I am a junior they are sophomores. I also have a late birthday so I should be a senior. We are 2 whole years apart. I am 17, they are 15. I love them lots but we do fight and, it feels foolish to admit, by I sometimes find myself getting sensitive/offended by them when we have arguments. I know its pathetic because I am 2 years older than them. Is this whole friendship dynamic weird? Is it pathetic to be embarrassed when I make a stupid statement/argue in front of these younger girls? Let me add that although we do have our fights they are sweet girls. My family does think this is strange, being friends with girls younger than me.

In the past I used to do bad things and treat others badly. I stopped doing those things a while back and I've changed however those people from the past have not forgiven me and still hold a grudge. I don't think they like me and always act hostile even though I've changed now they just won't let it go. What should I do about them? They are unwilling to forget the past. Should I just forget about them and move on with new people?

Ok so , a group of us were about to start drinking at the house and the girl's bf bought all of it ..I was like damn sorry but i dont have any cash right now ( I did in my account) . So, the girl is like , i need $5 from you and grabs the beer from my hand and walks off ! She didnt even buy it, but her bf was like dont worry about it .

I was telling this guy how I like my independence and that I don't know why I keep liking new guys all the time. He was really honest with his advice (such that past guys and I needed to have kept the ball rolling with connections). Then this guy still asked me out?

I have a bff and I cannot see my life without her. a year ago she did something hurtful to me that I just can never let go or trust her again. Long story short I got in a fight at school. Part of the reason i got into the fight was because she twisted my words of what i said to her to this other girl and basically the other girl got mad and confronted me about it. One thing turned into another and it led to me being punched in the face and head several times. I felt so humilated. I basically got beat up in front of the whole school. I confronted my friend by texting her asking her why she would run her mouth about something I never said, to somebody I dont even get along with. But that made her mad she basically called me names and threatned to show up in my house and fight me too. But the part that really broke my heart was when she went on my instagram and posted a comment saying "you got beat up mane" with the laughing emoji. I honestly can forget about her running off her mouth and twisting my words to that girl because maybe it was a misunderstanding. But how could she have the audacity to publicily shame me for being humiliated in front of the whole school like that? We stopped talking for several weeks but then made up. The problem is everytime i look at her I see the same person that back stabbed me emotionally. I just want to know if I am being petty by holding a grudge against her or do I have every right to feel the way I do about her and should I just leave her?

My friend and I like the same guy we both work with, but he ended up asking me out. Now, she's depressed about it. I completely understand that she's hurt, as it's human to feel that way. However, we both agreed that no matter the outcome, we'd be happy for the other person and that it wouldn't affect our friendship. After all, we're both adults. I thought she'd be mature enough to not hold his decision against me, but now she's trash-talking me to mutual friends. I overheard her telling a couple mutual friends of ours that the only reason he's into me is because of my looks. She also said that she thinks I'm anorexic and starve myself, to which our other friends agreed and responded by laughing. I'm trying not to take it personally, but it hurts that people who I thought were my good friends would choose sides and also speak so negatively of me when I've done nothing but try to be a good friend. I'm starting to wonder if other people see me as a shallow person with no redeeming qualities. Should I confront her? If so, how do I bring this up without it getting awkward?

It's been a couple of weeks into my first year of college, and I roomed with a friend from high school. He's more of an academically-oriented type of guy (doesn't really like to go out to party and do stuff). The dorm we're in is mostly made of people that are social and outgoing. My roommate kind of closes himself off to everyone on our floor and isn't really looking to be friends with them. I think it's mostly because he's "satisfied" with just being friends with guys from our high school, and also the guys on our floor aren't really "his kind of people". The thing is, I WANT to be friends with the guys on my floor because I feel like I don't have a group of friends that I can just go out with and go to parties and have fun. It's really hard to become friends with my floormates because I feel like I've been lumped in a group with my roommate as a person who doesn't really like to socialize. I always say hi to my floormates and I feel like I'm chill with them, but it seems like everyone on the floor sees me as the same person as my roommate. I'm also looking to make friends in my classes, clubs, and I might join a frat so I can meet more people, but I feel like it's been really hard since it feels friend groups are cemented. I know this is a lot of information and school just started, but I just can't see myself experiencing college to the fullest like this. Just doing homework and staying in the dorm all day and never going out has me going crazy.

