Why do people betray hurt, backstab their spouses? Why is it so hard for people to treat the other the same way they are treating you? Why can't you be nice to whoever is being nice to you?

When is it ok to discipline your wife through spanking? obviously it''s punishment so I don't think she would be completely consensual when it needs to happen. Also is it okay to administer the spanking over the knee bare butt and with a leather belt? What are some of your experiences with domestic discipline?

So I am 28 years old and I am still single to this day and haven't even dated anyone. Mostly because I got rejected by almost every woman that I try to ask out. I am depressed and lonely. My family for years have been trying to set me up with someone in my native country but we ran into all sorts of issues. The first woman was too much older than me and customs and immigrations of the US wouldn't grant a green card visa to a woman who is older than her husband. The second woman is my age and she broke off the engagement in 2016 after two years of being engaged to me. Now my sister is getting married and it is making me feel even more depressed and worse. I have now resulted in getting a marriage broker in my native country to set me up with someone. I found one in ho chi minh city and I am planning on going there next year when I fly over with family. Many people told me that this isn't going to work either as no woman wants a man who is mentally ill. Hearing that makes me really sad. Ladies, would you marry a man if he has all of these mental illnesses that I have ?? Why do people think that my marriage won't last long ??

I am a 27 yr old female. My bf is 23. We have been together for 3 years. My bf is leaving town to continue his graduate education in a university about 9 hours away. I have told him I will not and cannot do long distance relationships. I have tried twice before and both relationships just left me with horrible feelings about a long distance relationship. He has asked me to move with him, which I actually considered for some time. However, my problem is that he doesn't want to get married before then. We still have about a year before he leaves so it can totally happen if we both wanted it. My Catholic background is holding me back from moving in with him without being married. I am not a saint by any means but my parents as well as his have always enforced the importance of marriage. If i leave with him without getting married I would be letting myself and my family down. I just wasn't raised like that. So now the question is should we break up now and stop waisting each other's time or should I leave with him. I love him but feel he doesn't love me enough if after 3, almost 4 years, he doesn't know if he wants to marry me or is willing to take me with him without any regard to how much it would hurt me and make me feel ashamed. He says we can marry once he finishes his career but by that time, I feel the wedding would not be as important or significant. Help!

This morning someone sent my husband a text letting him know that " she knows who you have been cheating with. She is giving you a taste of your own medicine. She's no angel pay attention" he calls me later to accuse my cousins of sending him this text.( we have a history of him being accused of cheating and we never had any proof) I told him to not accuse them even if we are not on good terms it doesn't mean they will do such a thing. We haven't talked in two years. But we were never that petty to each other. We broke out over a family issue so why would he say that. He got upset that I was defending them. saying oh I forgot your family was priceless and they can't do bad. I told him what if this was someone who just made a mistake and sent it to you? He wouldn't even consider that and started raising his voice and ended up hanging up on me. I was so upset. I text him that it was very dishonest for him to treat me that way and not even knowing who sent him the message. and turning the blame on me by adding my family. That I was very hurt and I wouldn't forgive that. Now he is back home and he is ignoring me what sense does this make? Am I wrong here?

I don't ever want to marry or have kids. I make it my rule to not date women or spend money/time on them but Ill make exceptions for prostitutes.

1.To get married? 2. Move out? 3. Watch porn? 4. Have a baby? 5. Have tattoes?

So me and my fiancé have decided to not have anymore children. He has 2 from a previous marriage and I don't have any. At first, I thought about us wanting one together and asked him what he thought about it. He said that his parents are up in the age where they can't take care of the grandchildren while we are at work (we both work crazy hours). And I don't want my parents having to take care of my baby all the time. Another thing I thought about was the child being there ALL the time. It's kind of nice when his children spend time with their mother because we have time to ourselves. Another point is financially getting by. I don't know if we would be financially ready to have a baby. Am I selfish for feeling at peace about not wanting a baby?

