I am in the point in my life where i have to make that hard choice my parents warned me about. the love or career choice. I am currently in the military and in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend of over 2 years. time in the service was rough at first but now its been pretty good considering all i am learning and the benefits. my contract ends in a year and my original plan was to move back home to be with her. now the problem is that i can see myself living a very comfortable life in the service and next year my line for orders come in and i could end up getting orders to go to various oversea locations. this opportunity to travel and live in another country (eg, hawaii, germany, spain, alaska) while getting paid well to do it, is very very hard to come by in this life. moving back home means i would have to start over and find a new job and such. i am conflicted, she doesnt want to move away anywhere because her family and kid is there. i have snuck in the question to move away and she doesnt want to. what should i do? i love this woman but when am i ever going to get a chance like this again? i want to take this opportunity but i also want her. what should i do? career or love?

We ve been dating for 2 months and he talked about his ex a lot. They got out of a 4.5 year relationship 6 months before I met him. For context he s white and shes asian . She has a very lavish lifestyle. He told me all about her and how she celebrates her birthday all month and had similar set up to an advent calendar. One gift per day for the entire month. He bought her louis vuitton purses, paid for them to stay at the ritz carlton, took her for steak and lobster in manhattan, bought her a tiffanys necklace, diamond earrings etc. She had an entire room as a closet. Very high maintenance, self absorbed etc. She has a small dog with a diamond collar that wears a tux and she carries in her purse. I know this is judgmental but just hearing about her was sickening. He talked about her so much that I looked at her instagram. She considers herself an "influencer" and has photos of her in miami, paris, new york, hong kong etc, photos of her on yachts, drinking champagne, photos of her closet etc. If the guy I m dating was attracted to this type of female should I just break up with him, people like her nauseate me. He told me he spent over $6k on her for her birthday month last year. He makes like 50k a year so I don t know how he made that work. Her parents pay her rent and bills. She s 29 and seems like the Asian Paris Hilton to me. Yet this guy asks me for half when we order take out pizza, down to the tax. She looks like the typical high maintenance asian photos (requested by y/a members) https://www.instagram.com/stylemaven828/

I'm from Santa Rosa, California and I learned that Polly klass was kidnapped at the age of 12 and kidnapped and later murderedby Richard Allen Davis. I was about 2 when it happened. I'm 27 now and I'm a guy with a learning disability. I feel bad for her and it some makes me sad sometimes. Is that okay? I guess it's too close to home for me.