I am divorced but my ex wife and I are still on friendly terms. I work for a news organization and I saw a news report that the current boyfriend of my ex wife was on probation for domestic violence. I am not sure what I should do about this information if anything. I talk to my ex wife rarely and she tells me what a good boyfriend she has. I doubt if she knows about his conviction for domestic violence. Should I tell her? Who she has as a boyfriend is really none of my business but as a friend I think she should know about his conviction for domestic violence. I am torn between telling her and my desire not to get involved in her relationships. Gals, if you were my ex wife would you want me to tell you?

I was told that my hubbys sister in law is "different" before meeting her. She was extremely insecure, mean, manipulative and passive aggressive. She would poke at me and make me feel completely uncomfortable. Long story short we fell out after I addressed her. Every time I spoke up for myself, she would kill me with silence which in turn made everyone uncomfortable. I lost my mother and was dealing with major emotional issues and because of this drama with her and my husband not having my back and excluding me, I wanted out of my marriage. Everyone will talk about her but no one speaks up. I reached out several times and we finally talked. I apologized to her, even though I did nothing wrong. She never apologized or even acknowledged her behavior. We becane friends on FB and once again, here comes the digs through memes, posts and comments. I unfollowed her for a while but I wanted no access to her because of what I had gone through previously and I didnt want to go through it again. She purposely ignored me and I didn t engage with her plus the subliminals helped me make the decision to unfriend her. Now, here we go again with the silent treatment and everyone looking at me like Im the villian. I feel like we are way too old for this and everyone expects certain behavior from her and expects me to deal with it. Am I causing drama by refusing to deal with her on social media? Is she being childish for giving me silent treatment for unfriending her?

So my friend says he wants to rent out a trolley for friends to drive around and drink alcohol on it, but the only thing is is that he's underage. He along with other friends of his have fake id's but he wasn't sure whether it'd pass. What would you say?

I am the only girl in one of my high school senior's class. They are fun guys and they like to tease me about how hot and sexy they are. One will say "do you want to see hard". I told him I would need a microscope to see it. Some guy will say "Most girls think I am hung". My reply, "you misunderstood, Most girls think you should be hung". A guy will tell me "I have sex more than any guy in school". I said "that explains the blisters on your hand?" Another guy said "My dong is so long, you will need a yard stick to measure it". I told him a 2 inch stick would probably measure it. No matter what they come up with, I always have a put down for them. They think it is fun and so do I. We all enjoy doing this. The guys told some of the other girls in school what was happening and these girls told me I shouldn't have to "take" it anymore. That is sexual harassment. They say these guys are insulting all women by talking to me this way. Gals, is that true?

i am a very lonely 17 years old girl and i often wish i had real friends ... i never hang out with anybody or go to parties and it's making me feel like i'm wasting my entire youth

This is where my group of friends all gather, none of us actually lives here, the place is a friend's community staircases we do smoke and drink in here

A) "She wanted to see how you were doing. She was worried about you" after one complains how her cousin intruded on her while she needed rest & privacy B) "Because you're bothering him, honey!" after one complains how her enemy in school is encouraging others to shun her & breaking up her friendships C) "He was joking around!" after one complains how her neighbor taunted her D) "He was only a baby. You should've just given him the pillow!" after one complains how her cousin scratched her cheek while trying to steal it from her & it left a scar E) "It's her job to keep you healthy!" after one complains how the nurse gave him a shot because he found it so painful F) "She didn't want you to be bullied!" after the victim asserts to his interlocutor that berating him for failing to *fight back* constitutes victim-blaming and/or telling one to *fight back* is something you should never say to a bullied teen Are these examples of defending or supporting something unpopular or controversial? Or are they just helping the complainer see the other side of the story? Does saying those things make someone a person who defends something that's criticized, unpopular, or controversial? I'd accept a yes or no for an answer.

