He's my son's father who chose to move to Mexico and isn't physically apart of our son's life. He doesn't provide for our son at all, he claims that he's "looking for a job" but he's been traveling around Mexico partying. I've really just thrown in the towel and went on without him. He doesn't like that too much because he's always trying to play petty games. I'm not sure why? What does expect?

I am the type of person that is so nervy and get so worried a lot. Daily and hourly, on Twitter, I often speak to this Christian minister I had been listening on the radio for a long time . I figured that someone instead of him sent my mom note that she never expected and seemed very shocked. About 8 minutes later, I am so scared that I reminded my mom that I'm very afraid about that message. I never told her that I talk to this pastor on social media. With a furious look on her face, she told me, "Could you please shut up and stop provoking problems with me." Well, the minister has been wanting me to give out some money, but I'm starting to think there is something fishy about him and the people who work for him. At this point of my life, I really question if religious institutions are really just filled with hypocritical people who brainwash their children and people. around them. I don't deserve to live around some like her. I really wish I could have traded moms before. She has beaten me before and forced me to become silent.

This is a very scary thing for me because my social life is pretty much the only aspect of my life that I enjoy. They they are doing this because they want me to be more involved with my family and a better member of it, but isolating me socially seems like a manipulative and kind of ****** up way of doing that. It has only been half of a week and I already feel very alone.

So here's the story. My little sister just recently told me she was raped by our cousin back in the mid 80s. She was only around 4 yrs old at that time so didn't really know what to think of it but as she grew up, she knows that it was rape. No one else in our family knows about this. The only reason she told me was because we had an intense discussion on another topic which leads to her telling me about this. I wanted to do something about it, but she said it's been over 30 years and they probably can't do anything, plus she doesn't want to go through the whole time consuming interviewing process. I'm just upset because that happened to my little sister. I just don't think someone, especially a cousin could do this and get away. Anyone have suggestions on what I can do for my sister?

My family was talking about how social media is a dangerous place because of the creepers lurking. My 19 year older brother chimed in, bragging about how he has multiple fake accounts to spy on and chase away predators that are online and he called himself the "internet batman." Our 12 year old sister said that people might think he's the predator. Hours later, he told me and our sister that he forgot what the word "predator" meant and asked us to explain it to him and our sister asked him if he was really that stupid. How can people be this dumb? Can someone explain?

My grandparents are up from Florida for the week and I think my grandfather made an inappropriate comment towards me and idk what to do. I'm home from college for the summer and my grand parents had come up for my cousin's event and everything was normal until today. I was doing dishes and my grandfather comes up from behind me and hugs me from behind and hands me a 5 dollar bill I totally disregard it like it was nothing. Now this is where it gets creepy I went to put something away and he stops me and says "will you do something for me that is good for $20" and I tried to act stupid and be like I dont know what he meant but he wouldn't go into detail. Now I'm scared to know what he meant, the thing is he is never like this and never was so I'm so shocked. The issue also is it was memorial day weekend and my parents are going away for the weekend and my brother is working the overnight shift from 7pm to 7 am and I'm afraid to be alone with him. I also dont want to tell anyone because my father will probably literally kill him and it will create family drama and I feel like my family will think I'm lying. I'm also so surprised because my grandfather has never done anything like this and he is like 80 so I dont think he understands what he is doing.

She is 21 and i am 24. I was talking to this girl. We agreed to go on a date and then she got pretty distant and was barely texting me leading up to the date. Then she cancelled and told me shes not in a good place to be dating right now. She told me shes barely sleeping or eating because she worries deeply for her brother who almost died from a seizure a couple days ago. I told her I'm sorry and stuff. And she told me she needed time to heal and she's not sure how long that's going to take but she's not asking me go wait for her. And I asked if this is good bye because I don't want it to be. And she didn't reply for a few hours. Then she said she doesnt want to lead me on. And she said I could give you my Snapchat if you really want it and really want to stay in contact with me but I'm not sure when I'll be on to message you when I am ready. I am not sure how long it'll take me to heal and that's why I am hesitant to give you any contact info. So she gave me her Snapchat name and said, I want you to really think about if you want to stay in contact with me because we are probably not going to talk for a long time. And I texted her back 3 minutes later that I added her. Then she said oh ok bye and got off. (We are on fb btw) so she hasn't been on fb for a few days and hasn't been on Snapchat either. I was thinking at what point do I realize she'll never contact me ever again? Do you think she'll ghost me? How do I know I am being ghosted?

