She is 20. Has no job. Recently broke up with her bf. Sits in her room doing nothing but being on social media and talking to guys online. I don't know what to do with her. I know I don't have to do anything but I'm meaning like how do I get her to realize she needs to stop being a lazy a$$. She complains about being hungry when all she eats is junk and she complains about not being able to gain weight when she only eats junk and barely even 1,000 calories a day. She says there's nothing in the house to eat but then goes and buys junk like Doritos and chocolate and ****. I know she has a lot of self esteem issues but so do I. I'm 26 and talk to her all the time because she comes to me but I don't know what to do anymore for her. When she was younger though I feel my mom babied her with everything(because she is the youngest of the siblings) so it's like she doesn't know how to do anything for herself and she gets mad when she doesn't get her way or when things don't go her way. She's so judgmental of others. She seems to barely even shower or do anything. She gets annoyed about being called immature when it's because she doesn't act her age. Not being called immature by anyone but people who see it. She always claims she wants to be treated like an adult when she doesn't act like one at all.

I am a 13 year old boy. I live with my Mom, Sister, Grandma, and Grandpa (no Dad in the picture) and everyone is driving me crazy. First of all, my Mom and I moved out because her boyfriend was being extremely rude. My sister in her 20's had also moved out because her and her boyfriend had broken up. So we had to move in with my Grandparents. My Mom and I were originally gonna move out over the next 2 weeks, but my Mom says we have to stay for 3 MONTHS. My Mom makes me pick up dog poop after our 3 dogs every single day even when I don't have time for that, and when I need to do my homework. She will also sit there and WATCH me pick up dog poop. Then, she also makes me carry things for her and her excuse is that I need to "use my muscles" just because of my gender (a boy if you forgot). She will also snap at me about small things. Moving along to my Grandpa. My Grandpa is always trying to tell me how to do easy tasks that I know how to do. He always has an opinion about something and is always judging me. He treats my older sister like she is such a queen and treats me like I'm just.. there. Anytime my sister does something wrong, they seem to be okay with it. But when I do something wrong, they go CRAZY. Oh, and I forgot to mention that they always want ME to watch the dogs all the time, and I have to tell them to put them in their cage every single time. Moving to my Grandma. My Grandma can have a big ego and complains about our dogs sometimes. She is usually really nice though but still, she can make me angry. My sister is not really a problem. Me and her do a lot of fun things together, and although she can get on my nerves sometimes, I still care about her a lot. Any advice, tips, or suggestions would be much appreciated.

Let's say someone has a cousin who's in jail, basically the black sheep of the family. But that cousin very far down in the family tree, thus a lot of syllables that are required when explaining how cousin is related through six degrees of separation. If he/she is not your parent, sibling, or grandparent, does it not make sense to be embarrassed. I can somewhat understand if it's a 1st cousin, but father down than that is nothing to be embarrassed about. All families have a black sheep, and if a CEO of his own company has a relative who's his mother's father's sister's grandson who's in jail for murder, should he be embarrassed? When people think of someone as a disgrace to their family, it's only immediate family, i.e. those who will be acknowledged in funeral program. Anyone outside of that is basically just another relative, so whatever they do with their lives should not make non-immediate family embarrassed. Excuse the typo. I meant "But FURTHER down from that...", not "FATHER."

My company was downsizing and they told me I was on the lay off list. I immediately tried to find another job and there are just NO jobs to be found in my city. That would be a disaster for me as I could not pay my rent or car payments. The company told me they had opening that I could fill if I upgraded my computer skills to use their new computer system. The only way I could do that is take the training 60 miles one way away at a cost of $3500. I knew my sister's ex husband Bill was into computers so I decided I had nothing to loose to call him and ask for his advice. He told me he would be happy to give me the training for FREE. I almost fainted. He did give me the training for free, I got the new job at my company at a higher rate of pay than my old job. I told Bill I had to repay him some way for the great help he gave me. He said the only payment he would take is to have dinner with me some time. We did and it was the greatest dinner date I have ever had in my life. My problem is Bill was so nice to me and was such a nice person that I think I am developing feelings for him. I just could not help it. I know I can not act on these feeling (or can I)? I think Bill and my sister had a friendly divorce and they have both moved on with their lives. I don't want to damage my relationship with my sister but this is tearing me up. ALL ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

this might not seem like a big deal, but it is to me. i live in a family of four. both of my parents have good jobs, my sister and i are in sports and advanced classes, and we are christians. i'd say we are a typical american family. my parents don't ever fight, we've never had any family issues or anything like that. today i was going on my dad's ipad to print out a shipping label and i looked up po (for poshmark) and the first thing that popped up in the recently visited was pornhub. i checked his history and sure enough he had been on multiple porn sites, nude chat sites, other chat sites, and been watching everything from lesbian sex to anal. it freaked me out and i started crying. the dad i knew was loving, kind, and caring. he had been doing this every day. i'm really not sure of what to do. if you're going to comment and tell me to mind my own business and let him do what he wants- please don't. i have a feeling something like this could really put our family in jeopardy. edit: i KNOW that it was none of my business, okay? there is nothing i can do about it now. i am just looking for help.

