she works in retail -jcpennys and she would have been making $13 an hour but she took out a LOT of money to pay for our daughter's college.now it's like she basically going to work for free. I work for Coco Cola so I'm not rich by any means. I'm not understanding why she needs so much money for groceries if she's the only one cooking and eating. Our son who is 19 eats fast food, he doesn't like home cooked meals so his meal isn't as much of a financially hit for me. plus, most of the time he eats food at his job- he works at in and out burger. so for ONE person $40 should be able to stretch for the week. I told her she doesn't need all that seasonings and extra crap, just buy FOOD. it's crazy because she spends $40 JUST on vegetables and fruits, seasonings, and sauces and then she has to dig in my pocket for an additional $40 for bread, meats,eggs etc.. I told her she might have to cut back on the fruits and just buy meats since fruit is sky high these days. She said it's hard for her to go to the bathroom unless she eats fruit on a regular basis. She has a large platter of fruit for breakfast everyday and she says it helps her go. She said when she wasn't buying fruit she could only go once every two weeks. giving her all this money for groceries is hard for me because i also have to try to keep a roof over our head.She won't be able to cook ANYTHING if the lights are off. it's more to life than food and eating.

my self esteem is still also so low, i'm still struggling to love myself. She was physically and mentally abusive, also extremely controlling. everything i did was wrong in her eyes and i could never please her. I ended up dating lots of no good me. It didn't matter if they were cheaters or if they had been in jail, it didn't matter if they were abusive or if they were broke or treated women right, i just craved male attention. I married my now husband who was controlling as well and mentally abusive in the earlier stages of our relationship but I told myself " he's not as controlling as my mom so i could handle it" and although he mentally abused me he never laid a finger on me. BTW: he's done a 180 on his personality and is now very kind and loving.

whats yalls opinions about this. Okay so i have developed a close connection/bond with my male friend over the last couple of months. my husband was an opposing force for me. He always had to find a reason to go against me. He was very emotionally abusive, controlling, and manipulating. and I have been going through those problems for YEARS with my husband. It was so bad between us. He used to get mad at the way i said certain words. He would be like " Can you not put an emphasis on that word and can you not say that word like that." He used to get onto me about what I wear. He used to accuse me of sleeping with my students ( I'm a teacher). One day he tried to finger me to see if he could see if i was having sex with someone else. our nieghbor who is 18 was outside and he tried to rush me in the house so the boy wouldn't talk to me. I was like " We are 30, I don't want a teenager. please chill." I had come to a point where i emotionally checked out. one day i messaged my male friend out of the blue. I have known him for about a decade but we never talked as much as we do now. my guy friend- He's the complete opposite of my husband- he's very nurturing, kind, compassionate, intelligent. Me and my male friend talked until the sun came up about literally everything. we hadnt talked in a while and we were catching up on each others lives, plus venting to each other about the romantic problems we have undergone. He's such a good listener. for the first time in a long time i felt happy, i felt understood. It was like me and my husband were speaking different love languages but me and my friend were speaking the same love language and we were and still are so in tune with each other AND we have a lot in common me and my guy friend would send pargraph texts back and forth to each other constantly and I truly felt like I was on cloud 9. Everything i desired from my husband- the love, passion, and tender care are everything my friend posessed. my friend told me that how a man should treat me vs how my husband was treating m My friend really is a phenonmal person. the entire time i've known him we haven't had a single argument because we get along that good. a part of me feels like i chose the wrong man to share my life with anyways. my husband did a 180 on his behavior now and is no longer that emotionally abusive, controlling, and crazy husband that i dealt with for so long. so now i feel guilty for somewhat emotionally cheating. I told my friend i felt guilty and he said "I wouldn't have an ounce or animosity directed towards my significant other IF i had been abusing her. an abusive man or woman doesn't get to be entitled to the same benefits someone who cherishes and cares for their relationship the right wa He was like " if you abuse your S.O then you are expanding those boundaries past the normal limits of how it should be. you are neglecting your relationship and that action has a reaction. He was like " if you abuse your S.O then you are expanding those boundaries past the normal limits of how it should be. you are neglecting your relationship and that action has a reaction. he was also like " the level of abuse is in direct correspondence to how much you push your partner away. you can't contoniously push someone away with your actions and at the same time claim ownership over them. you may think you own them but they dont owe you anything unless they are treating you right My male friend said " I don't regret anything i've ever said to you. i know it was all of love, honesty, concern. I wouldn't have had a problem with your husband reading our messages either. I told my male friend hes so nice for his mindset and he was like " its not about being nice. its about being a man, a mature man. if i abuse my girl i cant be mad if she seeks comfort elsewhere"

We been with each other for 11 years, married less than year. It has been a roller coaster. I have 2 children with him. Lately we argue a lot. He works at home and I have a job, but I'm always tired depressed and in just a bad mood. For the fact that a lot things trigger my anxiety and ocd with mantaining a house clean. We don't ever go on dates or spend enough time and at sex I don't want to kiss him no more. We always speak about your issues but it seems like he doesn't understand me at all? I wish he would comfort me.

