I got a call from my friend Alice who wanted to meet me for lunch. She had a problem she wanted my advice on. At lunch, she told me her son in law (her daughter's husband) wanted her to loan him some money. She had already made him 3 loans and he had not paid any of those 3 loans back. She wanted to know if she should make him a 4th loan. I told her this is a VERY TOUGH situation. She should probably consider the 3 pervious loans as gifts as the odds are VERY LOW they will be paid back. I told her I think the best approach would be to tell him that after he paid back the previous loans, she would consider making him a new loan. I told her to be prepared from a bad reaction from him and also possibly from her daughter. If there are grand children involved, be prepared to hear you will not see your grand children again. I told Alice to think very carefully what she wanted to do. I predict if she made another loan, there will be a request for a 5th loan in the future. I hope I gave her good advice. Do you think I did?

My friend and I are both moms now. We met a decade ago and were close friends for awhile. The last several years since she got married our friendship has dwindled. She's still friendly through text messages. She sends me pics of her kids and checks into to see how I'm doing from time to time but never in the last several years made an attempt to come visit me. I only live 45 minutes away from her. It's always been me coming to see her. always. I got tired of it so I stopped going to visit her. I adopted some children and she did nothing to celebrate with me. she hasn't even asked to meet my kids in three years. a part of me wants to have space from the situation and let the friendship go. or am making a big deal out of nothing? it just seems dumb to text for several years when we live so close and could have spent a lot of time together. she's just so focused on her own life I guess I feel bad because I have no family in the state I live. I don't know a lot of people. I have a few friends, who did nothing when I adopted my kids. no big deal to anyone, nobody cares at all. I always was there for her to meet her kids etc

We haven't spoken since the ending of 5th grade (she's 20 by now). She got permanently expelled from our school for serious things. Things I started doing when hanging out with her, another friend and her two older cousins: - Skipping school - Egging houses and a car - Playing pranks on our neighbors - Shoplifting small items, etc. It seemed to be just regular pasttimes but one day she told me she was bored. She kept insisting about getting a kindergarten kid lost. I found that weird but didn't want to upset her. I followed through. So we lied to the kid about his parents waiting for him at the fair. The plan was just to get him lost and leave. However my friend started insulting him, hitting him several times and pulling his hair. The kid started crying eventually. Then my friend repeatedly told me to slap him hard. I slapped him once but felt bad afterwards and apologized. Needless to say I felt bad and against her will, took him back to his family. She still got upset with me. Was my friend weird? What did she wanted to do? My friend kept laughing when she was hitting him and the kid was crying. I couldn't understand what was so funny about that.

Me and my best friend are extremely close and I can hardly have her at the house because my mom hates her. She didn't do anything specifically wrong to my mom, my mom doesn't like her just because she is loud. My dad doesn't care for her either but puts up with her. My mom is straight up rude to her, and this is a big conflict between me and my mom. We often argue about my hanging out with her, but I'm not going to stop seeing her. Who ends a friendship because their parents don't approve? My mom threatened to bad me from seeing her once; I would just sneak out to see her anyway, my mom couldn't stop me. I'm curious if anyones had a similar experience and what they did to solve it

Alright so every time someone would get bullied and would start a fight the students around would gather and start smiling and flaming the fight even more by cheering it,Ive always been the one to always leave the circle of spectators because it never felt right to me and in some cases I heard of a bully in my school who actually opened another kid's belly using a knife and his group of friends was cheering him up for it,I wanna know am I just too naive maybe because I had a similar moment of fights before except I'm the one who was being bullied?

I had that friend, she was fine and everything...but today she acted so rude,she texted me in a rude way..then later I saw that post on fb with her birthday pics and thanking her friends about the surprise party.. I helped her to pass two exams in row!.But now she's thankful for the money and her friends presents and the huge cake. It's not the first time it happens.everyone just stops being friends with me because I can't afford going to a party and buy presents or go shopping and whatever. I'm so unlikable! I've never gad a real friend without the Money,parties,presents and everything is related to money stuff.. Why! I know it's pathetic,but Who cares