After loosing several loved ones, back to back, on separate occasions. I have had a hard time coping with the loses and have notice myself growing distant from my remaining loved ones, mainly out of fear that I might loose them and wont be able to cope. I guess I've convinced myself that if I distance myself from them emotionally, it wouldn't hurt as much. Am I crazy? Idk, it sounds crazy but makes sense in my head. I feel like its safer just to withhold love and care.

So I recently found out that my younger sister was raped or was Sexually assaulted by our cousin back in the 80s. She was only 4 or 5 yrs old at the time. She didn't tell anyone about it until something came up recently and she finally told me about it. Noone else in the family knows anything about it. Growing up, I thought our cousin was cool and all but after finding out about what he did, I'm very upset. I told my sister we had to do something about it. She said it's been over 30 years, probably nothing can be done about it. She also said she doesn't want to make a big deal of it now and don't Want to go through all the interviews by the investigators since it happened so long ago. She just wants to let it go. So now, I'm reaching out to anyone who can give me some advice on what I can do for my sister. She's been carrying this weight on her shoulders for so long. Maybe by telling me it helped unload some of the weight, but the pain from inside will never fully heal.

My family was talking about how social media is a dangerous place because of the creepers lurking. My 19 year older brother chimed in, bragging about how he has multiple fake accounts to spy on and chase away predators that are online and he called himself the "internet batman." Our 12 year old sister said that people might think he's the predator. Hours later, he told me and our sister that he forgot what the word "predator" meant and asked us to explain it to him and our sister asked him if he was really that stupid. How can people be this dumb? Can someone explain?

Many years ago my mom was in a car accident. When she got out of the hospital the doctors told her she had to have some one with her to take care of her for 5 days until she was able to take care of herself. It would have been very hard for me to get off work so my husband Jason took care of mom for the 5 days. Mom fully recovered thanks in part to the great care Jason gave her. Mom is going to have surgery soon and she wants Jason to take care of her again for a few days when she gets out of the hospital. The problem is Jason is now my ex husband and I have remarried. I told mom that even though we had a friendly divorce I didn't think I could ask Jason to do what she wants. She said I will ask him myself and she did and he readily agree to take care of her. I really have mixed feelings about this. I know Jason will give mom great care. It is almost impossible for me to take the time off to care for her and hiring a private nurse would cost way more money than I have. My current husband is upset that mom is asking my ex to help her but at the same time he does not want to do it. Should I just be grateful that mom will great care after her surgery and that Jason will do if for free because he really likes mom and she likes him and that is what really matters?

So this is kind of tricky. So I'm still living in my parents house I'm 22 years old my mom pays the bills. I have a seasonal job that pays just enough but not really enough to live on my own yet. I give my mom hundreds and hundreds of dollars to help with anything she needs help with. My dad pretty much does nothing he is disabled but he can still move around and stuff. Doesn't help with bills or anything, he just kind of comes and goes as he pleases. Now the main point of this is that recently I was able to buy my first car. My dad seen it on the way home from his friends house and said it looked cool which I was looking for a car anyways so I asked him to show me. I had around $1400 cash saved up but I needed insurance on it and the only one there was my dad so I had to put it in his name. Should I have a say so on if he could drive it? If I've bought the tires, a new ac unit? Also I let my dad drive it to see my older brother in another state, and he ended up crashing it, now it's been over a year finally saving my own money to even get the car home. Before you ask my mom pays the car insurance of course I help whenever I can. Ps i believe I can't really tell my mom if she can drive it or not because she literally pays everything.

