It always makes me cringe when I see women talking crap about their husbands. You rarely see husbands talking crap about their wives. It's like the "cool" thing to do amongst wives. Why? You're MARRIED to the guy and you say he's useless and stupid? What does that say about YOU? Same thing with people who talk bad about their siblings or parents. They are your blood family and they love you and you're just talking crap about them

Later the man said "oh well by real player it's an old Irish phrase meaning you work hard for your money instead of just getting it passed down to you". I'm afraid this person was making this up and meant it in a bad way. I'm stressed over it. I loved my Dad and saw him as a role model for staying by my mother despite her Bipolar Disorder and addiction. Yet now I'm scared, was he screwing around on her? Could he not be the good man I thought? What do I do? The man who told me was meeting me at a funeral, he was not someone I know.

Im 22 recently graduated online college and my parents have said I have to get a job or get out, yet they won't drive me to work, there is no reason they can't drive me! They're Retired! There is no public transportation in my area and Ubering 5 days a week is way too expensive. How can I get it through to them that if they want to me get a job they have to drive me

I hate going there cause their friends are toxic and my mom is addicted to the place now. She even wants to do Christmas there which I want to get out of.

My mom gets jealous if I have something to do with my sister's kids. She gets mad that I buy my niece and nephew stuff, she gets mad if I have anything to do with my sister. She talks about how awful the kids are. And that they aren't better than any kids and that I shouldn't be so crazy over them. She fusses at me about not resenting my sister for things. She says I should be just as mad at her about things than someone who just hurt me two days ago. Why is she like this?

but all the bathrooms are full at my house with my parents and brothers

Especially if you're throwing up. I mean like regular pills/tablets. For example, I'm supposed to be taking vitamin supplements but they sometimes upset my stomach and make me nauseous so my dad suggested I put them up there and they'd disolve into my system better that way. No homo. I dont know the science if it hut he explains it pretty convincingly and I read some ppl online do it so I'm assuming it's legit. I'm not too sold though.

...they had switched souls with each other?

I think I've had a seizure on 2 separate occasions. The first time was in like May and the 2nd time was last week. I dont remember anything happening I just know on both occasions I was super tired and they were freaking out asking if I wanted them to call 911. The 1st time, I thought it was maybe a one time thing and I felt fine so we agreed not to make a big deal out of it. but after the 2nd time I'm a little worried. I didnt tell my parents this time bc then I'd have to explain the 1st time and why I didn't tell them. Then I'm pretty sure we'd all get in trouble. Anyway, I'm 14, a boy and I've never had anything like this b4, I barely even get sick. I dont take medicine or drugs or anything. Both times wasnt doing anything out of the ordinary, according to them I just went quiet for a little while and then dropped and started shaking or whatever. I'm trying to figure out what the problem could be and google isnt really being helpful.

she works in retail -jcpennys and she would have been making $13 an hour but she took out a LOT of money to pay for our daughter's college.now it's like she basically going to work for free. I work for Coco Cola so I'm not rich by any means. I'm not understanding why she needs so much money for groceries if she's the only one cooking and eating. Our son who is 19 eats fast food, he doesn't like home cooked meals so his meal isn't as much of a financially hit for me. plus, most of the time he eats food at his job- he works at in and out burger. so for ONE person $40 should be able to stretch for the week. I told her she doesn't need all that seasonings and extra crap, just buy FOOD. it's crazy because she spends $40 JUST on vegetables and fruits, seasonings, and sauces and then she has to dig in my pocket for an additional $40 for bread, meats,eggs etc.. I told her she might have to cut back on the fruits and just buy meats since fruit is sky high these days. She said it's hard for her to go to the bathroom unless she eats fruit on a regular basis. She has a large platter of fruit for breakfast everyday and she says it helps her go. She said when she wasn't buying fruit she could only go once every two weeks. giving her all this money for groceries is hard for me because i also have to try to keep a roof over our head.She won't be able to cook ANYTHING if the lights are off. it's more to life than food and eating.

So the other day I said "wow my hair looks a mess" because I had just woke up and had to fix it and my child's father response was "you always look a mess" was that even called for? And clearly that's how he feels, right?

Shes literally making me upset by not accepting any money from me. I literally ask and ask if I can contribute by giving some of my money for MY WEDDING and NO she WILL NOT ACCEPT. She sent me a message about wedding hair and makeup and I thought we agreed on a salon. (i thought she showed me a message with just prices.. 20 minutes later now i realized i read the message wrong) and its going to cost over $1000 i think for multiple people. I offer money she says no. My fiancé gave her $300 last week and she took the money. I later complained to her that she accepted his money but not mine (hes given some other money before the $300) I really think she booked this expensive person now i reread the message she sent me. I dont want to pay for traveling fees of people either. My mom is starting to complain about not having money and now she consideres this my 2019 christmas gift even though its not christmas. I keep offering and offering but it hurts my feelings she wont accept any money from me. She practically paid for everything except with what money my fiancé gave her. I gave her $400 a few months ago and she decides to give me $200 of it back . I told her no you keep it but she felt "guilty" and told me to take it. Found it in my purse later that day. I tried paying for the wedding decor which costed $150 she wouldnt accept money, i gave her my $30 in cash and she ends up giving me the $20 back keeping the $10 How do I get her to accept money from ME?? Its not fair.

