Ok, so Ive been 15 since April, and my friends and grandma gave me some birthday money (Only saying them since that s the only money in question) and so one night I accidentally broke my sister s school computer charger, and so the next day I gave her 40 dollars to pay out of pocket for it. She comes back with the receipt, doesnt let me see it and says that the tax was eight dollars out of pocket. I told her that the media center lady said it was 35 flat, and she said they added tax. and so I gave her an extra two dollars so it was even. I then thought about how the lady said it was only 35, checked with her and she said they don t do taxes. So I found out my sister stole 7 dollars from me. I confronted her about it, and she won t give it back because I apparently broke 2 phone chargers when I didn t. So my grandma had given me 20 dollar bill for my birthday and I set it down like a week ago and the next day it was gone. Now, take note that my family doesn t usually clean the house until the weekend, and I left it on the table on Monday. Two days ago I asked my mom and sister where they put the money, and they both say they don t know. I ask my sister if she stole the money and she said that my dad had given her 20 dollars. Fishy already in my eyes. So yesterday I had marching band practice with my sister, and afterwards we go to Burger King to get a treat. Lone behold she pulls out a 20 dollar bill. Asked dad he didn t give her any. She s 19 and very immature. What do I do?

So... Lately I've really been wanting to go to LA. Like really bad. I would love to do some kind of acting, and I really want to sing. The deal is, I'm 13, so my parents will definitely not let me go by myself. My dad works, and my mom would have to stay with my siblings. I was wanting to go with a close family friend...I just don't think my parents will ever let me go. Like you have no clue how much I want to go, I'm stuck with my annoying siblings, and I just want a little break. How do I convince my parents to let me go with somebody? plzzzz respond

Hi, my whole life I've never really liked my name in all honesty that i was given at birth. And I have thought for a long time on wanting to change my name. I'm alright with my first name will be more than happy to use it as a middle name if that will make them happy. I'm over 18 and can pay for it got all paper work i need in order to change the name . I just don't feel connected, happy or any joy with my name but when i use the name i gave myself. I feel pride and power that i can use for confidence. What would you recommend to do to change your name but not offend your parents at the same time.

My fiance and I are expecting our first child. My mother is against us getting married b/c he is white and I am black and he's twice my age. She calls me at work, at home so much so that she has stressed me to the point that I was having contractions and I'm only 5 months along. While I was in the hospital my mom was trying to bar my fiance from seeing me but I signed to have him as my healthcare proxy. Now that I am home she calls all day to the point that my fiance and I just communicate via FB Messenger b/c I have turned my phone off. She can't visit me b/c she has to go through concierge in our condo and we have told them she is not allowed so she just calls all day and all night. We are considering getting a restraining order of some sort, but thought if we just eloped legally that would bar her from anything as he would then be my next of kin. I have tried changing my phone number but she always seems to get it. What do you think about elopement?

I was sitting after a long day if fasting and studying from 10 am to 7:00 (this happened at 6 pm maybe) ) so we pranked a lot of our friends until they decided to call this teacher my friend knew and pretend to be an angry parents asking her why she costs so much money for doing illegal private lessons (he used my sister s phone) but then she called at 8 pm telling my sister that she had her number and that she ll take it to the cops and my sister told her she had nothing to do with her and asked for personal info and of she said nothing expects lies but she told her her real name out of panic . My sis called back (after the last phone call where she asked for forgiveness a million times) and said she won t do anything about it since she didin t call herself and the teacher didn t understand but my sister made clear hug up blocked the number and took the din card off

My brother (16) has been having serious depression issues and having major suicidal thoughts. However, after discussing his suicidal thoughts with his therapist last summer, his therapist decided that he was a danger to himself and had him admitted at to a hospital mid-session. It was pretty tough for him because it was so out of the blue and they ended up having to physically and chemically restrain him and he had to be treated for a pretty long time because he refused to cooperate because he wasnt in control and it became a vicious cycle. He didnt cooperate because they tried to force and control him, they kept pushing for more control because he wouldn't cooperate. Anyway, his depression has been spiraling again and has admitted that he's in a bad place and ready to end it say, literally "I apologize in advance". I'm not sure what to do because he has already develop really bad trust issues, especially with therapists because they "betrayed" him and I dont want our relationship to end like that. But he has been saying some scary things lately. What should I do? Our parents are aware that he's getting worse but they have decided to bury their heads in the sand to "keep the peace" because things seem relatively calm now, compared to last year.