I'm 23 years old and haven't moved away from the house yet. When my brother graduated high school, my mom bought him his first car. When I graduated, my mom wasn't able to and didn't want to finance anything. During this time, my mom wouldn't let me drive her car much because she wasn't sure of my driving. When I was about 20, my dad financed my first new car (GRATEFUL) My mom has an older car and my older brother has an older car as well. My brother's been away at school about 2 hours away for the past 5 years. I've already graduated and started my career and I now work from home (since October 2018). During our snowy winter(December-February) i let my mother drive my car everyday with NO hesitation. Her car had some issues and i didn't want her on the road in bad conditions. In April, my mom needed new tires and resorted to driving my car again. It's now may, and my brother needs my mom to fix his car while he's away at school and my mom has to drive my car again until the car is fixed... it's going on a month now and whenever i ask about it, she gets very defensive.

Recently my boyfriend of 17 years lost his job. He's been looking, but so far no bites for the last 6 months. My life is kinda weird. Even though we've been together for 17 we've only lived together for about 2 years, because I help take care of my family; mom, 3 siblings and niece & nephew. My sister recently moved out but still pays $300 towards our family's rent. One brother doesn't work he's going to school, the other works at Wendy's. Recently the brother that works at Wendy's recked his best friends car, and is making payments to him. So needless to say that brother hasn't paid anything towards the house (rent, bills, food, etc) in about 2 months. There for I'm stuck with paying about $1300 a month towards my family's bills. I feel like I am being stretched to thin. I'm at a breaking point. What should I do? Cut back helping family or boyfriend?

I swear this is getting annoying my mom told me a week ago that im old enough(im actually 16 now) so she handled me my phone and said that she wont be asking about my phone anymore and i can take it with me to school and stuff and i have full freedom to use it anytime and anywhere and not even a month have passed she told my little sister to take away my phone while im asleep and put it in my mom and dads bedroom .And suddenly when i woke up i see that my phone isnt with me. This is actually being annoying can some one please help me ??? I cant take this anymore all my friend take their phones with them to schhol and keep it in their rooms and stuff and my mom doesnt even want me to lock my own phone. PLEASE GUYS IF YOU ARE READING THIS PLEASE HELP ME

I live in new castle pa. Not a lot of jobs around here. Barely any good ones. Average job is 9 dollars a hour. I was working in this place that payed 12 an hour which is a lot around her. Everage went is 600 to 700 a month. I had to move back in with my mom bacause my car payment was 300 a month, insurance 150, rent 700, and everything else things were too tight and I didnt have much lefts. My coworkers some of them had 2 cars and I was struggling with one at the time.

I'm a girl, a teen. Just a few minutes ago, because of me, the USB stick of my older sister doesn't work anymore so my father actually pushed me in the chest and ATTEMPTS to punch me in the face and then SAY to me that he'll punch me so hard that I'll knock my teeth out.

I sometimes sneak downstairs to get a snack late at night and I always see my dad playing games on his computer because he is an insomniac. He's like 50, so him playing computer games is weird to begin with, but also he is playing this real old WW2 game called Battlefield1942 and he always plays the Nazis team. He also wears this Nazi cap and listens to Nazi march song MP3s while he plays. He doesn't talk about racist stuff ever, but seeing him playing that game with that music and Nazi cap on scares the poop out of me. Is he dangerous? Should I report him to the cops? PS I am a 17 year old girl. His Nazi cap he wears is like the one in the picture https://cdn3.volusion.com/3fyq2.mno9q/v/vspfiles/photos/2114187-2.jpg?1490178191 Also he is half German and Half Italian and he likes to joke that his heritage is the Axis Powers which means the bad guys of WW2.

Yeah, what's up guys I'm 16 and a sophomore in high school and honestly, with all my heart I can say that I DESPISE her. She came into my life, turned my life into crap since I was 13, she broke my family apart, and because of her my father isn't with me anymore. He died due to suicide a year after the divorce. I DON'T care if her and my mom are in love like seriously. Nobody ever gave a s*** about how I felt when they divorced because for some stupid reason "I was too young to understand". People expect me to respect my mom's fiance and support but why the hell am I supposed to do that when this LGBT whore destroyed everything I've ever loved. I don't have a family anymore because of her. She makes me feel like an outsider whenever she's at home with my mom and my younger brother and sisters. When she's here it's like the only place I can hangout in is my bedroom. She's the cause of every misery in my life. I've had suicidal thoughts before, self harm, and intense anger. I really don't know what I should do. Can somebody help before I do something really crazy?