I'm so mad I just found out about it, I think he is on drugs he had been beating her up. I knew it had to be something cause she would communicate as much or answer FaceTimes, he is jealous that my sister has a degree and is making more money than him, he calls her names like "fat *****" and always compares her to his ghetto *** baby mother. I knew it was something off about him when I heard she was with him. She finally pressed chargers cause my parents had to literally come up there and make her, a 6 hour drive. He is now talking about beating up our dad and all this type of stuff. He has pulled a gun out on her and some more ****, she won't listen to my parent and is still protecting him for what I don't know, she basically is taking care of him and his son. She pays for everything. He is a bum and my sisters needs to realize that. I don't know what to say to her cause I'm so mad she is being so stupid about this whole situation he is no good and I honestly do think he will kill my sister or hurt her bad and our family back home. What can I do?

So, I just won a local contest in my small town. I was rewarded a thousand dollar check. The problem is I'm not entirely sure what I should the money. My dad wants me use it towards a car, while the my mom thinks it's a good idea to spend it on building my credit. Both are really important, but I'm still unsure. I figured it would be easier to ask a bunch of strangers on what I should do.

If your 30 year old daughter wants to move to another state (5 hour drive) to be with her bf/potential future husband, would you let her or try to make her stay because you don't want your kids to leave your side? This is where the couple love each other very much and the bf has a really good and stable job, and he promises to take care and support your daughter. He has a lot of respect for your daughter and would help her any way he can and help her be a better version of herself. Would you make your daughter feel bad for thinking of leaving your side to move in with the bf? Would you feel like she is abandoning you even though the daughter made it clear that won't be the case? That she won't stop supporting you and would come back to visit as often as possible? All she want is to be given the chance to start a life she chooses without feeling the guilt and making her mom upset. She just want to take chances and not regret on it. And if things don't go as planned, at least she gave it a shot and she has no one to blame but herself.

My parents raised me to believe that sex was wrong and bad, they only used scare tactics( pregnancy and stds) and made it for me and my sisters to not engage in sexual activity. I'm different from my sisters cause I'm not a Virgin anymore and they don't know that, but they really messed up my perception of sex education and now I'm just trying to teach myself cause they make it as a negative thing, even if it's natural. I'm a freshman in college and I am from a very religious family and they told me not to have sex until I'm married and not to hook up with guys in college, but why? I have urges, I'm an adult and I'm responsible. I don't care if they'll be disappointed, I do the right thing all the time, what is me engaging in safe sex gonna do to them?

Studies show that students who are chronically absent are likely to get held back or drop out of school.

Hi, I am curious and trying to issue an restraining order on my parents, especially my mother, and I would like to listen from other people's view and advice. My mom has always controlled me, been obsessive, strict, and even abusive. I'm 19 years old, and I live with my girlfriend in our own apartment together, but She always hated my girlfriend to spend time with me, take pictures with me, and do stuff with me because my mother was always jealous that she couldn't do those with me instead. My girlfriend is really sweet and smart, she is a straight A student in Nursing school and she tried her best to love my mother. However, My mom never lets me go and respects me. She always calls me her baby to people, she makes my dad to punch me and come into our apartment to check on me or to do something with her. I have had many bruises because they really punched me and abuse me emotionally by saying My brain is underdeveloped. She even started harassing my girlfriend. My girlfriend lost her father by accident a few months ago, and my mother said to her that she is faking her dad's death to get my attention. It really broke our hearts. We both tried to resolve the relationship by asking her for respects, but she never listens and instead threatens us. My girlfriend can't sleep without a sleeping med at all. I've decided to stand up for happy life. Can I issue an restraining order over parents? Please give us some advice what we can do, Every day seems like a nightmare to us.

I'm a 21 year old man. Recently, I became friends with a woman in her 40's. She is my moms age. She's a customer at my store I work the register at. We discovered we had a friend in common and added each other on Facebook. She's a cool person I thought and I want to make new friends. She's divorced, has kids my age who she is estranged from, and lives with a controlling drug addict (he does cocaine), abusive ex boyfriend. She disclosed this all to me and It started to freak me out. So I kept making excuses when she wanted to hang out with me and now she is upset. I just felt.... burdened by her and quite frankly unsafe. In addition, she smokes cigarettes and marijuana. I have a brand new car, and I want to keep my new car smell and NO SMOKE AROUND ME. My car cost me 35k and I bought it all myself so I feel like my car was threatened too. No nice way to say that of course, but I think she has taken the hint and I feel bad. What do you think? She's cool, but there are so many problems. I'm a well accomplished successful person. Working on a career to be a store manager. I'm just upset because I have never met anyone who wanted to be my friend so bad and I really built a wall between us. I would want to hang out, I'm just weary for the reasons I stated.