My girlfriend got angry at me because she asked me to cut contact with my friend who is married to my ex s sister. Him and I became close so i told her it wouldn t be fair. She is afraid i d still be in my ex s picture.

Two years ago I met and dated a guy that I really fell for. On our first date he told me he had been married but is now divorced. I asked him if he was separated or divorced because in my opinion they are two different things. He told me he was divorced. I asked him how long ago the divorce was finalized and he said it was finalized that past year. So I took his word for it and continued to date him and I ended up really falling for him. A bit later into the relationship some things weren't adding up and I found out that he was only separated and not divorced. Him and his ex were no longer living together but she was was still in love with him. I was upset and hurt. I asked him why he lied to me and he said because he knew I wouldn't have given him a chance if he told me was only separated and he really liked me. Long story short him only being separated was what ultimately led to the demise of our relationship. Fast forward 2 years later, he got into a serious relationship with the next girl he dated after me. They now live together and he never got back with his wife. Him & his wife moved forward with filing for divorce but it still isn't finalized. Was him lying about his marital status a major character flaw (aka a red flag)? Did I make the right decision walking away? I can't help but feel envious of his new girlfriend. They seem serious and I can't help but feel like I made a mistake and missed out on someone I love due to a piece of paper (the pending divorce).

This is my second marriage and I am almost 60. When I first met my wife we were each other's world. Kindness, respect, humor, great conversation! I fell in love. We've been married 8 years now and I believe she not only doesn't like me but can't stand me. I don't know what I did and I asked her. She says nothing but focus on my negative traits. I try to make things better but she will say where I made a mistake and never the good I do. She won't let me touch her, gets mad at everything I try to do. Sex is non existent. My daughter's husband is a very nice guy. Handsome, smart, successful, great job, and treats my daughter well. He also gives me the utmost respect. When my wife first met him she was in awe of his achievements. She acted like a teenager in heat, giggling and blushing. Since then she will ask me a million questions about him. In the beginning I thought she was being nice but she talks like he's flawless. She seems almost turned on by him (don't think he has a clue about her behavior) I'm not jealous but she never tells me good things about myself or anything I do. She makes more than me (I'm retired) and says things like she supports the family. So do I with my pension. She never apologizes when she does something she knows I don't like. If I buy her a gift she just take it but never use or wear it. I'm not going to marriage counseling. I'm seeing a therapist and they said she appears to be a narcissist. Either way I'm tired. Thoughts? Thx

I'm 30 years old and I'm going through a divorce I have no kids. My (now ex) husband and I have lived 12 hours from my family for the past 10 years. I have a home which my (ex) husband and I paid cash for 2 years ago. (My family helped me buy him out) so I could keep the house. I have no mortgage on the house so that's a plus. The issue is I'm very lonely I have no friends aside from 2 neighbors who are 81 and 55. There are VERY few opportunities to meet young people here. I've tried meetup no young adult/professional groups in the area, I've tried some other apps. I've also thought about just going by myself out to places alone. Sometimes I feel like I'm making excuses and like there has to be SOME way to meet people. I'm not interested in dating until my divorce is finalized I just wanna take time for myself. I also recently lost my job due to major layoffs. I'm thinking of moving home but I feel like that would be running away from my problems which I tend to do a lot in my life. Any advice?

She likes cars, Formula 1, snowboarding, long walks in the city streets, cooking, anime, horror movies, Manga. I like beer, sports, technology, beach, country music, cookouts, skiing, and exercise.

Okay so 4 years ago I was taken to a brothel when on a trip in Europe. i was pretty drank so when asked to undress i did, i laid down naked on the bed. I laid down on my stomach and told the women, only a massage i have a gf. Women massaged me for about 10 seconds and i closed my eyes and next thing i know, i'm woken up about an hour and a half later, still laying on my stomach. When this happened, me and my girlfriend were together for almost 2 years. After this happened, I told her the next morning everything that I could remember. Fast forward 4 years later and we are still together. It never comes up but this situation keeps me up at night sometimes. Did I ruin what we had or could have had. Am I a horrible person. I love my girlfriend more than anything else but I was a stupid 20 year old kid when this happened. Any advice would be helpful

