My sister was watching a show about 9/11 she watched a scene from the episode where a woman watched her husband probably die. She said her boyfriend hasn't called her yet he usually does when he gets home from work she's worried she's freaking out and crying. She said hes never called this late normally he calls her anytime between 3 and 4. I told her he probably had to go to the store or a meeting somewhere. He doesn't have a cell phone so she can't text him. He's a nice guy he would not cheat on her he keeps telling her over and over he wouldn't. They been together 6 months. Shes still getting use to having a boyfriend this is the first long relationship shes been in with knowing about it. How can I calm her down ?

Hi So my baby father of my 4 month old baby has been lying for months like his other kids mother knew about my baby he has acted as if he has spoken of it with her but I found out today he hasn't said it out his mouth but their kids had to tell her and I felt hurt as if he was hiding my kid from her even tho he post him on his social media and his family knew but he didn't straight out tell her he said he felt he didn't have to as long as his kids knew..I don't know what to say about this any advice?

No one cares about me.

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. His parents left Madrid (here) for London to work in a wine company, when he was 18 and his brother was 6. Since then, he had his aunt (his mother's sister) to look after his brother and do the house chores and he could comfortably study and get part-time jobs. But his aunt died of lung cancer six months ago. I'm his neighbour and I help him with the chores of the house, but I need to go to the university and get to work, so I'm not always there to help him. His brother is a real brat. He's rude to everyone and he behaves violently towards my boyfriend. He once threw a dish to him and he threw away the ring my boyfriend wanted to give me on my birthday. He only wants to torture us. My boyfriend has cried many times because he feels overwhelmed. His brother has escaped from school many times and at school he once threatened a girl with a knife. He's been in juvenile prison for 2 months, but nothing changes him. My boyfriend is a French teacher and whenever he gets to work, he asks me to watch his brother, but I'm not always there to help him and I'm literally afraid of his brother. He has threatened us both that one day, he'll put the whole house on fire.

My step-son, wife's son from a previous marriage, has a 3 year old daughter with a girl. We get her every other weekend because daddy still lives with us. We love her to death and would give her the world if she asked for it. Well, the relationship between dad and mom isn't the best but she seems very cool with us. Several months ago the baby had to get glasses to correct a lazy eye. That seems to be helping. However, every time we pick her up she's broken the hinge on the glasses and we're having to take them to get fixed. The glasses appear to be those cheap welfare glasses. The lenses are thick and there's not style to them at all. Granted, the baby doesn't care about style but we're tired of fixing them. They lenses are all scratched up too. We've asked the mom can we put her on our insurance so we can get her a nice second pair but she won't let us. Again, we had to get them fixed and Walmart has a special on glasses right now. I asked her if we could at least get her prescription so we can get a second pair made. The baby is now into colors and she wants a purple pair of glasses. Friday night mom said she would get me us the prescription but she still hasn't given it to us. I hope she doesn't think we're trying to overstep our bounds but we just want to get our grandbaby a nice(er) pair of glasses. How do you help someone who obviously doesn't want to be helped?

They wouldn't let me talk to my sister-in-law because it would make my mom sad. My mom was abusive to my son and they made sure she got visitation. During the CPS meetings my mom made sure she took up a lot of time talking about herself and what she did when no one cared. I mean the only people that cared what my mom was up to were the mental health workers and I was punished because of it.

My brother doesn't want to talk to my mom because my mom was mean to him.

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece, my sister' daughter Pam. I like Pam and think she is a very nice person. Pam ask me to take her to a high school function and I said OK if it was OK with her mother and she understood IT WAS NOT A DATE. Her mom was OK with it and Pam said she knew it was not a date. It was just friends having fun. Pam ask me to do this 3 more times. We all had fun doing this but nothing romantic happened as I would not do ANYTHING romantic with a 15 year old girl especially my niece. However Pam's mother ask me to stop taking Pam anyplace. I told her OK but I ask why? She told me I was so nice to Pam the she would develop a crush on me. I don't think she would but just to be on the safe side I agreed not to take Pam anyplace in the future. It looks like Pam's mother did not tell her she ask me to stop taking Pam places because Pam called again asking me to take her to another school function. When I told her I could no longer do that she was very mad a her mother and ask me to talk to her mother and explain that it was just friends having fun together NOT ROMANTIC. I am not sure I should talk to her mother about that. Should I?

When I was 7 years old lighting hit a tree next to my house and it fell in my bedroom. It took the fire department 2 hours to get me out from under that tree branch. I spent several days in the hospital recovering from my wounds. Ever since then I have been terrified of lighting and thunder. When I heard thunder, I would go to my much older brother's bedroom and crawl in bed with him where I felt safe and secure. When the thunder stopped, I would go back to my own bed. My brother told me that since I am now developed (what ever that means) I can not get in bed with him anymore. He says we could get in trouble if I got in bed with him now. He will set up a cot in his bedroom that I can use when I want to from now on. I will do as he wishes as he is the greatest brother any girl could have. Please tell me that what I have been doing all these years was not wrong. The VERY LAST thing I want to do is cause my brother a problem.

