For me, my salary for 3 months (net) is just over $10,000. Do you ladies even know how long it takes to save $10,000? It can take 1 year or longer. So do you actually want your man to spend that much on a ring, or would you rather that money goes toward a house or the wedding/honeymoon cost? Or would you rather have him spend like that and then a house will have to come many years later? But hey, you got a ring to brag to your girlfriends right?

Is cash or gift card better?

Going to a wedding today. I originally thought they were just asking for donations to their honeymoon fund, but found out they actually have a registry as well. I planned on just buying a gift after the wedding for them, but now my mom is saying I really need to get them a gift today...at least a check and card. What do I do? First time going to a wedding on my own btw.

I want to propose to my gf but I can't decide how much I should spend on a ring and would like to get some suggestions on what you guys might have paid so I can make a call I know I want it to be $500 or more but I just don't know how much would be to much. not that I would not give her the most expensive one if I could I just don't wanna put to much into it that I feel it was a burden like I would not mind spending $3,000 on a ring for her but at the same time if I could have bought a ring for $1,000 at lest we could have used the rest to make it awesome what do you guys think. I need this advise I make 28k a year to put this **** into perspective I can take care of myself same with her but i wanna do this on my own I want it to be a surprise cause I only get to propose once and I don't wanna wait years cause as you see I make **** money but I fear what people think I fear that she will just think I could not afford a good enough ring. you know sorry about my fears yall. just want to thank you all for your advice and the guy who showed me I put advise not advice lol. if I could have gave you all best answer I would have.

Newly engaged and I started brainstorming about venues and color schemes. I wanted my parents and my fiances parent to compile a list of majority of our family members and we will pick who we want there. My family did it without a problem whereas my fiances parent questioned my reasoning. This really irritated me. Upon talking to my fiance he explained that it was too early to start planning but I informed him that I was brainstorming to get an idea of what size venue would be needed and to start saving for it. The conversation ended very badly and the whole wedding talk won't happen until he gets his dream income. I was so excited about thinking of different ideas that now I feel like I am being robbed of being able to think about my wedding and honestly no longer excited nor looking forward to others having an influence on our wedding. Opinions? TIA When wedding brainstorming goes wrong... Thanks to all the replies. The issue has been resolved! It was a simple case of bad communication and others assuming. Asking for a list of people WAS NOT seen as being rude.