Yesterday my mom took me to take a test that for work. On the way there she started making political comments which she already knows i disagree with. I asked her 'lets agree to disagree and not talk about politics'. Minutes later she continues making the same comments. I ask her again to stop cause i want to stay calm for the test. She continued making comments. I decide to ignore it cause i saw she wasn't going to be reasonable.  After the test she picks me up and i ask her casually why she kept making those comments earlier knowing i asked her to stop and that i dont care to hear them. Then she flies into an angry rage making herself the victim and saying I'm all these bad things. Long story short that was 2 days ago and she has been nasty and in a rage yelling her head off at me even though ive been comletely silent since then and even hiden in my room to avoid her (she still yells at my door calling me out my name with the nastiest things she can think of - this is typical of her btw)... So this morning we went to buy groceries and the attendant was helping us to the car and he made a lighthearted? Comment to her about me, guess he was trying to be funny (dont think it was malicious or anything) and she starts telling ('joking') to him that i steal her food and money and says i have an attitude and he said soemthing back i couldnt hear with my headphones on and she said 'when do they stop?' (Im a woman in my 20s btw) so she seemed to be referring to me like im a toddler in a tantrum. I was silent the whole time yet again. He didnt seem to stand up for me or stay neutral... I dont get why a complete stranger would basically go along with trash talk my mom was saying to hm about me? I was literally minding my own business and helping with the groceries and they gossipped about me. A total stranger! 

Blake Shelton did a party on the plaza in our small town. My girlfriend got free tickets. She really wanted to go. I don't like how loud concerts are and figured there would be too many people there and I would not be able to hear anything so I decided not to go. I told her she was not allowed to go either , but she ended up persuading me into dropping her off. He had a meet and greet afterwards at my favorite bar. Now I wish I would have went. She sat in the back with her sister instead of front with me. I slammed the car seat into her legs several times and kind of hurt her knees. We had the worst fight about it. She was really mad I sad she deserved it for sitting the wrong seat. She spent 12 dollars that we don't have on Halloween decorations. I hate Halloween feel that it is a satanic holiday. I demanded they be taken down or will destroy them. She says that better not happen because she lets me have my stuff up. She looked scary when she said it. I want this to work but I am not used to woman that disobey me and do there own thing no matter how much I protest. I have told her she is too strong willed a woman which will put people off and she just laughs.

Long story short, I'm a grad student and have one more year until I move out of my parents house. The thing that i am struggling with for quite sometime is the following : There was an incident that happened where my brother was being molested/fondled and the child molester (who was my cousin) was caught by my mom ( This was 13 years ago). After this happened, we moved away. The problem I have is that that child molester still lives in that city, but I want to live in that city(I lived there for half of my life and which i could go back ), but I am afraid if I live in that city, I will run into my cousin and it will be extremely awkward? What do you think I should do? Should I move there regardless? ( I haven't talked to this cousin since then, but I know he lives there because my aunt told me he does.) PS...If I see my cousin in person, how do i handle that situation?

My son has a adult step brother that was living with his other brother on and off for several years. He was homeless and the other brother took him in and helped him get a job. Once the adult step brother found another place to stay, he vanishes into thin air. No calls, no reason why he left, nothing. Unfortunately, every time things didn't work living somewhere else, the adult stepbrother pops back into the other brothers life and gives him a sob story and the other brother takes him back under his wing. Well, last week the other brother refused to let him back in after ANOTHER disappearing act he did 2 months ago. Now the adult step brother trying to call me for help, but I refused to answer. I texted him and told him to get in contact with his dad ( My sons Father) and ask if him and his stepmom could help. I told him I can't have him living at my home. My son says he never calls him or talks to him. He never calls me either, until the other day for the first time. I also gave the adult step brother info to shelters that will help him transition to work and residence of his own. Am I being wrong for not letting him stay with me ?

My parents start yelling or insulting each other or me almost every day about small things, I feel bad when I compare my family to others because they seem more happier.

or when my dad passes away i'm gonna feel the same regret and nothing will get better ? pardon my English . i just wanna know if my life would get any better ?

do you think i can move somewhere else with dignity . or do things get even worse when your dad dies ? pardon my crudeness

She used to insult my step-father's family for covering up for their father who died from alcoholism eventually and she still insults them for this. Yet she is covering up for her alcoholic brother just the same. It's like she thinks it's OK when it's her family. She covered up the same when my brother was in jail for two years. So since she is obviously a hypocrite, is she also enabling her brother's alcoholism by covering up and getting me to?