How does it effect a child if they grow up never knowing their father?

I'm a 20 year old young woman and my bf is 29. Me and him had a really bad argument about two weeks ago and he told his mother and sister on me... Things are fine with us now but his sister texted my phone, calling me all types of "bitches" and threatened to fight me whenever she sees me again. She is now completely invested in our business. His mom sends her on pop ups at his house to see if I'm there. She texted and called my phone disrespecting me until I blocked her number. He also allows her and his mother to disrespect me behind my back and he doesn't do anything about it. I've told him multiple times to handle **** with her but he's just all like "you go talk to her" and that's bullshit because he's the one that got them involved. Arguments and fights happen in relationships but getting your family involved, knowing you're not going to break up with me, is stupid. So, how do I get his sister and his mother to back off our relationship?

I'm hurting. My heart keeps having that dropping feeling. My anxiety is so bad that benzo's don't even help much anymore. I swear it hurts. My son's father has tried to take him from me for 7 years, at least once a year, because I wouldn't abort my baby and he doesn't want to pay child support. Also my favorite Aunt died June 2nd and I haven't even began to grieve her passing. The whole family is fighting and death just brings out the worst in people. I'm just sitting up a 2:25am hurting. No tears. Just my heart. I've tried praying. I take my meds. It's not getting easier. I now have a phobia of courts because he drags me in there so much either seeking an order of protection or custody of my child. He's been granted a few OOP, & rightfully so. I hate that son of a b***h. But HE WILL NEVER GET MY SEVEN YR OLD. It's all just so stressful. Not to mention his oldest stepson molested my 7 year old son. He's put me in jail over minor things. He manipulates the system well. My background is clean. I didn't start going to jail until age 28. What's that tell you? That sick *** fkn kid who molested my child is VERY LUCKY I DIDNT END UP BACK IN JAIL. It hurts. It's time consuming. My child hurts. It's negativity. It's a dark black cloud constantly lingering. If you don't do anything else, please pray for me. I'm lost. And I know it. I'm deeply hurt. Thank you.

So I am a Freshman in college and my school is in a city about 40 minutes away from my home town. So I have a dentist appointment early tomorrow morning so it was easier for me to come home tonight and spend the night than to drive here early in the morning. My best friend s family invited me over for dinner and I had already declined the last offer so I said yes. I didn t get into town until around 7:30 and was only there until 9 pm. I then came home and my mom was giving me the silent treatment and acting very negative. She later said she had things to talk with me about and that I needed to let her know when "I had time for her" and it would have been nice if I had spent the evening with her. The thing is my Dad died about a month ago so that s a little background for you. But also I didn t get back till late so it still would ve been too late to talk about whatever she needs to talk about. Also she never told me that before, so how was I to know we had stuff to discuss, she could have told me that when I told her I was going to dinner and I wouldn t have gone. Also getting the silent treatment when I come through the door doesn t inspire me to come home from college.

our daughter is 27. the boyfriend is in his 30's. graduated college last year. she is living with us until she saves up enough money to move out.I don't understand why she would go behind my back and tell her it was ok. I told her that's not going to fly with me. I wasn't born yesterday. I know she will only SAY she's at his grandmother's house but they will actually get a hotel. Listen, I don't care where she stays the night when she moves out but under my roof i don't condone shacking. My wife told my daughter as long as she spoke to his grandmother and the grandmother said it was okay then it wouldn't matter to her. clearly my wife cannot be THAT NAIVE. my daughter told me " Mom says she wants yall's privacy back so she told me to spend a couple of nights at his grandmother's house." And I was like " I don't have a problem with you being here. she is lying on me." I can control what she does while under MY roof. like i said, when she moves out she's free to shack up as much as she likes. I don't want to think about my daughter having sex.

This dilemma has happened to me throughout my life, I end up living with people (family members or ex- spouses) who want to forgive other family members for mean things that they did to us, (including filing lawsuits against us, trying to blackmail us, lying about things we did, etc.) Why the heck would I continue to want this people in my life? None of the people I lived with stayed loyal to me against the "wrongdoers", so I distanced myself from them also, and I'm basically alone now. I wonder if many people have this dilemma as a big problem in their life, or am I just unlucky?

