I have a partner of 6 years and we have 1 child together and another on the way. I work full-time hours, I do 85% of the childcare and I do 99% of the cleaning for the household. This has been a constant battle throughout our relationship as I feel overwhelmed. I feel I have tried everything to get him to help out. In this past 4 weeks he did 1 load of dishes in the dishwasher (didnt even fill it). So on my days off I am spending a lot of my time cleaning as it gives me anxiety to live in a mess. He is also a messy person! He contributes to a huge part of the mess. Probably more so than our 3 year old. When I ask him to do something I am "nagging or controlling". Which hurts to hear when I am basically just begging for support. Today I literally made a list, told him about it and told him I wanted it done before I was home from work. He had nothing else to do today. Our kid was at daycare. I had a hard day at work, came home, nothing done and he was at the gym. It was only about an hour worth of cleaning I asked for. He slept all day. Didnt get the cleaning done and now when he should be helping with our son in the evening he is at the gym. He doesn't see this as a problem and thinks he should be able to do whatever he wants on his day off and have no responsibilities. But if I were to do that, the world would fall apart. Any advice? I feel like giving up. I want to show him how it feels but I dont want a messy house! Lol. Especially when I have people coming over. 

I am 57 and have 3 kids 2 Male 1 Female and my oldest is 18 years old I have been a married women for 28 years now I live on a farm in rural Midwestern Ohio in a small farm town of about 4900 people. My son turned 18 years old in late January and he is very disrespectful he does have Autism, ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Intermediate Explosive Disorder, and PTSD he has been through a lot in his life when he was younger  but he is getting worse as he ages he used to be a beloved person when he was little but now he yells at me and my husband and my other children very loud and says horrible things and he breaks laws I found cans of dip in his room as well as lottery tickets he gets into fights he thinks he is a stuck up farm-boy and makes himself look bad. He has gotten into fights but he does get good grades at school. I have had in in counseling, sent him to many doctors, had many talks with him showed him tough love some people I am too strict with him but I want whats best with him. I can not have his bad influence affect my 2 other children who are 14 and 16 years old. I am going to kick him out me and my husband made that decision and am going to file a eviction notice. He has a job pays his own car bills and cell phone bills he also pays for groceries and rent to live here. He threatens to squat out at peoples house if I kick him out, he threatens people lives such as his friends if I kick him out and his friends do not like him much anymore. What should I do!  He is 6 foot tall 300 pound farm-boy and he is threatening to assault his friends to squat out at at their house or rob people. He does take his medications and regularly sees his counselor and psychologist and other doctors. He also threatened to drive his truck and run people over at crosswalks. My husband has monitored him because of his anger outbursts. I am ready to kick him out now but I am worried that his is going to take this out on one of his so called friends. What can I do legally 

Meaning is a bill that is less and she keeps hers better 2 year deals suck had them years ago sick of companies charging all that money building credit paying them please I keep more money at $40

I want to be single forever I've seen friends that thought they would be married forever end up divorced. Seeing my friend depressed and not being able to eat or sleep makes me never want to fall in love. Why do so many people take the risk knowing it might not end up happily ever after seems scary

I understand growing up being an adult and doing the things you must do for that and if your married or, taking care of a kid, but why do some many lose that inner child that keeps your sanity as a grown up

was he a man hubby knows? and real old means 70 or older not 50

I understand he has abandoent issues from his biological mother giving him up and him being forced to live with his aunt and his aunt raising him. I do my best to show him a ton of admiration; appreciation , love. I cook him extravagant meals all the time and I surprise him with gifts I try to make my best effort to spend time with him when I'm not working or when I'm not working. But it's like as soon as I step away from him or if I'm giving someone else attention he has a problem. It's like no one else in my life can get attention or he feels some type of way. First of all I'm going through a lot myself. I'm in and out of depression, I have anxiety, my physical health is going down the drain just got rid of a kidney infection, I'm also dealing with my sister who has cancer and it's very emotionally taxing on me. So it's extremely draining to have to coddle my husband's ego while I'm feeling so depressed. I don't want to have to talk to him 24/7 sometimes I just need time to myself and recollect my thoughts and get my mind together. I was on the phone texting my sister to see how she was doing because she's sick with cancer like I mentioned and my husband immediately gets an attitude and says " oh you must be talking to your sister. Thought she would be sleep or something" any time I pull out my phone to talk to anyone other than him I noticed he had this weird attitude. Then he got mad because our son,s fiance went on a family trip with us. Yesterday I was downstairs fixing myself a plate and my husband goes " oh you must be fixing our son fiance a plate. That's the only time you're downstairs. I know the pattern" I said " no it's actually for me but I cook you dinner and cater to you every night. I'm so tired of this" I'm so tired of feeling I have to cater to his ego and show him attention 24/7 in order for him to be happy. Most times I'm so depressed I don't even have energy to get out the bed but I still manage to work and cook for himm I don't know if he's acting this way because of his abandondmebt issues or because he has too much time on his hands but it's really getting old. I get off at around 7 pm but my husband gets ofd very early at like 9 am since he works at like 2 am so he spends the whole day watching TV.  

