Hello. Im a fat, ugly, and stupid man. My social skills are horrible. I lack confidence and self esteem. I live at home and im not as well "endowed" as most men. I have nothing to offer women let alone anybody. What pisses me off is that nobody gets me. Not even my family. My mom goes and tell people im gay behind my back. Im not by the way. She doesnt understand that my life is bad enough but her rules and living under her thumb just makes it worse. Im not even allowed to close my bedroom door. Im 34 bleeping years old. She feels she has to listen to my phone conversations so therefore i dont have any conversations on the phone. Our relationship sucks and begining not to like even like her. My home should be my peace from the rest of society but it feels more like a mental prison. Cant get friends or a girl. My family and i cant see eye to eye. What the bleep should i do?

So I had anger problems for about a year now and many people are saying that people with anger problems need to seek help from a therapist or something like that. To me I think that if people with anger problems don't have a problem or are ok for them to do what they know is wrong, then that's fine. But if people with anger problems have a problem with what they are doing and want to change it, then they probably should get help. I think anger management is only for people who don't like what they are doing that is wrong and want to control their anger. To be honest, I really don't know if i really want to control my anger or not. I don't want to assume that I will or not. I cant really control my anger. Besides, I think if people are doing wrong things or being bad then I think we should just let them do it because its their life and their way of living. Everyone is different and have different personalities. I think we should all just be who we are even for people with anger problems. To me i'd rather just stick to who I am and deal with my anger problems and of course my personality. Sure you can get into lots of problems and bad relationships but hey, I'm kinda fine with that as long as i'm being who I am. If your mad and you feel like doing something bad or if you're thinking about it then just do it. I would do the same thing. People with anger problems just have to say what they have to say and cant hold it back in any longer. Same goes for me. 

My father is pushing me to refuse to see her but I kind of like her.

"We raised you so you owe us!"

I don't want to do my household chores either. That's why I had my son to do them for me

My parents divorced and it was a two sided divorce but after my Mom through my Dad out she changed her mind but he said no to coming back and they divorced. My mother told me for years that my Dad left "us" as he was the one to say no to returning. Hearing he left us hurt me so much as it meant he didn't love me. When he would do something nice for my like on a birthday, my mother would say it is his way of trying to look good. Thus, any goodwill of his was thrown out and once again I felt rejected. She would say over and over, "I am sorry you don't have a Dad who wants to be in our lives, at least you have Papa" (Papa was my maternal grandfather). She also would bad mouth his family and say they were not making an effort for me. Once again I would feel rejected. Now years and years later, 25+ years later, I have a terror of being rejected again by my Dad's family. When my Dad was alive I got closer to him once I was away from my mother's hateful comments. Yet, I had a terror of messing up any thinking he would reject me again. Now I fear his children from his 2nd marriage may reject me or my step-mother might. I also fear my Dad's brothers rejecting me. I am like obsessed on not getting rejected again. When I miss an event or holiday in my Dad's family I get flooded with all the pain from when I thought my Dad didn't love me. As a result I fear missing out. I also fear the family of his may see me as less then others. Alongside therapy. how do I overcome all this? I suffer from anxiety and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and so this makes it all worse. I am in therapy for all this and looking for additional advise. My mother is not as hateful now at all, but her words from the 1990's haunt me to this day and I am diagnosed PTSD from it. My mother doesn't get it and thinks I just need to "let go".  Christmas the flashbacks are the worst cause I often didn't see my Dad at Christmas in the 1990's as my Mom and her parents would travel with me.  The absence of seeing Dad at Christmas hurt the most.  My father died of ALS in 2015 at 66. 

He offers no validation to my pain and he lies. He also was very negligent to his elders including one who had anxiety after her son's death like I do from school. 

ok my son is turning 3 in April and I live in Gardner Mass and my family live in N.H and my husbands family lives near us in Mass as well, now I was planning his birthday party in Fitchburg which is close to where I live but I want to invite my family I already asked my grandmother and she is not willing to drive down even though we drive up there for holidays she says its too far for a birthday party even though she drove up on his first birthday party which was further now my question is should I do 2 separate party's or just do 1 and hope she comes with my dad sister and brother who live with her the only thing is I am trying to save some money on the party itself but most of his friends and cousins who are also his friends live in mass as well and the location is not far from where they live my husbands says it shouldn't matter and to just do 1 since we are trying to save money but my anxiety about inviting everyone and pleasing everyone is really annoying

  I'm from Arkansas and won the national most beautiful baby girl contest decades ago.  I somehow was followed by the media and became a child star.  I sang for a label was on TV shows preformed in clubs and a lot of parties I was invited to in the sixties and seventies.  I lived with my producer in California and on the streets in New York and sometimes with my parents in Arkansas.  My siblings didn't even know my name back then.  Now I mentioned being famous a long time ago and my siblings say that I am delusional because they don't know or don't remember.  I can't prove that I was famous unless my old producer remembered me.  The bigger problem is they want me on medication for being delusional.  They have only lived in Arkansas and South Carolina and don't think of Fame as being feasible for just anyone.  Should I just keep my mouth shut before I end up in a hospital or something like that?  I only mentioned it because I had a memory there's no need for me to mention it again...I can keep it to myself but I would like to write some short stories about my past.  They don't have to know. I see that I should keep my mouth shut.  Everyone has been picking on Pearl and she's the only one who was gracious enough to answer with good advice.

