My mom just showed me a picture of horseback riding to which I said "no, I don't want to go horseback riding." She then told my it's what I'm getting for my birthday. She then said, "I spent all this money on your birthday and I don't think you'll like a single thing." I want to make my mom happy, because all she wants to do is make me happy. But, I don't even know how to be or what will make me happy. She wants so badly to not be shut out in my life and to do things with me. What should I do, I don't think me hiding in the bathroom and crying is what I should be doing.

to reiterate .. If a child grows up w/ a parent (mom/dad, obviously for the sake of the question I will say dad) that is never there for them, never raised them, and never had any partake in their upbringing or raising besides being abusive is it wrong for this child to say they don't have a Dad, since they do not see him as a dad or respect him as the father figure he never was?

My daughter is extremely afraid of physical contact for her age. Even a tap on the shoulder scared her a little. It could be that our family was never physically affectionate (no hugs, no kisses and no verbal "I love you"). She always knew she is loved though. We spend time together as a family when we're not busy and I think she wants to know about my life, while telling me something about her too. My daughter has to tell people ahead of time that she dislikes contact or affection of any sort (so they know their boundaries). She's getting older, and I'm becoming worried that it isn't normal. For instance, she might struggle with romantic partners when she's 25. She doesn't have close friends since she's an introvert, but she makes acquaintances and general friends. My daughter likes to stay away from small children and dogs, because she knows how touchy they can be.

i'm 16, i have my first job. i make mistakes sometimes and i understand my boss gets frustrated. but yesterday, i needed my password to watch the videos for our new releases, and i accidentally had deleted the picture of my password. so when i told her, she cussed me out saying "i'm f-ing pissed, i don't have 30 f-ing minutes to make you a new f-ing password" and she went on and on. i'm scared to go into work because of the way she acts towards me. i've came home crying multiple times due to the way i'm treated. but she's the highest up who works there so who can i go to about it? my mom doesn't want me to just quit, she wants something done because i've been told she acts like that to a lot of people

I sometimes think about the day my parents will die. Would I be sad? Would I ever regret not saying 'I love you' to them? I came to the conclusion that no. They've been great parents, but they make fun of me because of my weight, I'm somehow too fat for them. They are racist, and homophobic. I'm afraid to tell them that I'm bi. They never like the decisions that I make. I want to become a psychiatrist, they didn t like it because they thought that I was going to turn insane. I often wonder if they even like me as their child, because I'm pretty much a disappointment. I got held back a year, they don't talk about it. They used to be really proud of my academic abilities. They don't ask if I'm feeling well, and when I have a meltdown, they don't care. Is it bad that I hate them over small things? I feel like they are the cause for my mental health issues

My sister is 2 years younger, we have both been on our own for more than a few years. I have always initiated communication, and she never calls unless it's to ask for advice (about boys usually.) Or to vent about work. I wish we had a closer relationship and that she would want to chat with me more often (I dont really call her anymore because I feel like she probably just doesnt care to talk to me that much.) So when she comes to town or something I feel like I have to put my plans aside to visit with her because I never get to see her. Should I just lower her as a priority, as she does with me, and just let it be? It kind of makes me sad to do that

So as I have gotten older I've realized a lot of things I went through were caused by my mothers actions, and a lot of things were lies. I was kept away from my father because of whatever reasons my mother had but was told he didn't wanna be bothered needless to say my dad has taken care of me I was just kept away. My mother is very toxic, she's bitter, she's miserable and because I let so much of what she said get into my head it caused me to separate from my child's father which to this day I regret. She's done a lot for me and I feel that not wanting to deal with her or be around her is wrong and I'm being ungrateful, but I can't stand to be around her and I'm starting to hate her and I hate to say that. I'm not a miserable person, bitter any of that and anytime she's around me she's ruins my mood, kills my joy and happiness and I can do it anymore. So would I be wrong if just not deal with her all together just for my own sanity and peace ?