Should we take a risk and just having sex in my parents home. We try to be respectful buy we are just so tired of the situation we are in and his house he lives in with his grandmother and mom someone is always home and plus their space is super tiny. He is 37 I'm 23.The house I live in with my parents is big beautiful and luxurious. There's lots of space. This no sex thing is really affecting our relationship because I'm constantly sexually frustrated. Car sex is uncomfortable and it's also getting old. Plus neither of us have tinted windows and we almost got busted so many timed by neighbors the police etc . We tried the hotel thing and I just couldn't get into sex because the hotel was so disgusting and run down but that was the only place we can afford with our small incomes 

I'm thinking of divorcing my wife so I can get away from her monstrous behaviour. I don't want the kids, they're also monsters. Always punching me. I wake up every morning after my wife plants her foot into my head as I lay on the floor helpless. She cheats on me with multiple men at once while she makes me watch from afar. I think it's about time I make this choice. 

I am 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. He recently proposed to me a couple days ago and a couple family members didn't react very well to the news. My mom being the main person I'm worried about. She ended up blocking my number. I am not planning to get married for 2 1/2 years so it's not like I'm running off and getting eloped or something. I'm really upset and stressed out so any advice would really help.. I'm a college student that has 2 jobs and pays her own bills. I guess I'm just not seeing why people can't be happy for me.

I am just looking to "get by".  No wife kids etc.  

Think about it for just as second before you answer. How many things can women use against men to gain power over them. "This isn't the 1920's any more, I can do whatever I want and I don't have to do anything you say" is a prime example; what can guys say in return when a girl demands us to do something because she feels entitled now that feminism says they can do whatever they want? Clearly her having ownership over herself doesn't mean she owns him (role reversal); it just means that she doesn't have to be treated like property any more, so why would she treat him like property instead? Or how about saying "I don't believe in genders. I'm an empowered woman and I can dress and act anyway I want to without adhering to gender norms" but then expecting her husband to take out the trash and to do all the house/car repairs? What protects men in situations like these? What can we say in exchange to win that power struggle over our own autonomy? Finally what about when they say "It is my vagina and I can do whatever I want with it, and if that means not give you sex then I'm not going to do that or any other sexual things with you because it is my body" but then she expects his entire pay check and expects praise/compliments in exchange for very small things that she does. Should men have to give their money and their time/attention/affection for free if women are going to withhold sex from us? What can we say to defend ourselves from this "entitlement"?

In 2001, what I had to offer my wife was loyalty, praise, and my overly assertive physical affection. I was a 19 year old punk rawk hopeless romantic kid, of course this is who I was! But today I'm a 37 year old nobody who is wrapped around her finger and p*whipped without the p*; she can demand my time, my attention, my affection, my money (she makes more though), and my availability whenever she wants now. She shoo'ed away all of my friends and my after work commitments and she essentially turned my man cave in the basement into a storage room (making my TV and game systems inaccessible so I had to move them to the upstairs living room - a high traffic area). I think my lack of happiness comes from my lack of control over my life. I have nothing my wife wants to barter with any more. She doesn't want my loyalty because she's legally entitled to it now, she might still want my praise but she doesn't seek it, she's told me no enough times that I refuse to be overly assertive anymore (plus the marital rape scares all thanks to feminism and their false accusations of rape against men I know). Right now the only thing I can "offer" her are things she feels entitled to. If I take away my attention, my time, my affection, my money, and my availability it would just cause her to threaten divorce or pick fights but do NOTHING to earn it back. I can't quid pro quo her at all, she gains it all and I gain nothing, not even pity sex. How can I turn the tables and empower me?

