I've been really depressed the past couple weeks, and I've been battling depression for years. I moved out of my parents house because of conflict (I now like with my boyfriend, and mom doesn't like him anymore--even though she set us up), and now anytime I come home, I always get questioned why I showed up by my siblings. I have to stay at my parents house because I have to work, (typically I stay with my grandparents, but they're out of town). I feel as if I'm getting pushed around by my siblings, and they make me feel terrible, along with my parents. Any suggestions on how to attempt to fix the relationships?

How could she allow that piece of **** to physically abuse her daughter to the point of multiple brain surgeries at that tender age and possibly molest her. Then to leave her with him???? How can everyone see how precious Maleah was but not her own mother??!!!!!! I hate when things like this happen, that someone stole a child's innocence then his or her life. She never got the chance to recover from the brain injuries and abuse and go on to live a happy life. Now she can't even have a proper burial. I shudder to think of her final moments if he could have injured her like that last year. I keep seeing her lovely innocent face and it hurts so much. How do I go on from this???!!! I have children including a four year old, I grieve for Maleah. Thrown away like nothing. Even the way she was last seen walking far behind him, was that fear??? And do you keep a child at that distance behind you?? He didnt care about her, neither did her mother. So many other people would have loved her like a child is to be loved. CPS did not do a good job in this case. She should never have been returned to them. And what was her dad thinking? He bought the she fell from a chair story last year about her fractured skull??? This makes me question if there is a God.

I wanna be with him but he has just no idea about my feelings. And who knows how he'd react if he just knew. Everytime I see him I cannot take my eyes off of him. He has something familiar to me. Like a connection. My hearts beats so fast when he's near and made me blush for the first time ever. He looks at me too, but his stare is cold and emotionless, it looks like he's studying me, while I basically adore him and contemplate him. Once he saw me with my friend. She is 10 years older than me, looks really cute that day was wearing a pink shirt summer dress. He looked at her and then rolled his eyes upset and annoyed at us. I dont know why. He's kinda poor by the way (he sells things). He's really kind but cold. Kind but cold. Silly combination. Once my mom said he was a good guy and he had those puppy eyes, lowered his eyes and then looked again like he was moved. For the first time I saw emotion in him. I would be happy just being a friend to him at least, but he seems cold and far. Once he took some heavy boxes out of my hands (we were moving and he helped us with the transport) and said 'if we wait little girls like you, we'll end the work tomorrow'). I got a bit upset because I love him and he treats me like a little kid. I am so sad, because he'll never love me the way I do. I am 14 and he is 18. I wish we could get married later in time but I just realize I am so jinxed and he will never love me the way I do. He doesn't even notice me

Ofcourse that's for his benefit... alcohol creates so many health problems. So, if he has a habit of drinking...is it ok to make him give it up?

Okay so recently my brother was telling my grandma that he hates her,but then she bring some out her trump card and her husbands comes out. He starts yelling at ME, and I started crying immediately. What should I do about the situation

I don't want my kids to have autism

Let's say a single mom is raising her only child (who she spoils rotten) all by herself, which causes her to drink a lot (stress from the job and no man to help raise her son) to the point where her intoxication triggers her temper which lashes out at her son (who has a learning disability) to the point where he cries. He then develops a lack of respect for her, thus him yelling at her. Meanwhile, her family and friends know what a disrespectful child he is, but DON'T know that she has a drinking problem and has yelled at him because of that. Therefore, her son is perceived as someone who doesn't appreciate his mother who gives him everything he wants, while she is perceived as the perfect mother. Is she automatically the "good guy" since she spoils him, and that all that matters is that she only yells, NEVER hits him? She yells at him due to his bad grades in school. The moment he comes home with a test clarifying he failed, she goes postal to the point where the neighbors can hear her. And he begs her [in tears] to stop yelling and that he's trying to do better, but she won't listen and instead keeps yelling.

