Do you feel like it's betrayal to your spouse?

After finding about this nasty affair, I went to the internet and quickly printed divorce papers. I have asked him several times to fill them out, and sign them. He clearly doesn't care about us as he stopped helping me with bills, he had his car repoed because all his money has been going to her. I have asked him to leave and he won't. But he also gets mad at the fact of me moving on and finding someone else. I don't understand why he just won't leave and give me a divorce?

Husband and wife been married for 3 years now has been a little rocky bit both have gotten things together and are about to move into a new and better apartment with the son and daughter who are step children to the husband. The husband before hand let's wife know that he's 41 and not 47. She gets upset and says she's done and doesn't want him anymore should that be a reason for separation or divorce win the whole time husband has been there for her and the kids knowing full well there's bigger fish to fry then someone's age and the wife is only two years older at 43 The step daughter is 11 and the sun is 22 with autism

Upon being married for 2 years. A total of 14 years together we had his I-130 spproved but my husband has been having an affair. The other not such a good character herself sent me a message that he only married me for papers. He has grown very abusive and almost strangled me to death, and beat me with a belt. He said next time it would be a knife. Can this be a deportable offense since this shows his true character? I know fraud is at play here, I married for love and our family. He apparently did not.

So my husband wont have a baby with me until I swallow his ***. We're both 29 and married. I think this is completely out of line and childish. What are your thoughts?

That was almost half our life savings.

My wife came to me today with the news that she's pregnant. This can't be happening because the doctor said that I have a very low sperm count. Back then he told me to stop smoking and drinking. To eat healthy and do sports and he gave me some medicine, but then he told me that it's a long stretch and that even if I do all he said, it will still be extremely difficult for me to be a father. I moved on since then. We can't have all we want. Now there's this news. She takes me for an idiot. She didn't just cheat, she's bringing me a bastard to raise. I have never been so insulted in my life. People told me if I divorce now and demand a dna test, I will not have to pay for child support. I could also wait for this baby to be born and prove with a dna test that it's not mine. Either way, I shouldn't have to pay for another man's spawn.

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My husband and I have been married for 6 years and have three kids together. The time together hasn't always been terrible. For instance, for each of my pregnancies he's the most supportive husband, especially in the delivery room and subsequent days. However it doesn't take long for that behavior to change. Before I know it, he's back to being rude to my family when they come over, even when he knows it hurts me. He's sometimes nice to them, but only when he's in a good mood and all is right with the world. They aren't rude people, as my sister always brings gifts, is smiling, etc. My mom can't offer any suggestions or he gets deeply offended. We all walk on eggshells around him. With me, he doesn't listen or ever want to talk about anything other than his own interests, his life, how he thinks people are against him at church, etc. If I try offering advice, he tells me it isn't my place. However, he can lecture me for an hour on how I should be doing things, etc., how what I'm doing, wearing, speaking isn't good enough and needs to change. My sexual performance is SO unsatisfying to him, too. It's gotten so bad that the thought of sex gives me anxiety and I try avoiding it as much as possible. I can't get turned on by him anymore because he's constantly critiquing my performance. He has this habit of leaving with the kids without me. It happened yesterday and that was the last time for me. He wanted to leave somewhere at 2:30 sharp. I walked out at 2:31 and he was gone.

we work together and one time I was passing by and we stoped to chat and his like so I noticed you're still here I was like yea but not for to long bc imma go back to school. Than his like I'm going back as well I was like oh really?his like yeaa Than the next day I saw him he comes up and is like so when are you applying in December I was like yea, his like me too, you better say hi to me when you see me etc Than couple days passed he comes up again is like so i have applied and sensed my resume and just waiting on the call.. I was like you probably have to come there personally blah blah blah than his like yea don't worry I got this taken care off with a big smile.... so anyways I don't know him like that but I was curious is he just being friendly or something more.?like I don't know why he would care to tell me

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years. We have a 18 months old son and I am currently pregnant. My husband has always been disrespectful and yesterday I was debating with a stranger on a topic and my husband came in took their side and tells me I can't talk on that topic because I am a child. I was so embarrassed. He is 8 years older than I am so he feels like because he's older, I should never have a voice. I am currently 25 and I am tired of it. He is disrespectful with a lot of other things too but that example is the most recent. I don't have any families here and he said he will never let us get counseling. He don't ever apologize either. What would you do in my position?