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I come from a family that was displaced by war, my family moved to a safe haven in 1997 I spent some time with my birth mother and a young woman came to see me, at the beginning she asked my mother to let me stay with her the week ends, that turned into three months and I finally ended up being with her for 10 years, she gave me Everything she could, treated me as his own child, put me in a nice school, and gave me a brother and I made good friends and played sports, I was a happy kid, I became accustomed to the culture I grew in and used to be around the same kids I've known since kindergarten, All of a sudden in the Summer of 2007 my birth parents ask to see me, as there was no official adoption My foster mom couldn't decline, So I made the trip but my parents kidnapped me and didn't allow me to go back to where I lived or see any of my family or friends, it was hard readjusting since I was 3 years old the moment I stopped seeing them, although they made regular visits, In the year from 08-09 They made me lose a year of school that year by taking me away from school, I lost all friends and really missed my brother, I became depressed because I felt forced and missed everyone so bad, That depression turned into anger, rebellion, and bitterness that has lasted till today, I am upset because first they abandoned me and then claimed me back, and then asked me to go back again, I felt like a toy.

So basically my relationship started out pretty good his family seemed okay but things started to go downhill. He also has Asperger's and his mom tries to make clear her and her son are very "close" so it's weird. But here are the few events from last few days. So first he made a status saying he loved me and his mom tells him it makes him look gay and his grandma commented I know you didn't write that like I'm excuse . And the other day we went to his mom's because they went on a cruise so house was empty we were going to cook and watch movies. His brother Cody pops I'm he doesn't have a job and only comes over to eat I was not feeding him so I told him we wanted a night alone. He loses his **** stomps out the door revs his engine calls their mom saying I told him he couldn't be there so I'm not allowed at the house anymore. And Everytime I ask him about being engaged he just says when I feel it's right he wants to have unprotected sex and all this mess he was one of the reasons I didnt move when I had the opportunity to. I've had trouble holding down jobs because he comes over late at night to see me and his family uses him to do everything they make him clean up trash and cook and things and they never try to repair their house his parents rather go on vacations than be responsible I just don't know what to do.

I am currently 32 years old. I still live at home with my mother and my brother. I graduate at 23 with a BA in history and English. Father was diagnosed with terminal colon cancer when I was 22. Mother was diagnosed with breast cancer six months later. I got a BEd in Jr High/High school at 24 because it was what my father always wanted me to be even though I grew up as a working class person. Dad was a coal miner and mom worked at the fish plant. I guess he wanted better for me or something. But I always valued hard work and labour. Came home for a year and dad passed away when I was 25; he was 58. Mom was operated on and knock on wood is still good to this day. Went away and did a MA in history because it seemed logical and the teaching market was dismal (people subbing for 10-15 years before getting a 1 year term). I thought being a professor would be better but ended up being just as bad prospects. I was 26 when I finished. When I was in the BEd, I had a glimmering thought at medicine, not least because of my parents illnesses. I resolved to go back to school for science. Graduated with a BSc(Honours) biology, minor in chemistry and psychology at age 30. Wrote MCAT and got a 495 which is 5 points shy of admissions criteria. Brother is a mechanic. Has tons of money, nice car, and respect from my mother because he is in labour. Family seems to only value labour. Feel alienated because I went to university. Feel useless but cant afford to move out. Need money and a career.

Apparently my parents where snooping through my phone and computer without me knowing about it. They gave me a car for my birthday present, and so I went out and meet up with this girl I really like and we went for a ride it was 6pm, got some milkshakes and just sat down at the beach and talked. We made out, and it led a little far so we went to her house and yes her parents where there and we went upstairs and we just kissed some more. My parents appeared at her house, screaming like maniacs that we were having sex in her room, which it wasn't true because her parents where home, and it was embarrassing. So the girl thinks that I'm a loser and she hasn't speak to me since that. How can my parents follow me and do this. They took away my car. I'm not mad at them, but is annoying. I'm 16 already, why are they making it such a big deal out of it? My older brother just laughs at me instead of giving me advice.

She's 17 and his far more concerned with her hair, makeup, outfit prep before school, and her cheerleading/social life than she is prepping for school. She always insists the homework is " super easy", ends up doing it last minute, doing poorly on the test, only to give the excuse that, " the test questions weren't anything like the homework". She's a junior in high school now, and this whole attitude of hers has been continuously getting worse over the years, but she promised to clean it up. I'm wondering if the next step needs to be taking away the phone, weekends, cheerleading, things like that because right now it seems her biggest concern is which party she's attending on any given weekend, but, I also want don't want to be the pushy dad. How can I set her straight?

With my current situation I may have to leave my home so my daughter and I can be safe. Instead of staying in a hotel what are the pros and cons of living in a camper for a short bit of time? I would stay with family, but their houses are full and my daughter and I do like our privacy and to able to so our own thing.