I went to university locally and lived at home to help my family, which always hindered my education tremendously because the very small amount of time I had left between work, school and helping out they expected me to spend on "family time" and my family would hinder my studies any way possible if I did not join them. Now I am looking at graduate schools and jobs out of state, even just a seasonal job. They keep guilting me into staying saying I would be the cause of great hardships. They are not disabled, I am told it is easier for them to have me helping them. I calculated it, it would be a lot cheaper for me to live on my own and not help them (about $300-400 per month). As soon as I mention going anywhere, they suddenly need me to pay the mortgage for a few months and drain my income. I feel they are just being manipulative. I tried making a new bank account (not connected with theirs) but I don't have the necessary identification to do so. I keep asking my parents for my SSN card etc. but never get it.

My stepmom is trying to block my mom out of my life whenever i try to call my mom my stepmom just takes my phone away she even makes excuses to let me see her she called my mom today and told her that i am sick and i wont be coming over i am sick of it how can i see my mom ? my stepmom thinks my mother is a bad influence on me my stepmom grounded me from my own mother how can they ground me from my own mom when ever my mom try's to call me my stepmother answers it and when she knows it's my mother she just closes the phone my stepmom wont let me contact my mother in anyway I have to see my mom next week and my stepmom wont let me out of the house my mom has visitation rights i live with my father and my stepmother I haven't seen or contacted my mom in 3 years because my stepmom wouldn't let me contact her she won't let me speak to my stepfather too My stepmother is a gold digger she talks bad about my mother too much she talks bad about my stepdad too much too

Can't I just save the talking for when I have the date? I don't see the point of needing to text every single day up until I have the date and literally have nothing to talk about because he kept texting me ****. I don't see the point of needing to talk about how my day was every day to him. I think it's stupid and a waste of time.

My husband and I have been married together for 13 years married for 10 and have four kids. He had a daughter in high school that is 17. Our oldest is almost 12 we had her when I was 19 and he was 23. So we have been together what I say is a while and I'm still crazy about him to this day. But his baby mama is on my last freaking nerve. She is still to this day constantly invading my home and even put some app on their daughters phone to track how fast I drive and will bring it up to me and say I'm a terrible mother. His daughter I already struggle with because she is an entitled child who whines to her mom about everything. Saying that her dad loves our kids more and I make him it love her and if he loves her he would leave me blah blah blah which the mom has yelled outside my house. Not to mention anytime I would take her with me to a place like say Chuck E. Cheese she would pick a prize for her brother at her moms house. It made me mad because I paid for it her dads and my kids are her siblings to and she never thinks about them. She would even ask her dad to help her buy a mother's day gift for her mom every year she would ask him. Which I was not having. I don't know what to do and I'm just tired of it. I'm tired of the mom and I'm tired of dealing with his daughter and feeling like I have to compete when him and I have four kids!! Advice needed on how to just calm down from it all.

my life is in shambles. About a month ago, my boyfriend and I, and our 7 month old daughter were evicted from our apartment. The following week, BOTH of us lost our jobs. We stayed in the shelter for about a week, and now we re staying with some of his family. Last night we got in a terrible fight, he was verbally abusive as usual, and I lost control of myself and hit him in his mouth. I feel terrible, because no one deserves to be hit, but I know we need to break up not only for ourselves, but for our daughter. We have been together almost 3 years, and there have been many highs and too many extreme lows to count. He says he is done, which I understand, but how in the world do I get over loving him and move on when I am stuck in his family s home with literally no money, no job, and no place to go (my family refuses to let me stay with them)? I already apologized for hitting him, not necessarily trying to stay together (because he is also very verbally abusive to me and did retaliate after I hit him by pulling over and trying to throw me out of the car by my arms, neck, and legs while my daughter was watching), but just to have clarity in myself. I am just at a severe loss, and feel so down and like there are no options for me now. I do have a car, but have no gas for it to go anywhere. I literally feel stuck and need some serious advice fast. I KNOW I need to make a better life for my daughter so she never has to see that again. Please help!!!

It is definitely better than spanking, or hitting their body with something. Right?

