So my wife and I have been together for almost 6 years (married for almost 3) and I'm no longer attracted to her. Since we've been married she's put on more than 75lbs and is obese. I have no physical attraction to her at all and the thought of having sex with her repulses me. I work abroad and for the past year Ive been telling her that she needs to lose weight. It started with hints and suggestions but grew into be having to flat out tell her she's obese but she still hasn't changed. Update #2 Since I work abroad I don't get much chances to come home. Im finally about to go on vacation and from what I can tell shes put on EVEN MORE weight. She says "I hate my weight" but stuffs her face with food and doesn't work out. Ive recommended that we both lose weight together (id go to the gym with her but being overseas its not possible) and Ive said if we lose a total of X amount of weight well go on a foreign vacation. So far Im down to 180lbs with muscle and she continues to gain when I go home in the next few weeks for vacation Im not going to be able to have sex with her, The thought of it disgusts me. Its shallow but I don't know what to do anymore. For the past year Ive been trying to get her to lose weight and she wont. I don't want to stay trapped in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about themselves. What do I do?

My husband Of almost two years cheated on me with a friend of mine who is also married. I knew that she was having marriage problems and her husband was out of town and so was I. And she told my husband about their problems. They went out and got food and went back to her house. She had beer and they both drank and eventually got drunk. They kept talking in the couch and then it happened when she suggested it they should go to sleep she stopped it at what he believes was 1-2 min ( I asked for details ) and then they realized what they were doing was wrong. My husband regrets it, he claims he was/is happy with me and he didn't think nothing was wrong in our marriage and he doesn't even understand why he did it. And he has no excuse but that he was drunk and not thinking. But cheating is cheating and I don't know if I can forgive him. He claims he didn't and doesn't have feelings for her at all. I just need advice

I don't like being a quitter and yet I feel like one. I've been married for 10 years. My wife and I separated 5 years ago and hooked up about a year later on year 6. We had our child and last moth I asked her to move back in. I wanted to avoid a broken home. I was paying her child support unofficially and this month she didn't charge as she moved back in. It's so loveless and I don't know how long to wait. I was used to getting 1-2 new women a month. I vowed to change and be a one woman man but we still haven't had intercourse, and honestly not sure I'm attracted to her anymore. She's always been on the chubbier side which I liked but now she's maybe a good 30 pounds higher. I know I'm not affectionate either so I don't know if I should fake it or what to do. I've renovated the home to switch it from the bachelor pad, new floors and furniture which have put me 7k in debt. I know if we spit it will be tougher to knock it out as I'll be dropping another 700 a month.

I've heard of people who want to get married, but not children. I've heard of people who don't want to get married or have children. Both of these types of people are seen as fine. But what about people who want to have children but don't want to get married? Is this fine? *but not have children

I broke up because 1-He was his mother's follower 2-His mom made all the decorations with her taste. 3-When I said I don't want a specific performer they insisted on getting them. 4-He wanted to make me live in their family building. 5-We had a fight before in a place far away from home, and he left me alone (he knew I had no car) and went back to his house. 6-I was going to make the pre wedding party with my money and he would do the wedding, so I wanted to make the decorations in the pre wedd. with my taste and I told him I will do giveaways he was like No don't do it if it will be in bad quality (I felt like he was directly assuming it would be bad quality) 7- He told me once do you love me for me or for my fancy car. while I never asked him for any gifts or anything to pay for me. He is the one who told me that the last time I got him a gift was very far away. Although he is the one who didn't get me a birthday gift. 8- His mom went to clean our house without taking my permission and he didn't let me no, I knew by coincidence when I saw her reflection in a mirror in his phone's gallery and when I asked him wut is ur mom doing he said she was cleaning our house. 9- His mom has a rule that we should have dinners and outings with her and her family every weekend! He gets so pissed off if I didn't go, which is too frequent from my point of view. 10-His friends should also always visit! He thinks my reasons are not enough to break up. While I think his mom is too dominant