I remember when I was younger. My teens and all the way up to my mid twenties. I was rash, arrogant, made a lot of mistakes and failed to see the consequences of my actions. But you live and you learn. In a way I blame my father. Or blame is maybe the wrong word. I only have myself to blame but had my father been a real father things might have turned out differently. My father was more of a friend, big brother type. He wasn't interested in discipline, teaching and taking the tough decisions. He wanted to have fun and the most important person in his life was himself. Why my mom didn't leave him is beyond me. I recently got a son and I don't want to be like my father. I remember I had a friend who went in totally different direction than I did. I remember when we were young and his dad was this massive Goliath protecting his young. He was a no nonsense type of guy. Strict but fair, a hard @ss but for a reason. My friend never made the mistakes I did. I just wonder if your role as a father has that big of an impact on children. Can you be like my dad and still be "successful", for lack of a better word?

I'm 29 years old, a senior level mechanical engineer at an aerospace company, have a lovely girlfriend who's a nurse, and about to purchase my first home and my father is never satisfied with my life. He complains that my girlfriend is too dumb for me and that I should be dating a doctor and not a "lowly nurse", yet my girlfriend has her masters degree and that isn't even enough for my father. He thinks she's fat because she's 135 lbs and only will accept women under 120 lbs (in his own words), which is ironic because he's divorced and never remarried and barely dates anyone. He says that I'm stupid for not having my PhD in mechnical engineering and says that I should be living in a rich neighborhood and not buying a 300,000 house in a middle class neighborhood. And no, I'm not asian. My father only has a bachelor's degree and lives in a condo

Their kid has repeatedly tried to attack my dog when I'm around. His behaviour is violent and disturbed. Not only that, he scratched a neighbour child's face and planned it out. I keep all animals indoors now. His parents firmly said they don't believe he has a problem although it's obvious that his actions are not normal. They've told me that they don't want their son to be labelled, so they don't want therapy for him.

I'm only 15, and I still live with my mom. I want to move away my hometown because a lot of people here don't like me.. for my mistakes in the past. last month I was almost jumped. a lot of people wanna fight me. I don't really like going places, or even school sometimes. I still get threats.. I'm always in my room nowadays and It's making me depressed because I'm kinda scared to go outside. this has been going on for like a year now. Overall, I'm just miserable. I just want to start over. I want to get away from this stupid place. I've talked to my mom about wanting to move and how I feel unsafe here but she doesn't really take it serious. I don't wanna wait until I'm 18, I feel like I've been dealing with this for too long and it's getting real old and I'm tired of it. Basically just wondering if there is ANYTHING, maybe somehow a way convince my mom to move? A big step I know but I'm tired of living like this my hometown is also really small which makes it a lot worse and harder to avoid people..

I notice that a lot of Asian families invest lots of extra time in their kid's education, and protect their children more too. While that's good, it also seems like they're more strict and less affectionate. Some kids are not allowed as much freedom as their same-aged peers whose parents grew up in America. Parents might have a harder time hugging or kissing. They show love in other ways, often tough love, to do what's best for their kids, but I can't help but notice the big differences.

She threatened to "beat my skinny ***". I did nothing to her. I was cooking and she was in my way. So I asked her what she was doing and she got mad. She said she's tired of me bullying her and that I've always been jealous of her which is not true. It's the other way around. I don't know what to do about her. She's crazy.

I've been through shxt as a very young child when my mom physically and verbally abused me. Verbally abuses me now since Im older but threatens and sometimes physically abuse me. I live with my grandma and my mom as well. Mom doesn't cook, clean nor help pay for the bills in the house. My grandma works hard and she's getting old. Grandma and I see mom has issues. And keep in mind Im not the type of person who starts a bad situation that's a waste of time, in fact I try my hardest best to stay away from drama.This is what happen. I spend the night at my best friend's house. She, her fiance, her parents and my boyfriend kinda lives there in the house. I have lots of fun there all the time to forget all the stress from my mom. Anyways I stay there for 3 days and during those 3 days I have receive x3 phone calls from the devil herself (mom). I answer and she yells at me telling me to come home now and say I'm not grown. She even texted me in all caps " YOU'RE NOT GROWN I HAVENT TALKED TO TODAY". And the reasons why I havent talked to her in those days (except the 3rd day) is because I wanted to relax and get away and not worry. And also I was in the shower when she called and using the bathroom and asleep so yeah. When I tried to explain my reasons she rudely cut me off by interrupting me and yelling and cursing and then ended the call. Whenever I try to have a calm conversation she'll end up making excuses and 'fake' reasons. Im turning 20 next year by the way. She's 39 yrs old.