I don't care because I really despise this sister and my mother knows it. All of her siblings despise her and so we don't care. Apparently she has this Coronavirus thing that is all over the news. My mother keeps texting us updates like 5 times a day and talking like we need to lean on each other at this hard time. Yet, none of us are upset cause this sister has pushed us away. It is her bad karma. Also, my mother is liking the attention it seems. She went on CNN last Sunday as she was travelling to the base in China where my sister is. So how can I respectively get her to stop and just notify us when she dies or if she does? I don't want it to make me look rude or uncaring but none of my siblings or I care anymore about this sister or if she lives or not. I guess if she doesn't there will be a funeral where we have to act like we care.

I'm not trolling

26 years old. Average height. Average looks. Average Joe. Not ugly/not cute. Im nothing special. Got lucky a few times but...Online dating doesnt help cause im not photogenic. Been trying so hard. Moved out of state, hoping for better luck. Didnt help. Still struggling. Went to a popular strip full of bars for singles. Cant even get a girl to look at me. Im not suicidal but im getting pretty damn depressed.. WTF should i do?!

I turn 16 next month and my parents have yet to get me a car but my sister who is 21 has one that they bought her last month. In my opinion I think this is favoritism because I was suppose to get a car when I turned 15 but my parents tried to get me a $800 car from this auction and it was a piece of crap (not trolling or anything) seriously the car was from like 1995 and my sister has this Nissan that's like 2018 and I'm just as responsible as her I have my permit but I'm getting my license next month and I'm not saying I need a very expensive car but I would like to have one atleast 2012 and up since my sister has a 2018 that they co-signed for. I do my chores and I'm responsible so I don't get why they wanna give me a crappy car my friends are getting cars so I really want one plus I'm a good driver and I found a car that only cost $6000 on Facebook marketing place it was a 2015 bmw how can I make my parents get me a car.

i can't take it anymore. basically all i do is sleep. i'm 17 and i'm applied in online school but i'm so behind i don't know where to start. my parents won't let me get a job or license, which is miserable since i spend all my time at home. they refuse to take me anywhere and now i have to ask my friend to bring me when i want to go somewhere, like get food or just spend time out of the house. but most of the time she's busy, and i feel horrible having to rely on her. i'd like to get a job but my parents won't let me, and if i applied and got hired behind their back somehow there's no way they'd take me to shifts. getting a license is off the table. i hate this so much, i feel like such a disappointment and when i look at my friends and cousins i feel embarrassed because they're all doing so much better compared to me. don't get me wrong, i live in a good home, for the most part, and i'm in no place to complain. but i just feel that maybe if i ran away i could learn discipline and maybe i could get a new view on life, if that makes sense. besides i need time to myself. i just don't know how to do it right. i don't want to get kidnapped and human trafficked or anything. so if anyone has any tips please let me know.

This was maybe a little over a month ago. I knew my aunt Karen drank my entire life, and just started worrying about her drinking, and driving, as she doesnt have much of a conscience. I talked to her about it, and she said she has a couple shots every night at home, but never drives afterwards. Well, a couple days later she came up to my brothers house for my brothers birthday. She was noticeably drunk, but kept denying it. I convinced her to let me drive. Well, my moms dog suddenly got really sick, so I raced him to the vet, because no one else was fit to drive. I stupidly trusted my aunt to stay put until I got back. I was gone for maybe 30 minutes. When I got back she was gone. It infuriated me. I would mow her lawn every few weeks. Fast. Forward a month after the event to now. She texted me a couple of times I. the past fee days asking if I could mow her lawn. I ignored both messages. She texted me today, and said that she knows I'm upset with her, and that it breaks her heart, an that she only had a couple shots, and she was fine to drive. But she told me she doest drive after drinking a couple days before that, so there was the first lie, but the biggest lie is shes still denying that she drove drunk, when I KNOW shes lying. I feel kind of bad, because we've always gotten along very well, but when I think about it, shes just a toxic person. All she does is talk about herself. Shes just full of drama, and not to mention she drove drunk, and probably does on a daily.