My husband and I have been best friends with this couple for over 10 years. We will call them "Stan" and "Jan" We met them when they were dating, attended their wedding etc. My husband had came to me back in October and said that he saw Stan at the airport. Stan told my husband not to tell anyone that he saw him at the airport. We thought it was a bit strange but whatever. I recently went with a friend of mine to breakfast. It was a weekday so Stan should have been working. I saw Stan with another women and it was very very obvious they were romantically involved. He kissed her, was holding her hand when they left. My husband and I are pretty much convinced that Stan is having an affair. I really want to tell Jan as she's recently been complaining to both my husband and I about how her husband has been working so much overtime and almost never see's the kids. Should we say something? I'm torn because they are both our friends!

Isn't That Sodomy?

I am NOT the biological father of the baby. My wife and I were married but not cohabitating at the time of conception. I'm in the military and was stationed in South Carolina and she was in San Diego for a year and a half when she got pregnant by her then boyfriend as we were on and off and were split at that point even though we were still married. She then moved to SC with me when a few weeks later she told me she was pregnant. I was almost certain the baby wasn't mine as it was too soon and we both agreed that the baby wasn't and spoke of her as she wasn't. I am trying to get a divorce back home in San Diego. The baby is turning 2 years old in July. I have wanted a divorce for a long time and have been interrupted by work and being out at sea. The baby was born a year and a half ago while we were still married. Can I fight paternity, even if she wants me to be the father, and he boyfriend who is the biological father is in jail? Do I have to pay child support? My upcoming hearing for Request for Order is in July to contest paternity and I can't afford another lawyer. What are my best case scenario and worst case scenario options? Married Nov 2014 Wife Immigrant from Brazil w/ a chance of being deported Lived separately from November 2014-November 2016 Baby born July 2017 Out at sea August 2017, Oct 2017-May18 and haven't seen the baby continuously since early February 2019 Currently out at sea until the end of the week.

My wife cheated on me recently. How do I cheat on her back? Do you think we will be even after I do it?

My husband hates when I do something different for myself. He doesn t seem to like when I look good. He gets mad when I wear certain clothes or when I straight my hair . My hair is curly) . I have been married once before and he was never like that. My husband now is an arab muslim and Trust me i know they want their wife covered up and I have changed my way of dressing alot but im so tired that As much as i tried nothing seems to make him happy. I dyed my hair black, he doesnt like the color black but I do. I straight my hair and he says why cant I do exactly the things he like instead i do what he does not like. That hurts me so much it has not been the first time. I have never experienced something like this before . He loves me i know he does . But why is he trying to change me more than he already has. He met me a whole different way than now . And as much as i changed , there is no way to satisfy him. I am Puerto rican . So our tradition , language culture is very different.

Why do I have trouble leaving him and why do i love him? How is it possible to have feelings for someone that does not have any good feelings toward me. Also he always says he wants to be with me forever and looks upset at the idea of me leaving. Why does he not want me to leave if he hates me.

(Sorry, my english is weak ) My sister dated a guy for 8 years and they got engaged last year November. Her fiancé ditched her saying that he has no feelings after getting engaged on the second day and left her. She was in depression for a month later she agreed to my parents that if they select a guy she will say yes and will marry him. She got 10-15 proposals but she rejected all. My parents told her to put her details in matrimony site but i guess she is just fooling them by saying yes. She have a affair but she is hiding. The main problem is my bf is understanding but his parents are convincing me to get married before my sister and it cannot happen because my parents wants my sister to get married first. Now i want her to get married asap so that my bf's family don't pressurise me. I'm worried please help, what should i do?

So me and my husband are currently getting divorced (he left me for someone else) and we live in North Carolina and hes Also active duty, im currently in the national guard, I know that you have to be seperated for a year before you can actually get divorced, but I'm looking for further information on this issue so that I'm not missing anything, im only 19 and we only been married for 2 years itll be 3 years in a couple months, and I'm doing all the research that I can but itd really be helpful for any information regarding on how divorce actually works while in the military? Housing? Because we are currently living on post. Any information would be helpful thank you

Does that happen in real life? Please share your real life experiences or what actually happens on wedding nights?