So my both my parent know about what happend this time because it was my fault I send it out wrong person i send by mistake opps to my dad i believe his ex girlfriend who dated in high school anyways back on track, sorry it along message, but I WANT TO KNOW IF THIS PART OF JEALOUSY ever since 2012 Do you have an old friend you hate from growing up and you knew her since 6th grade or they hate you for some reason just only is reason you annoyed them on facebook now? i have this one an old friend some reason who hate me for no reason and i dont know if because phone calls she had made back i was 8th grade one time I was at camp or hangout with a friend i was best friends with, but she kept calling me while i was at camp most the time and she never got the hint so my sister and my mom told her super nice away that i am going busy and away for the Summer at camp for hole month of July anyways 15 year later i moved and she arguement where she told me she will call cops if i dont stop and she said this to her ex because her boyfriend at time had a big fight and slap her in face and i dont think her family and friend know but me by the ex boyfriend i knew him in 8th grade for year before I moved now she with a scum bag new boyfriend i think she drinks and smoke round her so then i made a fake account to find out all see said i was annoying!!! and i went on her timeline she had go church for having depression and anxiety switch i didnt know about because we were'nt friends and her ex boyfriend told me and i dont know if i should tell my sister and that why she might take her anger me? i dont think she read it right and both my sister i think she have a bipolar, I grew up with a small class with all different kinds of learning disabilities ALL I WANT TO KNOW IF THIS JEALOUSY and fight happend between her and her ex in december 2013, and we kept fighting everytime i tried to say sorry to her till two weeks go till she said ill call cops so i blocked her this time so she wont see anything on my instagram and AND I KNOW TO MOVE ON ALL I AM ASKING A QUESTION DO YOU THINK TOXIC AND JEALOUSY Thing? all i do go race called utv it goes Baja Arizona Vegas, then I use to fly airplane with my grandpa around neighborhood before he had get rid of it and now i go on hikes with a friend whenever she come out visit my sister from Calif and side my photography and all she does sing at bar with a friend and tell her problem to my two metual friends about us and i think she switch things

I've always been afraid of everybody and everything. I can't be around new people unless I know they won't hurt me.

My friend and I applied for the same internship and I got it. She has been mad and is avoiding me. I thought she was just jealous and I gave her some time to calm down. Two weeks later I tried reaching out and she was cool about everything. I thought everything was fine until she mentioned the fact that I got the internship because I am Asian and she is Caucasian. Her references were better and her personalty was nicer according to her so in her head the only way I win is by being a minority. I wanted to end this friendship but I have a tendency to overreact. Am I making to much of this?

My problem started when I invited some of my high school friends for a sleep over at my house. These girls bonded with my mom who is a doctor mostly because they could ask her questions about their body and mostly about their reproductive system. Mom gave them correct information and corrected MANY errors in their thinking about their bodies. This info really opened their eyes and hopefully made for less teenage pregnancies. These girls told their friends about the sleep over and several other girls ask if I would have another sleep over and invite them. I did this and had the same result. They all wanted to talk to my mom about their bodies. I did this 4 times. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I feel a little bit unusual about sharing my mom with these girls. Mom is always available to answer their questions as she has seen the tragic consequences of bad information on teen girls lives. Should I be proud that my mom is available to give these girls the facts of life. Why is it they feel so free to talk to my mom with their questions and will not talk to their parents.

I feel like me and my friends have drifted...they all act so cruel to me. They step on the backs of my shoes, exclude me from class group chats and just in general and call me annoying. It makes me so sad, and I want to change my loudness and my ability to overdo jokes and act overly nice to people, but I can't. It's so hard. I feel so hated and unwanted

There are people that I went to high school with that already have 2-3 kids and they try to be annoying And make comments about people having children at age 35. They say stuff like "when you're 35 and changing diapers, I will be 35 with grown-*** kids." ok good for them. Some people decided to get a college degree instead. I live in hell (aka Alabama). Should I be embarrassed that I don't have kids?

"Do my messages offend you in any way, if so I am sorry for writing you these messages, I did not mean any harm or disrespect while sending you these messages, you're a really nice person and the last thing I want to do is hurt you & disrespect you."

I've been at college for 3 weeks and barely have any friends. I've gone to club meetings, football games and other activities but I just feel like I haven't clicked with anyone yet. I know its still early but my roommate already has a group with a few people she went to high school with. I tag along with them sometimes but usually only to party because I don't feel like I fit in that group really well. I have people I talk to in class and what not, but I don't have anyone to ask to lunch or just to hang out with. It's weird because back home I had a ton of friends but never had any problem doing things on my own but now I do. Any tips or words of comfort?

I have 1 good and 3 normal friends there, the rest are aquantainces or strangers, I just started High school with a new class and my best friends are all in a different school, and Idk what to do, because I feel so outside, most of them went to the same school and know each other, they are really obsessed with drinking and sex and I feel so different and outside, I feel like nobody likes me and that Im just disturbing People if I join in or try to join them when I dont really know them. Any tips? (I also have a really low self confidence so that doesnt work too well lol)

which hobbies? basketball? playing an instrument?