About 2 years ago I met a man who I began dating. We fell for each other. Later into the relationship I found out that he lied to me about his marital status. He originally told me that he was divorced but I found out he was separated. He and his wife were no longer living together but the divorced hadn't been processed yet and she was still in love with him. I was upset and hurt. Ultimately I ended things with him because I was worried he had too much baggage and I'd eventually be the one to get hurt in all this. Fast forward to now, 2 years later. He has a new girlfriend (the girl that came after me). They look very happy together and I can't help but feel like that should have been me. His ex (wife) has moved on too and is seemingly happy in her new relationship as well. Legally they are still married and are still working out the details of making their divorce final. I can't help but feel jealous of his new girlfriend. I can't help but feel like I made a mistake. Clearly he was capable of a relationship, was it my mistake for not having faith in him? Should I have just trusted him? Is he really happy with his new girlfriend or is he just using her as a safe place to land as he navigates his pending divorce? Could this relationship really god the distance and lead to marriage? Should I be happy I dodged a bullet and not feel envious of his new girlfriend?

My parents have been married for 17 years and I am the second of 3 kids. My mother has been best friends with a married woman for 12 years. We just found out that 7 years ago, my father had a 2 year affair with my mother's best friend. One of her children is his. What should I do about this?

Should your husband tell you when he watches porn? Serious answers only please

I found a list that he wrote about everything that is "wrong" with me. We are going through marriage counseling but he put on the list that he's starting to notice other woman and that an ex contacted him, he's having an emotional affair and he can't meet up with her because he "will cheat". I'm so hurt right now, I asked him about it and he said it was one text. I told him BS. I don't know what to do.. we are a blended family and only married for 5 months. I'm a good wife to him..

My youngest sister is a Mom of (3). She has two boys who were diagnosed as Autistic and a little girl is the middle child. My sister has been having an affair and has yet to file for a divorce. They were married one year, living together for the last six years. She has kicked her husband out. They have one child together. He went into the relationship while she was pregnant with her daughter & raised both kids as his own. She's always been a private person. She's very introverted but she has not issue sharing to the world her days spent with this lowlife. She defends his every move. They are so obsessed with one another. They make plans to hangout together but never ask if anyone else is busy. She expects our Mom to take care of the kids while she goes to the beach, movies or dinner almost every evening. If our Mom tries to talk to her about her decisions she says well I'll just leave them at Grandma Sophie's (who's 70+ years old w/sever RA)! She has such a negative attitude towards everyone but her daughter and him. I feel I can't even see/take the kids anywhere because she is going to get jealous that I continue to show them new things and places… and she isn't there to experience it with them. How can I help my sister? He says he has his own apt. yet why doesn't he go there after his night shift is over? Why does he have to drive an hr. out of his way just to stay at the apartment w/her & the kids? Why do the kids have to wake up & see some guy there? I don't know where he sleeps, it's a little two bedroom apt. The older kids (a boy and girl) stay in their bedrooms. Is she letting him sleep in her daughters bed (which was once the master bedroom)? Why did they wait to go to the beach last weekend (because that's when the babies SSI/Child Support checks) come in? She has paid for everything… but she lets the electric bill go over due and now the kids didn't have any light because she spent her last few dollars, taking him out to dinners/movies and who knows what else she's bought him. Yet it's so convenience to have her own mom and grandparents watch her kids for hours on end and not ever compensate them or offer them any assistance… just when she gets the kids she rushes them out of their houses?

Okay so 4 years ago I was taken to a brothel when on a trip in Europe. i was pretty drank so when asked to undress i did, i laid down naked on the bed. I laid down on my stomach and told the women, only a massage i have a gf. Women massaged me for about 10 seconds and i closed my eyes and next thing i know, i'm woken up about an hour and a half later, still laying on my stomach. When this happened, me and my girlfriend were together for almost 2 years. After this happened, I told her the next morning everything that I could remember. Fast forward 4 years later and we are still together. It never comes up but this situation keeps me up at night sometimes. Did I ruin what we had or could have had. Am I a horrible person. I love my girlfriend more than anything else but I was a stupid 20 year old kid when this happened. Any advice would be helpful

I am dating a divorced dad who is 11 years older. Initially when we first started dating he lied to me because he was still married. Just unhappily married. When I found out I met up with his now ex wife and she confirmed that they where living in the same house but separate lives. The thing is I told my parents about this and at that time we broken up. Well I'm back with him and he is truly my soul mate. My parents are the traditional Russian parents so they found out I am back with him couple days ago. They gave me the choice it's them or him. I don't want to choose like that. First off it's me who will live with him and not my parents. I have a pretty bad history with my dad. As in he has molested me for about 10 years as a child from age 6. So I almost feel like he has no say in what I should and should not do. Than again they are parents and wise council. What would you do?

She's not his ex yet but when she is, unless they get back together for the seventh time of course, could I ask his wife out? Would it be incest? Not looking to do it but I'm just curious. Same with if one of his maybe ex-wives family members asked my uncle out would it be incest? I am 24 and always curious about this.