The judge ruled we have to live there and not with my grandma where we were happy. It is like the seventh circle of hell. My mom takes his side every ******* time. He yells constantly that we don't clean and do enough so we clean the house and screams in our face for not cleaning correctly .He literally unfolds the laundry and remesses up the area we just cleaned and recleans it yelling and screaming the whole time. He asks questions like hundreds of times and if we don't answer it every time he screams . When we do answer it he starts screaming is ha! that is not what I said before I caught you in lie. Or says you aren't giving me the right answer. He unlocks our door and just kicks it in to yell at us.what do we there is like no peace? He refuses to leave us alone. I try not to yell , but Thinking of running away. he also keeps screaming we stole his credit cards and other various items like sunglasses. The fights are constant and it feels like of he has to have so many fights a day or his day is not complete. the items always sitting next to him on the couch or in a weird place like the fridge. we have like less than one year left but we can't do it.

I try to help out this lady who lives down the street by picking veggies from her garden for her. I just want to lighten her load and take them home so she does not have to deal with them. But every-time I do it she threatens to call the police. Why is that?

Hi. What do I do when I've asked my sister to clean up after herself and she does not? She doesn't clean the bathroom after herself.

I Don't live with him 

I was going to put out the trash in the front for the trash truck and i dropped my wallet in the trash while i was going but i thought it was something else so i didn't notice now i realised it was my wallet what do i do it had all my money and credit cards and debit and ID and everything. the trash truck came by now

when i was 15-17 i did some stupid things such as smoke weed, sneak out to bad neighborhoods to hang with friends, lie about going to school then now i'm 18 and i've been doing very well and graduated and i don't lie to my dad and i don't sneak out but last night around 9pm my friend was being abused at her home in the city and was feeling very badly and needed someone to get her (54 mins from my house) and i lied to my dad and said i was going somewhere else but instead i went to the city and got her and didn't get home till 12 and now she's secretly in my room until her bf and mom comes and gets her and i feel guilty for lying and taking the car and idk why i feel so guilty it's not as bad as things i've done before. i think i did the right thing helping my friend or did i not?

I've just been offered my first full time job after leaving college. I'll make around £250 a week and my mum is asking for £100 of it a week. I'm more than happy to pay my mother rent but I feel like half of my wages isn't reasonable, it is not as if we are going through any financial issues or whatnot. The job that I've been offered is quite strenuous mentally and physically and requires I'm on my feet all day, it feels like a shame to work so hard to just hand over half my wages. It's disheartening. I'm more than happy paying rent/board whatever you'd like it to be called but my mother never had to pay that much rent, her friends children don't, my friends don't, our family don't. We also live in a one bedroom flat so it's not as if I'm paying for the luxury of my own room. As well as that my mum also knows I've been trying since I was 16 (and my mother told me she would not buy me driving lessons for my 17th birthday) to save up for driving lessons and a car. The highest I ever made it was £1,300 but now I'm back at £580 due to all the things my mother already gets me to pay for. It feels like I'll never be able to save any money with only £100 a week because of course I must spend that on other things. How much would you say is reasonable out of £250 a week?

I took over my sister's lease because her boyfriend bought a house. The lease is under her boyfriend, my sister and her daughter. Her daughter had moved out because she couldn't afford to pay rent which is the reason why I ended up moving in. My sister's daughter ended up moving in with her dad but apparently he is moving out and doesn't want her to come along so he wants her to find her own place. My sister still calls my place her place because she's under the lease which I think is not right and she won't give me back the house key. And she is now forcing me to take her daughter in because of the fact that she is under their lease. I think its disrespectful that she did not bother to at least ask me or talk to me about it. I know that the pros of letting her move in is that I will pay less rent. I am so bothered and so heated that I want to say no to her. My sister keeps threatening me that she can cancel the lease if you wanted to. What should I do?

I'm 15 and my sister is 10. My mom thinks she's more important than anything in the world and loses her **** when someone says something even remotely negative regarding her. But when my brother or my sister say mean things to me or even when my sister said "go kill yourself everyone ******* wants you to" (and yes she said that as a 10 year old) my mom didn't do ****. She just acted annoyed and lazily told my sister to not say things like that in the future. Every time my sister does something crazy or tries to hurt me or insult me my mom defends her by saying that "she was defending herself from you". My mom also calls me a "spoiled brat" and "horrible sister" even though my sister is the one that is constantly on my tail? And also she's the one that gets whatever she wants most of the things I have either my dads bought me or I've bought with my own money. Ugh this isn't even a question sorry for posting this I just wanted to vent. I'm actually crying while writing this. Why do mothers always love the youngest child the most? My mom says she loves me the same as my sister but it's soooo not true. Anyone with eyes could clearly see that in her eyes I mean barely nothing compared to my sister. It's been that way my whole life and I just want a mother who loves me and acts like she cares. I try so hard to be better than my sister. I get straight As. I dress nice. I've been accepted into this art program in Paris and my mom didn't even care about that.