Obviously we've been together for 8 years since we were 15. We moved in together a year ago and are very happy. But a few things that have given me red flags that we may never get married is if he ever mentions getting married he says "if I ever get married" saying himself and not we as in me included. I guess maybe since we're not engaged it makes sense but we made a promise that we'd always be together. We're at a wedding today and all the couple's were like holding hands and being sweet and I reach for him but I wishhe would have made the move. We're going to Hawaii in 6 months with family but I have my heart sort of set on him proposing as it's our first real vacation together somewhere special but I'm afraid of being disappointed he won't. We've also had some minor fights in the past where he'll blatantly said "this is why I haven't married you yet". So I doubt he will this vacation but I really want to because I feel ready. When we were thinking our original idea was to marry after we graduated from college but at 23 only I have done 2 years of college. He's mostly been sitting me. We also had a recent conversation that if he joins the military and gets deployed or relocated he would have to marry me to be able to take me with him and that it would be the opportunity to pay for both of our college years. I told him he wouldn't be obligated to marry me at that point but inside I would have liked if he wanted to do it. It makes me feel unloved.

If the husband finds out about all those sex acts in details after marriage then what can the wife do to save him from feeling worthless in front of everyone and himself and also about his marriage which was based on lies and secrets? AND how will the wife feel whenever her husband's friends with whom she sleep with visits their home n she sees them?

My husband feels so hurt because I don t want to work at the same place. He thinks I want to find someone else. And of course I am not. What can I tell him?

If I had a wife who worked from that idiot I would have divorced her already! 😂

I know that a lot of women like drama and that being a nice boring guy gets old really fast. Two of my exes broke up with me because they felt that there was "something missing", implying that the relationship was boring. I consider myself a spontaneous guy. I enjoy traveling a lot and going out to eat/movies/concerts. I've been told that women love drama and that this is why they prefer "bad guys". So should I plan occasional drama to keep my new girlfriend interested in me?

My husband and I are great together when things are going bad. Through all our family problems, financial issues, etc. we have been supportive and loving to each other. But when everything slows down and our life is stable and ok, we are at each other's throats. Why do we only get along when times are tough?

Me and My husband are newly married. We have been friends for 10 years, dating for 5 years and married for one year. We had some problems about 6 months ago with him being controlling, emotionally manipulative, etc. I don't have any of those problems anymore but I do worry he might relapse. it seems as though he had gotten significantly better. He's never been the affectionate type or kissing type but lately he's been wanting to kiss me a lot. We haven't had sex in a month because we are so busy with crazy work schedules and he's always grabbing my butt, trying to feel on me. It almost seems like he's TOO attracted to me. I can't even look at him without him getting hard.is this normal? On another note, o have a male friend who I had gotten very close to while we were having problems and he's a great man and very attractive. I think I might like him? I find myself thinking about him all the time. He was a great source of comfort for me and he knew all the right things to say. The problem is now my friend is barely texting me and he's inconsistent with communication. I shouldn't feel as hurt as I do but I can't help but feel sad. I only hear from like 2-3 times a week now when i used to talk to him everyday. Me and my friend have more in common then my husband. I tried to brush off my feelings but I can't stop thinking about him.

I feel like my husband pressures me me to be his mother's best friend. We get along fine when we are together. I am always nice to her. I have even invited her before when I have had my family over. But for him to expect me to text her or go out with her feels like too much. She is not my mother. Why should I be forced into a relationship with someone? I am very nice to her and we get along fine. But I don't need to be forced to spend time with her or text her. I am being nice to her.

what possible use is a wife to a man? sex? a single man can find far more and better quality sex without having to marry it. all marriage provides him are responsibilities and expenses. and he'll likely lose at least half his life savings when his wife tires of him after a few years and divorces him. any man is far better off staying single.