Do you think this should be acceptable in some cases. I'm Polish, I'm 33, I have Asperger Syndrome, my parents were very cool, my mother probably gave me a gentle spanking once or twice, in my entire life, she died in 2016 and my father who died in 2002 probably also gave me a small one spanking, which I hardly remember, dad was nervous, mom suspected that he also might also had Asperger ;-) But in communist Poland, as well as the capitalist west, this was not yet considered a disease at that time. My older brother has two older daughters who are 21 and are currently studying architecture at a public university (that is for free) and a 15 year old who is in high school. My brother probably never beat them, and if it's probably only gently, because our parents have abhorred corporal punishment, although my mother gave my brother a belt spanking, for 5 times in a row he lost the key to the house, but she had remorse after that :-( The older daughter is excellent student, but the younger one who is 15 is little devil she is short even for girl, very vivid and stubborn ;-) For example disobeying her dad (my bro) and go in places without my bro consent, or doing to place where he forbidden her to go, but she is good student too My brother is afraid that she might get disciplinary fire from job when she start career. My brother said that sometime he want spank her, but he restrain himself because not like Spanking as punishment the same way as our parents. I said that it is good that he does not do it considering that since 2014, corporal punishment towards a child is a crime that is punishable by a fine and / or up to 3 years imprisonment. And even if my daughter did not go to the police to complain, it would only be enough to tell her friend, and this to someone else, and then it will happen to someone who does not like my brother, and then the police will do ii home invasion, and Polish Police is not known for being gentle :-) Some say that Police is the last bastion of communism in Poland due to their mentality, and my compatriot like to make reports ion people them not like. Anyway, at the end of the year, people send hundreds of thousands of denunciations to our Polish tax office that their neighbor has too much money, so he has certainly concealed his income in his annual tax return xD As for my brother's younger daughter, I remember once how my brother probably joked that he more he pissed off that she lied to him, that he's pissed that she cannot go with a convincing lie:-) what a Pole that cannot tell a good lie to an authority figure xD

I don't talk to my family members much. When I got home from school, I would eat and stay in my bedroom for the whole night everyday. It's not like I don't love them or anything, I just don't like to talk or care about anything. When I say sth, everyone is not very happy. My mom keeps shouting at me for being so cold. Pls help me

Without going too much into detail, I'm 17 and was hanging out with some older kids that go to my brother's school and they let me go to a party with them bc my brother didnt want to go. The last I remember I was trying different drinks. At some point one of the guys at the party called my brother and he came and picked my up, then he got my parents and took me to the hospital. Supposedly, something might have happened but i dont remember and am doubtful but the police have asked for a "rape kit" idt i was raped but everyone else seem convinced. I told my parents I wasnt comfortable with it but they said its not up to me and that it was final. I dont really know what to expect and I'm just waiting now and thinking how much easier it'd be to end all of it. i hate the whole situation and wish none of it ever happened. I just wanna go home now and they wont even let me do that. im a guy btw and just dont feel comfortable with the procedure

My son (age 11) and my daughter (age 14) lie about everything. They'll pretend to be reading a book when in reality, they're hiding their smartphones beneath it. Both kids have thrown their food and vegetables away, but lie that they've ate it all. They lie about where they're going. My youngest, for example, told me he's well behaved at school until he got expelled for bullying other people. My daughter was caught cheating on a test. I didn't find out until later because she told the school that her phone number is my number. Which means, when she got suspended, they called HER number assuming it was ME. I was never notified about her suspension. I dread taking my kids out because they swear at me in public if I can't buy what they want. These kiddos are exhausting me! I still have to work full time and take care of my sick mother.

Hello, so my boyfriend of 2 years has religious parents. They're very nice, but they are super evangelical Christian. My boyfriend lives on his own (we're both 22), and I live at home. My parents are fine with him sleeping over whenever, because they trust me and respect my right to make my own decisions. I also sleep at his apartment. He pays for his apartment with his own money, and we're planning on moving in together in a few months. Next week, his parents invited me to go to Richmond with the family to celebrate my bf's grandfathers birthday. They are getting hotel rooms, and they won't allow us to get our own room with our own money. I'd never ask to sleep together in their house, or have them pay for it. We'd be spending our own money on a hotel room for ourselves, and they won't allow it. They won't even tell us where the hotel is because they don't want us to get a room. What are your thoughts on this? I completely understand the my house, my rules thing, and respect that, but this is completely different. He lives on his own, and we'd be in our own room, with our own money. I don't know what to do about this situation, I'm thinking about not going on the trip at all, but that sucks because it makes it seem like they "won" as weird as that sounds.. just looking for some other people's thoughts.