My brother had his girlfriend visit my family who are in their 30's. I was wearing shorts but I hate shaving my legs unless Im outside bare leggedleg (and, I dont care if guys get gross by it) in public, but dont care if around the house or around family and Ive always feeled a bit awkward how old fashioned my father is (he used to believe women are not capable to fart 😂) he still treat me as a kid even though im technically an adult. Of course, they can ask but is it really normal to have these expectations? "Shave your legs, its embarrising to your bfs girlfriend, be a lady". Now ive make my own decisions as im no longer a minor, but I always found this a bit odd... I like to add that ive two homes and live with tth family during weekend due to medical reasons (mentally don't feely age, 30 because of that!) and helping them with the cats so please no "move out if you dont like it", as Ive an apartment. English is not my mother language. Me, My brother and his GF is early 30s. My parents are mid 50s and early 60s. 

She's been using me as a sexual tool for years, I'm her "ho", as she calls me, but her sister treats me with so much respect, and has openly tolt me, at the last Christmas party, that she would do me much better, and we could have a life together, although I'd half to move have way around the world. I'm so confused.

Me and my friend love to talk over the phone but his dad put limits on the call so it shuts off at a certain time and his dad actually threatened to block me. My friend can't do a factory reset because his dad would know. Both of us are over 18 and therefore adults so we need a way out of this that his dad can't stop.

I'm a guy and I'm 15 and my sister is 19. Sometimes she refers to me as my baby. She calls me her little baby bro. She calls me kid and kiddo.

Yahoo answers is well known for sarcastic and rude responses but if we could skip that, it would be great.  I have a situation. I have a friend who lives in WV, I live in Oregon. For 3 years she's told me about various abuse within the home. My friend lives with her mother. Her mother throws things at her, drinks, makes her homeless, and my friend also has a daughter. My friend on several occasions has said how she doesnt want a daughter and wishes she could die. She's told me on more than one occasion how she's relapsed on meth. She constantly has alcohol and weed parties at the house, she brings friends over who knowingly do meth. She's told me that her boyfriend wants to get custody of his daughter but if he does he will most likely get his daughter put in state custody because he and his baby mama does drugs. She's told me that he has visibly gotten high in the household which made her want to relapse. I want custody of her daughter. But I am unaware of where to go to start the process. She's had CPS called on her 3 times and still nothing changed. She's even told me the last time she had CPS visits that they were going to take her daughter away because she had just done meth the day previously (but cps ended up doing nothing)  I ultimately just want what's best for her daughter. And I feel like living with me would be the best option for her. Since Amethysts extended family has blatantly told her they dont want to adopt her daughter if she got taken away. 

I hate everything about my age cause I feel like I'm being treated like if I was a stereotypical teenager who is rude  with a lot of attitude  and who spoiled

I got sick of being treated like a slave and screamed at them for a good 5 mins. Basically they promise to pay me when I work for them but never do. They claim to be broke but always goto the casinos. I've also saved their lives multiple times but they show no gratitude whatsoever. So should I just move out and write them out of my life?

I'm 14 and my brother is 22 and he doesn't have a job, his room has trash everywhere, he doesn't shower or brush his teeth, and he grows out his curly hair and it looks terrible and he doesn't take care of it properly but doesn't do what anyone says. My mother and him were fighting on how he hasn't had a job for the past two years and when he did he got fired in less than a month. She told him that he messes up everything stuff like that. She came to me crying and I just hugged her and told her it was going to be okay and later she came to me asking me "what am I supposed to do" and I mentioned therapy between them both because their relationship needs help and she keeps pushing him to get a job but it doesn't work. She told me that wouldn't work and I said "okay well just know it's going to be okay and I love you" and she was in my room at this point and stood up walked to the door and said "you're not even here for me you don't even understand" and she's right I don't understand what it's like being a mother scared for her son but I understand being his sister being embarrassed because of him but also scared for him. After that she walked out the door but I've been checking up on her regularly and hugging her and telling her it was going to be okay because what else am I supposed to do? She's upset and she keeps getting mad at me and she says I don't love her when I keep telling her I do I really need help please. I just posted this now I've never posted something of this earlier.

I work with this guy and we're friends and he's cute and very popular, but he asks everyone a lot invasive questions. Today we were talking about our parents and how long before women can stop having children and he asks everyone how old their mom is. When he asked me, I didn't want to answer because my mom is older than most parents and also my mom told me she doesn't like people knowing her age because she's so old. He made a joke about it saying "what is your mom like, ninety?" and everything was fine--but then he said "well you at least have a picture on your phone right?" I said no because I don't. He said "what are you embarrassed of your mom or something?" he then goes to show a picture of his attractive, in-shape parents and explains he has 1000s of photos of them. I don't have any photos of my mom because she hates taken photos because she's overweight and two, my dad died when I was a baby so she was always busy working that she never took any photos when I was younger. I guess I am embarrassed about it all but I don't think they should know my business, but he puts me on the spot a lot, everyone else seems to be okay with just sharing the bad parts of their life (like parents going to jail or uncle killing someone, etc.) but I'm just not, but I feel like I'm coming off sketchy and weird because I don't want to share info about my family. What do you think I should do to further avoid getting into situations like this. Am I over reacting, what can i do to avoid this

