I read an article that mentioned a woman who was worried about getting serious about a divorced man . One person in that article compared a relationship to two people getting stranded in the jungle somewhere . You hope one of them has been in the jungle before and knows which fruits are okay to eat and which snakes are poisonous . This article said there are "been there, done that" benefits of meeting someone who's gone through a divorce and who has the experience of knowing where that marriage went wrong . It said "If you meet someone who's been divorced, there's a lot to learn from that . You can learn from them what works and doesn't work in a relationship and they'll know what they're prepared to commit to or not commit to . That person might say "I was married and I was miserable because I couldn't go out on the weekends and hang out with my pals and watch sports all day Saturday and Sunday .", so you'll know what that person will need in his next relationship . A lot of people who have the same level of experience get married, and they do all right . I've never been married. and I want a romantic partner who has no more experience than I've had . If I married a woman who's been divorced and had a lot more experience than I have, I might resent being "led around by the hand" Is it really that important to have a romantic partner who's had that experience ? Is it a good thing for someone to have more experience than his ( or her ) romantic partner ? Thank you in advance for your answers .

My wife passed away from cancer and her best friend has been a good friend to listen too. At the funeral she helped me clean up and plan the food for after the funeral. I was distressed and she stayed over and slept in the guest room. The funeral was a 14 months ago. I have begun dating the friend and we have a lot of fun together, we cook watch movies hike and just enjoy our company. Should I feel guilty? I have mourned my wife and she told me to move on when I feel ready.

My first marriage didn't even last 1 year. When women hear this they practically run away. I had my circumstances , and maybe third time will be the charm. I haven't given up yet.

My friend had been married for 10 years. Shes been having issues for years. They tried fixing things with no success. She felt like she had to stay due to the kids. Out of love and wishing she could have a way out. The husband at the time filed for divorce. She gladly accepted. The divorce process lasted 4 months. But she had been over the relationship for about 1 year prior. She met a guy during the last couple months of her divorce. She hit it off and claims she is in love. She's telling me she's taking things slow, but imo, she's taking things pretty fast. Shes known this guy since Jr high so he's no stranger. Still, she claims she's in love. And he's someone she's always wanted. Is she wrong? Should I tell her to go slower. To leave him, or to reconsider her feelings. She has brought him around her family and kids already. I'm afraid she's going too fast and putting herself in a vulnerable situation. Also for him and the kids on both sides. Opinions????

did he do it behind your mans back? or right in the open? He catch you? Your man get mad at him or like it?

We haven't been together long

Is it bad to have a sexual fantasy about a married woman in my mind? Does that make me a bad person? Be honest.

"he's so cute". I've heard her make gutteral sounds too on occasion. Do you think she might cheat on me someday?

My ex proposed to me after 3 years. I gave him an ultimatum saying he had to do it by our 3rd year together as he was hesitant to commit. At first, he seemed happy about our engagement. Then he called off the wedding a couple weeks before it was to take place. I saw he got a new girlfriend a year after this happened. About 1.5 years later they were engaged. Even though I am with someone else and happy with him, I cant help but to feel sad about this situation. He clearly felt better and stronger about her more than me. My old friends from the church he and I used to attend together stated to me that she did not give him an ultimatum and that he began planning his proposal a year after they got together, but he didn't do that with me. I guess I feel I wasnt good enough for him, and this new girl must have something I dont, like she is more respectful and a better partner or something.

When I met her she was 20 and she just seemed shy about sex. Me on the other hand, I was not shy about it at all and I took the lead. There came a point though where my wife made the decision that she did NOT want to be a "naughty girl" and she reverted to her special interest of growing up to be a "proper and classy English woman". And as far as she knew from the movies she's watched and the books she's read, proper and classy women did NOT have sex; especially not impure sex like oral or anal or "fun" sex. So she went from easy to influence into sex to extremely prudent about everything sex related. And it's been that way for over 13 years now. She only had sex to get 2 kids; once she got her kids she was done having sex with me (but I can't get it anywhere else so I'm stuck being sexually unsatisfied). Over the last 13 years of me being sexually frustrated, I've asked easily 4,000 questions on here over multiple accounts; most of the questions are all the same though asking how to get my WIFE to be more sexual (romance and dates don't work - the only thing that does is doing all the work in the house for her multiple days in a row so she HAS to feel like she OWES me - so basically guilt is the only way). But clearly this isn't going to work, if it was going to she'd be sexual by now. What do you suggest I do to REDUCE my libido so it can be non-existent like hers? Is there a pill I can take? Therapy doesn't seem to help since, you know, I'm still in love with my wife.