My sister is a stay at home mom with two kids (4 and 2 yrs old). I visit her every few weeks or so to see my niece and nephew plus help out when my mother or the mother's helper is not around. Despite this, she considers it not enough and has called me a bad aunt because she thinks I see my boyfriend too much when I should be helping with the kids. She came to visit at my mother's recently (where I and my other siblings live) she caused such a commotion that the tenants called the cops. Her 4 yr old son did not want to eat the food that my mother cooked for him, so she wanted my little brother to drive with my mother to get him pizza instead. My little brother was in the middle of making his dinner, so he said "sure, as soon as i'm done" That's when she burst: "I can't believe you want to feed yourself first before the kids eat!" More arguing ensued, it got so loud that the tenants called the cops. She also accused me of endangering her son's life because I was tanning on the roof and he wandered up to the 2nd floor and attempted to climb the ladder to the open roof door. How do I deal with this? She has ignored my last text messages where I told her that I love the kids and don't want to fight anymore. Also, when I visit the her and the kids I spend my entire day there helping (not just a couple of hours)

Ive been with my wife for over six years, putting me in my step daughters life for nearly half of it. And I've noticed her real father and his family are passively arrogant. They act as if they are better than everyone by means of guilt and over embellishment. What should I do?

Best answer to whoever has a story worse than mine. So, I was 15, almost 16-years-old and this happened 4 years ago. I was taking a shower one morning before hanging out with my friends, and since I woke up earlier than I needed to, I decided to masturbate in the shower. I had a dildo that stuck to the shower wall and I'd just use it in there. Sometime during all of this, I lost my balance in the shower and twisted my leg breaking it. On my way down, I also managed to bang my head on the side of the tub which left a shallow gash on my forehead. I couldn't get up because of the pain from my leg and I ended up getting a concussion. My brother who was waiting to use the shower, heard the loud noise and knocked on the door asking if I was okay. I was disoriented af, so he came in and called for my parents. My mom was out, but my dad was home and came to see what happened. He called 911. When the EMTs came, my other siblings (I have 3 other brothers) heard the commotion and woke up panicked. Originally, I was embarrassed about my dad and brother seeing me naked, but once I came home from the hospital, I realized that they ALL saw the dildo attached to the wall and knew what I was doing in the shower :/ I found the dildo wrapped up on my bed and I have no idea who put it there, I just like to believe that it was my mom. But yeah this is the most embarrassing thing to ever happen to me, no one ever talks about it tho but I know they didn't forget ugh

I know kids experience parents divorcing often and maybe a close aunt or uncle or once they are older siblings and cousins divorcing. However, grandparents divorcing, is this very unusual? I am sure it happens but in the typical school of 100 kids is it the kind of thing 1 only might experience? Or is it just as normal as Mom and Dad splitting when a kid is young? This couple has 3 kids and five grandkids as two of their kids are married themselves.

I always hear that women complain they are victims to stay thin, but dont men have pressure to have muscles?

I'm a 13 yo girl and desperately want a beeper/pager but my mother says I'm too young. How do I convince her to get me one or I will damage her stupid car?

I've known my sister since we we're kids. She is my rock and I am hers. We have been through hell growing up. I am now 36yrs old and have been in a relationship for 10 years now. My sister can be a strong headed, 2rd gen feminist and very opinionated when it comes to men. My boyfriend can be unfiltered potty mouth, sometimes not willing to compromise traditionalist, with a dash of centralism. I love them both, despite their differences. But, their differences of opinion and snide remarks put them at standing odds at times. My sister moved in 2 months ago because she had nowhere else live. She's had it rough the past couple of years and doesn't know anyone but me. Since she's been here, my boyfriend feels like he has to walk on eggshells because of the whole pc culture that's happening and that they've been in quite a few arguments since she showed up. She's also walking on eggshells because she's afraid that one wrong move and she's kicked out. He'll say sarcastic jokes and she'll over think them and get offended by what he said. I can get his dark sense of humor, but even a little joke can set her off. I'm left with trying to defend her by getting angry at him and then later I'll try to play peace maker with the both of them. My boyfriend told me that she's ruining our relationship because we're barely intimate. It's getting tiring and mentally draining to keep both sides happy, without them being angry at me or each other. I just wish I knew what to say or do.

Ok so my family went and picked up dinner and didn't get me anything and got mad at me because I was upset. They said that they shouldn't have to cater to me and it's not there resonsiblty to check in with me if I want would have wanted something. I'm find with getting my own food if I'm so much of a burden and it's not that they didn't cater to me it's that they didn't even consider me, is it really that hard to send a quick text and ask me what I wanted or at least tell me they didn't want to buy me food and to get my own so I didn't have to drive all the way home after school and then leave again to get something. Someone tell me I'm not crazy because the whole thing made me really upset.

So I was laying in bed with our 6 yr old and my husband was outside. He came in , wanting to try to change the channel and he got mad that I said no..I was going to put her to bed within 15 mins anyways, but he just got mad at told her no ,.I'm changing the channel..so she took the remote and put it behind the bed, basically fell on the floor, and he got angry and yelled. I think he is overreacting. So I just left the room and put her to bed.