I ran into my ex wife Connie's brother at a party and he told me Connie was getting married. Since we are on friendly terms, I thought it appropriate, I sent her a nice wedding gift and a note wishing her a long, happy marriage. I got a thank you note from her telling me how much she liked the gift. The note also ask me not to contact her again as her new husband did not want her to have any contact with other men, especially me. I email her that I understood and I did not want to cause her any problems with her marriage. I had not heard from her for over a year when she called me. She ask if she could stay with me while she was getting a divorce. I told her I did not think that was a good idea. I would however help her find an apartment where she could live. I was thinking having a married woman live with me while she was still married might cause us both problems. Then she told me she was the victim of domestic violence and was afraid her husband might hurt her or something ever worse. I told her to come to my house to stay for a while and not tell ANYONE where she was. I hope I made the right decision. Do you think I did?

I know this was asked 7 years ago. I just want an update if now he is or not.

this is in a relationship of 5 years and a three year old in the picture. the woman still loves him the same as when they met and she is still with him 8 months after his confession

My SO and I have been together in LDR for a long time. In exactly 2 months, we close the gap and get married. I m divorced with 3 kids and so is he... with 3 kids. I make a good income but as a single mom, right now it s more affordable to rent. It s a small apartment but cozy and very cute. He lives in the Caribbean and is not well off by any means. He s a very talented home builder and would make a killing over here. He s ALWAYS talked about coming here and biilding or buying together. Here lately he s become more and more concerned with my small apartment. We can get a bigger place when he gets here and starts working though. But he wants me to get one before he arrives. He s even suggested that I buy a house on my own before he gets to the US. I told him it didn t make any sense to do that when we can buy more house as a couple. I m not liking that he d even suggest buying a HOUSE without him being a part of the process. Don t you think a man would want to take a role in this? Especially if he s always talked about what he d like to do as a married couple?

We are constantly on voice or video call for more than 16 hours a day because he works in a very flexible job in computer programming and I work as an accountant from home. The question is how do I spice up our sex life, he's recently been saying that pics aren't enough and he wants to do more interactive sex. But I'm so confused and don't want to sound dumb when we do it so what do I do

They have been married for 6 years when are they planning on have their first child?

its like people no one would be interested in but theyre still petty

Now, my wife's lawyer is playing really dirty. For instance, he's making me lose alot of money and time and energy purposely so as to make my life miserable; as if coping with divorce wasnt enough. At this point, im really tired of being Mr.Nice Guy, and wish to take matters with my own hands. The point i want to reach is to make him regret fkin with me. Planely speaking, my choices are limited to two as far as i can think, but both are illegal and drastic. One is to physicaly trash him in his office. Number two is to physicaly trash him plus leaving a mark on him such as a scar from bladed artifact or mutilating a piece of flesh or cartilage such as ear, lip etc. I do possess the physical requirements for such a job and experience, since it wouldnt be the first time. Suggestions on how to make him remember me for a very long time without getting physical ? Btw after my experience with divorce, i firmly believe that the law is a load of bear crap impossed on fools willing to adhere to those laws. And FYI the cops cant reach me if i were to implement plan 1 or 2, plus he has no idea what i look like. Ideas ? I also know that the question is very reportable, but im sure the adults within this audiance will acknowledge the circumstances due to their experience in marital life and the miseries of divorce.

So I'm like 23 and just started working for him... he'll be talking to me and then he'll come up to me, squeeze my upper arm and be like... "so i'll see you later?" and then he'll walk off OR he'll make a joke, touch my knee and be like... "I'm kidding"... is this kind of touching common? It kinda feels like he's coming on to me but this is all new to me so I don't want to say anything if it's normal.