I'm a recently divorced 43 year old single mom (kids are 16 and 15 years). Lately I tried to date around to find a new guy to be with. I have found a guy that I'm very interested in. However, there is a huge age difference. He is 26 years old. I met him because he's one of my neighbors in my apartment complex. We started talking just to be friendly, but then we became really good friends, and now I can tell there's a strong attraction between us. We flirt frequently and there are moments I could cut the sexual tension between us with a knife. There have been a few times I could tell he was trying to "test the waters" to see if I'm interested, but I don't know how to respond. I know he's a lot younger than me, but when I'm around him I don't feel an age difference. He's actually has a masters degree and works at a great job. We have a lot in common and can talk easily with each other for hours. There have been a few times I vented to him about problems I had and I could tell he really cared about what was going on with me. I feel an incredibly strong connection with him. I've been on plenty of dates with guys my age, but I don't feel anything like I feel with him. However,I do recognize there could still be some problems. 1.Even though I don't feel an age difference around him I do worry that there may still be one I'm not sensing right now (17 age difference is a lot).The fact he has a masters degree/good paying job makes me a bit less concerned about this,but (continued) the concern is still there. 2. (Assuming a relationship between us were to work out), when we age I wonder if that may be a problem (when I'm 80 he'll be 63). 3. Kids is an obvious issue. Firstly, he has mentioned he doesn't want any kids, but I am concerned he may change his mind in the future. Secondly, I am worried about how our potential relationship would work with my kids.  At strong level I'd still have to worry about this with someone my age, but the fact that I'd be dating someone only about 10 years older than them may add an extra layer to the problem. 4. I know I shouldn't care what they think , but I am concerned about what my family will think of me dating such a younger guy. Do you think I should try dating him or not? Please explain your reasoning. If you think we should please give advice on how to overcome some potential age difference problems. Thank you!

I was addicted to drinking Alcohol while married. I was making my wife miserable. I was also miserable and was always depressed. My wife moved out and moved in with her parents. Since then, I have changed my life style. I started attending counseling and AA meetings. I found out by a friend that my wife was seen jumping into a car with a male coworker. She denied any claims she knew the guy. I messaged the co-workers wife through facebook asking her if she was aware of my wife and her husband hanging out. She said no but wouldn't be surprised if he did. He had cheated on her a few months before this. She questioned him and admitted to just talking to her secretly through snapchat. My wife finally admitted that she would only message with him and never hung out with him anywhere outside of work. Since then, I have maintained 5 months of sobriety and doing a lot of praying that our marriage would be recovered. She has showed some signs of wanting to make our marriage work. But I started noticing she only hangs out with me whenever she feels like it. She is still living with her family. I asked her if she wants a divorce and she says no, that she can't picture a life without me. But when I call her after work she does not pick up or ignores my calls and doesn't call me back till the next day. She always has an excuse of why she didn't pick up. She accuses me of messaging other girls, but I have never done so. I hate living a life of anxiety, and insecurity.

From 2001 to 2005 I was the king of my castle with my wife and 1st born. I was in control of everything and life was good. In 2005 my wife wasn't happy with the way I was running the place and changed it to be her in charge before our 2nd born was born in 2006. Since then my wife has been in charge of me, the family, the expenses, the checkbook, the things we do, basically everything. But this year, and I'm not even sure when it happened, my wife stopped controlling everything. In fact, she controls nothing (Just herself). She never said I was back in charge though, she's just letting everything go to hell because she's officially overwhelmed with doing everything and she wants to just drop things that are too much for her... I'm not sure what to do anymore. She controlled every facet of my life from 2006 to 2018, that's 12 years of being dominated over and nagged to do whatever she wanted and how she wanted it done. And now, nothing... Trust me, I don't miss it, but I don't know what my options are now that I'm not being controlled. I mean obviously keep up with my hygiene, but the dinners she makes are crap now and I've been putting on weight rapidly for over a year now. I'm also not sure what to do about the 4 kids we have now. 1 kid is 18 so she wants to control herself but the other 3 are under 18 and 2 of them (the boys, go figure) aren't motivated to do anything except play video games... And then there's me, who's used to being told what to do so now I do nothing... This is very much real. Sometimes when someone takes away your freedom you don't know how to act when you're finally free because you've been locked up for so long. That's actually how crate training a dog works too, they don't escape when they are house broken because they are too used to being controlled.

