Some women bother you they are the prize or happy wife happy life mindset but single or have a unhealthy and unhappy spouse. How do we teach women that the spouse happens is just as important and a healthy relationship between the two is more important than just her being happy.

Because, the husband does'nt own her ,so he cant complain even if she sleep around after marriage just like she used to do before marriage because its her body and her life? And if a husband complains about it she can easily say that he is isecured and dominant.

My husband and I were having anal sex. I used a dildo on him and he used one on me. Well, when he started putting it in me, sorry to be TMI, I said it hurt and he said, "if I can do it, so can you." Is this sex abuse? 

Yes I do believe and will fully support anyone who choose to be with someone else. if the spouse can't keep up and satisfy the other.  A relationship should not be a slave ship or life long Prison sentence if the other can do it move on. Plus just because you married don't mean you are truly compatible nor does it means god put you together. 

My ex and i have been over for about 2 years now and in the process of a divorce.  Over the last 2 months his family ( his mom and siblings) keep trying to contact my kids (which are not his) on social media as well as myself.  I've asked him to tell them to stop that we are not associating with them anymore yet they continue.  I even asked today and within 4 hours of me asking his mom sends me a friend request on facebook.  What can i do?

My 3 year old step son wants me to play with him constantly when I don't want to. Am I just going to have to suck it up or should I talk to my husband about it? I don't want to be mean to him, but sometimes I just want to have some chill time. 

And just try to be friends with guys not dating. They never want me anyway but i want a man. But maybe i need to just relax and be my crazy rainbow colores freak crazy insane self not try to look normal and attractive mentally to guys. Just try to be their friend????? 😂😂 i love the opposite sex company

I am married, and got too close emotionally to a coworker. For a year this person was my best friend.  He would talk to me daily for hours and we would hang out on weekends with our work group or with my husband. There was light flirting constantly but never anything said or done, but it got to the point where I thought of divorcing my husband to be with this person. My husband and I were having a lot of problems at the time, We still do but it's not as bad.  We just have polar ideas on what we want on our relationship.My friend got a gf and now barely talks to me and I know it's for the best but I'm heartbroken. I've only loved 3 men in my life,  and even though nothing was admitted I feel devastated. The second I met him I felt like "omg THIS is the person I've been looking for", and kept wishing I had met him when I was single. What can help me get over this? I know what I feel is wrong,  and i never acted on it for that reason. What can I do to stop this heartbreaking feeling? 

Why don't women capitalize on their fertile years and actually make an effort to meet suitable partners? I feel like women want to be "independent" longer and longer these days and it only hurts them in the long run because all the decent guys will be taken already by the time they want to settle down and then they will only have a choice between men who are already divorced with kids looking to getting married for a second or men who are defective and can't find a partner and have been single their entire adult life or men who just want sex and no commitment. All the men who are top quality men are already gone off the market with kids and married. Unless women are okay with marrying younger men who have never married, which is very rarely the case as most women want to date men their age or older, then they have little options For example, my sister never got married in her 20's or early 30's and now she's 35 and wants to get married and she has trouble meeting eligible, good quality men. Every man her age she knows is married with young children or if they are single, they usually have some mental illness or alcoholics, or just want sex

What could it mean if my step son doesn't tell me he loves me, but loves on me? I will say it to him and he won't. All 3 of us were eating and my stepson was sitting by me. His dad asked him who he loves, and he just put his arms around me without saying anything. It was really sweet. I guess sometimes I feel like if he doesn't say  it back, then it means he doesn't. Should I talk to my husband about it? 

I basically ruined everything back home to move to a country to get my PhD for 6 years and now I can't find a job here in this country and I'm living off the government and I alienated my family and lost my husband for nothing. What do I do? My PhD is in Chinese Literature

A not hypothetical situation because I knew this girl(s) in real life however; If a guy beats and rapes her, abuses the kids, harasses her family that tries to take her away... she will then say that she loves him and he needs her so she'll keep coming back after leaving in a panic over and over again. She may even break out of a safe house to be with him after running to it after being shot by him.