This was when we were coming out of college. I was having fun in a club. Took the girl home and slept with her. We both were a little drunk. I was married to my wife yet. I messed with this girl more times for a year until she got into a relationship. I never told my wife about her. We had sex in my wife's car she uses for work now. My wife is a homeCARE RN. She takes care of handicaps in their home. She uses 2 cars now. When my wife had to cover night shifts I would call this girl up telling her to come over. Now my wife is the president for this homecare company and makes more money than me. Well this girl who I cheat on my wife with was just murdered by her boy friend and I feel bad and for some real I need to tell my wife I cheated on her.

If women arent getting married while theyre sstill young and pretty theres less people getting married with that less people and WE ALL GO EXTICNT

Well I dont really know what I'm asking. It's a tricky one. I've been with my husband for 12 years we have 2 kids. Last year I had a miscarriage and the whole thing has really messed with my head. I guess I just pictured life with 3 kids and struggled when it didn't happen. Afterward I asked my husband for some reassurance "we'll have another one day won't we?" He told me no! No reasoning he just point blank said no. Since its all happened I feel so different about my life. I feel this need for independence and a need to be heard. I worry that i no longer love my husband. Over the years I have let him lead. I have given him the control but now I find myself telling him no and standing upto him but it's making life hellish at home. We are both so unhappy. I feel like we're never going to come back from this. I really want to ask for a divorce but I feel so selfish. This is because I have changed! But this would break our family. Does anyone have any advice? Anyone been I'm this position?

He owns the bar my friends and I go to every weekend, which is how me met to begin with. It started out as innocent flirts and small gestures like lighting up my cigarettes, ordering me shots, etc.. I knew he had a thing for me and I had a thing for him too but I didn't know he was married when I first started liking him. We were just friends when one of my friends told me that he was married (with a pregnant wife) but he very soon himself told me he was married during a conversation one weekend so it's not like he was hiding it from me, but he was still very bluntly coming on to me nevertheless. And it was a lot of fun hanging out with him. He would stop working as soon as I arrive to his bar and just hung out with me the whole night which made feel very special. After some weeks I guess I gave in to temptation and we started crossing some boundaries and started being physically closer to each other. We didn't have sex bc. the fact that he is married held both of us back but we made out, a lot. and since then I guess he feels entitled to have a say on who I'm seeing or who I'm kissing (there has been a time when I kissed another guy and he made a big deal about it, telling me out of respect I shouldn't have kiss anyone in front of him and out of respect to me HE wouldn't kiss his WIFE in front of ME!). I was appalled when he told me this, and made me question (or realise) if I'm having an affair with this guy... just been feeling very shitty, and asking for some advise..

My wife an dI don't get the chance to go out a lot but we do date nights from time to time. Typically we have different tastes in movies so when she wants to see a particular movie that I don't she'll pay for the movie and dinner afterwards. Same thing with me. When I want to see a particular movie she has no interest in I'll pick up the movie and dinner. That works for us. The last movie I took her to was Bohemian Rhapsody which she did't care to see but she enjoyed it. She now wants to see The Intruder, which I could care less about. This means she pays for the movie and dinner afterwards. Ok, In speaking with my coworkers yesterday about date nights with our respective mates I mentioned how my wife and I handle things and one loud mouth girl came across like I was wrong to "make my wife pay for date night." Her comment was "you couldn't be my husband if you expect me to pay for date night." Yes, this is the same girl who is a know it all from previous posts and I know many of you have said I need to stop telling my personal business at work but come on people, we're just talking to pass time in the day. I don't want to be the one person who doesn't talk in conversations because that's usually the person who never gets included in conversations and then people tend to avoid you. You end up working by yourself all day long because no one wants to talk to you. Long story short, should the guy always be the one who pays for date night? Both my wife and I work and it's what works for us. This particular girl has been living with a guy for several years and me and other coworkers have asked her if she plans to every marry him or if he asked would she say yes. She said she didn't want to marry him. She doesn't want to marry the guy she's in a relationship with and living with but she has a problem with how my wife and I handle date night. She seems to always have this thought that the guy should pay for everything.

The girl I cheated on my wife just died. Now I feel guilty and first some reason wanting to tell her

He tries to talk to me in private and apologize in secret. He hates that I don't play the love game the way he wants. I want him just so I know he's like all the others. He acts high and mighty but I think he would cheat. Just as he cheated on me. What do you all think? I'm desperate mode or naive for not trusting karma and moving on.