a lot of details of our marriage.  What format should it be in? Is it suppose to be a certain number of pages? Trying to have the divorce finalized at the pre-trial because it's simple. Thanks in advance

I've known my husband all my life. We were acquaintances all thought grade school and friends in high school, and then even closer friends out of high school. We started dating almost 6 years ago, and got married in 2018. When I married him,  of course i knew he had a temper, but never in his life did he take everything out on me.  For several weeks now he has been irritated with my consistently. Any time I think he's about to he affectionate, it's  like he holds it back and replaces it with something bad.  He's been talking down to me and treating me like I'm less than a person.  I've tried talking to him about this, asking him if he's getting enough sleep, eating right, is stressed out at work and so on.  And the more I tried to help, the worse it got. He isolated himself from me for a whole day.  Even when everything is fine, I let him alone most of the time so he can relax and unwind. Then weekends and nights are ours.  Because this has been going on for, if I had to guess, 2 months, I've tried to make things better. I got earlier shifts at work so I can be home to make dinner every single night, I make him lunches the night before if he doesn't want to buy lunch, do our laundry, paying bills clean the apartment, I've even been putting less effort into my school work so I can get everything done. That part has killed me the most.  I don't know what I've done to make him so distant, because I'm working my a** off to make his life easier, and I don't say a word about it. Continuation: I'm like an invisible force that keeps everything in order. I never get a thank you, a kiss on the cheek, a hug or any gratitude at all.  I'm tired all the time and I've been crying frequently just not knowing what to do. We can't afford counseling, and he wouldn't do it even if we could.  I don't know how to fix this, I'm so stressed out. I'm almost 27 and I feel like my marriage is already falling apart. 

My mom has a friend that she wanted to exchange email with so she convinced Betty to buy a computer. Mom wanted me to teach Betty how to us the computer so I agreed to do it. I went to Betty's home for an hour on Saturday for several weeks. Betty's husband was with us the whole time I was training Betty. Betty told me her husband John was very jealous of her and other men. When Betty briefly went to answer the phone, John asked me if I was "fooling around" with his wife. I told him he was with me the whole time I was there. I knew at that moment this was my last training session. I was not coming back to that house as I had no idea what John might do. I did not hear from either one of them again for several months. Then my mom told me they were getting a divorce. Then I got an invitation to a "He's gone, good riddance" party at Betty's home. I decided to go. At the party, one of the guest told me I was the cause of the divorce. I asked her how that was possible. She explained that Betty used the computer to track what web sites John had been accessing and found he was on several web sites for finding women to date. He had also been posting stuff on porn sites. If she had not know how to use a computer they would still be married. I told her I did not teach Betty to trace web sites from the computer. She must have learned by her self.

My ex wife Joan who I am on friendly terms with invited me to join her for lunch. She said she had some exciting news to tell me. At lunch she told me she was going to get married again and introduced me to her future husband Jim. I thought that was a little odd my ex introducing me to her soon to be husband but I was cool with it. He seemed like a nice guy and I congratulated them and wished them a happy life. I was happy to see she was getting on with her life. I later got a call from Jim and he wanted me to tell him everything about Joan and he especially wanted details of our divorce. I told him my life with Joan was in the past and I had closed that chapter of my book and I had moved on and I would not discuss it with anyone. I suggested that if he did not know enough about her, he needed to date her for a longer period of time. The LAST thing I want to do is to get involved with her and her new husband. Should I tell my ex wife what he is asking me or just stay out of her life and hope for the best. Gals, if you were my ex wife what would you want me to do?

The other day, some random woman was bragging about how many tines she broke the beds while bumping the ugliest. Which begs the question, was it from being athletic or being too heavy? Remember, dis marriage section so I'm guessing the latter is true. What you think?

*sniffs armpit*.  Aaaah, smells so gud!  Welcome me back ladies! Your boring married stories..... My eyes are burning!!