Last summer my grandpa died on my dads side of the familiy. It was sad but it brought my family on my dads side and my family closer than ever. But my mom and my grandma hate eachother. And we had my grandma over for thansgiving and it turned into this massive fighting that caused our glass front door to shatter. She said some really awful things to my dad, mom, and I. she almsot hit me multiple times. another factor was she had a ful lbottle of wine that night and told us she was going to leave. that scared me. i have talked to her twince since this and its just small talk. I dont think i will ever be able to forgive her. But, we are spreading my grandpas ashes which means all my family should be there. i dont know how to tell my dad i dont want to go becuase of her. i am worried she told our cousins a different stroy and they will think we are bad people. any advice

It has been my dream since literally first communion to get an old ford truck. My parents are worrided that the truck would break down and they will have to spend a lot of money on it. Of course all cars have problems and having to spend a little mone is invetiable. Another conern is that the truck is too long and I would never be able to drive it in the city. My porposal for that is to start driving my dads truck to get used to it. Finally they re willing to spend 10 thousland but the truck I want is 20 thousand. I can tell them I would organzie around the house and in the yard but I dont think i would be able to make another 10 thousand in the summer. Do you have any advice?

Okay so I found something disturbing recently about my best friend of 10 years. Living with him off and on for 5 years I found bottles of urine in his room hidden in the closet at least on 3 separate occasions. The first was moving out of my parents house they found them in his old room, the second was living with a gf of mine in his room during our time there. The third being yesterday and apparently a few days prior. To make a long story short my fiancé, him and I are all living with my fiancés family in their 5 bedroom house. Wherein her father has now twice found bottles of urine hidden in his closet full to the top, bringing this to my attention as I said for the 3rd time of living with him. I don't understand the reason behind it or what possible excuse there could be when his bedroom is literally right next to our bathroom (3rd in the house) and we are mostly never awake when he is so he has it very much available 24/7. I only question what do I do now as he is bad with any kind of confrontation and will just simply not say a word or give me an answer. I do not want to have to kick him out but at this point it is getting ridiculous and disgusting. My fiancées parents are mad and we are also unhappy with finding this again. I don't know what to do or say to make him stop.

How do I shut two parents up who are always at loggerheads? I get anxious when they both start arguing like little siblings whenever I'm doing something. I know that it is my father who will usually trigger us and push us to our limit of tolerance. I've enough. I'm 15 years old and can't take it anymore.

So, yesterday was my birthday. I turned 17. My parents didn't say anything. My relatives who normally wish me a happy birthday didn't. Before my dad went off to work, I reminded him that it was my birthday so he told me to buy a cake so we can all cut it later that evening. I went out and bought a cake. I waited until my parents came home, they were tired and went to sleep. I just sat for an hour staring off into space. I don't know I just wanted that day to be special, instead it was far from it. Just felt ordinary. I went to sleep and today I cut my cake by myself. When my mom found out she said "you cut your cake without us?" I said "my birthday was yesterday. I waited. You guys went to sleep." She then left for work. I don't many friends. It was just sad. Usually my birthdays consist of cutting a cake. Sometimes I get gifts but it varies. I guess this year was one of those birthdays that I don't receive a gift. I don't know I just feel sad. How do I overcome this? And I know it happen again, but I get excited for my birthday and nothing happens. I should be used to this but I'm not. What do I do?

I was calling my friend last night and his mom came and asked who he was talking to. He immediately told her to shut up and was cursing at her. And when he went into his room. He was telling me, "do you ever want to punch someone to the wall?" Something like that. I think he was talking about his mom. I told him he needs to respect her. And he immediately told me that she needs to respect him. He is very ungrateful. He was acting like money is worth nothing. He was complaining how his mom lost his speaker and how she wouldn't give him a more expensive one. He's taking her for granted. I don't think I want to be friends with someone who mistreats their mom. Because if he doesn't respect her, he may just take everything else for granted and he may not respect other people. I'm sorry if I didn't explain it well, but I couldn't stop thinking about it and I had a bad night because of it. I just want him to respect his mom because no parent should have to deal with someone as ungrateful as him.

My blood brother and step brother are the same age, and they are not getting along quite well. I have another sister and our step brother has a younger sister. We all try to get along, but my step brother, he's a case. Even for our step mom. The other day he jumped on my brother and broke his mouth with a solid punch, that I swear you could hear it echoing on the hall, just because my brother got into his room and took something. He's always overreacting to everything and doesn't know how to share his things with us. My dad grounded my brother and his mother grounded him for being violent towards my brother. I just wish our step brother would share with us more, and be less aggressive towards us. He also haves a car that he got with his own money from working, but he won't take us to the movies or mall. Would my step brother become nicer, will my brother and step-brother fix their differences? We just recently moved together after our parents wedding.