rab·id /ˈrabəd,ˈrābəd/ adjective 1. having or proceeding from an extreme or fanatical support of or belief in something. "the show's small but rabid fan base"

I'm 27 and still living with my parents. They are very nosy the last time I went to his car to have sex I noticed my mom staring at me as I walked to the car. I don't have a car or license and yes I could get a hotel but I don't even get paid until next month my job only pays once a month and the pay isn't even all that good which is why I'm still living with them. My parents will definitely question me if I'm coming outside wearing a robe with nothing under it. We wanted to try something new and kinky .and I'm not going to wait until I move out to have a sex life. I have raging homronez also . I'm dead. I still want a heslthy sex life  I meant to say I'm not dead. People's homrones DNT just stop cause they don't have their own place. 

Me and my husband have been married for a year but we have known each other since I was 19. We started dating when I was 22 all the way until I was 28 then he proposed and although I felt like I wasn't ready I said yes so he wouldn't feel rejected. Reason why I didn't want to say yes is because I know that marriage is for life and I was having second doubts because we were fighting all the time and it didn't seem as though we could come to an agreement on anything. We just have different views on almost everything. We both don't want kids and it's hard to find a man who doesn't want kids because almost every man I dated before him wanted kids or they either had kids or their own. I also feel like he genuinely loves me. Yes we argue and have our differences but I genuinely feel like he loves me and cares about me which is something I haven't been able to say about other men. Years ago he used to be very controlling but it seems like he's getting better with the controlling thing. I do see that side of him pop up every now and then but for the most part hes improving. But when we first started dating the controlling and jealous issues were horrible. He would look through my phone and accuse me of everything under the sun. My husband has recognized we are incompatible and have nothing in common but he said he loves me and wants to go to therapy and try to leave a peaceful life. I haven't been happy but I haven't been completely miserable. I feel as though I've just being going through the motions  My mom has finally come to terms with our relationship after years of not accepting him. So I guess that's a good sign but I don't know why in my back of my head I feel like he's not the one. I love him but something in me says hes not the one  But we were best friends before we dated so that is why we decided it would be in our best interest to date. It's crazy because when we were just friends we thought we had a lot in common but now that we are married we struggle to see eye to eye  We literally just had an argument last night because he said that he would be okay being single forever if we ever split up and he said that I need to be single and not look for anyone either and I was like " ok well that's you. I love love I'm not going to be single forever  And I said that's selfish and unrealistic to expect me to be single forever. Obviously i would not jump into another relationship but over time I might meet someone. And then be went on and on about how I don't need to be searching for someone and I need to be ok with being alone and I said you're missing my point  Then I had a moment where I wanted to be completely honest about how I feel because I was tired of holding it in. He said sometimes he fantasizes about other women and he asked if I fantasize about other men and j was like " honestly yes. I fantasize about them treating me better and how they make me laugh because I haven't laughed or smiled in years" And he went on about how he was sexually frustrated for years" and I was like " it's hard for me to get turned on because all we do is fight and disagree and you don't want to hear anyone's opinon that is not yours."  He's a good man hes there for me when I need him but I just don't know if I can go on. Is this how a marriage is supposed to be. Is this how my life is going to be

I've married my wife twice. She wrongly believed her divorce from her ex was finalized before she married me the first time. We corrected this by getting her divorce processed and getting the divorce decree. We got married again afterwards. So which one should we have as an anniversary date? What do you think?

If she repeats the same words for the husband too, then does it has any value, and what special her present partner is for her? Because she says that to her every partner. Will she repeat it to her next partner too? Then, should a husband take it as a compliment or is she fooling all her partners? And if she does'nt do anything kinky with her present husband that she did with alll her exes, then is he getting any benefit of having such an experienced partner, because in all ways he is only getting the boring side and and shorter end of her compared to her exes. So is it a point of rejoice for the husband that he gets only the settlement and the boring side of her after all other men enjoyed the best part of her without investing much like him? Or should the husband feel like a loser for getting the shorter end even after accepting her and for commiting to her, unlike the exes who did'nt..but yet she trusted them more. So, is the present behaviour  of her the result of her past baggages?