I was in the kitchen cooking when my sister came home. She was in my way so I asked her what she was doing. She snapped at me. She said I bully her and I've always been jealous of her. She even threatened to beat me up. I told her she was mean, I'm not jealous of her, and I don't bully her then left the kitchen. I've been upset and scared ever since then. I don't know why she hates me so much. She's the one who's always bullied me and she knows it but tries to turn the tables around on me. She's just a manipulative *****. I don't know what to do about her anymore. She looks at me mean, laughs at me, beats me up, steals my stuff, lies on me, says and does inappropriate things to me, turns people against me, and tells people things about me. I know we're siblings but this shouldn't be considered normal. I think she's crazy and always has been. I was gonna post about it on facebook but I don't wanna make things worse.

Okay so, I'm gonna be 18 in about half a year, I don't really get into trouble, and I'd like to think that my folks consider me to be an overall good kid. Except for my mom. She doesn't trust me. Ever since the day I was born she's always been over my shoulder, constantly in my business, all the time. Though sometimes I'm forgetful and can leave details out of my plans, she always takes this as me being sneaky and trying to lie to her. She demands all of the passwords to my social media accounts, emails (both school and private), and just about anything else that might be private. She also forces me to let her know where I am whenever she feels like asking, and if she thinks I might be lying or don't respond fast enough, she will track the location of my phone. She doesn't let me do much of anything on my own, as I "haven't earned her trust for those freedoms". I'm an only child and don't have any siblings, and my friends' parents don't do anything remotely similar to this, and my friends' parents innately trust their children. The way she acts makes me harms my mental health and she makes me feel like a bad person. My question is, is this possibly abuse? Is it manipulation, control issues, or is this just normal parenting and I don't realize it?

I'm the black sheep of my family. They all gang up on me. Everything I do is wrong. No one has my back. I feel alone. I have no one. My sister and my brother will eventually move out and never speak to me again. As if I did something to them. My mom will eventually die. I'll be left alone. I'll probably end up homeless. No family member is gonna let me stay with them. I can't work because I'm afraid of people. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped.

So I'm going to make this as quick as possible. My parents homeschool me and my family and the only time were allowed out of the house is when we go to work with my dad ( he owns a bread route) and when we go we have minimal communication with the outside world. They put cameras in our rooms because we're not "trusted" . I don't wanna throw the phrase "emotionally abused" around but I believe I was when I was little and it cause me to feel hopeless every day since I was 9. My parents used to beat me with belts and throw plyers and stuff at me evenin did wrong but they also yelled at me and told me I was gonna die and said she was gonna kill me. My mother used to yell at my dad to kill me and I would just cry and I got hit worse. I just need someone to talk to and some advice, thank you.

This is a legit situation, not trolling. When I was 8, I started having an inappropriate crush on my older cousin. He was practically a stranger to me because I only saw him occasionally, but saw him every other summer for a few years. The crush itself lasted 5 years, but I only felt that way when I was around him, as he lives in another state. It's been 15 years since I last saw him. When I became an adult, my cousin admitted to finding me attractive and that he couldn't help, but to have a crush on me. I admitted to crushing on him as a kid. Sometimes, he'd get drunk and he would talk dirty to me. He even sent me a nude once "on accident." He asked for nudes in return, but I never sent them. He got married a few years back and his wife caught him talking dirty to me via message one day and almost left him. She actually has no idea that it was his cousin he was speaking that way to. He eventually started seeing me as a cousin again, especially now that I'm engaged myself. Next month is our family reunion and it will be my first time seeing him in 15 years. Do you think it'll be awkward to see him, talk to him and be around him again? Just knowing I've seen his junk makes things awkward enough. I'm 28, he's 38.