My twin brother and I (both 18) are just about to graduate from high school, and I m worried that he s signing his life away by joining the military because of pressure from some of my family (they re very pro-military and trump, him and I are not at all) and possibly feeling like he has nowhere else he can go (some family is again very right leaning and pressuring). How do I convince him to quit, I m legitimately scared for his well being.

I know that there are a lot of exaggerated cases, but I will list the facts that have happened. I have a permanent flat spot on the top of my head from when my parents smacked me into the fireplace rocks, another metal pole sized dent from when I was beat with a Swiffer, and my left pinky toe no longer moves or functions like normal. Also, they constantly bring me down and say I am not a part of their family and send me out of the house on a regular basis for stupid things. I do love my parents sometimes, but lately it is getting too hard for it is at a point where I am crying everyday, and my parents call me weak and stupid.

My little brother just turned 21 in January and has taken a liking to clubbing and drinking. Which I guess is normal, but the issue he couldnt hold his liquor if his life depended on it. 1-2 drinks in and he loses all impulse control and self-preservation. Literally anyone could convince him to do anything. I the past couple months alone we've had major scares because random people try to pick him up, take him home, hook up with him and he lacks the sense and ability to gauge a dangerous situation. For a while, I stopped going out with him hoping he wouldn't go but he literally went missing for almost 2 days b4 he tuned up in a hospital and till this day doesnt know/remember where he was or what happened. People have lured him into the bathrooms, into empty allies, into their cars, sex etc. All they have to do is suggest it and he's so gullible he follows gladly, my friends, his friends and I have to constantly keep an eye on him because he often disappears into crowds and it's a group effort to try and keep him safe. Although he doesn't drink a lot, it doesn't take a lot for him to get like that and we're pretty sure his drinks have been spiked multiple times before. Usually we have to wait till he's borderline passed out and then talk him into leaving the club and going hom bc he tend to listen to random strangers more than us.

I wish I was old but I am only 17 I don't like myself I think it's wonderful to be old because when you are old you are closer to dying and you are closer to stop hating yourself I think it's wonderful to be old because you are closer to dying and stop hating yourself It sucks I have a long time to die and have to deal with myself for a long time

My 18y/o son is on an emotion drug and alcohol abuse binge. Although he's only started using drugs last year, he's been taking any and everything he can get his hands on for the past couple days and drinking alcohol. He recently lost his best friend to a car wreck and we think that's what triggered him. We've tracked him down a couple times but every time we try to get him to come with us, or he suspects we're calling paramedics, he bolts. For his safety, bc he could OD at any point, are we allowed to physically restrain him until police or paramedics arrive. We had to do that when he first started using but he was 17 then and still a minor. What should we do???

He is my best friend but he gets paranoid. He once called the police on himself because he thought he stole a pop. He pays with his card and walked out the store without the receipt. We hooked him up with a girl who is agressive in bed. He told us they are about to have sex. I'm scare he might call the police on her thinking shes trying to accuse him of rape.

Last year my mother past of breast cancer and there's this girl my dad has every weekend nothing's going on I think but flirting. I don't think I can move on from my mother, need help.