So my live-in partner left me and our 2 year old daughter. He said I was controlling and jealous and I admit that and very much willing to change, but won t give me another chance. He has too many reasons -- we need to be apart to grow, he felt emasculated that we had to live in my mum s house, he thinks he has not enjoyed life enough. I think he just realized that a father and husband s life is not where he would be happy, or maybe he just does not love me anymore. The only thing confusing me is the last time we talked, he kept touching me affectionately and kept staring at me, and told me not to close my doors. I made it clear that it s just not possible and that I have to move on. What the **** is going through that man s mind to say that? Does he think I m stupid enough to wait for him while he enjoys being a single man again? I don t know what to think.

Keep in mind his "brand-new" wife gave him the side eye and privately said something to him at their wedding because of the way the Facebook friend (one of the wedding guests) was looking at him.

He says he can't divorce because she is not stable and they have a teenage child.His wife is really depressed, never leaves the house and has been for a while, so it is not a lie he is feeding me. I had a short affair but ended it because I want someone single. He says he is stuck. Is this true or is he giving me excuses not to divorce?

I've noticed lately or maybe she's always felt this way after 11 years. This has happened on many occasions. One i remember being disrespected at a store by a sales clerk. I told her what i said back to the clerk and said i would report him to the corporate headquarters . She. Instantly goes off and gets pissy and thinks im being unfair after this asshole disrespected me. Its like she instantly sides with the bad guys here every time. Complete asshole strangers are automatically her friend. Im to the point of walking out i cant live with someone who doesn't have your back with simplest of things. If i were unreasonable or plain wrong in these circumstances i would understand or give her the benefit of the doubt and i have. But when you can bet she wont have your back i might as well be on my own because i dont need another enemy of the state in my house. Thanks.

Monday oa the day om leaving my husband. Been w him 12 years and he abused me hard. Now hear me out, i have a car and i have money (het monthly check). Okay he ran pff all my friends and family sp i have nobody 2 help me. We have a four year old daughter together. I DON'T want 2 call thw cops bc laat time i lect hi. They were useless. Last time o called the police (he punched me) i was told o could only leave w 1 bag and i couldn't take my daughter. (Ahe stayed w him.) The womans shelter has room i had a friend call. My husband takes MY car to work (he don't want me driving around while he's working.) So I am will have 2 wait unt he brings my car bak from his work. He is porn addicted, he has beaten me badly and broke my nose,cheated. So much! Idk y havent left earlier. This man does we he wants 2 me and is ao mean. I didn't want 2 ever leave but do i have a choice? He won't stop hitting me or cheating. I am ready. Im scared tho! God told me last week 2 leave.

Me and My husband are newly married. We have been friends for 10 years, dating for 5 years and married for one year. We had some problems about 6 months ago with him being controlling, emotionally manipulative, etc. I don't have any of those problems anymore but I do worry he might relapse. it seems as though he had gotten significantly better. He's never been the affectionate type or kissing type but lately he's been wanting to kiss me a lot. We haven't had sex in a month because we are so busy with crazy work schedules and he's always grabbing my butt, trying to feel on me. It almost seems like he's TOO attracted to me. I can't even look at him without him getting hard.is this normal? On another note, o have a male friend who I had gotten very close to while we were having problems and he's a great man and very attractive. I think I might like him? I find myself thinking about him all the time. He was a great source of comfort for me and he knew all the right things to say. The problem is now my friend is barely texting me and he's inconsistent with communication. I shouldn't feel as hurt as I do but I can't help but feel sad. I only hear from like 2-3 times a week now when i used to talk to him everyday. Me and my friend have more in common then my husband. I tried to brush off my feelings but I can't stop thinking about him.