My life is so bad I just turned 18 and I have no papers so I can t get a job and have to steal to survive and on top of that I live with extended family that is addicted to drugs and I have to steal food for my sister and brother since we all three were foster kids, on top of that I have ibd and when I was about to go to work so I could earn money to buy food for me and my siblings, it starts acting up and my one chance to make an honest living is gone, I have no education since my parents were mentally unstable due to drugs and pulled me out of 7th grade due to paronoia, if it weren't for my siblings I would end my life but I know they need me, what can I do to improve my life so me and my siblings don't have to suffer?

My son is only 22. The woman he s dating is 31. 9 years apart. I couldn t believe it when I heard. Initially he told me she was the same age and I fell for it because she does look early 20s but when she told me herself I was livid. Im absolutely disgusted by this and told my son to break up with her but he still has not. What should I do?

Growing up I had amazing parents and a great upbringing but iv notice since iv had my first child they don't bother coming around or seeing the children I now have two children aged 2 and 1 my kids are my everything but it hurts that my family don't know them I work two jobs and never have time to myself let alone go a pop for a visit to see them both my parents and siblings don't work and they drive which is crazy to me that they don't make an effort to see the kids as my mother is always with my older sisters children they would ring me once every 6 months and talk lol they would have spoken to me just yesterday. My youngest daughter turned1 in April and no phone call of a gift for her from any of my side of the family I'm just curious has this ever happened to any of ye if so could you please give me advice on how to deal and cope with this distraction thanks.

I never acted like this when I was her age so I can't relate to her, but maybe it's because I'm a boy. My sister is rude and snappy to all family members. Not only door-slamming, crying, talking back, ignoring people or giving dirty looks. She snaps if somebody asks her a SIMPLE question. My sister started a fight with our mom in front of our grandparents during dinner, then she dissed grandma for asking her something. I know she doesn't have to listen to me since I'm not mom and dad, but I guess it's worth a try. I don't like being around fights 24/7 and I certainly dislike hearing all the screaming.

Occasionally, the girls at school have friendship issues or conflict. I don't agree with my daughter getting into that. Most of the reasons behind it are so petty and unnecessary. 7th graders are not 5 year olds anymore, so they should negotiate with each other instead. It seems like most of these kids lack the proper skills to do so. I've taught my daughter, but she claims that it's so hard because the other person is the one causing the problem. She doesn't want to leave the friendship either, especially if it'll cause her to lose other friends too (if they're friends with the original friend).

I am a sole immigrant to usa, made a kid who lives 50-50 with ex. I want to have a big family but mine is in Europe where I am from, I am divorced and no boyfriend. any suggestions on my desire to have a big family?

When the topic regarding siblings comes up in a conversation, I always get these sort of shocked reactions when I tell people that I am an only child. They make a lot of assumptions that I am spoiled just because I have no siblings. Is being an only child that rare in your experience?

I have a bachelors in communications. my dream is to write for a fashion magazine but I don't live in new York. I live in a small town with only one magazine and I applied for that one magazine I have a blog I just started not too long ago and I write articles on it daily on but obviously i'm not getting paid for it. the reason I need to get high paying writing job is that I need to be able to move out of my parents house.

My child lives with my mom, out of state in the middle of no where. My mom has the additional bedroom, etc, for my child. I know I would be miserable living in the middle of no where. Definitely depressed and suicidal, without a doubt. I am city oriented. In addition, there are hardly any jobs, especially not in my field where she lives. I like close to a major city, with many jobs available. My mother and I also fight a lot, and I feel it's not best for my child to be around that.