I have been trying to help out my big sister for a long time. any time i give her help she blows up at me but yet she lets me do whatever i was gonna do for her and THEN blows up at me and says Im not welcome. She never wants to talk anymore even when we're ok..But when she needs something she is suddenly right there to talk to me. she constantly blows up and explodes on me even when I didnt finish my sentence and wasnt about to say anything bad! In fact I was about to say something good! she yells louder than ive ever heard anyone yell in our aparment complex with paper thin walls (2 of her neighbors in her place moved out because of her constant yelling so its not just me)I am ALWAYS the one saying sorry, buying her things, trying to reach out and helping her. After her yelling and screaming at me Ill make ONE rude comment back and she goes wild and then starts wailing even though I just endured her screaming and blowing up/being snarky to me over nothing. And then once again im the one who apologizes and tries to patch things up and send her money (the only thing she sees). she has never ONCE said sorry back or tried to help me or wanted to hang out with me even when we were on okay terms. I  feel burnt. I say one thing (and yes it was really rude) and after everything shes done I am now the bad guy. and i do feel bad and want to say sorry. the worst part is its like my sorry doesnt mean anything! and i really did mean it! I just couldnt take her shitting on me anymore!!

I have always had a tumultuous relationship with my mother. I have suggested to her that we need to see a therapist. Anyway, today she decided to come stay at our house tonight since she was going to watch my kids tomorrow night since my fiancé and I are working. I have also been prepping to retake my act and my fiancé's daughter came into my room while I was studying and asked for jello. I told her to give me a minute and I would get it for her. When I got into the kitchen my step daughter was rummaging through the refrigerator and I told her, "hey, I told you to give me just a minute and I would get you the jello." She said yes ma'am and I got it for her.  My mom said something under her breath and I believe what she said was, "I'm washing dishes, I can't get the jello" she was shaking her head and looked annoyed and spoke with an attitude. So of course I want to know why she was aggravated and ask why she is upset. She said Nevermind, and continued hollering about how no one appreciates her. I told the kids they needed to go to their room because I knew exactly where this was going. She starts screaming and hollering again how no one appreciates her. I can't even get a word in. I try to tell her that I was sorry If whatever I said upset her. She didn't want to hear it.This is a regular occurrence of her coming into my home and taking out whatever problems she has on me. I told her to leave, she refused. So I went to my room. I cried for a bit. Why does she keep doing this

should i discuss this with him or let it blow over? we never talked deeply together before about serious topics

boyfriend is 19, living w his mom, has a job n goes to college we have been dating for a year. i turn 18 tmrw, i want to move in as my parents are mentall abusive. they threaten to send me to a mental institution if i retaliate, call me a psycho, a crackwhore etc and tell me my molestation was my fault (i was 10). they refuse to let me get a drivers license so they know where i am at all time. they control my bank account. they control my work hrs etc. just today, my grandmother accused me of attacking her and giving her a concussion and a broken shoulder (which she doesn't have) and my parents believe her. i have about 2,000 saved up, hes gonna take me to school, ive already applied for college thats near his house that offers my major. Im planning on slowly moving stuff to his house by allowing him to pick me up this week for work and saying im taking "the garbage out" that contains my clothes and personal belongings. how do i change over my bank account? what do i do when they find out i moved out?? i'm so scared but i can't keep living like this. i love them with all my heart but they are apart of why i don't want to be alive anymore. 

I came across this young man on Facebook (won't say his name) who is 22 years old and lives in Florida. He is completely obsessed with cartoon characters and posts pics and videos of them, drawings he makes of them, pics of him with costumed characters at Disney World, and pics of him dressed up as cartoon characters (even female ones like Minnie Mouse and the bunny from Zootopia). I had a chat with him on FB and asked him what he did for a living and he said he's on SSB (Social Security Benefits) because he has autism. Since he's not working, I asked him what he did throughout his days, and he said he watches cartoons and Disney movies, plays with his toys (he has a huge collection of plush dolls and action figures), wears costumes, roleplays, goes to toy stores, and visits Disney World multiple times a week (how in the world is he able to afford to go there on SSB?!). I told him he needs to grow up, get a job, and start acting like a man, but he just got mad and blocked me. His FB followers seem to adore him but I think he's very immature. He acts like he's living in a fantasy world and doesn't care a bit about real life! What is he going to do when he's older? He ain't gonna look cute dressed as Minnie Mouse when he's 30... I wouldn't be surprised if his parents still support him in any way. He needs to wake up, accept that he's not a child anymore, and that he can't continue living like this! He needs to grow up and be a real man! Now, what do you think about him?