My wife and I have 1 daughter together and she had 1 daughter from a previous relationship. I see my step daughter as my own and have been taking care of her since she was an infant, but her biological father is still in her life as well. We want to try for one more, but she wants to use a sperm donor so my step daughter doesn t fell like she isn t fully apart of our family. I think we should have our third child together and just be understanding and supportive of the issues that may arise with my step daughter.

Right now I'm currently living with my parents and I've been dealing with my mom who has been mentally physically and emotionally abusive my ENTIRE life. I try to give her the benefit of the doubt, I tried talking to her, explaining to her how hurt I've been throughout the years, her abuse has damaged my self esteem and I have major anxiety that I'm struggling to overcome. I'm in my mid 20's btw. My mom picks fights with me everyday for no reason. I'm thinking about just cutting her off and only keeping in contact with my other relatives cause I can't take this anymore.my mom is very controlling and if you don't move exactly like how she wants you to or be her puppet she loses her mind. I remember when I spent the night with my boyfriend one time and she lost her sanity and called everybody in town calling me a b**** and a $lut. I keep hoping she will change but she won't so I just need to cut her off. My boyfriend can be controlling but not nearly as bad as my mom. He's never put his hands on me the entire 4 years we've been together and said he wouldn't ever in the future. I wanted to wait to live together but we might have to live together now because I can't afford rent on my own and I still have all this credit card debt I'm trying to make off because I stupidly racked up debt when I was I only 18

My sister found some pot ( marijuana) in her bedroom and told me she was a pot-head. She was adopted form a Moscow, Russian orphanage when she was very young and speaks English well and has just graduated from a two-year college. She is 21. She is otherwise disciplined and a nice person. They had an argument and she now lives with a friend nearby and has no transportation. She has a job at a nursing home. I feel my sister over-reacted to this. What do you think? What do yoiu think.

Quick background: I am a college graduate, worked a full time job making good money, quit and am now starting a new full time job, and I live at home with my parents. The only time I've lived away from home was in college for a semester when I studied abroad in Italy. So anyway, I still feel 18 years old on the inside like I haven't grown and I hate working and I hate responsibilities and I just don't know what to do to GROW. My friends are suggesting I move out so I can learn financial responsibility but I don't know if that's the ultimate solution here. Any advice would be great- thanks! Also- my next plan is to travel solo for 6 months after my 25th birthday so I think that will help too

Ok so my friends and I were talking about family and how my sister is her own cousen and somehow we got to asking the question can a sister in law marry a brother in law? Like husband has a brother, and wife has a sister, can those siblings marry each other is that illegal?

The date is on Saturday. I've tried texting her to talk to her about her day. And she barely replies. Yesterday she told me she was busy. But today she is still not replying. Usually she'll reply at the end of the day. We don't talk that long like only a few texts and she'll reply a few hours between each text. Is this bad?

She doesn't like my fiance. I am five months pregnant and she keeps calling me all day and night calling me all sorts of names and harassing me telling me I get on her nerves. She has stressed me to the point I was having contractions so my dr put me on bed rest for the next three weeks. When I was in the hospital she tried to get him barred so he could not see me. My fiance wants to file for a restraining order so she can't contact either of us. Even though we are estranged I fee be doing this bc she is my mom. But I feel she is putting to much on me and thereby the baby. What should I do.

Why would they want to be in a sexless relationship? Do they plan on forcing her or trying to get her to sleep with him since she has never been with anyone and they want to be her first. I don't get why or even how he can stay in a relationship without sex when guys think about sex and are horny 24/7

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now. He's meeting my mother for the second time for dinner this weekend. I just don't want there to be any awkward silences. The first time they met it was very brief. What are conversations we can have?

One day some people or colleagues they insult me next day they are nice to me. I don't know why but it seems most people are just moody.