So my cousin married in April. She had all first cousins to the wedding except the four children of one uncle. She said she was not having them cause she did not know them well growing up. Yet she had the cousins from the other four aunts/uncles in the family. All but the four kids of one uncle were invited. This struck me as cruel to the one uncle's family. Was this wrong or is this fine? How do I prevent someone doing it to me when they get married in the family?

I have many cousins that 1st and once removed. Is it correct to tell people that they are my first cousins when asked? Because a lot of people I know say they are second cousins.

I told my mom that there's kids at school who wear heavy makeup. My mom started lecturing that, for example, some children commit crimes and their parents don't teach them what's good or wrong.. does that mean I'll do the same stuff just because they're doing it too? She said my classmates parents aren't protecting them from bad skin and pedofiles. She says wait till I'm 18. But I've even seen 5 year olds with heavy makeup on social media and stuff!?!! Their moms dress them like that. I wish my mom would do it too,but she doesn't believe in those things. She says it's bad for kids and those parents are not good.

From my perspective, it seems like my sister keep getting dumber and dumber as she age. She get good grades in her school and stuff but I really hate her. She lies a lot and I mean a lot. She lie so much that it made my parents love me more than her. Also when I'm near her and she with her friend, she started to be cool and started trash talking about me. In my mind I'm getting very frustrated, I was about to knock her out but I manage to keep calm Every time when we get to into an argue she don't understand and always mocking me even though I was right. In my mind I also think my sister legit missing a chromosome.

I will not try to change her social circle because my kid can choose her own friends. She knows right from wrong, and is not in danger. I don't intervene unless she's at risk of danger, or did something bad. In situations like this, I just give my kids advice on what to do. My daughter has always stood out from her classmates. She is mildly autistic but can get along with people. Her friends love and accept her, and I think that's good for anyone to have. They look up to her as a positive role model and she relates to them. This won't be the last time for her to experience bullies, so I might as well give her the tools to navigate the situation. My daughter is my first kid and I don't have much previous experience dealing with this.

For starters I'm a 19y/o guy and have been with my girlfriend for 5years. We have always been super close but she has also always been cruel and angry at times. Especially since last year, her mom was like a mom to me when mine was not around. I used to stay at their house and grew used to haley's aggression against her mom and brother. She was the sweetest yet cruellest person ever. She has burned me with cigarettes, tried to drown me, hit me over the head with items tons of time, choked me out etc. Mostly physical and verbal aggression. Yes, I know it sounds like I'm being a b**ch but that's the reality of how bad things were when her mom was sick. Fast forward 2 years of this and her mom and everyone else sees how bad she's gotten, I used to be careful about hiding the bruises and stuff but it got so bad there was no way to hide it. That was especially the case when she broke my arm. Anyway, after a long battle with cancer her mom was told by doctors that she only had a few days/weeks left so she got a DNR and went home for her remaining days. Haley was gentle with her mom but worse with me and her mom noticed it. Her mom could hardly speak and the last coherent conversation I had with her (this mom figure) was quote, "I know how she treats you is wrong but I need you to promise me you'll keep loving her and stick by her because she needs you and you need her more than you know" so I did and have regretted ever since bc I dont break promises but idk what to do. I know as a guy, saying he's always getting attacked by his gf makes me look like a whimp but its even worse than it sounds and its not like i can or would hurt her back. I loved her mom but resent her for backing me into a corner and making me promise like she did, literally on her death bed as if i'd refuse. Knowing how Haley is and that i don't break promises. The only reason I'm dredging this all up is because I feel so trapped I've recently been catching myself contemplating suicide.

I have a nephew who is my half sisters son and he has a female cousin who I find attractive. Is it wrong for me to think of any sexual attraction to her when it's my nephews cousin? She looks nice I wish to get to know her. I

I recently changed my profile picture on Facebook. It s a photo of me, side view wearing a sports bra (as a bikini top) and black shorts. I did not get any much comments on the photo--only likes until my aunt added a comment. She says "it s too revealing" I don t know what to respond to her comment afterwards. I don t want to be rude by saying "Thanks! Oh just so you know, I m old enough (23) to know what s too revealing and not." Can anybody suggest something? Or should I not reply to the comment at all?