Chances are you have either known someone who is a stay at home mom, have had a coworker mention a stay at home friend or have seen blogs describe the struggles of being one. Why are new moms so intent on bringing back this trend from the 50s yet get extremely offended/complain when they have to cook, clean and take care of the children? Just an example: what happens if the husband leaves after 10 years and you need to return to the workforce? How is that going to look on a resume? These are simply my personal thoughts and observations that you can disagree with or call me an @sshole if you choose. I just like to state what I have been seeing in the world lately. By the way, you actually don't have to answer my question if my opinion offends you that much. As for the women who complain about men not caring for the child: what did they expect? If they want to go back to the traditional social norms then they should expect the men to get tired when they come home. It's like constantly commuting from one job to the other. Hire a nanny if it's that difficult. Do you know why I do 't want children? Because you've confirmed all the B.S I have been thinking. UV, you definitely do have a well thought out answer, but I must agree with the fact that you said that the chances of divorce are far too high these days. I'm not sure about you, but I have heard far too many cases of people becoming users and abusers AFTER marriage. Just crafty people taking on a different persona until they agree to get the woman to marry them. I'm not blaming one gender over the other, as both genders should learn not to fall for people completely in order to prevent this.  Unfortunately, it happens far too often. In my opinion, at least.

We started dating 4 months ago and noticed that he was still on dating site. However, a few days after he said I love you after Valentines, he disabled his account. Does this mean he is more serious with me?

I cant stand my husband's brother. He's narcissistic and has disrespected me for the last time. I have decided to cease all communication with him and my husband told him that he is no longer welcome in our home because of the lack of respect he shows towards me. The issue is that my husband picks up his brother's daughter regularly and she sleeps over our house to spend time with our son. My husband went to pick her up today and as she gets into our car, he tells my husband that his wife (not the daughter's mother, his 2nd wife) said that she should not be allowed at my home if her father is not welcome. I found this to be petty because i do not involve children in drama and my son is still allowed to go over their house. But as I've never been through this situation before i question if she is right. I really love our niece and would be hurt if she could no longer come over, but i would respect it. Is his wife right in saying that she should not allowed to come over? the history between me and the brother in law, as someone has asked to know. is way too long to explain. This stems from years of being at the end of his disrespect, he doesn't respect many people and is in constant drama with others. Too much history and i have finally had enough of the abuse.

I work overnight Monday-Friday fulltime. I don't really do anything while I'm at work. The job literally consist of maybe 10 minutes worth of anything physical. It's only me and one other woman and my supervisor. She lets us sleep for pretty much the entire shift. We sleep at out desk so not anything comfortable and restful. By the time I get off, I'm exhausted. I have a 3 year old child and we are pretty much raising my husband's nephew who is also 3 and I'm 7 months pregnant. When I get home in the morning, my husband is leaving out for work. And I'm home with the kids. I typically just lay in the bed or the sofa and browse the internet on my phone, or take cat naps. I'm never able to really get a good sleep. I make the kids breakfast, and dinner everyday. But I leave the cleaning of the house to my husband. I also let him bathe them. So when he gets home from work this is what he does. He is complaining that I'm lazy. 

She clearly wants to, but I can tell that it still controls every part of her life and she can't help but OCD about the things that she's been shamed in her past (living at home with her parents) for doing/believing/thinking. She is a God-fearing Christian but she isn't a practicing Christian, nor is she a person who wants our marriage ran by the Bible (she knows the Bible is Patriarchal and refuses to let me be the head of the household). So how do I help her let go of her beliefs and help her gain confidence?

I just read the story about young college girl that was stabbed to death in a lefty city by a group of teenagers! I remember way back when, teenagers were mainly concerned with hanging out in the local arcade or bowling alley. Now it's everyday I'm reading about teenagers flash mobbing clothing stores, apple stores, convie stores, you name it! Parents, please give your teenagers a good talking.  This is unacceptable! If you can't do this much, you have no business being married!

I am a woman. I've been unsure of wanting children my entire life. I'm 24 now and looking to find someone to marry. The subject of children would be an important decision to make up my mind about before I find a mate. I don't have that innate maternal instinct or desire like the rest of my friends. I'm actually extremely awkward with kids. I like the idea of having children, but when push comes to shove (pun intended) I'm not sure if I have what it takes. Kids are super expensive and emotionally draining. I've noticed what fluctuates my desires. When I get emotional I tend to want children, but when I think logically I want nothing to do with them. How can I firmly make up my mind about this? Is there some decision making process I need to go through? I HAVE to know before I find someone. Otherwise it will end in divorce. I know a couple personally that it's happened to. She changed her mind about kids and he divorced her. This is something that needs to be set in stone before I get too involved with someone. This is a decision I need to make on my own. I don't agree with it being a "couple" decision. I think it needs to be a personal decision.  I don't date. I only court. The only purpose to "dating" or whatever you call it these days is to find someone to marry. The first date should lead to marriage.