I'm 28 he's 36 just for reference. So I was telling him about one of my customers who's on a wheelchair and he asks is she married I say yes and he's like wow most men wouldn't stay. I said the good ones would plus women can leave in a situation like that too just depends on the person and he starts arguing about how women would stay if the man was paralyzed but almost all men would leave or cheat on her.  He makes a lot of comments like this like telling me most men cheat or most men like younger women once their wives get older just things that make me sad and depressed. If I ever say so you would do this he says "I said most people not me".... why would someone say these things to their wife? Even if some may be true?

My son was diagnosed with PDD-NOS, which is basically diet-asperger's, so he has some extreme social deficiencies when compared to successful peers. I have dedicated all of my last 3 years trying to help him socially but it looks like my wife has spent most of her last 3 years trying to sabotage that for me/him and I don't know how to fix this problem. My son is also learning disabled because of his addictive personality type (autistic special interest obsession). If the class he's in, in high school (he's 17 now) doesn't relate to his current grandiose dream (he wants to be a game designer) then he REFUSES to learn it. So no biology, history, english, home economics, or physical education for him; all he cares about is math, art, and computers. This obviously means he's not going to graduate; which is something is on my wife's radar instead of social needs. She cares far too much about his conformity to society and not enough about his social/emotional/sexual needs. Right now I've been told to "butt out" of his social life because she wants him focusing on his grades, but he texts me on his phone (he has no friends) and wants to talk about his game making ideas instead of do his work. I know if I ignore him he'll just be on the web researching it without my help. And the days he doesn't have his phone he just sleeps (no social interaction or learning things at all). So the question is: since my wife wants us to help him without professional help, what am I supposed to do? Some background information: My wife grew up in a family where mental illness and disabilities were to be hidden and undiagnosed. This is why she herself isn't diagnosed with Asperger's like our son is. She supports his extreme introversion and him being a recluse because that is what SHE would have wanted as a little girl instead of being forced to be social (she was forced to do 4H, youth groups, be on the equestrian team, and show her Dad's horses). So she is reliving her life through him.

Sex isn't everything to me but I'm 21 we have a child and it's very important to me especially spiritually.We seperated this year and she got in a relationship with another guy he gave her an STD she gave me.She got b.c after that...after that short term relationship it just hasn't been the same or better or almost as good in the bedroom.She cooks for me does a good job as a mom and insist it's the b.c if i break the attachment and focus on me I'm scared I won't feel like allowing myself to fall back into this feeling.And inevetibly I myself will want to look outside the relationship.I REALLY can't feel like this now because we have so many years together(my identity with everyone is dad first husband second)shared bills car etc .This with a lack of shared interest and mood swings from both of us just really scares me.She got back with me because an ex wanted me back badly and she missed me and did this "impulsively"not telling me things and telling our coworker those things until you know.

I have been dating this since May of 2018. He was married and I was too. I have gotten a divorce but he hasn't. He told me last year that by the end of summer he was making his wife move out but she's still there along with his 2 boys. His wife has another guy but why is she still staying there? I just broke it off with him a couple of days ago and I told him that we can no longer be together until he gets a divorce. Was I wrong? What do I do?

let's say during my marriage I had bank accounts in China and I bought property in the Amazon Rainforest in Peru and brazil. Let us say that I said nothing about this to my wife and I simply used cash I earned enough to buy the land and build houses. Let's say I had acquired Peruvian Citizenship and got an Alias in Peru. I also bought gold bullion and have that hidden in vaults beneath my house. If i did not say anything about this how would a judge find out about this.

I've been served. I'm wondering if this will be as painful for the one who wanted out as it is for me, who is still in love and still sees possibility. She says she still loves me, but that it is only a friendship now.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. I don't have many close friends and I live far from my native home. She is close to her family geographically and otherwise. But, I need support and love and a shoulder to cry on. I still adore her and am in shock. Even still, I know what I did that caused the problems. Primarily, I didn't listen and I didn't stop whining when I needed to.

She constantly complains about everything, she tells me I dont clean but she doesnt even give me a chance, shes always cleaning something even when it doesnt need to be cleaned. She tells me I dont give her love and affection yet when I try she just tells me Im doing it because she told me to do it. She doesnt put out anymore cuz she claims I dont love her. She claims I dont love our children because I dont "spend any time with them" even though I am constantly playing with them while she just sits on the couch on her phone on facebook. I dont want to divorce or cheat but Im at my end here. Shes like a fkn spoiled child who cant be happy with anything and Im just sick of it. I have been sleeping at my office very chance I get just so I dont have to be around her and her negativity. Is there anything I can do or is she a lost cause?