Background:  My wife and I just got married. We were engaged for 2 years, and have known each other for 3.I'm 26, she's 24.I have had the same 4 friends since highshool and my fiancée met them within the first 6 months of ya dating. Obviously at the time we were young, college students doing what young people do. We would drink, smoke, have parties with other college friends our age etc). At the time she was cool, but even though my friends haven't changed all of a sudden she doesn't want me around them. None of them are married, so that may be the reason. I asked her, and she said she just doesn't want me around them anymore. The fact I've had to argue with her why, and that they aren't doing anything the more she gets upset with me and says it seems I'm making them priority over her. These are my boys and have never done anything exactly wrong for my wife to address, but she just doesn't want them around her or me going out to see them. Or if I do, it's commotion. 

I am not really sure how to start this, but my mom has been through a lot lately. She discovered that my dad has been cheating, they are planning a divorce, she has problems with walking. She had problems with alcohol before all this and recently it got worse. I have tried everything to make her stop drinking, but nothing is working. She went to a doctor because of her walking and to a psychologist because of her mental health, but they claim that there isn't anything wrong with her. I feel like I am at my limits, what do I do? 

I'm dating this woman still living with their husband, they are in the process of separating. But for some odd reason they only talk to me when alone, I'm only allowed in their home when they are alone. At night when the spouse is home they ever call me. They always use an excuse of them falling asleep or taking medication. Should I continue to date them or could it be a lie? Does it sound fishy to anyone? 

I want to know if this will jeopardize my SSI benefits?  She does not own a SS number, nor has she ever worked in this country.... 

Hi everyone,  My husband and I have had some issues for a while now. We have 2 sons (2 year old and 2 weeks old). My husband thinks I am doing too many things(work, school, babies etc.) and he feels neglected. He has been so disrespectful and he stated he needed a divorce. Even though I gave birth 2 weeks ago he doesn't talk to me and treated me bad throughout the pregnancy. He didn't remember my birthday this month, he even said the biggest mistake he's ever made was marrying me. He said some even more disrespectful things as well. For the past couple days he's been talking to me and pretending like everything is fine. I am still hurt and feel distant from him, I'm tired of chasing him and being the only one fixing our marriage all the times. I really don't feel like he loves me and he is not the type to communicate or to get marriage counseling. If I try to talk about the situation he'll get angry or just don't answer me as he always does. Btw I am in my mid 20's. I need some advise. 

My husband has seizures and the doctor he went to recommended a Nutristionist to help him lose weight.. well turns out I found out he is still eating unhealthy food behind my back. He brought food for me to make at home for breakfast since it is just me home in the morning until i go to work st night (not the most healthiest it was toaster strudles but he only brought them because super cheap on sale.. i didnt buy them) and turns out this morning he ate 2 of them before going to work. He claimed yesterday they were mine and today he goes and eats stuff his doctor told him to stay away from. Hes done this since seeing the doctor two weeks ago. How can i get him to listen to the doctor and lose weight ? So far he hasnt lost any and its like going from 245-248lbs I want him to be in the 230s when he goes back to see this doctor..

I am 56. I have a failed painting business in upstate NY. This is a place where the median income is 85-90 percent of the national average, but the cost of living is 120-125 percent the national average. It is a formula for failure. My wife refused to leave this dump for 25 years now. Today she announced her retirement in July when she turns 65. She doesn't need her job, she will have Medicare. She gets an $800 a month pension from her first job. Starting in July, she could get another $800 per month in pension from her present job. She hates her job. It is tearing our lives apart. She wants to go back and work part time at a job she had for a few years a over a decade ago. So long as we stay here, I will struggle with my failed business. I didn't break $30k in 2019. I've done per diem work for a school district to survive. NOBODY will hire a 56 year old man who has owned his own business since 2007. I have known I can't stay here for a long time. My wife has refused to leave. Now she has lost the biggest excuse to stay. Maybe we leave. I lose my insurance when she retires. I have Type 2 diabetes. I used to go to the poor people's clinic when I had no insurance. I have been stockpiling my Metformin for a long time, taking only 3 instead of 4 per day. My A1C is over 10 and I don't care. Once I run out, it will quickly go to fatal levels. Being one 1 out of 4 might kill me anyway. I've been fixing up and cleaning out my 92 year old house. A lot of overdue maintenance.  It will be sell able. I will get out of this mess either by moving or dying. I will be ready to leave, one way or another by July. I am no longer bothered by this. I just stopped caring a long time ago and now I am almost ready.