Hi everyone. I have been apart of my husbands family since the age of 16. I have never disrespected them and have always seeked their approval. Recently i have become closer to one of the cousin's wife. She is my age and since i do not have sisters, i felt so happy to have her in my life. She confessed to me that her husband beats her. He screams, threatens and manipulates her. one day she shows up at my home with a gash on her face. She says her husband (my husbands cousin) threw a glass cup at her. He comes over demanding she go back home and throws her stuff across my living room. I approach my husband and say" tell your cousin he has to leave, hes being disrespectful throwing things and screaming". my husband does that and me and the cousin start arguing. My husband steps in and tells him next time he has an issue to not step to me and go through him.   the following week i send her a few pictures of the cycle of abuse and information on patterns of abuse. She thanks me and tells me shes going to seek help. Her husband finds the texts, and sends me a hateful message that i'm brainwashing her and why am i sending her these things and i need to mind my business. i say nothing and show my husband. My husband drives to his cousins house and they get into an argument and into a physical altercation. Now his side of the family blames me and says i should of "kept my mouth shut".  They say that they don't get in their business and neither should i.  they also blame my husband for going to the cousins house in the first place as thats how the physical fight started. But for the most part, im being blamed. What should i do with these people? i am beyond saddened that they are treating me this way after the years i have been apart of the family. What should i do? Was i wrong? My intentions were to help her.

I am in an exclusive relationship. He has some female friends. Some of them are married. One of the married friends texted him about movies while we were together on Saturday. This is a long thread with a lot exchanges. I am uncomfortable. Should I confront him?

At a family gathering we were all talking and i mentioned that although i could not afford it at the time, i wanted a GUCCI purse. Fast forward about 2 months later, my husband bought me a Gucci purse and he asked his brother to keep it at his house until the day of my birthday gathering, because he didn't want me to find it at our house and ruin the surprise. My sister in law took it from my brothers husband, looked at the receipt and put it in her closet to store.  A few days before my birthday i was texting my sister in law and out of nowhere she sends me a link for a used Gucci purse on the poshmark website. (knowing she had my surprise purse in her closet). i opened the link and i told her is she thought it was real, and not counterfeit, she says she believes it's real. i was thinking about buying it and i show my husband. He asks me "why are you purse shopping?", and i tell him she sent me the link. he looks confused. he says show me the message, so i did. I ask, is there an issue?, he says "no, but dont shop for that, we can't afford it". My birthday arrives and he gives me the gift, and i am so grateful i start to cry. My sister in law says why are u crying, thats what u wanted isnt it? i said yes but i didnt think he would remember or get it because its expensive. She responds, "no,it was affordable." My husband is now upset with her and feels she tried to sabotage my birthday. Do you agree? What should i do with her going forward from here?  to add, when my husband confronted her, she said the reason she showed me the link is because we were talking about the Gucci purses. Yes this is true but we spoke about the purses 2 months prior at the family gathering. what do you think?

Last night I had a conversation with my husband about how I need more affection from him. He's 50 and I'm 49. Been together some 16 years, married the last 10. He never holds my hand while we're home. I don't get hugs or affection of any kind from him. From day one he's always said that he's not big on PDA. That means out in public but what about at home. Why won't he sit next to me on the sofa and cuddle while we watch TV or just give me a kiss on the cheek just because? I grew up in a house were affection was shown often from our parents. My husband comes from a large family and he said they weren't big on affection. He says I'm just needy because at my age I should be happy with him the way he is. At one point during our conversation last night I mentioned that if I couldn't get it at home . . . . He took that to mean I would go cheat on him. How do I convince him that I need his attention more than he's been giving these past many years. Yes, we do things together and have fun but I feel like I'm missing out on that intimate affection she should be willing to give. Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

is it because they hate asian man for being weird and geeky?

I cheated on my girlfriend. It happened a month ago and I immediately told my best friend about it. They said I should tell my girlfriend but I didn't because i was scared. I didn't want to risk our relationship. However, recently, my "best friend" told my girlfriend about the cheating. I had talked to a girl once. We exchanged nudes and talked for that day. I didn't speak to her after or since. My girlfriend broke up with me. I am absolutely heartbroken. Am I a terrible person for doing this?