so i am a 20 year old male and i stayed back a couple years for a job training program in my high school and i was friends with these two girls who were nice at first but then they just became too much and too obsessed with me which i didnt like at all. Also if they got too close to me and were invading my personal space and i moved away they would move closer even though i moved away which symbolizes that they were getting too close also if they did something that i didnt like and i told them to stop they would just ignore me and continue to do it. They also would take my water bottle which set me off as well and they wouldnt want to talk about what i wanted to talk about but only what they did and that set me off too so is it better if i just dont be friends with girls since they cause problems for me

An entire grade has lunch at a certain time at school. There's this group of 2-3 boys who intend on harassing someone while everyone (including them) walks out of the cafeteria when lunchtime is over to get to their next class. Whenever that group of friends gets a chance, they either shove down this particular girl from behind her & then laugh, taunt her, and/or mimic her. Although her target is an introvert, she's not the only introvert they're familiar with. And granted, she may not be the most normal person. When she tells her mom all about it when she gets home, her mom replies, "Of all the girls, they'd choose you because you'd take it whereas another girl would say something back!" Despite her trying to assert herself when they bother her the next day, it doesn't stop them; they continue to torment her ever since if they get a chance. She refrains from giving a reaction or defends herself to no avail. Would her mother's response be victim-blaming?

It's been a couple of weeks into my first year of college, and I roomed with a friend from high school. He's more of an academically-oriented type of guy (doesn't really like to go out to party and do stuff). The dorm we're in is mostly made of people that are social and outgoing. My roommate kind of closes himself off to everyone on our floor and isn't really looking to be friends with them. I think it's mostly because he's "satisfied" with just being friends with guys from our high school, and also the guys on our floor aren't really "his kind of people". The thing is, I WANT to be friends with the guys on my floor because I feel like I don't have a group of friends that I can just go out with and go to parties and have fun. It's really hard to become friends with my floormates because I feel like I've been lumped in a group with my roommate as a person who doesn't really like to socialize. I always say hi to my floormates and I feel like I'm chill with them, but it seems like everyone on the floor sees me as the same person as my roommate. I'm also looking to make friends in my classes, clubs, and I might join a frat so I can meet more people, but I feel like it's been really hard since it feels friend groups are cemented. I know this is a lot of information and school just started, but I just can't see myself experiencing college to the fullest like this. Just doing homework and staying in the dorm all day and never going out has me going crazy.

They call me their platonic soulmate! They say I'm hot and pretty. They cuddle me a lot. They said they want to spend their whole life with me. Is it a crush?

I don't know. I was a jerk and I told my friend I didn't want to hang out with them because they were boring, I've already apologized and they forgive me. I went though a mild depression stage, I guess. But now I'm happy. Do i even deserve that? After how I treated that friend as well as another best friend I have who i didn't treat well? Deserve*

Today i called a friend of mine in the lunch break on her phone. One of her male friends picked up.I asked him if i could speak to her. And she responded by making sounds and speaking some non sense and i could hear people laughing in the background. So i hung up. I don't know her friends but they seem very unsophisticated and crude.I don't like them.

I don't have any close connections. I have acquaintances (or slightly more than acquaintances but not friends) at work, church, home, and etc. How do I change that? I'm tired of eating along, sitting alone, coming home to nothing, and never having anything to do (except those church/work events where everyone is invited). If/when I do go out with these acquaintances I am the one who arranges it. So I never feel like people like me or want to invite me or be more than acquaintances. I want a few friends like I did in college or high school but I don't know how to do it especially without coming on too strong or being weird. What can I do? How do you do it?