I am a 27 year old female and I was talking to my friend on the phone on Tuesday and I told her that I was having a thought that has been bothering me and she asked what it was and I told her that I couldn't tell her and so she said you're going to give up on me. Why would she say that? I have told her before that I am not going anywhere and she has told me the same thing

I am a 27 year old female and I was talking to my friend on the phone on Tuesday and I told her that I have thought of something but I told her that I couldn't tell her what it is and she said you're going to give up on me and I told her that I wouldn't do why would she say that? Because I have told her in the past that i'm not going anywhere either just like she has told me she's not

My roommate has been super sick for the past few days, it started last weekend and has been getting worst. Mainly he's been throwing up, since early monday, violently. Like projectile vomiting. Even though he hasnt been able to keep anything down he vomits this yellowish green stuff that looks like mountain dew. He's tried taking stuff to help the throwing up but he vomits everything up immediately, even water. Now, he says aside from the vomiting, he's fine waiting it out. But idk if he should, he feels clammy and kinda feverish. And skipped classes for the last 2 days.

We have been buddies since elementary school. We are really close, and we have been like brothers all these years. His family are Muslims and he lives with his super religious father. Last week, his father caught him while he was looking at porn and he became furious. My friend is literally grounded from everything due to this and he can't leave the house for any reason expect school. He seems desperate and I can't stand seeing him like this, so I think that I have to do something. I mean We are 14 and I think is completely normal for a teen boys watching porn in that age. I am going to his house this Sunday so we could do an assignment,do you think I should talk to his father? Or is there anything else I can do?

I've always been friendly to any person that I approach. I would describe myself as a fun people person, yet I still keep my guard up depending on who it is. I had this one roomate that I was once friends with that at the time I didn't think what was happening was an issue until I had a moment to myself. She was two years younger than me, and when I was able to legally go out to bars and hangouts she would sarcastically say 'oh good for everyone that's 21' and told me one time when she wanted to hang out with me that 'maybe I you should stop going to bars'. I always invited her to parties, I would always make sure to include her in events. My other roomate af the time that I knew since high school that barely knew much about her had to deal with her not cleaning up after herself, hearing her having loud sex, and being late with bills. Yet she would always do yo come at me when I made one mistake. I clearly don't live with her now, but it made me realize that she was one of many people that made me feel guilty about knowing a lot of people and enjoying my time. I've just always felt like people always made me feel bad about knowing a certain amount of people, and it just makes me question myself as a person.

In my school soccer team there are student leaders. They don't have much power, just to make sure everyone knows what to do, has what they need, etc. They do not have a lot of authority AT ALL. One guy is very annoying, he is a senior and he isn't very good. He is a student leader and is very bossy and very very rude to younger players. He gives off a vibe that says "no one here knows what they're doing, it's so annoying that I have to explain everything" even though he is not important or needed. All of his friends are exactly the same way. He doesn't get on me specifically but it's very hard to watch how he treats other people. It's also very annoying to be around him because he thinks he has a lot of power. He takes it all too seriously. I've been able to ignore him, but I don't know how much longer I can do that. What should I do?

Me and my friend were walking into the canteen for lunch and I saw this girl sat with her friends from the corner of my eye and my friend told me that one of the girls friend nodded to her friend that I was there. Me and my friend pretended we didn't see that happened. Then when we were walking back, she looked at me and raised her eyebrows to say hi to me but without verbally saying it so I smiled back. It was really awkward.

My closest friend (wouldn't call her a best friend because we're not overly close) is addicted to ice. When I met her about a year ago she was sober for a year, but has recently relapsed. When she first relapsed she said it's okay I'm getting off it, ill be sober again and I thought she meant it because of how sad she was. Little did I know she's still been smoking it and it's been weeks now. I've just found out she offered everyone in the group when they were over, to smoke it and they all said yes (including her little brother). Me and my boyfriend are so angry that they did ice. One of them stayed there for 3 days, and the other took 1 day off work to smoke it again. These were originally my boyfriends best mates for years now, he says he sees them as scum now. His dad always said to him, once you try it you're hooked. Should I continue being friends with them? I'm upset they she offered it to everyone, she's addicted and should've have brought others into it. I'm sorry for ranting, I just don't know what to do. Any advice?