My parents are making my sister go to therapy so they can find out why she can't relate to other teens. My sister is trying to refuse to go. She wants our parents to just let her be. I agree that she's always been a little unusual, but she seems happy with her current life. My parents disagree with "just letting her be". They say she obviously is not meeting the expected milestones of a 13 year old so they have to do something about it. Her school work seems fine, it's just the interests and friendships that are younger than her real age

I'm a second mom/maid/everything! When my grandpa was alive I was also caring for him. My mom is 44, I have 2 young sisters & with my last sister she wasn't plan so it made my parents not sleep with eachother for yrs because she was scared. Now they do & my uncle that isn't a nice person call me one day saying my grandma did tarot cards & saw my mom is going to have another kid (not true) my face turned blue, my mom notice & she kept asking & I believe she already overheard. I then told her & she said "you believe him?" I told her he said I'll be stuck she said "how'll you be stuck? Why would I have a kid near 50? Maybe for you it is". She kept saying maybe it's showing the kid I was supposed to have when she was 15 but miscarriage. I said maybe it'll be a surprise she said "stoooop" with a hand gesture. I ask her why she kept asking like she was worry she said because of you. She said my cousin told her my last sister was the last child. My mom complains she hasn't live life hasn't even drive & she's going to be 45 she's done but yet shes on no form of birth control, she doesn't check her ovulations, always ask me when was her last period. My dad never got no vasectomy. A yr it's been since they bought condoms. For a yr now they use condoms & the thin ones sometimes before they use it more I'm so confused by it if she has gotten pregnant by accident twice, knows she can still get pregnant, & didn't have sex for yrs due to being scared & said god forbid about being pregnant

I am upset because I only ever seem to see people talk about children with autism where their parents are taking care of them and the parents are frustrated. However, my mom is living with her girlfriend in another state and refuses to take care of HER 34 year old son who has autism, so I have to do it because no one else will. I just turned 33 and my brother will be 35 in August, and I was watching an episode of Sesame Street where a character has autism and big bird was asking the character something 2 or 3 times and the character didn't respond and the man said he might have to ask a few times, and that is EXACTLY what my brother does and it irritates the hell out of me. I also feel like he is doing it on purpose, because he always does it and it seems like he never learns anything! Like I will try to ask him a question or ask if he can help me do something, and I could ask 2 or 3 times but he doesn't respond so I just feel like he is ignoring me on purpose. Then I get pissed off and end up doing it myself, and if I say anything later on he just says he could have helped me, but he wouldn't respond when I asked for help! I just want to know if there is anything at all I can do that might make my brother stop acting this way? I just really need help. And why is he acting this way when he is 34? Like why does it seem like he never learns to change his behavior even when he sees that it bothers people??

February (we are roommates). This has drained all of my money because it is an extra $100-150 per month that is not my half. I am told that I am being irresponsible because I should be able to cover my own expenses AND my sister's utilities, even though that was not in my original agreement. I make $800 per month, rent + utilities + cellphone + car is $700-750 per month, so any minute saving I had was spent on my sister's utilities and this month I can't cover everything like I had been. I feel it is really unfair that I am considered the irresponsible one when she is the one who can't cover her bills and lead to my money shortage. When I refused to cover her utilities my parents had a shitfit and told me I am ripping the family apart.

someone isn't flushing the toilet she doesn't clean correctly she doesn't park the car correctly she bought ice cream bars but they had caramel and chocolate and I prefer just chocolate she says I criticize her and her daughter too much and give her headaches and they are gonna live in their car she spends too much money eating elsewhere or at friends house She feels like she can't use the kitchen because I follow her around panicking and fussing and making sure she does not make a mess She feeds her dog people food She is pissed I yelled her daughter for getting snacks out of my kitchen her kid slurps water out of a bottle like an animal They both make crunchy sound when they eat On top of the fridge is making tons of noise that no one hears but me she gave her kid some of the ribs my memaw brought over for all of us and used a almond milk yogurt which is very expensive and I don't think she should have bought it.I wanted those ribs all for myself b ecause I pay the most rent. she says I am way too dramatic for no reason and make them both nervous which is why they spill things more also her daughter is 8 and she is not that bad. this seems to be a pattern with me I keep driving people away I don't feel my standards are high though

I just finished my third year of college and my parents are MAKING me get a summer job. The thing is, I don't need a job. I have all my college expenses paid for and plus I get a lot of allowance every week to live on. They are saying that they are tired of me sitting at home all summer but the truth is, I have things to do so I don't have time for a job. I have to go on dates, go to parties, go on shopping sprees, and go on vacation with my friends, etc. My schedule is already full.