I have a 3 year old daughter that I am the primary caregiver of and her father lives three hours away. He actually lived much closer but moved away to find himself. We've never married and we have a verbal agreement that he pays $100 a week. Over the course of three years, he has been flaky on his end of his responsibilities. He gets behind and then basically pays what he can. He couldn't pay his full portion last week because I found out he went to Mardi Gras. I think he is selfish in that he puts himself first financially. He also puts himself first as far as his parenting goes because his daughter can't see him but once a month. He visits her once a month since he lives so far away. My daughter likes when he visits but is sad to see him go and I hate that for her. Do you think I should still let him visit once a month or save her feelings and let her have a relationship as she gets older? 

I know most of you don't read about or aren't familiar with religion these days as evident by the excessive promiscuous behavior before marriage. But hey, I don't judge.  In fact I'm pretty sure I've earned my spot down under if you know what I mean. What are your thoughts on the corona virus?

One of the things that irks me the most is how some people feel the need to throw the qualifier "happily" in front of married thereby implying that the default state of marriage is "unhappy" How could this be ladies?  And are you one of these folks that has to go around proclaiming your happy emotional state? Your thoughts?

So husband told wife that he has 21 million dollars and promised his pregnant wife  If she borns a boy she gets 14 million dollars and boy gets 7 mil.If she borns a girl she gets 7 mil and girl gets 14. Wife borns twins boy and girl and turns out she gets 6 million dollars. How? 

I'm afraid around her. If I mention anything she gets very mean. As an example of her uncaring, I had a seizure this morning that lasted 20 minutes, and she did absolutely nothing. When I came out and asked for a pain medication (chronic pain), she was very rude. I want to leave but am financially unable. I have no transportation. No way out. What do I do?

After 20+ years im finally divorcing my husband. The last straw was he had a child 5 years ago but he refused to see her. This year I accidentally see them together in his phone. I asked when did this happen n he said I don't have to tell u ****. I have always said he should be in her life and never made it an issue but obviously I wasn't supposed to be apart of it. We have 4 kids together. After that I filed it's been 4 months and he hasn't taken the parenting class. I took mine the week I filed. The lawyer said she can put in no visitation until he takes class and judge will still grant the divorce. I was trying to avoid that bc he takes care of our kids. I have been to hell and back dealing with him..u name it STDs,abuse,stress,our kids had issues in school going through this...etc and after everything Im still try taking the high road. At this point I just want it done. He says he can't get off from work n now has no car. Should I just file it with revised paperwork saying no visitation? Mind you, when I said I was filling he said hurry up n do the **** on Monday. I waited until I wasn't mad n had a clear mind then filed. Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated 😊

man *legally* protect what is his during the inevitable ebb$ and flow$ of marriage & divorce?

I am a tall Caucasian and my wife is Asian. Needless to say, I am considerably taller than her. When we pass tall women they stare, and some give me a dirty look. Are they mad because another tall man is off the market?  

So my husband and I have been married for 7 years we are both 31 years old we started dating when we were 17 and got married after he graduated college. I never realized how unfulfilled people are sexually. Our mutual friend was telling us that him and his wife have sex maybe every 6 months and I just thought how sad. He told us he felt so undesired and unloved and honestly I can believe it. I went on reddit and I saw the same stuff people saying they wait until their partners asleep and then masturbate. Or they get rejected 90 percent of the time. What's the point of being together? If you don't ever want to have sex with the person your with. It is one of the best experiences you can have in life. My husband and I have sex every day ( for the most part) and if we don't then it's probably because we are in a fight and we always have that amazing makeup sex where it's rough and angry than it turns to sweet and love making. We get weird , we get kinky and we have been doing it for 13 years. Never feels forced if one isn't in the mood it's fine but neither one of us have gone more then a week of not being in the mood and when we are in a good place sometimes we can't even contain ourselves. I wonder if there is some link to us not having children would be my guess but we decided we are never gonna have children anyways. What's your guys thoughts? 

She doesn't want to stop it....

My husband is not understanding with anything. For example, if I missed my period for a couple months he automatically thought I was sleeping with someone else and that's so messed up I was in the process of getting tested for cervical cancer. Why would he be this childish?