Keep in mind my mom has a background that includes physical and verbal abuse towards me as a child and grandma and I know she has issues and shes crazy. I think shes most certainly a sociopath. Everytime I go to my friend's house to spend the night/hangout mom will text me in all caps, "GET YOUR A$$ HOME NOW" " YOURE NOT GROWN" And call me over X3 yelling at me on why I havent talked to her. Lets say this: Im at my friends house, I want to relax from work because she gives me hel at work, home and college stuff and also everytime I try to talk to her she would cut me off by yelling and cursing at me and making up a very dumb reason for the situation. Yeah. Shes that kind of person. For an example if I changed my mind about donating $50 to a girl I dont know that mom told me about and ahe gets mad at tells me Im not going to work tomorrow (shes the assistant manager at our job) and she'll most likely make up a reason to tell to our boss. I cannot calmly have a conversation on what she does and say and about the situation. She would go over the top to get at me. One time she blame me on breaking her curling iron that cost $100 and I dont touch it but the reason why she blames me is because we share the same bathroom. She has occasionally stolen my money on my first months working with her at my 1st job and lied about it.

It helps those people understand why he acts differently. Every time I mention autism, they remind me that it doesn't define my brother and he's so much more than that. They've already lectured me on it 1000 times but still feel the need to remind me, in case I forget. If people were to ask my parents about my brother, they'll just simply say he's socially delayed but can still succeed later on. They don't mention autism. I'm just telling them the truth, that's all.

Hi, I will try to not make this too long but a lot has happened! I have 3 sisters 1 brother, I m the oldest of us me and my kids I have 3 young kids and my sister her husband and 2 young kids live with my brother, the house we live in was my parents,my dad died unexpectedly the house got foreclosed,mom was devastated along with us kids, my mom said she wanted her house back asked my brother to get it back,she paid his debts to make his credit well enough to do this, he bought it along with my daughter in law, mom died in 2011 ,fast forward,my brother brought his g/f that he s been on and off with for the last couple years here from Tennessee to live along with her 2 kids,her kids and mine dont get along also his g/f and me or my sister dont get along,I guess she said she was leaving my brother comes to me and my sister telling at us the other day saying why dont u like her it ended up in a verbal fight between me and him,he tells me get out I have til July I told him take me to court he said he will,can he kick me and my sis out? We dont want to go this was my parents house,he s hurt me pretty bad with this,my mom had told him take care of your sister s b4 she died the whole kicker is his g/f is using him I ve heard her on the phone with her mom,yes I told my bro he doesn t care! This has made me so sad the way he s acting! The deed says his name/daughter in laws name,ty in advance

I really want to enjoy this years and will be really bummed if I cannot enjoy it. The reason for me being in the dumps is that I want to be enjoying myself and so automatically my mind gets depressed. Same deal happens when I travel and at Christmas. I am fine the rest of the time. Any ideas on what I should do?

It has always been a close family but tensions are under the surface. Then in the last 15 years tensions have grown. Now two aunts are in a World War with both mentally deranged against the other. Both consumed with hatred for the other that eats at them like a massive tumor and yet both deny it. An uncle will not speak to one of the two sisters and thus his kids are barred from a celebration with the aunts kids. Shots have been fired behind people's back but never a full large scale breakup. My mother plays peacemaker for her parents but when they die I see my mother exploding and disowning all her siblings minus maybe one. A family friend is in World War 3 with her sister over their parents estate. Even posting on Facebook about it. I see my Mom's sister doing this. I fear a massive war breaking out in my mother's family. An estate war like nothing ever seen in mankind history. Favoritism is big in my mother's family. We, the grandkids, are usually more mature then that but my mother's generation, like her father's generation before her, believes in war within the family. So how do I keep this war from breaking out? I am 29 so an adult but I sense an attack right after the funerals are over. Both grandparents are old, their days are numbered and the tensions are building.