I can come home from working a 16 hour shift, take off my work boots so I can rest my blistered and sometimes bloody feet and just try to relax for a minute before my mother comes in and says that I have to go to the store...that's literally right across the street. So I tell her I need a minute I just sat down, then she starts this tirade of "when I was your age I was working 20 hours shifts, taking care of 2 kids, cleaning the house, cooking 3 meals a day...etc etc and you can't even handle one job". She makes me feel like I'm supposed to be superhuman just to meet her expectations. She gets mad that I don't have a car and I tell her I can't afford one, I live paycheck to paycheck and she comes at me with "when I was your age I worked 4 full time jobs and had 2 cars" it's like she always has to outdo me, whatever I do she did it more/better. One time she wanted me to go to the laundromat and do all the laundry at 10:00 at night knowing I get up at 3am to go to work, I tell her no I need to get sleep, then it's "when I was your age I did everything that had to be done and I had to get up at 2am" like wtf I just want to live without being compared to her from 40 years ago.

I am 21 (F). I live in other country alone. I study and work. Whenever I go back home. I get weird anxiety. I can't sleep at night. I get millions of thoughts running in my mind making me restless. I love my parents a lot. I love my younger brother like he is very young. He is always so happy to see me and waits for me to come. Now the problem is they all love me so much, my parents can do anything for me. My dad always say not to go and live with them. I am doing this for a better future. This is what my parents want too. But when they get emotional they ask me to stay. At night, I usually think what will I do if God forbid I lose them. I will probably go crazy. This thought never let me sleep. Please suggest how should I enjoy the present and forget about future. Ps: I am single if it has to do anything.

I am 23 f still living at home. Yes, I know I should be out of the house by now. No, I don't have the option right now otherwise I'd be long gone. My mother goes through phases of picking me apart every chance she gets. We will be fine for a week and then all of a sudden she switches from being nice to suddenly really angry and hammers me with one thing after the other. "You are so annoying when you sniff and kiss the dogs while I'm watching TV, go to your room." Then later "you're in your room all the time like a hermit and you don't help out at all around the house, come be around the family!" Then starts going on about my credit card bill and how I need to stop buying snacks for work and just take snacks from the house. But then it's "why did you take poptarts and hide them in a frying pan in the cupboard?" I tell her it's because my brothers eat everything so fast I wanted to save some to bring to work. She takes them and puts them back in the box and tells me to buy my own food. Finally I lose my cool and we fight, and she throws a tantrum and is so mean and nasty, then leaves and I call her a c**t really loud bc I thought I was alone. My brother who hates me (16 y) heard it from his room and immediately runs outside and tells my mom I called her a bad word. He does it constantly, anything he can possibly get me in trouble for he does. And she hugs him and thanks him for telling her and then yells at me and he sits and watches, smiling and giggling like a little sh*t. Anyway, she does this all the time. My brother stays in his room all the time (he is an angry and depressed person) but the second he hears my mom and I fighting he comes out and listens and smiles and tries to kiss up to her. He's hated me for about 10 years now and constantly tells me to kill myself and stuff, but as soon as I do ANYTHING he can possibly get me in trouble for, he runs and tells my mom immediately. She rewards him by yelling at me and starting a big fight so I cry... ...And smirks and I can tell he LOVES it. He loves feeling like my mom and I hate each other and he's the perfect child. I have two other siblings and never have this issue. This one brother is a horrible person and is nasty, selfish, egotistical and judgmental. He looks down on gay/trans people, certain races, people with disabilities, homeless/poor people, or anyone that doesn't fit into his perfect little catholic jock box. I hate him, and I feel like my mom feeds into our feuding... I don't think she wants us to get along because then she wouldn't be able to have me sympathize with her when she's mad at him, and vice versa. She likes having him to talk sht about me with. She tells him bad untrue things about me and as I said earlier, rewards his tattling. Is this situation normal? What is the proper way for a parent to respond to a child who tattles? Technically the one being tattled on did do something wrong, but is it wrong to reward the tattler?

- walked around saying how he hopes his brother in law and sister in law die in their new house in a fire - preaching his political views of how great he thinks the president is when he knows me and my mother oppose his views, so just to start an argument. - mutters swear words towards me and my mother under his breath - insisting we move to another state when he retires soon - looks up pictures of naked woman most of the day on his phone - refuses to apologize ever