And u kinda just gotta sit there and here about how they keep hanging out with out u or how they made out but it lowkey really hurts to hear about

It's been a couple of weeks into my first year of college, and I roomed with a friend from high school. He's more of an academically-oriented type of guy (doesn't really like to go out to party and do stuff). The dorm we're in is mostly made of people that are social and outgoing. My roommate kind of closes himself off to everyone on our floor and isn't really looking to be friends with them. I think it's mostly because he's "satisfied" with just being friends with guys from our high school, and also the guys on our floor aren't really "his kind of people". The thing is, I WANT to be friends with the guys on my floor because I feel like I don't have a group of friends that I can just go out with and go to parties and have fun. It's really hard to become friends with my floormates because I feel like I've been lumped in a group with my roommate as a person who doesn't really like to socialize. I always say hi to my floormates and I feel like I'm chill with them, but it seems like everyone on the floor sees me as the same person as my roommate. I'm also looking to make friends in my classes, clubs, and I might join a frat so I can meet more people, but I feel like it's been really hard since it feels friend groups are cemented. I know this is a lot of information and school just started, but I just can't see myself experiencing college to the fullest like this. Just doing homework and staying in the dorm all day and never going out has me going crazy.

i swear on my life my friends don't like hanging out with me. my moms pretty cool so they're allowed to come over pretty much whenever, which makes me house the designated hangout. but i am constantly left out when they are over. i love my friends but this is the problem with a group of 3 best friends. they have inside jokes without me, watch movies on their phones sharing headphones without me, go on apps, do so much without me and while at my own home. yesterday they made plans to hangout today without me right in front of me. and they kept saying "oh we feel bad but now you know how i feel when you hangout with *one of them* without me!" but i would never make plans to hangout without one of them in front of them. at their house. the worst part is that my friend told me "oh next time we go *place they're going* i'm going to take you!" and then takes our other friend instead right in front of me. and they know i have this phobia and anxiety of being left out and it literally causes me to breakdown and they continue to do so. idk what to do. i hate confrontation but it's getting out of hand. crying nightly over my best friends isn't exactly how i imagine a friendship should work. i love them with all my heart and don't want to stop being friends with them.

A phony friend

Yesterday I was joking around with a classmate girl and I told her to put attention in class cause we were joking, so she thought I said she calls my attention and said eww, I thought it was a joke so I sarcastically repeated what she thought I said and she kept saying eww and I felt bad. I know people are not obligated to love me or like me, but that hit me really hard to the point I cried at home cause I felt disgusting cause I know she wasn't joking at all, I don't love her, like her nor I've never tried anything with her like flirting or something but as someone who happened to be depressed for a long time because of self esteem issues I feel bad with myself again so I think I'm overthinking this or taking it too far but I wanna know: How should I react if someone tells me this again? How should I take it?

I dont exactly enjoy life. I dont like going out. Scenery isn't beautiful. Leaving my house is a hassle. Going to the store is annoying. Videogames are boring when its the same outcome. I've been in both ghetto and middle class. Talking to people is work. Drawings look cool but they don't interest me. Work is boring. Anime/TV takes too long to come out, but even then I dont always finish the season cause I get bored of it. Relationships are boring. Parties are annoying. I dont like the taste of alcohol and it's very hard to get me drunk so in the end my wallet is empty and I'm bored even drunk. Smoking smells like ***. Getting high isn't a problem, but its no different than just a regular day. What can I do that's actually fun? LITERALLY the only thing that's ever excited me was my imagination of being like One Punch Man, just going on a rampage. (Of course I'll never kill people that don't wanna kill me, and I'm talking in the terms of struggling, but yet having immense power)

so there's this guy i met on minecraft a couple days ago. we have been playing together whenever we are online at the same time (we play on hypixel). sometimes i want to play with him, but i don't know if he's free or anything, so i have to log on and play for a bit to see if he's on or if he'll join. do you think it would be a good idea to ask for his snap just so we could talk a little more and find out when we could play together? or should i just leave it to chance when we're both online?