When i was 2, my parents divorced and my father obtained custody of me. My father never told me why my mother lost the custody battle but i suspect something happened. Anyway, my father raised me and my father was also very abusive. When i was 17, i left my father to move in with my mother (who was living with her mother at the time). Unbeknownst to me, my grandmother was at her wits end because she didn't want my mom living with her and her other kids too (i have a small half sister and half brother who were really small also living there). My grandmother wanted quit, but then i moved in. Again, i didn't know better i was still a kid myself and my mother told me it was ok to move in with her so i didn't know any better. My grandmother was extremely rude and distant towards me from the moment i moved in. House rules were never layed out, and i came from a home where no house cleaning happened, so i really didn't know what i was supposed to do. i just saw my grandmother as upset so i think i tried to stay away from her also. i would be sitting watching a tv and grandmother would bang dishes everywhere out of frustration that i wasn't helping with the dishes (instead of just telling me) My grandmother told my mother that i was a pre-madonna. My mother told me what grandma said and i cried. Again, house rules were never explained and i was just a kid. I would have helped out in any way i was asked! I feel like i went from one abusive home to another one. I should mention that I did help out in many other ways including taking care of my other siblings (which actually meant I did everything) including sending them off to school and cooking breakfast and making them lunch. I was the one home at the end of the day and I helped them do their homework also so don't think I did nothing.

Yesterday I was driving home from shopping and I saw my nephew with his friend, (his friend was born here but his parents are from Mexico) I stopped the car to talk to my nephew and during our conversation his friend took a cell phone call and began speaking in Spanish, I was appalled, when the call ended I asked him why he was speaking in his own language in front of me when I speak English, he said it was his Grandmother and she only speaks Spanish, I said that she should learn the language and then the little **** said it is none of my business what language his family speaks, I told my nephew to be a man and give him a punch and end the friendship and he said "No" I said "I am a woman and am frightened by a MAN speaking a foreign language in my presence as I have no idea what he is saying" my nephew said "I understood him perfectly well" I scoffed and told my nephew that he can't speak Spanish and apparently he can. Now I am not a Trump supporter (as a feminist I hate him) but I still think if you come to America you should only speak English. My nephew is still friends with this man and told me I am in the wrong. I have told the whole family about the incident and they are shocked too, his parents and siblings are saying he was sticking up for his friend and did the right thing! What should I do?

I am 22 years old, and I have graduated undergrad. I have a job, but literally my entire paycheck goes into paying for my grad school tuition. I have maybe $20 left in my bank account after I pay my tuition. My parents graciously have allowed me to live at home while I am in grad school still. I am really self-conscious about it because I feel like a dead beat and a leech, but I literally would be either on the streets or unable to continue grad school if I didn't live with them. One of my professors made a pretty snarky comment in class about boomerang kids, and a few of the other students in my class who know I live with my parents shot me a look, and I think my professor caught on because he suddenly looked kinda shocked and sorry he said anything. It was incredibly embarrassing. Is it normal to go back home after undergrad? Should I be as embarrassed about it as I am?

I have a lot of siblings, but because of personal issues, I did online high school this year. I am the only one and I just found out how much they spend on me to do it. At first I thought it was cheap because they pay monthly, but I slack off and now it's too late and I realized they've been paying for eight months when realistically I could've gotten it done in much less time. So the money has now added up. My parents have always been very comfortable with money, and still are, but have only barely cut down recently because of other reasons, but I still feel super guilty. The price isn't also THAT much, but they don't pay for anyone else. Also the end of the month is approaching and I'm still not done, i was trying to finish before May so they don't have to pay for me anymore but I am not sure if I can do it. not all of it has had to do with me being lazy and just not doing it, I have been generally busy these past few months which has slowed me down. The first semester went by in about 2 or 3 months. The second semester took me since January until now; May. Also, to mention, they have not complained yet about the fact that they pay every month, almost as if they forgot. I have huge guilt though and feel stressed and sad over it. Even in other cases such as going to the mall, my mom will give me her card but instinctively I don't even consider buying that much. Anyway, that's my rant, I just feel bad and needed to get it off my chest.

My parents were divorced but my father is just trying to keep contact with me and he would be so angry because he has an aggressive personality.