I just started my period today and have been laying in bed all day sleeping, in pain. Should I feel terrible about it? I felt sick. I feel guilty for not doing anything. Ugh. Is this normal?

he came over and surprised her with some expensive juice from publix and haagan diaz ice cream. I told him that's nice but he can afford that because he lives at home because he lives at home with his parents. he won't be able to buy expensive ice cream when he moves out. my daughter is 26 and her boyfriend is in his 30's. both of them live at home because they don't have good paying jobs. i noticed she never goes over his parents house except for holidays and he's always over here. i asked her why they can't hang over there sometimes and she said it's because they prefer it over here and my daughter is always cooking. she buys groceries and cooks for everybody but she also cooks a lot for her boyfriend. i told her don't kill herself if they ever break up because some couples don't last forever. She's put a lot of stock in the relationship, i don't want her to get hurt. I always ask if she is cooking for him when he comes over, i told her if she loses her job she won't be able to buy groceries and cook for him anymore. he's not allowed in her room, they can only go in the game room or living room to hang out. i also don't want them shacking up together or living together in the future because that's against our religion.

My mom is 60 years old and she pretty much doesn't have anything. She has always depended on my father or boyfriends to support her and take care of her. She recently left her boyfriend so now she has nowhere to go. I am 31 and I just bought a condo. It's my first time living alone, I lived with my aunt for years. My mom is bouncing around to different family members houses but no one wants to take her full-time. She is extremely difficult and asks everyone for money and wants everyone to pay her bills for her and refuses to get a job. She stayed with me for a week because her car broke down and was mad that I asked her to leave once it was fixed. I have never lived on my own And I want to experience living alone and being independent. I work and I want to create my own life and have my own space. My mom gets really nasty when people don't give her money or she doesn't get her way and in the past has even threatened to come to my job and embarrass me and cause a scene for not giving her money. I feel I can't live my life like this. When her mother was around, my grandmother, she drained every penny she had from her. What should I do, am I a terrible daughter for feeling this way? She doesn't do anything to try to help herself, she just wants to depend on everyone else. Am I horrible for wanting to live alone and enjoy my own space for once?

My mom is 60 years old and she pretty much doesn't have anything. She has always depended on my father or boyfriends to support her and take care of her. She recently left her boyfriend so now she has nowhere to go. I am 31 and I just bought a condo. It's my first time living alone, I lived with my aunt for years. My mom is bouncing around to different family members houses but no one wants to take her full-time. She is extremely difficult and asks everyone for money and wants everyone to pay her bills for her and refuses to get a job. She stayed with me for a week because her car broke down and was mad that I asked her to leave once it was fixed. I have never lived on my own And I want to experience living alone and being independent. I work and I want to create my own life and have my own space. My mom gets really nasty when people don't give her money or she doesn't get her way and in the past has even threatened to come to my job and embarrass me and cause a scene for not giving her money. I feel I can't live my life like this. When her mother was around, my grandmother, she drained every penny she had from her. What should I do, am I a terrible daughter for feeling this way? She doesn't do anything to try to help herself, she just wants to depend on everyone else. Am I horrible for wanting to live alone and enjoy my own space for once?

My 23y/o is constantly glamorizing suicide and suggesting ot to my 14y/o. Sometimes they bicker and fight over stupid things but she ends the argument with saying cruel things like "well, if you dont like it you could just kill yourself". She's always said those kinds of inappropriate things since he was little. At first we thought it was her just being mean but after my son's suicide attempt last June the whole family have become more aware of it (even her for a while) but she does it out of habbit now. That's just how she deals with him. I'd hate for him to take what she's saying to heart because she does say a lot of hurtful things to him. She knows what she's doing is wrong and he knows (at least he claims he does) that she doesn't mean it.That doesnt mean it's any more appropriate and he still gets obviously and visibly upset by it. she still does it. It's clear that he looks up to her and tskes her advice and criticism to heart. And I'm sure she loves him dearly and wouldn't want true harm to come to him. How do I get her to break the habit before he makes another attempt on his own life.

Since my parents divorced I've been going to my dads house every other weekend, even on exams because he's a very unreasonable person. So he's been having some trouble with his ex business partner who threatned my dad and his sister who called my mom letting her know it wasn't safe for me to be with him but he sees no justification for me not to go. My mom is pretty much blackmailing me not to go there. But I'm slightly afraid of my father and can't stand up to him so Idk what to do right now

Rocky Andrew Named after country singer Rockie Lynn my wife was obsessed with him as a teenager she had a crush on him. His middle name was after her cousin Andrew. What do you think of his name ?