https://ca.yahoo.com/sports/arizona-state-investigation-determines-booster-made-unwelcomed-physical-contact-with-wives-of-three-athletics-staff-members-180432778.html I was just thinking...who wouldn't touch a few hot wives under the disguise of someone else? I don't apologize for being nonPC. And this is not a troll statement. You see a hot wife in a skirt, what's the first thing you think of?

We live in the south (NC) and yesterday we were hit with snow. Not a lot but enough to have some black ice form on the roads overnight. This morning when my husband and I woke he gets to lay in be longer because he doesn't have to be at work till 9 while I have to leave home about 6:30 to get to my job by 7. He's laying in bed with his pjs on listening to the radio so when I go outside and get in my car I notice my windshield and windows are iced over. I send him a text asking him to come put some hot water on my windows. You would have thought I asked him to come blow on my windows to defrost them. His response to me was, "are you really that needy to where you can't walk back in the house and run a pitcher of hot water to pour on your own windows?" Am I wrong to think that's a man's job to make sure his woman's care in okay enough for her to drive every day? I just think there are gender rolls in relationships that men are supposed to do. Am I a needy woman? The reason I asked my husband to come pour water on my windshield was because I didn't want to turn my car off to go back inside.

As now after dismissing the section 497, adultery isno longer a criminal offence...so it would encourage many people to sleep around after marriage without anyfear of anything and proving adulteryis not easy. So, in such situation how will the innocent party prove adutery in the court?

I had a suspicion about my husband cheating on me, I confronted him about a female I knew but he denied it and even said that the female was his friends wife n he wouldn't do that, so I believed him n left it at that. A year goes by and now we have a baby girl that is one month old . He decides to confess to me that he cheated on me with the female that was his friends wife. Yes the one I confronted him about. I haven't been the same after that day. I feel lost n confused not to mentioned betrayed. Why tell me after our daughter was born. 

Please answer me very  seriously . My wife filed a divirce so suddenly I am on the floor.I dont know how to proceed forward. I loved her so much. I have no words to describe. Beside we have a baby girl of 10 months.  I came here k1 visa  but she never help me financially for filing any papers.i have a big loan for all this process. She abused me a lot taking advantage of being US citizen. Still my love never declined.  Please advise me how to proceed forward

I've been a STAHM for six years now. My husband has always been the main earner, when I met him I was barely in community college and working retail, so given all the drama/moving/child death/another child I haven't exactly had time or resources to earn more than him especially now. I have gotten zero help from family and even him for that matter, I've been basically raising my son on my own. My husband is gone from early morning to late evenings and has been for years now. He has said before he doesn't respect me as a STAHM, that I should get a job and calls me a 'consumer'. He says I do nothing all day long. He didn't help when our son was a baby and he doesn't help now, so how can he even say that. Our first child passed away tragically in the NICU and our son was there for three months. Not only that but everything else we've been through I don't understand. Now when he comes home he gets upset when I have an attitude, don't want to watch TV with him and just be alone or if I say I'm bored. If I say I'm bored he calls me an alcoholic or acts like I'm being out of line. I hate how he manipulates arguments as if I'm the crazy one when I'm just trying to relax at the end of the day but he treats me like I don't deserve anything even relaxing...because I don't get a physical paycheck. I'm tired of fighting and don't know what to do.  I can't get a job right now, I'm starting homeschooling my son soon and am starting online school myself as well. My husband never has to do a thing when he gets home, not even clean. Maybe drive to the store since I don't drive. I enjoy being a STAHM anyway and he's my only living child. I'm just worried my husband will always act like this and I just don't understand how someone can say taking care of a child all day long is doing nothing. I don't want to divorce or fight anymore.