Hey 15 year old and not a biology major so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. My older sister constantly feels the need to rub it in that when I get kicked in the nuts (she does it often and is abusive, but my parents don't really notice or care). I've never hit her back because I was either in pain or I just don't really want to strike someone but I'm pretty sure that still hurts girls too right? Fair enough lol, I meant if hit in the groin not the nuts but I'll give you points for smart assery

Lost lots of weight and studied hard.. My family is angry and I have no friends But I wanted to tell someone 🥺

I'm turning 17 in two days but my parents haven't mentioned anything about it. I know this isn't the biggest thing but they haven't cared for my brithday ever since I was 12. Every year I sit at home and do nothing. Last year I had to buy my own cake and probably have to do the same this year. It just that I feel like they don't care about anything like that and I feel somewhat sad about it. I know birthdays aren't the biggest deal but it's not just my birthday but also on holidays and special events also. Like asked them to go to my band concert and award ceremony but they never come. I just feel a little unloved or uncared about. But is this situation really a big deal?

So, let's start at the beginning. My parents wanted two children. My sister was three at the time. My mom found out that she was having twins. My brother came first, then me 22 minutes later. Fast forward to now, my sister is 16 and me and my brother are 13. I always think I was the unwanted child and my siblings and mother don't help me think otherwise. Let's start with my brother. He is an ignorant douche bag that thinks the world revolves around him. He picks fights for literally no reason. He is always involved in girl drama but claims he doesn't like it but one time he told me it makes his life a little more "exciting". He has anger issues and depression but that doesn't give him an excuse for anything. He always complains I'm a jerk to him but my parents never see my side of the story; he can be a real jack ***. He only showers every 1.5 weeks to 3 weeks. He also doesn't know what deodorant is, it's nasty. Let's talk about my sister now. She's half decent even though she can be a jerk sometimes. Now my God damn mother. She is a verbally abusive piece of ****. Even if I make a small mistake, she causes me out along with excessive amounts of yelling and screaming. She can't resolve a single issue without saying F u C k at least 5 times and only yelling. It might help if she could talk normally to solve issues rather than yelling. She has depression. My dad said he used to take the medicine she's taking and he would get pissed off if anybody told him he need a biggerdose *cusses not caused I know a lot of other kids have it harder than me but I just needed to vent real quick, thx;

Hello. I'm 20. My parents are both 50. I just learned all of this. Basically my dad cheated on my mom when she was planning their wedding, then kept cheating after they got married and he got HIV. They found out he had HIV after I was born. My mom and him were trying to conceive, and shes just somehow didn't get it. At the time he thought he had 5 years left. My mom was violently depressed and said I was the only thing that made her happy during this time. My dad then cheated on her when I was 4 with a random woman at an airport. My mom's relationship with her dad was really bad so she didn't want to leave my dad and have me be away from him. Then my dad got really rich so she continued to stay. Last month my dad tried to have sex with my mom's best friend, and she's in the process of trying to get her own apartment as a "trial" separation. My mom needs to leave him. That's not in question. But I'm just grossed out. My mom looks like a model and is wonderful, my dad did a lot of drugs in his youth so he honestly looks like trash and I'm just not sure why he's trying to do better because there isn't better. It's weird because we do a decent amount of family activities (They live in CA, I go to college in Boston), but I don't really want to anymore because it's not even real. I don't know. Any advice?

I'm a 17 year old girl, and he is 14 years old. My brother whines, cries, complains, stomps his feet, and slams doors. He thinks the world revolves him, as if other people don't exist at all. If he's asked to do chores or go downstairs, he rolls his eyes. My parents threaten to take his laptop away, but never actually confiscates it. He's been allowed to have his own personal smartphone and laptop in his room since he was 11 years old. Three years later, he's completely addicted to video games. It's causing fights between him and my parents, so I hear lots of yelling over minor things that can be resolved if he were just a little more considerate. My brother did not used to be like his until he hit 7th grade. Suddenly, he became more lazy and pushed boundaries. He'll ask why he has to do this or follow this rule, if somebody enforces it. If he disagrees, he'll get upset or start arguments. I've already caught on and ignore him whenever he tries to do it with me. It helps because he'll realize that it's boring and pointless to argue with someone who does not argue back. My parents haven't caught on yet, although I've told them that he probably just does it to push boundaries.

My brother found an apartment in another state cheaper then our area and plans to move out in a month or so. But he says he is permanently cutting all contact with us once he's moved out. We asked if we did anything, because this is something only people who have dealt with abusive people. But he said no that our parents have always been there for him and that I was the best little brother he could ask for. "I'm an adult. I shouldn't be having contact with my parents if I want to be independent." My mother and father are upset. We've always been very family oriented and had family over for holidays every year. We've always been very close. But my brother is insistent in cutting all contact permanently and that is will be blocking and deleting our numbers from his phone and not giving us his address. We keep asking if we did anything wrong but he keeps saying that he's not breaking contact for that reason but because he needs to be independent. His girlfriend heard his plans from him and she doesn't agree with him breaking contact at all. Can anyone give me advice to change his mind?

I'm an adult now and still doesn't feel comfortable around him why?

Okay so I'm 19 and I'm from India. From what I've been told; my mom died during my birth, and my dad didn't want anything to do with me. Then I was adopted by my aunt, who abused me for "killing her sister". When I was around 8 I moved to Germany and later to the US where I live now. Is it weird to get upset when thinking about my biological parents?

My mom noticed it when I was a toddler in preschool too. I cannot read body language well, I hate eye contact, and I always say or do the wrong things (NOT on purpose). I've tried to train myself. In some ways, it's gotten better.. but I still cannot make friends. They probably notice things about me that I have no idea about. At some point, I still accidentally say the wrong thing or they suddenly don't want me around. Once kids turn about 11-12 years old, they begin to spot my social awkwardness in a way that I don't understand how. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I just can't have friendships. Every time I talk to somebody, they'll notice something weird after a 10 minute conversation and distance from me. People say there's something quirky and unusual about the way I act and speak. I don't know what it is

My mom is just naturally getting old and my dad has Parkinson's. As time moves forward it gets harder and harder for my mom to do things for them, so me and my sister help out. My life has been on hold for a while because I have to do things for them and I'm getting tired of doing it. I want to move on and I especially want to move to a different city because I'm tired of living where I live. I also need to seriously attend to my future retirement needs and I'll only be able to that if I move and get a way better paying job. They'll be able to afford to live in an assisted living facility because they both collect social security and get separate retirement from their former career jobs. Plus, when they sell the house they'll have access to a lot of tax free equity because they're both well over the age of 55. I feel bad about thinking this way but I need to move on. And Pearl L, don't answer, I don't want your opinion.

Hi, I m 16 years old and my granddad caught me smoking a cigarette in the barn (first mistake). I don t think he said anything to the family because i came back from a walk to clear my head and stop shaking and sat down at the kitchen table where i was expecting to get punished but he nothing happen. my aunt just smiled at me because she could tell i was distressed and my grandma pulled out a order out menu from somewhere. He wont look at me in the eyes and i think he thinks i m gonna grow up to be a loser (mostly cause he has told me that my whole life). i m scared and don t know how to feel about this.

My brother is an addict and he steals from people. He's even stolen from our family. I haven't let him step foot in my home. In fact, I don't even like to put my return address on letters I send him because I do not want him knowing where I live. And that being said, as far as letters, I am tired of sending him letters to different addresses on a monthly basis because he cannot stay out of jail. He gets out, stays good for a month or so, then back in jail again. And of course he wants everyone to write him. But I am tired of it. I have a very busy life. I have a full time job, my partner and I are trying to find a place together, and I just do not have the time or energy to chase my brother all over the state to keep in contact with him. Am I awful for just not writing anymore? I love him but he is doing this stuff to himself. It would be different if he was military or had some kind of career where he was moving a lot. But this is monthly and it's because he can't keep clean and out of trouble. He's almost 30 now and I have been an encouraging voice for him for over a decade (he's had drug problems since high school). And nothing I ever say to him, be it tough love or encouragement, ever sticks anyway. I am ready to just be done with it. Not with him. I'll always hope and pray he heals. The rest of my family has had it too. We have all tried with no avail. Do I need to just let go and let him figure it out? There has also been times where I have written him and he has asked for stuff. He was in jail for his birthday and his letter back to a heartfelt happy birthday letter I wrote him was him wanting me to give him a little birthday money. That's kind of the straw that broke the camel's back.